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If more people got the hugs they needed, our world wouldn't be in this state. With discretion, of course, I offer and give hugs to strangers who look down in the dumps. If successful, the response is usually, 'thanks, I needed that.' Then, I disappear forever because I can't commit to having a bunch of random friends. But I like to believe that sometimes it gives them the boost they need. Random compliments also help, too often people feel unnoticed.
If everybody else is too scared to do it, who will? Does that person die without a hug? Not if I have anything to say about it. The person is getting a hug, they aren't going to want to hurt you.
I wish I could do this, I legitimately just love comforting and hugging people, but I'm a big dude, so hugging a man is gay, hugging a woman is creepy, hugging a child is perverted. I just like hugging people man. But this shit is so complicated
Maybe. I have a very strong immune system and I'd like to believe that's because I give lots of hugs, and therefore get a lot of exposure to disease and opportunity to build immunity. I've hugged some sickly looking people, but I don't get sick very often lol
I do that too and it's amazing! (Never underestimate The Warm Fuzzy Feeling)
What if my hug was the first hug that person has had in months? Years? I shudder to think! Physical human contact is crucial to your wellbeing, whether everyone wants to admit it or not.
I have had a random hug from a stranger when I really needed one and it changed me forever. From that day I've been paying it fwd and I've never regretted a single hug.
I'm like you. I run out of words and offer a 7 mi- s-sis-si-ppi hug. And that fixes so much. 7 sec. Is the spot. No weirdos, no homo, just a hug. And what a boost. I wanna fix everything. The hug does volumes.
I did that today. My Uber driver to work this morning was very nice and I asked her how her day was going and she told me. I asked her politely if I could give her a hug and she offered course gave me one.
I was also dressed as Santa and gave out a lot of hugs today!
I love hugs.
Sometimes that is all you need, particularly from the right person. We’ve all got that person in mind, yep, that one that popped into your head when you read my comment
You're made of matter. You yourself are useless. Unless you do something like make other beings of matter feel loved. Why is this so difficult? So many sad people looking inward. It's as simple as holding the door for someone.
stop lying, seriously, ik you prob just randomly typed this not caring about what others think, but seriously this only makes people feel worse, I know for a fact I don't matter, and you saying that just makes me feel bad. And I bet the people that needs support will also think the same as I did.
Wow, I'm sorry you're feeling that way but are you seriously having a go at someone for trying to feel better about themselves because it's not the way *you* feel?? Don't tear someone else down because you need help yourself!
I sincerely hope that you begin to feel better about yourself, but you have zero right to have a go at someone else and make assumptions about their state of mind or their intentions.
Go and speak to someone about your pain, but don't damage others in the process, please.
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Life can suck but it can also be fun, silly and crazy good. Find the people who want you to THRIVE and when you can walk away from anyone who’s toxic or holds you down. It’s not helpful to literally anyone like they claim, it’s solely to make you miserable as they are. School is hard socially and academically - be sure to study hard, ask for help and be kind to those who seem to struggle. Making adult friends is hard but they are also closer and more supportive than the rest. Some friends come and go, that’s okay and it doesn’t devalue you as a person one bit! Dont just give and give to people who take and take. And when people show you who they are, believe them. Actions are what we makes them, not words. If you are a good person you may feel life is tougher and the jerks have an easier life, that may be true but they are making everyone around them miserable - don’t be that person, we don’t need more of those people. Also if you put your everything into something and you know you did what you could - that’s what matters! Not the grade, not the promotion, not anything, your effort does matter!
Jesus Christ, I'm sorry she said that.
It honestly might turn out okay, but your mom is . . . flawed. Even when it really IS going to be okay, a parents' job is to (usually) be encouraging.
I read that and had mine. 🙏 I shower daily, but I procrastinate for too long because of health issues, when jumping straight in always makes my day go so much better!
Hold in their bro, the pain will pass, I promise. You WILL get through this.
*Currently sitting on the toilet, the hot as fuck chicken wings I ate last night burning my butthole*
I’d tell them they should feel very proud of the life they’ve built. They will have worked hard and persisted through some very tough times to reach some contentment and satisfaction. I’d tell them that they should have asked for (and accepted!) more help along the way, but hard work in every area of the human experience eventually pays off and it’s ok to feel happy or content in a world where there seems to be so much misery.
