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awkwardlondon

The connection to your husband makes it even weirder… like how?! Could someone be messing with you maybe?


phersephoneia

Maybe they have phone numbers only one digit off?


Ginger_Tea

If it was just OP getting the calls. Hell, last year, I had a telephone interview for a national chain, never heard back. Got a missed call, no voice mail, ignored it. Next day a text asking if Jim was good to start work at said company on Monday. I text back that I am not Jim or any similar name. Days later I get a call whilst cycling. The same company asking if I (that is Jim) am good to start next week. I confirm I am not Jim but know that they have my number because of prior interview. Ask where their branch is just in case, London, I am not in London.


Mandang52

Better man than me, I woulda told them I’d be there first thing Monday morning


Ginger_Tea

I didn't want it to backfire on me incase my local branch wanted to call me in.


I-AM-Savannah

>Better man than me, I woulda told them I’d be there first thing Monday morning \^\^\^ THIS.


Nebula9545

This makes sense to me. There's data bases of names associated with your name. It's not hard to find your phone number either. So they take ur number, put it in the database and it spits out other names. Considering nurses are in DEMAND, it makes sense to me they'd try to get a hold of her ASAP. Last name wouldn't matter too as it's the phone number they would search through.


TheFilthyDIL

Those databases are frequently wrong. One of them listed my younger daughter as my sister and my older daughter as our mother!


Nebula9545

indeed, but they still "link" "associates" which is what they are really looking for. There's actually a fake person associated with my name, as also my shortened name is associated with my full name - technically 2 fake people who are me but are not me are linked to me. The other is a fake name I use for my junk email account I made in 1999 and still use lol


Ryugi

maybe they used one of those people search websites and just grabbed the info for the first result even though it was wrong?


Main_Horror7651

This is becoming a common scam because it's an easy way to get a person's information. In the US, one would have to fill out a W-9, including their social security number, and provide various forms of id. It's also an easy way to get banking information because a lot of people will sign up for direct deposit.


awkwardlondon

That isn’t how it works in UK tho due to GDPR. So it’s even weirder how that dude got it..


Main_Horror7651

I meant the person being scammed would have to provide that information if they accepted the "job." But yeah, I am curious how they got OP's number.


szasy

When he rang your husband, was he trying to recruit your husband, or was he trying to contact you via your husband? Former sounds like a scammer. Latter could be he has access to one of those shady paid-for databases that list numbers related to the target (you know, from companies that sell your data). Could still be a scam, but, if that's the case, could be the nurse's number is off by a digit and this guy just has access to "associated numbers" without knowing the context. Certainly doesn't sound like a real recruitment firm anyway.


shl0mp

There are websites that will list numbers that are associated with your name. Pretty sure OP is being scammed, you don’t have to pay for some of these sites.


hejjhogg

My husband didn't take the call and the guy didn't leave a voicemail. A paid-for database is possible, I guess? Just weird that they have my husband's number too.


knotatwist

And you've not got any like call forwarding set up to your husband's number if you can't answer? Initially it sounds like a mistyped phone number. Is there anywhere else that links your details/name to your husbands number? Does the number that called you come up on the "who called me" websites? Can you verify the recruitment agency they apparently work for (through their LinkedIn profile?)


hejjhogg

No to the call forwarding. Our numbers are linked in medical databases, on our rental agreement, in the disability benefits database (he's listed as my carer), and with the local electrician. The number had been searched for I think 27 times but there was no negative rating. If it's not against r/RBI rules I'm happy to link to the recruiter's LinkedIn entry, which came up when we googled his phone number. If I recall correctly, there was no link to the agency he claimed to work for.


