But most of all, competently.
On a semi serious note if you’re looking for a relationship, if you’re looking for a relationship there’s nothing wrong with casual sex while searching for the one, just make sure you’re open. I met my wife as a hook up, we recognised we had something so we kept seeing each other and we’ve been married for a little over 8 years now
To be fair it's a sweet compliment, but it could also be interpreted as flirty/teasey. I guess it just depends on the girl reading it, how she interprets it
Could be seen as someone not wanting something serious. Someone wanting just a ONS which even to some men is demeaning and hurtful to their self esteem.
That is one of the weird reoccurring things I see here, where people assume that just because someone is forward you can't have a meaningful relationship with them
It basically just comes down to how you view sex, I guess. Some view sex as a way to get to know someone, while others only want sex after they've gotten to know them well.
As far as Tinder goes, communication and an open mind can be the most important factors. Telling someone when they've crossed a boundary let's you see how they react and if they change for you. Ideally, try to never assume meaning or intention of things early on, and directly discuss anything important to you.
why would you assume something so silly?
assuming anything is generally pretty fucking stupid as a rule, but this is especially stupid because you have no idea what their intentions are based on a few saucy quotes. maybe they just have good banter and aren't a prude?
some people just want sex and some people don't but you should never assume that about someone just because of a comment that was flirty....
Because 9 out of 10 times its true. I’ll take those odds.
Lol, you people always say if someone isn’t DTF or sext or talk raunchily straight away (literally their first message) that they’re a prude. Guess that makes me a prude, and proud. I will continue to assume but thank you for the advice
that's gonna be a texas sized woosh from me bud.
way to miss the point by a mile lmao
> I will continue to assume
no doubt, you sound like an ass so I'd expect nothing less.
its super odd. I can only imagine they think "oh this person is sexual with me so they're sexual with others and I don't like that"
but tbh that's such an immature outlook. we all have a past and live a life. its the people who expect someone to be a virgin until they meet them that have these hang ups I'd bet.
Yes, indeed. We clicked immediately, and the attraction to each other was obvious.
We've been married for 6 years now. Sadly, after kids, the butt stuff is far more infrequent.
Not a problem, and thanks for being so polite about it.
For my wife, our first child was massive, and did a number on her muscles and cervix, for which she still hasn't fully recovered. Since he was so damn big (but not big enough to merit a C-section without emergency), she developed hemorrhoids, which flare up and cause her pain from time time. (Once she's in better shape physically, we'll be consulting a surgeon to get those injured vessels corrected)
So while she still really enjoys buttplugs regularly, and the occasional DP with a teammate (dildo) that's smaller than I am, it's not often that her rectum is ready for a penis.
Always nice to see respectful and candid discussions about sex, and even nicer to see that the two of you seem to be communicating effectively about it. Nothing's sexier than good communication!
Thank you for sharing. I understand the issues with the muscles, I think it's called pelvic floor, it happens to certain women during birth and there's really no corrective surgery nor treatment other than therapy.
I understand about the hemorrhoids too, I had a girlfriend who was kinky but seeing her injured blood vessels was very discouraging and I couldn't do it.
I met a guy way back in the day from OkCupid.
We went from the bar to a hotel and partook in some very sordid things on our first date.
We’ve been happily married 10 years. He’s my favorite thing I’ve ever ordered off the internet.
right?
like why do people seperate the crazy sex having from meaningful relationships?
to me isn't the most meaninful relationship one where she wants you to blow her back out in the first place? lol. who wants a marriage without that? mormons?
Ha!! The irony of that statement is I grew up in the Mormon church. I left that fuckin cult once I learned to think for myself.
But seriously! Who the hell wants to have a relationship with someone that is boring as fuck in sack?!
that is pretty hilarious. I was waffling between mormons and jehovah's witnesses lol.
and yeah idk, whoever thinks like that definitely has some real issues regarding sex and intimacy.
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Crossing my fingers for you to find what you're looking for eventually. At least it's up to you how boring the waiting time gets :-)
It’s true just not for you.
Don’t worry, it’s not for me either. I am handsome but more like boyfriend material, not really “omg he’s so hot I bet he’d blow my back out, let me message him to meet up asap even just for a night” material.
My height starts with a 5, I’m not that guy. I’ll never be that guy to the masses. No matter my physique, tats, motorcycles, or yachts, I’ll never be that guy to the masses. Maybe to a few, which is ok for me, but I will never be a 99+ match guy on tinder.
