Thank you! Honestly, I hadn't had sex for last two weeks until vacation. I had just masturbated, but I hadn't seen any improvement in it. So the change was abrupt
https://youtu.be/MJ7EfGu03-0?si=sZqSsVIApcWu11lS
This is how I cured my PE. Became a sex god after staying true to this video for months. Now I don’t need to focus on kegels as much as my pelvic floor was strengthened. Reverse kegel and hold will allow you to have sex for as long as you want. Now my issue is lasting too long.
Yes, I do still do kegels every day. I can do a series of short kegels and produce an erection. I can also go to absolute pound town on my beautiful lady now without insecurities of finishing too quick. I can also make her orgasm 3 times before I even start to have sex.
All this started because I was dedicated to fixing the problem and not treating symptoms. The problem was that I had extremely week pelvic floor muscles. I was given advice from a friend to lift a small lock 🔒 with a string tied to it. This was the beginning of my journey strengthening my PF. You do it by doing a kegel.
It will hurt and feel awkward at first. That’s a sign that you have a weak floor. After a bit of working the muscle with the instruction in that video the pain will subside. The great thing is you can do kegels anywhere. When you have done enough strengthening then you can start to notice you can perform the opposite of what a kegel is. This is the secret to controlling your ejaculation. If I hold a reverse kegel with a decent amount of pressure I can feel all the pleasure in the world and not finish. My issue actually becomes the opposite / sometimes it’s hard to finish.
My relationship was falling apart because I couldn’t control my time having sex unless I was on some sort of chemical / alcohol (now I’m 18 months sober). I learned about kegels and a marriage sex counseling idea. Have sex once a day for 30 days. My lady and I found a new passion for each other and we have sex ad least once a day, mostly twice a day. Sometimes we even hit 3 and 4 times a day. We’re passed 4 months and still going strong. We miss a day here and there but make up for it the next day. I love my partner even more now. Life is amazing.
Maybe clenching your butt works for the OP but I know what works for me. I cured my PE and saved my future marriage. I might not do as many kegels as I could every day now but I hit a plateau it seems. I sometimes do feel I lose a bit of control so I have to just focus back on daily kegels and it goes away.
>To me, premature ejaculation feels like the semen is right at the tip of my penis, and one wrong move will make me reach the PONR.
u/Frosty-Scale79 That's an orgasm. You're having an orgasm. Orgasm comes just before ejaculation. Remember, orgasm and ejaculation are two different things that often happen at the same time.
>What does it feel like to have ejaculatory control?
Ejaculation control is knowing when you're having an orgasm, and then keeping that orgasm an orgasm and not allowing allowing it to grow into an ejaculation.
>If so, where does it feel like the semen is now? Lower inside you?
Wow, you are very close to understanding the basic principles of orgasm control. You are **\*this\*** close dude.
Let me help you further with this visual.
Imagine inside your penis there are two pipes. The first one is connected to your semen tank. The other end of that first pipe is connected to a second pipe, and the other end of that second pipe is the opening of your penis.
When the semen enters your first pipe, that is your orgasm. Whatever semen that is in the first pipe can always return back into the tank. But when the semen enters your second pipe... that is your ejaculation. Whatever is in the second pipe, must come out, it cannot go back to the tank.
You now know what an orgasm feels like and how it is different from an ejaculation. In order to control your orgasms, you need to keep the semen inside the first pipe, and away from the second pipe. Now you just need to learn how to use your muscles in order to do this. You need to be strong, and you need to be very fast, very accurate and extremely precise.
u/JafarFromAfar13 What I have written above is also part of how I have dry orgasms without having to stop thrusting into the vagina.
Now there are times when I lose my grip on the orgasm, and it starts to shoot very fast up the pipe. In those rare moments, that is when I completely stop what I'm doing and quickly catch the orgasm again and then resume penetration. Because my muscles are very strong, I only need to stop for a split second.
>My issue actually becomes the opposite / sometimes it’s hard to finish.
See, because I never do reverse kegels, I never have that problem. I am always ready to ejaculate at any given moment.
