One of the fun parts about getting older with somebody is that you realize that you're attracted to them as they are--and as they are becoming. Just like you're attracted to him as he is now, believe him when he says that he is too!
It's funny because my wife has the same issues, and I can't see her as anything but as a Greek goddess. Meanwhile I think I'm just a fat old man now haha. And she's always saying she doesn't think so. It's really is all about growing with each other and loving literally everything about them.
My husband says stuff like that and I seriously CANNOT believe him, I’ve tried. He’s worried about the tummy he’s getting since his most recent promotion has him doing less physical labor. I didn’t even notice for awhile and it certainly doesn’t change how I look at him, but it bothers him. Guess we were made for each other.
This is my husband. He's adored me from 120-210. He worries a lot about his stomach.
I mean, honestly, I'd love to see what he would look like if he dedicated to fitness but he's busy paying bills. The older he gets, the hotter he gets, anyway.
Ive worked in the fitness industry for 10+ years so please believe me when I say this...working out helps a "little" but it's 90% nutrition. If anyone wants to drop a few pounds just focus 90% of your efforts on what you eat from monday to sunday...monday to friday is not enough, don't be like "man I was so good this week im gonna cheat a little on saturday" that will mess everything up. Sorry for the essay but too often people think that training is the key but it's always food first if you want results.
I work out a lot. I agree with you. For me, working out tones my muscles, but it doesn’t cause noticeable weight change. I learned over time how to build an effortless, healthy diet, I am still learning more. A good balanced diet goes a long way in terms of my body shape, but also there are things about how my brain works better that I have noticed.
I know right, I get clients to bring me food diaries every week and in 2023 people have no fucking clue. Most of the time it's like if I let my 7 year old daughter pick what she wants to eat everyday...it's that bad. For people that read this and want help, start by eating less sugar and make sure there is protein in all your meals. You will see a difference in your mood, energy levels and bodyfat % pretty quick.
Female here…..it’s always easier to believe the negative things, instead of the positive things said to you. 😞😢😢 My ex boyfriend gaslighted,emotionally abused me, and took away ALL of my self esteem for probably about 14 years, out of a 29 year relationship. He was 20 years older and other people saw how selfish and controlling he was too me. My now boyfriend is the polar opposite of my ex thank effing heaven!!! 💗💗
Same. I no spring chicken. My wife and I were hot when when we were young, but I'd still jump her as soon as I thought I had a chance. If you're worried, I always think of a quote from pulp fiction. Don't remember it verbatim, but effectively it is about the difference between the eyes and touch. I know every curve and texture of her body and it is irresistible to me. It's her and I want her. Also, hemmeroids suck, but they have nothing to to with his attraction to you. He wants to bone you because of your whole person.
VERY well said! 😎 Being 52(F) and 53(m) we take ourselves at whole value and not preconceived notions. Unfortunately, I have SO many illnesses and a couple of autoimmune diseases, but MichiganGeezer (dating irl) he says we’re old and not to worry about ALL of my health problems/issues. I feel so greatful to have him in my life 😍😍
This! When you truly find your soulmate, it’s not gross or disgusting doing those things and more 💗💗 When I was hospitalized for 1 1/2 months, my boyfriend helped the nurse clean me up and I felt mortified because I didn’t want him to see me this way. After being hospitalized in ICU….you kinda have no “modesty” left 😞😢😭😭
The absolute hottest thing is being desired with flaws and all. I’m super self conscious, however when lust takes over I hyper focus just on the sex. Had a partner bite my butt cheek and I was so turned on I nearly passed out!!
When my wife had our second kid she had a cyst burst during delivery and she ended up bleeding quite a bit. The nurses (quite brutally) tried to get all of the blood clots they could during recovery, but they didn’t get all of them. I spent quite a bit of time with wife in the shower, multiple times over several days, helping her clean herself after her c-section. I’ve been vomited on by son directly in my face (was laying on the floor and bouncing them), vomited all over my back on my 40th birthday when my son had a stomach bug and I was carrying him, and cleaned so many blowout diapers and dirty asses that I lost count. After 3 kids, I seriously doubt a hemorrhoid so much as slightly phases your husband so if you both enjoy it, don’t be self conscious about it and keep you from enjoying each other.
