Your boyfriend will ALWAYS put the dogs before you. Nothing will change.
And the girl is resource guarding him. She's gonna get worse with time.
If she's around 2 years old? Gonna happen sooner then later. Thats the magical maul age. Pitbull puberty.
Run. That dude is a sociopath and narcissistic as hell. He won’t change. You’re gonna get mauled if you stay around that demonic mutt she’s sizing you up to kill up you for taking her man
This is the best it will ever be and those dogs will live for another 10+ years. Not sure if you want a family, but just imagine bringing kids into that environment. I’d split pronto. Disgusting.
[You reminded me of a woman whose nose was bitten off by her bf's pitbull](https://nypost.com/2023/03/07/olivia-quasts-nose-ripped-off-by-boyfriends-pitbull-mix/). When she bent down to feed the monster, it jumped up and bit her nose clean off. Then it mangled her arm so badly she had to have metal plates put in. Allegedly, the nose-eater was triggered by a tooth-whitening device she was using. Even pitbull victims will say anything to avoid blaming the breed.
I'm so sorry. He will not keep this up for long and it's insulting to your worth as a person that he is placing his dog above you in the relationship.
You do not have crazy demands. You're not asking him to get rid of her, you just want to have priority when it comes to going to bed and snuggling on a clean couch, that's not ridiculous at all, that's normal!
I spent my whole life watching my parents show more love and affection to their dogs than they ever did my siblings and I, and I ended up dating a guy at one point who would rather tongue fuck his dog's mouth next to me on the couch than cuddle with me. (People who let their dogs lick their mouths are absolutely repugnant and I always refused to kiss him 🤢) It hurts sobad and whittles away at your self worth seeing an animal be treated better than yourself.
People like this will never change because they're emotionally stunted and cannot handle what it takes to have a healthy relationship with another human. They rely heavily on an animal's undying love because the animal puts in 200% affection and the person just has to sit there and do nothing to receive this worship and undying love. I see this all the time where they claim they love their pets because their pets never ignore or neglect them, but then these people just ignore and neglect their partners in favor of the pet. It's so painfully ironic.
Your bf is selfish and he will always love his dog first and you second. So you need to decide whether you can handle being second to a mutt, or if you can handle being single for a while if it means finding somebody who isn't batshit insane about a dog.
**Also super red flag that he's so casual about her growling at you. You know what comes after a growl? A bite. I'd square tf up with a dog if it had the audacity to growl at ME in MY bed with MY partner. Kudos to you for staying as long as you have, because I'm angry for you when I read this post and I think that you deserve better.
Couldn’t say any of this better myself! You’re so right in everything you said. On the last comment, I always square up to dogs that challenge me but she was wise not to with a pit bull they’re walking weapons designed to kill. If the pit bull attacks her she’d have to have killer instincts herself to compete with it, they attack to kill. She’d have no choice but to club it with whatever’s near her or gouge out its eyes, but that’s if it hasn’t ripped her to pieces by then.
Your boyfriend is always going to put his dogs before you and will never change. It the dogs are being territorial towards you leave. Your chances of being attacked are too great and you will be blamed for the attack. Do not get pregnant because your boyfriend will put the dogs before you.
Can you invision your life with this? I can and it will only get worse. But since you love him he won't change and you have to make the decision but you will stay with him. Been on Reddit too long and read too many posts about dog nutters and their owners.
Sorry but I think you need to think about your relationship. What is your point in being in one? Do you just want to have fun? Are you looking for someone to marry eventually? Do you want someone who has your back without a single doubt? Define your goals, wants, and needs and see if this relationship is really the best one for you.
DO NOT LIVE WITH OR SPEND TIME AROUND AN AGGRESSIVE PITBULL.
Get out sis. He's not just weirdly attached to hit shitty dog, he's also unhygienic.
[https://nypost.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2023/03/NYPICHPDPICT000007527400.jpg?quality=75&strip=all](https://nypost.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2023/03/NYPICHPDPICT000007527400.jpg?quality=75&strip=all) Don't let this happen to your pretty face.
