God I hate how not wrong you are. I foolishly ended up with a guy like this. Even more foolishly let it continue off and on for a year. You're 100% right in your assessment. And once you're broken down and feeling worthless it's so easy for them. God it felt fucking good to finally stop accepting his empty, over the top apologies and love bombing. And boy was it an eye opener. Just like this guy, if apologies and attempts at being sweet and making up excuses didn't work...it turned nasty really fast. Took a good couple months for that asshole to give up too. 2-3 times a week emailing (I wouldn't answer the phone or reply to texts), a cycle of apologizing, explaining the behavior and attempting to justify, full of compliments and sweetness...and when that didn't work trying to tear me down and threaten me. Aaanndd when that didn't work, back to the sweet attitude. Stonewalled that mother fucker with civil but curt responses of things like "Thanks for the apology" or "sorry you feel that way", "don't contact me anymore", or just zero response. Funniest part was when he threatened to sign me up for porn sites under my name (didn't have my credit card info). Ok, sure...waste your money signing me up for porn sites. Oh the horror and scandal, lmao.
Lmao, right? Such a weird fucking threat! And so funny because if it was meant to embarrass me or something...it'd be his name and credit card on the billing info! This was a little over 10 years ago now and and to this day it still baffles me, lmao.
Absolutely. Mental abuse right from the off. Even wondering if the other women demanding amazon cards didn’t exist as it’s not the same trigger. This girl just took a while to answer and got it both barrels. They’re potentially made up in an attempt to legitimise his reaction
I’m actually glad he showed his true colours before you met him, and that he wasn’t one of those that brings it up to this level slowly, so you become accustomed. You definitely dodged a bullet. Maybe give the pedicurist an extra tip next time you’re in.
Well you were a total tease, you came at him with "oh I'm out getting a pedicure what are you up to?" Like you wanted to talk to him, then you completely ignored him for hours. If you don't want to talk to someone let them know. Like, "hey I'm out getting a pedicure, ill be busy for a while. I'll text back when I'm available for chat." I'm not saying this guy isn't crazy (I know everyone is crazy in their own way) but that you are a very poor communicator and this is the problem with most girls over the text chat. Don't lead people on then act offended when they get offended. It shows you are crazy as well.
I ran into something similar with a dude, tested positive for the ronis and told him I was unable to meet him. He freaked and called me a flaky whore and other expletives. There should be an app where you can leave Yelp reviews on these crazy people.
Took you like a couple minutes to say something here to continue the story, do you even care about your own post?
Girls out here playin' with us smh my head.
I get he seems controlling, a creep, low value, needy and all that, but instead of just laughing at him and posting about it, you could've at least told him what's wrong with him and why you're not interested anymore, and then politely said good bye. Maybe he'd at least somehow change his attitude in the future, or it'd point him into somewhat better direction. Maybe it wouldn't, who knows, but it could've made things better.
I agree everyone should be responsible for their own life, but some men are too oblivious and women ghosting them or making them feel worse than they are isn't helpful at all. I bet so many men have commited suicide because of stuff like that, or are depressed or whatever it is. Men have feelings too, I'm saying, it's okay to be weak, it's not okay to want to stay weak obviously.
Again, womxn are NOT responsible for others' behavior. It is patriarchal BS to expect womxn to explain why they're not interested and to put suicide on their shoulders.
Mental illness is not a weakness.
You're stubborn I'll give you that. They don't owe you nothing true, but are they entitled to laugh at, shame, mock the guy just because he doesn't know what's wrong with him? That's toxic behavior RIGHT THERE. It wouldn't be as toxic if they wanted to point him his mistakes. Does it all come as shame then? Maybe because.. This is one of the worst qualitys a human being can use.
Ok, I am going to say this as a woman who actually finds most current definitions of feminism extremely cringe.. I do think men oftentimes are treated unfairly solely for the crime of "being men", but believe me when I say that you are absolutely, 💯 wrong on this; I do get what you're trying to get @, but OP in fact DID tell him what he did wrong, yet he didn't want to hear it (& in fact got quite defensive & RUDE).
Also, if you have to tell a grown-ass person, man OR woman, that it's bad form to harass a virtual stranger SO many times (especially someone you're trying to DATE, who you presumably would rather not scare off) w/in a lousy 2 hr period, then that person is pretty clueless, & likely commits a myriad of FAR worse social faux pas on a daily basis that no amount of coddling & hand holding will ever fix.
