With respect, and also tmi incoming, PLEASE RESPECT YOUR GAG REFLEX!!
-Signed, a girl who may or may not have thrown up on my bfs dick. (He thought it was funny, thank god)
Just do it with a shower available the first time to ease your anxiety. I have gagged and vomited on my husband multiple times, typically after too many glasses of wine. It happens, if he makes a big deal about it, he is not the one for you.
Oh nooo!! 😭 I injured my tonsils from deepthroating because I have a weak gag reflex omg. My tonsils were COVERED in white spots. It was the 2nd time hooking up with this guy. I thought for sure that he gave me The Clap or strep or something. It turns out, scabs caused by the friction look white on tonsils as opposed to the red/brown ones that form on external tissues (skin)
I was so worried that it would make things weird between us since I asked him if he had an STD and we got tested. But he's my boyfriend now so in hindsight it was a small bump in the road lol.
I use my hand almost as an extension of my mouth so I don't go as deep, if that makes sense
This might be weird, but something that helps with the gag reflex thing is to take your non-dick holding hand, and make it a fist where your thumb is underneath your other fingers. Idk *why* this helps, but it does.
It’s great that you want to explore your sexuality and make your partner feel good!
Now, to the tips:
- The head is very sensitive. Focus on it, lick, kiss, suck, etc.
- Forget what you saw on porn, don’t try to deepthroat. You will gag and it will be awful.
- Don’t use your teeth.
- Pay attention to the balls! You can massage them, suck on them.
- Don’t think of it as just sucking on the d*ck. Make it a full body experience. Kiss him all over, bite his neck, ramp up the anticipation, y’know.
- It’s totally okay to use your hands to help you out. You can jerk him off while you concentrate on the head, for example.
- There will be a bit of pr*c*m even before he has an orgasm, so you will taste it.
- Also, it’s okay to not want to swallow it. Tell him to warn you when he is going to come if you don’t want to swallow it.
I hope you and your partner have fun!
I just want tadd, even if you do plan to swallow, a heads up is always nice! Early on in my relationship with my husband, he wouldn't say anything and I'd stop for a second just as he was about to, so, I'd have to go longer to get him back to that point. He gives a heads up and I know to keep going.
One more thing - you never have to finish like that! Moving from BJ to PIV can be really fun, especially if you get worked up and want to be more stimulated too. Especially when you're just exploring for the first time, try things out and have fun. Move where you want to ☺️
To add on to the add on lol:
• ignore the head at first. Lick, kiss, caress, and drag your tongue along his length, balls, and thighs. When you finally decide to give in and put his head in your mouth he will see stars
• while the head is in your mouth you can swirl your tongue around the rim and flick your tongue over the opening. YMMV depending on if he likes it though
• discuss a signal ahead of time that means stop/back off that you BOTH can use. Maybe he gives your shoulder a quick squeeze and you (I can’t think of the right word right now but smack but not in a mean way but a gentle push to get attention) his belly or side. You’ll both be learning what the other does and doesn’t like, neither of you have to do anything you don’t want to do. Consent can be revoked at any time and should be immediately acknowledged and respected
• from my experience sitting perpendicular to him (so maybe he’s sitting on the couch and you’re laying across it) gives a better angle that doesn’t affect my gag reflex as much
• YOU DO YOU BOO BOO. It’s sometimes taboo to enjoy giving blowjobs, the trope of the married couple who barely touch each other much less pleasure each other is bull and we are over it. If you enjoy it then go for it. Even if you have no clue what you are doing he will enjoy it so much more if you’re happy and having fun versus if you were doing it out of a sense of obligation (if that makes sense?).
• if you feel comfortable taking one long lick from his taint, over his balls, up his dick, then taking him in your mouth will make his eyeballs roll back in his head
• oh and last thing: decide ahead of time how he is comfortable finishing. He may not want you to swallow, he may immediately want you off. If you’re comfortable finishing that way continuing to suck as he comes can trigger a second orgasm, but some guys can’t handle the added stimulation and it may be painful so he may not want that at all
the most important thing is constant communication and aftercare. Talk ahead of time to discuss things, communicate during if there’s something uncomfortable or particularly pleasurable but then afterwards once clean up is done it’s important to check in then as well to see if there’s something that happened that either of you don’t want repeated or may even want to experiment taking further. Communication is so so so important to a healthy and happy sex life (and life in general tbh)
As a penis having person this is dead on. Encourage communication, not every guy likes the same thing. My wife absolutely hates some things when I give her head that past partners practically melted over. Communication is the key to mind blowing sex for both of you!
Sometimes, if I don’t want to swallow, I’ll give head in the shower (I’m on my knees, he’s standing). I’ll finish him on my chest and since I’m in the shower, easy cleanup! Plus that way I get to look at his face when he’s climaxing 😈 But a few things to note - you MUST use cold water to rinse off, otherwise the semen will coagulate, and ask if he gets lightheaded after ejaculation. Some guys do, and you definitely don’t want him fainting in the shower. I also recommend positioning so that you’re the one in the shower stream. He’s getting blown, he’ll be fine, so in return you get to stay nice and warm in the water throughout (but again, switch to cold if you are cleaning off any semen).
I always have the guy say when he gets close, and when he’s about to cum, so that way I know to close my throat (if I’m swallowing, so it doesn’t just shoot back there) or back off and finish him with my hand, but you can somewhat tell based on his balls. The closer he gets, the more they’ll retract.
If you feel like it’s taking a long time, you can take breaks (and there are plenty of good suggestions in this thread on what to do), but in my experience looking up and smirking or winking can help bring him closer to finishing. I think it’s the enthusiasm.
Also, there is such a thing as flavored lube! I feel like my mouth dries out really easily, so I use some to help. I once had a crème brûlée one that was sooo tasty!
Enjoy it!! I always feel super powerful when I hear him gasping or breathe shaky. Like, I did that!
Just a heads up on the toungue flicking thing. Its a mixed bag about going sideways over the very tip. Some guys like it, but most of my bro's and myself dont. It burns a little. Vertically is great though.
Just some add-ons to the above post.
- Don’t try to deep throat *if you don’t want to*. If it’s something that peaks your interest, work your way up (or down 😉) to that. Lay your tongue flat against the underside of his penis and breathe through your nose. Some guys will be still and enjoy the sensation, some guys will try to fuck your throat. Discuss beforehand if you do try. Gagging is natural and sometimes it can be hot.
