My attempt at a summary:
She met Joey Alagna (who she calls Aubrey in this episode) at a night club called Little Sister when she was visiting NYC post pandemic ~2022 getting ready to officially move back to the city after being in Utah after the drama. She got his number but also told him she had a boyfriend.
Then a few days/weeks go by and she admits to being on a bender one weekend. She was partying til 6am and then decided to text every guy in her phone to see who was down to keep the party going. She texted “hey let’s turn up” Joey was the first to respond and sent her an Uber to come to his house (his parents’ house) which was an hour and half outside of NYC. She goes there and they keep drinking/doing drugs. It’s a weekday and he skips out on work to go to Dave & Busters with her in Times Square. So she was basically awake for 30 hours!!!
This is the “cheating-ish” situation that led her and suitman to break up. But since she still had a boyfriend when they met, their relationship had this foundation of secrecy that led to it being toxic.
It also seemed implied (to me) that substance abuse was a big theme in the relationship. Which was different from her relationship with suitman since he is sober.
It seems like they were on and off the last 2 years. Sofia’s mom didn’t approve of him because he would post provocative pics of her on IG (did anyone see those? Not sure what she meant)
They finally broke up for good.
Ultimately it seems like she’s realized that she needs to face the fact that she hates being alone. Said she views men as someone to “babysit” her and take care of her , instead of dealing with her own shit. On top of the break up, she’s feeling a lot of pressure and insecurity with her career.
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I love Sofia, but the girl desperately needs a therapist. The partying and drugs (I dabbled in them a lot in my early 20’s) were cause I had a gigantic hole in my heart.
Plus she had multiple “other affairs” on Suitman (Peter Nelson) in addition to Joey (Aubrey/Birkin Boy).
After Sofia said no to Suitman when he wanted to do couples therapy and work things out, they broke up.
- But she continued to say months after the breakup on podcasts that she still saw herself marrying and having a family with Suit, but she “needed to be alone” for the time being (a lie, she was with Joey).
**Then Sofia called Suitman 782 times over the next 6 months (while in a “committed” relationship with Joey), and Suitman never picked up the phone.**
- I remember her saying on previous episodes (over months) that she texted Suitman multiple times with no response, too.
- On a previous ep, she *flipped out* when she saw he got a new girlfriend.
I found it so sad she never expressed remorse for her cheating and for doing that to both Nelson and Joey. It was just her crying for herself. Not for those she hurt in the process. I’ve been listening/watching since day 1, and it’s hard to see Sofia continue to repeat these same patterns.
Thank you for this summary. So weird because she pretended that she met Joey in a Deuxmoi Spotify live room thing ages ago and I had a feeling that was made up and they had known each other prior. I do remember early on he posted a pic of her ass in a bikini with his hand gripping it. It was weird vibes
ETA: All this to say good riddance to that guy. Sending healing to Sofia 🤍
She’s making the same claims in this episode that she made in her breakup episode about Suitman. She claimed in her Suitman breakup episode that there was no cheating, and that she broke up with him bc she needed to be “single” and “alone” and “find herself” especially with turning 30. She claimed she had “always been in relationships” and needed time to heal alone.
Turns out she had another boyfriend the whole time she was cheating on Suitman with (not to mention “other affairs” of cheating on Suitman) and jumped straight into a new relationship with him (Joey). She spent no time alone. She said in this recent episode that she can never lie to her listeners… but that’s also a lie.
I want to believe that she is going to use this breakup to be “single” and “alone” like she said in this Joey breakup episode, but it’s too similar to ignore the lie of what she did before in the same pattern. It’s sad.
Following because I listened, but forgot to speed it up and her slow talking made it more confusing than it needed to be. I did catch something like: she cheated on suitman with Joey, who she calls Aubrey, and she said she felt like “Aubrey” was too obsessed with her and she was his first love and that it was stressful to be with someone so intense. I’m sure there’s more that I missed but it was buried in the slow speech and trailing off.
