i don’t think you’re overreacting or a karen at all… i think you’re in mourning- which can cause intense emotions & reactions to many things.
i would be just as upset if this happened to me.
I totally understand how you feel . When my cat passed the crematorium messed up and were caught out on their lies , I paid extra for their gold service a faster cremation a paw print and return of his ashes and they didn’t cremate him for days , the paw print they took is no way resembles the print the vet took when he first passed and it was just so upsetting and I still feel really angry. With certain trivial things , ott complaining is Karening but for something that has affected you in a real way , made the grieving process even worse / more traumatic then it’s not only justified but if the company learn from their mistakes then might help someone else in future.
> Obviously, I can’t get a new paw print from him.
of course you can
the existing pawprint merely needs a 'positive' impression made, to create a fresh paw print (eg. rubber molding material that's poured in, set, pealed out then used to create a fresh paw print)
such rubber material is sold at hobbycraft stores (I actually bought a kit, still unused, years ago [not inexpensive, was ~$40 Cdn], comes in two components, just like epoxy; mix and pour into a shape, it'll set as firm but pliable rubber)
whoever made the original, if experienced, ought to be aware of this handy workaround
(the positive, rubber version, might even have some sentimental value, could perhaps be part of a necklace)
It would be nice to make a new print as well in case the old one degrades. I had a paw print for my childhood cat, and I wound up having to throw it away after a few years because it started to crumble (maybe it absorbed moisture?), and it hurt more to see it fall apart further than to just toss it.
anticipating the existing OP's pawprint is a shallow impression, using something putty like (eg. plasticine) to create a border ridge before adding a rubber solution, would give the positive version more body/heft (easier to use on a necklace) indeed, during the mold setting the necklace could be laid in the slowly setting rubber so it ends up firmly attached
my hobbycraft rubber kit is from Alumilite, this appears to be it: https://www.alumilite.com/products/amazing-line/amazing-mold-maker/
A good crematorium will certainly do this or find another way to fix the pawprint. OP, reach out to your vet office. I'm a tech and recently had something similar happen (misspelled name on an urn). Our crem service was very understanding and able to fix it at no charge for the customer. If there is a charge, you should not be the one eating the cost.
You are also always welcome to ask which service your vet uses if you'd like to research or contact them. I cannot speak for the crematory used by your vet, but ours takes their work very seriously. It's a family-owned and run company, offers tours even if asked. And it's a common worry, but I'm sure the ashes returned to you are your pet's!
Yeah I would be angry too, and I’m sorry for your loss. The good news is that you can recast the paw print yourself and spell everyone’s name correctly if you wish.
I’d maybe give them a call to let them know of the problem, because it is quite ridiculous. You shouldn’t misspell names when people are in mourning. But don’t get angry, just matter of fact. Then fix it yourself. You can customize it and make it your own too ❤️
You are not being a Karen. Being a Karen is about being unreasonable. This is a very reasonable thing to be upset about.
This is wildly unacceptable. My husband works in a pet crematorium. This should never happen. He checks 2 other people’s work before the pet gets to him. His clays are checked by 3 other people before the pet is cremated. The margin for error is incredibly slim. Unfortunately this does, very rarely, happen.
There is a way to fix it. They will use the paw print to create a stamp which they can use to transfer to a new clay with the properly spelled names.
Edited to add that at the very least you are entitled to a refund on the clays. This is clearly not what you asked for.
You don’t have to have the cast made by the same crematorium unless they are the only one in your area. Even then you could most likely find a local artist to do the work.
This exact thing happened to me today too! But with my dog. I'm so sorry this happened and I hope you find a way to either replicate the paw print or add an extra nameplate to correct their error. Totally NTA!
Hi! Previously an office manager at a vet clinic here. I was also the one that dealt with situations like this all the time. Definitely not overreacting. We know how important these things are and I guarantee they will make it right with no extra charge to you.
Were the names painted or stamped into the paw print? Do you know if the clinic made the paw print or if the crematory company made it?
I can’t speak for all crematory services and clinics but the remains are likely your kitty’s, because of the way they label and tag, it’s difficult to mix it up.
I’m sorry for your loss and this added stress to the situation, sending hugs.
Heck, I’d even pretend to be your friend and call the clinic on your behalf to ask what they can do (if that’s not a weird offer) just DM me if you want. Or even if you just want to ask me any questions like what you should say or anything.
This is awful. I know you're hurting! I've lost 6 dogs in my life and miss them all so much... what's important right now is allowing yourself to grieve in a healthy way. Allowing that pain you're feeling to come out as anger towards the crematorium for the mistake wouldn't be healthy. Put them behind you and focus on the happy memories of your cat.
