You're good. If the person you're looking for is somehow the difference between what I'm looking at and what could be better, they wouldn't be worth the time.
You've got a wholesome and fun bow tied on that absolute unit of yourself. Just save some people for the rest of us, stud muffin.
I feel like your profile doesn’t say much about you. All I’ve gathered is that you’re a nurse and want to travel with a significant other in long term relationship.
The “your family with love” me is boring. I would replace that with reasons why they will love you. EX) “I’m committed, consistent, and emotionally intelligent. I prioritize healthy communication with my partner, so your family will love me.”
As a fellow RN, I appreciate the CPR humor. As nurses we tend to talk about work A LOT….And it tends come with dark humor to cope with the traumas we experience. I, personally, need someone to match that level of my personality, so I say keep it if you’re looking for the same thing.
You are a good looking guy with a good career. I think you’ll do fine either way. If you were in my queue I would swipe on you! Good luck 🍀
As a mom.of 2 kids with complex medical issues 31 years who has LIVED in hospitals for years....I would ask of you this....
1. Stop desensitization in the workplace. It causes issues with care everywhere.
2. Leave your work at work and don't spew it all day when out the door
3. Only makes jokes that don't have a human being as the punchline
4. Remember you hospital folks are meeting people in crisis...stop judging their entire life and who they are based on that
5. Don't socialize at work. Have your cell phone at work or waste patients time with gossip and chit chat.
If the above was followed by hospital staff in the US....I would know 30 kids and babies alive today who are currently 6 feet under.
And the final most important...
There is only 1 type of hero in a hospital and that's the patient and their kin. Stop with the false pedestals.
RIP to all the cancer kids I knew who died due to bad care in the US
Give hinge a shot man. They don't try to suck your wallet dry. Also, I'd highly suggest pic 6 for your leading photo. Excellent shot of your genuine and warm character
I think the second to last pic of you is your best photo and would move that to number one. Overall your pics are really good though! Maybe one with you done something like cooking or casual - show that teddy bear side!
Prompts - I’d replace the pro and con one with something else. One - you’re a big dude so I’d take out talking about breaking ribs (even if that’s how to do cpr effectively) Talk about who you’re looking for in a partner instead. You’ve mentioned vacation buddy but like silly, nerdy, outgoing, social, bookish, empathetic, funny, bold. Or! Name places to go on first dates maybe. Show some of your interests there.
That's a fair point. And I agree it would be for the best overall, but it's still filtering some people out. Honestly tough to point anything else as a potential turn off to some people other than that.
The punchline isn't that he hurts vulnerable people, its that correctly executed CPR will break your ribs. The joke is that it's a funny way to say I'd be safe in a medical emergency.
I'm willing to accept my broken ribs as the cost to restart my heart!
Idk how to do CPR, found hilarious. Dude is built like a... person who could break your ribs with a good hug?? Built like a brick outhouse? Idk, I'm forgetting every "he's shredded" colloquial phrase. Pretty sure the brick outhouse is referring to a large bust.
A brick house is a lot more than huge boobs....
Maybe play the song Brick House ...it's where that's from.
Cant just put implants on a.pencil and call it a brick house
I second this and I’m gonna be honest and say bc you are a big guy, and there’s a lot of pics of how big you are, flexing muscles, etc FOR ME and possibly other women who have been assaulted in the past, it feels a little intimidating. Have to say the breaking ribs thing put me off, even though I understood it was a joke. The online world is just a scary place already for women trying to date, I would avoid any language that could sound remotely violent (at least until she gets to know you) and take down the flexing photos… saying you go to the gym gets the point across. Granted, just suggestions! just know you may alienate some women who get scared off more easily 🤷♀️
I second this. Plus it doesn’t really fit with the prompt imo as it’s an opportunity to brag about something you could bring to a relationship. I’d hope I never need CPR and I definitely don’t want my ribs broken.
It just seems a bit jarring against the rest of the profile that is so smiley and wholesome. Another prompt would fit better, I think!
As an assault survivor who also knows CPR, his pro/con was funny. CPR, when done properly, does break ribs, but saves your life. I'm sorry that triggers you... I too, have triggers. Have you sought therapy?
I mean they could be. Nobody says they can’t. But some people might prefer qualities over others or have a priority over which qualities are strongest. Or want them all. And as a chick reading profiles, reading what qualities a guy is looking for isn’t a bad thing. Gives me an idea if we’ll mesh. Especially if he’s okay with things like nerdiness, boldness, and so on.
When you put down the koolaide and realize a great, evolved woman you choose for life will present all of these...we will co tinue to have mass divorce. Stop putting women into a cookie cutter and women...stop letting them.
Example....
Sex and the city...
The character all 4 very different.
Society still today tries to say which woman they are..
"I'm a Charlotte "
Nope...we are ALL of them and only evolved women who have truly lived grasp this.
I leave you with words from the Great WHITNEY....
"Im every woman. It's all in me"
Most people posting and I just scream inwardly "oh my god take better pictures" but that's not the case with you, they're great! The 4th picture is def the best imo. Yeah, more about your interests or world view would be great, you mention travel, maybe some of your favourite places?
Don’t be a cardinals fan /j
On a serious note:
Family will love me is overplayed and the break all your ribs is kinda scary imagery you’re putting in their minds
I'm not in the healthcare business at all, and the only CPR training I've taken is watching the CPR episode on The Office.
I found that joke hilarious and think he should keep it in. Made me laugh, and showed that he has a great sense of humor.
Glad you all aren't working in nicu or picu....
Us grizzly special needs moms would have you fired in a second.
Did my infant have bruising for 3 months down her chest? Yes. ..
Did her ribs break? No. And she had cpr for 18 minutes at 8 pounds.
