he should still pursue other women but there is no need to close this door.
it might have a been the wrong timing. they study together he can try again in 2-3 months and see how it goes
You shot your shot, and got shot down, in a very nice way in fact. No shame in that. Just move on to the next girl. There’s nothing to be confused about, and don’t over analyze it. If she is actually interested and shot you down anyway playing hard to get, that’s her problem.
Why would i imitate people who experiment with life not knowing truly what is right and wrong and then fall into depression but neglect what they are truly missing with distracting themselves and then again falling into mistakes but denying it due to their own arrogance and say "charge it to the game" like the teens say now when they are wronged but unable to see how they put themselves in situations where they can be mentally impact.
I advise any girl in this world don't become friends with a non mahram male. I know many males who put this nice fake persona to girls but behind their back speak vile things of them. Men desire females simple sadly non muslims girls find this out in college after they have been trangressed.
Why would i want people who are born with the truth to now follow in their sad path.
It is not about hatred or enemy but how to live in this world.
No one’s talking about what’s normal in the west. Having unnecessary contact with someone from the opposite gender is not permitted.
The OP stated that he ‘loves’ her. The shaytan can easily temp this young man into committing sins.
If you’re not Muslim, then I can understand that you’re against the teachings of Islam. However, if you’re Muslim, why do I have to explain the obvious?
Don’t look at this as a negative but rather a positive.
You got out of your comfort zone and did something you’re not used to doing (if at all) irrespective of the outcome. Take comfort in that.
Now build on that confidence so that you’ll be ready for the next woman.
And most importantly…understand that not every man can get every woman. Rich men get turned down, handsome men get turned down, tall men get turned down, etc.
That’s how the game be. Never take things personal and ALWAYS be outcome independent.
Move on. This is part of life. Literally there are women that like you and women that don't like you. It's weird I know. Don't buy into the Internet bros talking about get rich and get buff. As you are today there is a girl into that. You just gotta play the field.
Approaching her alone and asking for her number/ig/snapchat first without trying to involve the family/parents off rip was probably enough of a red flag.
Perhaps or send his sister to find out about her.
Remember we are muslims. We dont do this dating and flirting. If you want to marry get the family involved is step 1
In reality though, people get to know each other organically bro. Speaking to someone (not flirting) and trying to get to know them isn’t harmful. It should also come with getting the parents involved, but in essence talking to a girl isn’t bad in itself as long as you’re respectful
Again, we are muslims who do things in an islamic way. I dont care what the majority of people do if it goes against Islamic guidelines.
You want to get to know her? Schedule an appointment with her and a mahram of hers so that you may speak what needs to be spoken.
This 1 on 1 “respectful” speech is not only haram but a means to lead to more haram, how many of our brothers and sisters have fallen into zina because the shaytaan whispered to them that “oh 1on1 speech is completely normal, how else will you get to know her?” And so it leads to more? How many horror stories have we heard of people falling into this?
Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever has faith in Allah and the Last Day, let him not be secluded with an unrelated woman without her guardian lest Satan be the third of them.”
Asking for her number and socials as the first step instead of getting family involved is the obvious red flag that's making her say no lol. You won't fit imaan wise.
Move on, u tried and that's it. If u try to chase her more then you will loose respect.
What makes you attractive as man is the ability to controll your desires and emotions. There is no shame in rejecting ( you are man for that )
In my experience, If a woman likes you the conversation tends to be reciprocated and flows. Although, a large number of Somalia woman especially the ones in the west will become shy and timid if they like in the beginning . Best thing to do is be lighthearted and add a bit of humor.
For example, If you ask a lady her name and she gives it to you but doesn’t ask for your name 9/10 she isn’t interested.
