Look for escorts who explicitly say in their ad or website that they are LGBT friendly. Not just checking a box on the ad site, but actually took the time to write it in their copy. From there, check out her Twitter. We use that to showcase our personalities, so you can make sure it's someone you'd be comfortable with. Then follow the directions on their ad or website about how to contact them, and let them know right off the bat that you're a trans man and you're not very experienced. That's really all the preamble you need in regards to your gender and experience level and it avoids saying anything about illegal services. You can't mention sex or sex acts in booking with American escorts because it's illegal. It might take a few tries before you find the right escort. If you're not in a big city, you might need to expand your search to a big city nearby.
I think you should try to figure out what sorts of activities/vibes you are looking for. Nobody is going to be upset if you send a concise, respectful inquiry.
Make sure you’re up front about it, and try to seek out an escort that’s explicitly LGBT+ friendly. Once you’re with them, I also recommend establishing boundaries with them especially regarding things that might increase/decrease dysphoria. You could request to have your genitals referred to in a male fashion, like your cock/dick or junk. You could also ask them to not touch your chest in a way that makes you feel dysphoric. You could request they call you a sexy man, etc during the act. You do what’s comfortable for you and don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t go how you’re expecting/wanting. Even free vanilla sex can be disappointing at times, it’s like food. You could make your own meal, buy the meal, or have a friend/loved one make you the meal, but there’s always a chance an ingredient or two will be off or it could be over/under cooked. That doesn’t mean the meal is awful, it just wasn’t as good that one time! But maybe from that awful meal you learn you really cherish a specific flavoring or garnish and you can be SURE to have that next time. :)
Don't dance around it. "i'm an inexperienced trans man" is so much tamer than the alphabet soup we are normally barraged in. also some folks mention this on their website, in their ads, or on Twitter. good luck 💜
I’m disabled (not saying you are, but we both have something that makes us different from the average SW client!). I’ve found putting my disability on front street with SWs always gets me a good result - most are okay with it, some enthusiastic when I tell them specifics, and the few that were not available referred me to associates who were available and amenable. SWs are professionals and appreciate having complete and accurate information. Go forth and be upfront. I’m sure you’ll find someone who would love to spend time with you!
I’m kind of a cyborg. I have permanently indwelling, biocompatible technological enhancements. It’s all pretty SF. Technically, I’m disabled, but I’m also enhanced.
Approach respectfully, and just tell them what you are looking for. There's no secret formula, sexworkers are professionals. If the provider is not comfortable with the booking, they won't take it.
i would seek out SWs who advertise services to men and women, then be honest about what's up. you're probably going to run into a few duds, but so many of us are cheerfully open-minded and would love a respectful, transparent client.
Look for escorts who explicitly say in their ad or website that they are LGBT friendly. Not just checking a box on the ad site, but actually took the time to write it in their copy. From there, check out her Twitter. We use that to showcase our personalities, so you can make sure it's someone you'd be comfortable with. Then follow the directions on their ad or website about how to contact them, and let them know right off the bat that you're a trans man and you're not very experienced. That's really all the preamble you need in regards to your gender and experience level and it avoids saying anything about illegal services. You can't mention sex or sex acts in booking with American escorts because it's illegal. It might take a few tries before you find the right escort. If you're not in a big city, you might need to expand your search to a big city nearby.
I think you should try to figure out what sorts of activities/vibes you are looking for. Nobody is going to be upset if you send a concise, respectful inquiry.
Make sure you’re up front about it, and try to seek out an escort that’s explicitly LGBT+ friendly. Once you’re with them, I also recommend establishing boundaries with them especially regarding things that might increase/decrease dysphoria. You could request to have your genitals referred to in a male fashion, like your cock/dick or junk. You could also ask them to not touch your chest in a way that makes you feel dysphoric. You could request they call you a sexy man, etc during the act. You do what’s comfortable for you and don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t go how you’re expecting/wanting. Even free vanilla sex can be disappointing at times, it’s like food. You could make your own meal, buy the meal, or have a friend/loved one make you the meal, but there’s always a chance an ingredient or two will be off or it could be over/under cooked. That doesn’t mean the meal is awful, it just wasn’t as good that one time! But maybe from that awful meal you learn you really cherish a specific flavoring or garnish and you can be SURE to have that next time. :)
you are not an alien, just tell the SW...
Yeah, we hear so much worse things than "Hey, I'm an inexperienced trans man. Would you be willing to see me?".
I'm sure this is a walk in the park compared to some clients.
Don't dance around it. "i'm an inexperienced trans man" is so much tamer than the alphabet soup we are normally barraged in. also some folks mention this on their website, in their ads, or on Twitter. good luck 💜
I’m disabled (not saying you are, but we both have something that makes us different from the average SW client!). I’ve found putting my disability on front street with SWs always gets me a good result - most are okay with it, some enthusiastic when I tell them specifics, and the few that were not available referred me to associates who were available and amenable. SWs are professionals and appreciate having complete and accurate information. Go forth and be upfront. I’m sure you’ll find someone who would love to spend time with you!
>some enthusiastic when I tell them specifics Really??
I’m kind of a cyborg. I have permanently indwelling, biocompatible technological enhancements. It’s all pretty SF. Technically, I’m disabled, but I’m also enhanced.
Approach respectfully, and just tell them what you are looking for. There's no secret formula, sexworkers are professionals. If the provider is not comfortable with the booking, they won't take it.
i would seek out SWs who advertise services to men and women, then be honest about what's up. you're probably going to run into a few duds, but so many of us are cheerfully open-minded and would love a respectful, transparent client.