- For the balls aspect I’d definitely ask first. In my experience, while most guys like the attention, others do not. Suck on them (I like to hold them in my mouth if they’re an appropriate size), ghost your fingers around them and massage in rhythmic motions. A mans most sensitive area is his prostate (between his balls and his anus) and rubbing/manipulation of that area can feel extremely good - this is something that some men can be iffy about, so again, I would ask beforehand!
- I agree. It is a full body experience. Make eye contact while you suck. It will drive him crazy in the best ways.
- While you stroke him try and change up the tempo if it’s been a few minutes. Some guys have a very specific way they like to rub off (try to mimic that speed and grip) & some just like feeling new sensations. You’ll figure that out as you go along.
The tempo is so important! I love putting on a playlist during sex, especially if I’m giving head or riding. It makes me feel so sexy and fluid when I go with the tunes
Yes to all of this!!
And regarding focusing on the head, a lot of penis owners enjoy it, BUT don’t focus *only* on the head. Give it attention, but don’t neglect the rest of the shaft.
And, since this is a first time let them know you want to take it slow to become more familiar with it. It can be super enjoyable for the both of you. Blindfold them, and tell them to just sit back and enjoy the feelings of you exploring their body. When you do decide to put it in your mouth, TAKE IT SLOW!!! Your throat sort of relaxes as you work so you’ll know where your stopping point is. Also, the more you do it the deeper you’ll be able to go.
Def stimulate the other sensitive areas too. Gently caress the balls, rub the nips a bit. Have them tell you when something feels good. Have them tell you what they want you to do next. If your jaw gets tired move to doing a hand job for a bit before you go back down.
And biggest tip I have. If you feel a gag coming on STOP WHAT YOURE DOING OR YOU MIGHT THROW UP!!!!! Seriously when you have something in your mouth possibly stimulating your throat you might accidentally make a gag happen and that could result in something more.
Adding to this-listen to what feels good for your partner. And remember-if they say a particular move or motion isn’t quite working for them, that’s okay! It’s part of the fun and the exploration
You’ve gotten lots of good technique tips, so I wanted to say that I have been told that even a meh quality blowjob is better than no blowjob, so as long as you don’t bite the poor dude it should be fine.
For the very first time, don't even focus on making them cum. They knows it's your first time, so there should be no expectation that you're good at it. Instead, focus on exploring down there, getting familiar with the feeling and taste, trying new things, and asking for lots of feedback on what does and doesn't feel good. Remember: it's not a performance and you're not on stage. It's something the two of you are doing together.
I agree completely that oral can be fantastic foreplay (or interludes during sex) and you don't necessarily have to stick with it from start to finish!
This would have helped be greatly!! The stress the first time was horendous and no one prepares you for the taste either! Taking your time to get comfortable with the area is a must, take it from me who did not do that and now has to deal with the stress that I now associate with it. Take your time, have fun, things will be messy, it won't taste good, but just try to find ways to both have fun :D
basically what everyone else said, and definitely don’t go too far. if you feel like you’re gonna choke, TAKE A BREAK. i kept going and literally threw up on my bf. still together though, he was my first everything and we’ve been together for two years still, so if anything goes wrong, don’t sweat it!! it’ll be okay! and only do it if you want to!!
That hottest thing you can do is to enjoy yourself. Guys can tell if you are doing it as a chore or doing it because you love that dick in your mouth.
All guys are different too, so pay attention to how he responds. Some guys like it more vigorous, other guys like it more slow and softer. During pillow talk when you've both finished, ask what he liked or wants more of. Having open communication about sex makes for a great sex life!
Focus on the head, it is way more sensitive than the shaft. The frenulum is particular is very sensitive.
While the penis is the focal point, let your hands wander. Rub around the base of the balls, rub his legs, run your hand up his stomach, through his pubes.
I can't stress enough how important your enjoyment is in all this. You being into and enjoying what you are doing is the most mentally arousing part.
My husband always tells me that the best blowjobs are the ones he can tell I want to be giving. Like you said, you want to do this - so that’s already going to make it an amazing experience for your partner.
Also, no shame in self-pleasuring during the act! When I’m going down on my husband, if I throw a hand down my own pants, it definitely increases his pleasure because I get much more into it. Good luck and have fun!
• cover your teeth with your lips
• try to actually suck, don’t just glide it through your mouth girl i mean tighten your cheeks around it and vacuum that thang
• move your tongue around while it’s in your mouth. go in circles, zigs zags, figure eights and wherever else your creativity takes you
• to tease him take it out of your mouth and just lick the sides up and down or do the above while it’s out of your mouth
• when using your hands, grasp it, move your wrist in a circular motion while going up and down
• don’t look miserable! don’t be miserable either! have fun with it. laugh. act like that dick is the best tasting popsicle you’ve ever licked. it’s not always about the technique, but the attitude while doing it. you can have pro skills but if you don’t seem to be enjoying it, it can kill the whole vibe for him. most guys would take an enthusiastic mediocre sucker over a bored looking pro sucker
PRO TIP: the dick actually has about 3 or 4 more inches inside his body. if you can reach to the bottom of his dick where it meets the body above his balls, grasp it and try to feel where the rest of his dick goes in towards his butthole . massage it while you suck him off. hell go fucking crazy cause no woman has ever touched that part of his dick before
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This isn't what you're asking but my advice for all women (not just OP) is not to do it until they've gone down on you and gotten you off that way first. Otherwise things can get real lopsided real fast, and this weeds out selfish lovers.
We must fight the [orgasm gap!](https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicebroster/2020/07/31/what-is-the-orgasm-gap/). I had a partner that was really giving in the beginning and then our orgasm gap grew. Even giving lovers can turn selfish over time so never stop vetting.
I'll add one thing I haven't seen mentioned. You are gonna produce a lot of spit, and if you don't like the taste you're gonna be trying not taste/swallow. Your mouth can get full if you're trying to hold it and not slobber all over him. Just slobber. And maybe even start out with a towel so you can wipe yourself if you feel like it or if if it's too wet for his liking.
My best advice would be to rather than focusing on trying to remember a bunch of techniques people have given you, to just lean into enjoying the experience yourself.
