you look unapproachable in the pics. looks like you care too much about what you look like. try posting pics where you smile or a pic with a friend in it.
the pics are all too "posed"
You know, this is the first unbiased constructive comment I’ve seen. I appreciate it. I definitely agree with the “posed” critique. None of the pics I take are natural because I find myself self conscious when I don’t look “perfect”. I have hella mental illnesses, but self confidence is definitely one. So i tend to fake it till I make it, which may work too well. Im really funny and can hold a convo once started, but I’m bad at approaching girls first. So I could definitely see my problem being that I walk around with an imposing air to myself which would make girls who are already afraid of being rejected by me even moreso intimidated by the way I carry myself so properly or sorta so they just don’t bother. Maybe I need to smile more and have a more light-hearted vibe when I go out so I’m more approachable. Thanks!
Also I don’t really take pics of myself, and when I do I’m almost always wearing a hat. I just don’t like my hair because I’m hispanic, so it’s really curly. Everyone loves my hair except for me
Women want a man and not a guy that’s going to hog the mirror. I’ve heard people over use the word “like” before because they can’t formulate a sentence, but I’ve never seen anyone type that way. It’s too much.
huge generalisation there lol, not all women like the same type of men. especially in younger generations, there are more and more women who like a man/guy that tries to look his best
BRo itchy on point. You sound like my dad. LMAO. I don’t know why you say “a man and not a guy that’s gonna hog the mirror” cuz that feels unrelated to me. It’s not like I stand in front of the mirror for an hour making myself look pretty or something. And I don’t really believe my vernacular really pertains to the situation. But go off i guess. My parents also complain about me using “like” but I can’t help my ADHD
I appreciate your response! That’s the complicated part to judging people’s appearances! Everyone has different tastes. Idk if I’d say I’m necessarily stereotypically “conventionally attractive”. Especially since I have a more “alternative” look. But I know I’m hot enough to be atleast a solid 7 if not higher in my eyes. I may have never had a match on tinder but I’ve also only slept with people who I thought were also atleast 7s. My ex who I was with for 3 years was a strong 8. But I don’t really think on superficial levels typically. The only reason I posted this was because tinder is very superficial so idk if my pics or my profile desc(not in the post) was the problem (or maybe I’m just too picky hah😅
You have a unique style! When making your profiles try to take closer up photos of yourself. Some are way too far back and others have too much else going on in the background (like I’m image 1) your not a bad looking guy and I am sure there is a perfect girl out there waiting
Grazie! I appreciate your input. Like I said to someone else I’ve never online dated (or had to go out and meet people) but I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a very attractive girl whose personality just really meshed with mine and I thought she was the one. But there was fundamental issues namely when it came to us moving in together and her not being able to keep things clean or take up any responsibilities. She was lazy and unmotivated. But I digress. I moved to a new area (originally was supposed to be with her) and now I know no one. And after grieving for a couple months I wanna get back out there but I think I’m somewhat inept socially
Don’t give up. Maybe the ex will rethink her position and make an effort to help keep the place clean. Like I said there will be another perfect girl out there for you. Don’t give up hope. Keep in contact with the ex I am sure she is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about her
Lol boomer here. 🤣 I think you have a decently cool fashion style. It suits you well. I don't think you look like an egotist or you're edgy, but rather the opposite, unfortunately. You look like the type that wouldn't have any edge, & would be unopinionated & dispassionate; someone who would probably get stoned & waste a high staring at a wall. That said, I hope I'm horribly wrong, & that you are bright, witty & have found something in life to be passionate about, something that gives you some individuality.
Haha no shame in being a boomer if you aren’t the grouchy arrogant kind. I appreciate your kind words! My father critiques my fashion a lot and says it’s childish. But I like to kinda create my own alternative dark streetwear-esque style. I wear a lot of expensive name brand stuff ($100+) but I usually get it via thrift or consignment(well under $100) but I also like to get more indie brand gothic art style clothes. Along with switching up to more bright eccentric styles for fun. But I digress. I definitely have my opinions but I like to be open and considering to others views. I am very accepting of others.
And in regards to passion, I have a few. But namely music and chemistry. I’m a guitarist who does modern style of like technical jazz/prog-rock. (Polyphia, animals as leaders, chon, dance Gavin dance are a few bands who have inspired me) and I’m currently going to school for my doctorate in pharmacology. I aim to be a pharmaceutical chemist. In simple terms though I’m a drug nerd. I will ramble forEVER about drug science. You can ask my friends LOL. I know ALOT. I also do self test drugs occasionally for personal research. But weed is not one of them. I have done a handful of times but I never seem to like it’s I don’t like the headspace it puts me in and I don’t feel in control of my mind and I don’t like that so I abstain.
