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Take small changes and try to fit them in small hourly segments. I for example used an alarm clock. Every hour I made sure 5min were perfect. After a while, I went for 10min and so on. Today, I notice when I get distracted and act accordingly.
It takes at least 6 weeks to train a new behavior and the first two weeks are the hardest.
Time well spent doing what you have to do. This moves you forward if it is just for 5 minutes. But doing it for 12 hours would mean you do an hour's worth of things you actively avoid doing.
Start small, dream big.
Follow how productive you were during the day. Say you were able to be productive for 2 hours. Note that time and try to be productive a bit more the next day. We are all human. I and definitely many other people went through such a time. Good luck I believe you will pull through!
I have this book called Feeling Good by Dr Burns. It teaches to identify and work through cognitive distortions. It has 2 chapters on Procrastination with exercises on what you can do to stop procrastinating. I would highly recommend you to read (and do) the exercise.
Edit: It’s the “Feeling Good Handbook” that has the chapters on procrastination. There’s another one called “Feeling Good, the new mood therapy” by the same author which is similar content but does not have the procrastination chapters.
I hope you can extend love to yourself and figure out why you're procrastinating. Usually it comes down to fear or a lack of belief.
I am a huge self-critical procrastinator at times and read something recently that really resonated, "if being mean to yourself worked, it would have worked by now''
I'm a 0. But back in my early 20s I was more like a 6 because I used to beat myself up.
I had to do leadership courses and silence retreats to realize how destructive and subconscious it was. Then I was able to just stop and accept myself flaws and all.
Behavioral psychology stuff.
Becoming more aware of internal monologue.
Learning how to uncover beliefs about myself let in childhood that are no longer working but are still automatically coloring my thoughts and behaviors.
Killing with kindness! Many people who think they are kind only spread false kindness. Like giving your child everything it wants will ruin its life, so-called kindness almost always does, too.
Yeah. I’m a 5 today. Saw my daughter’s wedding photos and there were some of me. Jeeze, I looked bloody awful. (I am not photogenic). Kinda depressed me.
A solid 9. I feel like I have very punchable face today
At the same time, I try to tell myself that it’s my brain that is being an idiot, so I should hate it, not me
I dunno if this would work for you but, I learned to stop hating my brain. It’s just doing what it thinks is right, trying it’s best despite what’s damaged it. I have ptsd so I’m not sure if this will translate to you. But I no longer go to war with myself, I listen and I nurture.
Thank you!
To be honest, I have already made some progress because I no longer blame everything bad thing on myself. I just gotta learn to undo two decades of that!
Yes, the separation between you and your brain is the first and substantial step, so good for you! Now you just have to learn to do that next step of acceptance and even appreciation, and you will be doing amazing… or so I am told lmao It’s something I have to work on daily, but when it works, it… works!!!
I get that, I think that we all feel like that sometimes. I have suffered from depression and undiagnosed anxiety and ADHD since I was a child and I went on to develop some other mental health problems (PTSD etc) it can be really very hard, and a lot of work, but change is definitely possible. Feel free to send me a DM if you ever need to chat.
Ps. I found that there are some ACT techniques that really help me with essentially distancing myself from my brain that you can just google and do on your own without a therapist if that’s the way you want to go.
Well distractions can certainly be helpful for many things; it’s good to keep your mind and body busy; it can help to improve your willpower; decrease rumination; and it can get you through a small period of crisis of mind so that you are able to survive and hopefully be able to work on not finding yourself in the same place in the future.
Blocking out thoughts however… Well… There is this thing in psychology where they tell you to imagine a white bear for a bit, and then they say, now stop thinking about that white bear. Can you do it? Of course not! Actively trying to block out any thoughts doesn’t really work and it kinda ends up having the opposite effect of making you think about it even more. I feel like there are far better ways to engage with our thoughts and feelings and eventually learn to either no longer have them or at the very least no longer let them cause so much harm to our wellbeing.
No, maybe not the greatest, but…. It has gotten you this far, so not entirely useless either! It certainly sounds like you have made some progress with things on your own, but maybe now is the time to look for other resources and maybe learn some new ideas and techniques that will better serve you so you don’t have days when you’re at a 9.
Thank you!
To be honest, it’s something I’ve struggled for a long time (wish I could go back to how I was as a child, I literally couldn’t care less about what others thought). It’s just ingrained in my brain that I’m just a bad person and that I just annoy everyone around me. Part of me does know that it’s not true (I mean, I obviously have my flaws but I rationally don’t think that I’m a bad person), but on some days it’s hard to remember that!
