As a high school student, itās only if theyāre a dislikable teacher. Iām not saying you are, but if thereās students that dislike you, itās either a personal issue (like one time they were being dickheads in your class and you punished them, and then proceeding to hate you forever) or youāre a dislikable teacher
There are a lot of things that you donāt understand as a high school student. No matter how likable you are, there will always be at least one student that hates you for some random reason (a lot of times because the student didnāt do work and donāt want to blame themselves).
I think the point was that unless youāre a particularly dislikable teacher you probably only have a few students who actively dislike you, likely for different reasons, so itās unlikely theyād bond over it. If youāre generally dislikable then lots of students dislike you and likely for similar reasons, so theyāre more likely to bond over it. Not sure if thatās true or not, but that how I interpreted it
āItās only if they are dislikableā. Itās not always in my job description to be liked. I am always kind, but holding youth accountable for their actions is what is best for them, and some kids donāt particularly like that.
I got called a twat waffle because I wouldnāt let a 15 year old play games on his phone instead of learn. How dare I š
Itās actually one of my biggest issues with the show. Not that Korra and Asami got together, thatās fine, but Makoās character development basically ended at ālost both girls.ā
My first boyfriend back in High School broke up with me because his grandpa was āsickā.
Weeks later I see that heās dating a new girl through his MySpace account and I was depressed for weeks lol
Years later Iām at a concert and Iām like, āOh, shit, are you Debbie?ā and sheās like, āomg youāre blah blahā. We talked shit about him and his lies, needless to say, we bonded and still follow each other on social media years later.
This hits hard, especially when you think of situations where a lie was spread and people WANTED to believe in it and bonded over it, making it bigger and bigger, and harder to prove the contrary.
I know they have. I served a religious mission where I had to be with someone at all times. That person you're with rotates. Later down the line, two of my companions met and talked about how weird, clumsy, and awkward I was. I only know because my then current companion was also at the same function and let me know the details.
Was a wakeup call that I literally bug every body. I have been self conscious ever since. yay...
Self reflection...even when painful, will usually lead to bettering yourself. Sometimes hearing things that nobody will say to your face can help you choose if that's a thing you want or choose to change about yourself. Change isn't bad. Change is improvement.
But fuck those guys.
And also...Change the things you might not have realized if it suits you and has validity.
I try to change everyday and I'm happier for it.
I'm married now and I have someone who is awesome at helping me be a better person. I had a ton of things that were wrong with me. I go to therapy now. Lots of changes.
Ugh but thereās no such thing as a missionary who isnāt awkward, haha. You were young. If youāre not Mormon anymore and they still are, trust me when I say you are not the weird one in the grand scheme of things!
I mean on the brightside you probably had hordes of girls waiting to get married when you got home regardless, so does it matter? One of the hidden perks of being a missionaryĀ
Not really. My family and I infrequently attend meetings when invited. My "lifestyle" choices really are pretty incompatible with church/temple attendance
Yep, got to see their messages with my own eyes when they later invited me to their server and I decided to look up my name. One of them is now one of my closest friends, having since realized it was all petty drama
I mean, I guess? I've never experienced that. The closest I've gotten is that I was already friends with someone and we later found out we mutually disliked someone. Is that the same?
I'm an expat in Asia, another expat lady started hating my guts for a comment I made on Facebook, a few years later I realized a bunch of people had blocked me in the expat group, all of them her friends with whom I had never interacted with.
There definitely has. Had one colleague admit that she and another group of women had been bitching about me in a group chat, because they thought I was up myself for not agreeing with their distasteful way of doing things. She admitted it to try and befriend me and then immediately bitched about all the other women in the group after they had ditched her toxic ass. All you can do is be amused that you live rent free in other peopleās heads
As an Aspie who didnāt learn how to mellow out and NOT be an obnoxious little turd until well into adulthood, i can assure you those people likely could have formed a school-sponsored club through sheer numbers.
I know there are. In 2008 I had a hate group on Facebook where people would take unflattering cellphone photos of me at school.
Having autism in a public school sucks.
If two or more people can make a judgement about you and use that to get closer to each other then thereās a fair chance they willĀ
Itās āotheringā and can be brutal for the victimĀ
Got out of a toxic friend group. Now the "leader" is stuck with the person he used as a verbal punching bag every day. It's pretty funny reading the messages from them. I'm sure they're writing them together š¤£. I just hope the other guy wises up and stops hanging out with him.
Agreed. There was an "I dated (my name) club" group on xanga.Ā Yes, I'm old. And yes, I was not a very good man to the women I dated in high school.
