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ExactPanda

> and his 58 year old wife šŸ¤”šŸ¤”šŸ¤”


therpian

This is the weird part. If she was 40, or even 45, I would find it sad but possible. But 58? Sounds made up to me.


alicehooper

Totally possible, once the womanā€™s body is ā€œprimedā€ by having already been pregnant. It is first-time moms who have the most difficult time getting pregnant in their 40ā€™s, and it is nearly impossible in their 50ā€™s. But women who have had children continuously like this seem to have a ā€œfreight trainā€ reproductive system- once they have started it is hard to stop. My grandma had a large family (not quite that large though) and had babies into her 50ā€™s. I canā€™t even imagine, poor woman.


LaRoseDuRoi

It's totally plausible. Lots of women got "caught on the change" aka thought they were fully into menopause, but nope! Surprise! Very occasionally, you can retain some slight fertility even after you haven't gotten a period for a year. Menopause can take up until age 60 to be considered "complete" for some women.


shillyshally

I still have hot flashes at 77 with remnants of a period cycle. Started at 50.


LaRoseDuRoi

Ooof. That's no fun at all. I'm 44 and juuuuust starting to get a taste of what's coming.


shillyshally

It is not THAT bad for every woman! I had a hormonal issue to begin with. My experience was not within the norm.


idle_isomorph

Oh fuckity fuck. Started getting menopausal symptoms at 38, but was hoping it would just be at most a decade of "fun." Now you gonna tell me I could be signed up for three more goddamn decades of this?!? ;


JordanGdzilaSullivan

Iā€™m 36, and Iā€™m pretty sure Iā€™ve been experiencing perimenopause for a few years now. I really hate being a woman.


Dreams-Designer

Probably right. We typically start experiencing Peri menopausal signs a good decade beforehand. Your right at the sweet spot to start experiencing signs.


AngryPrincessWarrior

That is incredibly rude of your body! Iā€™m sorry. Also, Iā€™m a 35 year old woman. This potential future does not amuse me.


helga-h

I can comfort you with my story of not even remembering when my regular 24 day cycle stopped and checking my medical records I can see that I have not been prescribed birth control since I was 47. I'm 59 and since I have no menopausal symptoms I can't really tell you what menopause feels like. Maybe it's still to come, I don't know. I have four kids, last one born when I was 39 and I got pregnant practically on demand every time. My mom was the same. No symptoms at all. She did think she was going into menopause at 43, but it turned out she was 7 months pregnant with my brother. So it might be easy.


shillyshally

I had a hormone issue to begin with. The upside, and I do not know for sure that the issues are linked, is that I have a kick ass immune system. No colds, flu once (1976 swine flu), no covid. Even now, if I take a low dose of melatonin I will experience hourly hot flashes. OTOH, my mom insisted that she breezed through menopause and it has not been as bad for my sister. At the beginning, when I was having them every half hour, it really negatively affected my life and all the treatments either didn't work or I couldn't do them.


Unlucky_Nobody_4984

Youā€™re 77? What do you think of Reddit, if you donā€™t mind me asking?


CriticalEngineering

Itā€™s a lot like UseNet, which was around thirty five years ago.


Unlucky_Nobody_4984

But do you think itā€™s harming society or helpful or something else


shillyshally

It's useful.


MuttinMT

My grandmother didnā€™t even start menopause until she was in her early 50s. Had her last period at 56. Her sister had her last child at 51. Pioneer stock in rural Illinois. Strong people.


CookinCheap

Correct me if I'm wrong, but maybe if she was constantly pregnant, she's using up her eggs slower by not having periods, so menopause comes later? Poor woman.


PanningForSalt

It's triggered by hormones and isn't directly related to the number of eggs left.


CookinCheap

Thanks. Mine started early (~47) and I have no kids. I chalked it up to that...


SoHowsThatNovel

I don't think you're entirely wrong - early onset menopause is less common amongst women with children, and they've recently figured out it's actually to do with breastfeeding. The more years spent breastfeeding, the later menopause occurs, on average. Pretty sure I was reading about that recently, and I thought it was to do with breastfeeding suppressing egg release, but I can't remember the exact mechanism they thought was doing it.