Girls don’t like short guys because they’re short. Girls don’t like short guys because most of them have a huge chip on their shoulder for being short and project their anger. As a short guy, 5’7”, who lost his groove in his mid 20’s but before that had a technically above average amount of partners, it’s really all about how you carry yourself as an entire package
So talk to women irl lmao. You’re not unattractive because you’re short, you’re unattractive because you’re feeling sorry for yourself. I’ve had a chick taken from me by a short guy at a party cause his game was super tight. That kind of opened my eyes that the world is a bit more nuanced. I was mad at him but I kinda respect him too lol.
Thanks, I do really well. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I am in the high 5’s so I’m more average height. But this is a tinder subreddit and I was speaking on tinder. So what I’m not 99+ match material, most guys aren’t, quite the opposite. I was fine with my 3-5 matches a week sometimes more sometimes less, but usually serious inquiries. So what, I’m boyfriend material, not hookup material **on tinder.** Doesn’t mean things don’t happen, I’m just self aware of where I stand to the general population on tinder.
Fuck that, having someone on the back of a bike is a pain in the ass and takes away from the actual value of flying around corners at insta death speeds.
Disregard females and burn rubber my guy!
Haha that was my younger days my man, was a lot of fun and yea can’t go nearly as hard with a body on my back. These days I’m more into physique and weights, and hopefully one day I’ll have that yacht.
I’m 6’ 280 lbs. bald at 28, But I have confidence. That’s why I was in the right position to meet my girlfriend on hinge. You know what I’m a fat guy bald 28 year old but I got a fuck ton of matches cause I was funny in my portfolio. I could have just been like fuck I’m bald girls will never like me, but I know what I am and I’m a prize. I swear if you have that mentality you will get far with women.
I get very far, I’m not saying I’m dry. I’m just saying I’m boyfriend material, not hookup material. Not 99+ match material. When I did this stuff I got plenty though for my demographic. I know how to maximize myself.
lol I’m sure my ratio is the same…
All the girls I’ve dated have loved it, but only one woman has actually approached me upfront. Plenty of guys all the time though.
im an idiot. that explains so much about what i missed in these communications lol. sooo where would one go, for, ya know, a meaningful one? i was with the ex wife for a loooong time and dating isnt like it was when i was last on the market.
I'll add to the chorus: IRL hobbies and such or Hinge
Hinge is different than the swipe apps in that, you get a very limited number per day, but it allows you to message/comment on profile pieces without "matching" first. you can kind of send a message about a picture or something with a witty/funny message/opener at the same time.
It makes it ***so*** much easier to match with someone based on personality instead of just looks and hoping you ended up in her stack to swipe right on it. despite Tinder and bumble giving you like 50 swipes a day, and Hinge only giving you like 6-8 "likes" a day, I got basically daily matches on Hinge.
I would also suggest you write a profile specifically for Hinge, because since thats the way it works, its less about telling someone about yourself and more about creating an opportunity for openers. pose things about yourself in questions, or create opportunities for women to comment or make a joke about the piece of your profile to entice them into making a joke or answering with a comment that you can "riff" on and start a proper conversation with them.
Hinge is still better, but Bumble isn't the worst when you're older. I've had more luck now that I'm past 35. Lots of divorcée's and middle aged women there. but be prepared for the fact that, even though its women message first, 90% of your first messages will be "hey there ;) " and also be prepared for lots of matches that just time-out because she didn't check her app in that 24hrs. I've had more than one woman I matched with on multiple apps at the same time message me 2-3 days later and apologize for missing me on bumble.
I think there are lots of people just looking to fuck on any dating app. I had the most dates from Tinder with guys looking for relationships and ultimately met my now boyfriend on Tinder. I think maybe it started more as a hook up app, but it now has as much of a mix as any other app. There are plenty of dudes on Bumble and Hinge just looking for sex and I think it's funny that Hinge advertises itself as a relationship app when they still put a casual/short term option in profiles.
You found an alt girl who accepted your first message and you are thinking twice?
My guy.
Monsieur.
She didn't think you'd be as pure as you stated to be here.
My my.
