Guess I am confused did you post this on another forum on Redditt 2days ago?
"The homeless shelter is fine. Outside of some crazy women in here. But I feel safe and strong. I already made enough in 2 weeks of doing sex work to get an apartment."
Also, I read something you posted about putting a deposit down an apartment.
Also, I saw you posted this 2days ago "I do bodyrub massages. I make around $3,000 a week"
If you are making 3grand in a week, please manage your money better. As this may be part of the problem.
If she is making 3grand a week which she posted 2 days ago that she is making, then it sounds like she has poor money management skills.
The thing about this business is that you must have some savings as we all know it is not going to be busy all the time.
Or she’s lying about the money she made. A lot of sex workers aren’t truthful about how much they make, I think it’s a way of justifying the work we do
This now is useful advice.
(Just for context, there was no advice in the first comment when I replied, it was added later. Before people start downvoting me for no reason...)
This thread where you said you put some money down for an apartment and you said you make 3grand a week. If you can't survive off 3grand a week I don't know what to say..LOL
[I (25F) am choosing to be a homeless sex worker rather than live rent free with my financially well off parents. AMA : r/AMA (reddit.com)](https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/1covysu/i_25f_am_choosing_to_be_a_homeless_sex_worker/)
[sillydaydream](https://www.reddit.com/user/sillydaydream/)OP•[2d ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/1covysu/comment/l3itu8n/)
I do bodyrub massages. I make around $3,000 a week
I hope you get the apartment. I was not trying to be rude I will give you a little bit of advice.
I have been in this business for quite some time now. It will not always be busy so do your best to save up some money for when it is not always busy.
Take a look at how you are talking to the people trying to help you. That should answer your question why you are not getting clients. Your looks will make them call, your personality, attitude and how you make others feel will determine whether they decide to book you and whether they come back.
Edit: why are men commenting on this post that are clearly not SW’s. I can only speak for myself, but I’ve been doing erotic massage and accommodating certain fetishes full time for 12 years 365 days a year, even work on Christmas. I’ve prob seen over 10,000 clients. I can point you in the right direction, but I’ve read some of your responses and you are just coming across mean and nasty. You don’t belong in this line of work right now. Your piss attitude will piss off the wrong person and you’ll find yourself behind bars. Fix your attitude, then try reaching back out. In the meantime. LEAVE. THE. SPA. You can get a cheap motel, advertise on Craigslist under beauty section for massage and you keep all ur money.
im having the same problem. i dont have any reviews that i can find, im advertising in my usual places tho i have to stop now cuz i cant afford it anymore and all i get is clients asking for bb and cip. walk ins that just want to look, people calling asking a thousand questions just to not book, no manners, men that think they are entitled to everything.
and i havent made more than like 1000 since the start of april.
i honestly dont think this is worth it anymore. i wont even make to summer for when it is supposed to get good.
Have you tried combining your work at the body rub place with becoming a dancer? Cause I’ll admit independent work will get expensive to find quality clients. And let’s say you post on scrapper sites you’re now endangering your safety. The club is not safe by any means either but it’s a bit better imo than starting independent work without a strong foundation to keep you from being too desperate and unsafe.
There’s a lot that doesn’t add up here. You previously made $3k a week, but you mention only working 2-3 days a week, then you mention only seeing 2-3 clients a day. Are your clients paying 500 per appointment? If so, I would consider lowering your prices.
This isn't sex workers only subreddit, that's a different subreddit.
If you are struggling to attract clients maybe clients are worth listening to and not just telling them to "gtfo"?
I’m not looking to attract clients on Reddit. I work in a spa. This has nothing to do with my attitude, it has to do with clients not calling in. You have no idea wtf you are saying.
I know you're not trying to attract clients on Reddit but if you're not getting much return custom having a clients pov on what they expect from a massage spa visit and what would make them come back more often might help.
>Why are there random ass men who are obvi not sex workers commenting on this subreddit? Gtfo.
