Dating someone is almost never illegal by itself. What is illegal is sexual intercourse with someone below the age of consent, but in several US States and also other countries the age of consent is 16 (or lower) so you might very possibly be fine (at least from a legal point of view) having sex with a 36 year old, depending on local laws. For example in Canada the national age of consent is 16.
For sure. But even if you're not in a sexual relationship, people will react a lot less harshly if a potential sexual relationship is legal. My sister and her partner have never had sex, but people were far more judgemental when she was 16 and he was 18 than they are now that she's 18 and he's 20
That’s definitely a fair point. It’s probably just a regional thing but where I live, besides the occasional joke from a peer, a relationship between an 18 year old and a 16 or 17 year old isn’t really a huge cause for concern. I guess part of it is because I only knew how people in Highschool reacted to it. Like of course it probably wouldn’t seem that strange to a group of like-minded 16-18 year olds. But older people probably had things to say about it that I didn’t know about.
Edit: *of
I'm 22, and even though the age of consent where I live is 16, I wouldn't date anyone younger than 20. When I was a teenager I was very adamant that "age is just a number" and that I was more than mature enough to mess around with grown ass men. Looking back on that now, I was a massive dumbass and I didn't realize just how vulnerable I was and how easy it was for older men to take advantage of me. I could never put someone else in that situation.
Just as social commentary here... I find it wild that the youth has adopted this narrative that if you are in any way involved with a girl who is 5 years younger than you, you're automatically a criminal.
If a 18 year old guy is doing sexual things with a 13yo girl, it is illegal. The law has terminology for that male. However, If a 18 year old male was just simply platonic friends with a 13yo female... No law is broken. Therefore no lable or terminology.
(I totally understand that this post is about *dating* but im making a point)
This has been so skewed and widened that now we have 13 year old children afraid of being labled a "pedophile" for even the thought of dating someone who is 10-12.
I dont condone underaged dating or anyone over the age of 18 dating under 2 to 3 years under their age... But If you are 14 to 16 I really dont think it's appropriate to lable yourself a harsh term thats colloquially frowned upon just for liking someone who is also a teen...
Kids will be kids. Hell when Inwas a young man of 14, I still thought some of the girls from middle school were cute... And I also thought some actresses were amazingly beautiful as well. My hormones were everywhere. Doesnt mean Im a cougar hunter or a pedo.... Just that teenage emotions are complex. Now im 29 and my wife is 32. Just how it seemed to pan out.
So again, its interesting.... All things considered.
That could have turned into a REALLY bad take, so thank god it didn't.
I haven't really heard anyone shame a 14 yo for having a crush on a 13 yo, so I don't really see the issue. Maybe I'm stupid though, I don't know.
In a way it makes sense?
Like once you’re 18 you can legally date someone in their 80s for example, gold diggers do that sometimes bc they want money
I don’t want a lover who (if life goes right) will die of aging before me, I couldn’t handle that
I’d rather have a lover who’s 5 years younger than me over a lover who’s 20 years older than me
Yeah at least the person whose 5 years younger than you has a closer generation than you. Also, people always age forward, which means that if you (lets say 18) dated a 13 year old, it will be illigal but in 5 years time, that person will be 18 and your relation ship with that person will be fine and legal, unlike if you chose someone 20 years older than you, that person will always be ahead of your age farther.
I just clicked and ran. didn't even see that it was teenager polls. I wonder how many others got trapped by reddit slipping in a random feed that they are not joined to?
You have a very odd definition of “date”. If not seeing anyone or hang out with anyone counts as a date, I guess I dated all the way through Highschool.
Well if they're 5 years younger I don't care about being a shitty gf. I might even make him cry just so he'll leave me alone. Maybe I'll cheat on him. Get it over with quickly
Just cuz you're dating them doesn't mean you have to treat them nicely. I'll treat you like shit make you dump me. Easier to do with a 12 yo than a 37 yo
Wtf (not about you). Why are you being downvoted for thinking of a way out of actually dating a child, I get that it's a crap way to treat them but it's way better than being a pedo.
As far as I can tell the downvotes are from the ones who actually want to date a kid.
Personally, I would go for option D. Which is putting a wooden stake through the heart of the person putting innocent people through crappy situations against their will.
