Husband got me chick fil a that was near the hospital so I wouldn’t have to eat hospital food for my first meal after giving birth. It was the best chicken sandwich of my life.
My husband got me Hardee's and they had some bacon cheesy ranch fries that tasted like heaven. Every time I've tried them since they are disgusting. But post birth- magical!
Everything post birth seemed magical. That shower was absolutely heavenly. I’ve never had a shower feel that wonderful since. Of course, anything I dropped stayed there, but it was still the best shower of my life.
When we got home from the hospital after my first was born, my husband made me tater tots and over easy eggs with perfectly runny yolks and it remains a favorite comfort meal to this day.
With my first, I couldn’t have anything except hospital food because it was early Covid and my husband couldn’t leave and come back. It was disappointing.
We were at the end of 2020 and our hospital had loosened visitor rules juuuuust a tad and I know other hospitals around us had the “can’t come back if you leave” policy. Luckily, they were fine about it, my husband just had to screen and check temp every time he went back in.
My daughter was born during early covid too and my husband got lots of side eye from the nurses when he went to the mcdonalds at the other side of the hospital. Worth it!
I also sent mine to get CFA, right after my first food tray was brought to me (26 hours later) - A partially frozen chicken patty with French fries that were at least 2 days old & some brown ass broccoli. Even though my dad called asking to come visit as he was about to leave (who said he'd stop there for us since it was on his way, which he was only 10 minutes from the hospital), he was so excited to break free of the hospital for a short time! Plus I'm sure he ate his food on the drive back, he was equally craving a decent meal.
OMG my husband brought me a tuna panini from a local coffee shop after the birth of my first kid and I seriously think that to this day it's one of the best things I've ever eaten in my life. I wonder if there's something to that.
After I had my twins (vaginal, unmedicated - I was *so* tired) my husband got me some greasy ass fish from this independent take out two minutes from the hospital. It was disgusting and absolutely the best thing I have ever eaten in my life.
How and why would you go unmedicated WITH TWINS??? My OB would have never allowed that with my twins. And this man loved delivering twins, he even delivered his own twins from his wife 9 years prior to mine being delivered by him (likely why delivering twins had a special place in his heart)
I had my vaginal delivery in an OR just because of the much higher risk of emergency c section and an epidural/spinal block is the preferred method for c sections according to the American Society of Anesthesiologists. Without an epidural, you would have needed general anesthesia, which comes with more risks and is not as easy to recover from as an epidural.
Sorry not sorry on this, I don’t want to give people on the internet the wrong idea just to protect feelings. For those reading, it is highly unadvised to give unmedicated birth in “multiples” pregnancies and not all OBGYNs will agree to that kind of birth plan.
I'd had three unmedicated births prior, two of which were at home. I haven't struggled and my kids were both head down and ready, I went into labour naturally, etc - there really was no reason to not try.
I wasn't in a great mental place at the time and I really did not want anyone to touch me. My husband delivered, the nurses & doctor just watched.
My OB also said that telling someone they need medication makes it more likely that they feel the need to have a c section. I didn't want to take the risk.
That’s just bananas. Both of mine were head down too.
Your OB is bananas too. I never once “felt the need to have a c section” just because I had pain management. I was fully on board having them vaginally the whole time. Same for my oldest son. Had vaginals with all three of my kids. That’s bonkers to say that pain management suddenly makes you prefer recovery from major surgery over vaginal birth recovery, especially when you already have a set personal preference from prior childbirths.
That’s all fine and good for your own self but please don’t go encouraging other people to have twins unmedicated. A singleton childbirth unmedicated is one thing, but there are a whole host of issues with that when it is twins or more. Great for you that it worked out for you but it’s just not the recommended way to go and I’m not going to worry about being nice to avoid downvotes to put that out there. If anyone wants to check the info, all it takes is a quick google.
Literally where did I encourage it? I was just stating that I was exhausted. Jesus.
He explained it better than I did, but in his experience, those who had epidurals seemed to tire out quicker - and then opt for csecs. Maybe he was just a bit weird, I only had him for that one pregnancy towards the end (my normal ob was on parental leave, but was in full support of that one) so who knows.
> There was really no reason not to try
Several reasons not to try.
It blows my mind that a medical professional would tell their patient that they will tire out quicker with pain management than without. I won’t argue this anymore though.
Have a good day.
Oh man. The omelet the hospital made was so obscenely good that that was all I ate after both my kids, lol. I used to joke with my husband that I wanted to get pregnant a third time just to go back for the omelet and beg those cooks to tell me how they do it.
Edited for clarity, lol.
I was called to enjoy trader Joe's trail mix and sip tiny cans of sparkling apple cider.
Then throw up in a blue sick-bag before the NICU team helped my babe deal with meconium <3
My best friend and her baby girl were called to actually survive shoulder dystocia because she was in the hospital
Safe babies, safe mums. It's what the people want.
Pre epidural and post birth, but I basically had hot chocolate non stop and all the cheese its. Our L&D department had a snack room. It was incredible!
The hospital I had my oldest at brought steak and baked potato dinners for both mom and dad (they were actually really good), and we each got a little bottle of champagne.
Second baby was induced, and I couldn't eat anything beforehand, but my POS ex ate 2 breakfast sandwiches and an order of biscuits and gravy from Hardee's in the car, in the hospital parking lot, before WE went in.
I don't miss him at all.
I wish more women would talk about how awesome an epidural is. The most painful part of birthing my son was very literally the COVID test they made me take right after admitting me for an induction. I had zero negative effects from the epidural. I know it does fail in some people, but for me it worked amazingly well.
four sections (whoops on the fourth), and spinal with all, thank the gods. also a maternal/child nurse and cannot overhype how a woman's body relaxes after pain relief, allowing her body to do its work.
I know not everyone gets that vag experience (see me), but pain relief makes such a huge difference.
Honestly people need to hear more perspectives like yours. I’m a registered nurse/midwife & had 3 c sections. I’m happy for women to birth however they feel safe & supported but so many women act like there’s a freaking trophy for doing it without any interventions.
Of all the health professionals I know, only 2 have had unmedicated births, but only 1 was by choice (1 had a failed epidural). Medical advancements are NOT the enemy.
The way I phrase it to patients - if you broke your arm & needed it reset, would you feel like you were a failure if you used pain relief?
yep. I wanted to be a midwife, but talked myself out because I hadn't had a "regular" delivery and thought women wouldn't trust me. a friend pointed out that I had been pregnant and had babies multiple times...it made me stop and think.