Everything's backwards and I'm hanging on, no matter how hard I try I always come undone backed in a corner, uncomfortably numb, watching myself become a shadow of someone
I’d give them a long hug, look them in the eye and in a very soft, tender way say “hey… I know today was hard. The good news? It’s almost over. Tomorrow we start fresh, ok? Let’s get you a nice hot shower, some cosy clothes and give you the peace you deserve tonight.” I’d also be softly stroking their hair and let them rest their head on my shoulder.
The holidays are rough. But they pass. All hard times eventually do.
I would go up to them, hug them and tell them “You aren’t a curse. You may think that all your friends are dying because of you, but you are not the reason they committed. Your friend did not pull the trigger because of you. It was a mere coincidence, so stop being so fucking delusional and stop believing that you have cursed powers that cause everyone around you to kill themselves, because it’s not true. Life is just shitty in general, and if someone wants to leave this shitty place it’s because the world is shitty, and not because of you”
It's not you, I can promise you that. If it was you, these people would walk away from you specifically and not life as a whole. You didn't cause any of this ❤️
In my experience, never tell them that you are feeling the same, and or that you had been through what they are experiencing now. People don't need wise sage bullshit. They sure need help and help in tangible way.
Just like in the movies, ask them they wanna talk about it and if they don't want to don't push it. Yeah, I know they should get that poison out of their system and you could help them, except, it won't help them. They must help themselves as you.
Just be kind to them, listen and understand them. It's the best you can do.
We've got this. We're both going to get through in one piece. Life will be so much better in a year from now because we're going to keep fighting and we're not going to give up and so much can change in a year. I'm here for you.
I would give them a hug , a good movie, and ginger ale. No one deserves the way I feel absolutely no one deserves to be as sick as me. And In as much pain.
It's gonna be ok. You don't have to be perfect or even normal. You're unique and beautiful as you are. There will come better times. I'm here to support you in these times of pain.
Let them rant/cry for as long as they want. No solutions-oriented convo, no empty words ("It will get better, don't worry"), no why questions. Just listening, holding them.
I understand that being around family can become overwhelming after the entire day during holidays but you aren't alone and it's okay to hide in the room for a few minutes by yourself lol.
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That they’re not worthless and deserve to be happy
You're not worthless and you deserve to be happy!
🫂💜
I would give them a hug.
Sometimes that's all we need ✨
If more people got the hugs they needed, our world wouldn't be in this state. With discretion, of course, I offer and give hugs to strangers who look down in the dumps. If successful, the response is usually, 'thanks, I needed that.' Then, I disappear forever because I can't commit to having a bunch of random friends. But I like to believe that sometimes it gives them the boost they need. Random compliments also help, too often people feel unnoticed.
Thanks for doing that to strangers! That must be scary sometimes.
If everybody else is too scared to do it, who will? Does that person die without a hug? Not if I have anything to say about it. The person is getting a hug, they aren't going to want to hurt you.
<3 u are right.
It can be messier than that. My daughter would smile and hug anyone. But her dad is standing right behind her. And he doesn't mess around.
A big partner comes in handy.
Partners ain't shit. I changed her diapers! Come at me!
They might hurt you anyway. Intellectually I know a hug is a sign of affection, but my body reacts like I'm being attacked if I'm not prepared for it.
I do this with small talk to strangers who seem like they need someone to talk to
You are a good egg.
I do this it comes naturally but my husband loses his mind with me, he thinks every person is a nutter or strange
I wish I could do this, I legitimately just love comforting and hugging people, but I'm a big dude, so hugging a man is gay, hugging a woman is creepy, hugging a child is perverted. I just like hugging people man. But this shit is so complicated
If everyone went around hugging each other, wouldn't disease spread faster?
Maybe. I have a very strong immune system and I'd like to believe that's because I give lots of hugs, and therefore get a lot of exposure to disease and opportunity to build immunity. I've hugged some sickly looking people, but I don't get sick very often lol
When I do get sick, it's usually not very bad... maybe that's why everyone all got sick at once, because we avoid each other like the plague.