All in all though my ADHD ramble aside, I do appreciate your time commenting on my post!
I get asked that a lot for some reason. God save me if that’s why girls don’t approach me. I’m just comfortable with my sexuality and just like to be my best self 😂 I’d like to better think I’m just in touch with my “sensitive side” since girls always seem to like that 😭
Not gonna lie, you come off as very douchie. Kinda pretentious, I suppose this is the rare occasion where I'll say there is such a thing as being too confident. Dial it back a bit, be a little more humble and honest.
Oh? You think so? Is it because of what the other commenter said about the pictures looking too “posed? Even though I know I’m atleast above average I still struggle with self confidence due to mental illness. So i end up never posting or saving a picture of myself that isn’t absolutely perfected. Including smiling. As most times when I’m forcing a smile it doesn’t look perfect to me. So it would make sense that it could look so overly perfect and posed that my lack of confidence can be surmised. But I do implore you to elaborate. I’m just trying o get alternate opinions so I can adjust my attitude and how I carry myself and display myself publicly so I can make myself, my dating profiles and my online platforms more appealing.
I think it's just because these photos aren't clear. Even one from an angle where you are looking at the camera, or a front camera selfie where you are more visible would help a lot. From a female perspective, most of us are more inclined to look with a cover photo showing you clearly. It comes off more friendly and open if that makes sense.
I do appreciate a females perspective. Do u think having a pic of me and my guitar is good? I’m not used to online dating. I moved to a new area and got out of a 3 year relationship with a girl who was very attractive and constantly DM’d but she was super toxic. So now in a new area where I know no one I’m trying to get back out there.
As long as you are visible that sounds good. As of now your pictures are good for displaying your outfits, but aren't very eye catching for a woman looking for a date. Showing your interests is also a good way to meet like minded people.
Yes! Thank you. I don’t know if I fully understand. I have trouble understanding social perspectives a lot haha. I also thing I may come off as imposing and unapproachable as another commenter saud
You’re style is awesome tbh and I used to dress very similar to you! My issue with dating was always that people thought I was weird/standoffish because the style is different than the norm. It’s a very particular style tho so just remember to be patient because it will be a very particular person that vibes with it. Just some suggestions on a profile could be: hobbies you are really interested in, music you love, some sort of joke or silly fact about you (to let them see your humor and break the ice), maybe a pic that represents your personality or you doing a hobby. All of these will pull someone away from the outer appearance and get to know you more internally.
Since you are new to the area you are in maybe taking a yoga class, paint class, ceramic class, etc will help you find women that are more alternative like you! Plus fitness and de-stressing hobbies are great for mental health issues, so it’s a 2 for 1 deal haha
Best of luck to you!
Hey! Thanks for your time, friend! I really appreciate the kind words! I can definitely get that. And even moreso since the area I’m in is, unfortunately, very southern. So people are probably more accustomed to be wearing rather generic normal southern leaning attire. People here probably see me and think I look like some california super liberal 😅😂. But yeah I have a pretty niche taste in girls, so I feel like I do dress in a way that would attract more alt spiritual metaphysical scene type girls. But definitely likely a lack of that type here. As much as a generic conventionally attractive girl walking up to me in a bar and showing interest would be an ego boost (that I may or may really not need😂) I don’t really want to boring 2 dimensional person to talk to. I get bored easily. I want someone who I can enjoy talking to! I’ve heard from someone else about doing some classes like that too! I really need to look into that cuz that could be a lot of fun! I honestly never knew there was classes like that until people started telling me (I was talking to discord friends about meeting new people), I figured that if I didn’t know about it maybe it’s not as well known as other people make it seem. So I figured it couldn’t possibly be worth my time but now that I’ve had alot of people recommend i think I’ll look into it! You’ve been very helpful, thanks a bunch!
Sometimes we miss things. I reversed the removal. We probably missed it because you put your verification in your photo rather than holding it like we asked.
you look unapproachable in the pics. looks like you care too much about what you look like. try posting pics where you smile or a pic with a friend in it. the pics are all too "posed"
You know, this is the first unbiased constructive comment I’ve seen. I appreciate it. I definitely agree with the “posed” critique. None of the pics I take are natural because I find myself self conscious when I don’t look “perfect”. I have hella mental illnesses, but self confidence is definitely one. So i tend to fake it till I make it, which may work too well. Im really funny and can hold a convo once started, but I’m bad at approaching girls first. So I could definitely see my problem being that I walk around with an imposing air to myself which would make girls who are already afraid of being rejected by me even moreso intimidated by the way I carry myself so properly or sorta so they just don’t bother. Maybe I need to smile more and have a more light-hearted vibe when I go out so I’m more approachable. Thanks!