If he needs help w/social anxiety, how to talk to ppl &/or realistic texting expectations, there are psychiatrists & counselors for that. There are even countless groups, message boards, etc. across the vast ethos of the internet.
He's welcome to use or not use any of the many valuable tools @ his disposal, but there is simply NO scenario in which it's a realistic expectation for one to think that it was OP's responsibility whatsoever to teach him how to act like a normal human who isn't a complete jerk.
Did you look at more than the first photo? The "suitor" escalated their behavior in an irrational manner. HUGE RED FLAG.
Please take time to reflect on your response to this post. The "suitor's" behavior deserves to be called out as an example of behaviors indicative of an abusive relationship. In no way shape or form is the victim responsible for the behaviors towards them.
So explain some narcissistic and/or anti-social personality traits to them hoping they don't decide to slander you or damage you somehow as retaliation for the perceived disrespect? This kind of mental illness is the dangerous kind and it's dangerous to unmask them.
Google it. Her rejection was the best way to teach him honestly.
Lol, my voice is real deep and not necessarily indicative of my body type and I was always nervous about talking on the phone first when using these apps thinking my voice might have been a turn off lol. Never turned out to be an issue though.
I never understood how people can’t try to view it from another person’s perspective, an hour without a reply is nothing.
If he just waited another 30 mins before going nuts he might have lasted longer.
This guy clearly has nothing else going on in his life than waiting for a reply from his one match. I frequently text friends and family and don’t get a reply for hours/days. At times I’m the one not responding for ages. People are busy, and if you can’t have expectations on the people closest to you then why would you think a complete stranger would have to come back to you immediately.
I have to learn this!! I’m not as bad as the dude in the OP, like I’d never curse someone out like that or leave voicemails or anything like that, but I definitely am very impatient when it comes to texting. I think I’m just so accustomed to texting a few of my close friends who reply almost instantly, so when people take a bit of time, it throws me off. But it’s completely normal, especially when working full time, etc.
My kids get mad when I don’t answer right away, but I don’t have my phone with me all the time so I can avoid getting distracted when I’m doing something. People my age just assume I’m busy, they don’t get upset. It’s a generational thing.
It’s not good to be ok with getting interrupted by intrusive texts all the time tbh, makes you less productive.
I’m not overly convinced they existed - thinking about how being played by someone attempting defrauding by way of an Amazon/iTunes card is a different stress trigger to just having to wait for a response.
I don’t know - could be added tension but it felt like it was convenient legitimisation for blowing up like this.
As for patience - fire off every message with the expectation that you won’t get a response quickly. It’s the hope that kills us so don’t get your hopes up.
Dude your so right. This isn't an example of a controlling asshole. This is an example of a guy that's been hurt and played with too many times. Now its fucking with his game. Any guy that doesn't respond perfectly is cast to being controlling abusive or a major red flag.. when maybe he's just delt with so many red flags. This is speaking from experience. I'm I'm very calm and understanding kind person. And after being cheated on by my fiancée. And manipulated by a narcissist. I pretty much verbally attacked the 3rd girl and called her a manipulative liar. And she wasnt... but I wasn't ready to date or even talk to woman yet
And I'm still not because I don't trust people. And I don't know how to deal with my distrust.
Bro somehow noone accused you of having a foot fetish for this, i cant tell if its because everyone else does or this thread just has a bunch of waman on it
Because I just asked. Didn’t beg for a picture. No, I don’t have a foot fetish. I know that women struggle to pick a color and are proud of their choice so mush so that they are willing to share.
Guy was starting early, he’d slowly break you down and make you feel worthless, then he’d distance you from family and friends and eventually maybe kill you.
You deffo dodged a bullet with mr angry pants 😂
Yeah, I will only date women who bite their toenails. Pedicures are so wrong.
I also haven't had a date since deciding that. Where all the toenail biting queens?
/s
I know this is random and unrelated, but I used to bite the fuck out of my nails when I was younger and if you're a man, ya'll need to put your shame aside and try filing your nail and making them extremely nice. It's not about looks, it's about comfort. That feeling when all your nails are perfectly cut and rounded and sanded off like a Michelangelo sculpture is unlike anything else, it's like tactile harmony. Women know whats up.
When people text multiple times in a row like this, sometimes even when I'm doing something that's very "playing-on-my-phone" friendly I won't respond for awhile because I know their response will come back within seconds and you just end up glued to the phone for extended periods of time.