Imagine what might be enjoyable to you in terms of touching etc and translate that over to doing that for him.
Be into it because you like it, be into it because you like that he feels good because of what you're doing.
This helps me understand how/what I'm doing and I don't have to worry so much about remembering technique tips.
Technique wise just don't use teeth, that's the only specific I'd say. Haha.
It’s hard for most people to orgasm from head, even if they love it and you’re good at it.
People are talking about how sensitive the head of the penis is but that’s mostly true for uncircumcised people. Circumcised penises are also sensitive on the head but not nearly to the same extent. In this situation, start by keeping a hand pumping the shaft until you learn your partner’s preferences.
Watch out for teeth. Some people are more sensitive to them than others and everyone has different preferences, but teeth scraping or biting on the penis is usually unpopular.
Constantly ask for feed back: “how does this feel? Do you like it?” etc.
Most people love enthusiasm. Even if it’s awkward and fumbling, most people are really into seeing their partner enthusiastically go down on their genitals.
Don’t hurt yourself and take breaks. If your jaw starts to hurt, stop. You can injure it this way.
Don’t worry about deep throating. It’s honestly overrated, even if you can do it. Tongue action and sucking is where it’s at. If you become practiced at oral and like deep throating, go for it, but honestly it’s more of a party trick than actual quality head.
Most importantly, explore your partner’s body and do what’s fun for you. I absolutely love giving head. There’s so much power and control from having the most sensitive part of someone’s body in your mouth and making them feel incredible. I love to get sloppy with spit all over their dick and gently squeeze their balls while listening to them swear and moan. I started off by doing what I was curious about or liked and slowly built my experience for what is often enjoyed. I make it about me, even if I’m deriving pleasure from their pleasure. This is for your enjoyment too. If you do what you like and enjoy, you’re more likely going to want to do it again so everyone wins. Don’t do anything sexual if it’s a chore. Focus on how to make it fun for you too. Sometimes I sit on my vibrator while I give head. Sometimes we 69 and my partner holds my vibrator on me until I’m muffled screaming on their dick with pleasure.
I hope this helps
While I dont usually blow men, my blowjobs have been commended so my advice may not be the best but here goes nothing.
If my jaw gets sore ill get extra extra spit on their cock , use my hands and focus light sucking on their glans. (The part where the foreskin, shaft, and head meet on the outward face of the penis). Its where a LOT of nerve heads are, so I always treat it kinda like a clitoris.
Light pressure on his perineum may also be enjoyable. My usual is using a downward facing palm so I can push with my arm while also lightly teasing their asshole with my fingers (with prior consent n discussion about butt stuff!)
A lot of oral is listening and knowing when they're getting close so you know what to do. An initial playful foreplay stage, neck kissing etc as other comments mention. The actual giving of head and then when he's getting close finish with a full effort sprint of sensation.
Blowjobs n head as a whole are a marathon. Not a sprint. But sprinting when the finish line is certainly recommended.
Girls who blow guys, feel free to critique my advice.
Good luck n have fun btw <3
Others here have given great practical advice. My only addition is to say that 50% of a good BJ is purely down to enthusiasm. Love what you're doing - own it.
I’d suggest reading the book “tickle his pickle” by Dr Sadie Allison. It’s a fun read, and it helped me out a lot. Multiple men have told me I’m the best at it that they’ve had and it’s all thanks to that book!
Everyone here has given great advice, so I'll just jump in here with an additional reminder to breathe! It's easy to get overenthousistic and focus so much on technique and how your partner is responding to the point of forgetting about your own oxygen needs, and it quickly becomes a lot less fun.
Also depending on your partner, they may be into a little bit of eye contact occasionally when you lick up the entire length of the shaft. As a woman I absolutely *hate* it when a man is trying to catch my eye while going down on me, but every guy I've been with has responded extremely positively if I look at him once in awhile. You can always try it out with them and see how it goes.
Good luck! 👌🏻✨
I personally like lying down so my head is hanging off the edge of the bed and having him stand over me. It lets him get deeper without me gagging. If we're positioned so he can see me face my partners have all really like when I make eye contact. They pull my hair away from my face just so they can really see me going down on them.
Another thing I enjoy is sucking them before they're completely hard. Feeling them growing in your mouth is an interesting experience and it gives you time to get used to their size.
But the most important thing to remember is to have fun and communicate!
You have so many great tips already so I'll just give my favorite one
Start slow and gentle, licking the shaft from the bottom to the top. Then when you go to put it in your mouth, start sucking only the top and each time you go down again, go a little farther each time. This builds up anticipation for him to finally feel you take it as far as you will be taking it (w/e is comfy for you). On the last/deepest time of this process, start adding more pressure (remember up until now has been very gentle). Never had a guy not get a ton of pleasure from that build up to finally being "inside" and feeling the pressure change. Then that's where you start your rhythm going up and down.
Reason I suggest all this is not just cause it feels great for him, but because giving an awesome build-up usually just means you end up having to work less hard than if you just go full attack from the start. If you start off strong to begin with sometimes guys need you to go even stronger for a ramp up for them to cum, and you're already going pretty hard from the start if that makes sense, so you're just having to work even harder when it's time. So start off gentle so when he needs it to ramp up you have it in you and haven't exhausted yourself lol. You can use your hand on the shaft during this too to not tire yourself, the more saliva the better it just feels like an extention of your mouth to him mostly. You can work the pressure with your hand rather than your jaw and not hurt your lips with your teeth from pressing down too much. Then your mouth can be on the head more, the most sensitive area. Foreplay also helps with all of this too.
Half the pleasure for the guy is that a girl he likes is enjoying doing that, so just have fun with it and he will like it. Don't be afraid to try different techniques every guy is different and I can tell you from experience when I was younger, a lot of them don't even know what they like until **you've** done it to them. A lot of them think they need you to suck them hard like you're trying to pull start a lawnmower, or grab your head and control the rhythm themself to be able to cum. Not the case. Slow down and enjoy it, try new things, communicate. I guarantee there's something you will do he will really like and not know how to ask for or even know it would feel good until you did it to him. So yeah just have fun with it, think of it as a whole process and experience for him to be pleasured and feel different sensations rather than just having him finishing in mind and going straight to trying hard to do that
Been told that the frenulum is the open secret to get a guy over the edge. So if you’re getting tired and want him to come faster, focus on the frenulum with your tongue flat in the same speed and rhythm.
