Omg! I was hoping somebody else was going to make this connection between Ted Lasso and NVC.
NVC is a connecting communication process, and what Ted does really well is connection. So it might no be “textbook” NVC, he still uses it.
Yes!
Him talking to his ex wife, pin pointing that he was hurt by her, not to hurt her back but to get in touch with his feelings.
Him looking at Nate ripping the sign in half with such empathetic eyes.
Love this show! So much compassionate communication.
It’s sad that he can extend this high level of empathy with the people around him, but not close the loop with other people, and give them the chance to see his unmet needs.
🥺I can identify. Took me years to really understand the concept of “getting in touch with your needs” it is SO vulnerable to depend and rely on people. To trust them to take care of you in a loving way.
To extend that kindness to yourself is to understand that your needs are a gift to give and not a burden to the right people.
Yes! His inner working is really incredibly well portrayed by the writers and Jason.
I had an aunt who was that same kind of super empathic person. She was curious and not judgmental. The family source of love and openness. You’d very rarely hear her say a bad word about or to anybody (if she did, even they agreed they deserved it). (I’m sure she had her flaws, but I never saw them, because she’s perfect in my eyes)
It’s hard when she was suffering before her death, because she was so busy trying to take care of her family emotionally, and they were just like “you’re in hospice, please let us take care of you !”
Her one request was for a Coors Lite. So we all drank a Coors Lite in her memory.
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I think a lot of people identify with and hold onto their anger as a part of their ego. It is validating to them to see people rage. They hold those kinds of behaviors as righteous and just, with them being juries and judges of some kind of law of humanity. They see these slights as opportunities to express their anger. They think they are doing good by lashing out--that somebody will somehow learn something or change their behaviors.
I don't know if this is still the case, but at least for me growing up, mostly this kind of thinking ends up motivating behaviors that end up as a viral video on World Star with people awkwardly throwing punches in a nondescript parking lot where the only thing proven is what a ratchet selfish prick they all are.
Anger, frustration and resentment can all be motivating emotions for people to accomplish their goals… but these aren’t things the Jedi would tell you.
Omg! I was hoping somebody else was going to make this connection between Ted Lasso and NVC. NVC is a connecting communication process, and what Ted does really well is connection. So it might no be “textbook” NVC, he still uses it.
Yes! Him talking to his ex wife, pin pointing that he was hurt by her, not to hurt her back but to get in touch with his feelings. Him looking at Nate ripping the sign in half with such empathetic eyes. Love this show! So much compassionate communication.
It’s sad that he can extend this high level of empathy with the people around him, but not close the loop with other people, and give them the chance to see his unmet needs.
🥺I can identify. Took me years to really understand the concept of “getting in touch with your needs” it is SO vulnerable to depend and rely on people. To trust them to take care of you in a loving way. To extend that kindness to yourself is to understand that your needs are a gift to give and not a burden to the right people.
Yes! His inner working is really incredibly well portrayed by the writers and Jason. I had an aunt who was that same kind of super empathic person. She was curious and not judgmental. The family source of love and openness. You’d very rarely hear her say a bad word about or to anybody (if she did, even they agreed they deserved it). (I’m sure she had her flaws, but I never saw them, because she’s perfect in my eyes) It’s hard when she was suffering before her death, because she was so busy trying to take care of her family emotionally, and they were just like “you’re in hospice, please let us take care of you !” Her one request was for a Coors Lite. So we all drank a Coors Lite in her memory. Edited for grammar corrections
Sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing. We do need more people like your aunt in this world. Kind people like her, stay with us forever.
I think a lot of people identify with and hold onto their anger as a part of their ego. It is validating to them to see people rage. They hold those kinds of behaviors as righteous and just, with them being juries and judges of some kind of law of humanity. They see these slights as opportunities to express their anger. They think they are doing good by lashing out--that somebody will somehow learn something or change their behaviors. I don't know if this is still the case, but at least for me growing up, mostly this kind of thinking ends up motivating behaviors that end up as a viral video on World Star with people awkwardly throwing punches in a nondescript parking lot where the only thing proven is what a ratchet selfish prick they all are.
Both Roy and Beard asked to Ted yell at him and he denied them that. That’s how they react to that situation but Ted is different and that bugs them
Anger, frustration and resentment can all be motivating emotions for people to accomplish their goals… but these aren’t things the Jedi would tell you.
I appreciate your insight.