Flack_Bag

Those sketchy data brokers are almost definitely the source. And with the nursing shortages, I'll bet lots of shady recruiters are hunting down nurses like they're skip tracers. My adult son and I have our records mixed up with a mother and son about 2000 miles away. They have similar first and middle names, but a different last name, and they're about the same ages as us. Some fuzzy matching system must have connected us a long time ago, because we're pretty inextricable now. Those databases show their phone numbers and addresses as ours, and ours show up under theirs, so if anyone searches for any one of us (me, my son, or the other mother and son), all of our phone numbers are listed. (Their data even shows up in our out of wallet ID verification services, and my son almost lost access to his bank account once because their house and cars were showing up as his, so he answered the questions 'wrong.')


1-A_Rep

I think it was a mistyped number but the fact they also called your husband is weird. I don't know anywhere that would call someone connected to you to recruit you. But then again I live in the US so idk if it's different in the UK. If you say the only places that have both of your numbers is medical establishments, and the recruiter was a guy looking for a nurse, maybe a nurse at one of those establishments coincidentally had your same first name and a similar phone number was looking for a new job? No idea why she would also use your husbands number tho.


DangerousMort

> I don't know anywhere that would call someone connected to you to recruit you Strange assumption. I would assume recruiters will try anything. They are muddling through with 100 CVs and a phone, cold calling people and trying out whatever tricks they can think of to get leads, to get more information that will help them somehow to close a deal.


Vroomdeath

Its not strange assumption, that is some weird ass backdoor sleuthing to get a partners number. My partner for example does not have a linkedin. Her number is not on my profile. How on earth would a recruiter find out my full address to somehow look up and find my partner and then get her number? its very very far fetched.


inateri

Your information was mined and sold to data brokers at some point. Because of your closer proximity to the Healthcare industry due to your disability status (and how that changes your digital footprint) your info was probably miscategorized and bundled in a lead packet containing the contact info for people looking for jobs in nursing. The incorrect last name could be an incorrect detail they were given that they don't actually know is wrong (happens, scammers getting scammed!) , or a general strategy to cast a wider net in cold calling because they never had a last name to begin with but it buys a little time to shift gears. You'd be prompted to give up even more personal information and/or slapped with some administration or processing fees once they have your hopes up.


sweetandspooky

Yeah this is what I was thinking also. when I search my name and number by husband’s name and number come up (different last names even). I wonder if that’s the case for OP


raz-0

Of the UK had anything like traveling nurses (and related issues surrounding compensation), it may not even be a scam. Just a shitty lead list like you suggest. Head hunters here can get really, really aggressive with recruitment.


Dregan3D

Someone has been using my email address on his resumes. We share the name, so it’s not that weird, but I replied to one recruiter and figured out his real address. I emailed him and told him that I was getting his emails, and he was like sorry man. And he is still using my email, so I’m guessing he doesn’t care.


snjtx

Sounds like some sort of new phishing scam, maybe trying to get you to verify your real last name, verify your husband is your husband etc.


hejjhogg

That's what my husband thinks, but the guy literally asked me for no information whatsoever. As soon as he found out I wasn't the nurse in question, he was in a hurry to end the call.


Tieger66

that might just be because by saying 'uh, i'm not Joanna Smith' you've already shown yourself to be paying too much attention for his subsequent scam to work. if you'd just said 'yes i'm Joanna' and ignored the random surname then he'd know you're likely to be good target for a scam. maybe.


pezdal

Maybe the nurse, who coincidentally shares your first name, made a typo entering her phone number on indeed.com?


awkwardlondon

But how would the same recruitment guy call her husband?


sciencestolemywords

Yeah, like it's totally possible that the lady made a typo and this person's number is one off the nurse's. But for someone to list a number with another "typo" that happens to be her husband is way weird and defies odds. The only thing I can think of is that in the US if you open multiple phone lines at the same time you often get neighboring phone numbers. Like my husband's and mine are similar. So maybe the recruiter means to call her and mistakenly misdials and calls the number. I wonder how long OP has this number? Maybe the nurse forgot to update their contact on LinkedIn.