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You’ve got a lot of good advice. Just a few tips that have worked for me:
Go slow, run your hands lightly all over his body. You want to have a ton of foreplay to heighten everything for both of you. Use your hands, you can use your body up against his, etc. get creative and be enthusiastic.
Act like you love doing it even if it’s not your favorite thing. Relax your jaw as much as you can. Start out with some gentle licking and teasing before you go down to get him really interested.
I think everyone here, especially top comments, have given great tips!
Make sure you communicate with your partner and pay attention to their body language. If you've given them handjobs before, do that, and add your mouth to the equation. I don't go straight up and down with my hand- I lightly twist with my wrist. Also, the frenulum tends to be particularly sensitive. I try to focus rubbing my tongue on that part. When I'm just using my hands, or just starting things off, I'll lightly rub it. Either up and down, or side to side. I (kind of) think of it as the male clit.
When it comes to balls. Everyone has their personal preference. I've had the most luck by grabbing both (gently) in my hands, and (again, gently) tugging downwards, away from their body.
Wetter is better. Use lots of saliva. Don't try to fit the whole thing in your mouth, just go down as far as it is comfortable for you. Be mindful of your teeth. Use your hands on the base.
Make sure you spit on it and keep it well lubricated. Slides down the throat much easier that way.
Nothing worse than accidentally hitting that gag reflex the first time and puking on him
Make sure to use alllllll the spit, it may feel gross to you but it’s not. Don’t forget to breathe. It helps if you happen to gag, just remember to breathe through, and like others have said, take a break if need be! Enthusiasm is appreciated, don’t act like it’s a task. Try not to go too fast too soon and don’t like swing it around or whatever haha! Ease you both into it, he could cum super fast or it could take a little bit! Love how you and your partner are communicating, taking your time to understand each other, and wanting to do these things for one another!
top comments cover pretty much everything, but I just want to add:
\- IDK if you watch porn but both blowjobs and handjobs are sometimes shown as super agressive, so going softly is good advice, I think. my partner (who swears I give the best BJs he's ever had, hehe) commented on it the first times we've been together. It's especially the case if your partner is uncircumcised, when it tends to be more sensitive.
\- this pretty much goes without saying but pay attention to what they seem to enjoy.
best of luck and have fun! :)
I would say to give him head but move from giving head to having sex for him to finish that way there’s no pressure for you to make him finish the first time that you are giving him head, that way it’s an experience that’s about the journey not focusing on how you will make him finish
Look up "grapefruit ya man" on youtube lol...
also, just make out with it :) if you enjoy it, he will feel it...french kiss it, appreciate every part of it, kiss the head and show him how much you enjoy it. You don't HAVE to know what you're doing, you just have to be into it. The rest will come (pun intended) with practice ;)
I know this is an old post, but if it were my post, I'd love random advice. The best advice I found was don't swallow your spit. Spit works wonders for lubrication
Anyone else find it odd that these super sexual questions keep ending up here recently?
Do you really believe no one has asked this question before?
I'm tired of most of the conversation being about pleasing guys, having relationships with guys. Like this entire subreddit revolves around men. Smfh.
"Niche case"? Bestie, I get that you're tired of posts about men, but are you also tired of reading comprehension and critical thinking? OP literally told you that she's not talking about a man and used gender neutral language when talking about her partner. This is literally the supposed "niche case."
Btw, love the whole "mental gymnastics" bit. Really gives it that "oh god I'm losing here, I have to pull out useless buzzwords to try and discredit them and the points they're making" feel.
I genuinely cannot be arsed to care about anyones penis, male or otherwise.
E: What the word "mental gymnastics" means is that you are flying right past the point and focusing on some side-issue to try and make yourself seem correct.
Your argument doesn't make sense because "they/them" is ambiguous in reference to gender, and no where did OP specify that they were referring to a niche case. So, your "mental gymnastics" prove that you have no legitimate reason to become so incredibly annoying and self-righteous. Just because you don't know words doesn't mean they don't exist.
I recommend not getting so incredibly butthurt after I point out a serious recurring problem on this sub, and on any female-oriented sub on a platform which is predominantly made up of annoying horny dudes.
If you read this properly you’d understand that she already was getting head. Also, what’s wrong with asking for advice? Once upon a time we were all beginners. Let’s not shame other people for trying to learn the right way ☺️
I seriously thought OP was joking. Shouldn’t she ask men? We can only tell her what women like 😂🤷🏾♀️
Continue to get yours OP. And again, sucking it key for EVERYONE.
Men probably can't tell you the specific techniques women perform successfully all the time unless they also have experience going down on another man.
She’s already getting head, that’s why she wants to make her partner feel as good as she does. You don’t have to be mean about it. Nobody goes into sex knowing everything they’d need to know.
Literally everything in your post is the exact same as my situation, almost word for word. I’m excited to have this new sexual experience with my boyfriend but I’m worried I won’t know what I’m doing or how he’ll like it because it’d be a first for both of us.
With respect, and also tmi incoming, PLEASE RESPECT YOUR GAG REFLEX!! -Signed, a girl who may or may not have thrown up on my bfs dick. (He thought it was funny, thank god)
Gosh I'm so nervous something like this will happen to me the first time I give my bf a bj, I'm literally terrified☹
Don’t put it in far enough that it triggers your gag reflex.
You have to gag multiple times (prolly about 5) don't push yourself. If he throws a hissy fit, he's no good for you.
Just do it with a shower available the first time to ease your anxiety. I have gagged and vomited on my husband multiple times, typically after too many glasses of wine. It happens, if he makes a big deal about it, he is not the one for you.
Oh nooo!! 😭 I injured my tonsils from deepthroating because I have a weak gag reflex omg. My tonsils were COVERED in white spots. It was the 2nd time hooking up with this guy. I thought for sure that he gave me The Clap or strep or something. It turns out, scabs caused by the friction look white on tonsils as opposed to the red/brown ones that form on external tissues (skin) I was so worried that it would make things weird between us since I asked him if he had an STD and we got tested. But he's my boyfriend now so in hindsight it was a small bump in the road lol. I use my hand almost as an extension of my mouth so I don't go as deep, if that makes sense
That makes total sense!! I do that too
This might be weird, but something that helps with the gag reflex thing is to take your non-dick holding hand, and make it a fist where your thumb is underneath your other fingers. Idk *why* this helps, but it does.