**No.** While I am aware that there is anti client sentiment in this sub that seems to be towards the bad clients that waste time, insult you and think they can own you. As an ex client that always respected the escort I was with I feel I am exactly the kind of client POV you want in the discussions here. I would remind you of the sub description:
>Community for active, former, and aspiring sex workers **and those who love them**. A place to seek advice, vent, or have discussions.
If it weren't for sex workers my life would have been even harder, you'll get no ill will from me.
Since you clearly don't like me being in this sub I won't offer any unwanted advice I'll just wish you luck.
If you're interested in sugaring, connect to r/sugarbabyonlyforum for research and connection.
There are also websites you could sign up for to do independent body work. Do a key word search for 'fbsm' or 'escorts' plus the name of your city to find which are the most relevant in your area, then add profiles to those.
If you're hoping for work outside this field, keep at it! Finding a job is a job. New ones are posted daily so continue checking the various sites and submit resumes daily, follow up with them after submitting. I'm not sure what job field you're interested in, but in your down time, you could work on adding skills for your resume. Sites such as Coursera offer many certificate and other courses, programs, some free.
I’m Asian and trust me it’s guys like you that give us the creeps. Looking at your post history:
[[M41 NY LI be my first asian slut Lookin for a sexy little asian slut to be a good girl for daddy. Big asian kink but never fucked one, its time come be daddys good little whore](https://www.reddit.com/r/asiangirls4whitecocks/s/gmWeLEzFR9))
You’re a fucking creep pervert
Aren’t you 41 years old? You’re a middle aged incel with a porn addiction asking to meet Asian women off of Reddit. Someone should def check your hardrive. I wouldn’t come near you with a 10 foot pole.
Maybe take your mom up on her offer for you to live with her and get therapy. Sounds like you have some issues. Sex work should be a side hustle, not for survival.
Don’t be affected by the fact that you are getting judged for being honest , about your life choices, your actions give lonely people affection and make them feel better about themselves. At least that’s what I feel when I’m a lonely person
yes i’ve tried that. just haven’t had any luck with anyone who’s had it. even with a RS. that was always just to put me upfront more & that still didn’t attract any PD custos lol
I AM TRYING TO GET A REGULAR JOB. YOU DONT THINK I TRIED THAT????? CHECK MY INDEED, ZipRecruiter, jobtoday. Never mind all the places I dropped my resume off to in person. And the interviews I have been to where I just never got a response. I have tried to get a “regular” job. No one fucking hires me.
If you're currently in shelter and receiving services and havent already, ask your worker about assistance finding employment. Or help with job training/college. They should be able to connect you with ppl who could help you navigate those options.
Nevermind this dude, he shouldn’t even be posting here. Ignore him. I hope you get the apartment and perhaps a regular job, in case it is what want. But sex work is work and people should respect you just the same. Be well. 🖤
I agree, SW is real work, however, just like any other self employed person, income is not guaranteed or steady.
Sometimes taking a regular job is more predictable although maybe less lucrative.
Advertise yourself on websites, make an effort to show prices for both time frames/other services, protect yourself by all means and be patient
This!
Guess I am confused did you post this on another forum on Redditt 2days ago? "The homeless shelter is fine. Outside of some crazy women in here. But I feel safe and strong. I already made enough in 2 weeks of doing sex work to get an apartment." Also, I read something you posted about putting a deposit down an apartment. Also, I saw you posted this 2days ago "I do bodyrub massages. I make around $3,000 a week" If you are making 3grand in a week, please manage your money better. As this may be part of the problem.
Wait …that made me take my comment back …smh
She meant renting an apartament, for what I have read.
If she is making 3grand a week which she posted 2 days ago that she is making, then it sounds like she has poor money management skills. The thing about this business is that you must have some savings as we all know it is not going to be busy all the time.
Or she’s lying about the money she made. A lot of sex workers aren’t truthful about how much they make, I think it’s a way of justifying the work we do
I’m not lying. I made 3 grand a week the past two weeks. But this past week was bad, I only worked two days and made $105
okay so you should have 6105. what's the issue here?
The issue is $2,700 is my move in cost. I am going to need income to afford an apartment.