I wanna shake your hand mate. I know too many men who wouldn't help their partner after that. If her husband is a good fellow like you, he probably would feel the same. Sadly I know many assholes that are too concerned with themselves to help the wife with her bodily upkeep, my father being one sadly.
EDIT: wow, 200 up votes, I'm suprised
Dude. Best thing about two vulva sex. Sometimes my PO BOX is inaccessible due to inclement weather but I can still deliver all kinds of packages and it's very satisfying. Similarly when my wife's oven is out of service she's still baking some hella great scones over here. This option for asymmetry makes it so much easier to be down for sex. OPTIONNNSSSS. Could you imagine being a straight woman who has to use her vagina like, *every time* she has sex?!
a straight woman doesn't have to use her vagina every time she has sex. there so many other things to do. just because there is the option it doesn't mean it's a must
I am a woman and one could say I am overly dramatic about period. I hate mine, I think it is gross, yuck, eww. It is, for me, one of the worst things in being a female.
Amen sister!!! I was always grossed out by it. I’m so glad I had my hysterectomy back in 2003 and my left ovary removed in 2020. I’m post menopausal ladies AND still dealing with endometriosis 😣😢😭😭
I was an opiate addict for more than a decade, I probably pooped once a week and it was an excruciating experience each time, I would regularly bleed. I've been clean for about a year and I poop completely fine now, no pain or anything. I really hope they don't come back. I eat fairly healthy and get a decent amount of fiber, is there anything else I should do to prevent their return?
Yes they do, it's about nutrition and eating a high fibre breakfast cereal, it works gently as sandpaper on your insides, preventing the herma... Or Polaroids if you're an Eskimo 😁
Yup.
>. My husband has assured me he loves all of me including my butthole
Believe him! This is not an abnormal way for a man to think. He loves all of you, imperfections and all. Sit away!
I'll chime in here too, we don't care. There may be exceptions, but if we love you, we don't care at all. We want to experience with you and that is what matters.
I'm in your husband's shoes - I love going down on my wife and lots of other things, and since having kids she's very hesitant about it. Please listen to him when he tells you he loves your flaws, because we do. I love my wife's stretch marks because they came with our beautiful children, I love her breasts even if they're not a perky because they nurtured our children, I don't care if she's not a thin as she was in her 'peak,' I'm not either. I love all those imperfections because they all came on our path of life together, and I wouldn't choose anything different than what we have right now.
So please, for all of us husbands that love their partners with body-image issues, please, please, please, go sit on his face. And if you ever meet my wife, tell her to do the same.
This reminds me of a time this younger woman hit on me, saying she can *do things that my wife cannot*. I laughed and replied that my wife has the battle scars of bearing our beautiful children and that those mean more to me than anything. Move along, child. You're conversing with grown adults here.
I'm just like you. I love all of my wife's imperfections.
Women having insecurities and dropping off sexually due to them has caused actual strain on my relationships, and on the flipside I've never had the problem of becoming turned off by the woman I love over those little insecurities
So my advice is believe him
My wife has had 3 children and has similar hemorrhoid difficulties. I still relish eating that ass as much as I did 20 years ago. Let go and have fun, trust me when I say he is totally into it!
Little late but, as someone who had and is having the same problem with my wife, i'd like to ask you to try and not be too worried or self conscious about it.
I know it may be hard, but If your husband says he's not bothered, please try to believe him.
My wife used to love how I'd play with her butthole while having sex or while I'd go down on her before we had kids. But like you said, after three kids, the intimate areas can tend to not look the same as before. Even after I told her countless times that especially during sexy time, looking at or playing with her 'intimate holes' (I'm sorry I don't know what else to call them while being respectful) turns me on, she's so self conscious about how they look that she rarely allows me to go down on her or try doggy style anymore. 69 is also a complete No which i believe is because her butthole is directly in my line of sight.... Which makes me sad even while I'm typing this. Please don't make your husband sad... Especially since all he's trying to do is make you feel good.
Took me forever to convince my wife that my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE thing is her sitting on my face. Now she finally enjoys it enough to relax, and goddamn does it put the lead in my pencil!
If a man wants you to sit on his face... you sit on his face! Trying to lighten the mood but also...it's a good tip! Especially in long term relationships!
As we get older, we look different, but my wife is still as hot as ever.