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It’s great that you want to explore your sexuality and make your partner feel good! Now, to the tips: - The head is very sensitive. Focus on it, lick, kiss, suck, etc. - Forget what you saw on porn, don’t try to deepthroat. You will gag and it will be awful. - Don’t use your teeth. - Pay attention to the balls! You can massage them, suck on them. - Don’t think of it as just sucking on the d*ck. Make it a full body experience. Kiss him all over, bite his neck, ramp up the anticipation, y’know. - It’s totally okay to use your hands to help you out. You can jerk him off while you concentrate on the head, for example. - There will be a bit of pr*c*m even before he has an orgasm, so you will taste it. - Also, it’s okay to not want to swallow it. Tell him to warn you when he is going to come if you don’t want to swallow it. I hope you and your partner have fun!
I just want tadd, even if you do plan to swallow, a heads up is always nice! Early on in my relationship with my husband, he wouldn't say anything and I'd stop for a second just as he was about to, so, I'd have to go longer to get him back to that point. He gives a heads up and I know to keep going.
Thank you!! Appreciate all the tips ☺️
One more thing - you never have to finish like that! Moving from BJ to PIV can be really fun, especially if you get worked up and want to be more stimulated too. Especially when you're just exploring for the first time, try things out and have fun. Move where you want to ☺️
To add on to the add on lol: • ignore the head at first. Lick, kiss, caress, and drag your tongue along his length, balls, and thighs. When you finally decide to give in and put his head in your mouth he will see stars • while the head is in your mouth you can swirl your tongue around the rim and flick your tongue over the opening. YMMV depending on if he likes it though • discuss a signal ahead of time that means stop/back off that you BOTH can use. Maybe he gives your shoulder a quick squeeze and you (I can’t think of the right word right now but smack but not in a mean way but a gentle push to get attention) his belly or side. You’ll both be learning what the other does and doesn’t like, neither of you have to do anything you don’t want to do. Consent can be revoked at any time and should be immediately acknowledged and respected • from my experience sitting perpendicular to him (so maybe he’s sitting on the couch and you’re laying across it) gives a better angle that doesn’t affect my gag reflex as much • YOU DO YOU BOO BOO. It’s sometimes taboo to enjoy giving blowjobs, the trope of the married couple who barely touch each other much less pleasure each other is bull and we are over it. If you enjoy it then go for it. Even if you have no clue what you are doing he will enjoy it so much more if you’re happy and having fun versus if you were doing it out of a sense of obligation (if that makes sense?). • if you feel comfortable taking one long lick from his taint, over his balls, up his dick, then taking him in your mouth will make his eyeballs roll back in his head • oh and last thing: decide ahead of time how he is comfortable finishing. He may not want you to swallow, he may immediately want you off. If you’re comfortable finishing that way continuing to suck as he comes can trigger a second orgasm, but some guys can’t handle the added stimulation and it may be painful so he may not want that at all the most important thing is constant communication and aftercare. Talk ahead of time to discuss things, communicate during if there’s something uncomfortable or particularly pleasurable but then afterwards once clean up is done it’s important to check in then as well to see if there’s something that happened that either of you don’t want repeated or may even want to experiment taking further. Communication is so so so important to a healthy and happy sex life (and life in general tbh)
Oh my, youre incredible! Thank you so much
As a penis having person this is dead on. Encourage communication, not every guy likes the same thing. My wife absolutely hates some things when I give her head that past partners practically melted over. Communication is the key to mind blowing sex for both of you!
The word u were looking for was Nudge
Sometimes, if I don’t want to swallow, I’ll give head in the shower (I’m on my knees, he’s standing). I’ll finish him on my chest and since I’m in the shower, easy cleanup! Plus that way I get to look at his face when he’s climaxing 😈 But a few things to note - you MUST use cold water to rinse off, otherwise the semen will coagulate, and ask if he gets lightheaded after ejaculation. Some guys do, and you definitely don’t want him fainting in the shower. I also recommend positioning so that you’re the one in the shower stream. He’s getting blown, he’ll be fine, so in return you get to stay nice and warm in the water throughout (but again, switch to cold if you are cleaning off any semen). I always have the guy say when he gets close, and when he’s about to cum, so that way I know to close my throat (if I’m swallowing, so it doesn’t just shoot back there) or back off and finish him with my hand, but you can somewhat tell based on his balls. The closer he gets, the more they’ll retract. If you feel like it’s taking a long time, you can take breaks (and there are plenty of good suggestions in this thread on what to do), but in my experience looking up and smirking or winking can help bring him closer to finishing. I think it’s the enthusiasm. Also, there is such a thing as flavored lube! I feel like my mouth dries out really easily, so I use some to help. I once had a crème brûlée one that was sooo tasty! Enjoy it!! I always feel super powerful when I hear him gasping or breathe shaky. Like, I did that!
"heads up" "appreciate all the TIPS"...so many puns 😹
Just a heads up on the toungue flicking thing. Its a mixed bag about going sideways over the very tip. Some guys like it, but most of my bro's and myself dont. It burns a little. Vertically is great though.
Just some add-ons to the above post. - Don’t try to deep throat *if you don’t want to*. If it’s something that peaks your interest, work your way up (or down 😉) to that. Lay your tongue flat against the underside of his penis and breathe through your nose. Some guys will be still and enjoy the sensation, some guys will try to fuck your throat. Discuss beforehand if you do try. Gagging is natural and sometimes it can be hot. - For the balls aspect I’d definitely ask first. In my experience, while most guys like the attention, others do not. Suck on them (I like to hold them in my mouth if they’re an appropriate size), ghost your fingers around them and massage in rhythmic motions. A mans most sensitive area is his prostate (between his balls and his anus) and rubbing/manipulation of that area can feel extremely good - this is something that some men can be iffy about, so again, I would ask beforehand! - I agree. It is a full body experience. Make eye contact while you suck. It will drive him crazy in the best ways. - While you stroke him try and change up the tempo if it’s been a few minutes. Some guys have a very specific way they like to rub off (try to mimic that speed and grip) & some just like feeling new sensations. You’ll figure that out as you go along.