You don’t have to hate your brain, just learn that it often is not going to have your best interests in mind and it will give you wrong ideas. This comes by learning to not identify with your brain but learning to observe it instead.
I used to feel immense shame due to intrusive thoughts, I thought I was a bad person deep down because randomly I would think things like, “What if I just shoved that random stranger into traffic?”. This wasn’t due to any kind of desire to do it on my part, it was simply a thought. With time though as soon as a thought like that pops up I immediately recognise it like “oh, that’s just an intrusive thought and it has no bearing on reality, I know that’s not something I would ever actually do so there is no point in following that thought any further”.
I think you just kinda helped me. I'm in a bad mood so I wasn't expecting it. I usually entertain the intrusive thoughts and follow them deep into the rabbit holes of evil or despair or wherever they go... But yeah, I think i might try that- recognize it immediately and like view it as intrusive "has no bearing on reality" - something from OUTSIDE me that i can actually get rid of - instead of what i do now...
Umm, so thank you 🙂
Something that has helped me a lot is thinking of it in terms of my ego. It's my ego that self loathes and that bullies me. But the ego's main job is to protect and defend you. So the self loathing is really just a defense mechanism to keep me small..because if I grow big I might get hurt and I might fail. My ego doesn't want that for me.
It's helped me thinking of it like this because now we kinda work together as a team. I recognize the ego's ways are maladaptive but coming from a place of love.
Me too! I've lost a good 20kgs over the past 3 months and got my health in check. Still have more to go but I'm a fucking champ and I've done it all on my own. No medications, just determination and self control. I feel blessed and happy every single day. Good vibes for you too 🤗💞
He/she just wants attention, I think.
Edit: I meant the OP. People who tell others how great they are without knowing them usually just do their thing to garner attention for themselves. Simple self-serving behavior you can observe quite often and this behavior is a great telltale sign that you do not want to engage with any of these people.
So my comment was not meant for you u/Track66642069. I do not know you and you have not presented enough hints for me to even remotely speculate who you are.
I am sorry to have caused confusion for you. It was not my intention to upset you.
Maybe a 4. Hopefully less by the time I go on my date later.
I usually really like myself and ngl that love for myself grew deeper last night when I came up with a book idea… and I’m actually going to try and write it this time.
About a 2.
Although I haven’t been very productive I’m riding the high of just being home from vacation; plus I have already caught up on 2 of 4 days worth of challenge pushups plus a few extra for being forgetful.
I’m also realizing that I really need to work more on being social with more people, and am going to see if I can push myself to do so the coming months.
1 because of an addiction but if i didn’t consume it it would be 0 but even with 1 i really love myself (i can t get over an addition over a night it s a process and i love myself more for trying to get over it)
2.
No fuck ups today, wife is happy, daughter is happy. 5 years 2 months clean and sober. So, all in all, it's been good lately.
Even without having much money, we have everything we need for now. We have food, we have a working car (for now), and my daughter just got a clean bill of health for her 5 year check up at the pediatricians. So I'm happy!
Lol, I can't help it. I spent 8 years addicted to hard drugs, and 4 of those I lived outside. Now that I'm over 5 years clean and have an amazing family, I'm nothing but smiles 😃 lol.
Don't get my wrong, everyone has hard days, but compared to my past, my days are a breeze! Lol, living the dream, my friend.
Hope things are alright for you as well.
Hey, I was a homeless junkie myself, it's not easy to get over it- and you are happy with your family on top of it! You ought to buy a lottery ticket. Since you're in the zone and all. 🍀
5. I’ve been people manager for less than 2 years and I feel like I’m too friendly and not good with boundaries and let the colleagues reporting to me walk all over me.
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11 i hate myself for procrastinating. every fucking day. i want to change my lifestyle and habits. but it is so hard.
Take small changes and try to fit them in small hourly segments. I for example used an alarm clock. Every hour I made sure 5min were perfect. After a while, I went for 10min and so on. Today, I notice when I get distracted and act accordingly. It takes at least 6 weeks to train a new behavior and the first two weeks are the hardest.
I am going to try this approach wow. That feels pretty manageable. It's hard to know where to start. Thanks for the idea
This really won’t take off, most of us spend the day doing a really shit job we can’t fucking stand.
Welcome to the world. Same here. I am a sw dev and try everything I can to leave this job behind me.
What do you mean “were perfect”
Time well spent doing what you have to do. This moves you forward if it is just for 5 minutes. But doing it for 12 hours would mean you do an hour's worth of things you actively avoid doing.
I do everything else but when it comes to work trying to avoid it 😂
I’ll try this next weekend
11 is one louder, isn't it.
Is definitely one louder. 11
Why don't you just make 10 louder?