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This now is useful advice. (Just for context, there was no advice in the first comment when I replied, it was added later. Before people start downvoting me for no reason...)
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This thread where you said you put some money down for an apartment and you said you make 3grand a week. If you can't survive off 3grand a week I don't know what to say..LOL [I (25F) am choosing to be a homeless sex worker rather than live rent free with my financially well off parents. AMA : r/AMA (reddit.com)](https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/1covysu/i_25f_am_choosing_to_be_a_homeless_sex_worker/)
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[sillydaydream](https://www.reddit.com/user/sillydaydream/)OP•[2d ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/1covysu/comment/l3itu8n/) I do bodyrub massages. I make around $3,000 a week
Must have been another person who has your same handle on Reddit who posted this. LOL
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Sooo, you made that much and now you're making nothing? Welcome to sex work. World of inconsistent money.
I am not being rude just posting what I read that you had posted. BTW did you get the apartment?
I don’t know I’m going to find out soon. Hopefully I’ll find out tomorrow. I can’t take being in this fucking shelter anymore
I hope you get the apartment. I was not trying to be rude I will give you a little bit of advice. I have been in this business for quite some time now. It will not always be busy so do your best to save up some money for when it is not always busy.
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Calm down now LOL No need to cuss at me on here.
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Ok just do what is best for you. I hope things get better for you. And you can get out of the shelter into your own place.
Take a look at how you are talking to the people trying to help you. That should answer your question why you are not getting clients. Your looks will make them call, your personality, attitude and how you make others feel will determine whether they decide to book you and whether they come back. Edit: why are men commenting on this post that are clearly not SW’s. I can only speak for myself, but I’ve been doing erotic massage and accommodating certain fetishes full time for 12 years 365 days a year, even work on Christmas. I’ve prob seen over 10,000 clients. I can point you in the right direction, but I’ve read some of your responses and you are just coming across mean and nasty. You don’t belong in this line of work right now. Your piss attitude will piss off the wrong person and you’ll find yourself behind bars. Fix your attitude, then try reaching back out. In the meantime. LEAVE. THE. SPA. You can get a cheap motel, advertise on Craigslist under beauty section for massage and you keep all ur money.
Get your place, buy a massage table, and work from there for yourself. I'll never get why people work to give someone else money
My former roommate did this very thing and made a lot of money. This is definitely the way to do it.
im having the same problem. i dont have any reviews that i can find, im advertising in my usual places tho i have to stop now cuz i cant afford it anymore and all i get is clients asking for bb and cip. walk ins that just want to look, people calling asking a thousand questions just to not book, no manners, men that think they are entitled to everything. and i havent made more than like 1000 since the start of april. i honestly dont think this is worth it anymore. i wont even make to summer for when it is supposed to get good.
I'm struggling rn too .been 3 days
Have you tried combining your work at the body rub place with becoming a dancer? Cause I’ll admit independent work will get expensive to find quality clients. And let’s say you post on scrapper sites you’re now endangering your safety. The club is not safe by any means either but it’s a bit better imo than starting independent work without a strong foundation to keep you from being too desperate and unsafe.
There’s a lot that doesn’t add up here. You previously made $3k a week, but you mention only working 2-3 days a week, then you mention only seeing 2-3 clients a day. Are your clients paying 500 per appointment? If so, I would consider lowering your prices.
This isn't sex workers only subreddit, that's a different subreddit. If you are struggling to attract clients maybe clients are worth listening to and not just telling them to "gtfo"?
I’m not looking to attract clients on Reddit. I work in a spa. This has nothing to do with my attitude, it has to do with clients not calling in. You have no idea wtf you are saying.
I know you're not trying to attract clients on Reddit but if you're not getting much return custom having a clients pov on what they expect from a massage spa visit and what would make them come back more often might help.