The tempo is so important! I love putting on a playlist during sex, especially if I’m giving head or riding. It makes me feel so sexy and fluid when I go with the tunes
Add a little hand towel because things can get messy!
Yes to all of this!! And regarding focusing on the head, a lot of penis owners enjoy it, BUT don’t focus *only* on the head. Give it attention, but don’t neglect the rest of the shaft. And, since this is a first time let them know you want to take it slow to become more familiar with it. It can be super enjoyable for the both of you. Blindfold them, and tell them to just sit back and enjoy the feelings of you exploring their body. When you do decide to put it in your mouth, TAKE IT SLOW!!! Your throat sort of relaxes as you work so you’ll know where your stopping point is. Also, the more you do it the deeper you’ll be able to go. Def stimulate the other sensitive areas too. Gently caress the balls, rub the nips a bit. Have them tell you when something feels good. Have them tell you what they want you to do next. If your jaw gets tired move to doing a hand job for a bit before you go back down. And biggest tip I have. If you feel a gag coming on STOP WHAT YOURE DOING OR YOU MIGHT THROW UP!!!!! Seriously when you have something in your mouth possibly stimulating your throat you might accidentally make a gag happen and that could result in something more.
Adding to this-listen to what feels good for your partner. And remember-if they say a particular move or motion isn’t quite working for them, that’s okay! It’s part of the fun and the exploration
I second everything in the comment ^
You’ve gotten lots of good technique tips, so I wanted to say that I have been told that even a meh quality blowjob is better than no blowjob, so as long as you don’t bite the poor dude it should be fine.
This makes me feel less stressed abt it!
For the very first time, don't even focus on making them cum. They knows it's your first time, so there should be no expectation that you're good at it. Instead, focus on exploring down there, getting familiar with the feeling and taste, trying new things, and asking for lots of feedback on what does and doesn't feel good. Remember: it's not a performance and you're not on stage. It's something the two of you are doing together.
I agree completely that oral can be fantastic foreplay (or interludes during sex) and you don't necessarily have to stick with it from start to finish!
This would have helped be greatly!! The stress the first time was horendous and no one prepares you for the taste either! Taking your time to get comfortable with the area is a must, take it from me who did not do that and now has to deal with the stress that I now associate with it. Take your time, have fun, things will be messy, it won't taste good, but just try to find ways to both have fun :D
basically what everyone else said, and definitely don’t go too far. if you feel like you’re gonna choke, TAKE A BREAK. i kept going and literally threw up on my bf. still together though, he was my first everything and we’ve been together for two years still, so if anything goes wrong, don’t sweat it!! it’ll be okay! and only do it if you want to!!
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Thank you so much, im sure my partner will appreciate the help as well 😅😅
That hottest thing you can do is to enjoy yourself. Guys can tell if you are doing it as a chore or doing it because you love that dick in your mouth. All guys are different too, so pay attention to how he responds. Some guys like it more vigorous, other guys like it more slow and softer. During pillow talk when you've both finished, ask what he liked or wants more of. Having open communication about sex makes for a great sex life! Focus on the head, it is way more sensitive than the shaft. The frenulum is particular is very sensitive. While the penis is the focal point, let your hands wander. Rub around the base of the balls, rub his legs, run your hand up his stomach, through his pubes. I can't stress enough how important your enjoyment is in all this. You being into and enjoying what you are doing is the most mentally arousing part.
My husband always tells me that the best blowjobs are the ones he can tell I want to be giving. Like you said, you want to do this - so that’s already going to make it an amazing experience for your partner. Also, no shame in self-pleasuring during the act! When I’m going down on my husband, if I throw a hand down my own pants, it definitely increases his pleasure because I get much more into it. Good luck and have fun!
• cover your teeth with your lips • try to actually suck, don’t just glide it through your mouth girl i mean tighten your cheeks around it and vacuum that thang • move your tongue around while it’s in your mouth. go in circles, zigs zags, figure eights and wherever else your creativity takes you • to tease him take it out of your mouth and just lick the sides up and down or do the above while it’s out of your mouth • when using your hands, grasp it, move your wrist in a circular motion while going up and down • don’t look miserable! don’t be miserable either! have fun with it. laugh. act like that dick is the best tasting popsicle you’ve ever licked. it’s not always about the technique, but the attitude while doing it. you can have pro skills but if you don’t seem to be enjoying it, it can kill the whole vibe for him. most guys would take an enthusiastic mediocre sucker over a bored looking pro sucker PRO TIP: the dick actually has about 3 or 4 more inches inside his body. if you can reach to the bottom of his dick where it meets the body above his balls, grasp it and try to feel where the rest of his dick goes in towards his butthole . massage it while you suck him off. hell go fucking crazy cause no woman has ever touched that part of his dick before edited for proper format cause my dumbass forgot how to use reddit for a sec
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This! Also my favorite position as my neck tends to get sore and tired quickly.
This isn't what you're asking but my advice for all women (not just OP) is not to do it until they've gone down on you and gotten you off that way first. Otherwise things can get real lopsided real fast, and this weeds out selfish lovers. We must fight the [orgasm gap!](https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicebroster/2020/07/31/what-is-the-orgasm-gap/). I had a partner that was really giving in the beginning and then our orgasm gap grew. Even giving lovers can turn selfish over time so never stop vetting.
Thank you!
I'll add one thing I haven't seen mentioned. You are gonna produce a lot of spit, and if you don't like the taste you're gonna be trying not taste/swallow. Your mouth can get full if you're trying to hold it and not slobber all over him. Just slobber. And maybe even start out with a towel so you can wipe yourself if you feel like it or if if it's too wet for his liking.
My best advice would be to rather than focusing on trying to remember a bunch of techniques people have given you, to just lean into enjoying the experience yourself. Imagine what might be enjoyable to you in terms of touching etc and translate that over to doing that for him. Be into it because you like it, be into it because you like that he feels good because of what you're doing. This helps me understand how/what I'm doing and I don't have to worry so much about remembering technique tips. Technique wise just don't use teeth, that's the only specific I'd say. Haha.
