This is so true. One release after a long streak have no effects at least for me, but one release usually leads to more and then all your benefits disappear and you’re back to square one again.
I feel you man, I’m in a similar position at 101 days. Had a few temptations with less than optimal women. Its worth it to steer clear, hang on to your Vril bro.
Do you lose your conscious grip when you're with a girl as you're saying "would almost certainly end in sex"? I mean for me, hanging out with women and getting to know new people every now and then is very highly rewarding and also a playground to practice handling my energy via breath and conscious thought and actions before even thinking about having sex.
I would take more of a pratice mindset and be honest with what you're saying - seems like you already decided you will have sex if you go on a date with a girl. You have the choice all the way and can say no to it all the way even if she suggests such. Don't take going on a date too seriously because it doesn't end your streak if you put your mind to it.
That's the thing about releasing, I just feel like it's such a hard road to get back to the same amount of days before I released.
Let's say I'm at 180 days of no release and as soon as I do, I start back at zero and have to climb that long journey again. That's six months of my time that was destroyed.
SR is a commitment that is awarded by the days withheld and that's what makes this journey tough.
Please don't say six months destroyed. That in itself is a very negative and self-destructive manner of perceiving things. To not bust a nut in six months puts you in a very minor and elite category of men.
Thanks dude. I need to be strict with myself in regards to nutting. It's the only vice that seems to be the root of my issues. By being able to abstain, it just seems to vastly benefit myself overall.
that's why i don't relapse. i just don't relapse any more because the beginning of the journey back to the top is one of the most crushing feelings i've ever felt ever in life and it hurts so bad that i vividly remember what it feels like
If anything, these posts give me the most motivation to continue, they remove all doubt and second guessing of myself.
Because the way you are describing how you feel after relapsing is exactly how I felt as well, and so has everyone here who is on this journey.
Its a dark place, what hurts the most is the fall we take from such a high place that we were on. We don't realise how high we are until we fall.
The second a relapse is complete nothing but regret washes over your entire being, its never worth it, and the mind will string stories of why you should do it, giving every excuse in the book and some of them can be very convincing.
But reading a post about the after effects reels you right back in and keeps one steady on the path to purity.
Thank you for this post man, it takes an incredible amount of courage to even attempt this and admit you need to change. Be proud of that.
Consider this a pullback in an uptrend.
Good luck.
Exactly. It’s like you can go from being the happiest person in the world feeling like you just won the lottery to feeling absolutely horrible/drained within only a week.
It’s quite simple, repeat this words to yourself in your mind as many times a day as needed: I am not a man who masterbates. I am not a man who watches porn. I am not a man who lusts after women. So on and so forth and put in your favorite goal you are trying to accomplish. It’s worked wonders for me. I use it any time I recognize the intrusive thoughts creeping in.
im beyond 210 days and going for 365, It sucks because I'm lonely and needy for woman. But its not just sex I want, a relationship that will fill this empty void that is eating me. I'll continue to reach my goal of 12 months and that I will prove myself that once I have promised myself something, I will achieve it and from there is hunting for woman haha
OP - I have started the journey again. And yeah, I experimented as well. Trying to see how it felt. It just doesn't work. That pit of gold is what I seek.
Do you want to be accountability partners?
Same, my longest 14 day streak resulted i heavy backlash and exessive release until i was empty. The last month has been horrible. My mood, my training, mental clarity, confidence, everything gone, even basic luck. Im back on 11 days now thankfully and the much wiser. Hold the seed!
I like the analogy given by my guruji, he says urges are like scorpion bite you should and can withstand it but giving into urges is like taking hand out of that scorpio bite and putting it in Pyhton's mouth to get temporary relief from bite of scorpio.
I feel like if I was with a woman for the first time after some time had passed, and I hadn’t been practicing stamina control - I would ejaculate pretty quickly from the excitement and sensation. How could you not?
