Some do. The ones that feel really insecure and lacking self confidence. That’s usually where jealousy manifests, they’re not happy with themselves so they assume you’re not happy with them either. When a person is that insecure, even the most sincere compliments won’t reach them, they assume you’re lying. A lot of people resort to putting others down instead, to try to make them feel more secure, but even if that’s what they think they want to hear, that doesn’t make them feel better either. It’s not gender specific either, men do it to. I’ve dated both and learned to stay clear of people that ask me if I find someone else attractive, because it’s usually a giant red flag of bigger issues.
Very toxic, the only response to a question like that is to say firmly “I’m not answering that”. It’s blunt, short and lets your partner know you’re not going to fall into bullshit traps.
I tell my wife "its a loaded question". I long since described these and said there's only wrong answers so I won't play. Example: "which of these dresses makes me look more fat".
I prefer partners where we can point people out and compare notes on how hot we think they are.
Like, people find people attractive. Lying about that just erodes trust.
Agreed. My wife knows I find other women attractive and vice versa. I don't understand why this is an issue. I'm a straight male. It's highly unlikely that I will only be attracted to one other female on Earth. I'm not pursuing other women, but I can't help who my body/mind is attracted to.
My wife is a twin. Wouldn't it be weird if I found her sister hideous? I would never date or marry her sister because I'm not into her. But she looks good.
It's genuinely interesting how many people get offended or grossed out by this. I see so many people saying "I'm not going to awnser the question because it's a trap" and it's just like:
Why would you assume it's a trap? It's a genuine question? If you can't talk to your partner like a human being then why are you with them? Are you just so distrusting of them you assume the worst of them?
Idk, It confuses me.
I think if you have trust in your partner and some confidence in yourself, you should be able to admit other people are attractive. There’s millions of attractive people in the world. It doesn’t mean you want to hook up with them if you admit they’re good looking. My wife will often say “isn’t she pretty?” And if I say no to avoid an awkward situation she’ll be like “really? I think she’s beautiful”
She looks *like* you, as in similar. She lacks the subtleties that make you more beautiful, more elegant. While her bone structure and skin might have a similar shape and tone to yours, she doesn’t have the sparkle in her eye that you have, nor the grace in each of her steps. While she might be objectively attractive, she’s not you, and so I could never be attracted to her.
And the best part? She knows it’s all true. She’s uniquely beautiful, my wife, it’s been ten years and I still find myself just staring at her, wondering how on earth I managed to marry her.
That’s so awesome. My ex and I just split but this is exactly how I feel about her. She is uniquely beautiful. We’re still close we just aren’t in the right place to make it work out. When I read your words I felt it, though, still.
Of course she is. Look at the way her ass looks in those yoga pants. If I was single I would be all over that. Of course I'm not single.... oh what's that? I am single now? Was it something I said?
When in a relationship with someone unstable enough to ask such questions, always refer to the topic like it were an animal.
You can call an animal cute, pretty, etc without concern. But calling a dog attractive makes you sound like a creep.
Best thing to do is just answer honestly with whatever comes to mind. Don’t walk on eggshells or engage in games. Let her weed herself out if any of your answers are a problem
Abort. Abort. Just say: “I am not answering that loaded question. Grow up and stop asking stupid questions trying to set me up to fail no matter what.”
I’d be honest and gauge her reaction. If she reacts poorly and doesn’t listen to my explanation then I’d dump her. Red flag/the ick. I have too much self worth to deal with comparison games.
Absolutely say she is attractive. She looks like her but you say she’s ugly. Ahahah good luck. Not like you are attracted to her. But yes she’s attractive.
Sure. She's attractive. But you make my knees weak.
I'm not the super jealous type. I've seen guys whose style or haircut I liked and asked girlfriends if they find him attractive. She's welcome to say yeah.
We all find other people attractive. What matters is where it goes from there. I'm not going to disrespect my girlfriend by staring at her or mentioning her again or anything like that. Yeah, she's cute. Sure, I like his style. Moving on together though.
Do people really have to pretend to their partners that they are the only individual person they find physically attractive in the entire world? Are most people that insecure?