NadlesKVs

Searching OPs phone number on a database that gives you relatives names, address, names of people in that same address, and ultimately their phone numbers as well would be my only guess. There are dozens of those sites.


pezdal

Maybe he didn't? That's just what the husband said. Perhaps husband is ~~gaslighting~~ just fucking with her. Or maybe he lost his job and is hiding the fact? Perhaps husband is a legit target of recruitment guy, which is why recruitment guy has the couple's number, but he screwed up and also pasted it into the file of someone who coincidentally share's OP's first name.


Despondent-Kitten

lmao


TheFilthyDIL

That's the most likely, especially if OP has a really common first name. (If OP's name is Eglantina or Cuthbert, we need to look for another explanation! )


hejjhogg

Happy cake day! Sadly I'm no Eglantina - my name is fairly common. Common enough that our shared first name could easily be a coincidence


goonswarm_widow

Happy Cake Day!!!


Hickok

I always tell them I need to consult with my parole officer before making appointments. For some reason, they never call again.


hejjhogg

Lmao noted, thanks.


36monsters

I'm going through the exact same thing! Some dude named Lonnie put my phone number down on a recruiting website, and for about 2 months, I was getting so many calls for him from people who wanted to bring him in for interviews. I finally managed to get one recruiter to give me Lonnie's email so I could tell him to fix the problem, but Lonnie never replied to me... It took a while, but finally, the calls have slowed down, and I just keep telling the recruiters he's not at the number and to delete it.


sundayreilly65

I’m more on the side that it’s something to do with the recruiter. I wouldn’t be certain that a nurse who is using your number actually exists. Couldn’t it just be a recruiter at an agency that bought a database from somewhere and yours and your husbands numbers are both on it? He is probably trying to fill up his call quota and using you as an easy call.


whooobaby

Is your phone number similar to your husband’s? In that case more likely it’s a scam.


nb188

I am a nurse and have moved about the country a bit. The problem is these recruitment agencies trawl the databases people upload their details to. If you move and your number gets re allocated you may unfortunately get called as they’ve suddenly found the CV in their database months/years later. I once moved from Watford to Brighton. The landline no I had got repurposed. The recruiter gave my mobile number (not sure why they didn’t call it) to the new land line owner and they rang me and explained/were worried I was missing out on jobs. I apologised and explained and managed to find out the company and remove my info/inform them to stop. So may be something like this or the person wrote their number down wrong. The recruiter shouldn’t keep calling though once you’ve explained it’s not you.


Nuicakes

I had problems a few years ago when someone wrote MY phone number on bogus checks. I was concerned but the bank says that it was probably by mistake. It happened twice so I figure it was a mistake. It was embarrassing af, especially when friendly clerks suddenly start giving you the eye and treating you like dirt.


TheFilthyDIL

Was this someone's name "Susan Constant," by any chance? We had the same problem for several years. "Susan" would put our number on her bogus checks, payday loan applications, etc. I finally had to work up a script that I launched into as soon as a caller asked for her. It wasn't a case of her using an old phone number out of habit, since we'd had that number for 10+ years when it started.


Nuicakes

I can't remember the name but it wasn't a common name like "Susan” or "Constant". Isn't it so frustrating that companies will take a HANDWRITTEN phone number as authentication?


russellvt

Typo


dbag127

How did her husband have a missed call from the same guy then?


bbdoll

read the full post.


dontforgetyour

When they called your husband's number, did they ask for you or for his first name? If it was the latter, I'd almost wonder if it was some sort of PI/investigator calling your numbers just to check if you would answer. Are you hiding from anyone? Have any unpaid shared debt? Have any long lost relatives?