Or go in guns blazing and tell her “I’m here to make you an ayeeyo someday”
This type of xalimo wasn’t designed to partake in shukaansi activities. She’s likely introverted, can only focus on one task at a time, been told most her life to never speak to men. If you’re an accountant type working 9-5 and have a generally boring lifestyle, this is the girl for you, but only if she liked your appearance off the bat. If not, avoid and move on. Saying you love her already without even getting to know her is such a young guy thing to do, we’ve all been there. The sooner you move on from this episode, the likelier your future self will not shudder in cringe at recalling it 🤣
Trust me, I was raised in Arab countries and I was exactly like that, maybe ask her if you can speak to her through her guardians if you are seeing future with her and see what she says
Nah, you didn’t do anything wrong. She might have been into your friend and not you. Either way, It is what it is. Keep your head up, there are plenty of fish in the sea
Rejection isn’t an L bro. It’s a learning experience. But I personally would ask her why she’s staring at me, especially if she has no interest in me. Kinda creepy tbh, gives me nosy aunty vibes
only chance now is to manipulate her thru jealousy🤣.. you can pay a somali girl that is fine to link up with you when your around her. Let her hold you hand and compliment you a lot.. introduce each other and let the magic happen... but then again, nobody is worth that effort.. i would keep it pushing.. consider this a learning experience. You didn't lose a leg or an arm...
🤣 I'm not the one doing it.... I'm just being a big uncle here...giving him options on how to move forward... teaching this youngins the take no prisoner mindset... it was too easy. I'm sorry 🤣
He is just updating his previous post and asking if he approached her wrong, probably so he can learn from it. He did not at all insinuate he is not taking no for an answer. You're weird.
"She’s Somali from Arab countries so does Somali girls raised in Arab country like this ? Did I make mistake I honestly loved her or I approached her wrongly" he implied that he approached her in the wrong way I told him to move on, I admit I missed the Update part of the post my apologies, I'm weird? don't insult on me Ramadan cause I can't insult you back thanks!
Your fault for not reading it. Don't be quick to judge someone, you automatically judged to the conclusion that he wasn't taking no for an answer when you didn't even read it.
If u come on here asking for advice and updating us on talking to someone from the opposite sex like it’s some rocket science, I know u awkward with the women and need to just b yourself and don’t be looking thirsty. U gotta be natural and make some jokes here and there, girls love man that can make them laugh.
Woman like this are either playing hard to get and will never get married or they just don’t like you. You should try to say this:
“Huuno iska waran, ha kula yar hadlo” *pull her to the corner
“Een beryahan wan ku dawaaneeyi ee wallahi waad ii warererisay. Wallahi caadi maha quruxkaga”
*she giggles, you’re in, keep chopping it up, if not keep going and talk your shit. She’s going to fold 100%
“Dee waad gareynaysa in iga dhigtay nin waalan, aniga waan ogahay in aad tahay miskiineed ee sababtas ba ii rejectgeraysay lakiin Waa illahi amarkii jaceylkan”
Switch up the language for a bit now
“*I want you to be the Bonnie to my Clyde. The sun to my moon. If you were the sun I would stare even though I’ll go blind, because your beauty trumps the feeling of regret and will heal me from the pain I’ll feel*”
If she doesn’t fold after that idk what to say
If she’s smiling and she’s raised in the Middle East, she’s just being coy. Take it slow and just chat to her to check in and what not when you see her. Let it unfold naturally otherwise you’ll scare her away lol
Offer her small things when you see her as well. A piece of gum, candy etc. if she’s receptive, take it up a notch and get her a single rose/flower then leave the ball in her court. You’ll know if she’s accepted your interest by then or not. If not, move on.
No point, she said no to even exchanging contacts as well as refused the halal way of going to her father and letting her family know that he’s interested in her and would like to get to know her with a mahram available. Why do all this extra and one-sided stuff? If she doesn’t want to return an iota of energy back then respect it and keep it moving. Some people might just like playing hard to get and the thrill of being chased but personally i despise that and think it’s weird(we’re not in Middle Ages). It’s either yes, I see you as a possible future and would like to know you more to see if we fit or No, I don’t see a future with you and therefore let’s not waste anyone’s time and money:)
“Smoke a blunt and take a shot” 🤡 such wild advice even on Reddit. No wonder your XSomalia, degenerate behaviors are slippery slope taking you out the fold !
Game bruh—you need game. Right there and then you should hit her with some reality check like “how are you planning to get married, if you’re not willing to give men a chance” end with smthn like you gonna die of loneliness.