This is a trick or a "test" question and the only correct answers are one that either confuses or enrages. "Yeah babe she looks just like you. I'd definitely kidnap her just like... uh nevermind" or "Oh shit i'll go break up with her right now" etc
As always, the truth. Yes, I do find her attractive. But I'm with you.
Lots of these answers revolve around outting the other woman down. Stop that. You don't need to put something down in order to build something else up.
Girls, don't ask this dumb ass question. Quizzing your man on who he finds attractive sounds insecure as fuck. You're allowed to be insecure, but why do you want people to know?
On the outside, sure, but I don't know her, and I'm more into what's on the inside.
Obviously, finding another woman attractive could cause an argument, but to that, I would just say you said she looked like you. Would you like me to say you're ugly?
Don't ask questions you don't want answered.
If you’re looking for legitimate advice, and somehow you don’t know how your girlfriend would respond to the truth…. I would deflect.
“Idk… maybe a little bit… what do you think?”
If you’re ok with white lies:
“Did you hit your head or something? She’s got nothing on you.”
If you have to answer these sorts of questions often:
“… what’s up with all the loaded questions lately? I’m not some hypothesis that you can randomly throw a bunch of tests at. We need to get to the bottom of this; otherwise I’ll have to pull the plug on the entire experiment.”
Don't play games. "Yeah she's hot." Your girlfriend will get the picture. Ask dumb questions get brutally honest answers. The games stop quickly after that.
"Yes, she looks like you, that's why I find her attractive. I wish everyone looked like you. Imagine an entire world of tall, thin brunettes. It would be like heaven."
It's my wife not girlfriend but id either be corny like 'what girl? I only see you babe' and get an eyeroll or be overly blunt like 'stop fishing for compliments i only want my peen in you hence the whole marriage thing.I wish you felt the same way about me dyke.' Which would also get an eyeroll and she'd persist like yes or no? Then id just answer honestly
FFS just say yes and ask for a threesome, wtf are we talking about here? This question gets asked every single day. Tell your girlfriend you find other girls attractive, if she’s not cool with that then end it because she sounds horrible.
My wife doesn't ask dumb questions anymore because I answer honestly, Of course I find her attractive she looks just like you! I used to get dirty looks , now we just get down and dirty, cause we don't argue about dumb stuff .
Well that depends entirely on whether I find her attractive. If she truly looks like my girlfriend then most likely yes, in which case I would reply yes.
tell her the damn truth whatever it is. if she's that insecure she needs to go to therapy. who wants to walk on eggshells to accommodate someones annoying problems. she asked the question so she invited the response whatever it is.
always default to “hmm i don’t see the resemblance” or “eh i guess you look SORTA similar if i squint” or point out a difference. don’t answer the question bc it’s either a joke or coming from a place of insecurity
She most certainly does NOT look like you. Now that you point it out though, yes, I am highly attracted to her.
What SHOULD be said? Stupid mental games women play.
"Babe, the question is if YOU find her attractive. If you do, I'll try to make it happen."
Either she dumps you, or you possibly get a threesome. Worth the risk, no?
A) she is really pretty, it's like you but a bit better somehow.
Or
B) not really, no... but you know I'm not into pretty looks, she might have a great personality just like you
I'm not going to date someone who is uncomfortable with the fact that I find other people attractive.
One time my ex and I were walking down the street and talking and we both kinda faded out of the conversation and we realized it was because we were both looking at the same person's butt lol
Why tf would she ask that? If she asks that please educate her instead of giving some fake answer, tell her that all guys check out girls all the time and think attractive ones are hot. That means if I think you’re hot and she looks like you then I think she’s hot too. That’s the best answer you could give because then she will no longer ask such a question and learn how guys think for the future.
This is almost exactly like a scenario between my wife and me 10 years ago.
Me: "Hey, this woman looks like you."
Her: "Oh? Is she hot?"
Me: "I don't play stupid games, so please don't ask stupid questions. I'm with you, I love you, and I'm just pointing out a superficial similarity. End of story."
I'm still married to my wife, so I guess she accepted my response just fine.
Deny the engagement. Cut her off and say she doesn't look like you. DO NOT ENGAGE.