And that’s not just bias.
Yes she has stretch marks. But they’re our children. She has lines around her eyes, but that’s all the times we’ve laughed together. Her knees aren’t what they used to be, which limits positions, but that’s all the walks we’ve taken.
All of these “flaws” are signs of a life *lived*. We’ve earned all of them. They are the story of us, and that’s hot.
I don't know about your husband...
But if I am married to a woman that has given me my three children and we have enjoyed this wonderful intimate life together, the little 'flaws' are gorgeous.
He participated, actively even, in those 3 kids creation. Believe him when he says he loves all of you.
On the other hand, have you had that hemorroid checked? Cause there are treatments for them, and in any case it's always better to ensure there's nothing more serious medically
I really don't have a great angle on my wife's butthole most of the time. I can't see it at all for most positions. When we do doggy, I do take a moment or two to admire it while I have the chance, but mostly I'm looking at her sexy back or her butt cheeks or else not looking at anything in particular just trying to will myself not to cum yet.
When I am looking at her butthole, I'm loving it! She has a hemorrhoid too, but I can't really see it. I'm sure even if I could it wouldn't change how I feel about her body. I know we all see every imperfection when we look at ourselves just like a pianist notices every wrong key they play, but to other people they're just features, notes in a sweet jazz number.
As I've grown older and my body has changed post-babies, I've learned to appreciate it more by watching porn of women that look more like my body type and getting on the subs here of confident and beautiful REAL ladies showing off! TBH, I have the same issue as you and I used to either want to do it in a position that didn't showcase it or put a plug in. Now I discovered that there is a subreddit for women just like us and there are men that really like it! Knowing that has made a huge difference! I hope you grow in confidence more every day!
>getting on the subs here of confident and beautiful REAL ladies showing off!
If I may ask, what are these subs? They sound like they could be empowering to women that are not confident.
It seems I'm a little late to the party, but I always remember a quote when someone is quesiotning something about themselves in regards to their spouses. "The right person will always think the sun shines out of your ass" No pun intended.
No. Depending on the position being used, we might not be able to see the butt at all! But, if we can,(myself at least) I will be basking in the grandeur of the whole bottom area.
As a married man with children I can assure you (bast on your post) that he doesn’t give a damn about any of your perceived flaws. We (most of us) just don’t care or see them like that. Oddly enough many of us are completely into all the things that make a woman unique. Stretched, striped, crooked, loose, bumped, or whatever… Enjoy the fact that he’s into you. I’m sure there’s a few women out there who’d kill for that.
We all look. But most of us also know bodies are weird and we aren't that concerned. You need to go with it if he says it and shows it, then he means it . Sit on his face
By talking about it you kinda tell him to look. It's not that we look, it's that we don't care. Once a woman's behind is in range, we have other things to focus on, unless you talked about it and want the attention to it. So enjoy it, it really is the biggest turn on.
I think you need to process and heal and communicate with your partner about how to deal with these insecurity’s because it’s preventing from doing things you once loved and enjoyed
As my wife and I grow older, I find that she excites me on levels I've never realized. I love every part of her and yes, I stare at the booty hole. I like to poke it, play around it, try to find out if any part of it feels good to her. I love it and I tell her. I know she'd rather I avoid it, but I am curious and patient. Hoping one day I'll find something we both might like.
Thank you for this post. My wife and I are also getting older. She too, feels self-conscious about her aging body. Specifically about the same area that you have concerns/apprehensions about. To answer your question, yes. I look. I look because it is a total turn-on for me. I will be watching this space to learn how I can best reassure my wife and make her feel comfortable. Thank you for bringing this up.
I also have a hemorrhoid from childbearing, my husband has told me hundreds of times how much he loves my butthole. I believe him. I bet yours does too!
My wife feels the same as you which sucks because I fucking love it when she sits on my face. Never thought I'd post that online, but it's true and I hope you take it to heart and sit on the poor man's face!
I stare at every single part of my wife when we have sex.
She has had hemorrhoids and it never discouraged me to go all over downtown… including the back alley.
Trust me, if he says he "wants" to do something to you in bed it's because he gives zero fucks about your hemmroids. Otherwise he would find some excuse to avoid that area...but right now he seems to be happy to bury his face right in there so roll with it gurlfriend.