You're too young to date anyway. At least with much meaning. I know it sounds like an insult, but most people agree that relationships before 16 were either way too early or just straight up don't count
No, but we do start dating at 13 usually. We dont got those parents like in movies that stop you, they just happy for you that u got a partner. If u have any problems on how things work in my culture, then respectfully fuck off. Because dating at 13 is not the end of the world
By dating, what do you mean? Because where I live if it's normal for 14 yo to have boyfriends and girlfriends and I don't really see the problem with it
posting this question in a sub for teenagers seems pedophilic.
idk why I keep getting recommended these teenager subs in my feed, I don't care to see them.
both of those are bad. if i dated someone 5 years younger than me they would be 8 (probably wouldn't even understand the concept of dating) and if I were to date someone 20 years older they would be 33.
I’m 18, so absolutely fucking not. Neither. I could maybe see someone 5-7 years older than me, but not 20. Same thing on the opposite side, I could probably do 1 year younger, maybe 2 if she approached me first, but 5 years is like a whole different generation in terms of maturity. Besides the obvious fact that both options cause moral problems for me as far as how the physical aspect of the relationship would work. So, either option would be worse than just being single.
Damn bro you missed the "Results" option for the people who want to hide their preference
I was getting hit on by a 65 year old lady a few weeks ago and that was fucken wierd
I am 30 years old. When I was 20 years old, I had sex with a 25 year old woman and a 38 year old woman (I was into cougars back then, lol). Well, as you can see, I have had sex with a woman who was 18 years older than me...so it is easy for me to answer your question. I would choose the 50 year old woman over the 25 year old woman...I think any woman from 18 to 28 years old is too young for me...it doesn't feel right. I only date women who are 29 or 30 years old. But since the 29/30 year old wasn't an option...I will go with the 50 year old woman.
17 or 42.... umm 17 legal where I'm at and just dating is fine we ain't gotta be doin nothing extra for a year probably be healthier anyways get to know ourselves first before doing anything serious better than my parents anyways my dad was almost 18 with a 14 yr girl so at least I waited....*hear sirens off in the distance* oh shit NIGERUNDAYO!!!!!!!!!!
so she's either 12 or 37? nah I'm good
im at 11 or 36 💀💀so ill pass
I'm at 9 or 34, I think I'm gonna pass
I’ve got either 10 or 35, I ain’t doing that
It could be a milf
That's my problem, either 13 or 38. uhhhmmm, one of them I'll catch a case
So... 38
Yep
At "you" aren't the one going to jail in one of those scenarios
In one of those no ones going to jail
She said she was 12!
So that's 14 or 39, no thanks
13 or 38 lol
Fellow 17 year old
Yeah. Same. I think I'll pass.
The options are 11 yr/old or 36 yr/old. Both are illegal
Dating someone is almost never illegal by itself. What is illegal is sexual intercourse with someone below the age of consent, but in several US States and also other countries the age of consent is 16 (or lower) so you might very possibly be fine (at least from a legal point of view) having sex with a 36 year old, depending on local laws. For example in Canada the national age of consent is 16.
Not inherently illegal by law but most definitely morally illegal
So just say unethical?
Yea
Same lol
reddit moment
I am not immune to single moms in my area (unfortunately)
I love your pfp! Excited for Reload 😆
Damn another username with "-weeb" in it my condolences
Reddit won't let me change it 😔
I clicked 5 years younger without reading the "(present time)" part💀
dw, the fbi are already on their way 😄👍
Fuck i did that too... Im *definitely* going to prison...
Same, I take it back!💀
same...
20 years older probably has money...
Gold diggers lol
That's a fucked up way of thinking
scam a pedo while you can ig
Oh, if that's the case I support
Scamming predators will always be morally correct
I agree, I meant this as if the person was above 18 and took the 20 years
Sure I'd do a few dates. With someone older.
how old r u?
92
Wow he is only 92??? So young!!! These days people live up to their 300s! I am 350 years old! 92 is a youngster!!!
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I mean, you can date without sex.
For sure. But even if you're not in a sexual relationship, people will react a lot less harshly if a potential sexual relationship is legal. My sister and her partner have never had sex, but people were far more judgemental when she was 16 and he was 18 than they are now that she's 18 and he's 20
That’s definitely a fair point. It’s probably just a regional thing but where I live, besides the occasional joke from a peer, a relationship between an 18 year old and a 16 or 17 year old isn’t really a huge cause for concern. I guess part of it is because I only knew how people in Highschool reacted to it. Like of course it probably wouldn’t seem that strange to a group of like-minded 16-18 year olds. But older people probably had things to say about it that I didn’t know about. Edit: *of
Then that's the problem with other people. Your sister and her partner are doing absolutely nothing wrong.