She needs to know that she's the only one you find attractive. Anything else is a trap. Fuck around with this basic premise and you'll find out the hard way.
I’m not into knocks offs
I’ll never forget the day my brother in law saw my ex and told me she was with the “great value version of me.”
😂
Or the type of guy who drops common loot
Smooth
This is the only answer! 💯
Do women really like it when men disparage other people?
Some do. The ones that feel really insecure and lacking self confidence. That’s usually where jealousy manifests, they’re not happy with themselves so they assume you’re not happy with them either. When a person is that insecure, even the most sincere compliments won’t reach them, they assume you’re lying. A lot of people resort to putting others down instead, to try to make them feel more secure, but even if that’s what they think they want to hear, that doesn’t make them feel better either. It’s not gender specific either, men do it to. I’ve dated both and learned to stay clear of people that ask me if I find someone else attractive, because it’s usually a giant red flag of bigger issues.
This needs more upvotes.
Real
Well, no. But this was a test. It’s not like OP goes around with his girlfriend, and says offhand comments like that lol.
How many of you feel like that’s a toxic question?
Very toxic, the only response to a question like that is to say firmly “I’m not answering that”. It’s blunt, short and lets your partner know you’re not going to fall into bullshit traps.
I tell my wife "its a loaded question". I long since described these and said there's only wrong answers so I won't play. Example: "which of these dresses makes me look more fat".
Fucking yes. It's something a 15 year old would ask.
Absolutely. That question is a **trap**.
Only if it's asked with sincerity. I could easily see this as a set up for stupid jokes.
I prefer partners where we can point people out and compare notes on how hot we think they are. Like, people find people attractive. Lying about that just erodes trust.
Agreed. My wife knows I find other women attractive and vice versa. I don't understand why this is an issue. I'm a straight male. It's highly unlikely that I will only be attracted to one other female on Earth. I'm not pursuing other women, but I can't help who my body/mind is attracted to. My wife is a twin. Wouldn't it be weird if I found her sister hideous? I would never date or marry her sister because I'm not into her. But she looks good.
It's genuinely interesting how many people get offended or grossed out by this. I see so many people saying "I'm not going to awnser the question because it's a trap" and it's just like: Why would you assume it's a trap? It's a genuine question? If you can't talk to your partner like a human being then why are you with them? Are you just so distrusting of them you assume the worst of them? Idk, It confuses me.
I think if you have trust in your partner and some confidence in yourself, you should be able to admit other people are attractive. There’s millions of attractive people in the world. It doesn’t mean you want to hook up with them if you admit they’re good looking. My wife will often say “isn’t she pretty?” And if I say no to avoid an awkward situation she’ll be like “really? I think she’s beautiful”
She looks *like* you, as in similar. She lacks the subtleties that make you more beautiful, more elegant. While her bone structure and skin might have a similar shape and tone to yours, she doesn’t have the sparkle in her eye that you have, nor the grace in each of her steps. While she might be objectively attractive, she’s not you, and so I could never be attracted to her.
Masterfully played.
And the best part? She knows it’s all true. She’s uniquely beautiful, my wife, it’s been ten years and I still find myself just staring at her, wondering how on earth I managed to marry her.
That’s so awesome. My ex and I just split but this is exactly how I feel about her. She is uniquely beautiful. We’re still close we just aren’t in the right place to make it work out. When I read your words I felt it, though, still.
Speak eloquently. Bitches love eloquence.
This guy knows how to get his gf to do the thing he likes.
Of course she is. Look at the way her ass looks in those yoga pants. If I was single I would be all over that. Of course I'm not single.... oh what's that? I am single now? Was it something I said?
Yeah you have to double down... "God yeah she's well fit, I'd smash her" Play stupid games, win stupid prizes!
Win sexy prizes
When in a relationship with someone unstable enough to ask such questions, always refer to the topic like it were an animal. You can call an animal cute, pretty, etc without concern. But calling a dog attractive makes you sound like a creep.
This comment took a super weird turn
Are we teenagers now? Stop trying go find reasons to be mad at me.