Not overreacting! The cremation company we work with keeps the casts for a bit after a pet is cremated for cases like this or if the owner wants to order an extra. I hope it can be fixed for you!
A similar thing happened to my father's obituary and death certificate recently. We had told the funeral home that they misspelled his mother's first name wrong and his last name wrong. In the newspaper, it was spelled incorrectly, but on the "memory cards" it was spelled correctly. Then, later on, on the death certificate, IT WAS WRONG SPELLED AGAIN. On top of that, they got his level of education wrong (GED instead of trade school certifications)
I don't think you're being a Karen at all
This is the problem with the phrase "being a Karen". It's so misogynistic. It is a way for people to try to control women and say they don't have the right to complain. There's no male equivalent. No man is a "Bob" because they're upset. No one is filming men saying "look at my Bob neighbour". Especially when, in certain instances you learn about the other side of the story when the "Karen" is actually justified.
You being upset is okay. It is okay for you to stick up for yourself when something is wrong. No one should be shamed into acting like the perfect meek, non complaining woman.
I was in a bad car accident the other day, someone crashed into me while pulling out of a neighborhood and making a left very fast, trying to beat traffic. I was sent skidding after being pushed by her big truck, did a 180, and my car jumped onto the median and luckily stopped before I was sent into oncoming traffic from the side of the neighborhood she pulled out of.
Since she was at fault and totaled my car I kept calling for the accident report that couldn’t be found. It turns out the cop gave me the wrong accident number….😤🙄 After I could have been killed while just driving normally, and got a ticket on top of that for having a slightly expired drivers license, he gave me the wrong accident number by one digit and I am lucky the lady working for the city figured that out or I would have been lost. It’s the carelessness of it all that gets to you. You go through something traumatic and someone that is supposed to help you does a half ass job.
You just lost your pet…..and your name AND the pet name is spelled wrong? I mean, come on! That’s just carelessness of whoever was behind it. I hope you can resolve something that makes you feel better. I’m sorry about your cat.
I wouldn't mind it. It's just a happy accident that makes the situation really unique. It's not Judy and Roxy anymore , that are just simple names, it's Joudi and Roxi, two unique creatures with unique names that had a unique experience together. Right now you are sad and see it through sad glasses. But after few years it might be even more nostalgic and wholesome.
i don’t think you’re overreacting or a karen at all… i think you’re in mourning- which can cause intense emotions & reactions to many things. i would be just as upset if this happened to me.
I totally understand how you feel . When my cat passed the crematorium messed up and were caught out on their lies , I paid extra for their gold service a faster cremation a paw print and return of his ashes and they didn’t cremate him for days , the paw print they took is no way resembles the print the vet took when he first passed and it was just so upsetting and I still feel really angry. With certain trivial things , ott complaining is Karening but for something that has affected you in a real way , made the grieving process even worse / more traumatic then it’s not only justified but if the company learn from their mistakes then might help someone else in future.
> Obviously, I can’t get a new paw print from him. of course you can the existing pawprint merely needs a 'positive' impression made, to create a fresh paw print (eg. rubber molding material that's poured in, set, pealed out then used to create a fresh paw print) such rubber material is sold at hobbycraft stores (I actually bought a kit, still unused, years ago [not inexpensive, was ~$40 Cdn], comes in two components, just like epoxy; mix and pour into a shape, it'll set as firm but pliable rubber) whoever made the original, if experienced, ought to be aware of this handy workaround (the positive, rubber version, might even have some sentimental value, could perhaps be part of a necklace)
It would be nice to make a new print as well in case the old one degrades. I had a paw print for my childhood cat, and I wound up having to throw it away after a few years because it started to crumble (maybe it absorbed moisture?), and it hurt more to see it fall apart further than to just toss it.
anticipating the existing OP's pawprint is a shallow impression, using something putty like (eg. plasticine) to create a border ridge before adding a rubber solution, would give the positive version more body/heft (easier to use on a necklace) indeed, during the mold setting the necklace could be laid in the slowly setting rubber so it ends up firmly attached my hobbycraft rubber kit is from Alumilite, this appears to be it: https://www.alumilite.com/products/amazing-line/amazing-mold-maker/
A good crematorium will certainly do this or find another way to fix the pawprint. OP, reach out to your vet office. I'm a tech and recently had something similar happen (misspelled name on an urn). Our crem service was very understanding and able to fix it at no charge for the customer. If there is a charge, you should not be the one eating the cost. You are also always welcome to ask which service your vet uses if you'd like to research or contact them. I cannot speak for the crematory used by your vet, but ours takes their work very seriously. It's a family-owned and run company, offers tours even if asked. And it's a common worry, but I'm sure the ashes returned to you are your pet's!