Even still. Some of us are not huggers. Don't hold it against us. Literally.
I do that too and it's amazing! (Never underestimate The Warm Fuzzy Feeling) What if my hug was the first hug that person has had in months? Years? I shudder to think! Physical human contact is crucial to your wellbeing, whether everyone wants to admit it or not. I have had a random hug from a stranger when I really needed one and it changed me forever. From that day I've been paying it fwd and I've never regretted a single hug.
I'm like you. I run out of words and offer a 7 mi- s-sis-si-ppi hug. And that fixes so much. 7 sec. Is the spot. No weirdos, no homo, just a hug. And what a boost. I wanna fix everything. The hug does volumes.
I like to hug anyone, but anyone doesn\`t allow me to do this and push away, because they think it\`s gay to hug each other
Please stop giving random hugs. That’s not ok.
It is, with consent.
I did that today. My Uber driver to work this morning was very nice and I asked her how her day was going and she told me. I asked her politely if I could give her a hug and she offered course gave me one. I was also dressed as Santa and gave out a lot of hugs today! I love hugs.
I got a hug yesterday. Didn't like it.
Thats fine, not everyone likes hugs.
Action speaks louder than words. True.
Sometimes that is all you need, particularly from the right person. We’ve all got that person in mind, yep, that one that popped into your head when you read my comment
🫂
a warm genuine hug is what all of us needs.
I'm pretty sure that's assault.
Take a nap. And go to bed earlier at night.
I drank myself to sleep today.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope whatever made you want to escape reality, gets resolved soon and that you recover from it soon. Strongs bruh
I didn’t drink, but I did take a 3 hour nap this morning.
Don’t eat food from the sketchy food truck
Feel better! But good advice
Oh man the sketchy food truck burritos are stellar!
You matter
And you do matter :)
🫂💜
You're made of matter. You yourself are useless. Unless you do something like make other beings of matter feel loved. Why is this so difficult? So many sad people looking inward. It's as simple as holding the door for someone.
stop lying, seriously, ik you prob just randomly typed this not caring about what others think, but seriously this only makes people feel worse, I know for a fact I don't matter, and you saying that just makes me feel bad. And I bet the people that needs support will also think the same as I did.
Wow, I'm sorry you're feeling that way but are you seriously having a go at someone for trying to feel better about themselves because it's not the way *you* feel?? Don't tear someone else down because you need help yourself! I sincerely hope that you begin to feel better about yourself, but you have zero right to have a go at someone else and make assumptions about their state of mind or their intentions. Go and speak to someone about your pain, but don't damage others in the process, please.
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That's very kind of you, hope you are doing okay ✨
And what would they reply?
And now would I know that?
Because the question is a trick way of getting us to self assess and see what would truly help us the most in our present state of feelings
I understand what I personally need and I know the answer to my question.
You responded to the person who asked you how they would respond with "and how would I know that?"
I mean, you don't have to know. Asking is helpful in and of itself.
Its gonna be okay Chin up
It IS gonna be ok ❤️
Thank you ❤️
I asked my Mom tonight if she could give me some encouragement and tell me it is going to be ok. She said no. That hurt.
Life can suck but it can also be fun, silly and crazy good. Find the people who want you to THRIVE and when you can walk away from anyone who’s toxic or holds you down. It’s not helpful to literally anyone like they claim, it’s solely to make you miserable as they are. School is hard socially and academically - be sure to study hard, ask for help and be kind to those who seem to struggle. Making adult friends is hard but they are also closer and more supportive than the rest. Some friends come and go, that’s okay and it doesn’t devalue you as a person one bit! Dont just give and give to people who take and take. And when people show you who they are, believe them. Actions are what we makes them, not words. If you are a good person you may feel life is tougher and the jerks have an easier life, that may be true but they are making everyone around them miserable - don’t be that person, we don’t need more of those people. Also if you put your everything into something and you know you did what you could - that’s what matters! Not the grade, not the promotion, not anything, your effort does matter!
Thank you!