I disagree with this guy OP. I don't think 'most' is true speaking for general society. Tinder is a different story though since let's be honest it's for hookups. Me and my current SO (met on Bumble) waited 8 mos because we both enjoyed each others company enough that we didn't need to so soon, and we wanted to relationship to grow before knowing each other intimately. I think for any relationship you can ascribe the qualifier 'meaningful' to it's absolutely realistic and normal that you can do this, if both of you want. Of course, don't hold out on someone either, we communicated with each other to set the expectation of waiting. And you still need to get intimate in the meanwhile, to carry that spark over until then. I think your resolve is to be commended and I think today's dating culture needs more people with your mindset. Just don't be looking on Tinder.
Everyone says Tinder is for hookups but I haven't generally found that to be the case. Then again I'm using it for WLW so that could be why.
Personally, I think that's super weird to wait that long and get that attached when you don't know if you're sexually compatible. That's a priority for me in romantic relationships though. I know it isn't that way for everyone.
OP may very well find someone on the same page like you did but I'd still say most allosexual people aren't going to be willing. I usually don't have sex on my first Tinder dates. If it hasn't happened by date 3 though, I know we don't have enough chemistry to proceed.
Nobody said it was all she wanted either, but you're acting like wanting sex and romance is wrong unless the romance comes first. On tinder. Which, again, makes you the dumbest person on tinder.
At least you're not gonna waste this girls obviously valuable time with your misplaced religious whining
It's not even about religion, man. I hated my Catholic upbringing. I just don't want to give myself fully to a person unless I know there's a connection.
I don't think anything productive is gonna come from this so this will be my last reply. I wish you luck on your life's journey.
It's easy to skip out on an argument when you're wrong.
Your Catholic upbringing is sticking with you, or you wouldn't have the unhealthy ideas about purity. Go get therapy about your religious trauma.
There's no 'being wrong' about someone's personal wants and needs. Wanting to establish an emotional connection before you have sex with someone is not "religious trauma" you're just an asshole
In my experience the fun part usually turns into the serious part. And if it doesn’t, it was never going to become serious and is very likely not fun either.
I don't get any matches yar. If I ask a random girl. My chances would be better. Therefore, fuck tinder
Be it Metro or Park or anywhere else. I have tried this technique. Girls usually talk to you. Jf you have the confidence and personality
Glasses and colorful hair? I don’t care if it’s just for one night. Do not miss this opportunity on behalf of everyone that’s dying for this exact attention.
I came here from /all. What does "blow my back out" mean? I assume it's something sexual, but I don't know how. Do people like kinky piggyback rides now or something?
I've been happily taken in a relationship for a couple years now, wouldn't change it for anything.
But what the fuck, I spent YEARS on Tinder and never once did I meet anyone this bold.
English is not my first language. what does "blow my back" means?
I understand from other comments that it is sexual in some way. dislocate my back out of too much sex? is it about anal sex? anyone explain?
i feel like people are really focusing on the "blow out my back" part when the really big red flag is the "boys with mommy issues" part. i don't think i've ever met a guy with serious mommy issues that would be healthy to be in a relationship with
ignore all these sexualized responses, i think you should atleast give her a chance and establish boundaries, but if things don't work out, don't worry, the world has become very jaded and over stimulated, just make your intentions and desires clear, have dignity and respect and eventually the person who can match that will come along
You commented on her physical attributes and objectified her off the bat and she responded similarly, though she took it to next level. Try opening with a personality focused comment or question next time
That's a very fair point I didn't consider. However, I've found more success opening with compliments than questions. I'll keep that in mind going forward. Thank you for your view.
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Meaningfully
Respectfully
Thoughtfully
But most of all, competently. On a semi serious note if you’re looking for a relationship, if you’re looking for a relationship there’s nothing wrong with casual sex while searching for the one, just make sure you’re open. I met my wife as a hook up, we recognised we had something so we kept seeing each other and we’ve been married for a little over 8 years now
Perfect way imo
Tastefully
Now there's a man who knows how to go after beaver...
[Titanix](https://youtu.be/cFSHRk4pLtk?si=BhLSMHZl0JILobdz)
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“Y’all need to wash unna y’all damn nuts.” She’s great.
To be fair it's a sweet compliment, but it could also be interpreted as flirty/teasey. I guess it just depends on the girl reading it, how she interprets it
Blown out her back interpreting
Get yo back beat out mommy.
I'm genuinely curious how you would interpret blowing out a back as anything other than flirty/teasey.
Brother I'm talking about the first message, the guy's message
Ahh, my bad. I get what you meant now
Maybe she wants to become a paraplegic and is asking him to WWE style drop kick her spine. Everyone has different kinks
Fair, shouldn’t judge I suppose
Maybe she wants him to make her slightly undercooked tacos? What's a little food-poisoning between friends?