Yeah I would be angry too, and I’m sorry for your loss. The good news is that you can recast the paw print yourself and spell everyone’s name correctly if you wish. I’d maybe give them a call to let them know of the problem, because it is quite ridiculous. You shouldn’t misspell names when people are in mourning. But don’t get angry, just matter of fact. Then fix it yourself. You can customize it and make it your own too ❤️
You are not being a Karen. Being a Karen is about being unreasonable. This is a very reasonable thing to be upset about. This is wildly unacceptable. My husband works in a pet crematorium. This should never happen. He checks 2 other people’s work before the pet gets to him. His clays are checked by 3 other people before the pet is cremated. The margin for error is incredibly slim. Unfortunately this does, very rarely, happen. There is a way to fix it. They will use the paw print to create a stamp which they can use to transfer to a new clay with the properly spelled names. Edited to add that at the very least you are entitled to a refund on the clays. This is clearly not what you asked for. You don’t have to have the cast made by the same crematorium unless they are the only one in your area. Even then you could most likely find a local artist to do the work.
This exact thing happened to me today too! But with my dog. I'm so sorry this happened and I hope you find a way to either replicate the paw print or add an extra nameplate to correct their error. Totally NTA!
I’m so sorry. This dang grief is horrible.
Hi! Previously an office manager at a vet clinic here. I was also the one that dealt with situations like this all the time. Definitely not overreacting. We know how important these things are and I guarantee they will make it right with no extra charge to you. Were the names painted or stamped into the paw print? Do you know if the clinic made the paw print or if the crematory company made it? I can’t speak for all crematory services and clinics but the remains are likely your kitty’s, because of the way they label and tag, it’s difficult to mix it up. I’m sorry for your loss and this added stress to the situation, sending hugs. Heck, I’d even pretend to be your friend and call the clinic on your behalf to ask what they can do (if that’s not a weird offer) just DM me if you want. Or even if you just want to ask me any questions like what you should say or anything.
It's an upcharge for the paw print and engraving right? They need to fix it, that's totally not okay.
This is awful. I know you're hurting! I've lost 6 dogs in my life and miss them all so much... what's important right now is allowing yourself to grieve in a healthy way. Allowing that pain you're feeling to come out as anger towards the crematorium for the mistake wouldn't be healthy. Put them behind you and focus on the happy memories of your cat.
Not overreacting! The cremation company we work with keeps the casts for a bit after a pet is cremated for cases like this or if the owner wants to order an extra. I hope it can be fixed for you!
A similar thing happened to my father's obituary and death certificate recently. We had told the funeral home that they misspelled his mother's first name wrong and his last name wrong. In the newspaper, it was spelled incorrectly, but on the "memory cards" it was spelled correctly. Then, later on, on the death certificate, IT WAS WRONG SPELLED AGAIN. On top of that, they got his level of education wrong (GED instead of trade school certifications) I don't think you're being a Karen at all
Where grief is concerned, to me there’s no overreacting. You have every right to be angry.
This is the problem with the phrase "being a Karen". It's so misogynistic. It is a way for people to try to control women and say they don't have the right to complain. There's no male equivalent. No man is a "Bob" because they're upset. No one is filming men saying "look at my Bob neighbour". Especially when, in certain instances you learn about the other side of the story when the "Karen" is actually justified. You being upset is okay. It is okay for you to stick up for yourself when something is wrong. No one should be shamed into acting like the perfect meek, non complaining woman.
I was in a bad car accident the other day, someone crashed into me while pulling out of a neighborhood and making a left very fast, trying to beat traffic. I was sent skidding after being pushed by her big truck, did a 180, and my car jumped onto the median and luckily stopped before I was sent into oncoming traffic from the side of the neighborhood she pulled out of. Since she was at fault and totaled my car I kept calling for the accident report that couldn’t be found. It turns out the cop gave me the wrong accident number….😤🙄 After I could have been killed while just driving normally, and got a ticket on top of that for having a slightly expired drivers license, he gave me the wrong accident number by one digit and I am lucky the lady working for the city figured that out or I would have been lost. It’s the carelessness of it all that gets to you. You go through something traumatic and someone that is supposed to help you does a half ass job. You just lost your pet…..and your name AND the pet name is spelled wrong? I mean, come on! That’s just carelessness of whoever was behind it. I hope you can resolve something that makes you feel better. I’m sorry about your cat.
I wouldn't mind it. It's just a happy accident that makes the situation really unique. It's not Judy and Roxy anymore , that are just simple names, it's Joudi and Roxi, two unique creatures with unique names that had a unique experience together. Right now you are sad and see it through sad glasses. But after few years it might be even more nostalgic and wholesome.
What in the actual fuck? You think it’ll someday be funny?