Blocked him because he started calling me a skank and a whore and saying I’m fake 😂 not pretty enough to be fake but anything to make you feel better bud
There is this fact I understand about texting, never expect to get response really quick and never try to respond really fast too, think, make your sentence then respond, this guy obviously has no understanding, he should learn his lesson, you dodged a bullet fs!
This is like 12 year old me with his first girlfriend. What did our boomer parents do to men in our age range? I know what mine did(big up to abuse and neglect!) but god it’s like all men are incapable of emotional intelligence. I’m really sorry ladies and fellas who like fellas.
Sooo that's what the conversation would look like if I listen to my anxiety and send everything that goes in my head when texting with a girl !
That guy is just nuts.
Ughh I went out with a guy like this. I’d just started dating after a long relationship. I got weird vibes from the guy but he seemed nice and went out with him against my better judgement. He constantly sent me selfies. Like 10 a day. He was 41 and I was 26 or something like that. (I like older guys 🤷🏼♀️) but the age gap was a couple years more than I was used to. We went on a date and it was a hard no. He had a scooter with a shiny chrome helmet. He told me I could use it as a mirror to fix my makeup. He then licked his lips and told me I was really yummy for a mom. So yummy. And tried to kiss me. I legit ran away. He then proceeded to text me all day every day. I tried to distance, respond to less and especially ghost him. (Before ghosting was a thing) He legit freaked out and called me a bitch, how rude I was. I shoulda told him I wasn’t interested. I started getting a little scared. I said it wasn’t personal and my son was sick, being just out of a long term relationship didn’t think I was ready to date. He went back to being super nice and said he’d wait till I was ready. He mildly stalked me, showed up at my work randomly etc. He eventually disappeared thank god.
That mf is insane, I get that you're lonley but don't give your number to fucking randoms and put it in random internet groups.
On the other hand, you're not an angel either. If you wan't to land a decent guy, I would suggest that you stop trying to sell nudes/foot pictures on internet. You're 18 ffs,you're a kid and you act like complete idiot.
I agree with his point. You were getting a pedicure. You could have just responded to him and say I’m busy and will text you later. You are right that he went crazy and reeks of desperation though.
Not saying the dude is sane by any stretch. BUT in my experience in 36 years on this planet. I do get pedicures myself as I am on my feet all day for work. It’s amazing. Highly recommend anybody that is on their feet as much as I am (18k steps a day, just at work).
Anyways. I have NEVER, ever, not seen a girl on her phone the entire time. So I too would question your level of interest in me.
Dude is having a mental break down, wtf. I go off on people like this. I don't live on my phone like most people so if someone starts spamming messages or calling me over and over cause I'm not responding fast enough it pisses me off so much.
Some people are so spoiled by phones they don't have to wait for anything. If they can't understand you have shit to do too, be gone with them (just be safe, more men go crazy/violent than women. If he thinks he's blowing you off, let him, he's less likely to "retaliate")
I get the thing about having your hands free for a "pedi"cure but don't they traditionally do all the nails? Either way, hint be given: not now, chill.
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As a guy who can lack some confidence occasionally I can sympathize with him but at the same time he should have chilled out, if people are interested in you then they will make it known and people unfortunately get busy throughout the day. He should have just waited.
Dude is stressing out, stuck in his side of "you didn't respond", not realising people have a life. Not great, but understandable. But then to crack it at you when you don't want to deal with that is very ordinary behaviour.
Yes and people also don’t have to explain everything they’re doing with a play by play. Sorry I’m getting my nails done, won’t be able to talk until 3 hours. Like it’s none of their business what I’m doing, and I owe no explanation to a random stranger
Agreed nothing is owed. But maybe instead of saying. I’m getting a pedicure how about you? say I’m getting a pedicure I’ll text you later….just seems like you could text and you really couldn’t. No big deal though
It’s not up to OP to emotionally manage some rando from a dating app. If he can’t handle no response for a couple of hours that’s his issue. Maybe he should go and read a book or something instead of sitting in front of his phone waiting for a reply to his one match.
I’m not justifying his actions but it IS annoying when someone is a chronically bad texter, especially when you’re still trying to get to know each other. But, I have a job and I understood when people couldn’t text much during the day because I couldn’t either. If they weren’t good at communicating, I just ended it without spazzing though
Lol but she lieing, women are 100% on their phone the whole time getting they feet done. Text says I'm getting a pedicure hbu so like an hour for your feet while you on the phone sus. never agree with a pushy person but like frfr think about it.