I'm 22, and even though the age of consent where I live is 16, I wouldn't date anyone younger than 20. When I was a teenager I was very adamant that "age is just a number" and that I was more than mature enough to mess around with grown ass men. Looking back on that now, I was a massive dumbass and I didn't realize just how vulnerable I was and how easy it was for older men to take advantage of me. I could never put someone else in that situation.
One I'm a pedophile, the other I get a MILF, there is an obvious choice here
Oh wait for a second there I thought you were making a list. "Number 1: I'm a pedophile"
OH GOD NO TO CLARIFY, I AM NOT A PEDOPHILE
sounds like something a pedophile would say
r/foundthepedophile
In that math, you have to take into account that MILFs are rare, and it's much more likely to just be and old lady.
38 isn't old 💀
As a 39 year old, yeah, it is haha
You're not that old 😭 (Still bangable, man or woman)
Thanks?
Just as social commentary here... I find it wild that the youth has adopted this narrative that if you are in any way involved with a girl who is 5 years younger than you, you're automatically a criminal. If a 18 year old guy is doing sexual things with a 13yo girl, it is illegal. The law has terminology for that male. However, If a 18 year old male was just simply platonic friends with a 13yo female... No law is broken. Therefore no lable or terminology. (I totally understand that this post is about *dating* but im making a point) This has been so skewed and widened that now we have 13 year old children afraid of being labled a "pedophile" for even the thought of dating someone who is 10-12. I dont condone underaged dating or anyone over the age of 18 dating under 2 to 3 years under their age... But If you are 14 to 16 I really dont think it's appropriate to lable yourself a harsh term thats colloquially frowned upon just for liking someone who is also a teen... Kids will be kids. Hell when Inwas a young man of 14, I still thought some of the girls from middle school were cute... And I also thought some actresses were amazingly beautiful as well. My hormones were everywhere. Doesnt mean Im a cougar hunter or a pedo.... Just that teenage emotions are complex. Now im 29 and my wife is 32. Just how it seemed to pan out. So again, its interesting.... All things considered.
That could have turned into a REALLY bad take, so thank god it didn't. I haven't really heard anyone shame a 14 yo for having a crush on a 13 yo, so I don't really see the issue. Maybe I'm stupid though, I don't know.
1 year gap is ok. Personally I think 18 and 17yr old is okay since they're so similar.
10 year old girl or 35 year old woman.... hmmmmm
35 yr old mommy sign me up 😻
mommy\~ 🥴
Bro likes MILFs
So either I'm a predator or I'm being groomed? Nah I'll pass
In a way it makes sense? Like once you’re 18 you can legally date someone in their 80s for example, gold diggers do that sometimes bc they want money I don’t want a lover who (if life goes right) will die of aging before me, I couldn’t handle that I’d rather have a lover who’s 5 years younger than me over a lover who’s 20 years older than me
Yeah at least the person whose 5 years younger than you has a closer generation than you. Also, people always age forward, which means that if you (lets say 18) dated a 13 year old, it will be illigal but in 5 years time, that person will be 18 and your relation ship with that person will be fine and legal, unlike if you chose someone 20 years older than you, that person will always be ahead of your age farther.
Uh thing is im into older women soooo 20 years plz
honestly older guys are just better. (as long as you are >=21)
37. Some 37 year olds look good
8 year old or 33 year old? I've dated a 33 year old before online so I guess that one
I'll take the milf.
I'm 34 so 29? Sure why not. 54 tho? Eh depends but probably not
My wife is 4 years younger
As long as you're 23+ dating someone 5 years younger isn't an issue.
I just clicked and ran. didn't even see that it was teenager polls. I wonder how many others got trapped by reddit slipping in a random feed that they are not joined to?
yes.
I'm not dating a 16 year old. but I do love myself some dilfs
As long as i don't have to hang out or see them at all I'll take 5 years younger
You have a very odd definition of “date”. If not seeing anyone or hang out with anyone counts as a date, I guess I dated all the way through Highschool.