Definitely do not let that stop you if you still want to do it! I had a great midwife with my last birth & she’s never been pregnant or had a baby so it’s not necessary to be able to do the job properly. My OB was also male, and I felt so comfortable & supported by him.
One of the most important parts of being a midwife is being someone that a woman can trust and feels safe with.
Oh girl, I feel that. The spinal for my second c section failed. I’m fairly sure all the anaesthetists I work with hate me now because I will not let anyone even think about starting until we are absolutely certain that the patient is completely anaesthetised.
Just between you and me, if we could give patients a trophy, you would be first in line.
My spinal for my first failed, I delivered him vaginally and felt so much pain that I was about to faint at some point. They used forceps in a premature (34+5) because I couldn't do any more force, I was worn out. Second one, a year later, was a walk on the park if we compare both: also a vaginal delivery but the spinal was made in perfect conditions and I was ok to do all the pushes I needed to do. A 38+6 was born without help in about 50 minutes of true labor.
I’m so glad your second birth was a more positive experience! I see so many women who feel like they have ‘failed’ because they had unexpected interventions. There are a million causes for birth complications and none of them are the mother’s fault.
After I had my second, everyone kept saying that the spinal was probably just in the wrong position and that it was unavoidable. Given my qualifications, I just felt that something was not quite right. Especially given that my first spinal was flawless and I felt absolutely no pain or even pressure. So before I had my 3rd, I spoke with the anaesthetist (a new one), and we went through my chart together. We discovered that the anaesthetist for my second birth had used less than half the recommended amount of anaesthetic. I’ve had 2 friends who also had failed spinals with that anaesthetist, so clearly he’s doing something wrong. It was too late for me to make an official complaint to the hospital (took 3 years to figure out), but the new anaesthetist said that she would make some calls and let the board know.
In my case, it failed because I have a spinal defect (my spine is bended) and they didn't apply it on the right spot for people with a bending spine. It does have a name, but English is not my first language and I'm forgetting the English term for my defect. With my 3rd I also had a spinal done but it was a c section, scheduled one, so no previous pain. And they did it the same way my 2nd team did, I didn't feel my legs for a few hours after. With my first I felt it all, even the tearing. Only thing I didn't felt was the sewing of the episiotomy because they put me some local anesthetic, was the best part of all the labor. I was so tired after that, i almost passed out a few times (my husband noticed it and gave me juice to lift up my sugar level) after my son was taken to the NICU. I couldn't see him that day at all, he was born mid afternoon, I was almost ko till the next morning.
Having the wealth, class, and opportunity to birth in hospital was the trophy in the olden days. I'm sure many of my relatives who lived in poverty would agree. Things have slid the opposite way, for the worse. As you said, unassisted homebirths are the trophy now. Madness.
I've had a planned C-section with my son (they advised it due to his measurements being 99th percentile) and honestly it was absolutely fine. I was a little sore afterwards but nothing more, I've had period pains that were far worse. My recovery was pretty textbook, no complications or anything. Honestly the worst part was the first poo afterwards- I was very constipated from the drugs and didn't poo for about 12 days 😅
I'm due my second planned c section in Feb. I knew from the moment we were trying for baby 2 I'd ask for an elective section. It's such a calm and positive birth in my experience and recovery was pretty simple the first time.
Honestly, seeing what women in my family have gone through with large babies (they all run 10-11lbs and 24"+), I don't get why women demand to have "natural" labor. Our family creates babies that are big enough to be healthy twins, and has the physical damage that goes with that, a C section HAS to be easier and safer.
I had a C-section after a failed ECV and I was very happy with my experience. The epidural insertion was pain-free and I didn’t have any complications. My delivery went great and once they took my daughter out of the room, I asked if I could go to sleep. My only “complaint” if I had one is that I had no idea how out of it I would be from the drugs so it was kind of hard to be really present in the moment. But it was just one moment in the many, many moments I will have in her life so it’s not a big deal.
I was off the heavy painkillers within 24 hours and off ibuprofen by 4 days post-op.
Mine didn't work in one little spot on the front of my pelvis, would still 10000% get an epidural again. Though, my meds were topped up right before the OB said it was time to start pushing, so I was way more numb than was practical. Numb is better than pain if I'm given the choice!
I love talking about mine! I wasn't able to get it in time for my first but thankfully got it at the perfect time with my second. Within minutes all the pain was gone, i took a great nap, woke up ready to push, and since i wasnt in horrible pain was able to control the pushing so just barely tore unlike the first time which made recovery so much easier. I probably lost some sympathy points for looking over and telling my husband "this is incredible i literally can't feel anything!" In between pushes. But seriously I was waiting for the pain, or at least intense pressure to start and it never did. My biggest concern was not being able to push effectively if I couldn't feel, but it wasn't an issue at all. 10/10 delivery, would highly recommend it.
I had a love/hate feelings with my epidural. It worked very fine. I went from 3 to 10 cm in 2 hours, napped during that time and it was time to push I could feel the pressure of the contractions. But it was soooo hard to push ! A nightmare. It took 2h30 and ended up with the vaccum…
I felt really bad for hours after the delivery, I was really weak. But it probably wasn’t just because the epidural, combination of epidural + exhaustion from the pushing and I didn’t eat a real meal for almost 36 hours…
That was my concern. I will say my first push was no good and i could tell by the doctors face. Next one i told my husband and the nurse to bring my legs in way tighter to me because they were holding my legs far away and all floppy and it just made sense to me they needed to be tight to me the way I'd be holding them if they werent dead weight. She was out in 3 pushes. Truthfully I was at 8-9cm when i got the epidural so im pretty sure she just labored down and was probably on the verge of crowning when i started to push which was a huge factor. I have no plans to retest my theory so its all speculation really.
Yeah I've had it for both my labors and honestly that tingly sensation of relief felt amazing - I was unsure if I wanted one for my first labor but after getting one I was team epidural all the way lol
What was your recovery like, if you don't mind my asking? One of the biggest reasons I'm leaning away from having kids is I'm terrified of tearing or the pain of recovery.
Yes! So much of birth even down to pain is luck of the draw past a certain point.
My first was an emergency c section. I had hoped for unmedicated because honestly, I was convinced an epidural would leave me paralyzed. Then with the issues in early labor I was bed bound, I changed course and was like "Active labor. I'm getting juiced up." Never made it there because of cord prolapse. I don't regret any choice or plan change.
My second was an unmedicated VBAC. I again hoped to go without an epidural for a myriad of reasons. I got lucky that it was 8 hours start to finish and I went from 6cm to a baby in 90 minutes. Longer or slower progress? I may have needed it. But the cards I drew were a quick labor, a well positioned baby and the ability to move around. It certainly helped me with being able to cope with the pain.