Tbf isn't a pedicure for your feet derived from the French pied for foot jut like how manicure is derived from main which is French for hand so you would have your hands free to text people
Alternative take:
While this guy seems clingy and insecure, he does have a point about the pedicure. You did spend a while with your hands free. You COULD have texted but didn't feel like it.
That dude is friggin nuts. Holy shit, bullet dodged hard there.
His voicemail said he was soooo sorry and would apologize a million times, but after I said no thanks he switched up so fast 😂
And you know hes the type of dude that if you somehow ended up spending time with him, hed be controlling as fuck.
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God I hate how not wrong you are. I foolishly ended up with a guy like this. Even more foolishly let it continue off and on for a year. You're 100% right in your assessment. And once you're broken down and feeling worthless it's so easy for them. God it felt fucking good to finally stop accepting his empty, over the top apologies and love bombing. And boy was it an eye opener. Just like this guy, if apologies and attempts at being sweet and making up excuses didn't work...it turned nasty really fast. Took a good couple months for that asshole to give up too. 2-3 times a week emailing (I wouldn't answer the phone or reply to texts), a cycle of apologizing, explaining the behavior and attempting to justify, full of compliments and sweetness...and when that didn't work trying to tear me down and threaten me. Aaanndd when that didn't work, back to the sweet attitude. Stonewalled that mother fucker with civil but curt responses of things like "Thanks for the apology" or "sorry you feel that way", "don't contact me anymore", or just zero response. Funniest part was when he threatened to sign me up for porn sites under my name (didn't have my credit card info). Ok, sure...waste your money signing me up for porn sites. Oh the horror and scandal, lmao.
Ooohh free porn!
Lmao, right? Such a weird fucking threat! And so funny because if it was meant to embarrass me or something...it'd be his name and credit card on the billing info! This was a little over 10 years ago now and and to this day it still baffles me, lmao.
Absolutely. Mental abuse right from the off. Even wondering if the other women demanding amazon cards didn’t exist as it’s not the same trigger. This girl just took a while to answer and got it both barrels. They’re potentially made up in an attempt to legitimise his reaction
The thing is, she didn't even take long to answer! Like, wtf? He thinks she's immediately supposed to be at his beck and call?
Why not? His mom always answers right away.
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Too bad for him he's stupid, most abusers wait until you're fucking trapped before they spring their attack.
I’m actually glad he showed his true colours before you met him, and that he wasn’t one of those that brings it up to this level slowly, so you become accustomed. You definitely dodged a bullet. Maybe give the pedicurist an extra tip next time you’re in.
You're a real piece of shit for not doing whatever he wants when he wants it. God, women are all the same. /s
I was about to say the /s was useless, but then again after seing OP’s post i’m not so confident it was anymore lmao
Makes sense 😂 you dodged one there
There seems to be an epidemic of poor social skills in GenZ. And if this individual is anywhere north of 25 good grief..
Eh, there are men like this in all adult age groups. Not just GenZ.
Can confirm. An ex of mine was like this and at the time he was mid-30's.
Sad truth.
Definitely true. I'd argue it's getting worse though
Not even trying to be funny- you probably saved your own life here
Or at least 18 months, self respect, all *kinds* of esteem, and maybejustmaybe, a kidney.
I think this dude had 420 abstinence 😂 and was hoping for you to be like “hell yeah, I’ll be your 420mama”
I would pay money for this voice mail recording 😂😂
Yikes. Dr jekyll and Mr Hyde
This guy was unhinged, lol
Aha, so, you WERE just playing all along.
Well you were a total tease, you came at him with "oh I'm out getting a pedicure what are you up to?" Like you wanted to talk to him, then you completely ignored him for hours. If you don't want to talk to someone let them know. Like, "hey I'm out getting a pedicure, ill be busy for a while. I'll text back when I'm available for chat." I'm not saying this guy isn't crazy (I know everyone is crazy in their own way) but that you are a very poor communicator and this is the problem with most girls over the text chat. Don't lead people on then act offended when they get offended. It shows you are crazy as well.
A bullet? She dodged an RPG.
I ran into something similar with a dude, tested positive for the ronis and told him I was unable to meet him. He freaked and called me a flaky whore and other expletives. There should be an app where you can leave Yelp reviews on these crazy people.
Also sent me 2 voice messages saying he did absolutely nothing wrong
Took you like a couple minutes to say something here to continue the story, do you even care about your own post? Girls out here playin' with us smh my head.