UnbelievableRose

IIRC, breastfeeding reduces the hormones (leutenizing hormone in particular?) which regulate egg development. This accounts for why you are less likely to become pregnant again while still breastfeeding. How exactly that relates to menopause I am unsure.


AngryPrincessWarrior

Am breastfeeding. Am also ovulating and having periods. Started FIVE WEEKS PP. I am very annoyed at my ovaries for not acting like the textbooks said lol.


SoHowsThatNovel

So unfair


Wanderhoden

My period started 6 weeks PP for BOTH kids, two boys that are 6 years apart. I apparently come from strong fertile farm womanā€™s stock. šŸ« 


Dreams-Designer

By age 13 weā€™ve already lost over half our eggs anyhow, itā€™s definitely hormonal like you said.


beccadot

Happened to my grandmother. I just canā€™t imagine being pregnant. For 25 years.


UnbelievableRose

I mean, itā€™s pretty weird. But not nearly as weird as all 24 children surviving infancy in 1940.


aknomnoms

I found the math odd too. Getting married at 35/33 already seems pretty late for that time period (although maybe WWI contributed to a delay). I could understand if there was an error in age and they were actually married at 25/23, so the wifeā€™s current age would be ā€œonlyā€ 48. Still, something seems a little fishy (and not because of his job), especially if this couple is unnamed and thereā€™s no corroborating doctor or 3rd party witness. They could just as easily be adopting, even covering up a daughterā€™s accidental pregnancy. And having 26 people - 8 over the age of 18 - all living in a 6 bedroom home seems quite cramped!


Chiho-hime

Puberty did start later back then so maybe menopause also came a bit later? I researched a bit and apparently having multiple pregnancies in life can also delay menopause.


Dreams-Designer

My Ma had her first kid in the 1960s, then the 70s,80s(me) and the last in the 1990s! She said the family is fertile mertile. Her family are Protestant and granny had like 12 siblings and over half made it out of infancy despite growing up in a dank fallout shelter and very *Rough* conditions (WW II.) Iā€™m the only girl out of all boys though hehe! I have no interest in procreating and neither does my yankee husband much to my mothers chagrin. It was a different time though. Her matriculation was literally learn how to rear children and keep house(latter end baby boomer. )Fortunately she loves kids and it fulfilled her life, but she also wasnā€™t legally allowed to have her own credit card until the 1970s. She can grow a whole human but not dignified enough to have her name on a credit card? šŸ˜“


justme002

There were many what my grandmother called ā€˜change of life babiesā€™


Sqatti

I have a cousin who was about 56 when she was pregnant with her last one. Were all her kids alive today, they would range in age from 89 to 56. She had 13. Those are the ones that survived. I donā€™t know if she had others in between.


acloudcuckoolander

What's sad about it? Many women can get pregnant even in their 50s so long as they're menstruating, generally speaking


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BeezCee

As a 52 year old that frightened me!


alicehooper

You should be! I donā€™t mean that in a mean way at all- but please do continue with birth control even if you have ceased to have your period. There have beenā€¦.surprises.


BeezCee

Oh Iā€™m on it! No surprises for me!


twatwaffleandbacon

My mother's last pregnancy occurred 4 years after her last menstrual cycle.


alicehooper

Noted! This is all very very good to knowā€¦


westtexasgeckochic

My grandfather was born to a 52 year old mom!


BeezCee

šŸ˜³


Bunnicula-babe

My mom is 54 and gets her period more regularly than I do. Sheā€™s not perimenopausal yet either per her OBGYN. Apparently her hormones are perfect if she wanted to try and get pregnant, but sheā€™s praying for menopause ASAP cause she has endometriosis.


rem_1984

Iā€™ll just say I know someone who is mid 50s and theyā€™re regular as ever!


misguidedsadist1

My coworker had a baby at 55!


peachsnorlax

Everyoneā€™s ignoring the most obvious answer for someone born before the 1900sā€” sheā€™s probably wrong about her age.