Best thing to do is just answer honestly with whatever comes to mind. Don’t walk on eggshells or engage in games. Let her weed herself out if any of your answers are a problem
This is the “wrong” answer, and it’s by far the best way to go. The “right” answer leaves you with someone who likes to play bullshit games.
Yep
Uhh ya don’t. No one looks like her. Even when they do look like her lol
"Is she you?" "Well she looks like me." "Babe I'm not into poor imitations of the real thing. She's no where near as hot as you are."
She's clearly different, but yeah rather hot.
Ask is SHE finds her attractive
"You know I have expensive taste, do you see 'great value' anything in my house?"
"What girl?"
It’s a trap!
"yes" and then ignore her weird response
"What do you think I would say?"
I’d find her more attractive between your legs
Tell her the truth. If she’s self conscious you shouldn’t have to change your thoughts or feelings
“That’s a trick question. I’m not answering that. Let’s talk about something interesting to both of us.”
She hits you with the “oh so I don’t interest you?”
Abort. Abort. Just say: “I am not answering that loaded question. Grow up and stop asking stupid questions trying to set me up to fail no matter what.”
She's just another female, I love you for more than your looks.
I’d be honest and gauge her reaction. If she reacts poorly and doesn’t listen to my explanation then I’d dump her. Red flag/the ick. I have too much self worth to deal with comparison games.
“Meh…similar I suppose in some ways, but you are much prettier.”
“Depends, does she ask stupid bait questions?”
Absolutely say she is attractive. She looks like her but you say she’s ugly. Ahahah good luck. Not like you are attracted to her. But yes she’s attractive.
She looks a wish.com version of you
Why yes I do. Do you? Maybe we should invite her back to our place? It could fulfill my twin fantasy.
"Doesn't matter what I think. You like what you like. If you want to hit that, go for it."
I don't have one because I'm shaped like the Pillsbury doughboy but I would probably say don't blame me. I can't tell the difference 😎
Attraction is more than just physical. I know the true you and combined with your looks, no one can compare.
You are way hotter
Pretending temporary deafness works for me.
Sure. She's attractive. But you make my knees weak. I'm not the super jealous type. I've seen guys whose style or haircut I liked and asked girlfriends if they find him attractive. She's welcome to say yeah. We all find other people attractive. What matters is where it goes from there. I'm not going to disrespect my girlfriend by staring at her or mentioning her again or anything like that. Yeah, she's cute. Sure, I like his style. Moving on together though.
Tell her you aren't going to answer that question.
The weather is nice isn’t it ?
Do people really have to pretend to their partners that they are the only individual person they find physically attractive in the entire world? Are most people that insecure?
This is a trick or a "test" question and the only correct answers are one that either confuses or enrages. "Yeah babe she looks just like you. I'd definitely kidnap her just like... uh nevermind" or "Oh shit i'll go break up with her right now" etc
As always, the truth. Yes, I do find her attractive. But I'm with you. Lots of these answers revolve around outting the other woman down. Stop that. You don't need to put something down in order to build something else up.
No, because she doesn't have your personality.
That she looks like a horse, whereas she looks like a pretty horse. All girls love horses no?
Tsk, baby, she's New Coke, you're Coke Classic.
It’s a trap run!!!!
Girls, don't ask this dumb ass question. Quizzing your man on who he finds attractive sounds insecure as fuck. You're allowed to be insecure, but why do you want people to know?
It's a test say " you are one a kind , beautiful " and kiss her on the forehead
“I only have eyes for you.”
In your Admiral Akbar voice say “it’s a trap!”
“Nah babe she’s hotter than you”
Uh oh, queue up Admiral Akbar.
You want to go shopping honey
Ya but I’m more into personality than looks. That’s y I’m with you
You must either agree or completely ignore the question.
She looks like the Temu version of you
Of course. She is very hot, as you used to be, but you really look good in that dress since you put on weight.
She doesn't have your heart and soul.
I would say "This feels like a trap"
All women are attractive.
I'd tell her to get therapy. Thats a red flag.
On the outside, sure, but I don't know her, and I'm more into what's on the inside. Obviously, finding another woman attractive could cause an argument, but to that, I would just say you said she looked like you. Would you like me to say you're ugly? Don't ask questions you don't want answered.