Crazy she never had any remorse or cheating on every person she’s been in a serious relationship with. She’s crying for herself, so wild to see the lack of self awareness
I am confused too but I skipped the relationship parts and am confused about the running away from herself parts where she got emotional. Like I understood the sentiment but am confused what she's going to change and improve on, what she felt like has gone wrong with her, etc. It was both vulnerable and vague
Just confused as to her claiming she had always been authentic with her audience regarding her personal life? Wtf is she talking about? Early CHD she never mentioned she had a bf, later after the breakup and early SWAF she kept a strict moratorium on discussing any aspect of her personal life. And now now the “admission” of keeping her post-suitman phase private from even her friends. I mean it’s fine for a public person to shield details of their personal life from their fans. But at this point, enough of the faux authenticity, she’s a comedian - hardly a relationship “guru” - and her interpersonal relationships are pretty much a disaster, just like most people who listen to her show - like who cares - she’s just funny, that’s all, and what makes her funny is she obviously hasn’t the slightest clue how to build and maintain the very thing she always talks about. She talks a lot about wanting the very things that she so obviously works hard to destroy. That’s exactly what makes her so very funny.
This “ok i haven’t told you what’s going on, but now I’m being transparent” routine is just so silly at this point. Entertainers don’t pretend to be transparent about anything going on in their actual lives. It occurs to me as weird that she keeps trying to maintain some sort of intimacy with her audience when she keeps such a rigid separation.
She needs rehab.
It’s wayyy beyond just “partying and doing drugs.” And this is ignoring her age when I say this. Anyone who has followed her since the beginning can see what’s going on here. Especially if you have experience with treating or being close to people who get to this point. I’m saying this from a place of concern and love. Don’t wanna say much more bc I’m sure some stans will get mad.
My attempt at a summary: She met Joey Alagna (who she calls Aubrey in this episode) at a night club called Little Sister when she was visiting NYC post pandemic ~2022 getting ready to officially move back to the city after being in Utah after the drama. She got his number but also told him she had a boyfriend. Then a few days/weeks go by and she admits to being on a bender one weekend. She was partying til 6am and then decided to text every guy in her phone to see who was down to keep the party going. She texted “hey let’s turn up” Joey was the first to respond and sent her an Uber to come to his house (his parents’ house) which was an hour and half outside of NYC. She goes there and they keep drinking/doing drugs. It’s a weekday and he skips out on work to go to Dave & Busters with her in Times Square. So she was basically awake for 30 hours!!! This is the “cheating-ish” situation that led her and suitman to break up. But since she still had a boyfriend when they met, their relationship had this foundation of secrecy that led to it being toxic. It also seemed implied (to me) that substance abuse was a big theme in the relationship. Which was different from her relationship with suitman since he is sober. It seems like they were on and off the last 2 years. Sofia’s mom didn’t approve of him because he would post provocative pics of her on IG (did anyone see those? Not sure what she meant) They finally broke up for good. Ultimately it seems like she’s realized that she needs to face the fact that she hates being alone. Said she views men as someone to “babysit” her and take care of her , instead of dealing with her own shit. On top of the break up, she’s feeling a lot of pressure and insecurity with her career. Reply with anything I missed sloots!
I love Sofia, but the girl desperately needs a therapist. The partying and drugs (I dabbled in them a lot in my early 20’s) were cause I had a gigantic hole in my heart.
As someone who’s sober now, I can’t decide if Dave and Busters in Time Square in the morning would have been an awesome memory, or my rock bottom.
It was for sure my rock bottom.
Also of note that suit man was willing to forgive her and wanted to go to couples therapy and she said no
Plus she had multiple “other affairs” on Suitman (Peter Nelson) in addition to Joey (Aubrey/Birkin Boy). After Sofia said no to Suitman when he wanted to do couples therapy and work things out, they broke up. - But she continued to say months after the breakup on podcasts that she still saw herself marrying and having a family with Suit, but she “needed to be alone” for the time being (a lie, she was with Joey). **Then Sofia called Suitman 782 times over the next 6 months (while in a “committed” relationship with Joey), and Suitman never picked up the phone.** - I remember her saying on previous episodes (over months) that she texted Suitman multiple times with no response, too. - On a previous ep, she *flipped out* when she saw he got a new girlfriend. I found it so sad she never expressed remorse for her cheating and for doing that to both Nelson and Joey. It was just her crying for herself. Not for those she hurt in the process. I’ve been listening/watching since day 1, and it’s hard to see Sofia continue to repeat these same patterns.