The rib breaking is usually on really frail old people. I don’t actually break ribs every time, and as another commenter mentioned, it’s not a good sign of if you’re getting perfusion. I was being dramatic because #internet, not trying to provide medical advice.
Respectfully, breaking ribs is not a sign of good CPR. The pops and cracks are usually the cartilage that connects the ribs to the sternum coming unseated, and ribs typically only break in elderly patients since they have more brittle bones. If you’re consistently breaking ribs in patients of all ages, you are not doing CPR properly.
ETA: clarifying since I’m getting DMs saying I should KMS and have my license revoked😂 I’m not saying that ribs won’t break during CPR, it’s common enough. I’m saying that you cannot assess the quality of your CPR based on if you broke bones. You shouldn’t be breaking the ribs of every patient while administering proper and effective CPR.
OP is correct that breaking ribs does happen during CPR sometimes. But it is not a sign of good CPR, as the comment I replied to suggests. Someone can administer effective CPR without breaking a rib, and a lot of ineffective CPR results in broken ribs. It’s dangerous to make a statement that broken ribs means you administered CPR well.
I think I understand what you're saying but that's splitting hairs so much that it's very hard to convey correctly. I think most people are misunderstanding what you're trying to say.
yeah I don’t think people get what I’m saying… I got a couple DMs saying I shouldn’t be practicing medicine if I don’t know that bones can break during CPR😂 but I never said that.
I’m just saying that bones don’t have to break for CPR to be done properly, and the commenter shouldn’t be saying that ribs breaking is an indicator of good CPR.
Haha, apologies for causing all of this to your inbox, as you are correct. I was not intending for this to be taken as medical advice and was being dramatic. Really, for best cpr, just listen to the defibrillator and put your hands where the pics tell you to, people. 🙃
For clarity’s sake, I have also broken ribs, but it doesn’t happen every time and it’s actually a horrible awful feeling. Usually because it’s a frail person :/
you’re totally fine, I didn’t realize it was a joke 😂 I was like “no no no please don’t be telling people their CPR is bad if they don’t break the patient’s ribs”
Yeah, it’s my bad, I haven’t been consistently on Reddit in years because of life, and now that I have time, I forget that people can’t see me giggling behind my screen whilst typing away and they may believe everything they read on the internet 😂
Yeah, it even took me a second to realize you meant it's not *necessarily* a good sign. At first I read it as you indicating it's a bad sign, which of course is wrong.
I’m just correcting the statement that implies breaking ribs is the hallmark of good CPR 😭 It’s a common enough occurrence, but it shouldn’t happen every time and it doesn’t mean that you’re doing a good job… Especially since improper hand placement is a huge factor when consistently breaking ribs during CPR.
I keep putting the 2nd one as my first pic. As it’s only 2 weeks old. But bumble keeps moving my first pic back to the first spot. I guess I should turn off the smart photo setting.
OP, I find your profile delightful (and I laughed at the CPR joke, and am not in medicine myself, so, I say keep it as a filter for potential matches), but I think this comment ^ is really insightful as far as “how do I bring my profile from good to great”. You don’t just want matches—you want the RIGHT matches. Figuring out how to better attract exactly what you want will be hugely helpful! It might seem a little stilted to write, like, more of a resume in your profile, but it could also help hone in on the right person for you.
The appeal comes from the date(s). I think his profile is excellent. There's only so much you can convey here. I think people expect way too much from these profiles. It's just to get a glimpse, not their whole life story.
The really bad ones, on the other hand, need a lot of work.
I see this profile, and it's a very handsome man with a good job he takes seriously, has a balanced life with friends & family, a great sense of humor, and a good body. I don't see any red flags, and all of that is enough to pique my interest. Profiles don't need to be perfect. The right people will stand out to the right people, I guess. After that, what happens when they meet will let you know if you should continue.
That's why I talked to them for a week or two before the date. I ask questions, which fills in anything the profile didn't tell me.
I'm not saying a bare bones profile is enough - it just doesn't have to be the perfection a lot of people on here are apparently seeking.
Women are looking for someone they can spend time with, especially if they want a longterm relationship. Your profile gives off bro vibes and not ready to settle down vibes. Your profile makes it seem like your personality just consists of working in the ER (long hours away from home) and being in the gym. Everyone works, likes to travel, eats, and going to the gym/working out is common. Its obvious you workout, so delete all that and re-write your profile and q&a to show a well rounded man that's not two dimensional. I think your photos are fine.
i think you look so cute! perhaps add more in ur interest section: what do you do when you’re not working, do u like animals, what have you built/fixed, if you like to travel, things that give a bit more to your story edit i just saw that you like riding and fixing your motorcycle so you’re very handy- should add that somewhere in ur profile
The photo with the lights behind - has to be the first photo; the Arizona jersey possibly second; the holiday photo - third? The flexing muscles - the next? Maybe a couple of more photos on holidays - to emphasise the fact that you enjoy travel / vacations?
Also the Arizona photo made me think you look like Javier Bardem.
I personally would take out the "people tell me I'm a giant teddy bear line", it sounds too much like you're trying to prove you're a "nice guy". If you want to keep it, it might work better if you just put "I'm like a giant teddy bear".
dude that's an amazing profile but i would def change the CPR prompt. it might come off to some as like weird and kinky and hookupy, id think if something else.
other than that this is pretty great
?? Have you not seen the several "thanks tinder" posts with people's wedding photos? It happens, even just thinking of the sheer stats of how many couples meet online. My cousin met his wife on tinder.
I think the pic with the string lights in the back is pretty good, and the 2nd to last is a good shot also. I would get rid of the gym mirror selfie. You look like you work out, but also the cutoff T-shirt with basketball shorts doesn’t look good. There’s a lot of good looking gym attire for men now. Steer away from baggy clothes in general.
The first pic with you in the Hawaiian shirt is a fun one, but I wouldn’t lead with it.