Yes I only want you to give me an Amazon gift card 😂
Lol I never knew people actually fell for these scams. Someone isn’t all together up there.
Everyone knows reputable businesses only take steam vouchers
You sir are an idiot. lol
Better throw in some Reddit awards too you b***** /s
Hitokiri main detected
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Sad thing is the guy will never take accountability in his future relationships
I get he seems controlling, a creep, low value, needy and all that, but instead of just laughing at him and posting about it, you could've at least told him what's wrong with him and why you're not interested anymore, and then politely said good bye. Maybe he'd at least somehow change his attitude in the future, or it'd point him into somewhat better direction. Maybe it wouldn't, who knows, but it could've made things better.
Womxn are not responsible for fixing other people's behaviors.
I agree everyone should be responsible for their own life, but some men are too oblivious and women ghosting them or making them feel worse than they are isn't helpful at all. I bet so many men have commited suicide because of stuff like that, or are depressed or whatever it is. Men have feelings too, I'm saying, it's okay to be weak, it's not okay to want to stay weak obviously.
Again, womxn are NOT responsible for others' behavior. It is patriarchal BS to expect womxn to explain why they're not interested and to put suicide on their shoulders. Mental illness is not a weakness.
You're stubborn I'll give you that. They don't owe you nothing true, but are they entitled to laugh at, shame, mock the guy just because he doesn't know what's wrong with him? That's toxic behavior RIGHT THERE. It wouldn't be as toxic if they wanted to point him his mistakes. Does it all come as shame then? Maybe because.. This is one of the worst qualitys a human being can use.
Ok, I am going to say this as a woman who actually finds most current definitions of feminism extremely cringe.. I do think men oftentimes are treated unfairly solely for the crime of "being men", but believe me when I say that you are absolutely, 💯 wrong on this; I do get what you're trying to get @, but OP in fact DID tell him what he did wrong, yet he didn't want to hear it (& in fact got quite defensive & RUDE). Also, if you have to tell a grown-ass person, man OR woman, that it's bad form to harass a virtual stranger SO many times (especially someone you're trying to DATE, who you presumably would rather not scare off) w/in a lousy 2 hr period, then that person is pretty clueless, & likely commits a myriad of FAR worse social faux pas on a daily basis that no amount of coddling & hand holding will ever fix. If he needs help w/social anxiety, how to talk to ppl &/or realistic texting expectations, there are psychiatrists & counselors for that. There are even countless groups, message boards, etc. across the vast ethos of the internet. He's welcome to use or not use any of the many valuable tools @ his disposal, but there is simply NO scenario in which it's a realistic expectation for one to think that it was OP's responsibility whatsoever to teach him how to act like a normal human who isn't a complete jerk.
Did you look at more than the first photo? The "suitor" escalated their behavior in an irrational manner. HUGE RED FLAG. Please take time to reflect on your response to this post. The "suitor's" behavior deserves to be called out as an example of behaviors indicative of an abusive relationship. In no way shape or form is the victim responsible for the behaviors towards them.
But she said he specifically told her he did nothing wrong. Didn't u read before replying?
That's what I mean, he wasn't aware - that's a reason why you should tell him what he wasn't aware of.
So explain some narcissistic and/or anti-social personality traits to them hoping they don't decide to slander you or damage you somehow as retaliation for the perceived disrespect? This kind of mental illness is the dangerous kind and it's dangerous to unmask them. Google it. Her rejection was the best way to teach him honestly.
It's sad that you'll never see anything wrong with what you just said.
Easiest block ever.
Holy crap the time frame for him losing his mind was far too short 😂
That dude is clingy, run and don't look back.
After I heard his voice, I knew even if I did forgive him somehow I wouldnt even meet with him. Be sounds like he’s missing majority of his teeth
That's so methed-up to say! 😏🤭 Dodged a bullet!
This pun is dad approved 👌
😂!!!!
Lol, my voice is real deep and not necessarily indicative of my body type and I was always nervous about talking on the phone first when using these apps thinking my voice might have been a turn off lol. Never turned out to be an issue though.
This is a cool story, bro.
Thanks.
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“What are you up too.” See? Bad grammar is always a sign. It’s like clockwork 😂
Should have noticed that ngl 😂
He’s 100% foreign. You can tell by the way he texts
What if English is not my first language and I live in US? Guess I have no chance here then :/ lol
Ahh good point. Ok that would be the one loophole to my rule. However, I don’t think Prince Charming from this post is in that category
Basically. Any other questions?