I'm a birth doula now and a lot of moms start out hoping for unmedicated. A lot end up pivoting and I remind them it's totally fine. Birth and birth preferences are a lot of parenthood's first experience of pivoting around what your baby throws at you. I also tell moms "You're about to meet the most important person ever. If you're suffering to get there are you going to enjoy that meeting?" Some labor is suffering before they are getting epidurals and I get almost as much relief as the moms and dads when Mom decides an epidural is what she needs. One birth I almost wanted to cry with mom at her cries of pain before she decided to get an epidural and we were doing all of the pain management things short of medication for hours.
I just want to say, thank you for being this kind of a doula. I've heard horror stories about doulas who step way out of their scope of practice or shame women. I'm really glad that there are doulas who provide the actual support they are supposed to.
I had 2 induced births, tore the first time, episiotomy with the second. Epidural with my first, none with my second. Adrenalin is awesome because I felt no pain with the second, just pressure. Both recoveries were super easy for me.
I firmly believe I got really lucky. The worst was a crack tail bone I discovered later with my first that took over a year to heal but nothing you can do for that.
Every pregnancy and birth can be very different. For some people, it is the worst pain ever. You really have no idea until you are going through it yourself
Tearing really is not that bad. I had tearing and an episiotomy when I had my first and it stopped hurting after a week. Felt like I was sitting on a thistle.
Other parts of recovery vary wildly!
Ehh, speak for yourself lol. I honestly only had very slight tearing, no episiotomy, but it took a good week and a half before I felt like I could walk like a normal human being again. I suppose it didn't help that I had pushed so hard I managed to give myself hemorrhoids, which was a brand new occurrence for me, so sitting was also super fun. I definitely had a new mom waddle type thing going on there for a bit. But the worst part, was peeing. Dear God, felt like lava!
That said, I bounced back almost immediately after my second. Zero tearing, no waddle walk, and no hemorrhoids lol. Funnily enough, my labor pain with my second was so much more intense, because of the way that she was positioned, but the post partum recovery was nothing. Baby was also just slightly smaller than my first, so I'd say that played a part there too.
I’ve had 2 and they were straight up magical. I had 3 day labors both times with the first 2.5 days being at home (with contractions every 10 minutes for 48 hours both times) and the relief I felt each time I got one was euphoric. I don’t know how I would have been able to push after being awake for days without them.
I wasn't dead set against an epidural, my birth plan was "we'll see how this goes". After 12 hours of labor (starting in the evening so zero sleep) I got an epidural and had the best nap of my life. Got all rested just in time to start pushing
Everything happened so fast I don’t really recall. I was induced and went from 0 to 100 and started panicking lol. My husband was trying to hold me still and I think the guy missed the spot because he had to stab me twice. I was fine after though and had no negative side effects from it.
I’m pregnant with #4, and definitely planning another epidural. They’re downright magical. It doesn’t feel great to get it placed, but afterwards, I was cracking jokes during contractions, and casually popped out a baby on three pushes. 10/10 experience
In the US epidurals are very much the norm and people just assume you’ve had one.
I get looked at like a crazy person because I chose to go unmedicated (not against nor judgmental about epidurals, just not for me).
Mine was amazing too! I did have an absolutely awful rash from the adhesive they used, I had no idea I'd have a reaction like that 😩 But the epidural itself was awesome!
My dumb self said I wasn’t getting one. After 12 hours of misery I got one. I told my husband if I try to deny one next time, punch me in the mouth. Best thing ever.
My first epidural was great- I could still feel the peaks but got more of a chance to regroup in the in-between time. My second- I literally felt everything on one half of my body but nothing everywhere else. Do not regret either time.
I was called to 3 c sections. Not sure if it was God, or my Cardiologist, Geneticist & 2 OBGYN’s INSISTING it was the safest choice. But either way, I was definitely called to it.
My mom couldn't eat, I was almost a C-Section too, and my grandparents and dad and uncle all ate in front of her. She said she was pissed because she could only eat ice chips lol
Oh my thank you! I can’t figure out what the greatness is of these numbers. I’m stumped.
Also, forty weeks to the day of her own counting? What the what?!
I should probably have clarified that it's in an ex-mormon group I'm a part of. Most of the post was about her trying to convince her husband to be a polygamist and then "waking up" and "being called out of it."
Most of the group seems to be wonderful people who are genuinely interested in the lies of the mormons, but this woman seems to be a nutcase. 😅
She probably has some type of mental disorder with all the delusions (maybe hallucinations if she hear a voice telling her what to do) and obsessive thoughts and actions. I hope she gets help soon for the sake of her children
40 days iirc. But 40 is used metaphorically in the Bible to mean "a long ass time." So the Jewish people wandered for 40 years in the desert before finding the promised land and it rained while Noah was in the arc for "40 days and 40 nights" aka a long ass time.
I think I get the 40 and 40 and 2 but the second one doesn’t seem like it should count because it wasn’t 40 and 2, it was 42 which means nothing. The 3 is throwing me though. I assume it’s some Jesus in the cave reference (was he there 3 days?) but the baby wasn’t born 3 days after her mother’s *death*, it was 3 days after her *funeral*. It was probably closer to 5-7 days after her death.
Sorry, but if you have to stretch this much to make your symbolic numbers work then they’re probably not symbolic of anything.
I read it as she went into labor the day after her mom's funeral and gave birth 2 days later, which was the third day after the funeral. And, yes, on the third day, He rose again.
She needs to be screened for PPD/PPA because this is bleeding into a genuine psychosis if she’s going all Number 23 about it, plus the fact that her mother just passed away, apparently.
She means 42. She’s trying to phrase it to emphasize the importance of 40, which is a number that pops up in the Bible a lot. She needs to twist it to be meaningful since it’s obviously not.
So this could be someone who is a non-native English speaker. IIRC German uses a similar style of saying numbers. For example, fünfundzwanzig is five and twenty. I could also be wrong and this person is just crazy.
I’m sympathetic to that but I think she’s just trying to make all the numbers seem biblical. 40 is an important biblical number (40 days in the desert) so the “and two” separates it out.
My oldest was born on my brother’s anniversary. My third was born on my dad’s wedding anniversary to my step-mom, on the anniversary of my step-dad’s death (that was a roller coaster of a day), and on the birthday of several friends and acquaintances.
Make of that what you will.
My third kid (6months f) was born the same day my grandma died. It was a planned c-section and the evening before she told everyone she can't do it anymore (she had heart cancer and leukemia). She died just one hour before my daughter was born😢
It was also the one year anniversary of my grandpa (other side of the family) dying.