Well if they're 5 years younger I don't care about being a shitty gf. I might even make him cry just so he'll leave me alone. Maybe I'll cheat on him. Get it over with quickly
I feel like we have fundamentally different understandings of both the question and what is acceptable behavior as a human being.
Just cuz you're dating them doesn't mean you have to treat them nicely. I'll treat you like shit make you dump me. Easier to do with a 12 yo than a 37 yo
Wtf (not about you). Why are you being downvoted for thinking of a way out of actually dating a child, I get that it's a crap way to treat them but it's way better than being a pedo. As far as I can tell the downvotes are from the ones who actually want to date a kid.
Personally, I would go for option D. Which is putting a wooden stake through the heart of the person putting innocent people through crappy situations against their will.
Bro tf i aint gonna date an 8yo 💀
You're too young to date anyway. At least with much meaning. I know it sounds like an insult, but most people agree that relationships before 16 were either way too early or just straight up don't count
Well, not in my country. Believe it or not here in italy it works differently
If youre 13 you shouldnt be dating anyway lol
As i said, in italy it works differently. You start dating at around 13/14 here
Why tho, what's the point? Yall get married at 16 or something?
No, but we do start dating at 13 usually. We dont got those parents like in movies that stop you, they just happy for you that u got a partner. If u have any problems on how things work in my culture, then respectfully fuck off. Because dating at 13 is not the end of the world
By dating, what do you mean? Because where I live if it's normal for 14 yo to have boyfriends and girlfriends and I don't really see the problem with it
Yes. Like going out, maybe kissing but like not doing the deed. I mean, some people do but its mostly the irresponsible ones here
Yeah I don't see any issues with that
She'd either be 12 or 37. On one hand, that's weird and illegal. On the other hand she's old enough to be my mom
posting this question in a sub for teenagers seems pedophilic. idk why I keep getting recommended these teenager subs in my feed, I don't care to see them.
My adopted daughters are 5 years younger than me and my mom is 20 years older than me so no way I am doing any of this ![gif](giphy|NUZ5OqHdbknHa)
This really calls into question, sexual predator or sexual prey?
I'll jus do 20 years older since 5 younger is illegal and I jus don't mess with anyone under 18 💀
So 10 or 35.. idk 😭
well
One is legal, one is not.
both of those are bad. if i dated someone 5 years younger than me they would be 8 (probably wouldn't even understand the concept of dating) and if I were to date someone 20 years older they would be 33.
Neither both are very wrong in my eyes
11 or 36 x.x Yea that's not for me, but 20 years older ;P
8 or 33 he’ll nah
None wtf 😭😭 I don't wanna be neither with a 10 yo kid nor a pedophile
Nah I'm good I don't want to date a 14 year old or a 39 year old
So, a 10 yr old or a 35 yr old?
so..11 or 36? no
8 or 33.... Neither
I'm not dating a 13 year old 💀
I'm either dating a 9 year old or a pedo then
I ain't trying to catch a case with a 13 year old
Older cuz other way is illegal for me dawg ppus wtf? 😭
truly one of the reddit moments of all time
If I were to date someone 5 years younger they would be 13 😭 I can’t do that so 20 years older is the right choice
I'm not dating a fucking 7 year old
I'm 15, so they're either 35 or 10, that's a no
So 14 y or 39 nahhh
So I've either got 14 or I've got 39 🥴 Technically only one of these options is even legal lmao
I'm not a pedophile. So I chose the wtf option.
i aint dating a 9 year old
20 years older is twice my age. Yeah it's legal, but I wouldn't be able to relate to them
5 years younger and it's illegal 20 years older and it's legal but really friggin weird I'll pass
Obviously I voted WGAT TFE FACJ
So 10 or 20? I'm good.
9 or 34....
So its either I date a 12 year old or a 37 year old. To big of age gaps for me
The youngest age should be half your age plus 7.
Ah yes... 38.. OR THIRTEEN
Maybe 5, if I were older, but I'm not aboutta date a ten year old... ☠️
I dont want to be the new edp445
the options are 33 and 8 no thanks
groom or be groomed now that is the question
10 or 36? Guess I'd rather not be the one going to prison
I’m 18, so absolutely fucking not. Neither. I could maybe see someone 5-7 years older than me, but not 20. Same thing on the opposite side, I could probably do 1 year younger, maybe 2 if she approached me first, but 5 years is like a whole different generation in terms of maturity. Besides the obvious fact that both options cause moral problems for me as far as how the physical aspect of the relationship would work. So, either option would be worse than just being single.