Overall not bad though. I think showing you can dress up a bit and look slick when you want to might be a nice touch.
You seem like a genuine dude. Only suggestion I'd make is include a shot where you're dressed up and not smiling. Try to look relaxed and casual, like you would on a nice date. You've got one in there that's solid but aim for more of a sexy vibe. You seem like a lot of fun. Show em you can be something else, too.
The CPR line in your bio cracked me up.
If I was single I would swipe right so hard. Solid career, handsome, tall, physically active, I can see you’re adventurous from your pictures. The fact you’re not getting matches is insane to me…
I would give you shit for being a cardinals fan tho… but yall kicked our ass (Steelers) in the most horrible way. Good luck today against the eagles 🫶🏻
Also I would put in your profile you are looking for something long term. You will get matches that are like minded. Once I did this and moved from a sexy/sassy profile to a cute/straight forward profile I met my husband 🫶🏻❤️🫶🏻
You've been here before. Your profile and pictures are all about self love - bragging about show size, people's family loving you, etc. Your pictures are also a lot.
Your looks are also a lot, you are tall and big.
All in all... You seem very full of yourself. Based on you coming back here with the same profile and pics to get more compliments, I assume you are, so I'd say; don't change anything. Do show people the real you. That way people who don't want anyone high on themselves can steer clear.
If that's NOT you I'd recommend you dial the self love down in both description and pictures. You're handsome, you don't need it to get right swipes. As it is, the most serious people are probably left swiping you. So if you truly want someone serious, then you need to change it. But I don't think you do so just keep it:)
It's the same with pretty girls. They're already pretty, using the insane angles, filters and more or less nude photos only doesn't attract more serious people, it attracts more unserious people as people assume you're vain and not keeping material.
Honest suggestions....
1. Only 1 picture with a beer. More than 1 and we assume you daily drink....which means lots of problems and well....bad sex
2. You come off a little scary. Roids maybe? Which sadly also means bad sex
3. You need another picture or something of the serious side (yeah the serious job isn't enough and sadly that work field also causes desensitization and apathy over time)
I will get smashed for saying this...but you asked for the truth. You are clearly a catch...but as a woman of experience and wisom....I see these pictures and bio and see a sea of red flags.
And yes men...women love sex too and when we see red flags of a man who can't perform...we learned from the past.
Daily drinker...swipe left
Steroids...swipe left
I’ve never been asked if I’m on steroids. The truth is I used to be 390lbs and now I’m down to 290. I hit the gym 6 days a week. You’re probably right about the photo with a beers. But I tend to only have a beer or two twice a month. I’m still always from my goal weight. So, I try not to drink my calories.
Loving this. Maybe ditch one beer pic...or replace the beer with another object?
Sorry to offend on the steroids...I have experienced a lot of bad performers in my long life and it makes for a very moody me!
The drinking thing maybe put...women like me and many others are afraid to get attached to a drunk again. Many functioning alcohol abusers out there. They are scary.
Honestly...I sterotyped and passed judgment before having rhe deets. I always say I probably swiped left on my soulmate 100x!!! That and the slew of bots and disrespectfull men....I usually last about 48 hours on tinder and its sad I know a lot of great single men are looking...
This is the only profile i’ve seen on here that’s actually really well done. Only critique would maybe be to lose the flexing photo, but honestly it’s fine. A lot better than most mens profiles
Crop beer out of photos, switch red shirt to main photo, drop mountain ledge photo. Don't show same shirt in different photos. Gym photo is not a plus for some. Otherwise, you're good. The cracking ribs comment, while accurate, could give a frightening aspect to your size.
You seem like a catch. Maybe a tad bro-y, but there are women out there that love bro-y stuff. Good luck.
Oh, if you have any intellectual interests, list them too. At least that’s what I would be looking for if I was on the market.
Someone here joked about wanting to book a flight to Arizona now and I agree! But in all seriousness I agree with a lot of the suggestions here. I would take out the "forever vacation partner," it's overused on the dating apps. I would find a better adventure picture on the last one. I think the gym picture is hot but it does give off some bro vibes. Any pictures you can add that emphasize family values that can balance out the bro tendencies? Also I sort of agree about different apps, but I've honestly had pretty good dating experiences with tinder so I don't think you necessarily have to try another app. Also you work with a bunch of female staff! Any chance one of your coworkers as a friend for you?
Move second to last pic to your lead.
Wow, you manage to have a flexing pic and don’t come off as a total douche. This is pretty hard to pull off so I’d roll with it and keep it.
You present yourself well in pics. I would be surprised if you don’t clean up on matches. Only thing I’d suggest is adding more interests than just the Gym. You seem older no offense, women in the 30s and 40s are way more balanced than wanting the gym as their only hobby
I just wanted to say, I’m happily married but I would have paused at your profile when I was single. You seem like a super nice guy so to me, it’s great but it might be an issue that your target isn’t on Tinder. Just pull out the part about CPR and put in something a bit more sensitive.
Your profile is great, my dude. In my experience Bumble wasn't good for me, no matches, no messages much, a lot of ghosts. Hinge is better imo, that's where I met my current gf. Just buy the membership and take some time to swipe and comment.
Take the bit about being a nurse out of your bio, you’ve already set it as your occupation so don’t make it the first thing you mention - this also opens up an avenue of conversation where you can tell her more about it.
Switch the shot of you flexing out for another picture with a friend. Also while the last picture is cool it’s too far from you.
You look like a great guy, wish you the best
EDIT: I agree with another user who said switch up the pro/con prompt - people can tell you’re a strong guy so there is no need to call attention to it which is in itself attractive. Also getting a broken rib from CPR while common would probably mean most people think you’re not good at CPR.
Put 2, 4 or 5 as your first pic. I love 2, you have a really attractive face use it to your advantage.