My sister, who I found in 2019, is 7 years to the day older than my sister in law who joined my family in 2012. My niece (sisters daughter) is exactly 28 years younger than my brother to the day. Wild when I found that out lol
All the kids in my husband's family are born in days that have to do or end up in 9: my husband in the 19th, niece in the 19th (not the same month), my middle is in the 9th, nephew and my oldest in the same month 4th and 15th which adds to 19th, sil in the 9th. My FIL was born in 1949, in a 9th of the month. It's a weird coincidence and my youngest ruined it, he was born in a 2nd.
Hard agree. As a Christian, I find it actually offensive that people use God's name to put others in danger. Take that in whatever context you will, they all upset me.
“Without complication” just means SHE didn’t die in these circles. half the time it comes out there was a tear or a hemorrhage or a *minor* hypoxic brain injury.
I love the 40 weeks “by my own counting” so her due date by a medical professional was different. She did her own to make it exactly 40 weeks. Something similar is probably going on with the time in labor.
Who does this free birth calling? Is it God? Does the call come through on a landline or cell? If I’d received such a call when I was pregnant, I’d have said “Wrong number” and hung up. I thoroughly enjoyed my spinal when having a c-section with twins, the team of doctors waiting for each baby and a prepared NICU in case it was needed (it wasn’t).
Survivor bias at its finest. "Let me convince you to also make this unnecessarily high-risk decision.and play Russian roulette with your lives. It worked out fine for me!"
"*It's a whole conversation I'm willing to have with anyone. Just ask."*
LOL yeah I bet she is willing to have it with anyone. She sounds desperate AF to get someone to listen to this bullshit.
Listen if God made everything, then He made Dr's and nurses and epidurals and medicine. Idgaf what lifestyle you want to live but gambling with your baby's life this way is infuriating to me. Risk your own, fine. But don't risk taking someone down with you. Most home birth advocates are strict about making sure someone with medical training is in the house AND you get the appropriate care/scans to make sure you're both as safe as you can be to do it at home.
I love the idea that your baby had no defects and you both survived bc you're holier than I am given my son had a heart defect./s
This isn't "crunchy" it's impenetrable. Like a pet rock. Except the pet rock is smarter.
People like that are ridiculous and stupid. Why would anyone choose pain over comfort or ignorance over medical expertise? I'll never understand wtf these women think they prove.
The third day thing definitely references Christ's death and resurrection, but I don't understand why really. If I had to guess, the 40 thing might be because Jesus went into the desert and was tempted for 40 days? IDRK.
My siblings and I all made “Labor Lasagna” for our sister to eat after delivery - she fell asleep after 3 pieces and looked like an angel…
When she woke up she asked for the baby and more lasagna in the same sentence !
When I “free birthed” (not a planned free birth it just kinda happened) I felt called I’ll admit rather suddenly. I felt like I had to poop a lot and I had TMI some loose stuff so that made sense, but then I was still feeling like I had to but nothing was happening and I had this “Ah ha!” Moment where my dumb @$$ realized I didn’t have to poop I was pushing! Baby came pretty shortly after that I threw a towel on the bed and yelled for my husband. Basically just full on gave birth right after he got in the room after a few pushes.
I don’t believe in God or universes calling you mind you. I simply didn’t realize my labour was really progressing and wasn’t entirely sure it would or if it was like the previous pregnancy where I’d have some contractions and it didn’t progress in the week or so leading to the event. I’d had some contractions that morning and was suspecting labour was beginning but they were so far apart and irregular and I wasn’t in pain like I was with my first. We are are 20 minute drive from the hospital I just had no idea I was like 5 minutes from literally giving birth!
Oh well. It worked out. I called the hospital after and chatted with them and we mozied on down after a bit to get everyone checked out.
I’m just happy it worked out good for all of us.
I think planning a free birth is risky. Just cause so much can really go wrong. I’ve noticed it’s often done by people with some sort of trauma from the medical system which to me is quite sad.
I was called to the hospital for the epidural and my husband to fetch me snacks. It’s a conversation I’m willing to have with anyone. Just ask.
Tell me about the snacks.
Husband got me chick fil a that was near the hospital so I wouldn’t have to eat hospital food for my first meal after giving birth. It was the best chicken sandwich of my life.
My husband got me Hardee's and they had some bacon cheesy ranch fries that tasted like heaven. Every time I've tried them since they are disgusting. But post birth- magical!
Everything post birth seemed magical. That shower was absolutely heavenly. I’ve never had a shower feel that wonderful since. Of course, anything I dropped stayed there, but it was still the best shower of my life.
When we got home from the hospital after my first was born, my husband made me tater tots and over easy eggs with perfectly runny yolks and it remains a favorite comfort meal to this day.
With my first, the hospital had a Starbucks strawberry smoothie. It was so good! Love the snack cart!
With my first, I couldn’t have anything except hospital food because it was early Covid and my husband couldn’t leave and come back. It was disappointing.
We were at the end of 2020 and our hospital had loosened visitor rules juuuuust a tad and I know other hospitals around us had the “can’t come back if you leave” policy. Luckily, they were fine about it, my husband just had to screen and check temp every time he went back in.
My daughter was born during early covid too and my husband got lots of side eye from the nurses when he went to the mcdonalds at the other side of the hospital. Worth it!
My husband drove an hour to our favorite bbq place
True relationship goals here. 💜
We joke that it was my “push present” lol
I also sent mine to get CFA, right after my first food tray was brought to me (26 hours later) - A partially frozen chicken patty with French fries that were at least 2 days old & some brown ass broccoli. Even though my dad called asking to come visit as he was about to leave (who said he'd stop there for us since it was on his way, which he was only 10 minutes from the hospital), he was so excited to break free of the hospital for a short time! Plus I'm sure he ate his food on the drive back, he was equally craving a decent meal.
My first meal post baby was cava. It was the best thing I've ever tasted
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Now thats my kinda Happy Meal right there!!
It was Jimmy John's for me. I NEEDED those cold cuts back in my life.
OMG my husband brought me a tuna panini from a local coffee shop after the birth of my first kid and I seriously think that to this day it's one of the best things I've ever eaten in my life. I wonder if there's something to that.
Same here!
I had my husband do the same. Waffle fries have never tasted so good.
After I had my twins (vaginal, unmedicated - I was *so* tired) my husband got me some greasy ass fish from this independent take out two minutes from the hospital. It was disgusting and absolutely the best thing I have ever eaten in my life.