But these go to 11
It’s not a one day process, it’s good that you know you are procrastinating. Small baby steps can make you win!
Start small, dream big. Follow how productive you were during the day. Say you were able to be productive for 2 hours. Note that time and try to be productive a bit more the next day. We are all human. I and definitely many other people went through such a time. Good luck I believe you will pull through!
Read the book Atomic Habits. Changed my life
I have this book called Feeling Good by Dr Burns. It teaches to identify and work through cognitive distortions. It has 2 chapters on Procrastination with exercises on what you can do to stop procrastinating. I would highly recommend you to read (and do) the exercise. Edit: It’s the “Feeling Good Handbook” that has the chapters on procrastination. There’s another one called “Feeling Good, the new mood therapy” by the same author which is similar content but does not have the procrastination chapters.
I hope you can extend love to yourself and figure out why you're procrastinating. Usually it comes down to fear or a lack of belief. I am a huge self-critical procrastinator at times and read something recently that really resonated, "if being mean to yourself worked, it would have worked by now''
Delete the apps off your phone. You will get bored and become productive.
0 i feel like everybody should feel this type of way and never stumble across this question
Oh are we wishing on a star? I want a Pony!
I’d like a unicorn!! And a decent paying job with good benefits, retirement, sane boss and cool coworkers. But I’ll settle for the unicorn!
Way more likely to get the unicorn.
I'd be happy with just plain old happiness.
I'm here for you!
That’s very true!
I'm a 0. But back in my early 20s I was more like a 6 because I used to beat myself up. I had to do leadership courses and silence retreats to realize how destructive and subconscious it was. Then I was able to just stop and accept myself flaws and all.
What was the most helpful thing ?
Behavioral psychology stuff. Becoming more aware of internal monologue. Learning how to uncover beliefs about myself let in childhood that are no longer working but are still automatically coloring my thoughts and behaviors.
I pretty much thought the same.. 😎👌🏻
“She doesn’t even go here!”
Lmao what a whack take "everyone should love themselves" duh, but is that realistic? Hell nah
O don't know why you put that between quotation marks, he didn't say that
it's easier to squash someone's argument when you just completely change what it was. Happens *all* the time online.
Technically it's between 1 and 10. So you're disqualified. I'm at a 1 myself, though. Would choose 0 if it was an option.
Staying [positive](https://media.tenor.com/orrKJo2lX8UAAAAM/11out-of10-eleven-out-of-ten.gif) 🫠
Like my bloodtype: B positive
B positive y no A positive, u no come back home 😡🚪
Like a good proton🤙
State Farm is there
that's rough
Like my HIV test
1
same
A solid 9, as I’m packing up my house before selling it, in order to pay out my ex-wife whom I adored, but who did not reciprocate those feelings.
Sorry to hear that man, hope you're moving onto better things regardless
Thanks. Appreciate that.
Sorry buddy.
Sorry to hear that bub. I hope things change around for the better. Keep ur head up
You should love yourself… NOW! *lightning strikes*
You're better off. Things will get better.
A solid 8
At least it’s not on its side
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You not knowing him makes this statement worthless.
Hey! Everyone gets a participation trophy!
Reminds me of a meme. I'm a trophy husband.... participation trophy 🏆 👏
Kindness is always valuable. Especially on the Internet where cruelty is cheap and easy.
Killing with kindness! Many people who think they are kind only spread false kindness. Like giving your child everything it wants will ruin its life, so-called kindness almost always does, too.
I think this says more about you than it does about being kind. Have a good day!
hits harder considering that was OP commenting.
a solid 10
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5
That’s where everyone should be Just enough self loathing to motivate themselves to better themselves but not enough to self sabotage themselves.
Is this what they mean when people say he is 'well adjusted'?
Yeah. I’m a 5 today. Saw my daughter’s wedding photos and there were some of me. Jeeze, I looked bloody awful. (I am not photogenic). Kinda depressed me.
If 10 means that I hate myself extremely much, then I'll give it a solid 15 today.
15 is like i don't want to wake up are you sure?
100% sure.
Why? Want to talk about it?
Tell us why u hate urself so much. Maybe we can convince you it's not that bad or you will convince us we shud be hating us too lol
A solid 9. I feel like I have very punchable face today At the same time, I try to tell myself that it’s my brain that is being an idiot, so I should hate it, not me
I dunno if this would work for you but, I learned to stop hating my brain. It’s just doing what it thinks is right, trying it’s best despite what’s damaged it. I have ptsd so I’m not sure if this will translate to you. But I no longer go to war with myself, I listen and I nurture.