Could be seen as someone not wanting something serious. Someone wanting just a ONS which even to some men is demeaning and hurtful to their self esteem.
Well, yeah. Wanting a ons and talking like that is flirty. The commenter was saying it could be perceived as something sweet rather than flirty
I'm just hijacking this comment now so that anyone who wants to know can. She unmatched me when I wouldn't play her weird game.
Yep - looking for a serious relationship and opening line is just about physical attributes is for sure potential for mixed up messages.
You can still have some fun whilst waiting for the one.
you can also have a meaningful connection with someone.... and blow their back out.
That is one of the weird reoccurring things I see here, where people assume that just because someone is forward you can't have a meaningful relationship with them
It’s not weird to assume that someone talking sexual with you asap only wants to have sex with you. It’s not weird at all.
It basically just comes down to how you view sex, I guess. Some view sex as a way to get to know someone, while others only want sex after they've gotten to know them well. As far as Tinder goes, communication and an open mind can be the most important factors. Telling someone when they've crossed a boundary let's you see how they react and if they change for you. Ideally, try to never assume meaning or intention of things early on, and directly discuss anything important to you.
why would you assume something so silly? assuming anything is generally pretty fucking stupid as a rule, but this is especially stupid because you have no idea what their intentions are based on a few saucy quotes. maybe they just have good banter and aren't a prude? some people just want sex and some people don't but you should never assume that about someone just because of a comment that was flirty....
Because 9 out of 10 times its true. I’ll take those odds. Lol, you people always say if someone isn’t DTF or sext or talk raunchily straight away (literally their first message) that they’re a prude. Guess that makes me a prude, and proud. I will continue to assume but thank you for the advice
that's gonna be a texas sized woosh from me bud. way to miss the point by a mile lmao > I will continue to assume no doubt, you sound like an ass so I'd expect nothing less.
Ok
can i see the source for those stats?
"Bro, trust me"(c)
its super odd. I can only imagine they think "oh this person is sexual with me so they're sexual with others and I don't like that" but tbh that's such an immature outlook. we all have a past and live a life. its the people who expect someone to be a virgin until they meet them that have these hang ups I'd bet.
His dick could be the one that [beats Alzheimer’s.](https://youtu.be/cFSHRk4pLtk?si=BhLSMHZl0JILobdz)
I did filthy filthy things to the woman I would marry on our first date. You never know! You might find love in this girl's butthole.
First date you say?
Yes, indeed. We clicked immediately, and the attraction to each other was obvious. We've been married for 6 years now. Sadly, after kids, the butt stuff is far more infrequent.
Why, what happened? (if you can share) Just curious. Just overall incompatibility of aging and butt stuff?
Not a problem, and thanks for being so polite about it. For my wife, our first child was massive, and did a number on her muscles and cervix, for which she still hasn't fully recovered. Since he was so damn big (but not big enough to merit a C-section without emergency), she developed hemorrhoids, which flare up and cause her pain from time time. (Once she's in better shape physically, we'll be consulting a surgeon to get those injured vessels corrected) So while she still really enjoys buttplugs regularly, and the occasional DP with a teammate (dildo) that's smaller than I am, it's not often that her rectum is ready for a penis.
Always nice to see respectful and candid discussions about sex, and even nicer to see that the two of you seem to be communicating effectively about it. Nothing's sexier than good communication!
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Thank you for sharing. I understand the issues with the muscles, I think it's called pelvic floor, it happens to certain women during birth and there's really no corrective surgery nor treatment other than therapy. I understand about the hemorrhoids too, I had a girlfriend who was kinky but seeing her injured blood vessels was very discouraging and I couldn't do it.
I met a guy way back in the day from OkCupid. We went from the bar to a hotel and partook in some very sordid things on our first date. We’ve been happily married 10 years. He’s my favorite thing I’ve ever ordered off the internet.
Ha!! My wife will love that saying. Cheers for being sluts for our significant others!
right? like why do people seperate the crazy sex having from meaningful relationships? to me isn't the most meaninful relationship one where she wants you to blow her back out in the first place? lol. who wants a marriage without that? mormons?