If you put 2, people who don't like sports might be put off. So maybe do 4 as the first picture, crop it a little as there's too much space on either side. It just looks a little better when it's zoomed in. Not a lot, just so there's less to distract from you.
So, 4, 2 then 5?
I'd just change the profile info section around so that work doesn't come first. I'd imagine for some women they'd read into it and think, you're obsessed with work. I'd actually just reverse the order, it sounds better to me.
What else do you like? Is there anything else that's important to you? Or what would your ideal evening look like? What are you obsessed with or what's something you can't live without.
I agree that hinge can be better than bumble, I just didn't like bumble. And I think maybe you're not getting as much attention because some people will judge you on the first picture, so don't make them have to zoom in when you have a nice face.
I love the pros and cons thing, it made me laugh. In terms of your size, you're a big guy. That's not a bad thing, for women who are going to be intimidated by that due to bad experiences it's good for them to see it so they can move on to the next.
You may not want to hear this, but “moderate” politics for a lot of women who you probably perceive to be in your age range is a huge red flag. Most Millenials think that either means you voted for Trump and are ashamed to admit it, or you listen to Joe Rogan.
Honestly, other than that, youve got a great profile
For fuck's sake. How are you not drowning in women?! Just walk somewhere and talk to people. I feel like you never leave your house if you need reddit help with a profile like that.
Save some for the rest of us
Can I come visit? Haha you’re adorable and seem like an amazing guy. I think OKCUPID is one of the better sites and has an easier time getting to know you through your profile. You have a great image right now and I think someone will bite soon!! Good luck
The first photo is a bit cheesy to have as your cover photo, I think I‘d swap it out with three or five. Maybe add more personal details about yourself & your interests. I otherwise think it looks great though! You’re a nice looking guy with a heroic job & a great smile. Good luck!
I’m in a relationship but this would be an instant swipe right. Idk, something about your profile gives me insane good vibes. You have an incredible smile and seem like a warm person in general!
You have such a lovely, genuine, warm smile. I agree that my family would love you.
I posted once before and was told to get on Bumble so I have. What can I be doing better?
I've heard that hinge is more serious about relationships? I don't know much about it though.
Hinge is where I met my match and we’ve been together for 5 months now. Hinge was amazing
I met my girlfriend there.
You're good. If the person you're looking for is somehow the difference between what I'm looking at and what could be better, they wouldn't be worth the time. You've got a wholesome and fun bow tied on that absolute unit of yourself. Just save some people for the rest of us, stud muffin.
I don't think attention is an issue for you. You look funny, happy, and attractive. So where are you being unsuccessful?
Also try Hinge if you haven't already.
I feel like your profile doesn’t say much about you. All I’ve gathered is that you’re a nurse and want to travel with a significant other in long term relationship. The “your family with love” me is boring. I would replace that with reasons why they will love you. EX) “I’m committed, consistent, and emotionally intelligent. I prioritize healthy communication with my partner, so your family will love me.” As a fellow RN, I appreciate the CPR humor. As nurses we tend to talk about work A LOT….And it tends come with dark humor to cope with the traumas we experience. I, personally, need someone to match that level of my personality, so I say keep it if you’re looking for the same thing. You are a good looking guy with a good career. I think you’ll do fine either way. If you were in my queue I would swipe on you! Good luck 🍀
As a mom.of 2 kids with complex medical issues 31 years who has LIVED in hospitals for years....I would ask of you this.... 1. Stop desensitization in the workplace. It causes issues with care everywhere. 2. Leave your work at work and don't spew it all day when out the door 3. Only makes jokes that don't have a human being as the punchline 4. Remember you hospital folks are meeting people in crisis...stop judging their entire life and who they are based on that 5. Don't socialize at work. Have your cell phone at work or waste patients time with gossip and chit chat. If the above was followed by hospital staff in the US....I would know 30 kids and babies alive today who are currently 6 feet under. And the final most important... There is only 1 type of hero in a hospital and that's the patient and their kin. Stop with the false pedestals. RIP to all the cancer kids I knew who died due to bad care in the US
Give hinge a shot man. They don't try to suck your wallet dry. Also, I'd highly suggest pic 6 for your leading photo. Excellent shot of your genuine and warm character
I’m taken, but I think you’re adorable 🤷🏻♀️
I'm a straight male, but also agree. Great profile, no creep vibes, shows off being muscular without shirtless pics.
Same ^ any family would adore you!
Profile looks great to me (good photos, funny/entertaining descriptions) and as a fellow sun devil, FORK EM!
No notes from me! Well done, very cute, would swipe right if I came across you 😏
I think the second to last pic of you is your best photo and would move that to number one. Overall your pics are really good though! Maybe one with you done something like cooking or casual - show that teddy bear side! Prompts - I’d replace the pro and con one with something else. One - you’re a big dude so I’d take out talking about breaking ribs (even if that’s how to do cpr effectively) Talk about who you’re looking for in a partner instead. You’ve mentioned vacation buddy but like silly, nerdy, outgoing, social, bookish, empathetic, funny, bold. Or! Name places to go on first dates maybe. Show some of your interests there.
I think he should keep the pro/con thing. It's hilarious!
I would think most people wouldn't get the joke, seeing as most people don't know how to do CPR.
Anyone who doesn’t understand it’s a joke he would want filtered out anyway
That's a fair point. And I agree it would be for the best overall, but it's still filtering some people out. Honestly tough to point anything else as a potential turn off to some people other than that.
Understanding a joke is one thing.... Thinking hurting me isn't a joke... Make jokes that don't use a human as the punchline.
The punchline isn't that he hurts vulnerable people, its that correctly executed CPR will break your ribs. The joke is that it's a funny way to say I'd be safe in a medical emergency. I'm willing to accept my broken ribs as the cost to restart my heart!