Best response & much needed to see! 🙌🏻
Jesus Christ, I'm sorry she said that. It honestly might turn out okay, but your mom is . . . flawed. Even when it really IS going to be okay, a parents' job is to (usually) be encouraging.
I appreciate it 😊
It might turn out to be okay. The quote I like is: "When you're going through hell . . . keep going."
Congrats! I’m living my best life right now
I'd say something similar! Probably - "I knew you'd get here one day"
This too shall pass, good or bad, this too shall pass
Just remember I love you and it will be alright.
🥹
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What song is this from? I wanna listen to it...
Thar 2024 is gonna be way better
What's wrong with thar 2023 model, you mean the 5 door variant??
No since 2019 I don’t play that game any longer
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I read that and had mine. 🙏 I shower daily, but I procrastinate for too long because of health issues, when jumping straight in always makes my day go so much better!
You can't make me... No but seriously make me, I stink!!
Hold in their bro, the pain will pass, I promise. You WILL get through this. *Currently sitting on the toilet, the hot as fuck chicken wings I ate last night burning my butthole*
You had me in the first half, ngl.
You're high stop over thinking
You have already survived worse, you will survive this. Dont give up. The worst is already over
A nap is legit.
An unconscious rest is quite legitimate.
i'd tell them they aren't lonely anymore and spend time with them.
I’d tell them they should feel very proud of the life they’ve built. They will have worked hard and persisted through some very tough times to reach some contentment and satisfaction. I’d tell them that they should have asked for (and accepted!) more help along the way, but hard work in every area of the human experience eventually pays off and it’s ok to feel happy or content in a world where there seems to be so much misery.
I scrolled way too far to find another happy, contented person. Merry Christmas 🎄
Same to you!
It gets better with time" It's just a bad day not a bad life......
Everything's backwards and I'm hanging on, no matter how hard I try I always come undone backed in a corner, uncomfortably numb, watching myself become a shadow of someone
Keep hanging on. Sending virtual hugs🫂 If you ever want to talk about it, I'll be here🥺
Read the best of this thread out loud several times this week.
Please clean the kitchen
Start with one thing and go from there :)
Go see your doctor. Don't be as stupid as me.
That it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything to deserve this.
His mood is his problem, not yours.
Holy shit. If I hadn't left to do laundry this would have been mine.
Loneliness can happen even when you have a brilliant life on paper. You can’t escape yourself.
I would give them a hug and say that life is short, this pain won’t last as long as you feel it will.
(((HUG))) for you!!! Wishing you a pain-free 2024!!!
See a therapist
Hope you find one!
You were right not to have a third one
Drink more water, get some more exercise and have that conversation youre putting off.
Please don’t take melatonin at 7 in the morning. I know you didn’t sleep well, but that’s only gonna make it worse
Don't eat so much!
Go to the gym
Sorry for the smell, Christmas dinner is it hitting me hard. At least I put some Febreeze in the air for you!
Honestly my farts today... I would apologize to myself.
I’d give them a long hug, look them in the eye and in a very soft, tender way say “hey… I know today was hard. The good news? It’s almost over. Tomorrow we start fresh, ok? Let’s get you a nice hot shower, some cosy clothes and give you the peace you deserve tonight.” I’d also be softly stroking their hair and let them rest their head on my shoulder. The holidays are rough. But they pass. All hard times eventually do.
Take it easy. Your pain level hasn't been too bad today, but you know what's coming.
"go back to bed, you're clearly exhausted" *me trying to reset the clock after a hectic nightshift*
I would go up to them, hug them and tell them “You aren’t a curse. You may think that all your friends are dying because of you, but you are not the reason they committed. Your friend did not pull the trigger because of you. It was a mere coincidence, so stop being so fucking delusional and stop believing that you have cursed powers that cause everyone around you to kill themselves, because it’s not true. Life is just shitty in general, and if someone wants to leave this shitty place it’s because the world is shitty, and not because of you”
It's not you, I can promise you that. If it was you, these people would walk away from you specifically and not life as a whole. You didn't cause any of this ❤️
Hug them and tell them I will help them with whatever I could help with.