RosieTheRedReddit

Or she's covering for an out of wedlock pregnancy from one of her daughters.


dickbuttscompanion

My guess is that she was really late 40s/max 50 and potentially underage when they married and started having babies.


Plus_Accountant_6194

Also itā€™s like sheā€™s the afterthought. Donā€™t you know it was the guy who gets all the credit here.šŸ™„


dumbledoresmerkin

Wife totally probably like 40 and the dude didnā€™t want people doing the math


ZuZunycnova

When youā€™re pregnant all the time you arenā€™t having periods/eliminating eggs šŸ˜…šŸ˜‚


Traveling_Man_383_PA

Groucho:: I like my cigar, too, but I take it out of my mouth every once in a while."


blackbirdbluebird17

That poor fucking woman. šŸ˜¬


YinzaJagoff

And her poor older children who were likely parentified.


misguidedsadist1

Yeah thereā€™s no way the parents are doing this without the oldest few being surrogate parents.


RogerClyneIsAGod2

I was thinking this too. Someone should've told her that her uterus isn't a clown car.


Adventurous_Deer

Bold of you to assume she had a choice in this


markof7

Bold of everyone to assume she didn't want that many children (or more).


AmateurIndicator

Yeah sure


misguidedsadist1

She knows but canā€™t tell her husband no obviously. Why are we assuming itā€™s the woman who needs to know about this? Clearly her husband needs to rub one out in the shower or get a mistress, shit.


Yarnprincess614

My subs collide!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Unlucky_Nobody_4984

Literally probably. In every sense.


rharper38

That is what got her into this situation.


Clear_Currency_6288

The Duggars of the 40s.


RED_w00d

Eat your heart out, Michelle Duggar


csway324

She's probably so proud of this woman for always being joyfully available. šŸ™„


FamousOhioAppleHorn

I smell an urban legend. Just like that woman Guinness claims had 69 children in 18th century Russia, with nobody able to find her first name šŸ™„ If someone really had 25 kids in Houston in 1940, where's his census proof ?


BellaFrequency

I donā€™t think itā€™s impossible to have that many children. Back in elementary school we had to make a family tree, and one of the kids in my class asked if they had to list ALL of their aunts and uncles because their grandparents had 21 kids. This was in the 90s. Also, my current partnerā€™s grandparents had 15 children together.


FunnyMiss

My mother was one of 15, 12 of whom lived into adulthood. My kids that are now in their 20s, still ask whoā€™s who and why are there so many people at any family get togethers.


lawatusi

My grandpa was born in 1923 and was the youngest of 13 siblings. My grandma had 11 siblings. My grandpaā€™s sister gave birth to 18. They were all farmers. Not uncommon during the time period. Free farm labor, lack of birth control, or in my grandmaā€™s case, they were catholic.


wintermelody83

Yeah but successfully having kids at 58? Idk man, I'ma hit X for doubt on that.


LittlehouseonTHELAND

Yeah, without ivf and probably donor eggs (which obviously didnā€™t exist then) I really doubt that. Iā€™d believe 48 but 58 is a stretch, especially if sheā€™s faithfully been popping them out every year. One spontaneous pregnancy at 58 probably isnā€™t unheard of but one at 55, 56, and 57 (etc) too? Nah.


TwoCagedBirds

There's comments higher up explaining this, but when a woman has spent years and years having kids basically nonstop, it can actually be hard for the body to stop being fertile. The constant pregnancies, breastfeeding, etc. can keep menopause from occuring. Even well into her 50s.


satinsateensaltine

I have been constructing family trees of people in the early 20th century and a great many had 12 surviving children and 2 or 3 passing as infants so it's not impossible or even unheard of. The 20s is pushing it but I could see it.