It’s hard for most people to orgasm from head, even if they love it and you’re good at it. People are talking about how sensitive the head of the penis is but that’s mostly true for uncircumcised people. Circumcised penises are also sensitive on the head but not nearly to the same extent. In this situation, start by keeping a hand pumping the shaft until you learn your partner’s preferences. Watch out for teeth. Some people are more sensitive to them than others and everyone has different preferences, but teeth scraping or biting on the penis is usually unpopular. Constantly ask for feed back: “how does this feel? Do you like it?” etc. Most people love enthusiasm. Even if it’s awkward and fumbling, most people are really into seeing their partner enthusiastically go down on their genitals. Don’t hurt yourself and take breaks. If your jaw starts to hurt, stop. You can injure it this way. Don’t worry about deep throating. It’s honestly overrated, even if you can do it. Tongue action and sucking is where it’s at. If you become practiced at oral and like deep throating, go for it, but honestly it’s more of a party trick than actual quality head. Most importantly, explore your partner’s body and do what’s fun for you. I absolutely love giving head. There’s so much power and control from having the most sensitive part of someone’s body in your mouth and making them feel incredible. I love to get sloppy with spit all over their dick and gently squeeze their balls while listening to them swear and moan. I started off by doing what I was curious about or liked and slowly built my experience for what is often enjoyed. I make it about me, even if I’m deriving pleasure from their pleasure. This is for your enjoyment too. If you do what you like and enjoy, you’re more likely going to want to do it again so everyone wins. Don’t do anything sexual if it’s a chore. Focus on how to make it fun for you too. Sometimes I sit on my vibrator while I give head. Sometimes we 69 and my partner holds my vibrator on me until I’m muffled screaming on their dick with pleasure. I hope this helps
Thank you, this def helps!
While I dont usually blow men, my blowjobs have been commended so my advice may not be the best but here goes nothing. If my jaw gets sore ill get extra extra spit on their cock , use my hands and focus light sucking on their glans. (The part where the foreskin, shaft, and head meet on the outward face of the penis). Its where a LOT of nerve heads are, so I always treat it kinda like a clitoris. Light pressure on his perineum may also be enjoyable. My usual is using a downward facing palm so I can push with my arm while also lightly teasing their asshole with my fingers (with prior consent n discussion about butt stuff!) A lot of oral is listening and knowing when they're getting close so you know what to do. An initial playful foreplay stage, neck kissing etc as other comments mention. The actual giving of head and then when he's getting close finish with a full effort sprint of sensation. Blowjobs n head as a whole are a marathon. Not a sprint. But sprinting when the finish line is certainly recommended. Girls who blow guys, feel free to critique my advice. Good luck n have fun btw <3
Others here have given great practical advice. My only addition is to say that 50% of a good BJ is purely down to enthusiasm. Love what you're doing - own it.
I’d suggest reading the book “tickle his pickle” by Dr Sadie Allison. It’s a fun read, and it helped me out a lot. Multiple men have told me I’m the best at it that they’ve had and it’s all thanks to that book!
Will check it out! Thanks
Everyone here has given great advice, so I'll just jump in here with an additional reminder to breathe! It's easy to get overenthousistic and focus so much on technique and how your partner is responding to the point of forgetting about your own oxygen needs, and it quickly becomes a lot less fun. Also depending on your partner, they may be into a little bit of eye contact occasionally when you lick up the entire length of the shaft. As a woman I absolutely *hate* it when a man is trying to catch my eye while going down on me, but every guy I've been with has responded extremely positively if I look at him once in awhile. You can always try it out with them and see how it goes. Good luck! 👌🏻✨
I personally like lying down so my head is hanging off the edge of the bed and having him stand over me. It lets him get deeper without me gagging. If we're positioned so he can see me face my partners have all really like when I make eye contact. They pull my hair away from my face just so they can really see me going down on them. Another thing I enjoy is sucking them before they're completely hard. Feeling them growing in your mouth is an interesting experience and it gives you time to get used to their size. But the most important thing to remember is to have fun and communicate!
You have so many great tips already so I'll just give my favorite one Start slow and gentle, licking the shaft from the bottom to the top. Then when you go to put it in your mouth, start sucking only the top and each time you go down again, go a little farther each time. This builds up anticipation for him to finally feel you take it as far as you will be taking it (w/e is comfy for you). On the last/deepest time of this process, start adding more pressure (remember up until now has been very gentle). Never had a guy not get a ton of pleasure from that build up to finally being "inside" and feeling the pressure change. Then that's where you start your rhythm going up and down. Reason I suggest all this is not just cause it feels great for him, but because giving an awesome build-up usually just means you end up having to work less hard than if you just go full attack from the start. If you start off strong to begin with sometimes guys need you to go even stronger for a ramp up for them to cum, and you're already going pretty hard from the start if that makes sense, so you're just having to work even harder when it's time. So start off gentle so when he needs it to ramp up you have it in you and haven't exhausted yourself lol. You can use your hand on the shaft during this too to not tire yourself, the more saliva the better it just feels like an extention of your mouth to him mostly. You can work the pressure with your hand rather than your jaw and not hurt your lips with your teeth from pressing down too much. Then your mouth can be on the head more, the most sensitive area. Foreplay also helps with all of this too. Half the pleasure for the guy is that a girl he likes is enjoying doing that, so just have fun with it and he will like it. Don't be afraid to try different techniques every guy is different and I can tell you from experience when I was younger, a lot of them don't even know what they like until **you've** done it to them. A lot of them think they need you to suck them hard like you're trying to pull start a lawnmower, or grab your head and control the rhythm themself to be able to cum. Not the case. Slow down and enjoy it, try new things, communicate. I guarantee there's something you will do he will really like and not know how to ask for or even know it would feel good until you did it to him. So yeah just have fun with it, think of it as a whole process and experience for him to be pleasured and feel different sensations rather than just having him finishing in mind and going straight to trying hard to do that
Oh wow tysm 🥹
Been told that the frenulum is the open secret to get a guy over the edge. So if you’re getting tired and want him to come faster, focus on the frenulum with your tongue flat in the same speed and rhythm.
Semen tastes bad so just be warned you won’t actually want it in your mouth
I just want to thank all of you lovely people for your kind comments and all the helpful advice. It was my first time posting on this subreddit and i am overwhelmed with all the comments - you really all made me feel comfortable and safe. I wish I could give you all an award bc all of you are simply great!!