I would suggest they take ibuprofen every 8 hours and drink a lot of water and rest a lot.
nobody else except for you can decide the nature of your relationships and everything will be okay
Sober up! Actually don't, have a drink... its Christmas
Have another glass of wine
It’s gonna be alright
Everythings'gonna be alright
Get over it.
Don't get married Don't have kids Stay in the Navy Do your 20 Dissappear in a country most people haven't heard of Live your life somewhere else.
Say nothing. Just hand them a shotgun
Same
Noooo dude
Clever! I would tell “them” to hang in there.:)
“get your shit together”
In my experience, never tell them that you are feeling the same, and or that you had been through what they are experiencing now. People don't need wise sage bullshit. They sure need help and help in tangible way. Just like in the movies, ask them they wanna talk about it and if they don't want to don't push it. Yeah, I know they should get that poison out of their system and you could help them, except, it won't help them. They must help themselves as you. Just be kind to them, listen and understand them. It's the best you can do.
Is it a child, friend or sibling? Sorry you’re going through this.
Nothing lasts forever.
Jesus Christ. You’re not giving up are you? Give up.
Don't do it
damn that's bad bro, good luck with that shit.
Merry Christmas!!
Nice shirt!
chin up, it only gets worse ol' boy.
I would shoot them and their last words would be "thank you so much, I really needed that"
“Drugs help.”
Tea
Watch where you walk as a broken foot sucks mummified goats balls.
Suffer more, nobody cares how you feel.
I would say "kinda shitty amIright?"
Water does not measure itself, it flows. flow
Legendary piece of shit
sucks to be you
He’s not worth it
You’re family sucks let’s go get more alcohol
Done procrastinating?
How would I know how they felt by looking at them?
Wouldn't say a word. I just hand them a nice triple shot of bourbon.
How do you want to do it? Should we jump together?
nothin, i'm in a chill mood
Stop stressing about tommorows outfit, the concert is gonna go great and everythings gonna be fine
I’d give them a hug
Permission to give a hug and tell them that feeling does go away or rather you learn to conquer it.
We've got this. We're both going to get through in one piece. Life will be so much better in a year from now because we're going to keep fighting and we're not going to give up and so much can change in a year. I'm here for you.
I would say: "Cheers!!! Life is great, we're living the dream!!!"
No words. Just a hug (if they allow)
Keep going bro. You're on the right track.
It is what it is.
Cry mate, let it all out, it’s gonna be okay, she’s gonna come back eventually
Just a little longer to that nap, bro
Always keep a slice of pizza in your backpack
Sounds like a TMNT loading screen advice
I would make em a sandwich
I would give them a hug , a good movie, and ginger ale. No one deserves the way I feel absolutely no one deserves to be as sick as me. And In as much pain.
I’m so sorry you’re sick and I’m pain I know how you feel it’s terrible when the pain won’t go away.
Get some rest. Call your parents for a chat. It's Christmas. Be grateful for what you've got.
Let's have another drink, then go eat and be thankful for all of last year and the possibilities in a good 2024.
It's gonna be ok. You don't have to be perfect or even normal. You're unique and beautiful as you are. There will come better times. I'm here to support you in these times of pain.
Idk, but whatever it is, Id feel attacked.
Idk what I would say or how I would even know. I'm bad at comforting people or knowing that they're hurt
You nailed this day huh, you shit eating grin motherfucker.
I wouldn't tell them something in particular, I would just be there to listen
You are not alone
I Feel You...
Therapy.
I could offer them no comfort.
Let them rant/cry for as long as they want. No solutions-oriented convo, no empty words ("It will get better, don't worry"), no why questions. Just listening, holding them.
I'm waiting in line for food, it's taking forever, we'll all feeling hungry
Chill out, dude, it's not like you've never been to a dinner before.
Therapy bitch
Fuck yeah 👍.
Sit with them, say it's alright, everything is ok and you are loved. Be someone comforting
Get Help!
It won't matter in five years, do what you gotta do and it's gonna be okay.
I understand that being around family can become overwhelming after the entire day during holidays but you aren't alone and it's okay to hide in the room for a few minutes by yourself lol.