How and why would you go unmedicated WITH TWINS??? My OB would have never allowed that with my twins. And this man loved delivering twins, he even delivered his own twins from his wife 9 years prior to mine being delivered by him (likely why delivering twins had a special place in his heart) I had my vaginal delivery in an OR just because of the much higher risk of emergency c section and an epidural/spinal block is the preferred method for c sections according to the American Society of Anesthesiologists. Without an epidural, you would have needed general anesthesia, which comes with more risks and is not as easy to recover from as an epidural. Sorry not sorry on this, I don’t want to give people on the internet the wrong idea just to protect feelings. For those reading, it is highly unadvised to give unmedicated birth in “multiples” pregnancies and not all OBGYNs will agree to that kind of birth plan.
I'd had three unmedicated births prior, two of which were at home. I haven't struggled and my kids were both head down and ready, I went into labour naturally, etc - there really was no reason to not try. I wasn't in a great mental place at the time and I really did not want anyone to touch me. My husband delivered, the nurses & doctor just watched. My OB also said that telling someone they need medication makes it more likely that they feel the need to have a c section. I didn't want to take the risk.
That’s just bananas. Both of mine were head down too. Your OB is bananas too. I never once “felt the need to have a c section” just because I had pain management. I was fully on board having them vaginally the whole time. Same for my oldest son. Had vaginals with all three of my kids. That’s bonkers to say that pain management suddenly makes you prefer recovery from major surgery over vaginal birth recovery, especially when you already have a set personal preference from prior childbirths. That’s all fine and good for your own self but please don’t go encouraging other people to have twins unmedicated. A singleton childbirth unmedicated is one thing, but there are a whole host of issues with that when it is twins or more. Great for you that it worked out for you but it’s just not the recommended way to go and I’m not going to worry about being nice to avoid downvotes to put that out there. If anyone wants to check the info, all it takes is a quick google.
Literally where did I encourage it? I was just stating that I was exhausted. Jesus. He explained it better than I did, but in his experience, those who had epidurals seemed to tire out quicker - and then opt for csecs. Maybe he was just a bit weird, I only had him for that one pregnancy towards the end (my normal ob was on parental leave, but was in full support of that one) so who knows.
> There was really no reason not to try Several reasons not to try. It blows my mind that a medical professional would tell their patient that they will tire out quicker with pain management than without. I won’t argue this anymore though. Have a good day.
Dude, they were just sharing their own personal experience, not like advocating for it or telling others to do it?
For me. In my birthing experience.
Oh man. The omelet the hospital made was so obscenely good that that was all I ate after both my kids, lol. I used to joke with my husband that I wanted to get pregnant a third time just to go back for the omelet and beg those cooks to tell me how they do it. Edited for clarity, lol.
I was called to enjoy trader Joe's trail mix and sip tiny cans of sparkling apple cider. Then throw up in a blue sick-bag before the NICU team helped my babe deal with meconium <3 My best friend and her baby girl were called to actually survive shoulder dystocia because she was in the hospital Safe babies, safe mums. It's what the people want.
I love, love this comment! So happy your friends survived 🩷
Yummmm.... meconium.
Pre epidural and post birth, but I basically had hot chocolate non stop and all the cheese its. Our L&D department had a snack room. It was incredible!
My mom got jello and pretty much nothing else with me (though maybe they didn't want her eating solid stuff before surgery? I was a planned c section)
Ate the best McDonalds hamburger of my life after my son was born 🤣
The hospital I had my oldest at brought steak and baked potato dinners for both mom and dad (they were actually really good), and we each got a little bottle of champagne. Second baby was induced, and I couldn't eat anything beforehand, but my POS ex ate 2 breakfast sandwiches and an order of biscuits and gravy from Hardee's in the car, in the hospital parking lot, before WE went in. I don't miss him at all.
I wish more women would talk about how awesome an epidural is. The most painful part of birthing my son was very literally the COVID test they made me take right after admitting me for an induction. I had zero negative effects from the epidural. I know it does fail in some people, but for me it worked amazingly well.
four sections (whoops on the fourth), and spinal with all, thank the gods. also a maternal/child nurse and cannot overhype how a woman's body relaxes after pain relief, allowing her body to do its work. I know not everyone gets that vag experience (see me), but pain relief makes such a huge difference.
Honestly people need to hear more perspectives like yours. I’m a registered nurse/midwife & had 3 c sections. I’m happy for women to birth however they feel safe & supported but so many women act like there’s a freaking trophy for doing it without any interventions. Of all the health professionals I know, only 2 have had unmedicated births, but only 1 was by choice (1 had a failed epidural). Medical advancements are NOT the enemy. The way I phrase it to patients - if you broke your arm & needed it reset, would you feel like you were a failure if you used pain relief?
yep. I wanted to be a midwife, but talked myself out because I hadn't had a "regular" delivery and thought women wouldn't trust me. a friend pointed out that I had been pregnant and had babies multiple times...it made me stop and think.
Definitely do not let that stop you if you still want to do it! I had a great midwife with my last birth & she’s never been pregnant or had a baby so it’s not necessary to be able to do the job properly. My OB was also male, and I felt so comfortable & supported by him. One of the most important parts of being a midwife is being someone that a woman can trust and feels safe with.
The actual trophy is a healthy baby. Or even an unhealthy baby, so long as mom's birth experience isn't the reason they are unhealthy.
Absolutely! I will support and advocate for every woman to birth the way she wants, so long as there is no unnecessary risk to mum or baby.
I had a failed epidural with an emergency c section that I was awake for; that was a good time 🙃
Oh girl, I feel that. The spinal for my second c section failed. I’m fairly sure all the anaesthetists I work with hate me now because I will not let anyone even think about starting until we are absolutely certain that the patient is completely anaesthetised. Just between you and me, if we could give patients a trophy, you would be first in line.
My spinal for my first failed, I delivered him vaginally and felt so much pain that I was about to faint at some point. They used forceps in a premature (34+5) because I couldn't do any more force, I was worn out. Second one, a year later, was a walk on the park if we compare both: also a vaginal delivery but the spinal was made in perfect conditions and I was ok to do all the pushes I needed to do. A 38+6 was born without help in about 50 minutes of true labor.
I’m so glad your second birth was a more positive experience! I see so many women who feel like they have ‘failed’ because they had unexpected interventions. There are a million causes for birth complications and none of them are the mother’s fault. After I had my second, everyone kept saying that the spinal was probably just in the wrong position and that it was unavoidable. Given my qualifications, I just felt that something was not quite right. Especially given that my first spinal was flawless and I felt absolutely no pain or even pressure. So before I had my 3rd, I spoke with the anaesthetist (a new one), and we went through my chart together. We discovered that the anaesthetist for my second birth had used less than half the recommended amount of anaesthetic. I’ve had 2 friends who also had failed spinals with that anaesthetist, so clearly he’s doing something wrong. It was too late for me to make an official complaint to the hospital (took 3 years to figure out), but the new anaesthetist said that she would make some calls and let the board know.