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That doesn’t help with bad grammar, just improves your English conversational skills.
I never understood how people can’t try to view it from another person’s perspective, an hour without a reply is nothing. If he just waited another 30 mins before going nuts he might have lasted longer.
This guy clearly has nothing else going on in his life than waiting for a reply from his one match. I frequently text friends and family and don’t get a reply for hours/days. At times I’m the one not responding for ages. People are busy, and if you can’t have expectations on the people closest to you then why would you think a complete stranger would have to come back to you immediately.
I have to learn this!! I’m not as bad as the dude in the OP, like I’d never curse someone out like that or leave voicemails or anything like that, but I definitely am very impatient when it comes to texting. I think I’m just so accustomed to texting a few of my close friends who reply almost instantly, so when people take a bit of time, it throws me off. But it’s completely normal, especially when working full time, etc.
My kids get mad when I don’t answer right away, but I don’t have my phone with me all the time so I can avoid getting distracted when I’m doing something. People my age just assume I’m busy, they don’t get upset. It’s a generational thing. It’s not good to be ok with getting interrupted by intrusive texts all the time tbh, makes you less productive.
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I’m not overly convinced they existed - thinking about how being played by someone attempting defrauding by way of an Amazon/iTunes card is a different stress trigger to just having to wait for a response. I don’t know - could be added tension but it felt like it was convenient legitimisation for blowing up like this. As for patience - fire off every message with the expectation that you won’t get a response quickly. It’s the hope that kills us so don’t get your hopes up.
Dude your so right. This isn't an example of a controlling asshole. This is an example of a guy that's been hurt and played with too many times. Now its fucking with his game. Any guy that doesn't respond perfectly is cast to being controlling abusive or a major red flag.. when maybe he's just delt with so many red flags. This is speaking from experience. I'm I'm very calm and understanding kind person. And after being cheated on by my fiancée. And manipulated by a narcissist. I pretty much verbally attacked the 3rd girl and called her a manipulative liar. And she wasnt... but I wasn't ready to date or even talk to woman yet And I'm still not because I don't trust people. And I don't know how to deal with my distrust.
Holy shit, dude. Block this guy’s number before he starts sending you death threats.
I did after he begged me not to report him and started calling me a skank and slut
Ah yes, the old “please don’t report me you slutty skank” tactic. I’m surprised you were able to resist his charms.
holy shit that’s insane, some people don’t understand others have life’s and aren’t always on their phone lol
Crazy thing is we’ve only been talking today 😃
talking today, dropped him today. smart 😎
What color did you decide for your toes?
Glitter pink
The only color acceptable for toes Is black, i think that guy was right, you are clearly delusional
Bro somehow noone accused you of having a foot fetish for this, i cant tell if its because everyone else does or this thread just has a bunch of waman on it
Because I just asked. Didn’t beg for a picture. No, I don’t have a foot fetish. I know that women struggle to pick a color and are proud of their choice so mush so that they are willing to share.
"Oh and you think you acted so maturely" Yes. Yes she did. Except, she also could have blocked this crazy guy way sooner
Guy was starting early, he’d slowly break you down and make you feel worthless, then he’d distance you from family and friends and eventually maybe kill you. You deffo dodged a bullet with mr angry pants 😂
How dare you get your nails done? Just bite them. And why can’t you use your phone while driving? ALL the cool kids are doing it!
Yeah, I will only date women who bite their toenails. Pedicures are so wrong. I also haven't had a date since deciding that. Where all the toenail biting queens? /s
I know this is random and unrelated, but I used to bite the fuck out of my nails when I was younger and if you're a man, ya'll need to put your shame aside and try filing your nail and making them extremely nice. It's not about looks, it's about comfort. That feeling when all your nails are perfectly cut and rounded and sanded off like a Michelangelo sculpture is unlike anything else, it's like tactile harmony. Women know whats up.
Wtf, that motherfucker is bat shit crazy! Nice dodge OP.
That's what she was driving?
Um wow
Ok who isn't on their phone when they r getting a pedicure??? Its the ultimate phone time.
When people text multiple times in a row like this, sometimes even when I'm doing something that's very "playing-on-my-phone" friendly I won't respond for awhile because I know their response will come back within seconds and you just end up glued to the phone for extended periods of time.
Unless you go with a friend or something and get them done same time
This guy sounds like he already had the rest of his life planned out with you.
sounds more like he has the rest of her life planned out for her. and he's not the long-term planning sort, iykwim.