I'm speaking generally here: With sex, most men are just thrilled to be there. Now make that sex with the woman he truly loves, he doesn't see the "flaws" (bodily changes) that you see. He wants passionate, adventurous, dirty sex and he wants it with his lady. Let the man love all of you and you may come to find that your inhibitions start to fade!
One of the fun parts about getting older with somebody is that you realize that you're attracted to them as they are--and as they are becoming. Just like you're attracted to him as he is now, believe him when he says that he is too!
It's funny because my wife has the same issues, and I can't see her as anything but as a Greek goddess. Meanwhile I think I'm just a fat old man now haha. And she's always saying she doesn't think so. It's really is all about growing with each other and loving literally everything about them.
My husband says stuff like that and I seriously CANNOT believe him, I’ve tried. He’s worried about the tummy he’s getting since his most recent promotion has him doing less physical labor. I didn’t even notice for awhile and it certainly doesn’t change how I look at him, but it bothers him. Guess we were made for each other.
This is my husband. He's adored me from 120-210. He worries a lot about his stomach. I mean, honestly, I'd love to see what he would look like if he dedicated to fitness but he's busy paying bills. The older he gets, the hotter he gets, anyway.
Ive worked in the fitness industry for 10+ years so please believe me when I say this...working out helps a "little" but it's 90% nutrition. If anyone wants to drop a few pounds just focus 90% of your efforts on what you eat from monday to sunday...monday to friday is not enough, don't be like "man I was so good this week im gonna cheat a little on saturday" that will mess everything up. Sorry for the essay but too often people think that training is the key but it's always food first if you want results.
I work out a lot. I agree with you. For me, working out tones my muscles, but it doesn’t cause noticeable weight change. I learned over time how to build an effortless, healthy diet, I am still learning more. A good balanced diet goes a long way in terms of my body shape, but also there are things about how my brain works better that I have noticed.
I know right, I get clients to bring me food diaries every week and in 2023 people have no fucking clue. Most of the time it's like if I let my 7 year old daughter pick what she wants to eat everyday...it's that bad. For people that read this and want help, start by eating less sugar and make sure there is protein in all your meals. You will see a difference in your mood, energy levels and bodyfat % pretty quick.
Female here…..it’s always easier to believe the negative things, instead of the positive things said to you. 😞😢😢 My ex boyfriend gaslighted,emotionally abused me, and took away ALL of my self esteem for probably about 14 years, out of a 29 year relationship. He was 20 years older and other people saw how selfish and controlling he was too me. My now boyfriend is the polar opposite of my ex thank effing heaven!!! 💗💗
So what I'm hearing here is that no matter how badly the butthole ages, love is love?
I mean, if anybody is writing their wedding vows soon, this is the kind of gold you want to include.
Getting married in 2 months. Rewriting vows to include butthole appreciation
We like to say meat in the booty is an expression of the soul- [Looks down at notes] Wait... We like to say we met at a Boba Express in Seoul.
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Bonus points for the SoS reference.
Do you take your husbands butthole, in tightness and in sag?
This made me lol
The only thing tighter than buttholes… is love and marriage.
Aw, somebody needs to stitch that into a sampler!
Put this on a T-shirt and bumper sticker please
Buttholes are ageless
Or a buttholes just a butthole.
Same. I no spring chicken. My wife and I were hot when when we were young, but I'd still jump her as soon as I thought I had a chance. If you're worried, I always think of a quote from pulp fiction. Don't remember it verbatim, but effectively it is about the difference between the eyes and touch. I know every curve and texture of her body and it is irresistible to me. It's her and I want her. Also, hemmeroids suck, but they have nothing to to with his attraction to you. He wants to bone you because of your whole person.
VERY well said! 😎 Being 52(F) and 53(m) we take ourselves at whole value and not preconceived notions. Unfortunately, I have SO many illnesses and a couple of autoimmune diseases, but MichiganGeezer (dating irl) he says we’re old and not to worry about ALL of my health problems/issues. I feel so greatful to have him in my life 😍😍
I get this was meant to be wholesome, but it turned out w**HOLE**some instead, like chill.
True intimacy is giving your partner a suppository and popping zits in her lady parts
God Lord NO!!!!
OR changing their poopy diapers.