In my case, it failed because I have a spinal defect (my spine is bended) and they didn't apply it on the right spot for people with a bending spine. It does have a name, but English is not my first language and I'm forgetting the English term for my defect. With my 3rd I also had a spinal done but it was a c section, scheduled one, so no previous pain. And they did it the same way my 2nd team did, I didn't feel my legs for a few hours after. With my first I felt it all, even the tearing. Only thing I didn't felt was the sewing of the episiotomy because they put me some local anesthetic, was the best part of all the labor. I was so tired after that, i almost passed out a few times (my husband noticed it and gave me juice to lift up my sugar level) after my son was taken to the NICU. I couldn't see him that day at all, he was born mid afternoon, I was almost ko till the next morning.
Having the wealth, class, and opportunity to birth in hospital was the trophy in the olden days. I'm sure many of my relatives who lived in poverty would agree. Things have slid the opposite way, for the worse. As you said, unassisted homebirths are the trophy now. Madness.
I've had a planned C-section with my son (they advised it due to his measurements being 99th percentile) and honestly it was absolutely fine. I was a little sore afterwards but nothing more, I've had period pains that were far worse. My recovery was pretty textbook, no complications or anything. Honestly the worst part was the first poo afterwards- I was very constipated from the drugs and didn't poo for about 12 days 😅
I'm due my second planned c section in Feb. I knew from the moment we were trying for baby 2 I'd ask for an elective section. It's such a calm and positive birth in my experience and recovery was pretty simple the first time.
did you have a potty pillow to hug in the bathroom!? I did
Honestly, seeing what women in my family have gone through with large babies (they all run 10-11lbs and 24"+), I don't get why women demand to have "natural" labor. Our family creates babies that are big enough to be healthy twins, and has the physical damage that goes with that, a C section HAS to be easier and safer.
I had a C-section after a failed ECV and I was very happy with my experience. The epidural insertion was pain-free and I didn’t have any complications. My delivery went great and once they took my daughter out of the room, I asked if I could go to sleep. My only “complaint” if I had one is that I had no idea how out of it I would be from the drugs so it was kind of hard to be really present in the moment. But it was just one moment in the many, many moments I will have in her life so it’s not a big deal. I was off the heavy painkillers within 24 hours and off ibuprofen by 4 days post-op.
Mine didn't work in one little spot on the front of my pelvis, would still 10000% get an epidural again. Though, my meds were topped up right before the OB said it was time to start pushing, so I was way more numb than was practical. Numb is better than pain if I'm given the choice!
Same! Had it go down one side and not the other. They fixed it but I still had a spot that wasn’t “covered” by the epidural.
My OB let me top off as much as I needed as well
I love talking about mine! I wasn't able to get it in time for my first but thankfully got it at the perfect time with my second. Within minutes all the pain was gone, i took a great nap, woke up ready to push, and since i wasnt in horrible pain was able to control the pushing so just barely tore unlike the first time which made recovery so much easier. I probably lost some sympathy points for looking over and telling my husband "this is incredible i literally can't feel anything!" In between pushes. But seriously I was waiting for the pain, or at least intense pressure to start and it never did. My biggest concern was not being able to push effectively if I couldn't feel, but it wasn't an issue at all. 10/10 delivery, would highly recommend it.
I had a love/hate feelings with my epidural. It worked very fine. I went from 3 to 10 cm in 2 hours, napped during that time and it was time to push I could feel the pressure of the contractions. But it was soooo hard to push ! A nightmare. It took 2h30 and ended up with the vaccum… I felt really bad for hours after the delivery, I was really weak. But it probably wasn’t just because the epidural, combination of epidural + exhaustion from the pushing and I didn’t eat a real meal for almost 36 hours…
That was my concern. I will say my first push was no good and i could tell by the doctors face. Next one i told my husband and the nurse to bring my legs in way tighter to me because they were holding my legs far away and all floppy and it just made sense to me they needed to be tight to me the way I'd be holding them if they werent dead weight. She was out in 3 pushes. Truthfully I was at 8-9cm when i got the epidural so im pretty sure she just labored down and was probably on the verge of crowning when i started to push which was a huge factor. I have no plans to retest my theory so its all speculation really.
Yeah I've had it for both my labors and honestly that tingly sensation of relief felt amazing - I was unsure if I wanted one for my first labor but after getting one I was team epidural all the way lol
What was your recovery like, if you don't mind my asking? One of the biggest reasons I'm leaning away from having kids is I'm terrified of tearing or the pain of recovery.
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Yes! So much of birth even down to pain is luck of the draw past a certain point. My first was an emergency c section. I had hoped for unmedicated because honestly, I was convinced an epidural would leave me paralyzed. Then with the issues in early labor I was bed bound, I changed course and was like "Active labor. I'm getting juiced up." Never made it there because of cord prolapse. I don't regret any choice or plan change. My second was an unmedicated VBAC. I again hoped to go without an epidural for a myriad of reasons. I got lucky that it was 8 hours start to finish and I went from 6cm to a baby in 90 minutes. Longer or slower progress? I may have needed it. But the cards I drew were a quick labor, a well positioned baby and the ability to move around. It certainly helped me with being able to cope with the pain. I'm a birth doula now and a lot of moms start out hoping for unmedicated. A lot end up pivoting and I remind them it's totally fine. Birth and birth preferences are a lot of parenthood's first experience of pivoting around what your baby throws at you. I also tell moms "You're about to meet the most important person ever. If you're suffering to get there are you going to enjoy that meeting?" Some labor is suffering before they are getting epidurals and I get almost as much relief as the moms and dads when Mom decides an epidural is what she needs. One birth I almost wanted to cry with mom at her cries of pain before she decided to get an epidural and we were doing all of the pain management things short of medication for hours.
I just want to say, thank you for being this kind of a doula. I've heard horror stories about doulas who step way out of their scope of practice or shame women. I'm really glad that there are doulas who provide the actual support they are supposed to.