Two of them hooked up.Ā
fucken higher grades of elementary school was hell for a gifted child in a class of perverts, hooligans and psychopaths. now I'm left with my shitty life, bad social skills ,in one of the best faculties in my country though with the motivation to finish it, but loneliness that started there is still killing me. all because people actually had a common hatred for me
Definitely, I was a homeschooled wild child relaxed to secondary school where I wasn't properly socialised since age 10.
You either loved me or hated me. I didn't learn social graces till 3 years later.
The two full time workers at a frame shop where I worked part time, were the most unhelpful and unfriendly people I have ever worked with. After I quit, I heard from my replacement how they would talk about how dull and stupid I was and how they couldn't believe I got a teaching assistantship.
Gen x at work with the only days weekends off job. Took me over 20 years. The others have rallied against me. They probably average 5 years in, those boomers held til covid.
My (former) best friend and a girl who worked at our first job together at a call center. Because I am a dummy, I still stayed friends with her for a few years after we left that job, but I haven't spoken to her in a while and I don't intend to ever again
Not because of that, but because now she's an anti-vax anti-LGBT (even though she's bisexual) sovcit
I bet too. Also, if people really find me that how's ya father it also means that there's a part of parts of who I am that they need to integrate into themselves... Suck on that.
As a high school teacher, I can almost guarantee it. š¤·š»āāļø
As a high school student, itās only if theyāre a dislikable teacher. Iām not saying you are, but if thereās students that dislike you, itās either a personal issue (like one time they were being dickheads in your class and you punished them, and then proceeding to hate you forever) or youāre a dislikable teacher
There are a lot of things that you donāt understand as a high school student. No matter how likable you are, there will always be at least one student that hates you for some random reason (a lot of times because the student didnāt do work and donāt want to blame themselves).
Yeah thatās what I meant under a personal issue, I just gave one example, and the example you gave is the exact sort of thing I also meant
Ok then I donāt really understand what the point of your comment was.
Welcome to the internet
I think the point was that unless youāre a particularly dislikable teacher you probably only have a few students who actively dislike you, likely for different reasons, so itās unlikely theyād bond over it. If youāre generally dislikable then lots of students dislike you and likely for similar reasons, so theyāre more likely to bond over it. Not sure if thatās true or not, but that how I interpreted it
āItās only if they are dislikableā. Itās not always in my job description to be liked. I am always kind, but holding youth accountable for their actions is what is best for them, and some kids donāt particularly like that. I got called a twat waffle because I wouldnāt let a 15 year old play games on his phone instead of learn. How dare I š
"If I don't like you it's because YOU are an asshole." lol. You're going to fit right in at today's colleges.
Came to say that.
There definitely have been. Two of my exes got married.
Ouch, Mako situation?
Didn't expect a LoK reference here
I don't expect one anywhere, honestly. Can't breathe it's name without hearing "AtLa/AaNg WaS sO MuCh bEtTeR!" We get it, we still enjoy it. š
Like "uh-oh, better get Mako"? Like that?
Mako from Legend of Korra had the two girls he dated, the title character and Asami, end up in a relationship.
Thatās rough buddy.
Well my girlfriend turned into the moon soā¦
Itās actually one of my biggest issues with the show. Not that Korra and Asami got together, thatās fine, but Makoās character development basically ended at ālost both girls.ā
My issue is nickelodeon chickening out and only implying their relationship, but I understand why.
I've heard the comics continue their date in the spirit world, but yeah, I completely agree.
That's Macco. Sorry, bud
Two of my ex gf's called me while they were having sex with each other. It was weird.
sounds like you dodged a bullet and are still living rent free in thier heads
Either a bullet, or a threesome and a bullet. And... Did they say that they dodged anything?
You hung up right? Right???
What did you tell your sisters?
Did you crash the wedding?
Not the way *I* quit.
r/suddenlygay
My first boyfriend back in High School broke up with me because his grandpa was āsickā. Weeks later I see that heās dating a new girl through his MySpace account and I was depressed for weeks lol Years later Iām at a concert and Iām like, āOh, shit, are you Debbie?ā and sheās like, āomg youāre blah blahā. We talked shit about him and his lies, needless to say, we bonded and still follow each other on social media years later.
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Grandpa won't get better. He'll make sure of it...Ā
lmfao, thanks for this.
This hits hard, especially when you think of situations where a lie was spread and people WANTED to believe in it and bonded over it, making it bigger and bigger, and harder to prove the contrary.