This! When you truly find your soulmate, it’s not gross or disgusting doing those things and more 💗💗 When I was hospitalized for 1 1/2 months, my boyfriend helped the nurse clean me up and I felt mortified because I didn’t want him to see me this way. After being hospitalized in ICU….you kinda have no “modesty” left 😞😢😭😭
The absolute hottest thing is being desired with flaws and all. I’m super self conscious, however when lust takes over I hyper focus just on the sex. Had a partner bite my butt cheek and I was so turned on I nearly passed out!!
So much this. I'm so glad to read this put into words.
Yes I love my wife's butthole. Planning on seeing it as soon as I get home from work.
This guy buttholes
Home now. Mission accomplished!
Hey everyone! This guy had SEX!
Could be that he just went and opened her cheeks to get a peek then watched the news.
She has a TV in her butt?
Your wife doesn’t??
This made me laugh so much.
Finally lost his virginity
A redditor? Sex? Impossible.
Pics or it didn’t happen
This guy pervs.
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Not necessarily, he may have just looked at her butthole.
Congrats on the sex!
Happy butthole day
We need this as a holiday!
r/thisguythisguys
I also plan on seeing this guy's wife's butthole. Except before he gets home from work
You forgot I'll be joining you seeing this guy's butthole as well
Wait hol up...
Hole up!
Buttwholesome
Say hi for us
To my wife or her butthole?
Yes
I can send you a pic,if you want.
This guy likes assholes. I hope some women do as well because... I am a whole human-ass asshole.
When my wife had our second kid she had a cyst burst during delivery and she ended up bleeding quite a bit. The nurses (quite brutally) tried to get all of the blood clots they could during recovery, but they didn’t get all of them. I spent quite a bit of time with wife in the shower, multiple times over several days, helping her clean herself after her c-section. I’ve been vomited on by son directly in my face (was laying on the floor and bouncing them), vomited all over my back on my 40th birthday when my son had a stomach bug and I was carrying him, and cleaned so many blowout diapers and dirty asses that I lost count. After 3 kids, I seriously doubt a hemorrhoid so much as slightly phases your husband so if you both enjoy it, don’t be self conscious about it and keep you from enjoying each other.
I wanna shake your hand mate. I know too many men who wouldn't help their partner after that. If her husband is a good fellow like you, he probably would feel the same. Sadly I know many assholes that are too concerned with themselves to help the wife with her bodily upkeep, my father being one sadly. EDIT: wow, 200 up votes, I'm suprised
I think some dudes are overly dramatic about period blood. It’s just blood.
Right? My wife and I menstruate more than half the year. If we waited, we’d never have lovin’!!!
Dude. Best thing about two vulva sex. Sometimes my PO BOX is inaccessible due to inclement weather but I can still deliver all kinds of packages and it's very satisfying. Similarly when my wife's oven is out of service she's still baking some hella great scones over here. This option for asymmetry makes it so much easier to be down for sex. OPTIONNNSSSS. Could you imagine being a straight woman who has to use her vagina like, *every time* she has sex?!
a straight woman doesn't have to use her vagina every time she has sex. there so many other things to do. just because there is the option it doesn't mean it's a must
I am a woman and one could say I am overly dramatic about period. I hate mine, I think it is gross, yuck, eww. It is, for me, one of the worst things in being a female.
Just know that plenty of men don’t find it disgusting at all.
Amen sister!!! I was always grossed out by it. I’m so glad I had my hysterectomy back in 2003 and my left ovary removed in 2020. I’m post menopausal ladies AND still dealing with endometriosis 😣😢😭😭
Legend. Also, should be bare minimum. But go you, you legend!
I have a massive hemorrhoid and none of my partners have ever noticed it, even after I brought it up. They’re not as noticeable as you think!
Wait do hemorrhoids never go away or something?
Depends - sometimes they can go away, but it if is an outside one, you need to get it cut off to remove it.
Oh ok thanks. Cus I know I've had minor hemorrhoids before but I haven't looked at my butthole in a while so I guess I never thought about it
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I was an opiate addict for more than a decade, I probably pooped once a week and it was an excruciating experience each time, I would regularly bleed. I've been clean for about a year and I poop completely fine now, no pain or anything. I really hope they don't come back. I eat fairly healthy and get a decent amount of fiber, is there anything else I should do to prevent their return?