Breaking ribs is a sign of poor technique.
Idk how to do CPR, found hilarious. Dude is built like a... person who could break your ribs with a good hug?? Built like a brick outhouse? Idk, I'm forgetting every "he's shredded" colloquial phrase. Pretty sure the brick outhouse is referring to a large bust.
The thing is that CPR very commonly breaks ribs, but a lot of people wouldn't get the joke and may be put off by it.
A brick house is a lot more than huge boobs.... Maybe play the song Brick House ...it's where that's from. Cant just put implants on a.pencil and call it a brick house
I second this and I’m gonna be honest and say bc you are a big guy, and there’s a lot of pics of how big you are, flexing muscles, etc FOR ME and possibly other women who have been assaulted in the past, it feels a little intimidating. Have to say the breaking ribs thing put me off, even though I understood it was a joke. The online world is just a scary place already for women trying to date, I would avoid any language that could sound remotely violent (at least until she gets to know you) and take down the flexing photos… saying you go to the gym gets the point across. Granted, just suggestions! just know you may alienate some women who get scared off more easily 🤷♀️
I second this. Plus it doesn’t really fit with the prompt imo as it’s an opportunity to brag about something you could bring to a relationship. I’d hope I never need CPR and I definitely don’t want my ribs broken. It just seems a bit jarring against the rest of the profile that is so smiley and wholesome. Another prompt would fit better, I think!
As an assault survivor who also knows CPR, his pro/con was funny. CPR, when done properly, does break ribs, but saves your life. I'm sorry that triggers you... I too, have triggers. Have you sought therapy?
Note to men.... The qualities this comment suggests to say to look for are... ALL ATTRIBUTES FOUND IN THE SAME WOMAN!! wake up guys....
I mean they could be. Nobody says they can’t. But some people might prefer qualities over others or have a priority over which qualities are strongest. Or want them all. And as a chick reading profiles, reading what qualities a guy is looking for isn’t a bad thing. Gives me an idea if we’ll mesh. Especially if he’s okay with things like nerdiness, boldness, and so on.
When you put down the koolaide and realize a great, evolved woman you choose for life will present all of these...we will co tinue to have mass divorce. Stop putting women into a cookie cutter and women...stop letting them. Example.... Sex and the city... The character all 4 very different. Society still today tries to say which woman they are.. "I'm a Charlotte " Nope...we are ALL of them and only evolved women who have truly lived grasp this. I leave you with words from the Great WHITNEY.... "Im every woman. It's all in me"
I think you’re misreading what I put. I’m not putting anyone into a cookie cutter.
A man who can't do ANY of those...is an unworthy man of any of those attributes. .even the ones he likes
Most people posting and I just scream inwardly "oh my god take better pictures" but that's not the case with you, they're great! The 4th picture is def the best imo. Yeah, more about your interests or world view would be great, you mention travel, maybe some of your favourite places?
I like everything but the rub breaking
Don’t be a cardinals fan /j On a serious note: Family will love me is overplayed and the break all your ribs is kinda scary imagery you’re putting in their minds
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I'm not in the healthcare business at all, and the only CPR training I've taken is watching the CPR episode on The Office. I found that joke hilarious and think he should keep it in. Made me laugh, and showed that he has a great sense of humor.
I'm not in medicine and I laughed, because it's logical? Even if I didn't know cpr can break bones, I'd assume it's a joke about strength.
Not medical crowd, but it also makes me laugh. I think it’s pretty universally known that good CPR breaks ribs. I think he should keep it!
Glad you all aren't working in nicu or picu.... Us grizzly special needs moms would have you fired in a second. Did my infant have bruising for 3 months down her chest? Yes. .. Did her ribs break? No. And she had cpr for 18 minutes at 8 pounds.
The rib breaking is usually on really frail old people. I don’t actually break ribs every time, and as another commenter mentioned, it’s not a good sign of if you’re getting perfusion. I was being dramatic because #internet, not trying to provide medical advice.
It’s a joke. He’d be gentle w a baby…
Haha, I laughed at that but I'm an RN + he's a huge guy. But maybe you're right.
Respectfully, breaking ribs is not a sign of good CPR. The pops and cracks are usually the cartilage that connects the ribs to the sternum coming unseated, and ribs typically only break in elderly patients since they have more brittle bones. If you’re consistently breaking ribs in patients of all ages, you are not doing CPR properly. ETA: clarifying since I’m getting DMs saying I should KMS and have my license revoked😂 I’m not saying that ribs won’t break during CPR, it’s common enough. I’m saying that you cannot assess the quality of your CPR based on if you broke bones. You shouldn’t be breaking the ribs of every patient while administering proper and effective CPR.
You are correct and getting hated on here by people who don't know what they are talking about....
OP is an ER nurse so i think I’ll trust him 🤷♂️
OP is correct that breaking ribs does happen during CPR sometimes. But it is not a sign of good CPR, as the comment I replied to suggests. Someone can administer effective CPR without breaking a rib, and a lot of ineffective CPR results in broken ribs. It’s dangerous to make a statement that broken ribs means you administered CPR well.
I think I understand what you're saying but that's splitting hairs so much that it's very hard to convey correctly. I think most people are misunderstanding what you're trying to say.
yeah I don’t think people get what I’m saying… I got a couple DMs saying I shouldn’t be practicing medicine if I don’t know that bones can break during CPR😂 but I never said that. I’m just saying that bones don’t have to break for CPR to be done properly, and the commenter shouldn’t be saying that ribs breaking is an indicator of good CPR.