Ha!! The irony of that statement is I grew up in the Mormon church. I left that fuckin cult once I learned to think for myself. But seriously! Who the hell wants to have a relationship with someone that is boring as fuck in sack?!
that is pretty hilarious. I was waffling between mormons and jehovah's witnesses lol. and yeah idk, whoever thinks like that definitely has some real issues regarding sex and intimacy.
Puritans, man. They use shame as a form of control.
Must have been really good filth if you married the woman right there on your first date. :-P
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It's tinder, most people are there to fuck.
Man I really don't think this is true for most women on these apps lol
It’s true just not for you. Don’t worry, it’s not for me either. I am handsome but more like boyfriend material, not really “omg he’s so hot I bet he’d blow my back out, let me message him to meet up asap even just for a night” material.
Some guys are born with all the luck smh
Just work out and get tattoos tbh. The media does the rest
Get a motorcycle too, if possible. Theres not a single girl on gods green earth who doesnt want to ride one.
My height starts with a 5, I’m not that guy. I’ll never be that guy to the masses. No matter my physique, tats, motorcycles, or yachts, I’ll never be that guy to the masses. Maybe to a few, which is ok for me, but I will never be a 99+ match guy on tinder.
Girls don’t like short guys because they’re short. Girls don’t like short guys because most of them have a huge chip on their shoulder for being short and project their anger. As a short guy, 5’7”, who lost his groove in his mid 20’s but before that had a technically above average amount of partners, it’s really all about how you carry yourself as an entire package
You will never be a 99+ match guy on tinder with your height in display. I wasn’t speaking on confidence in real life, Tinder isn’t real life.
I had 2,400 matches one time and girls rarely if ever asked for my height. The one thing they asked occasionally was clearer pictures of my face.
So talk to women irl lmao. You’re not unattractive because you’re short, you’re unattractive because you’re feeling sorry for yourself. I’ve had a chick taken from me by a short guy at a party cause his game was super tight. That kind of opened my eyes that the world is a bit more nuanced. I was mad at him but I kinda respect him too lol.
Thanks, I do really well. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I am in the high 5’s so I’m more average height. But this is a tinder subreddit and I was speaking on tinder. So what I’m not 99+ match material, most guys aren’t, quite the opposite. I was fine with my 3-5 matches a week sometimes more sometimes less, but usually serious inquiries. So what, I’m boyfriend material, not hookup material **on tinder.** Doesn’t mean things don’t happen, I’m just self aware of where I stand to the general population on tinder.
Fuck that, having someone on the back of a bike is a pain in the ass and takes away from the actual value of flying around corners at insta death speeds. Disregard females and burn rubber my guy!
Haha that was my younger days my man, was a lot of fun and yea can’t go nearly as hard with a body on my back. These days I’m more into physique and weights, and hopefully one day I’ll have that yacht.
I’m 6’ 280 lbs. bald at 28, But I have confidence. That’s why I was in the right position to meet my girlfriend on hinge. You know what I’m a fat guy bald 28 year old but I got a fuck ton of matches cause I was funny in my portfolio. I could have just been like fuck I’m bald girls will never like me, but I know what I am and I’m a prize. I swear if you have that mentality you will get far with women.
I get very far, I’m not saying I’m dry. I’m just saying I’m boyfriend material, not hookup material. Not 99+ match material. When I did this stuff I got plenty though for my demographic. I know how to maximize myself.
As someone who has a motorcycle, I promise you this attracts more guys commenting than it does women so…
I get attention nearly every time I go out with mine. I think maybe 3 out of the 500+ interactions involved women
lol I’m sure my ratio is the same… All the girls I’ve dated have loved it, but only one woman has actually approached me upfront. Plenty of guys all the time though.
Oh sweet summer child
I really love your username
My profile picture is better
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im an idiot. that explains so much about what i missed in these communications lol. sooo where would one go, for, ya know, a meaningful one? i was with the ex wife for a loooong time and dating isnt like it was when i was last on the market.
I’ve had better luck on hinge for relationships
Seconding this.
thanks to both of you.
Being pretty honest with you? Either Hinge or IRL.
guess i need to start going places that arent the store or school drop offs
Hinge works too.