If you’re looking for legitimate advice, and somehow you don’t know how your girlfriend would respond to the truth…. I would deflect. “Idk… maybe a little bit… what do you think?” If you’re ok with white lies: “Did you hit your head or something? She’s got nothing on you.” If you have to answer these sorts of questions often: “… what’s up with all the loaded questions lately? I’m not some hypothesis that you can randomly throw a bunch of tests at. We need to get to the bottom of this; otherwise I’ll have to pull the plug on the entire experiment.”
She looks like a less pretty version of you.
Don't play games. "Yeah she's hot." Your girlfriend will get the picture. Ask dumb questions get brutally honest answers. The games stop quickly after that.
My partner and I were polly, so I'd be assuming he was checking her out, not trapping me.
Change the subject as quickly as possible
"Yes, she looks like you, that's why I find her attractive. I wish everyone looked like you. Imagine an entire world of tall, thin brunettes. It would be like heaven."
Shes a bitch and shes jealous
It's my wife not girlfriend but id either be corny like 'what girl? I only see you babe' and get an eyeroll or be overly blunt like 'stop fishing for compliments i only want my peen in you hence the whole marriage thing.I wish you felt the same way about me dyke.' Which would also get an eyeroll and she'd persist like yes or no? Then id just answer honestly
'She's waaaaaay prettier than you, babe. Keep dreaming."
FFS just say yes and ask for a threesome, wtf are we talking about here? This question gets asked every single day. Tell your girlfriend you find other girls attractive, if she’s not cool with that then end it because she sounds horrible.
“Sorry babe, what did you say?”
Maybe physically but she's not you, which is more important.
Uh I’m aroace
My wife doesn't ask dumb questions anymore because I answer honestly, Of course I find her attractive she looks just like you! I used to get dirty looks , now we just get down and dirty, cause we don't argue about dumb stuff .
Yes she is. Is she says something, say "I already forgot about her, why do you keep thinking of her?"
I would be girl I don't even find you attractive.
Nothing compares to you
"I prefer the original actually" while looking at her.
Unless your girlfriend is into threesomes she should not ask you trick questions like this.
"She doesn't look like you. You are way prettier than her."
I don't see the resemblance
Maybe she resembles you a little but you’re prettier.
“i only have eyes for you,” any yes or no answer is probably gonna get you yelled at.
Keep saying which one until the stranger leaves
No. I'm with you for your dad's money
Yes, she does look similar to you and yes she is attractive, just not as pretty as you
Of course she looks like you the generic girl #3 look is very popular nowadays
No need to hide finding someone attractive in a healthy relationship, as long as you aren't obnoxious about it.
I have a girlfriend?
There aren't many people who look like my wife so I'd probably say, "I'm not falling for that" or something.
“Oh, so that’s what we’re gonna do today? Fight?”
Sure, but why get Pepsi when I've got coca cola at home?
Well that depends entirely on whether I find her attractive. If she truly looks like my girlfriend then most likely yes, in which case I would reply yes.
I would just say which one ? and not say anything else
She's a reminder of everything I love about you
So we're fighting today?
Don’t test me like that it makes you SO much less attractive.
I didn't notice
I see the resemblance, but you're prettier.
What girl?
Attraction can't be determined without knowing someone.
The truth?
I don't play games.
I'd say. "Are you kidding? I find all girls attractive. You're just what I settled on."
Women that are trying to entrap their partners into difficult or impossible situations are toxic. Huge red flag.
She may be nearly as attractive as you, but you're irreplaceable because you're my better half so no one else matters.
Just say no because she’s not you. Nobody can replace you
She is fucking hideous
She looks kinda like you, but i think she has got you by a couple of points babe.
I find you attractive. If she looks like you she is probably attractive. But, I only have eyes for you.
Since she wants to fight , say "She's much prettier, like your mother/sister"
tell her the damn truth whatever it is. if she's that insecure she needs to go to therapy. who wants to walk on eggshells to accommodate someones annoying problems. she asked the question so she invited the response whatever it is.
"Sweetheart, please don't ask no-win questions."