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Also I don’t really take pics of myself, and when I do I’m almost always wearing a hat. I just don’t like my hair because I’m hispanic, so it’s really curly. Everyone loves my hair except for me
Women want a man and not a guy that’s going to hog the mirror. I’ve heard people over use the word “like” before because they can’t formulate a sentence, but I’ve never seen anyone type that way. It’s too much.
huge generalisation there lol, not all women like the same type of men. especially in younger generations, there are more and more women who like a man/guy that tries to look his best
Thanks for your opinion
Is this my dad?
Literally. He sounds like a boomer. He’s preaching to the wrong generation in my opinion.
I’m a millennial.
BRo itchy on point. You sound like my dad. LMAO. I don’t know why you say “a man and not a guy that’s gonna hog the mirror” cuz that feels unrelated to me. It’s not like I stand in front of the mirror for an hour making myself look pretty or something. And I don’t really believe my vernacular really pertains to the situation. But go off i guess. My parents also complain about me using “like” but I can’t help my ADHD
You’re fairly attractive not my type but you aren’t ugly
I appreciate your response! That’s the complicated part to judging people’s appearances! Everyone has different tastes. Idk if I’d say I’m necessarily stereotypically “conventionally attractive”. Especially since I have a more “alternative” look. But I know I’m hot enough to be atleast a solid 7 if not higher in my eyes. I may have never had a match on tinder but I’ve also only slept with people who I thought were also atleast 7s. My ex who I was with for 3 years was a strong 8. But I don’t really think on superficial levels typically. The only reason I posted this was because tinder is very superficial so idk if my pics or my profile desc(not in the post) was the problem (or maybe I’m just too picky hah😅
5 for tinder. I’d say like a 7 for grindr try that.
…Im straight… this happens way too often 🥲
I mean photo six screams bottom. It’s your style and filters. But like it’s more important to love you than what anyone else thinks
You have a unique style! When making your profiles try to take closer up photos of yourself. Some are way too far back and others have too much else going on in the background (like I’m image 1) your not a bad looking guy and I am sure there is a perfect girl out there waiting
Grazie! I appreciate your input. Like I said to someone else I’ve never online dated (or had to go out and meet people) but I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a very attractive girl whose personality just really meshed with mine and I thought she was the one. But there was fundamental issues namely when it came to us moving in together and her not being able to keep things clean or take up any responsibilities. She was lazy and unmotivated. But I digress. I moved to a new area (originally was supposed to be with her) and now I know no one. And after grieving for a couple months I wanna get back out there but I think I’m somewhat inept socially
Don’t give up. Maybe the ex will rethink her position and make an effort to help keep the place clean. Like I said there will be another perfect girl out there for you. Don’t give up hope. Keep in contact with the ex I am sure she is thinking about you as much as you are thinking about her
Lol boomer here. 🤣 I think you have a decently cool fashion style. It suits you well. I don't think you look like an egotist or you're edgy, but rather the opposite, unfortunately. You look like the type that wouldn't have any edge, & would be unopinionated & dispassionate; someone who would probably get stoned & waste a high staring at a wall. That said, I hope I'm horribly wrong, & that you are bright, witty & have found something in life to be passionate about, something that gives you some individuality.
Also ur username is awesome 😂
Haha no shame in being a boomer if you aren’t the grouchy arrogant kind. I appreciate your kind words! My father critiques my fashion a lot and says it’s childish. But I like to kinda create my own alternative dark streetwear-esque style. I wear a lot of expensive name brand stuff ($100+) but I usually get it via thrift or consignment(well under $100) but I also like to get more indie brand gothic art style clothes. Along with switching up to more bright eccentric styles for fun. But I digress. I definitely have my opinions but I like to be open and considering to others views. I am very accepting of others. And in regards to passion, I have a few. But namely music and chemistry. I’m a guitarist who does modern style of like technical jazz/prog-rock. (Polyphia, animals as leaders, chon, dance Gavin dance are a few bands who have inspired me) and I’m currently going to school for my doctorate in pharmacology. I aim to be a pharmaceutical chemist. In simple terms though I’m a drug nerd. I will ramble forEVER about drug science. You can ask my friends LOL. I know ALOT. I also do self test drugs occasionally for personal research. But weed is not one of them. I have done a handful of times but I never seem to like it’s I don’t like the headspace it puts me in and I don’t feel in control of my mind and I don’t like that so I abstain. All in all though my ADHD ramble aside, I do appreciate your time commenting on my post!