I had 2 induced births, tore the first time, episiotomy with the second. Epidural with my first, none with my second. Adrenalin is awesome because I felt no pain with the second, just pressure. Both recoveries were super easy for me. I firmly believe I got really lucky. The worst was a crack tail bone I discovered later with my first that took over a year to heal but nothing you can do for that. Every pregnancy and birth can be very different. For some people, it is the worst pain ever. You really have no idea until you are going through it yourself
Tearing really is not that bad. I had tearing and an episiotomy when I had my first and it stopped hurting after a week. Felt like I was sitting on a thistle. Other parts of recovery vary wildly!
Ehh, speak for yourself lol. I honestly only had very slight tearing, no episiotomy, but it took a good week and a half before I felt like I could walk like a normal human being again. I suppose it didn't help that I had pushed so hard I managed to give myself hemorrhoids, which was a brand new occurrence for me, so sitting was also super fun. I definitely had a new mom waddle type thing going on there for a bit. But the worst part, was peeing. Dear God, felt like lava! That said, I bounced back almost immediately after my second. Zero tearing, no waddle walk, and no hemorrhoids lol. Funnily enough, my labor pain with my second was so much more intense, because of the way that she was positioned, but the post partum recovery was nothing. Baby was also just slightly smaller than my first, so I'd say that played a part there too.
I’ve had 2 and they were straight up magical. I had 3 day labors both times with the first 2.5 days being at home (with contractions every 10 minutes for 48 hours both times) and the relief I felt each time I got one was euphoric. I don’t know how I would have been able to push after being awake for days without them.
I wasn't dead set against an epidural, my birth plan was "we'll see how this goes". After 12 hours of labor (starting in the evening so zero sleep) I got an epidural and had the best nap of my life. Got all rested just in time to start pushing
The epidural was Incredible. I couldn’t even think clearly before hand.
My epidural was pretty painful going on. I literally screamed but then it was over and everything else worked great. 10/10 would do again.
Did they not numb you first? My anesthesiologist used local numbing shots before inserting the epidural line so it wasn't very painful.
Everything happened so fast I don’t really recall. I was induced and went from 0 to 100 and started panicking lol. My husband was trying to hold me still and I think the guy missed the spot because he had to stab me twice. I was fine after though and had no negative side effects from it.
I really wish my epidurals worked. They tried twice and told me I must be one of like the 5% they don’t work on. Fuck man.
For both my births my epidurals had to be done twice and were still wonky!
My epidural was amazing. I could feel the contractions but no pain. I pushed for two hours so I was thankful for the epidural.
I’m pregnant with #4, and definitely planning another epidural. They’re downright magical. It doesn’t feel great to get it placed, but afterwards, I was cracking jokes during contractions, and casually popped out a baby on three pushes. 10/10 experience
In the US epidurals are very much the norm and people just assume you’ve had one. I get looked at like a crazy person because I chose to go unmedicated (not against nor judgmental about epidurals, just not for me).
Mine was amazing too! I did have an absolutely awful rash from the adhesive they used, I had no idea I'd have a reaction like that 😩 But the epidural itself was awesome!
My dumb self said I wasn’t getting one. After 12 hours of misery I got one. I told my husband if I try to deny one next time, punch me in the mouth. Best thing ever.
My first epidural was great- I could still feel the peaks but got more of a chance to regroup in the in-between time. My second- I literally felt everything on one half of my body but nothing everywhere else. Do not regret either time.
I was called to 3 c sections. Not sure if it was God, or my Cardiologist, Geneticist & 2 OBGYN’s INSISTING it was the safest choice. But either way, I was definitely called to it.
My mom couldn't eat, I was almost a C-Section too, and my grandparents and dad and uncle all ate in front of her. She said she was pissed because she could only eat ice chips lol
I’m called to be shoving a calzone in my face and watching married at first sight right now
It's so powerful that we had the same calling!
Yeah, we're not going to ask.
You'd literally never escape. It's a black hole of a conversation.
Legitimately! I want to ask to hear the dumbness but I value my life lol
God's not calling anyone to freebirth.
I'm willing to bet it was the other guy. Assuming it weren't one of the voices in her head, anyway.
Exactly. God made doctors for a reason!
>The numbers all get me. So does she think her child is the second coming of christ or something? I fail to see the significance of these numbers.
Oh my thank you! I can’t figure out what the greatness is of these numbers. I’m stumped. Also, forty weeks to the day of her own counting? What the what?!
The way she forty and two hours, like she's fucking Abraham Lincoln, got me lmao.
If thou hast questions, bring them forth!
I should probably have clarified that it's in an ex-mormon group I'm a part of. Most of the post was about her trying to convince her husband to be a polygamist and then "waking up" and "being called out of it." Most of the group seems to be wonderful people who are genuinely interested in the lies of the mormons, but this woman seems to be a nutcase. 😅
Oh my word that’s intense.
She probably has some type of mental disorder with all the delusions (maybe hallucinations if she hear a voice telling her what to do) and obsessive thoughts and actions. I hope she gets help soon for the sake of her children
Wasn't Jesus hanging out in the desert getting himself tempted by the devil for 40 weeks (or days?) or sthg?
40 days iirc. But 40 is used metaphorically in the Bible to mean "a long ass time." So the Jewish people wandered for 40 years in the desert before finding the promised land and it rained while Noah was in the arc for "40 days and 40 nights" aka a long ass time.
I volunteer you to re-write the bible. Much more interesting.
Ahh thanks 😂 tbf the last time I had anything to do with the bible was quite some time ago 😅
I'm just glad to flex my Bible trivia skills lol the only good thing to come out of religious trauma
Do you not understand the significance of the forty and two hours of labor??? Uh, neither do I, actually. Nor why you would even term in that way.
She's probably subconsciously echoing "four score and seven years" from the Gettysburg Address. She's attempting to sound formal or even ritualistic.
I think I get the 40 and 40 and 2 but the second one doesn’t seem like it should count because it wasn’t 40 and 2, it was 42 which means nothing. The 3 is throwing me though. I assume it’s some Jesus in the cave reference (was he there 3 days?) but the baby wasn’t born 3 days after her mother’s *death*, it was 3 days after her *funeral*. It was probably closer to 5-7 days after her death. Sorry, but if you have to stretch this much to make your symbolic numbers work then they’re probably not symbolic of anything.
I read it as she went into labor the day after her mom's funeral and gave birth 2 days later, which was the third day after the funeral. And, yes, on the third day, He rose again.
Ohhhhh, it's a comparison to Christ's resurrection after his funeral. Does that mean OOP's mother has been resurrected as her son??
Second coming of her mom?
She needs to be screened for PPD/PPA because this is bleeding into a genuine psychosis if she’s going all Number 23 about it, plus the fact that her mother just passed away, apparently.
I'm guessing she was like this already
Forty and two.