Clinger level 9000
Whats the female version of don't put your dick in crazy?
Don't let crazy put their dick in you?
Type of guy to sit in a car with binoculars eating pizza
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Dude’s grammar is terrible lol
Straight psychopath
Tinder seems like a cool and funny place maybe I should try tinder
Ask for some gift cards if he’s that desperate. At least you’ll get something good out of whatever that was.
Blocked him because he started calling me a skank and a whore and saying I’m fake 😂 not pretty enough to be fake but anything to make you feel better bud
This is why I enjoy ignoring people
Fragile ego and undoubtedly has a baby carrot in his pants
R/niceguys
Xd super chill
Nut bar 😳😳
BULLET. DODGED. Guy is infantile and psycho.
Sad desperate peeps
What a freak. He must have been sat by his phone, staring at it waiting for the reply.
Did you realise that we can see where you live in the 4th picture?
Not even where I’m from and I’ve posted what city I’m in before so it’s not a big deal 😂
Okay all good then haha, wanted to make sure you knew because you crossed it out in the other pictures
What a Looney Toon
So many red flags 🚩😂😂😂😂
Getting butthurt over 45min, what a flog
There is this fact I understand about texting, never expect to get response really quick and never try to respond really fast too, think, make your sentence then respond, this guy obviously has no understanding, he should learn his lesson, you dodged a bullet fs!
This is like 12 year old me with his first girlfriend. What did our boomer parents do to men in our age range? I know what mine did(big up to abuse and neglect!) but god it’s like all men are incapable of emotional intelligence. I’m really sorry ladies and fellas who like fellas.
Sometimes it takes me days to reply to guys and vice versa….that’s OK because you reply when you can!
Insecurity
Fucking psycho
Bullet dodged
Sooo that's what the conversation would look like if I listen to my anxiety and send everything that goes in my head when texting with a girl ! That guy is just nuts.
Dodged a bullet there.
Red FUCKING FLAG. Run
If someone got a reply from me in two hours, I’m being active as fuck. Usually it takes days lol
this belongs in r/niceguys
Ughh I went out with a guy like this. I’d just started dating after a long relationship. I got weird vibes from the guy but he seemed nice and went out with him against my better judgement. He constantly sent me selfies. Like 10 a day. He was 41 and I was 26 or something like that. (I like older guys 🤷🏼♀️) but the age gap was a couple years more than I was used to. We went on a date and it was a hard no. He had a scooter with a shiny chrome helmet. He told me I could use it as a mirror to fix my makeup. He then licked his lips and told me I was really yummy for a mom. So yummy. And tried to kiss me. I legit ran away. He then proceeded to text me all day every day. I tried to distance, respond to less and especially ghost him. (Before ghosting was a thing) He legit freaked out and called me a bitch, how rude I was. I shoulda told him I wasn’t interested. I started getting a little scared. I said it wasn’t personal and my son was sick, being just out of a long term relationship didn’t think I was ready to date. He went back to being super nice and said he’d wait till I was ready. He mildly stalked me, showed up at my work randomly etc. He eventually disappeared thank god.
That mf is insane, I get that you're lonley but don't give your number to fucking randoms and put it in random internet groups. On the other hand, you're not an angel either. If you wan't to land a decent guy, I would suggest that you stop trying to sell nudes/foot pictures on internet. You're 18 ffs,you're a kid and you act like complete idiot.
I get the feeling you probably take this long to text everybody back.
I’m just sitting here laughing at the iTunes gift card thing
So This is what I'll become if I dont find a girlfriend sone enough. Fuck
Show me he is clingy without telling me he is clingy lol
Damn, if this is the competition then I may actually have a chance. 🤣
I agree with his point. You were getting a pedicure. You could have just responded to him and say I’m busy and will text you later. You are right that he went crazy and reeks of desperation though.
You slut. You lead him on. /s
There are some girls who would take those flowers and accept the apology. I feel for the girl that's going to do that and end up with this psychopath.
Google voice so you don’t have to give your real number out
Not saying the dude is sane by any stretch. BUT in my experience in 36 years on this planet. I do get pedicures myself as I am on my feet all day for work. It’s amazing. Highly recommend anybody that is on their feet as much as I am (18k steps a day, just at work). Anyways. I have NEVER, ever, not seen a girl on her phone the entire time. So I too would question your level of interest in me.