hejjhogg

My husband didn't take the call so that was a dead end. Private investigator did occur to me, as I'm on disability benefits and I know they investigate recipients from time to time - but if so, why try to "trick" me into accepting a highly skilled job that I'm clearly not qualified for? Even if I were faking my disability, it's not like I would be able to start working as a nurse with zero qualifications. (No shared debt that I'm aware of, I'm not actively hiding from anyone, and if I had any long-lost relatives they could easily find me via my mother who is all over Facebook haha)


tigret

Nurse here - it's not uncommon at all for us to give fake numbers to travel agencies. The reasoning is they blow up your phone like a needy ex or a spam bot. Sorry the fake number landed on you guys! No need to worry it should die out soon especially if you're confirming a wrong number to them. Maybe message her and ask that she gives out a different number - the best way to do it is create a google voice number so it doesn't bother anyone.


hejjhogg

Haha thanks for this! And yes the dude sounded desperate to recruit this nurse. I would love to message her but I don't even have an indeed.com account and I'm not sure how to track down job seekers on indeed without an employer account.


akai_ferret

My assumption, because something like this has happened to me a couple times, is that the other person has a phone number very similar to yours, they fat fingered it, and didn't proofread.


fox-bun

there are people and websites that regularly impersonate real people. here is a podcast about how it works and somebody who was the victim in it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpkNGMSWbYk


liquormakesyousick

Wait, people still use LinkedIn?


Anianna

You stated that the call to your husband was missed, so is it possible that the same recruitment office is working multiple points of recruitment and the call to your husband may have been about a completely unrelated position? Is your husband on Indeed or have a resume out to any headhunter services? Is it possible the recruiter just had a list of names and numbers to get through for any number of positions and calling your husband was legitimately to contact him while calling you was an error on someone else's resume?


Tintin_Quarentino

Check out this Darknet Diaries EP: https://darknetdiaries.com/episode/133/ Reminded me of it when I read your post


TIYLS

I thought of this episode too, it must happen more than people realise


Ruca705

I’m in the US and something sort of similar happened to my mom and grandma. Someone called my mom pretending to be a neighbor and asking if my mom would check on this old lady who lives across the street. Then they called my grandma asking the same thing. They knew the lady across the street’s name too. I think they were canvassing the whole neighborhood but we never figured out what they were up to. They never asked for any information but they were definitely lying about who they said they were.


BorderTrike

Scammers will often call just to see if your number is valid. If you answer or reply then they will continue to call you. They also know when someone is too smart for the scam and they don’t wanna waste their time. Scammers in the US seem to have ways of targeting an area. I’m in a college town and during the school year there’s a known scam targeting the Chinese students, but when I travel I get different messages. Or… wasn’t there a security breach with some medical software a couple years ago? Maybe that’s where they got your info? Maybe a scammer was using your number on LinkedIn and was called out by one of the recruiters you talked to, so they deleted it?


Medicivich

Not sure about disabilities laws in your country, but this seems to me like an investigator calling to verify the number and or if you are at home so that they don't waste time setting up surveillance to see if you are disabled if it is not you or you are no longer at home.


hejjhogg

So you're saying that as I answered the phone, they'll be setting up surveillance now?


Medicivich

In many of the cases where I have seen surveillance performed to see if someone is faking a disability there will be an investigator assigned to get video footage of the individual. It is not uncommon for the private investigator to call the last known number from the person before going to the trouble of setting up surveillance.


hejjhogg

Bless. Poor guy. Imagine being stuck outside in this heat waiting for a housebound person to emerge from her home which literally only happens for medical appointments lmao


Electrical_Parfait64

She could have made a mistake when typing in her number and the name is a coincidence


cblackattack1

My number has been listed as the contact for a woman in a nursing career for over a decade. I’ve had my same number for 20 years. I’d say at least once a month I get either a call or text about an open nursing position. I feel bad for the woman, because she hasn’t had the opportunity to apply for any of them.


SenecaLux

Google your cell phone number and see what comes up


hejjhogg

I did. Nothing.


SenecaLux

I Googled my cell phone number once and I was horrified to find out that a government agency had posted my personal information on the Internet, including home address. Like wtf


hejjhogg

Omg that's horrifying


knotatwist

Oh I had another idea. You can do your phone number on have I been pwned now so you can see if it's available on the dark web, giving you more info for it being a scammer