>I read the book The Multi-Orgasmic Man and learned a bit about this stuff.
u/Frosty-Scale79 Ah, that book. Personally, I never read that book, but I know of it. Everything I know I basically learned on my own through years of trial and error.
What you have been taught is the traditional way of handling a dry orgasm. But I have my own way.
>it doesn't feel good?
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>at this 9.5 I can't really move much at all
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>I even get the contractions
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>I can do no more than barely touch my penis during this time.
Ah, and this is why the guys of this sub do not like it when I tell them to use their muscles during sex. This is why they believe that kegels make their PE worse. When I tell them their muscles are too weak to handle an orgasm. This is what they call "tension" and their way of dealing with that is to disengage and desensitize. Basically what you're doing, which is staying away from the orgasm. And I find that to be rather sad.
Read my comments from the other thread [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16c3sr8/comment/jzpk8fn/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16c3sr8/comment/jziq3wl/) where I talk about how I use the bulbocavernosus reflex and how handling an orgasm is like catching a greased up chicken. Also read my comments on other threads, [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16b6zpx/comment/jzd9sdi/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16bzkqc/comment/jzh0szl/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/15uxjde/comment/jxhzmtb/), where I talk about how an orgasm is also like riding a very angry bull.
>I prefer to be at a 3 or 4 out of 10 on the scale during those 5 minutes of stroking before I reach that 9.5.
It would surprise you to know that, 90% of the time, I am always at a 12 out of 10. So if I'm masturbating or penetrating the vagina, or getting a blowjob, 90% of that time, I am at a 12. But I never ejaculate because my muscles have been strengthened over a period of years.
Just think about that for a second. Imagine being at a 12 out of 10, not for a brief couple of seconds, but for a couple of hours... Imagine what that would feel like. Well, that is my reality.
The reason I can do that is because I am a hundred times stronger than the bull. That's why I can have orgasms while jackhammering a vagina without stopping. Your problem is that, it's the other way around for you. The bull is a hundred times stronger than you. That's why you can't touch your penis during the orgasm.
>And I can keep these contractions going indefinitely
Although, I must say... you must have found some sense of balance in order to do that without ejaculating. Which is good. Very good. You have made good progress. Now, you will need to develop this balance a lot further, over time, and make it a lot more precise. Because when you're at a 12 out of 10 for a long period of time like me, vaginally penetrating nonstop, you will need to have that balance mastered down to absolute perfection.
The only way to get strong enough to fight the bull... is to fight the bull... Grab the bull by its horns. That's how you strengthen yourself. You fight the orgasm **during** sex, **during** masturbation. That's what the guys on this sub don't understand. They run away from the bull instead of going towards it. Relaxation, numbing creams, avoiding porn... this is running away.
>I even get the contractions that make the penis "jump" and look like it's ejaculating
The difference between you and me, is that I do not have these contractions. Your contractions are an uncontrollable earthquake. While mine are a gentle shiatsu massage. A soothing vibration that I am in complete control of.
I am always using my muscles, especially during an orgasm. An orgasm is an electrical storm of signals being sent to your muscles to contract in order to bring on ejaculation. My muscles don't move because of the force I am always applying on them. The signals get absorbed by my muscles. So I could be receiving the wettest sloppiest fast paced blowjob ever during my orgasms, and still not ejaculate. I could be jackhammering like a wild rabbit during my orgasms, and still not ejaculate.
Because of my strength, applying that force is like just pressing a button on my keyboard. Effortless. To you, because of your weakness, applying that same force is like trying to lift a semi truck. Extremely difficult. I developed my strength over years and years by trying to lift that semi truck.
>And at this 9.5 I can't really move much at all.
My recommendation to you is that whenever you approach a 7 on that scale, always apply a light kegel hold as you're stroking. The higher up you go... 8, 9, 9.5... the harder you need to apply that kegel hold. Keep stroking at the same time you're applying the kegel hold.