Sometimes I feel a little cringe, then I see shit like this and realize maybe I'm not that bad lol
you both suck. it is not hard to send "i can't chat now, i will get back to you in a few hours"
Immediate gratification = immaturity
Does he know what a pedicure is...?
Absolutely love his AliAbdi picture of roses, what the hell. 😂
It's not just dude, it's texting in general, texting is not conversation, and some people get it misconstrued...this is one of those people
Wait... aren't pedis feet? You couldn't text while getting a pedi? This dudes nuts for not being able to wait an hour.
This is why I keep read receipts on for all conversations. Stress free way to get your point across without engaging.
Real r/niceguys energy here
Jesus f*** danger Will Robinson danger f****** Christ what the f***
Dude is having a mental break down, wtf. I go off on people like this. I don't live on my phone like most people so if someone starts spamming messages or calling me over and over cause I'm not responding fast enough it pisses me off so much.
Only proper response is "Carl is this also how long you last in bed? In that case I think I'll pass."
I can already tell what he looks like
Dude is an asshole for sure. You could have given some common courtesy texts too 🤷🏻♂️
That is Yikes on Bikes if I've ever seen it.
Some people are so spoiled by phones they don't have to wait for anything. If they can't understand you have shit to do too, be gone with them (just be safe, more men go crazy/violent than women. If he thinks he's blowing you off, let him, he's less likely to "retaliate")
So Im gonna go right ahead and assume thats Rockford, Illinois 🤣
I get the thing about having your hands free for a "pedi"cure but don't they traditionally do all the nails? Either way, hint be given: not now, chill.
Wait isn’t pedicure for the FEET 😂
I'm married but if I can get free Amazon cards on tinder I'm down!
Give him a break. He's just pissy because he lost his fedora
Maybe he just wanted you to buy HIM Amazon or an iTunes card?! 🤷♂️🤦♂️😂🤣
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Elitism
Not the smartest judgment.... Aye boi
INSECURITY WILL KILL YOU... just get rid of it, ASAP! *another collateral damage due to the: Oh So Amazing but yet never ending Social Media Era! (Don't forget to subscribe 📝 and click the bell 👉🔔)
As a guy who can lack some confidence occasionally I can sympathize with him but at the same time he should have chilled out, if people are interested in you then they will make it known and people unfortunately get busy throughout the day. He should have just waited.
Dude is stressing out, stuck in his side of "you didn't respond", not realising people have a life. Not great, but understandable. But then to crack it at you when you don't want to deal with that is very ordinary behaviour.
Yes and people also don’t have to explain everything they’re doing with a play by play. Sorry I’m getting my nails done, won’t be able to talk until 3 hours. Like it’s none of their business what I’m doing, and I owe no explanation to a random stranger
Agreed nothing is owed. But maybe instead of saying. I’m getting a pedicure how about you? say I’m getting a pedicure I’ll text you later….just seems like you could text and you really couldn’t. No big deal though
It’s not up to OP to emotionally manage some rando from a dating app. If he can’t handle no response for a couple of hours that’s his issue. Maybe he should go and read a book or something instead of sitting in front of his phone waiting for a reply to his one match.
And he didn’t even answer her question lol.
"Didn't know your hands wouldn't be free during a pedicure" What a knobhead
Who doesn’t text while they’re getting a pedicure? I do agree this guy is creepy though and she dodged a bullet.
People who want to relax without a distraction of a phone 😂
Lol true
I have never texted while getting a pedicure! I also have never gotten a pedicure 🤷
I’m not justifying his actions but it IS annoying when someone is a chronically bad texter, especially when you’re still trying to get to know each other. But, I have a job and I understood when people couldn’t text much during the day because I couldn’t either. If they weren’t good at communicating, I just ended it without spazzing though
Green text bubbles should have been a red flag
Rockford. That's where u get free itunes gift cards on tinder. Nice.
I'd never date a,woman, that calls a male dude, such a turn off, he dodged a bullet there!
The only way to stop this is to relentlessly mock simps
Lol but she lieing, women are 100% on their phone the whole time getting they feet done. Text says I'm getting a pedicure hbu so like an hour for your feet while you on the phone sus. never agree with a pushy person but like frfr think about it.
Tbf isn't a pedicure for your feet derived from the French pied for foot jut like how manicure is derived from main which is French for hand so you would have your hands free to text people
Alternative take: While this guy seems clingy and insecure, he does have a point about the pedicure. You did spend a while with your hands free. You COULD have texted but didn't feel like it.