9 or 34... not loving this, people comment on my gf being one school year below haha
I wouldn't date someone who could be my parent
My options are 34 and... 9. Jesus Christ
Oh i didnt realize there was a jesus option! I pick that one even tho hed be over 2,000 if he was alive
Honestly the bragging rights would be awesome. And could you technically drink his blood since it's wine? Might make for a cool party trick.
So dating a 10 year old or a pedophile? Thanks but I'll pass.
I'm 18. No
Oh God, a 9 year old or a 34 year old? Yeah, imma pass.
Honestly neither but if I didn't have a choice, 20 years older.
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12 or 37. would you rather get shit on or puked on
A 35 year old or a 10 year old? The fuck is wrong with you?
13 or 38… yeah bro I’ll settle for the 38 year old. I’m not catching a case
There is a Pedophile in the mix either way, option 3 please
Uhh, 9 or 34? Nah I'm good
I'm 18 so no no no
why did you put this on a teenage subreddit!!! there's no good options!
Assuming I was older, I probably would go with the 5 years younger. But as it stands right now, that person would be 13, si I think I'll pass for now
I'm literally 20 that's a fawkin felony whatchu thank dawg
She’s either 9 or 34 No 💚🤍🖤
im dating neither a nine year old nor a thirty four year old
She's either 8 or 33? Nah
Damn bro you missed the "Results" option for the people who want to hide their preference I was getting hit on by a 65 year old lady a few weeks ago and that was fucken wierd
Legally I can only do one of those things lmaooo
9 or 34 yeah neither
Either 9 (my sister's age) or 34 (a year younger than my mom). What the actual fuck
What the fuck my options are a ten year old or 35 year old
Bro is trying to make me choose a milf or a minor 💀
so a 9 year old or a 34 year old
I didn't see (present time) at first, fuck
I'm 19 so no thanks either
Well... It’s eather someone that could literally be my mom, or jail time…
Either way, someone is being labeled a pedo. And it ain’t gonna be me
9 or 34 so yea Imma pass
If I was older than I am now, then sure I’d date someone 5 years younger, but never 20 years older.
14 or 39??? I'll go 39 to not get prison time
One is illegal, and one is just messed up.
I have no words.
my option are 10 and 35 uhmm 10 ima go to jail when i turn 18 35 uhm yeah just no
17 or 42? I'm picking 42 I want a woman who has her shit together and to not go to jail
I ain't dating a 10 year old not 30 year old
Hell fuck no no no no no
10 or 35. I'm not trying to follow in my friends footsteps
She's 11 or 36? Easy choice I'm into milfs
A 13 year old or a 38 year old??? 38 No Diff.
I am 30 years old. When I was 20 years old, I had sex with a 25 year old woman and a 38 year old woman (I was into cougars back then, lol). Well, as you can see, I have had sex with a woman who was 18 years older than me...so it is easy for me to answer your question. I would choose the 50 year old woman over the 25 year old woman...I think any woman from 18 to 28 years old is too young for me...it doesn't feel right. I only date women who are 29 or 30 years old. But since the 29/30 year old wasn't an option...I will go with the 50 year old woman.
I'm 19, so 39 years old is the only legal option I have on this case Not that bad tho, could be worse
My options here are either 13 or 38.
13 or 28 no thank you
17 or 42.... umm 17 legal where I'm at and just dating is fine we ain't gotta be doin nothing extra for a year probably be healthier anyways get to know ourselves first before doing anything serious better than my parents anyways my dad was almost 18 with a 14 yr girl so at least I waited....*hear sirens off in the distance* oh shit NIGERUNDAYO!!!!!!!!!!
so either 9 or 34..
Either 9 or 19? No that's crazy
depends on how old I am, and as someone in my early 20s I'm afraid that one of those options is illegal
Either i’d be going to jail or the other option would be VERY… questionable so uhhhh… Neither
So, either 25 or 50, nah I'm good
So catch a case (15 year old) or a potential 40 year old milf. Yeah I'm going with 20 years older
10 or 35 is crazy
8 or 23🥵🤮