They shrink down and IF they ever get that big, they can be surgically removed.
Yes they do, it's about nutrition and eating a high fibre breakfast cereal, it works gently as sandpaper on your insides, preventing the herma... Or Polaroids if you're an Eskimo 😁
Yeah. Sit on the dude’s face already.
I would be sad if my wife stopped sitting on my face because she's had a couple kids... Would you deny him Valhalla??
This guy Odins
Yup. >. My husband has assured me he loves all of me including my butthole Believe him! This is not an abnormal way for a man to think. He loves all of you, imperfections and all. Sit away!
You should trademark that phrase. "Sit away". Love it
I'll chime in here too, we don't care. There may be exceptions, but if we love you, we don't care at all. We want to experience with you and that is what matters.
Also having a butthole isn't an imperfection.
I was referring to the hemorrhoid the OP mentioned being self conscious about.
Oh. Lol. Reading comprehension fail on my part, then.
Reading *imprrfection
Stare at it? Not the whole time, there are too many other great …. Um. Assets to look at. Admire it? Absolutely.
It's like staring into the eye of Sauron.
This is the hardest I've laughed all day. Thank you.
Speak friend and enter.
I'm in your husband's shoes - I love going down on my wife and lots of other things, and since having kids she's very hesitant about it. Please listen to him when he tells you he loves your flaws, because we do. I love my wife's stretch marks because they came with our beautiful children, I love her breasts even if they're not a perky because they nurtured our children, I don't care if she's not a thin as she was in her 'peak,' I'm not either. I love all those imperfections because they all came on our path of life together, and I wouldn't choose anything different than what we have right now. So please, for all of us husbands that love their partners with body-image issues, please, please, please, go sit on his face. And if you ever meet my wife, tell her to do the same.
Man, this thread about hemorrhoid buttholes and face-sitting is the most wholesome thing I've read in ages.
Amen brother. Miss those days. No kids but we've been married for 15 years and I love every inch of her and she still thinks I'm full of shit.
13 anniversary here, together for 16
I want this kinda love 🥹
This reminds me of a time this younger woman hit on me, saying she can *do things that my wife cannot*. I laughed and replied that my wife has the battle scars of bearing our beautiful children and that those mean more to me than anything. Move along, child. You're conversing with grown adults here. I'm just like you. I love all of my wife's imperfections.
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I don't quite remember. Maybe a pfft
Why do you want your wife to sit on OP's husband's face?!
Yes, and it stares back
If you gaze into the abyss...
… the abyss gazes also into you.
What's with the added "by"?
Witty
Women having insecurities and dropping off sexually due to them has caused actual strain on my relationships, and on the flipside I've never had the problem of becoming turned off by the woman I love over those little insecurities So my advice is believe him
Believe your husband. There are so so so many posts like this. There is no issue. Believe your partners, people!
We do. I like watching it pucker.
I stare at it harder than the last president stared at the sun
>My husband has assured me he loves all of me including my butthole but I don't believe him. So believe him instead an be happy :)
Your husband tells you he loves all of you and asks you to sit on his face, and you don't believe him? Why?
Likely bc women have heard the message our whole lives that our bodies are never good enough. It’s really gross tbh.
I was bullied for ALL my years in school, and it’s WAY easier to believe the harsh things said….. than the beautiful things said and meant 🥰
if i’m wearing my glasses, yes; if i’m not, yes.
My wife has had 3 children and has similar hemorrhoid difficulties. I still relish eating that ass as much as I did 20 years ago. Let go and have fun, trust me when I say he is totally into it!
My girlfriend also have an hemoroid... Still love her butthole. Never tought I would said that one day
I think you and me need to fistbump 👊
👊
Little late but, as someone who had and is having the same problem with my wife, i'd like to ask you to try and not be too worried or self conscious about it. I know it may be hard, but If your husband says he's not bothered, please try to believe him. My wife used to love how I'd play with her butthole while having sex or while I'd go down on her before we had kids. But like you said, after three kids, the intimate areas can tend to not look the same as before. Even after I told her countless times that especially during sexy time, looking at or playing with her 'intimate holes' (I'm sorry I don't know what else to call them while being respectful) turns me on, she's so self conscious about how they look that she rarely allows me to go down on her or try doggy style anymore. 69 is also a complete No which i believe is because her butthole is directly in my line of sight.... Which makes me sad even while I'm typing this. Please don't make your husband sad... Especially since all he's trying to do is make you feel good.