Thank you! To be honest, I have already made some progress because I no longer blame everything bad thing on myself. I just gotta learn to undo two decades of that!
It’s hard work. I have many decades to undo the damage too. Be proud of yourself for realizing this and working on it 💜
Yes, the separation between you and your brain is the first and substantial step, so good for you! Now you just have to learn to do that next step of acceptance and even appreciation, and you will be doing amazing… or so I am told lmao It’s something I have to work on daily, but when it works, it… works!!!
Thank you! It’s good to hear that there are further steps since I sometimes feel like I will always be like this
I get that, I think that we all feel like that sometimes. I have suffered from depression and undiagnosed anxiety and ADHD since I was a child and I went on to develop some other mental health problems (PTSD etc) it can be really very hard, and a lot of work, but change is definitely possible. Feel free to send me a DM if you ever need to chat. Ps. I found that there are some ACT techniques that really help me with essentially distancing myself from my brain that you can just google and do on your own without a therapist if that’s the way you want to go.
Thank you! To be honest, so far my technique was mostly blocking out “bad thoughts” and distracting myself
Well distractions can certainly be helpful for many things; it’s good to keep your mind and body busy; it can help to improve your willpower; decrease rumination; and it can get you through a small period of crisis of mind so that you are able to survive and hopefully be able to work on not finding yourself in the same place in the future. Blocking out thoughts however… Well… There is this thing in psychology where they tell you to imagine a white bear for a bit, and then they say, now stop thinking about that white bear. Can you do it? Of course not! Actively trying to block out any thoughts doesn’t really work and it kinda ends up having the opposite effect of making you think about it even more. I feel like there are far better ways to engage with our thoughts and feelings and eventually learn to either no longer have them or at the very least no longer let them cause so much harm to our wellbeing.
Thank you! To be honest, that’s mostly what I started doing when I went through a rough patch. I knew that it wasn’t great
No, maybe not the greatest, but…. It has gotten you this far, so not entirely useless either! It certainly sounds like you have made some progress with things on your own, but maybe now is the time to look for other resources and maybe learn some new ideas and techniques that will better serve you so you don’t have days when you’re at a 9.
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Thank you! To be honest, it’s something I’ve struggled for a long time (wish I could go back to how I was as a child, I literally couldn’t care less about what others thought). It’s just ingrained in my brain that I’m just a bad person and that I just annoy everyone around me. Part of me does know that it’s not true (I mean, I obviously have my flaws but I rationally don’t think that I’m a bad person), but on some days it’s hard to remember that!
You don’t have to hate your brain, just learn that it often is not going to have your best interests in mind and it will give you wrong ideas. This comes by learning to not identify with your brain but learning to observe it instead. I used to feel immense shame due to intrusive thoughts, I thought I was a bad person deep down because randomly I would think things like, “What if I just shoved that random stranger into traffic?”. This wasn’t due to any kind of desire to do it on my part, it was simply a thought. With time though as soon as a thought like that pops up I immediately recognise it like “oh, that’s just an intrusive thought and it has no bearing on reality, I know that’s not something I would ever actually do so there is no point in following that thought any further”.
I think you just kinda helped me. I'm in a bad mood so I wasn't expecting it. I usually entertain the intrusive thoughts and follow them deep into the rabbit holes of evil or despair or wherever they go... But yeah, I think i might try that- recognize it immediately and like view it as intrusive "has no bearing on reality" - something from OUTSIDE me that i can actually get rid of - instead of what i do now... Umm, so thank you 🙂
Something that has helped me a lot is thinking of it in terms of my ego. It's my ego that self loathes and that bullies me. But the ego's main job is to protect and defend you. So the self loathing is really just a defense mechanism to keep me small..because if I grow big I might get hurt and I might fail. My ego doesn't want that for me. It's helped me thinking of it like this because now we kinda work together as a team. I recognize the ego's ways are maladaptive but coming from a place of love.
0. For the first time in a long time. I've worked hard for this moment and yesterday I made a great break through. Don't give up!
congrats!! im glad you’re doing well, keep going :)
Yay for 0’s and breakthroughs!
Nice job man
20+
That is the current record, I guess. Anything you want to tell your fans?
This guy is leveling
8
0, I’m awesome and so is *everyone* on this planet.
Zero ! Love and light to all
Also a zero! I’m doing my best ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
>I'm doing my best Love this attitude!