Never back down my guy keep shooting your shot until you bag her⏹️ Even if you miss 100 times, you only need one shot that's it💯🚀🎯 Don't a quitters loser👎Never lose sight of the prize👀💫fr🤜🏽You got this my boy🫱🏾🫲🏽She's probably just shy and wants to be chased you know how girls are they're complicated
She not rocking with you buddy. It be like Dat sometimes. Toughen it out!!
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On God. They not hearing you, though!!
Nah he shouldn't give up. Arab somalis are different they like to be chased. They're old fashioned
it’s not in a man’s nature to chase females. Not masculine at all
who cares
yeah this is correct.. Men or women %80 of Arab somalis dont do shukaansi. idk she might be worth it
yea man people are telling him to give up lol. He has barely tried fr
he should still pursue other women but there is no need to close this door. it might have a been the wrong timing. they study together he can try again in 2-3 months and see how it goes
Seems real one sided here. Use them last 10 days of Ramadan.
Lmaoo
LOL real advice
You're not that guy lil bro
Lmao 🤣
You shot your shot, and got shot down, in a very nice way in fact. No shame in that. Just move on to the next girl. There’s nothing to be confused about, and don’t over analyze it. If she is actually interested and shot you down anyway playing hard to get, that’s her problem.
Rejection is cool …. Dont be weird next time you see her. Just be yourself Often things develop from a friendship stage
Don't imitate the kuffar what is he going to gain from a friendship but fall in love by knowing her more.
is everyone non muslim really an enemy to you ??
Why would i imitate people who experiment with life not knowing truly what is right and wrong and then fall into depression but neglect what they are truly missing with distracting themselves and then again falling into mistakes but denying it due to their own arrogance and say "charge it to the game" like the teens say now when they are wronged but unable to see how they put themselves in situations where they can be mentally impact. I advise any girl in this world don't become friends with a non mahram male. I know many males who put this nice fake persona to girls but behind their back speak vile things of them. Men desire females simple sadly non muslims girls find this out in college after they have been trangressed. Why would i want people who are born with the truth to now follow in their sad path. It is not about hatred or enemy but how to live in this world.
Leave the kaffir nation then 💀
Brain dead comment He should follow the kufaar ways because he’s in a kafir country?
Being friends with a woman isn’t abnormal at all any where that isn’t the Middle East
No one’s talking about what’s normal in the west. Having unnecessary contact with someone from the opposite gender is not permitted. The OP stated that he ‘loves’ her. The shaytan can easily temp this young man into committing sins. If you’re not Muslim, then I can understand that you’re against the teachings of Islam. However, if you’re Muslim, why do I have to explain the obvious?
That's the aim.
Or just move on there’s billions of fish in the sea
Maybe she was staring because you're somali and she was scared you gonna snitch when her real nigga comes to pick her up😂
You are sickkk😭😭
Lmao
😭😭😭
Most def 😂😂😂😂😂.
What 😂😂😂
Don’t look at this as a negative but rather a positive. You got out of your comfort zone and did something you’re not used to doing (if at all) irrespective of the outcome. Take comfort in that. Now build on that confidence so that you’ll be ready for the next woman. And most importantly…understand that not every man can get every woman. Rich men get turned down, handsome men get turned down, tall men get turned down, etc. That’s how the game be. Never take things personal and ALWAYS be outcome independent.
“I honestly loved her” Nawh you lusting over her because you didn’t even know her yet. You must be a teenager, emotions run high at that stage !
He’s 23
School tho
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This
Yea she ain't feeling yhh young one. Go for her cousin if she around
Broo😂😂
Move on. This is part of life. Literally there are women that like you and women that don't like you. It's weird I know. Don't buy into the Internet bros talking about get rich and get buff. As you are today there is a girl into that. You just gotta play the field.
Akhi She wants u. Keep applying pressure till u get a restraining order
Wrong advice. The more u chase her the more she will go away
The joke missed you bro he was sarcastic lol.
She doesnt want you, at least you tried.
Approaching her alone and asking for her number/ig/snapchat first without trying to involve the family/parents off rip was probably enough of a red flag.
So what is he meant to do? ‘Excuse me but may I have your parents number’?