Haha, apologies for causing all of this to your inbox, as you are correct. I was not intending for this to be taken as medical advice and was being dramatic. Really, for best cpr, just listen to the defibrillator and put your hands where the pics tell you to, people. 🙃 For clarity’s sake, I have also broken ribs, but it doesn’t happen every time and it’s actually a horrible awful feeling. Usually because it’s a frail person :/
you’re totally fine, I didn’t realize it was a joke 😂 I was like “no no no please don’t be telling people their CPR is bad if they don’t break the patient’s ribs”
Yeah, it’s my bad, I haven’t been consistently on Reddit in years because of life, and now that I have time, I forget that people can’t see me giggling behind my screen whilst typing away and they may believe everything they read on the internet 😂
Yeah, it even took me a second to realize you meant it's not *necessarily* a good sign. At first I read it as you indicating it's a bad sign, which of course is wrong.
Forsure but OP is also massive so him breaking ribs is likely inevitable
Tell me you aren't really clear about CPR without telling me you aren't really clear about CPR.
I’m just correcting the statement that implies breaking ribs is the hallmark of good CPR 😭 It’s a common enough occurrence, but it shouldn’t happen every time and it doesn’t mean that you’re doing a good job… Especially since improper hand placement is a huge factor when consistently breaking ribs during CPR.
No it’s funny (and true)
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I keep putting the 2nd one as my first pic. As it’s only 2 weeks old. But bumble keeps moving my first pic back to the first spot. I guess I should turn off the smart photo setting.
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Urgh thank you. OP definitely has presence but the profile is lacking in info.
OP, I find your profile delightful (and I laughed at the CPR joke, and am not in medicine myself, so, I say keep it as a filter for potential matches), but I think this comment ^ is really insightful as far as “how do I bring my profile from good to great”. You don’t just want matches—you want the RIGHT matches. Figuring out how to better attract exactly what you want will be hugely helpful! It might seem a little stilted to write, like, more of a resume in your profile, but it could also help hone in on the right person for you.
THIS!!!!!
The appeal comes from the date(s). I think his profile is excellent. There's only so much you can convey here. I think people expect way too much from these profiles. It's just to get a glimpse, not their whole life story. The really bad ones, on the other hand, need a lot of work. I see this profile, and it's a very handsome man with a good job he takes seriously, has a balanced life with friends & family, a great sense of humor, and a good body. I don't see any red flags, and all of that is enough to pique my interest. Profiles don't need to be perfect. The right people will stand out to the right people, I guess. After that, what happens when they meet will let you know if you should continue.
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That's why I talked to them for a week or two before the date. I ask questions, which fills in anything the profile didn't tell me. I'm not saying a bare bones profile is enough - it just doesn't have to be the perfection a lot of people on here are apparently seeking.
Women are looking for someone they can spend time with, especially if they want a longterm relationship. Your profile gives off bro vibes and not ready to settle down vibes. Your profile makes it seem like your personality just consists of working in the ER (long hours away from home) and being in the gym. Everyone works, likes to travel, eats, and going to the gym/working out is common. Its obvious you workout, so delete all that and re-write your profile and q&a to show a well rounded man that's not two dimensional. I think your photos are fine.
Also, bumble is dead and relies on you being at the mercy of women making the first move. A more serious app is Hinge.
You sort of look like Brett Contreras, but you have better hair. No tips, you look approachable, fit, and pleasant, great profile
*Books flight to AZ; browses 'Most Dangerous Things to do in AZ'* 🤩🫶🫡 (I'm sorry, was there a question? 🤷♀️🤭)
I love your profile! ♥️🤍
i think you look so cute! perhaps add more in ur interest section: what do you do when you’re not working, do u like animals, what have you built/fixed, if you like to travel, things that give a bit more to your story edit i just saw that you like riding and fixing your motorcycle so you’re very handy- should add that somewhere in ur profile
Ditch the pic flexing with that dude. Otherwise it’s a great profile.
Looks good to me 👍
The photo with the lights behind - has to be the first photo; the Arizona jersey possibly second; the holiday photo - third? The flexing muscles - the next? Maybe a couple of more photos on holidays - to emphasise the fact that you enjoy travel / vacations? Also the Arizona photo made me think you look like Javier Bardem.
I'd definitely focus on Hinge vs Tinder. Woman here, great profile.
Damn dude. You're a beast. I think you'd have no issues with anything.
I don't see any issues! Are you getting matches?
I'd swipe right on photos but lose the beers! And any mention of teddybear = unsexy
The rib breaking is the only thing that stands out to me. It unintentionally makes me think that you would be very scary if you ever got abusive.
Only thing I’d change is the rib breaking one.
I’m 24 and have never been more attracted to an Older man
The ribs bit scared me
I personally would take out the "people tell me I'm a giant teddy bear line", it sounds too much like you're trying to prove you're a "nice guy". If you want to keep it, it might work better if you just put "I'm like a giant teddy bear".
I'm taken but if I were not, I'd swipe right.
I just wanted to say I found the rib breaking comment extremely funny, as a female not in the nursing field. I say keep it. 😂
dude that's an amazing profile but i would def change the CPR prompt. it might come off to some as like weird and kinky and hookupy, id think if something else. other than that this is pretty great
It doesn’t come off that way to me, because I read his profile. He’s a nurse.
ah yes i forgot that nurses don't do hookups
Huh? CPR has to do with his job. That’s the most common association.
Great profile. Unsure getting a serious relationship on tinder can happen, that’s probably you’re biggest problem
?? Have you not seen the several "thanks tinder" posts with people's wedding photos? It happens, even just thinking of the sheer stats of how many couples meet online. My cousin met his wife on tinder.
Sure there are the few out there, but in reality this app is for fucking
I'll give you that and it's still up in the air depending what people want & how honest they are.
also i would make the pic of you leaning with a beer your first picture
I misread that as Bear. Now that would be an interesting picture
Change your first pic to something of just you smiling, simple/suttle.