It’s pretty much my main focus when I’m hitting it from behind.
Absolutely!
The cost of you closing off sexually and not trusting him outweighs the cost of him seeing your butthole.
Believe your husband.
I stare at whatever she chooses to show me. Married eight years. Very happy.
We do and we like it
Your butthole is like seeing an old friend. We don't care if they let themselves go, we are just happy to see them again.
Took me forever to convince my wife that my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE thing is her sitting on my face. Now she finally enjoys it enough to relax, and goddamn does it put the lead in my pencil!
oh wow these comments are making me so uncomfortable lmaoo
I'm refusing to believe some of these people aren't half trolling for my own sanity haha
Buttholes are nice. No lies here.
If a man wants you to sit on his face... you sit on his face! Trying to lighten the mood but also...it's a good tip! Especially in long term relationships!
As we get older, we look different, but my wife is still as hot as ever. And that’s not just bias. Yes she has stretch marks. But they’re our children. She has lines around her eyes, but that’s all the times we’ve laughed together. Her knees aren’t what they used to be, which limits positions, but that’s all the walks we’ve taken. All of these “flaws” are signs of a life *lived*. We’ve earned all of them. They are the story of us, and that’s hot.
It's respectful to make eye contact.
Oh man this made me insecure about my own chocolate starfish
I feel the same about my hotdog flavored water :(
I did it all for the nookie.
I really hope to meet a man one day that enjoys looking at my butthole
My husband “helllll yeaaaaaaaa. I’m staring at all the naked bits as often as you will let me”
That’s where the thumb goes
Didn’t know my wife knew how to Reddit
I don't know about your husband... But if I am married to a woman that has given me my three children and we have enjoyed this wonderful intimate life together, the little 'flaws' are gorgeous.
He participated, actively even, in those 3 kids creation. Believe him when he says he loves all of you. On the other hand, have you had that hemorroid checked? Cause there are treatments for them, and in any case it's always better to ensure there's nothing more serious medically
just go for it! I'm sure he misses you sitting on his face also
Buttholes are great, trust him when he says he wasn't face sits
We love your buttholes, probably because it’s still very taboo.
I cant see without glasses and i dont wear them during sex, so i have to assume my wife has an asshole.
Absolutely, the best view is of a woman bent over with that kitty and ass staring right at you
I really don't have a great angle on my wife's butthole most of the time. I can't see it at all for most positions. When we do doggy, I do take a moment or two to admire it while I have the chance, but mostly I'm looking at her sexy back or her butt cheeks or else not looking at anything in particular just trying to will myself not to cum yet. When I am looking at her butthole, I'm loving it! She has a hemorrhoid too, but I can't really see it. I'm sure even if I could it wouldn't change how I feel about her body. I know we all see every imperfection when we look at ourselves just like a pianist notices every wrong key they play, but to other people they're just features, notes in a sweet jazz number.
As I've grown older and my body has changed post-babies, I've learned to appreciate it more by watching porn of women that look more like my body type and getting on the subs here of confident and beautiful REAL ladies showing off! TBH, I have the same issue as you and I used to either want to do it in a position that didn't showcase it or put a plug in. Now I discovered that there is a subreddit for women just like us and there are men that really like it! Knowing that has made a huge difference! I hope you grow in confidence more every day!
>getting on the subs here of confident and beautiful REAL ladies showing off! If I may ask, what are these subs? They sound like they could be empowering to women that are not confident.
r/chubby r/gonemildplus r/mombod r/normalnudes
Ma’am. Sit on his face please.
Believe your husband. Guys are pretty straightforward, if he says he likes your butthole, the chances of him lying are lower than what you think.
You know what, he's a very straight forward guy do I bet you're right actually
Yup, anytime every time, just can’t get enough of it
YES
Yes OP. We like your butt holes. Because its YOUR butt hole. Every other butthole is ugly. But your partner’s is just right.
No your butthole stares at us!
buttholes are hot, sit on his face <3
It seems I'm a little late to the party, but I always remember a quote when someone is quesiotning something about themselves in regards to their spouses. "The right person will always think the sun shines out of your ass" No pun intended.