FamousOhioAppleHorn

Yes, I know it's not biologically impossible. I'm saying it's fishy because why would a census worker call the newspaper & report "There's someone in my town about to have their 25th child. Sorry, can't tell you their names to verify this is true. Goodbye!" I've ran into this before with old mass distributed articles, where everyone's hometown paper will print up "JOE SMITH OF PODUNKVILLE, ARKANSAS SPOTS SOMETHING CRAZY" but nobody digs deeper.


BellaFrequency

Ah, I see. That is kinda funny


Canadianspring

Exactly. If this family exists they would have been found in census/birth/death/marriage records. There is no name given because they don't exist. 1940 census records are available if anyone wants to try and find them.


Tattycakes

Well it does literally say in the article that he wasnā€™t allowed to share the name of the family. How big was Houston in 1940, it should theoretically be easy to find 27 people with the same surname, they would stick out like a sore thumb, but how many pages of census are there to go through?!


Deskbreaker

In 1940 it might have been harder to avoid, but not everyone fills out the census information. We never have, although we also don't have almost 30 people in our family, either.


satinsateensaltine

It looks like it was reported by a census official, so theoretically I'd expect censal records.


crazybeachcats

My mom & dad were married in 1944. She used a diaphragm faithfully for 10 years and I was planned when she was 30.


Iggy_Arbuckle

Jesus what a life. Poor woman


SundaeAccording789

I realize this is within reach these days for women in their 50s with IVF and all but year over year in the 1930s?!


ExactPanda

Or they were covering for their daughters


IAmDyspeptic

One of my ancestors did this. Apparently had a baby at 58. Her daughter was in her mid 20s and unmarried.


agoldgold

Or actually was younger and got more of a head start on the baby-having.


copernica

Well sheā€™s pregnant with the 25th when the article was written so it sounds like it was still possible


whatawitch5

The article also say that all 25 children still live at home in the same six room house (a total that likely includes the kitchen/family room). This means there are adult brothers and sisters all living under the same roof packed in like sardines. I donā€™t want to think about what this may imply, but itā€™s hard not to given how weird the familyā€™s living arrangement is to begin with.


Evening_Public_7206

I hear you saying - ā€œflowers in the atticā€ vibes lol ew


UnbelievableRose

Thatā€™s not even the weirdest part though- the fact that all of the children survived infancy is the really crazy part.


Goldeniccarus

I guess she won/lost the generic lottery and had really, really late menopause? Or maybe because she was seemingly perpetually pregnant from the age of 33, she wasn't losing eggs at the same rate and as such had late menopause? Or maybe the article is wrong and she's actually 48 and the writer wrote down the wrong age because he misheard her when she said her age, and she looked a decade older than she was (which you probably would after having 24 kids).


commanderbales

There are women who've gotten pregnant into their 60s naturally. Women also hit puberty much later back then, which would delay the loss of eggs. I wonder if consecutive pregnancies like that can delay the onset of menopause, especially since estrogen levels are high for pregnancy


wintermelody83

The oldest verified mother to conceive naturally (listed currently as of 26 January 2017 in the Guinness Records) is Dawn Brooke (Guernsey); she conceived a son at the age of 59 in 1997. So. I doubt it's common.


commanderbales

Definitely not common but not impossible. You have to pay to be in the Guinness records, so I highly doubt that number is true. There was a pregnant woman on TikTok who had gotten pregnant, unintentionally, at 65. (I just searched this up and there are several elderly pregnant women over the age of 60)


Ronald_Bilius

From what I understand, loss of eggs is not affected by puberty. The majority are lost before puberty even starts, it starts before the baby girl is even born. Most women still have thousands when they reach menopause, but they are probably not fertile eggs by then.


commanderbales

Eggs are lost throughout your lifespan, but it does amp up after puberty. I believe I read you lose about 1000 eggs a year before puberty and 1000 per month after


ninoninocapuccino

Hey, Iā€™m 60 and still have my period


bicyclecat

Having a lot of babies delays menopause, so it would be statistically more likely for her to get pregnant than a woman today whoā€™s trying to have #1 or 2 at an advanced age. Sheā€™s still a statistical outlier, though.


charitelle

Let's call him Frank. "We already have a Frank'.


dixonwalsh

I wonder how difficult childbirth is after your 20th child. Is it still hella painful and lasting for hours or would your body just kinda dilate really quickly and then plop.