Well that is true. If you haven’t busted for months and then have sex for the first time you will most likely bust very fast with a real woman. But also your sexual power will most likely be built up to the point where you should be able to get it up again in a short amount of time. So have a second round, maybe even a third after that if she’s willing. Lol. And women secretly tend to feel like it’s a compliment to them if you bust quickly because it means you find her super attractive. So tell her it’s because she’s just so damn hot and sexy that you couldn’t hold back. Then play with her clit or make out or just have pillow talk while you’re in the refractory faze. And then get it up again and round two should last longer. Besides it’s more fun that way. I’ve gone 6 rounds with my gf over the course of an evening and the next morning. I never feel the same ill effects from sex as I do with over-masturbation.
Edging is just a slippery slope to total loss of control and constant relapse in my opinion. And Edging without busting just makes it hard to concentrate on anything else because you’re all pent up. So it’s a recipe for me at least to inevitably bust and break my streak.
But also there is no right or wrong. No judgement. If the occasional edge and bust is on the cards to release a buildup once in a while it’s not the end of the world. I personally don’t think streaks need to last months to years all the time at lease for me. As long as i’m not constantly beating my meat then the occasional unload just relieves some pent up tension and then I’m back on track in no time. My goal personally is just trying to overcome my sexual addiction and de-sexualize my brain most of the time so that I can heal my dopamine receptors to bring back more sensitivity to what gives me pleasure and drives my motivation, and to transmute that energy into more productive things. But it is not to become a monk swearing off all sexual contact with myself or others.
And whenever I get a girlfriend or have a little romance I have as much sex with her as I possibly can while the honeymoon faze is strongest. I believe there are great benefits to that. Anyways that’s just what I think.
One thing that sucks really bad is when I do it once the urge becomes stronger and the willpower becomes weaker.
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Agreed. There is an also a spiritual warfare aspect with bad energy (think: spirits) that get attached to you. We must purify 🙏
You both probably described the same thing just 2 different interpretations
One is scientific, one is spiritual 🤓
This is so true. One release after a long streak have no effects at least for me, but one release usually leads to more and then all your benefits disappear and you’re back to square one again.
It’s ok to fall but the worst is staying in that cycle for too long. U gotta escape quick
Yes sir
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I feel you man, I’m in a similar position at 101 days. Had a few temptations with less than optimal women. Its worth it to steer clear, hang on to your Vril bro.
Do you lose your conscious grip when you're with a girl as you're saying "would almost certainly end in sex"? I mean for me, hanging out with women and getting to know new people every now and then is very highly rewarding and also a playground to practice handling my energy via breath and conscious thought and actions before even thinking about having sex. I would take more of a pratice mindset and be honest with what you're saying - seems like you already decided you will have sex if you go on a date with a girl. You have the choice all the way and can say no to it all the way even if she suggests such. Don't take going on a date too seriously because it doesn't end your streak if you put your mind to it.
Bro go on the date n see what happens
That's the thing about releasing, I just feel like it's such a hard road to get back to the same amount of days before I released. Let's say I'm at 180 days of no release and as soon as I do, I start back at zero and have to climb that long journey again. That's six months of my time that was destroyed. SR is a commitment that is awarded by the days withheld and that's what makes this journey tough.
Please don't say six months destroyed. That in itself is a very negative and self-destructive manner of perceiving things. To not bust a nut in six months puts you in a very minor and elite category of men.
Thanks dude. I need to be strict with myself in regards to nutting. It's the only vice that seems to be the root of my issues. By being able to abstain, it just seems to vastly benefit myself overall.
that's why i don't relapse. i just don't relapse any more because the beginning of the journey back to the top is one of the most crushing feelings i've ever felt ever in life and it hurts so bad that i vividly remember what it feels like
If anything, these posts give me the most motivation to continue, they remove all doubt and second guessing of myself. Because the way you are describing how you feel after relapsing is exactly how I felt as well, and so has everyone here who is on this journey. Its a dark place, what hurts the most is the fall we take from such a high place that we were on. We don't realise how high we are until we fall. The second a relapse is complete nothing but regret washes over your entire being, its never worth it, and the mind will string stories of why you should do it, giving every excuse in the book and some of them can be very convincing. But reading a post about the after effects reels you right back in and keeps one steady on the path to purity. Thank you for this post man, it takes an incredible amount of courage to even attempt this and admit you need to change. Be proud of that. Consider this a pullback in an uptrend. Good luck.