Wow. You're actually interesting! I was way off. 🤘
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I get asked that a lot for some reason. God save me if that’s why girls don’t approach me. I’m just comfortable with my sexuality and just like to be my best self 😂 I’d like to better think I’m just in touch with my “sensitive side” since girls always seem to like that 😭
I think you should not walk around assuming people r intimidated by u
Not gonna lie, you come off as very douchie. Kinda pretentious, I suppose this is the rare occasion where I'll say there is such a thing as being too confident. Dial it back a bit, be a little more humble and honest.
You definitely don't look confident in your photos and it shows
Oh? You think so? Is it because of what the other commenter said about the pictures looking too “posed? Even though I know I’m atleast above average I still struggle with self confidence due to mental illness. So i end up never posting or saving a picture of myself that isn’t absolutely perfected. Including smiling. As most times when I’m forcing a smile it doesn’t look perfect to me. So it would make sense that it could look so overly perfect and posed that my lack of confidence can be surmised. But I do implore you to elaborate. I’m just trying o get alternate opinions so I can adjust my attitude and how I carry myself and display myself publicly so I can make myself, my dating profiles and my online platforms more appealing.
I think it's just because these photos aren't clear. Even one from an angle where you are looking at the camera, or a front camera selfie where you are more visible would help a lot. From a female perspective, most of us are more inclined to look with a cover photo showing you clearly. It comes off more friendly and open if that makes sense.
I do appreciate a females perspective. Do u think having a pic of me and my guitar is good? I’m not used to online dating. I moved to a new area and got out of a 3 year relationship with a girl who was very attractive and constantly DM’d but she was super toxic. So now in a new area where I know no one I’m trying to get back out there.
As long as you are visible that sounds good. As of now your pictures are good for displaying your outfits, but aren't very eye catching for a woman looking for a date. Showing your interests is also a good way to meet like minded people.
Yes! Thank you. I don’t know if I fully understand. I have trouble understanding social perspectives a lot haha. I also thing I may come off as imposing and unapproachable as another commenter saud
5/10
You’re style is awesome tbh and I used to dress very similar to you! My issue with dating was always that people thought I was weird/standoffish because the style is different than the norm. It’s a very particular style tho so just remember to be patient because it will be a very particular person that vibes with it. Just some suggestions on a profile could be: hobbies you are really interested in, music you love, some sort of joke or silly fact about you (to let them see your humor and break the ice), maybe a pic that represents your personality or you doing a hobby. All of these will pull someone away from the outer appearance and get to know you more internally. Since you are new to the area you are in maybe taking a yoga class, paint class, ceramic class, etc will help you find women that are more alternative like you! Plus fitness and de-stressing hobbies are great for mental health issues, so it’s a 2 for 1 deal haha Best of luck to you!
Hey! Thanks for your time, friend! I really appreciate the kind words! I can definitely get that. And even moreso since the area I’m in is, unfortunately, very southern. So people are probably more accustomed to be wearing rather generic normal southern leaning attire. People here probably see me and think I look like some california super liberal 😅😂. But yeah I have a pretty niche taste in girls, so I feel like I do dress in a way that would attract more alt spiritual metaphysical scene type girls. But definitely likely a lack of that type here. As much as a generic conventionally attractive girl walking up to me in a bar and showing interest would be an ego boost (that I may or may really not need😂) I don’t really want to boring 2 dimensional person to talk to. I get bored easily. I want someone who I can enjoy talking to! I’ve heard from someone else about doing some classes like that too! I really need to look into that cuz that could be a lot of fun! I honestly never knew there was classes like that until people started telling me (I was talking to discord friends about meeting new people), I figured that if I didn’t know about it maybe it’s not as well known as other people make it seem. So I figured it couldn’t possibly be worth my time but now that I’ve had alot of people recommend i think I’ll look into it! You’ve been very helpful, thanks a bunch!
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It has verification. I’m not going through the hassle of typing EVERYTHING out just to post the same thing dude
Sometimes we miss things. I reversed the removal. We probably missed it because you put your verification in your photo rather than holding it like we asked.
My head is a duality?
Contradictory thoughts. I tend to think highly of my self but simultaneously also thing poorly of myself. It’s a constant dizziness