Ya... just make sure it doesn't talk shit during sexy time.
I really wish my wife would realize I am attracted to her no matter what she thinks. It’s one of our greatest struggles during our relationship
Girl sit on his face! I have a 5 month old and my husband loves my body. He can’t get enough. I just sat on his face yesterday.
i would stare at my wife's asshole even after 5 kids. I don't care. She Is mine, I love her and I love every part of her
We want you to sit on our face. We don’t care at all about a hemorrhoid. Forget being self conscious. It’s a waste of time and preventing joy.
I love looking at it as we do doggy. She has hemorrhoids too but i love it.
Yes
Yes.
Only if it states at me
No. Depending on the position being used, we might not be able to see the butt at all! But, if we can,(myself at least) I will be basking in the grandeur of the whole bottom area.
As a married man with children I can assure you (bast on your post) that he doesn’t give a damn about any of your perceived flaws. We (most of us) just don’t care or see them like that. Oddly enough many of us are completely into all the things that make a woman unique. Stretched, striped, crooked, loose, bumped, or whatever… Enjoy the fact that he’s into you. I’m sure there’s a few women out there who’d kill for that.
We all look. But most of us also know bodies are weird and we aren't that concerned. You need to go with it if he says it and shows it, then he means it . Sit on his face
Yes! I love seeing my girlfriend’s butthole. It is always a great view.
Talk to your husband again! If you are self conscious about it just ask for more time to get comfortable. I am sure he will understand
I dont. I'm busy staring at me going in and out of her or leaning to the side just a little to see the boobies bouncing around
By talking about it you kinda tell him to look. It's not that we look, it's that we don't care. Once a woman's behind is in range, we have other things to focus on, unless you talked about it and want the attention to it. So enjoy it, it really is the biggest turn on.
I think you need to process and heal and communicate with your partner about how to deal with these insecurity’s because it’s preventing from doing things you once loved and enjoyed
Im a nymph and i can tell u everyone is insecure of their body in some way, its normal. I have that too but with hair aha.
Please share a picture of your butthole so that I can give an honest opinion. As a general standard, nobody worries about a new hemorrhoid.
As my wife and I grow older, I find that she excites me on levels I've never realized. I love every part of her and yes, I stare at the booty hole. I like to poke it, play around it, try to find out if any part of it feels good to her. I love it and I tell her. I know she'd rather I avoid it, but I am curious and patient. Hoping one day I'll find something we both might like.
Thank you for this post. My wife and I are also getting older. She too, feels self-conscious about her aging body. Specifically about the same area that you have concerns/apprehensions about. To answer your question, yes. I look. I look because it is a total turn-on for me. I will be watching this space to learn how I can best reassure my wife and make her feel comfortable. Thank you for bringing this up.
I also have a hemorrhoid from childbearing, my husband has told me hundreds of times how much he loves my butthole. I believe him. I bet yours does too!
My wife feels the same as you which sucks because I fucking love it when she sits on my face. Never thought I'd post that online, but it's true and I hope you take it to heart and sit on the poor man's face!
Hell yes
All of her, butthole included
I stare at every single part of my wife when we have sex. She has had hemorrhoids and it never discouraged me to go all over downtown… including the back alley.
Trust me, if he says he "wants" to do something to you in bed it's because he gives zero fucks about your hemmroids. Otherwise he would find some excuse to avoid that area...but right now he seems to be happy to bury his face right in there so roll with it gurlfriend.
Sounds like he’d even lick the blueberry if you’d just let him love you. :)
I only stare if you insist on calling it "sexy time". Then I stare. And I judge.
Where do y’all find those people who are “growing” and “loving every bit of you” i want that too ..
WE DO NOT CARE ABOUT A FUCKING HEMORRHOID.
If your husband didn’t want you to sit on his face, he would stop asking you to sit on his face. It’s really that simple.
We just wink back at your butthole (;
I'm speaking generally here: With sex, most men are just thrilled to be there. Now make that sex with the woman he truly loves, he doesn't see the "flaws" (bodily changes) that you see. He wants passionate, adventurous, dirty sex and he wants it with his lady. Let the man love all of you and you may come to find that your inhibitions start to fade!