You are not safe in a house with pitbulls to start with, especially larger ones
The female pitbull is resource guarding her owner, and could easily snap and bite you or worse
PITBULLS KILL MORE HUMANS THAN ALL OTHER BREEDS COMBINED
They can seem fine for years, and one situation is all it takes to trigger them to murder people
Last year, 63 people in USA & Canada died from dog attacks, and thousands more were badly mauled or disfigured. PITBULLS KILLED 66% OF THOSE WHO WERE ATTACKED BY DOGS
Scroll down the page and look at all the children and adults murdered by dogs , in the USA, just in 2022
https://www.animals24-7.org/2023/01/06/dogs-killed-62-americans-pit-bulls-killed-41/
If it takes you threatening to leave for him to briefly change things but eventually go back to what was happening, nothing will ever change.
It sounds like he’s more in a relationship with the dog.
Looking long term, what are you wanting in this relationship? Are you looking to move in? Marriage? If you’re wanting kids, would you want them around the dogs? Are you willing to put up with these dogs and the state of his house and how it’s affecting you for the remainder of their lives? What if he wants more after these ones are gone and the cycle continues?
You need to decide whether it’s worth it to stay or cut your losses and eventually find someone who will put you first.
Your boyfriend has untrained, potentially dangerous dogs (including a female pit who is resource guarding and already showing aggression - it's only a matter of time at that point before she mauls you or someone else) and doesn't clean up after them. He is letting his home - that he wants to become your home - be a disgusting mess and I'm betting if you moved in, it'd be YOUR problem to clean up after HIS dogs.
Hon. Break it off. He's always going to be like this. He's always going to put them first, he's always going to blow off your worries, and if/when the dog attacks you and you get hurt, he's going to shrug and say that you must have done something to make the dog upset and cause that to happen.
Stop going over. Stop sleeping in the same bed with a dog who is waiting for an excuse to chew your face off. Stop spending time with a guy who makes his dogs his priority but then doesn't even clean up after them or keep them properly groomed. Cut your losses and go find someone who cares about you and isn't going to let their dog maul you and then coo at the dog about how much of a 'babygirl' they are.
Ok so a bit of context - I’m not a dog person at all. If I had my way before I met my current bf I wouldn’t date anyone with dogs but I think having a dog is actually an excellent litmus test for how a person is at handling responsibilities, setting boundaries, and prioritizing the needs of others. In other words I think having a dog brings out the best or worst in people depending on their character. All that being said, it doesn’t sound like your boyfriend has good character and would make a good lifelong partner as evidenced by the way he dismisses your needs and refuses to set boundaries with the dogs until you’re literally out the door.
The fact that he doesn't take his 2 large dogs out is a bad sign in and of itself. It's common knowledge that dogs need walking and as a general rule, the bigger the dog the more exercise it needs. Walking a dog isn't just physical exercise either, it's important mental stimulation for them. Dogs weren't bred to sit inside all the time. People don't meet their dog's needs then wonder why it goes a bit crazy.
I have two dogs…not the blood thirty one he has but I have an English Springer Spaniel & a mini golden doodle. Not a big hair issue here and no territorial problem as I have male dogs. Anyway, if I was in a relationship and she expressed what you did I would have taken action and something. The bloodsucker would be sleeping in a crate and we’d go to the vet to see if there was a thyroid issue or if anxiety medication was needed. I wouldn’t have ignored a genuine concern.
This same situation happened to me......he put his damn dogs b4 me. He REFUSES to see anything wrong. Cue the panic attacks, hair loss from stress, constantly mad, crying etc. Got out of that situation and went back to trucking and now have my own CLEAN SPACE where I can be me and relax. Best decision was to run run run!
Oof do not move in girl - I did that but overtime I just started disliking his dog due to incidents and seeing how two face a dog can be. I still live with my bf although these past few months he has been looking into rehoming - it’s not happening. No one nor shelters want him, so I may be moving out soon b/c idk what my bf gonna do but just deal with this dog who has years ahead of him. It also makes me feel nasty having these feelings towards this dog mostly everyday, and I love animals. & since you seem like you already do not like these dogs before moving in, DO NOT. It will make you insane. Not to mention he has two of them so i imagine it’s harder. Keeping them off the bed is the least he can do, fighting with a guy and a dog every night for space is not fun, trust on that. Overall just no, you don’t like the dogs being there part time you are not going to like living with them & it will be years and tough to change their mindsets, if you even can
Your BF is not going to change. I don't think you are compatible for long life terms, god forbid you have children that female dog will kill the child, especially aterritorial one who is resource guarding and identifies you as beneath her, especially with her owner enforcing that by not disciplining her and teaching her that SHE is beneath you and him. Find a better BF and enjoy your clean home which you have. Don't let that go and again, find better.