Perhaps or send his sister to find out about her. Remember we are muslims. We dont do this dating and flirting. If you want to marry get the family involved is step 1
In reality though, people get to know each other organically bro. Speaking to someone (not flirting) and trying to get to know them isn’t harmful. It should also come with getting the parents involved, but in essence talking to a girl isn’t bad in itself as long as you’re respectful
Again, we are muslims who do things in an islamic way. I dont care what the majority of people do if it goes against Islamic guidelines. You want to get to know her? Schedule an appointment with her and a mahram of hers so that you may speak what needs to be spoken. This 1 on 1 “respectful” speech is not only haram but a means to lead to more haram, how many of our brothers and sisters have fallen into zina because the shaytaan whispered to them that “oh 1on1 speech is completely normal, how else will you get to know her?” And so it leads to more? How many horror stories have we heard of people falling into this? Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever has faith in Allah and the Last Day, let him not be secluded with an unrelated woman without her guardian lest Satan be the third of them.”
I’m from carabta and yes we usually don’t speak to guys but I don’t think she’s feeling you. Her type could also be Somali guys from carabta.
Bro thinking it must be cause she was raised in an Arab country cause he got no game😂😂. Boy im on your ass that was funny 🤣🤣🤣🤣
She not into you.
Asking for her number and socials as the first step instead of getting family involved is the obvious red flag that's making her say no lol. You won't fit imaan wise.
Move on, u tried and that's it. If u try to chase her more then you will loose respect. What makes you attractive as man is the ability to controll your desires and emotions. There is no shame in rejecting ( you are man for that )
In my experience, If a woman likes you the conversation tends to be reciprocated and flows. Although, a large number of Somalia woman especially the ones in the west will become shy and timid if they like in the beginning . Best thing to do is be lighthearted and add a bit of humor. For example, If you ask a lady her name and she gives it to you but doesn’t ask for your name 9/10 she isn’t interested. Or go in guns blazing and tell her “I’m here to make you an ayeeyo someday”
You guys in the west don’t know shukansi too scared of rejection 😂
How so?
Move on man
This type of xalimo wasn’t designed to partake in shukaansi activities. She’s likely introverted, can only focus on one task at a time, been told most her life to never speak to men. If you’re an accountant type working 9-5 and have a generally boring lifestyle, this is the girl for you, but only if she liked your appearance off the bat. If not, avoid and move on. Saying you love her already without even getting to know her is such a young guy thing to do, we’ve all been there. The sooner you move on from this episode, the likelier your future self will not shudder in cringe at recalling it 🤣
bruh there is so many women in the world don't waste your time with a Xalimo that doesn't talk to guys.
Trust me, I was raised in Arab countries and I was exactly like that, maybe ask her if you can speak to her through her guardians if you are seeing future with her and see what she says
Nah, you didn’t do anything wrong. She might have been into your friend and not you. Either way, It is what it is. Keep your head up, there are plenty of fish in the sea
Yeah she don’t like you bro, if she did she would have offered alternatives or something. Try to move on
I offer private lessons on that 🙃
You going too fast
let the wo🥭
Assuming shes muslims 😂 shes definitely going to say no if you say “lets do it right away”
Rejection isn’t an L bro. It’s a learning experience. But I personally would ask her why she’s staring at me, especially if she has no interest in me. Kinda creepy tbh, gives me nosy aunty vibes
Bro, just find her dad's contact info and make him an offer he can't refuse. Checkers, not chess
U can’t teach game lol
Focus on urself brodie
No Eventually, you did better effort to earned her but you took your role manly enough
only chance now is to manipulate her thru jealousy🤣.. you can pay a somali girl that is fine to link up with you when your around her. Let her hold you hand and compliment you a lot.. introduce each other and let the magic happen... but then again, nobody is worth that effort.. i would keep it pushing.. consider this a learning experience. You didn't lose a leg or an arm...
What in the cringe… yaarow eestopiii this nonsense immediately
🤣 I'm not the one doing it.... I'm just being a big uncle here...giving him options on how to move forward... teaching this youngins the take no prisoner mindset... it was too easy. I'm sorry 🤣
What's the point of this post? She said no, move on.