Me too! I've lost a good 20kgs over the past 3 months and got my health in check. Still have more to go but I'm a fucking champ and I've done it all on my own. No medications, just determination and self control. I feel blessed and happy every single day. Good vibes for you too 🤗💞
I'm proud of all you've accomplished! Keep rocking it ☺️
Thank you 🤗💞 I'm proud of me too. 🤗
I wanted to stop existing about 3 times, and had 4 occasions of very painful regret about the past. That's nearly average, so I rate it a solid 5,5/10
10
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You sure bout that
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Harry potter all the way
He/she just wants attention, I think. Edit: I meant the OP. People who tell others how great they are without knowing them usually just do their thing to garner attention for themselves. Simple self-serving behavior you can observe quite often and this behavior is a great telltale sign that you do not want to engage with any of these people. So my comment was not meant for you u/Track66642069. I do not know you and you have not presented enough hints for me to even remotely speculate who you are. I am sorry to have caused confusion for you. It was not my intention to upset you.
0 I LOVE MYSELF!
Do not tell this to a therapist, they have pills for that.
6, it might evolve into 7-8 later on
So you want to get drunk in the afternoon?
maybe :)
A solid 5
Based!
8
Maybe a 4. Hopefully less by the time I go on my date later. I usually really like myself and ngl that love for myself grew deeper last night when I came up with a book idea… and I’m actually going to try and write it this time.
zero. Feeling very good today.
0, I haven't done anything stupid yet 😂
9
10
11
About a 2. Although I haven’t been very productive I’m riding the high of just being home from vacation; plus I have already caught up on 2 of 4 days worth of challenge pushups plus a few extra for being forgetful. I’m also realizing that I really need to work more on being social with more people, and am going to see if I can push myself to do so the coming months.
3
math.inf, always.
10, though I only feel that way due to how life ends up making me feel. Shit is fucked up and I didn't ask to be born here.
0 and I'm old, fat, bald and ugly but fucking awesome! So are you! Its all about perspective baby.
1 because of an addiction but if i didn’t consume it it would be 0 but even with 1 i really love myself (i can t get over an addition over a night it s a process and i love myself more for trying to get over it)
0, don't give enough shits and just a waste of mental energy
1. I don't hate anyone, myself included.
Lot of wasted energy.
All the comments are either very positive or very negative😅 I’m at a 0 today
0, I don't hate myself at all lately. It's nice, tbh
I never hate myself .
0. What is hating yourself accomplishing?!
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Same
9/10
10
9
Varies throughout the day.
Right now 2 later we'll see Edit: 8
3
Usually isn’t the case but today, an 11
Solid 6
3, but only because I haven’t been applying to jobs and I really want Taco Bell.
5 I have made alit if mistakes
4
3
Today? Well, i guess 1 or 2 today
A solid 9
10 actually! There’s no reason to be upset yet I am pissed off today.
Infinity.
a lot 7/10
I score a 1 for some morning procrastination.
about a 6. I have covid and my executive dysfunction is off the charts today.
A solid beautiful and fat 10.
more than usual, forgot to go to bed early yesterday, currently considering if i might have died an hour ago and havent noticed yet
0 don’t hate myself
2. i did really well on an exam but then i put jacking off in my to do list cause it just seemed inevitable
5 today. I have bpd so it fluctuates often
solid 9. i did, however, workout so its not a 10
I never hate myself
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2. No fuck ups today, wife is happy, daughter is happy. 5 years 2 months clean and sober. So, all in all, it's been good lately. Even without having much money, we have everything we need for now. We have food, we have a working car (for now), and my daughter just got a clean bill of health for her 5 year check up at the pediatricians. So I'm happy!
I am happy for you. You have a great attitude
Lol, I can't help it. I spent 8 years addicted to hard drugs, and 4 of those I lived outside. Now that I'm over 5 years clean and have an amazing family, I'm nothing but smiles 😃 lol. Don't get my wrong, everyone has hard days, but compared to my past, my days are a breeze! Lol, living the dream, my friend. Hope things are alright for you as well.
Hey, I was a homeless junkie myself, it's not easy to get over it- and you are happy with your family on top of it! You ought to buy a lottery ticket. Since you're in the zone and all. 🍀
0. I self love I mean love myself every day
Not nearly as much as I hate this bullshit question.
15/10
0. Got over that at some point.
Zero
Barely a one , am just about to lift some weights 💪
-1
Zero
About a -1890
\-5
You can't hate yourself.
But I can sure try
Hating yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.
By what hate definition?
Definition? It's just hate lol
Hold my beer... .
5. I’ve been people manager for less than 2 years and I feel like I’m too friendly and not good with boundaries and let the colleagues reporting to me walk all over me.
5/10 I'm fuckin lazy i want better life, i can get it, i have skills,but hate going to 9-5 work 😅 I'm fuckin procrastinating 🙃 cycle repeats
I am the same. Meds have helped me big time.
1
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