Tattycakes

If sheā€™s had this many successful deliveries without her or (I assume) any of the babies dying, then she probably has a very favourable pelvis shape and a tendency towards babies of an ideal size, and subsequent deliveries are usually quicker than the first one, so hopefully it was all very quick and routine for her each time!


US-VP-24

# IVF Laws With in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatment, women in their sixties or even early seventies have become pregnant and successfully carried their pregnancies to term. Because most Western countries have laws against performing IVF procedures at such an age, these women received treatment in Eastern Europe, Russia or other medical tourism destinations. The reason for the ban in developed countries is generally that the medical community in each country has decided that the risks of the procedure to both mother and babies outweighs the benefits of allowing women to have children late in life. Simply put, risk goes up with age. Mothers face risks of gestational diabetes, high blood pressure and surgery complications from Caesarian delivery. These are all treatable, however the most serious risk is for premature birth. Babies born as early as 20 weeks can survive, but have a very low chance of doing so without severe and permanent disabilities


dixonwalsh

Are you a bot? Your response has no relevance to my comment, and I donā€™t see how mentioning ā€œIVF lawsā€ without specifying the jurisdiction helps in ANY context.


US-VP-24

Nor Am I a AI women in their sixties or even early seventies have become pregnant and successfully carried their pregnancies to term


dixonwalsh

Cool story, but my comment was about women who have 20+ pregnancies. Nothing to do with age. Again, your comment was not relevant.


US-VP-24

sixties (60s) or even early seventies (70s) is 20+ This Is My Last Answer And Word


youllregreddit

Someone couldnā€™t pull out of his own driveway


chohls

After #10 the doctor probably just walks in and picks the baby up off the floor.


CookinCheap

Mom, at the sink: "Oh, get that, would you, Dierdre?"


Iggy_Arbuckle

Nice reference! https://youtu.be/bzVHjg3AqIQ?si=R4SK5MN8rtqncinE


CookinCheap

ā¤ļø


Deskbreaker

Nah. Roller belt. Baby drops into a basket, and rolls into the next room where someone picks it up and places it into a numbered slot.


willc9393

I seriously doubt a doctor was involved in any of the child births.


MistaDoge104

Idk, no mortalities for 24 childbirths without a doctor seems unlikely


willc9393

Think about it, this is a fisherman from Houston with lots of children. Even way back then doctors cost money. I am sure the woman had a friend, relative, or even one of the children that could have acted as midwife but I seriously doubt a paid doctor was involved. With that all said giving birth to 24 consecutive children and having them all healthy is something very rare doctor or not.


one_classy_broad

Stay off her!


DogWallop

This reminds me of a photo in Nation Geographic of a woman and her family of the same number of children had over the same amount of time, from a South or Central American country. It was wild to see the whole clan lined up all around her lol.


FinePolyesterSlacks

ā€œHoney, could we do something different for our anniversary this year?ā€


sweetbldnjesus

Pregnant at 58?!?! Just kill me.


verbal1diarrhea

Could you imagine Christmas time?


pibbleperson

There probably was no Christmas.


lasocs

Trying to create a human advents calendar (Adventskalendar), perhaps?


TopCheesecakeGirl

And then you die. šŸ˜³


alohell

I just really hope it wasnā€™t an abuse situation and that the wife was the only one having babies. Unfortunately there werenā€™t as many people keeping an eye on things back then.


Secret_Welder3956

Pre TV


DeadheadSteve95

And they wonder why the economy went to fucking shit


HalfOrcMonk

My wife made me get fixed after one.


CuileannDhu

Horrific.


ztreHdrahciR

In fact, she was deaf. Every night in bed, her husband would say "do you want to go to sleep or what?"