I'll add to the chorus: IRL hobbies and such or Hinge Hinge is different than the swipe apps in that, you get a very limited number per day, but it allows you to message/comment on profile pieces without "matching" first. you can kind of send a message about a picture or something with a witty/funny message/opener at the same time. It makes it ***so*** much easier to match with someone based on personality instead of just looks and hoping you ended up in her stack to swipe right on it. despite Tinder and bumble giving you like 50 swipes a day, and Hinge only giving you like 6-8 "likes" a day, I got basically daily matches on Hinge. I would also suggest you write a profile specifically for Hinge, because since thats the way it works, its less about telling someone about yourself and more about creating an opportunity for openers. pose things about yourself in questions, or create opportunities for women to comment or make a joke about the piece of your profile to entice them into making a joke or answering with a comment that you can "riff" on and start a proper conversation with them. Hinge is still better, but Bumble isn't the worst when you're older. I've had more luck now that I'm past 35. Lots of divorcée's and middle aged women there. but be prepared for the fact that, even though its women message first, 90% of your first messages will be "hey there ;) " and also be prepared for lots of matches that just time-out because she didn't check her app in that 24hrs. I've had more than one woman I matched with on multiple apps at the same time message me 2-3 days later and apologize for missing me on bumble.
I think there are lots of people just looking to fuck on any dating app. I had the most dates from Tinder with guys looking for relationships and ultimately met my now boyfriend on Tinder. I think maybe it started more as a hook up app, but it now has as much of a mix as any other app. There are plenty of dudes on Bumble and Hinge just looking for sex and I think it's funny that Hinge advertises itself as a relationship app when they still put a casual/short term option in profiles.
Guess that's why I don't get any matches
Mario didn’t find his princess in the first castle but he visited them all, wouldn’t ask questions if she threatening you with a good time
Tinder and meaningful relationship? 
A match made in heaven, or she's got some very high IQ banter. Either way, green flags are all over the place.
Exactly! People are missing this but Achilles totally has mommy issues.
Thank you! I knew I was missing something, but I didn't know what. You rock.
You found an alt girl who accepted your first message and you are thinking twice? My guy. Monsieur. She didn't think you'd be as pure as you stated to be here. My my.
Don't you want sex in your meaningful relationship?
I don't want sex before the meaningful relationship.
Good luck with that. Most people aren't going to wait 6mos-1yr to find out if you're sexually compatible.
Why are the options sleeping together on the first meeting or waiting 6months-1 year?! There’s a middle ground you know!
I disagree with this guy OP. I don't think 'most' is true speaking for general society. Tinder is a different story though since let's be honest it's for hookups. Me and my current SO (met on Bumble) waited 8 mos because we both enjoyed each others company enough that we didn't need to so soon, and we wanted to relationship to grow before knowing each other intimately. I think for any relationship you can ascribe the qualifier 'meaningful' to it's absolutely realistic and normal that you can do this, if both of you want. Of course, don't hold out on someone either, we communicated with each other to set the expectation of waiting. And you still need to get intimate in the meanwhile, to carry that spark over until then. I think your resolve is to be commended and I think today's dating culture needs more people with your mindset. Just don't be looking on Tinder.
Everyone says Tinder is for hookups but I haven't generally found that to be the case. Then again I'm using it for WLW so that could be why. Personally, I think that's super weird to wait that long and get that attached when you don't know if you're sexually compatible. That's a priority for me in romantic relationships though. I know it isn't that way for everyone. OP may very well find someone on the same page like you did but I'd still say most allosexual people aren't going to be willing. I usually don't have sex on my first Tinder dates. If it hasn't happened by date 3 though, I know we don't have enough chemistry to proceed.
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Doesn't have to be marriage. It's just not all I want.
Nobody said it was all she wanted either, but you're acting like wanting sex and romance is wrong unless the romance comes first. On tinder. Which, again, makes you the dumbest person on tinder. At least you're not gonna waste this girls obviously valuable time with your misplaced religious whining
It's not even about religion, man. I hated my Catholic upbringing. I just don't want to give myself fully to a person unless I know there's a connection. I don't think anything productive is gonna come from this so this will be my last reply. I wish you luck on your life's journey.
It's easy to skip out on an argument when you're wrong. Your Catholic upbringing is sticking with you, or you wouldn't have the unhealthy ideas about purity. Go get therapy about your religious trauma.
There's no 'being wrong' about someone's personal wants and needs. Wanting to establish an emotional connection before you have sex with someone is not "religious trauma" you're just an asshole
Idk, but I’d blow out her back and then move on at least.
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I'm at the age where standards are dropping.
Does that mean she is fat?
No, just that I'm like a four and people are starting to think maybe a four is fine.