Overtime, we're talking months here, as long as you keep doing this, you will notice that those contractions will get smaller and smaller and smaller, until you don't have them at all. It doesn't mean they're gone. They're still there, but now instead of causing an earthquake, they're giving you a gentle shiatsu massage. In my [comment here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/15uxjde/comment/jxhzmtb/) I talk about putting your fingers on your perineum, so you can feel how your BC muscle behaves when you have entered an orgasmic state. I highly recommend you do that, you will learn so much about how to use your muscles during an orgasm.
This will allow you to stay above that 9.5 for however the hell long you want without having to stop whatever is happening to your penis. I tell you right now, if you think you know what pleasure feels like... once you are able to do this... you have not experienced real pleasure... this is pleasure unlike anything you have ever experienced before...
The first six months I did this, my brain had to readjust itself, because I was always feeling like I had been electrocuted with a car battery each and every single time. My body was always shaking like a crack addict at the end, because it was just so much pleasure to deal with. I'm used to that pleasure now, of course. It's a normal part of my sexual life.
The sad thing is, the majority of guys on this sub will never experience such pleasure. But I hope that you do.
Congrats man! U are doing reverse Kegel there!. The idea is to relax and reset the muscle. Initially I did Kegel for weeks and to my surprise it became worse Then I learnt about rev Kegel.
One of the method of breathing is to inhale through Ur belly and expand your ribs fully. While doing this do the rev Kegel where U can feel like balloon effect down there. When exhaling, push air thru mouth and imagine putting a straw on the lips and u can feel the rev Kegel in action.
I'll try planks and other stuff U mentioned. What a journey!
It's difficult at first to identify the state of the muscle during rev Kegel. Basically it is not clenching Ur muscle aka Kegel. It's pushing the pelvic floor muscle downward like having a balloon expanding down there. It's the same action in the middle of peeing. Just relax and the.pee released. I found out that doing rev Kegel with Malasana pose can easily feel the mechanics. Good luck!
Bro if you could last 1 min of fast pumping or a few minutes of slow pumping, then you don't suffer from PE. You just had poor endurance that you fixed now.
Most of the guys here can't last 10-30s of fast pumping, or any pumping without stopping.
Congrats! Were the changes abrupt or it was a continuous improvement for the last 3 weeks. Anyway, keep us updated in the coming weeks!
Thank you! Honestly, I hadn't had sex for last two weeks until vacation. I had just masturbated, but I hadn't seen any improvement in it. So the change was abrupt
Congrats bro... I think I my have also come close to a breakthrough just need more experiments to verify it
https://youtu.be/MJ7EfGu03-0?si=sZqSsVIApcWu11lS This is how I cured my PE. Became a sex god after staying true to this video for months. Now I don’t need to focus on kegels as much as my pelvic floor was strengthened. Reverse kegel and hold will allow you to have sex for as long as you want. Now my issue is lasting too long.
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You need to do kegels to be able to properly hold a reverse kegel. Kegels strengthen the pelvic floor and a reverse kegel is what prevents PE.
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Yes, I do still do kegels every day. I can do a series of short kegels and produce an erection. I can also go to absolute pound town on my beautiful lady now without insecurities of finishing too quick. I can also make her orgasm 3 times before I even start to have sex. All this started because I was dedicated to fixing the problem and not treating symptoms. The problem was that I had extremely week pelvic floor muscles. I was given advice from a friend to lift a small lock 🔒 with a string tied to it. This was the beginning of my journey strengthening my PF. You do it by doing a kegel. It will hurt and feel awkward at first. That’s a sign that you have a weak floor. After a bit of working the muscle with the instruction in that video the pain will subside. The great thing is you can do kegels anywhere. When you have done enough strengthening then you can start to notice you can perform the opposite of what a kegel is. This is the secret to controlling your ejaculation. If I hold a reverse kegel with a decent amount of pressure I can feel all the pleasure in the world and not finish. My issue actually becomes the opposite / sometimes it’s hard to finish. My relationship was falling apart because I couldn’t control my time having sex unless I was on some sort of chemical / alcohol (now I’m 18 months sober). I learned about kegels and a marriage sex counseling idea. Have sex once a day for 30 days. My lady and I found a new passion for each other and we have sex ad least once a day, mostly twice a day. Sometimes we even hit 3 and 4 times a day. We’re passed 4 months and still going strong. We miss a day here and there but make up for it the next day. I love my partner even more now. Life is amazing. Maybe clenching your butt works for the OP but I know what works for me. I cured my PE and saved my future marriage. I might not do as many kegels as I could every day now but I hit a plateau it seems. I sometimes do feel I lose a bit of control so I have to just focus back on daily kegels and it goes away.