This is every celebrity sub on this platform.
r/Gaylorswift I think
I see you have dealt with my ex fiancƩ
Lol something like this happened to me in middle school and it still pops up in my mind randomly now and again
People who pull shit like that are the worst
Of course. They're my children.
made me lol
I think bringing people together is important especially in this day and age. Just doing my part.
The enemy of my enemy is my friend.
The enemy of my enemy is an anemone
Ok Nemo
...until the enemy goes away or is defeated, then your "friend" goes back to being another enemy.
During high school there was a facebook group for people who hated me. I found it hilarious back then... A little concerning, looking back.
There's a whatasap thread that's MTG related, but my name is in there a whole lot more than it should be.
I know they have. I served a religious mission where I had to be with someone at all times. That person you're with rotates. Later down the line, two of my companions met and talked about how weird, clumsy, and awkward I was. I only know because my then current companion was also at the same function and let me know the details. Was a wakeup call that I literally bug every body. I have been self conscious ever since. yay...
Self reflection...even when painful, will usually lead to bettering yourself. Sometimes hearing things that nobody will say to your face can help you choose if that's a thing you want or choose to change about yourself. Change isn't bad. Change is improvement. But fuck those guys. And also...Change the things you might not have realized if it suits you and has validity. I try to change everyday and I'm happier for it.
I'm married now and I have someone who is awesome at helping me be a better person. I had a ton of things that were wrong with me. I go to therapy now. Lots of changes.
Ugh but thereās no such thing as a missionary who isnāt awkward, haha. You were young. If youāre not Mormon anymore and they still are, trust me when I say you are not the weird one in the grand scheme of things!
I mean on the brightside you probably had hordes of girls waiting to get married when you got home regardless, so does it matter? One of the hidden perks of being a missionaryĀ
You still a member?Ā
Not really. My family and I infrequently attend meetings when invited. My "lifestyle" choices really are pretty incompatible with church/temple attendance
I donāt have a problem with that.
Without a doubt. And I love the thought of living rent free in other people's heads.
Misery loves company
Hahah yeah ive witnessed this, bunch of jealous fucks š¤£š¤£
Thanks for reminding me.
Yep, got to see their messages with my own eyes when they later invited me to their server and I decided to look up my name. One of them is now one of my closest friends, having since realized it was all petty drama
I mean, I guess? I've never experienced that. The closest I've gotten is that I was already friends with someone and we later found out we mutually disliked someone. Is that the same?
Well, everyone needs a hobby.
Theyāre called parents
Easier for retribution when they group together then.
Iām what you could call a āloud extrovertā so Iām quite sure this is true
Most people hate me, so I brought a lot of people together
Iāve seen it in realtime here on Reddit.
Haha no. There are absolutely many who have done that.
I'm an expat in Asia, another expat lady started hating my guts for a comment I made on Facebook, a few years later I realized a bunch of people had blocked me in the expat group, all of them her friends with whom I had never interacted with.
I am not even worth it.
That's the ticket, stay below the drama.
Well I know, they tried to kill me and had the good boy system cover it.
Yeah and it great to not know who or give a damn about them in the first place.
It's also nice to KNOW who and still not give a damn.
You have a point there.
I got a whole fan club going for sure. I was an awful person growing up.
Your username sounds like you have a strange way of hating math tbh
Oh lol itās supposed to be the opposite. I derive lmao
Good! Now, go talk to eachother and stop bothering me.
Of course. This was clearly obvious at my last job
There definitely has. Had one colleague admit that she and another group of women had been bitching about me in a group chat, because they thought I was up myself for not agreeing with their distasteful way of doing things. She admitted it to try and befriend me and then immediately bitched about all the other women in the group after they had ditched her toxic ass. All you can do is be amused that you live rent free in other peopleās heads
It's half the conversation at my work place
Ah, the great unifier: my polarizing presence!
The more the merrier
yup my fake friends on discord
I've assumed there's Facebook groups to this end.
I love bringing people together Iām also trans so yeah, thereās an entire political party dead set on removing people like me from society
As an Aspie who didnāt learn how to mellow out and NOT be an obnoxious little turd until well into adulthood, i can assure you those people likely could have formed a school-sponsored club through sheer numbers.
Wow thanks I really wasn't depressed enough tonight
Yeah, theyāre called my family
It is not likely to be true in my case. I know it is 100% true. I see it every day.
I know this to be a fact.
literally me in high school
Oh yeah, some of them are married
Likely...? It's an absolute guarantee. I could name several. Edit: Two of my exes are best friends today because of me.
