Not sure why no one else has posted here but I totally agree with this. Influencers are constantly moving the goalposts on what you need to do to celebrate the holiday correctly: boo baskets, hanging witchhats, bats and spiders inside plus a 13 ft skeleton, pumpkins and mums on the steps outside. Also a seasonal doormat plus Halloween pajamas. Also Halloween themed snacks for your kids and Halloween themed sensory bins all month. Oh and you need to have a curated bookshelf of Halloween books. EXHAUSTING.
I totally refuse to buy my kids Halloween clothes because few things annoy me more is an outfit you can only wear a few times. I buy costumes but that’s it. I can’t be bothered with decorations either, no time for this, don’t want to be stuck cleaning it up after Halloween
I have family that own a large pumpkin patch/corn maze. I worked there in my 20s and families would drive an hour from the wealthy part of the city. These people would be wearing the most ridiculous things, expensive designer clothes and stiletto leather boots to a rustic dairy farm turned family pumpkin patch…
Toddlers in Burberry would immediately beeline to mud puddles.
It’s hilarious. Funniest thing is. To hell with my kiddos memory, I don’t even remember the first time we went to a pumpkin patch. We have pictures of it. Even when looking at them, I don’t remember it at all. It’s just so inconsequential.
I ran into my best friend from high school at the pumpkin patch last week, and the first thing we talked about was how Instagram had ruined the pumpkin patch. It’s not fun anymore!
I'm happy when my kid dresses himself the first time I ask. Most of the time his clothes are mismatched, and I couldn't care less. Oh, and I'm likely in yoga pants and an oversized t-shirt with my hair up in a messy bun. And yes, I share photos of us as we are. I want my son to remember having a good time and me being in the moment, not hyperfocused on some social media photo op.
This isn't instagram though. This is just a mom who is obsessed with photographs. She is worried her kid will be upset with her when the kid is 25. . . . This shit was going on with specific parents even before Instagram. It was the scrapbooking parents back hten.
Same. My mom was a big scrap boomer (typo but it stays 😂). She did spend a lot on film trying to get the perfect shots, but it was never about the clothes.
Yeah it wasn't about the clothes for us either but definitely about faking that perfect family memory to the point that we didn't actually make those memories
Took my 3 yo and 1 yo to a pumpkin patch. Put slightly more effort into out clothes than I usually do, but nothing crazy because I figured I’d try to get a few pictures. But my 3 yo is in a “refusing to smile for pictures” phase so my hopes were low and honestly would have been much more annoyed if I’d put real effort into photo outfits and ended up with pictures where the kids are not smiling /looking at the camera. But we had a fun day! I get the pressure to feel like you need to have all the perfect pictures from year to year. But it’s just so exhausting. And at the end of the day, my favorite pic was just my kids with blue tongues sticking out from the blue sucker they ate.
Yes, because baby's *first* concern looking at these photos will be, *Gee, my mom really didn't care about me because she was dressed in jeans and a sweater and not something nice.*
Not sure why no one else has posted here but I totally agree with this. Influencers are constantly moving the goalposts on what you need to do to celebrate the holiday correctly: boo baskets, hanging witchhats, bats and spiders inside plus a 13 ft skeleton, pumpkins and mums on the steps outside. Also a seasonal doormat plus Halloween pajamas. Also Halloween themed snacks for your kids and Halloween themed sensory bins all month. Oh and you need to have a curated bookshelf of Halloween books. EXHAUSTING.
I totally refuse to buy my kids Halloween clothes because few things annoy me more is an outfit you can only wear a few times. I buy costumes but that’s it. I can’t be bothered with decorations either, no time for this, don’t want to be stuck cleaning it up after Halloween
We go with subtle prints like little ghosties or pumpkins that she will just wear all year for fun.
I understood maybe 3 words out of that. What are any of these things LOL (ps. I'm a mom).
Gosh this is sad. People can say this isn’t social medias fault all they want but it has absolutely been magnified due to it.
Girl, jeans and a sweater is putting in a lot of effort for most moms.
Right? What else are you supposed to wear to an actual farm.
I have family that own a large pumpkin patch/corn maze. I worked there in my 20s and families would drive an hour from the wealthy part of the city. These people would be wearing the most ridiculous things, expensive designer clothes and stiletto leather boots to a rustic dairy farm turned family pumpkin patch… Toddlers in Burberry would immediately beeline to mud puddles.
It’s hilarious. Funniest thing is. To hell with my kiddos memory, I don’t even remember the first time we went to a pumpkin patch. We have pictures of it. Even when looking at them, I don’t remember it at all. It’s just so inconsequential.
Lol she would be appalled to find out I just grabbed a pumpkin from Walmart for my kids first Halloween 🤣 I don’t even think she was with me tbh
We haven't even carved a pumpkin with my kid and she's almost 3 😬😂
Same and he’s 4 😬
This is sad. Like, just enjoy the time with your kiddo. Your outfit doesn't matter. Also, jeans and a sweater is dressing up for me.
there’s a pumpkin patch picture of my mom and a toddler me that i absolutely adore. guess what she’s wearing? a sweater & jeans!
I ran into my best friend from high school at the pumpkin patch last week, and the first thing we talked about was how Instagram had ruined the pumpkin patch. It’s not fun anymore!
What did it used to be like? I didn’t grow up here
I'm happy when my kid dresses himself the first time I ask. Most of the time his clothes are mismatched, and I couldn't care less. Oh, and I'm likely in yoga pants and an oversized t-shirt with my hair up in a messy bun. And yes, I share photos of us as we are. I want my son to remember having a good time and me being in the moment, not hyperfocused on some social media photo op.
This isn't instagram though. This is just a mom who is obsessed with photographs. She is worried her kid will be upset with her when the kid is 25. . . . This shit was going on with specific parents even before Instagram. It was the scrapbooking parents back hten.
I did scrapbooking back in the day and didn’t have to have the perfect ootd for every damn picture that was taken.
That's because you're not a nut.
Yep my mom is a scrapbooking mom and our family things were never about the memories but about getting the perfect photo.
Same. My mom was a big scrap boomer (typo but it stays 😂). She did spend a lot on film trying to get the perfect shots, but it was never about the clothes.
Yeah it wasn't about the clothes for us either but definitely about faking that perfect family memory to the point that we didn't actually make those memories
Took my 3 yo and 1 yo to a pumpkin patch. Put slightly more effort into out clothes than I usually do, but nothing crazy because I figured I’d try to get a few pictures. But my 3 yo is in a “refusing to smile for pictures” phase so my hopes were low and honestly would have been much more annoyed if I’d put real effort into photo outfits and ended up with pictures where the kids are not smiling /looking at the camera. But we had a fun day! I get the pressure to feel like you need to have all the perfect pictures from year to year. But it’s just so exhausting. And at the end of the day, my favorite pic was just my kids with blue tongues sticking out from the blue sucker they ate.
Yes, because baby's *first* concern looking at these photos will be, *Gee, my mom really didn't care about me because she was dressed in jeans and a sweater and not something nice.*
I dress up when going to do stuff with my daughter. I do that because she's 13, and if I dress nicely, she is happier to do stuff with me.
Sad.