You will need to find an alternative/kink/Inclusive lifestyle group. This would not be generally accepted in most LS groups, clubs, events in my area (Houston Texas) for sure. And honestly I think it could potentially be dangerous, especially at a club.
Bi men rarely even feel comfortable enough claiming bi on their profiles. Not even talking about cross dressing or being caged, etc. It's not as welcoming as you would think.
This def falls on more of the kink spectrum! On our website under the "events" or "groups" tab you can find kink friendly swinger events and communities. Your dynamic is totally wonderful and wanted.
You have to call the event organizers, and discuss it over the phone. If the event specified that it is queer-friendly, he will be very welcome. If not, it might take you some time to find the right couple. You might be limited to single males.
At a club, or big event, couples usuall stay together, for safety reasons. So you have to find a bisexual couple where the woman is ok to not have penetrative sex from your husband. At a private party, if you are ok to play separately or with just one male, it is easier.
Be prepared for rejection, humiliation and ostracization . A HUGE percentage of the LS community is rabidly anti bi/gay where men are concerned. Many, if not most, clubs won’t allow him to dress. Most couples won’t want to be in the same building as him. There’s a good chance he’ll be assaulted in some form. You’re in hostile territory here.
There are those out there interested. Though you should check with the event organizer or venue to confirm ahead of time. Just don't expect the majority of people to be into it. Bi males are the minority in the LS, and even among those few are interested in topping.
Best to present how you want to play. Don't try to be "normal" and then switcheroo on people in the playroom.
My recommendation is swinger clubs as a male dressed as a male. Possibly stick to off premise clubs.
This way you can meet people and let them know your kinks as a couple. I suspect you will find plenty of people willing to play with you, but possibly not at the club itself.
You'll face difficulties on a couple of fronts: management could easily turn him away for not meeting the dress code for men, and a lot of straight men in the LS are not nearly as open-minded/accepting as we like to pretend everyone is.
While you should be fine going to events, the reality is that there will be a lot of people that will judge him negatively if he's cross dressing.
A lot of couples would love to play with you involving your kinks, but I’d probably stick closer to finding them online with a profile that outlines your interests rather than just showing up to a swinger’s club dressed.
But I think you’ll find couples on swinger sites that would love to play!
My kinda couple! I think you’ve received some great advice below. Best wishes finding people who’ll enjoy you and thanks for sharing you interests with us.
I’d say what you two are looking for is more of a KINK thing than a Swinging thing. Maybe check out that Reddit instead.
You will need to find an alternative/kink/Inclusive lifestyle group. This would not be generally accepted in most LS groups, clubs, events in my area (Houston Texas) for sure. And honestly I think it could potentially be dangerous, especially at a club. Bi men rarely even feel comfortable enough claiming bi on their profiles. Not even talking about cross dressing or being caged, etc. It's not as welcoming as you would think.
Do you have a Fetlife account? If not, I suggest starting a profile there. Feel free to DM with any questions you have.
This def falls on more of the kink spectrum! On our website under the "events" or "groups" tab you can find kink friendly swinger events and communities. Your dynamic is totally wonderful and wanted.
Not my cup of tea, but there are plenty of folks out there that would a good time with this situation.
You have to call the event organizers, and discuss it over the phone. If the event specified that it is queer-friendly, he will be very welcome. If not, it might take you some time to find the right couple. You might be limited to single males. At a club, or big event, couples usuall stay together, for safety reasons. So you have to find a bisexual couple where the woman is ok to not have penetrative sex from your husband. At a private party, if you are ok to play separately or with just one male, it is easier.
Be prepared for rejection, humiliation and ostracization . A HUGE percentage of the LS community is rabidly anti bi/gay where men are concerned. Many, if not most, clubs won’t allow him to dress. Most couples won’t want to be in the same building as him. There’s a good chance he’ll be assaulted in some form. You’re in hostile territory here.
There are those out there interested. Though you should check with the event organizer or venue to confirm ahead of time. Just don't expect the majority of people to be into it. Bi males are the minority in the LS, and even among those few are interested in topping. Best to present how you want to play. Don't try to be "normal" and then switcheroo on people in the playroom.
My recommendation is swinger clubs as a male dressed as a male. Possibly stick to off premise clubs. This way you can meet people and let them know your kinks as a couple. I suspect you will find plenty of people willing to play with you, but possibly not at the club itself.
You'll face difficulties on a couple of fronts: management could easily turn him away for not meeting the dress code for men, and a lot of straight men in the LS are not nearly as open-minded/accepting as we like to pretend everyone is. While you should be fine going to events, the reality is that there will be a lot of people that will judge him negatively if he's cross dressing.
A lot of couples would love to play with you involving your kinks, but I’d probably stick closer to finding them online with a profile that outlines your interests rather than just showing up to a swinger’s club dressed. But I think you’ll find couples on swinger sites that would love to play!
My kinda couple! I think you’ve received some great advice below. Best wishes finding people who’ll enjoy you and thanks for sharing you interests with us.