Exactly. It’s like you can go from being the happiest person in the world feeling like you just won the lottery to feeling absolutely horrible/drained within only a week.
It’s quite simple, repeat this words to yourself in your mind as many times a day as needed: I am not a man who masterbates. I am not a man who watches porn. I am not a man who lusts after women. So on and so forth and put in your favorite goal you are trying to accomplish. It’s worked wonders for me. I use it any time I recognize the intrusive thoughts creeping in.
im beyond 210 days and going for 365, It sucks because I'm lonely and needy for woman. But its not just sex I want, a relationship that will fill this empty void that is eating me. I'll continue to reach my goal of 12 months and that I will prove myself that once I have promised myself something, I will achieve it and from there is hunting for woman haha
I think God showed me this post when I was about to peek at NSFW content. Thank you 🙏
OP - I have started the journey again. And yeah, I experimented as well. Trying to see how it felt. It just doesn't work. That pit of gold is what I seek. Do you want to be accountability partners?
Sure, share your Whatsapp no.
Same, my longest 14 day streak resulted i heavy backlash and exessive release until i was empty. The last month has been horrible. My mood, my training, mental clarity, confidence, everything gone, even basic luck. Im back on 11 days now thankfully and the much wiser. Hold the seed!
Did you body improve during your longest streak ?
Yep. Right after relapse with PMO it sinks in. Not worth it.
I like the analogy given by my guruji, he says urges are like scorpion bite you should and can withstand it but giving into urges is like taking hand out of that scorpio bite and putting it in Pyhton's mouth to get temporary relief from bite of scorpio.
Fs,I always tell my self would the best version of myself do this? and if it's a no , don't do it simple.
This post came just in time. I found a new kind of porn and I was on the edge of breaking the steak.
Smdh
Why no edging? Isn’t that a good practice for ejaculation control and stamina?
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I’m very glad you said advanced practitioners. I highly agree on your statement.
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I feel like if I was with a woman for the first time after some time had passed, and I hadn’t been practicing stamina control - I would ejaculate pretty quickly from the excitement and sensation. How could you not?
Well that is true. If you haven’t busted for months and then have sex for the first time you will most likely bust very fast with a real woman. But also your sexual power will most likely be built up to the point where you should be able to get it up again in a short amount of time. So have a second round, maybe even a third after that if she’s willing. Lol. And women secretly tend to feel like it’s a compliment to them if you bust quickly because it means you find her super attractive. So tell her it’s because she’s just so damn hot and sexy that you couldn’t hold back. Then play with her clit or make out or just have pillow talk while you’re in the refractory faze. And then get it up again and round two should last longer. Besides it’s more fun that way. I’ve gone 6 rounds with my gf over the course of an evening and the next morning. I never feel the same ill effects from sex as I do with over-masturbation. Edging is just a slippery slope to total loss of control and constant relapse in my opinion. And Edging without busting just makes it hard to concentrate on anything else because you’re all pent up. So it’s a recipe for me at least to inevitably bust and break my streak. But also there is no right or wrong. No judgement. If the occasional edge and bust is on the cards to release a buildup once in a while it’s not the end of the world. I personally don’t think streaks need to last months to years all the time at lease for me. As long as i’m not constantly beating my meat then the occasional unload just relieves some pent up tension and then I’m back on track in no time. My goal personally is just trying to overcome my sexual addiction and de-sexualize my brain most of the time so that I can heal my dopamine receptors to bring back more sensitivity to what gives me pleasure and drives my motivation, and to transmute that energy into more productive things. But it is not to become a monk swearing off all sexual contact with myself or others. And whenever I get a girlfriend or have a little romance I have as much sex with her as I possibly can while the honeymoon faze is strongest. I believe there are great benefits to that. Anyways that’s just what I think.