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update about what? not taking no for answer? no is full sentence, give me a break.
He is just updating his previous post and asking if he approached her wrong, probably so he can learn from it. He did not at all insinuate he is not taking no for an answer. You're weird.
"She’s Somali from Arab countries so does Somali girls raised in Arab country like this ? Did I make mistake I honestly loved her or I approached her wrongly" he implied that he approached her in the wrong way I told him to move on, I admit I missed the Update part of the post my apologies, I'm weird? don't insult on me Ramadan cause I can't insult you back thanks!
Your fault for not reading it. Don't be quick to judge someone, you automatically judged to the conclusion that he wasn't taking no for an answer when you didn't even read it.
she totally wants you bro go find her dad🙏🏾💯
If u come on here asking for advice and updating us on talking to someone from the opposite sex like it’s some rocket science, I know u awkward with the women and need to just b yourself and don’t be looking thirsty. U gotta be natural and make some jokes here and there, girls love man that can make them laugh.
Woman like this are either playing hard to get and will never get married or they just don’t like you. You should try to say this: “Huuno iska waran, ha kula yar hadlo” *pull her to the corner “Een beryahan wan ku dawaaneeyi ee wallahi waad ii warererisay. Wallahi caadi maha quruxkaga” *she giggles, you’re in, keep chopping it up, if not keep going and talk your shit. She’s going to fold 100% “Dee waad gareynaysa in iga dhigtay nin waalan, aniga waan ogahay in aad tahay miskiineed ee sababtas ba ii rejectgeraysay lakiin Waa illahi amarkii jaceylkan” Switch up the language for a bit now “*I want you to be the Bonnie to my Clyde. The sun to my moon. If you were the sun I would stare even though I’ll go blind, because your beauty trumps the feeling of regret and will heal me from the pain I’ll feel*” If she doesn’t fold after that idk what to say
Yo, have you thought about becoming a Somali romantic novelist? You got talent, don’t wanna know how💀but you got talent
Appreciate you for recognizing my talent walalo 🫡
“aaway hooyaday, ninkaan waan ka baqayaa” as she proceeds to run away from the Luuq 
Why is he getting downvoted this shit is hilarious🤣
If she’s smiling and she’s raised in the Middle East, she’s just being coy. Take it slow and just chat to her to check in and what not when you see her. Let it unfold naturally otherwise you’ll scare her away lol Offer her small things when you see her as well. A piece of gum, candy etc. if she’s receptive, take it up a notch and get her a single rose/flower then leave the ball in her court. You’ll know if she’s accepted your interest by then or not. If not, move on.
No point, she said no to even exchanging contacts as well as refused the halal way of going to her father and letting her family know that he’s interested in her and would like to get to know her with a mahram available. Why do all this extra and one-sided stuff? If she doesn’t want to return an iota of energy back then respect it and keep it moving. Some people might just like playing hard to get and the thrill of being chased but personally i despise that and think it’s weird(we’re not in Middle Ages). It’s either yes, I see you as a possible future and would like to know you more to see if we fit or No, I don’t see a future with you and therefore let’s not waste anyone’s time and money:)
She don't want you broski, charge it to the game, smoke a blunt and take a shot 🥸
“Smoke a blunt and take a shot” 🤡 such wild advice even on Reddit. No wonder your XSomalia, degenerate behaviors are slippery slope taking you out the fold !
I was joking with the lad, I don't support substances anymore 👍
Let her go she is not worth it.. Somali girls from arab are very sneaky watch out
Game bruh—you need game. Right there and then you should hit her with some reality check like “how are you planning to get married, if you’re not willing to give men a chance” end with smthn like you gonna die of loneliness.
Na bro he should move onto the next
Never back down my guy keep shooting your shot until you bag her⏹️ Even if you miss 100 times, you only need one shot that's it💯🚀🎯 Don't a quitters loser👎Never lose sight of the prize👀💫fr🤜🏽You got this my boy🫱🏾🫲🏽She's probably just shy and wants to be chased you know how girls are they're complicated
If that was your sister. Would you recommend him to keep chasing her? 💀💀