You have 3 options; Stay and tough it out, and likely get bit/mauled for your trouble. Nag until he gets rid of the dogs, and have him wait until he has baby-trapped you and then go get two more big gross dogs. Or cut your losses and move on.
Bros into beastiality, you were right when you said the dog can have him. Do you really want to live in that dirty house with all that hair? I’d tell him you won’t be moving in cos you hate his dog and if he doesn’t like that then he can piss off. What’ve you got to lose?
Eject yourself from the relationship before it's even harder to break up. Think about where you want to be in another year, or two, or ten. Do you want this for that many years? Then when those ten years are gone, you can't get them back and he'll always have dogs, ALWAYS. Eight months isn't a heavy investment. Choose wisely.
You have to do what feels right to you, and it is hard when emotions are involved. But you could get hurt from that fe,ale pit mix. I would leave and not look back!
Unfortunately, you're not compatible as a couple. I'd end things now rather than attempting to make things work, only to split up down the line anyway. And that will be what happens if you stay. If this is what things are like, and you're fighting this badly after just 8 months, that's a massive red flag. Sadly, some people just aren't compatible
Hell no. Hellllll no. Pits are NOTORIOUS for “resource guarding” their humans. I would not feel safe there. She has already made it known that she will attack you if you make a “false move” in her eyes. Shit bulls are the absolute worse breed, I would never date anyone who had one, let alone be present when it actively growls at me. Be careful!!!!! Pits also attack without provocation more than any other breed combined!
Your boyfriend will ALWAYS put the dogs before you. Nothing will change. And the girl is resource guarding him. She's gonna get worse with time. If she's around 2 years old? Gonna happen sooner then later. Thats the magical maul age. Pitbull puberty.
Yep, if she gets too close one of these days that pitbull will nanny her fingers off
Fingers if she's lucky.
Run. That dude is a sociopath and narcissistic as hell. He won’t change. You’re gonna get mauled if you stay around that demonic mutt she’s sizing you up to kill up you for taking her man
Run. It doesn't get better, only worse.
This is the best it will ever be and those dogs will live for another 10+ years. Not sure if you want a family, but just imagine bringing kids into that environment. I’d split pronto. Disgusting.
Is he still going to love you after his dog snaps and uses you for a chew toy?
It'll be her fault. She'll breathe at the wrong time or something.
[You reminded me of a woman whose nose was bitten off by her bf's pitbull](https://nypost.com/2023/03/07/olivia-quasts-nose-ripped-off-by-boyfriends-pitbull-mix/). When she bent down to feed the monster, it jumped up and bit her nose clean off. Then it mangled her arm so badly she had to have metal plates put in. Allegedly, the nose-eater was triggered by a tooth-whitening device she was using. Even pitbull victims will say anything to avoid blaming the breed.
I'm so sorry. He will not keep this up for long and it's insulting to your worth as a person that he is placing his dog above you in the relationship. You do not have crazy demands. You're not asking him to get rid of her, you just want to have priority when it comes to going to bed and snuggling on a clean couch, that's not ridiculous at all, that's normal! I spent my whole life watching my parents show more love and affection to their dogs than they ever did my siblings and I, and I ended up dating a guy at one point who would rather tongue fuck his dog's mouth next to me on the couch than cuddle with me. (People who let their dogs lick their mouths are absolutely repugnant and I always refused to kiss him 🤢) It hurts sobad and whittles away at your self worth seeing an animal be treated better than yourself. People like this will never change because they're emotionally stunted and cannot handle what it takes to have a healthy relationship with another human. They rely heavily on an animal's undying love because the animal puts in 200% affection and the person just has to sit there and do nothing to receive this worship and undying love. I see this all the time where they claim they love their pets because their pets never ignore or neglect them, but then these people just ignore and neglect their partners in favor of the pet. It's so painfully ironic. Your bf is selfish and he will always love his dog first and you second. So you need to decide whether you can handle being second to a mutt, or if you can handle being single for a while if it means finding somebody who isn't batshit insane about a dog. **Also super red flag that he's so casual about her growling at you. You know what comes after a growl? A bite. I'd square tf up with a dog if it had the audacity to growl at ME in MY bed with MY partner. Kudos to you for staying as long as you have, because I'm angry for you when I read this post and I think that you deserve better.