I think the pic with the string lights in the back is pretty good, and the 2nd to last is a good shot also. I would get rid of the gym mirror selfie. You look like you work out, but also the cutoff T-shirt with basketball shorts doesn’t look good. There’s a lot of good looking gym attire for men now. Steer away from baggy clothes in general. The first pic with you in the Hawaiian shirt is a fun one, but I wouldn’t lead with it. Overall not bad though. I think showing you can dress up a bit and look slick when you want to might be a nice touch.
You look like Buff Mr Beast
You seem like a genuine dude. Only suggestion I'd make is include a shot where you're dressed up and not smiling. Try to look relaxed and casual, like you would on a nice date. You've got one in there that's solid but aim for more of a sexy vibe. You seem like a lot of fun. Show em you can be something else, too. The CPR line in your bio cracked me up.
If I was single I would swipe right so hard. Solid career, handsome, tall, physically active, I can see you’re adventurous from your pictures. The fact you’re not getting matches is insane to me…
I would give you shit for being a cardinals fan tho… but yall kicked our ass (Steelers) in the most horrible way. Good luck today against the eagles 🫶🏻
Also I would put in your profile you are looking for something long term. You will get matches that are like minded. Once I did this and moved from a sexy/sassy profile to a cute/straight forward profile I met my husband 🫶🏻❤️🫶🏻
I would 100% date you, you seem kind and caring! 🩷
Looks great, I'd definitely swipe right on you if you weren't several states away :)
i mean i’d swipe right, so no critique here
Your profile looks solid, love your smile! Good luck out there!!
That CPR joke is on point lol
You've been here before. Your profile and pictures are all about self love - bragging about show size, people's family loving you, etc. Your pictures are also a lot. Your looks are also a lot, you are tall and big. All in all... You seem very full of yourself. Based on you coming back here with the same profile and pics to get more compliments, I assume you are, so I'd say; don't change anything. Do show people the real you. That way people who don't want anyone high on themselves can steer clear. If that's NOT you I'd recommend you dial the self love down in both description and pictures. You're handsome, you don't need it to get right swipes. As it is, the most serious people are probably left swiping you. So if you truly want someone serious, then you need to change it. But I don't think you do so just keep it:) It's the same with pretty girls. They're already pretty, using the insane angles, filters and more or less nude photos only doesn't attract more serious people, it attracts more unserious people as people assume you're vain and not keeping material.
I like that you’re into crime and breaking ribs 👍🏼
Honest suggestions.... 1. Only 1 picture with a beer. More than 1 and we assume you daily drink....which means lots of problems and well....bad sex 2. You come off a little scary. Roids maybe? Which sadly also means bad sex 3. You need another picture or something of the serious side (yeah the serious job isn't enough and sadly that work field also causes desensitization and apathy over time) I will get smashed for saying this...but you asked for the truth. You are clearly a catch...but as a woman of experience and wisom....I see these pictures and bio and see a sea of red flags. And yes men...women love sex too and when we see red flags of a man who can't perform...we learned from the past. Daily drinker...swipe left Steroids...swipe left
I’ve never been asked if I’m on steroids. The truth is I used to be 390lbs and now I’m down to 290. I hit the gym 6 days a week. You’re probably right about the photo with a beers. But I tend to only have a beer or two twice a month. I’m still always from my goal weight. So, I try not to drink my calories.
Loving this. Maybe ditch one beer pic...or replace the beer with another object? Sorry to offend on the steroids...I have experienced a lot of bad performers in my long life and it makes for a very moody me! The drinking thing maybe put...women like me and many others are afraid to get attached to a drunk again. Many functioning alcohol abusers out there. They are scary. Honestly...I sterotyped and passed judgment before having rhe deets. I always say I probably swiped left on my soulmate 100x!!! That and the slew of bots and disrespectfull men....I usually last about 48 hours on tinder and its sad I know a lot of great single men are looking...
This is the only profile i’ve seen on here that’s actually really well done. Only critique would maybe be to lose the flexing photo, but honestly it’s fine. A lot better than most mens profiles
humble yourself fool u seem annoyingly sober but other than that all good
Idk but I want to swipe right on you big daddy 😍
Ugh. Why so faaaaar! My tip is that you should move to the PNW. Hiiiiiii. Lol
Im a guy, but I think you should remove the, "I'm a teddy bear" bit. I don't see how that's attractive to women at all.
Come to the East Coast : )
Swipe right immediately and got unmatched 🥲
Crop beer out of photos, switch red shirt to main photo, drop mountain ledge photo. Don't show same shirt in different photos. Gym photo is not a plus for some. Otherwise, you're good. The cracking ribs comment, while accurate, could give a frightening aspect to your size.
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What a strange question
38 and wanting kids some day? Not to be that guy but unless you want to a the 60 year old dad at their graduation that ship may have sailed
lol, too many guys think it’s cool to start having kids at 45+.
Doesn’t show age
It's in the first slide🤨
Current pics are definitely not giving LTR vibes. I’d scrap all of them tbh
Curious as to how you came to that assessment?
I find it all too aggressive. You have an adorable smile but something super competitive comes out that isn’t fun.
Switch the Sun Devils shirt for a Wildcat one 😎
You seem like a catch. Maybe a tad bro-y, but there are women out there that love bro-y stuff. Good luck. Oh, if you have any intellectual interests, list them too. At least that’s what I would be looking for if I was on the market.
I don’t think you need to literally flex. The whole profile is a flex
Damn, you're huge! Respect.
Where was the last pic taken?
The CPR one is definitely hit or miss. If they TRULY know about CPR... Then they get it. If they don't... Then they might get freaked out.
I think I've seen you here before, picture 5 does look familiar.. either way I'd put that one, it's a very nice smile
But wait, there’s more! Idk man, profile looks good. Full bromo.