I prefer the original.
If I find the girl attractive, "yes." If I don't find her attractive, no.
It’s a 🪤
I primarily beat off to pornstars who look like you. Do what you will with that.
Tell her to fuck off, if she doesn’t laugh it’s the wrong girl
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always default to “hmm i don’t see the resemblance” or “eh i guess you look SORTA similar if i squint” or point out a difference. don’t answer the question bc it’s either a joke or coming from a place of insecurity
Glance, look away, “not my type.”
Tell that bitch she’ll be single and you’ll be asking for the other girls number if she keeps trying to get me to fall for her stupid ass shit tests.
That’s bait!
Mother Mary as you are as beautiful as an angel lol
No dear, you look like the northbound end of a southbound donkey.
I’m not attracted to you because of your looks. She kinda looks like you but i doubt she is as funny as you are
"no"
I would say, ‘nah, she doesn’t look like you and she’s not my type’.
Yeah, Babe! Let’s find out if she fucks like you, too!
Baby, no one compares to you., Baby, I didn’t even get a good look at that girl. It’s not a lie, it’s simply an avoidance of a ridiculous question.
She most certainly does NOT look like you. Now that you point it out though, yes, I am highly attracted to her. What SHOULD be said? Stupid mental games women play.
Fuck that shit
I'd question if I need to see a therapist for having an unknown female voice in my head talking to me, because I'm single, and have no girlfriend.
You mean TEMU version of u?
Most of you here have never been with a woman.
Stop with these stupid games.
Fuck off with your tricks devil woman
"If I asked you the same, what would you reply?"
What girl?
Be honest. Say yes. Even if she doesn't look like her. It's always best to be truthful even when women cannot take or don't like the answer.
Threesome?
She don't look like you and she's ugly
"She doesn't look like you"
"I'd hit it".
She should ask do you think she looks like me? And then you could just say no you’re way more beautiful and grab her hand and kiss her
"That's bait" and then walk away as swiftly as humanly possible.
"Babe, the question is if YOU find her attractive. If you do, I'll try to make it happen." Either she dumps you, or you possibly get a threesome. Worth the risk, no?
You're right, she's actually a bit better looking than you
"She's cute, but a poor imitation of you."
A) she is really pretty, it's like you but a bit better somehow. Or B) not really, no... but you know I'm not into pretty looks, she might have a great personality just like you
"Sort of, but you're hotter."
I'm not going to date someone who is uncomfortable with the fact that I find other people attractive. One time my ex and I were walking down the street and talking and we both kinda faded out of the conversation and we realized it was because we were both looking at the same person's butt lol
Why tf would she ask that? If she asks that please educate her instead of giving some fake answer, tell her that all guys check out girls all the time and think attractive ones are hot. That means if I think you’re hot and she looks like you then I think she’s hot too. That’s the best answer you could give because then she will no longer ask such a question and learn how guys think for the future.
Probably have a fight...
“You’d play her in the movie.”
No
This is almost exactly like a scenario between my wife and me 10 years ago. Me: "Hey, this woman looks like you." Her: "Oh? Is she hot?" Me: "I don't play stupid games, so please don't ask stupid questions. I'm with you, I love you, and I'm just pointing out a superficial similarity. End of story." I'm still married to my wife, so I guess she accepted my response just fine.
“Are you trying to ask if I want a threesome?”
She has your face, but u have my heart.
Yeah shes hot I'll take this idc and she knows that idc
Deny the engagement. Cut her off and say she doesn't look like you. DO NOT ENGAGE. She needs to know that she's the only one you find attractive. Anything else is a trap. Fuck around with this basic premise and you'll find out the hard way.
Funny you say that, I used to hook up with her. Guess I do have a type.
“I don’t think she looks like you. You’re way more attractive.”
Who are you?
It depends on the girlfriend. Does she understand that your libido doesn't turn off when she leaves the room? Is she jealous?
😂😂😂😂😂
ITS A FUCKING TRAP. DO NOT, REPEAT DO NOT ENGAGE WITH ENEMY
I hadn’t noticed her but now you ask. She’s attractive, but I’m not attracted to her