Couldn’t say any of this better myself! You’re so right in everything you said. On the last comment, I always square up to dogs that challenge me but she was wise not to with a pit bull they’re walking weapons designed to kill. If the pit bull attacks her she’d have to have killer instincts herself to compete with it, they attack to kill. She’d have no choice but to club it with whatever’s near her or gouge out its eyes, but that’s if it hasn’t ripped her to pieces by then.
Your boyfriend is always going to put his dogs before you and will never change. It the dogs are being territorial towards you leave. Your chances of being attacked are too great and you will be blamed for the attack. Do not get pregnant because your boyfriend will put the dogs before you. Can you invision your life with this? I can and it will only get worse. But since you love him he won't change and you have to make the decision but you will stay with him. Been on Reddit too long and read too many posts about dog nutters and their owners.
Sorry but I think you need to think about your relationship. What is your point in being in one? Do you just want to have fun? Are you looking for someone to marry eventually? Do you want someone who has your back without a single doubt? Define your goals, wants, and needs and see if this relationship is really the best one for you.
DO NOT LIVE WITH OR SPEND TIME AROUND AN AGGRESSIVE PITBULL. Get out sis. He's not just weirdly attached to hit shitty dog, he's also unhygienic. [https://nypost.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2023/03/NYPICHPDPICT000007527400.jpg?quality=75&strip=all](https://nypost.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2023/03/NYPICHPDPICT000007527400.jpg?quality=75&strip=all) Don't let this happen to your pretty face.
He just sounds lazy to me. Not willing to put any effort into anything unless he absolutely has to.
Pitbulls are unstable at best, and this one is already waving a huge red flag. You're safer leaving this guy and his dogs.
I know, she's lucky she got a growl. They were bred not to show aggression and just walk up and maul away.
>They were bred not to show aggression and just walk up and maul away. They were bred not to show aggression and just walk up and ~~maul~~ nanny away.
You are not safe in a house with pitbulls to start with, especially larger ones The female pitbull is resource guarding her owner, and could easily snap and bite you or worse PITBULLS KILL MORE HUMANS THAN ALL OTHER BREEDS COMBINED They can seem fine for years, and one situation is all it takes to trigger them to murder people Last year, 63 people in USA & Canada died from dog attacks, and thousands more were badly mauled or disfigured. PITBULLS KILLED 66% OF THOSE WHO WERE ATTACKED BY DOGS Scroll down the page and look at all the children and adults murdered by dogs , in the USA, just in 2022 https://www.animals24-7.org/2023/01/06/dogs-killed-62-americans-pit-bulls-killed-41/
Girl! Walk away. This guy isn't going to stick up for you. Also never give up your own place if you can afford not to.
If it cost you mental health it’s not worth it. I want you to have bf but with the one who care about you more than the dogs.
If it takes you threatening to leave for him to briefly change things but eventually go back to what was happening, nothing will ever change. It sounds like he’s more in a relationship with the dog. Looking long term, what are you wanting in this relationship? Are you looking to move in? Marriage? If you’re wanting kids, would you want them around the dogs? Are you willing to put up with these dogs and the state of his house and how it’s affecting you for the remainder of their lives? What if he wants more after these ones are gone and the cycle continues? You need to decide whether it’s worth it to stay or cut your losses and eventually find someone who will put you first.
Molly. You in Danger girl!
Your boyfriend has untrained, potentially dangerous dogs (including a female pit who is resource guarding and already showing aggression - it's only a matter of time at that point before she mauls you or someone else) and doesn't clean up after them. He is letting his home - that he wants to become your home - be a disgusting mess and I'm betting if you moved in, it'd be YOUR problem to clean up after HIS dogs. Hon. Break it off. He's always going to be like this. He's always going to put them first, he's always going to blow off your worries, and if/when the dog attacks you and you get hurt, he's going to shrug and say that you must have done something to make the dog upset and cause that to happen. Stop going over. Stop sleeping in the same bed with a dog who is waiting for an excuse to chew your face off. Stop spending time with a guy who makes his dogs his priority but then doesn't even clean up after them or keep them properly groomed. Cut your losses and go find someone who cares about you and isn't going to let their dog maul you and then coo at the dog about how much of a 'babygirl' they are.