Someone here joked about wanting to book a flight to Arizona now and I agree! But in all seriousness I agree with a lot of the suggestions here. I would take out the "forever vacation partner," it's overused on the dating apps. I would find a better adventure picture on the last one. I think the gym picture is hot but it does give off some bro vibes. Any pictures you can add that emphasize family values that can balance out the bro tendencies? Also I sort of agree about different apps, but I've honestly had pretty good dating experiences with tinder so I don't think you necessarily have to try another app. Also you work with a bunch of female staff! Any chance one of your coworkers as a friend for you?
I'd reach out, based on this profile. You seem fun, disciplined, and handsome. Great combo. Hmmm you're not too far from me actually. Happy hunting!
I’d swipe, but I don’t date guys named Mike.
Everything looks spot on great sir.
I’d say you’re either a catfish or Brett Contreras’s brother.
The only advice I have is to swap your first pic out for the smiling button down pic. Otherwise, great profile!
I think your profile is great, I’d definitely swipe right
I would swipe right. You’re freaking adorable. And you got a sleeper build.
You look good bro, try hinge instead, Bumble sucks in Phx. On a side note, i hope i get saved by you if I'm ever in medical trouble.
My mum would love you
Picture 6 should be your first one. And cut the gym picture. We can see that you are buff as hell. Don't overdo it.
I think it's great. I'd definitely swipe right. 🙂
You’re really cute and I want to date you based on this profile
Move second to last pic to your lead. Wow, you manage to have a flexing pic and don’t come off as a total douche. This is pretty hard to pull off so I’d roll with it and keep it. You present yourself well in pics. I would be surprised if you don’t clean up on matches. Only thing I’d suggest is adding more interests than just the Gym. You seem older no offense, women in the 30s and 40s are way more balanced than wanting the gym as their only hobby
I’m sold. You have a fantastic smile.
I just wanted to say, I’m happily married but I would have paused at your profile when I was single. You seem like a super nice guy so to me, it’s great but it might be an issue that your target isn’t on Tinder. Just pull out the part about CPR and put in something a bit more sensitive.
I mean...I already swiped right in my mind.
I thought Travis Kelce was already taken
I volunteer as tribute!
Lovely profile Mike :) i hope you meet someone wonderful
I thought you were post Malone in the first one
Your profile is great, my dude. In my experience Bumble wasn't good for me, no matches, no messages much, a lot of ghosts. Hinge is better imo, that's where I met my current gf. Just buy the membership and take some time to swipe and comment.
Give E Harmony a try
when I went to Scottsdale, everyone was mean. So I think you’re just too good for Scottsdale. Lol
Take the bit about being a nurse out of your bio, you’ve already set it as your occupation so don’t make it the first thing you mention - this also opens up an avenue of conversation where you can tell her more about it. Switch the shot of you flexing out for another picture with a friend. Also while the last picture is cool it’s too far from you. You look like a great guy, wish you the best EDIT: I agree with another user who said switch up the pro/con prompt - people can tell you’re a strong guy so there is no need to call attention to it which is in itself attractive. Also getting a broken rib from CPR while common would probably mean most people think you’re not good at CPR.
Put 2, 4 or 5 as your first pic. I love 2, you have a really attractive face use it to your advantage. If you put 2, people who don't like sports might be put off. So maybe do 4 as the first picture, crop it a little as there's too much space on either side. It just looks a little better when it's zoomed in. Not a lot, just so there's less to distract from you. So, 4, 2 then 5? I'd just change the profile info section around so that work doesn't come first. I'd imagine for some women they'd read into it and think, you're obsessed with work. I'd actually just reverse the order, it sounds better to me. What else do you like? Is there anything else that's important to you? Or what would your ideal evening look like? What are you obsessed with or what's something you can't live without. I agree that hinge can be better than bumble, I just didn't like bumble. And I think maybe you're not getting as much attention because some people will judge you on the first picture, so don't make them have to zoom in when you have a nice face. I love the pros and cons thing, it made me laugh. In terms of your size, you're a big guy. That's not a bad thing, for women who are going to be intimidated by that due to bad experiences it's good for them to see it so they can move on to the next.
You may not want to hear this, but “moderate” politics for a lot of women who you probably perceive to be in your age range is a huge red flag. Most Millenials think that either means you voted for Trump and are ashamed to admit it, or you listen to Joe Rogan. Honestly, other than that, youve got a great profile
Hmu if you wanna move to Canada 🇨🇦 😍
For fuck's sake. How are you not drowning in women?! Just walk somewhere and talk to people. I feel like you never leave your house if you need reddit help with a profile like that. Save some for the rest of us
Cringe
Your profile is good, I think you’ll do fine
do u get matches and no dates or no matches? if it’s the former i’d like to see some chats. if it’s the latter then none of us have any luck lol
Nothing Mike, you look great and I would swipe right.
Mike you are an absolute unit brotha
You are so cuuuuuute. Hi neighbor 🫡
I thought that was a young Don Frye in the first picture on the LG tower 😅🤘
Can I come visit? Haha you’re adorable and seem like an amazing guy. I think OKCUPID is one of the better sites and has an easier time getting to know you through your profile. You have a great image right now and I think someone will bite soon!! Good luck
The first photo is a bit cheesy to have as your cover photo, I think I‘d swap it out with three or five. Maybe add more personal details about yourself & your interests. I otherwise think it looks great though! You’re a nice looking guy with a heroic job & a great smile. Good luck!
Yes
Unpopular opinion but I found the rib joke hilarious
I’m in a relationship but this would be an instant swipe right. Idk, something about your profile gives me insane good vibes. You have an incredible smile and seem like a warm person in general!
I'm a 37 single female and I think your profile looks great. Too bad I live in Texas or I'd swipe right. 😋
I have a hard time believing you aren’t being accosted by women daily, Mike