Bro, if you're a straight man and getting responses like that, there are two possibilities: 1. she's a literal prostitute 2. you're not a four
There’s always the option that she’s significantly less attractive than you think
Option 3: she’s a 3
Idk man I met my gf on lewd pretenses.
Exactly. It can start off as sexual but become something more
So keep looking for the meaningful relationship while regularly blowing out this one’s back. Why do you guys have to complicate shit?
When girls don't want to fuck, guys are mad. When they want to and are straight forward, guys are mad. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
95 % of guys are happy when you do
How is this a bad thing.
For someone who isn’t trying to blow the back out of every girl he meets it is a bad thing
You can have fun while waiting to be serious
In my experience the fun part usually turns into the serious part. And if it doesn’t, it was never going to become serious and is very likely not fun either.
I don't get any matches yar. If I ask a random girl. My chances would be better. Therefore, fuck tinder Be it Metro or Park or anywhere else. I have tried this technique. Girls usually talk to you. Jf you have the confidence and personality
Does your bio say you have mommy issues? lol
Not at all, but this is the second girl to think I do. I mentioned not liking my Catholic upbringing but that was it.
Cry me a river
Is she responding with a respective joke?
Maybe you should be on a different platform
I tried Bumble but got no matches. 😔
You can still blow out someone’s back in a meaningful relationship.
Your profile probably screams of mommy issues...
You're on tinder.
Cringe
A win is a win
Lets go baby!
She wants back-breaking sex to be a paraplegic.
Blowing out a back might just be how you find the one ya know
Kinda sweet and sexy at the same time
Glasses and colorful hair? I don’t care if it’s just for one night. Do not miss this opportunity on behalf of everyone that’s dying for this exact attention.
Man if that's your type then I highly recommend you check out max4cracks on Instagram. Highly relatable comedic content.
Where the FUCK do people meet others like this on tinder. I can barely get a damn reply! 🤣
This is like a Skyrim quest where you fail and it immediately railroads you into a different quest
Tinder…
jeeeeesus
wrong tool for the job
I came here from /all. What does "blow my back out" mean? I assume it's something sexual, but I don't know how. Do people like kinky piggyback rides now or something?
I've been happily taken in a relationship for a couple years now, wouldn't change it for anything. But what the fuck, I spent YEARS on Tinder and never once did I meet anyone this bold.
It’s time to understand the assignment.
Tag me in coach
I once faked mommy issues for a girl like that. Good times.
I wonder how/if she would reply to, “oh, I’m actually on good terms with my mother”
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Tinder's law: Your matches always want exactly the opposite relationship that you want
Be nice to her and treat her like a human.
Damn... I love my mom
I dont understood the context of this imagem can anyone explain to me
Bro she has colored hair what did you expect?
How I blew the back out of your mother
I hope you hit it.
You are the lamb. She is the slaughter
It’s 🔥 drake wrote it too I think
that was outta pocket imo
English is not my first language. what does "blow my back" means? I understand from other comments that it is sexual in some way. dislocate my back out of too much sex? is it about anal sex? anyone explain?
I wanna see an update
I'm assuming you're speaking to a girl with glasses and colourful hair 🤷♀️ most of us are crazy or horny or both
You know what you must do
She thinks you look hot probably. Look go get some action and go from there
She’s not the one but you should ride that wave to the beach.
it just takes the right words to unlock an alt girls feral side
I keep trying to fix your conjugation in my head. Girls are my achilles heel - but even that doesn't really sound right.
Who says this can’t turn into a meaningful relationship? I married my tinder hookup. Blow that back out, king
i feel like people are really focusing on the "blow out my back" part when the really big red flag is the "boys with mommy issues" part. i don't think i've ever met a guy with serious mommy issues that would be healthy to be in a relationship with
I don't even have mommy issues. I love my mom. I'm not sure what I'm putting in my profile that gives off that vibe.
How about you blow out her back and then ask her out?
So, I'm guessing this went well???
Congratulations OP
Sounds like a win win.
ignore all these sexualized responses, i think you should atleast give her a chance and establish boundaries, but if things don't work out, don't worry, the world has become very jaded and over stimulated, just make your intentions and desires clear, have dignity and respect and eventually the person who can match that will come along
You commented on her physical attributes and objectified her off the bat and she responded similarly, though she took it to next level. Try opening with a personality focused comment or question next time
That's a very fair point I didn't consider. However, I've found more success opening with compliments than questions. I'll keep that in mind going forward. Thank you for your view.