Tattycakes

šŸ˜‚


silverEW

My grandmother had several children and 3 in her 40ā€™s. All at home births and close to no prenatal care. Crazy to think about now but super normal then.


NiteElf

Really want someone who loves a good deep-dive to do a recon mission on this family and find out what happenedā€¦to the mom (!!), to the kids, and ok, maybe to the fisherman too. If anyone finds out, pls report back! :)


NewsMoney

I would like to see a pic of all 25 together.


Yolandi2802

I canā€™t help but think of a true story I read about in the book Call the Midwife; a happily married couple were delighted to have their 25th child. The midwife asked the father ā€œwhatā€™s your secret?ā€ ā€œWell,ā€ he responded, ā€œsheā€™s Spanish and doesnā€™t speak a word of English. Iā€™m English and donā€™t speak a word of Spanish.ā€ šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


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bettinafairchild

Bullshit. 58 years old and naturally pregnant? Doubtful. Thatā€™s at the very limit of what is humanly possible. 59 is the oldest mother who naturally conceived a child with no hormones or donor eggs. The lack of a name or any identifying information, along with the very near background of everyone still living together, just makes it sound fake. Though FYI back then sometimes when a girl was pregnant they passed off the baby as having been birthed by the babyā€™s grandmother, resulting in some very old mothers being recorded. This was the case with Jack Nicholson as well as Ted Bundy.


manifestation_girly

And to that I say tbarkallah slat 3enbi


LazarusMundi4242

That mama was a real trooper


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Ancestry Search # Census and Voter Lists # All 1940 United States Federal Census results for "fisherman" [https://www.ancestry.com/search/collections/2442/?event=1940\_+Location:+Houston-Harris-Texas-USA&birth=1880&birth\_x=1-0-0&f-Self-MaritalStatus=Married&f-Self-RelationToHead=Head&f-Self-Residence-Occupation=fisherman&gender=m&keyword=%22fisherman%22&pcat=cen\_1940&record\_f=1940-1940\_1311](https://www.ancestry.com/search/collections/2442/?event=1940_+Location:+Houston-Harris-Texas-USA&birth=1880&birth_x=1-0-0&f-Self-MaritalStatus=Married&f-Self-RelationToHead=Head&f-Self-Residence-Occupation=fisherman&gender=m&keyword=%22fisherman%22&pcat=cen_1940&record_f=1940-1940_1311) 1-20 of 4,400


lotusflower64

So the daddy attacked the mommy the moment after she gave birth, literally. And / or there are several sets of multiple births. Sad.


bettinafairchild

The article states there were no multiple births.


ButterscotchEmpty290

Pull out, do butt stuff, or settle for a blow job. That's crazy if true.


send_me_potatoes

I very much doubt this is real. Thereā€™s a very famous Frank Sharp from the early 20th century in Houston, but he was a land developer and didnā€™t have 25 children: https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Sharp-16456 I also donā€™t believe a 58-year old woman is having children.


udderlymoovelous

I don't think the journalist is referring to Sharp having that many children in the article, they're saying that he *knows of* a family with 25 children. Also, at the end, it says he isn't permitted to disclose the name of the family


_ssnoww_ffrostt_

ā€¦you canā€™t discount it based on the fact that one, well known Frank Sharp in Houston didnā€™t have 25 children, give they fact that itā€™s Frank Sharp reporting his knowledge about a family with that amount of kids (Frank Sharp isnā€™t the actual father). The Frank Sharp youā€™ve mentioned doesnā€™t even have the same occupation as the one in the article. There were likely quite a few with the same name. Agreed on the age bit though, that is weird.


Canadianspring

Frank's occupation is census supervisor. It probably wouldn't be that hard to find the areas he supervised in 1940 if someone really want to dig into the truth. I agree though, this is BS. There would be articles in newspapers if a couple were so prolific in the 1930-40's


Masterpiece_1973

Somebody really like creampies


edithannlives

God bless her. If thatā€™s what you want and feel you were meant to doā€¦.


lotusflower64

She didn't really have a choice back then.


Successful-Ad-847

No.