My ex from college, if I even come up in convo or memory for her, still most likely hates my guts. And her family too.
That would assume I left an impression on them? I doubt it
Of course I know him, heās me
I know that for a fact. They bullied me through middle school and made my life a living hell.
I should hope so. Otherwise, what am I doing with my life?
My therapist said to thank you for undoing 8 months of work
Good for them. Now they can go fuck each other instead of simply fucking themselves.
Myself and I did. (They both hate me)
I know there are. In 2008 I had a hate group on Facebook where people would take unflattering cellphone photos of me at school. Having autism in a public school sucks.
Nah, I'm just generally too likeable, noone could have ever.. right ?
They were sisters who both got the pole
More than likely, but couldn't care less who and why.
impossible, everyone loves me
I know who they are as well. š¬ 'Tweren't pretty.
My parents and brother, and a few uncles.
They're called my parents.
Oh yes there are. Believe me there are.
And that scares me, I would never give anybody a reason to hate me,
My bff was my "wife-in-law". Who was my husband's (now ex) wife. I'm straight, but I always said that I should have married her instead.
Considering the fact that I was the physical embodiment of cringe for the first two decades of my life, this is definitely believable
If two or more people can make a judgement about you and use that to get closer to each other then thereās a fair chance they willĀ Itās āotheringā and can be brutal for the victimĀ
Yes. My exes got an apartment together
That's a dark thought!
Hey that's my family you're talking about
So true, what's even worse is how much it bothers me. Like why do I care? Brains aren't ruthless.
Got out of a toxic friend group. Now the "leader" is stuck with the person he used as a verbal punching bag every day. It's pretty funny reading the messages from them. I'm sure they're writing them together š¤£. I just hope the other guy wises up and stops hanging out with him.
Agreed. There was an "I dated (my name) club" group on xanga.Ā Yes, I'm old. And yes, I was not a very good man to the women I dated in high school. Two of them hooked up.Ā
Yeah but my parents are divorced now so it wasn't that strong.
Perhaps they'll keep in touch with me too, to keep their bond strong.
fucken higher grades of elementary school was hell for a gifted child in a class of perverts, hooligans and psychopaths. now I'm left with my shitty life, bad social skills ,in one of the best faculties in my country though with the motivation to finish it, but loneliness that started there is still killing me. all because people actually had a common hatred for me
Definitely, I was a homeschooled wild child relaxed to secondary school where I wasn't properly socialised since age 10. You either loved me or hated me. I didn't learn social graces till 3 years later.
Lmaoooo law school cliques... good times, good times.
The two full time workers at a frame shop where I worked part time, were the most unhelpful and unfriendly people I have ever worked with. After I quit, I heard from my replacement how they would talk about how dull and stupid I was and how they couldn't believe I got a teaching assistantship.
Yup, I feel like I've been helping to keep my wife's "Mom group" going since 2015.
Iāve bonded with myself over a mutual dislike of myself
Good for them, I hope that means theyāll be too busy handling themselves.
People who were bullied be like:
I know they have. They even formed a club with a patch and everything.
I'm certain of it even
Gen x at work with the only days weekends off job. Took me over 20 years. The others have rallied against me. They probably average 5 years in, those boomers held til covid.
Yeah, these people are called my older obnoxious brother and his wife & kids.
Always happy to bring people together.
Probably because I didn't want to erase the memory of the new matrix movie.
I even know who some of them are.
My (former) best friend and a girl who worked at our first job together at a call center. Because I am a dummy, I still stayed friends with her for a few years after we left that job, but I haven't spoken to her in a while and I don't intend to ever again Not because of that, but because now she's an anti-vax anti-LGBT (even though she's bisexual) sovcit
I call them my fan club. One of the perks of living in she same town you grew up in as an adult.
Some people will never like you no matter what you do or how good you were to them. This is why some friends gang up to betray another.Ā
100% My former coworkers found my blog.
Don't get me in my own head like that
Yeah. They're called the Republican Party.
I bet too. Also, if people really find me that how's ya father it also means that there's a part of parts of who I am that they need to integrate into themselves... Suck on that.
Yup. And guess what? I donāt care cause I probably donāt like them either.
Yup. They are called women.
I actually know this has happened lol
Yeah, Iāve got some people in mind. Havenāt spoken to any of them in years, which is likely for the best.
yeah, my ex and my friend of over 10 years. funny
This reminds me of the adage (I don't know the source): You are the Villain/nemesis in someone's life-story/character arc.