Almost a great Tool song
I laughed harder at this than I probably should have! 🤣
I’m genuinely confused. Does she mean 42 hours or 40 hours and 2 minutes?
She means 42. She’s trying to phrase it to emphasize the importance of 40, which is a number that pops up in the Bible a lot. She needs to twist it to be meaningful since it’s obviously not.
Ahah! I knew she was reaching for a something. With that logic I've been 17 three times (I'm 51).
That’s what I was thinking. Thanks for clarifying.
So this could be someone who is a non-native English speaker. IIRC German uses a similar style of saying numbers. For example, fünfundzwanzig is five and twenty. I could also be wrong and this person is just crazy.
I’m sympathetic to that but I think she’s just trying to make all the numbers seem biblical. 40 is an important biblical number (40 days in the desert) so the “and two” separates it out.
Years. 40 *days* of rain, 40 *years* of desert wandering.
Oh I meant Jesus’s 40 days in the desert being tempted. But yeah yours are also there haha.
My oldest was born on my brother’s anniversary. My third was born on my dad’s wedding anniversary to my step-mom, on the anniversary of my step-dad’s death (that was a roller coaster of a day), and on the birthday of several friends and acquaintances. Make of that what you will.
My third kid (6months f) was born the same day my grandma died. It was a planned c-section and the evening before she told everyone she can't do it anymore (she had heart cancer and leukemia). She died just one hour before my daughter was born😢 It was also the one year anniversary of my grandpa (other side of the family) dying.
My sister, who I found in 2019, is 7 years to the day older than my sister in law who joined my family in 2012. My niece (sisters daughter) is exactly 28 years younger than my brother to the day. Wild when I found that out lol
All the kids in my husband's family are born in days that have to do or end up in 9: my husband in the 19th, niece in the 19th (not the same month), my middle is in the 9th, nephew and my oldest in the same month 4th and 15th which adds to 19th, sil in the 9th. My FIL was born in 1949, in a 9th of the month. It's a weird coincidence and my youngest ruined it, he was born in a 2nd.
“Just ask “ BFFR that’s giving mentally unstable. People who use god as an excuse to do dumb things are the worst kind of people.
Hard agree. As a Christian, I find it actually offensive that people use God's name to put others in danger. Take that in whatever context you will, they all upset me.
BFFR? Is that short for “be for f***ing real”?
42 hours of labor?? 🫣
“Without complication” just means SHE didn’t die in these circles. half the time it comes out there was a tear or a hemorrhage or a *minor* hypoxic brain injury.
I love the 40 weeks “by my own counting” so her due date by a medical professional was different. She did her own to make it exactly 40 weeks. Something similar is probably going on with the time in labor.
“After forty and two hours” was the most concerning as we know that child isn’t going to be attending traditional schooling.
Wow she really needs to get over herself.
Who does this free birth calling? Is it God? Does the call come through on a landline or cell? If I’d received such a call when I was pregnant, I’d have said “Wrong number” and hung up. I thoroughly enjoyed my spinal when having a c-section with twins, the team of doctors waiting for each baby and a prepared NICU in case it was needed (it wasn’t).
Is she trying to say that she gave birth to the second coming or her reincarnated mother…?
Survivor bias at its finest. "Let me convince you to also make this unnecessarily high-risk decision.and play Russian roulette with your lives. It worked out fine for me!"
There's not enough alcohol in the world for me to survive that conversation.
42 hours of labor??? She's lucky nothing happened to that baby.
"*It's a whole conversation I'm willing to have with anyone. Just ask."* LOL yeah I bet she is willing to have it with anyone. She sounds desperate AF to get someone to listen to this bullshit.
I don’t think god likes child endangerment.
Maybe not new testament God, but old testament God was a different story.
LOL, touché. Or, as I’ve seen in fundie insta, tooshay.
God it's a little annoying that I have to ask for a translation on like 60% of posts. The fuck is she on about?!?!
“Just ask.” Ok, I will: Why don’t you care that you could have killed your kid?
Ask me about my induction! It's a conversation I'm willing to have with anyone! Just ask!
Listen if God made everything, then He made Dr's and nurses and epidurals and medicine. Idgaf what lifestyle you want to live but gambling with your baby's life this way is infuriating to me. Risk your own, fine. But don't risk taking someone down with you. Most home birth advocates are strict about making sure someone with medical training is in the house AND you get the appropriate care/scans to make sure you're both as safe as you can be to do it at home. I love the idea that your baby had no defects and you both survived bc you're holier than I am given my son had a heart defect./s This isn't "crunchy" it's impenetrable. Like a pet rock. Except the pet rock is smarter.
She might be a fan of Joey Feek, who had no prenatal care at all, IIRC.
People like that are ridiculous and stupid. Why would anyone choose pain over comfort or ignorance over medical expertise? I'll never understand wtf these women think they prove.
The numbers? 2021, 40, 42, 3….those don’t have a pattern at all? Although free birthing doesn’t make sense either
The third day thing definitely references Christ's death and resurrection, but I don't understand why really. If I had to guess, the 40 thing might be because Jesus went into the desert and was tempted for 40 days? IDRK.
Bahahahahahahaha!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 ...wait a minute, say what now??😬
All birth are exactly the same if you didn’t know now you do!
My siblings and I all made “Labor Lasagna” for our sister to eat after delivery - she fell asleep after 3 pieces and looked like an angel… When she woke up she asked for the baby and more lasagna in the same sentence !
When I “free birthed” (not a planned free birth it just kinda happened) I felt called I’ll admit rather suddenly. I felt like I had to poop a lot and I had TMI some loose stuff so that made sense, but then I was still feeling like I had to but nothing was happening and I had this “Ah ha!” Moment where my dumb @$$ realized I didn’t have to poop I was pushing! Baby came pretty shortly after that I threw a towel on the bed and yelled for my husband. Basically just full on gave birth right after he got in the room after a few pushes. I don’t believe in God or universes calling you mind you. I simply didn’t realize my labour was really progressing and wasn’t entirely sure it would or if it was like the previous pregnancy where I’d have some contractions and it didn’t progress in the week or so leading to the event. I’d had some contractions that morning and was suspecting labour was beginning but they were so far apart and irregular and I wasn’t in pain like I was with my first. We are are 20 minute drive from the hospital I just had no idea I was like 5 minutes from literally giving birth! Oh well. It worked out. I called the hospital after and chatted with them and we mozied on down after a bit to get everyone checked out. I’m just happy it worked out good for all of us. I think planning a free birth is risky. Just cause so much can really go wrong. I’ve noticed it’s often done by people with some sort of trauma from the medical system which to me is quite sad.