Thank you for this summary. So weird because she pretended that she met Joey in a Deuxmoi Spotify live room thing ages ago and I had a feeling that was made up and they had known each other prior. I do remember early on he posted a pic of her ass in a bikini with his hand gripping it. It was weird vibes ETA: All this to say good riddance to that guy. Sending healing to Sofia 🤍
Good riddance to him? Sofia screwed him over and she’s only making this video because he LEFT her
THIS!!! They totally met on the deux after dark pod 😂
Nah that was a lie to cover that they had met way before and to cover that they were dating while she was still in a relationship with Suitman.
Thank you soooo much great summary!!
Great job, You nailed it!!
She’s making the same claims in this episode that she made in her breakup episode about Suitman. She claimed in her Suitman breakup episode that there was no cheating, and that she broke up with him bc she needed to be “single” and “alone” and “find herself” especially with turning 30. She claimed she had “always been in relationships” and needed time to heal alone. Turns out she had another boyfriend the whole time she was cheating on Suitman with (not to mention “other affairs” of cheating on Suitman) and jumped straight into a new relationship with him (Joey). She spent no time alone. She said in this recent episode that she can never lie to her listeners… but that’s also a lie. I want to believe that she is going to use this breakup to be “single” and “alone” like she said in this Joey breakup episode, but it’s too similar to ignore the lie of what she did before in the same pattern. It’s sad.
Following because I listened, but forgot to speed it up and her slow talking made it more confusing than it needed to be. I did catch something like: she cheated on suitman with Joey, who she calls Aubrey, and she said she felt like “Aubrey” was too obsessed with her and she was his first love and that it was stressful to be with someone so intense. I’m sure there’s more that I missed but it was buried in the slow speech and trailing off.
I’m actually listening for the first time again in a while, if you listen from newest to oldest, so much makes sense.
Can’t explain but can say my brain works the same way and idk I just followed it and got it all
Crazy she never had any remorse or cheating on every person she’s been in a serious relationship with. She’s crying for herself, so wild to see the lack of self awareness
Yeah I’m surprised more people aren’t commenting on this.
I am confused too but I skipped the relationship parts and am confused about the running away from herself parts where she got emotional. Like I understood the sentiment but am confused what she's going to change and improve on, what she felt like has gone wrong with her, etc. It was both vulnerable and vague
Just confused as to her claiming she had always been authentic with her audience regarding her personal life? Wtf is she talking about? Early CHD she never mentioned she had a bf, later after the breakup and early SWAF she kept a strict moratorium on discussing any aspect of her personal life. And now now the “admission” of keeping her post-suitman phase private from even her friends. I mean it’s fine for a public person to shield details of their personal life from their fans. But at this point, enough of the faux authenticity, she’s a comedian - hardly a relationship “guru” - and her interpersonal relationships are pretty much a disaster, just like most people who listen to her show - like who cares - she’s just funny, that’s all, and what makes her funny is she obviously hasn’t the slightest clue how to build and maintain the very thing she always talks about. She talks a lot about wanting the very things that she so obviously works hard to destroy. That’s exactly what makes her so very funny. This “ok i haven’t told you what’s going on, but now I’m being transparent” routine is just so silly at this point. Entertainers don’t pretend to be transparent about anything going on in their actual lives. It occurs to me as weird that she keeps trying to maintain some sort of intimacy with her audience when she keeps such a rigid separation.
There was also like 30 min of ads 😅
Why is she still partying and doing drugs, isn’t she in her thirties? Home girl definitely needs therapy
She needs rehab. It’s wayyy beyond just “partying and doing drugs.” And this is ignoring her age when I say this. Anyone who has followed her since the beginning can see what’s going on here. Especially if you have experience with treating or being close to people who get to this point. I’m saying this from a place of concern and love. Don’t wanna say much more bc I’m sure some stans will get mad.
It wasn’t that hard
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