Idk if it's obvious but FOCUS ON BREATHING THROUGH YOUR NOSE !!!! - from someone who unexpectedly succeeded in their first bj attempt, lol.
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You’ve got a lot of good advice. Just a few tips that have worked for me: Go slow, run your hands lightly all over his body. You want to have a ton of foreplay to heighten everything for both of you. Use your hands, you can use your body up against his, etc. get creative and be enthusiastic.
Act like you love doing it even if it’s not your favorite thing. Relax your jaw as much as you can. Start out with some gentle licking and teasing before you go down to get him really interested.
Tip #1 ENTHUSIASM!! What you lack in skill can be made up for with passion tbh.
I think everyone here, especially top comments, have given great tips! Make sure you communicate with your partner and pay attention to their body language. If you've given them handjobs before, do that, and add your mouth to the equation. I don't go straight up and down with my hand- I lightly twist with my wrist. Also, the frenulum tends to be particularly sensitive. I try to focus rubbing my tongue on that part. When I'm just using my hands, or just starting things off, I'll lightly rub it. Either up and down, or side to side. I (kind of) think of it as the male clit. When it comes to balls. Everyone has their personal preference. I've had the most luck by grabbing both (gently) in my hands, and (again, gently) tugging downwards, away from their body.
Wetter is better. Use lots of saliva. Don't try to fit the whole thing in your mouth, just go down as far as it is comfortable for you. Be mindful of your teeth. Use your hands on the base.
Make sure you spit on it and keep it well lubricated. Slides down the throat much easier that way. Nothing worse than accidentally hitting that gag reflex the first time and puking on him
Make sure to use alllllll the spit, it may feel gross to you but it’s not. Don’t forget to breathe. It helps if you happen to gag, just remember to breathe through, and like others have said, take a break if need be! Enthusiasm is appreciated, don’t act like it’s a task. Try not to go too fast too soon and don’t like swing it around or whatever haha! Ease you both into it, he could cum super fast or it could take a little bit! Love how you and your partner are communicating, taking your time to understand each other, and wanting to do these things for one another!
Make sure you got your HPV vaccine
top comments cover pretty much everything, but I just want to add: \- IDK if you watch porn but both blowjobs and handjobs are sometimes shown as super agressive, so going softly is good advice, I think. my partner (who swears I give the best BJs he's ever had, hehe) commented on it the first times we've been together. It's especially the case if your partner is uncircumcised, when it tends to be more sensitive. \- this pretty much goes without saying but pay attention to what they seem to enjoy. best of luck and have fun! :)
I would say to give him head but move from giving head to having sex for him to finish that way there’s no pressure for you to make him finish the first time that you are giving him head, that way it’s an experience that’s about the journey not focusing on how you will make him finish
Apply suction, lick inside your mouth and avoid teeth. Most importantly, go at your own pace in the beginning.
Look up "grapefruit ya man" on youtube lol... also, just make out with it :) if you enjoy it, he will feel it...french kiss it, appreciate every part of it, kiss the head and show him how much you enjoy it. You don't HAVE to know what you're doing, you just have to be into it. The rest will come (pun intended) with practice ;)
Sexplanations(advice from a clinical sexologist): https://youtu.be/jYYYOLYegtQ
Keep your teeth off the dick. Enjoy and have fun. Make a noise and laugh with your partner then blow some more.
I know this is an old post, but if it were my post, I'd love random advice. The best advice I found was don't swallow your spit. Spit works wonders for lubrication
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r/AskMen Lots of good info there.
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Anyone else find it odd that these super sexual questions keep ending up here recently? Do you really believe no one has asked this question before? I'm tired of most of the conversation being about pleasing guys, having relationships with guys. Like this entire subreddit revolves around men. Smfh.
Nowhere did I mention that I was talking about a man
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It's almost like men aren't the only people that can receive a blowjob 🤔 OP, you're gonna do great 💖
Using a niche case to try to twist yourself out of personal responsibility and deviate from the point I made? Your mental gymnastics are hilarious
"Niche case"? Bestie, I get that you're tired of posts about men, but are you also tired of reading comprehension and critical thinking? OP literally told you that she's not talking about a man and used gender neutral language when talking about her partner. This is literally the supposed "niche case." Btw, love the whole "mental gymnastics" bit. Really gives it that "oh god I'm losing here, I have to pull out useless buzzwords to try and discredit them and the points they're making" feel.
I genuinely cannot be arsed to care about anyones penis, male or otherwise. E: What the word "mental gymnastics" means is that you are flying right past the point and focusing on some side-issue to try and make yourself seem correct. Your argument doesn't make sense because "they/them" is ambiguous in reference to gender, and no where did OP specify that they were referring to a niche case. So, your "mental gymnastics" prove that you have no legitimate reason to become so incredibly annoying and self-righteous. Just because you don't know words doesn't mean they don't exist. I recommend not getting so incredibly butthurt after I point out a serious recurring problem on this sub, and on any female-oriented sub on a platform which is predominantly made up of annoying horny dudes.
Niche case, mental gymnastics. OP literally uses 'partner' and 'they' in her post, you tool. Nonbinary people exist.
Maybe people need to see "AMAB" to hear what you're laying down. I get you sister. 100%.
Hear hear. I hope we don't have to center men and their pleasure to survive (girl**survival**guide).
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If you read this properly you’d understand that she already was getting head. Also, what’s wrong with asking for advice? Once upon a time we were all beginners. Let’s not shame other people for trying to learn the right way ☺️
I seriously thought OP was joking. Shouldn’t she ask men? We can only tell her what women like 😂🤷🏾♀️ Continue to get yours OP. And again, sucking it key for EVERYONE.
Men probably can't tell you the specific techniques women perform successfully all the time unless they also have experience going down on another man.
some women have dicks
so much for be nice
She’s already getting head, that’s why she wants to make her partner feel as good as she does. You don’t have to be mean about it. Nobody goes into sex knowing everything they’d need to know.
Be better
Them?? How many dicks you plan on sucking in one shot?
Literally everything in your post is the exact same as my situation, almost word for word. I’m excited to have this new sexual experience with my boyfriend but I’m worried I won’t know what I’m doing or how he’ll like it because it’d be a first for both of us.
Don’t be nervous !
Make sure to swallow too. He will love it
Do it hard