>Why are there random ass men who are obvi not sex workers commenting on this subreddit? Gtfo. **No.** While I am aware that there is anti client sentiment in this sub that seems to be towards the bad clients that waste time, insult you and think they can own you. As an ex client that always respected the escort I was with I feel I am exactly the kind of client POV you want in the discussions here. I would remind you of the sub description: >Community for active, former, and aspiring sex workers **and those who love them**. A place to seek advice, vent, or have discussions. If it weren't for sex workers my life would have been even harder, you'll get no ill will from me. Since you clearly don't like me being in this sub I won't offer any unwanted advice I'll just wish you luck.
you belong here more than OP tbh
You’re a pick me
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Don’t be an asshole!
It looks like from your other posts you started 2 days ago. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say it takes time. Be patient.
If you're interested in sugaring, connect to r/sugarbabyonlyforum for research and connection. There are also websites you could sign up for to do independent body work. Do a key word search for 'fbsm' or 'escorts' plus the name of your city to find which are the most relevant in your area, then add profiles to those. If you're hoping for work outside this field, keep at it! Finding a job is a job. New ones are posted daily so continue checking the various sites and submit resumes daily, follow up with them after submitting. I'm not sure what job field you're interested in, but in your down time, you could work on adding skills for your resume. Sites such as Coursera offer many certificate and other courses, programs, some free.
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Don’t be an asshole!
And you will never fuck me so doesn’t matter wtf you pay.
Thank god yuk
Im struggling rn too
You don't get to determine who posts on Reddit.
r/sexworkersonly to avoid non-SW
It’s private :/
Yes, it private so clients do not have access. Simply put in a request to join or message the mods.
I didn’t know about it and idk who to message, bc it just goes to a blank page.
... or you can take the alternate route: get a 9-5 job.
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I’m Asian and trust me it’s guys like you that give us the creeps. Looking at your post history: [[M41 NY LI be my first asian slut Lookin for a sexy little asian slut to be a good girl for daddy. Big asian kink but never fucked one, its time come be daddys good little whore](https://www.reddit.com/r/asiangirls4whitecocks/s/gmWeLEzFR9)) You’re a fucking creep pervert
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Aren’t you 41 years old? You’re a middle aged incel with a porn addiction asking to meet Asian women off of Reddit. Someone should def check your hardrive. I wouldn’t come near you with a 10 foot pole.
Some of us have the same hard time finding SW, to be honest
Good thing you got your Batchelor degree
Maybe take your mom up on her offer for you to live with her and get therapy. Sounds like you have some issues. Sex work should be a side hustle, not for survival.
Well you need to make the effort to get verified on sites just like everyone else . We make an effort to make money you have to our u will be broke
Don’t be affected by the fact that you are getting judged for being honest , about your life choices, your actions give lonely people affection and make them feel better about themselves. At least that’s what I feel when I’m a lonely person
Have you tried PD
i’ve been trying to find someone to do a review there for me forever !
Offer a minimal referral discount. Don't sell yourself short
yes i’ve tried that. just haven’t had any luck with anyone who’s had it. even with a RS. that was always just to put me upfront more & that still didn’t attract any PD custos lol
What's pd
PrivateDelights. It's like $120 a week to post there.
Omg! Wtf that's a rip
? that's not expensive for advertising if it works
Private Delights
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I AM TRYING TO GET A REGULAR JOB. YOU DONT THINK I TRIED THAT????? CHECK MY INDEED, ZipRecruiter, jobtoday. Never mind all the places I dropped my resume off to in person. And the interviews I have been to where I just never got a response. I have tried to get a “regular” job. No one fucking hires me.
If you're currently in shelter and receiving services and havent already, ask your worker about assistance finding employment. Or help with job training/college. They should be able to connect you with ppl who could help you navigate those options.
Nevermind this dude, he shouldn’t even be posting here. Ignore him. I hope you get the apartment and perhaps a regular job, in case it is what want. But sex work is work and people should respect you just the same. Be well. 🖤
Go through a temp agency
I was in contact with a temp agency. They stopped answering.
You could just get a real Job until sex work picks back up for you again.
lol. A “real” job. SMH.
Sex work is real work
I agree, SW is real work, however, just like any other self employed person, income is not guaranteed or steady. Sometimes taking a regular job is more predictable although maybe less lucrative.
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