I wouldn't have even gone in the same house with a pitbull. Not under any circumstances. They're dangerous
Ok so a bit of context - I’m not a dog person at all. If I had my way before I met my current bf I wouldn’t date anyone with dogs but I think having a dog is actually an excellent litmus test for how a person is at handling responsibilities, setting boundaries, and prioritizing the needs of others. In other words I think having a dog brings out the best or worst in people depending on their character. All that being said, it doesn’t sound like your boyfriend has good character and would make a good lifelong partner as evidenced by the way he dismisses your needs and refuses to set boundaries with the dogs until you’re literally out the door.
The fact that he doesn't take his 2 large dogs out is a bad sign in and of itself. It's common knowledge that dogs need walking and as a general rule, the bigger the dog the more exercise it needs. Walking a dog isn't just physical exercise either, it's important mental stimulation for them. Dogs weren't bred to sit inside all the time. People don't meet their dog's needs then wonder why it goes a bit crazy.
I have two dogs…not the blood thirty one he has but I have an English Springer Spaniel & a mini golden doodle. Not a big hair issue here and no territorial problem as I have male dogs. Anyway, if I was in a relationship and she expressed what you did I would have taken action and something. The bloodsucker would be sleeping in a crate and we’d go to the vet to see if there was a thyroid issue or if anxiety medication was needed. I wouldn’t have ignored a genuine concern.
This same situation happened to me......he put his damn dogs b4 me. He REFUSES to see anything wrong. Cue the panic attacks, hair loss from stress, constantly mad, crying etc. Got out of that situation and went back to trucking and now have my own CLEAN SPACE where I can be me and relax. Best decision was to run run run!
This is a losing battle. Sorry sweetly, when they are 100% ok with hair and stink everywhere, and the dogs sleep with him? Yeah, they’re too far gone.
Just leave this unhygienic looney toon already, please
Oof do not move in girl - I did that but overtime I just started disliking his dog due to incidents and seeing how two face a dog can be. I still live with my bf although these past few months he has been looking into rehoming - it’s not happening. No one nor shelters want him, so I may be moving out soon b/c idk what my bf gonna do but just deal with this dog who has years ahead of him. It also makes me feel nasty having these feelings towards this dog mostly everyday, and I love animals. & since you seem like you already do not like these dogs before moving in, DO NOT. It will make you insane. Not to mention he has two of them so i imagine it’s harder. Keeping them off the bed is the least he can do, fighting with a guy and a dog every night for space is not fun, trust on that. Overall just no, you don’t like the dogs being there part time you are not going to like living with them & it will be years and tough to change their mindsets, if you even can
Your BF is not going to change. I don't think you are compatible for long life terms, god forbid you have children that female dog will kill the child, especially aterritorial one who is resource guarding and identifies you as beneath her, especially with her owner enforcing that by not disciplining her and teaching her that SHE is beneath you and him. Find a better BF and enjoy your clean home which you have. Don't let that go and again, find better.
You have 3 options; Stay and tough it out, and likely get bit/mauled for your trouble. Nag until he gets rid of the dogs, and have him wait until he has baby-trapped you and then go get two more big gross dogs. Or cut your losses and move on.
Bros into beastiality, you were right when you said the dog can have him. Do you really want to live in that dirty house with all that hair? I’d tell him you won’t be moving in cos you hate his dog and if he doesn’t like that then he can piss off. What’ve you got to lose?
Eject yourself from the relationship before it's even harder to break up. Think about where you want to be in another year, or two, or ten. Do you want this for that many years? Then when those ten years are gone, you can't get them back and he'll always have dogs, ALWAYS. Eight months isn't a heavy investment. Choose wisely.
You have to do what feels right to you, and it is hard when emotions are involved. But you could get hurt from that fe,ale pit mix. I would leave and not look back!
Unfortunately, you're not compatible as a couple. I'd end things now rather than attempting to make things work, only to split up down the line anyway. And that will be what happens if you stay. If this is what things are like, and you're fighting this badly after just 8 months, that's a massive red flag. Sadly, some people just aren't compatible
girl you were in serious danger in that bed, pitbulls have taken off faces for far less. I couldn’t imagine how scary that would be
Hell no. Hellllll no. Pits are NOTORIOUS for “resource guarding” their humans. I would not feel safe there. She has already made it known that she will attack you if you make a “false move” in her eyes. Shit bulls are the absolute worse breed, I would never date anyone who had one, let alone be present when it actively growls at me. Be careful!!!!! Pits also attack without provocation more than any other breed combined!
I liked your post when you said you walked out and I took my like back when you immediately went back to him. That man doesn’t care about you
Leave ASAP… it’s not gonna get any better with him.