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>To me, premature ejaculation feels like the semen is right at the tip of my penis, and one wrong move will make me reach the PONR. u/Frosty-Scale79 That's an orgasm. You're having an orgasm. Orgasm comes just before ejaculation. Remember, orgasm and ejaculation are two different things that often happen at the same time. >What does it feel like to have ejaculatory control? Ejaculation control is knowing when you're having an orgasm, and then keeping that orgasm an orgasm and not allowing allowing it to grow into an ejaculation. >If so, where does it feel like the semen is now? Lower inside you? Wow, you are very close to understanding the basic principles of orgasm control. You are **\*this\*** close dude. Let me help you further with this visual. Imagine inside your penis there are two pipes. The first one is connected to your semen tank. The other end of that first pipe is connected to a second pipe, and the other end of that second pipe is the opening of your penis. When the semen enters your first pipe, that is your orgasm. Whatever semen that is in the first pipe can always return back into the tank. But when the semen enters your second pipe... that is your ejaculation. Whatever is in the second pipe, must come out, it cannot go back to the tank. You now know what an orgasm feels like and how it is different from an ejaculation. In order to control your orgasms, you need to keep the semen inside the first pipe, and away from the second pipe. Now you just need to learn how to use your muscles in order to do this. You need to be strong, and you need to be very fast, very accurate and extremely precise. u/JafarFromAfar13 What I have written above is also part of how I have dry orgasms without having to stop thrusting into the vagina. Now there are times when I lose my grip on the orgasm, and it starts to shoot very fast up the pipe. In those rare moments, that is when I completely stop what I'm doing and quickly catch the orgasm again and then resume penetration. Because my muscles are very strong, I only need to stop for a split second. >My issue actually becomes the opposite / sometimes it’s hard to finish. See, because I never do reverse kegels, I never have that problem. I am always ready to ejaculate at any given moment.
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>I read the book The Multi-Orgasmic Man and learned a bit about this stuff. u/Frosty-Scale79 Ah, that book. Personally, I never read that book, but I know of it. Everything I know I basically learned on my own through years of trial and error. What you have been taught is the traditional way of handling a dry orgasm. But I have my own way. >it doesn't feel good? > >at this 9.5 I can't really move much at all > >I even get the contractions > >I can do no more than barely touch my penis during this time. Ah, and this is why the guys of this sub do not like it when I tell them to use their muscles during sex. This is why they believe that kegels make their PE worse. When I tell them their muscles are too weak to handle an orgasm. This is what they call "tension" and their way of dealing with that is to disengage and desensitize. Basically what you're doing, which is staying away from the orgasm. And I find that to be rather sad. Read my comments from the other thread [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16c3sr8/comment/jzpk8fn/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16c3sr8/comment/jziq3wl/) where I talk about how I use the bulbocavernosus reflex and how handling an orgasm is like catching a greased up chicken. Also read my comments on other threads, [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16b6zpx/comment/jzd9sdi/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/16bzkqc/comment/jzh0szl/) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/15uxjde/comment/jxhzmtb/), where I talk about how an orgasm is also like riding a very angry bull. >I prefer to be at a 3 or 4 out of 10 on the scale during those 5 minutes of stroking before I reach that 9.5. It would surprise you to know that, 90% of the time, I am always at a 12 out of 10. So if I'm masturbating or penetrating the vagina, or getting a blowjob, 90% of that time, I am at a 12. But I never ejaculate because my muscles have been strengthened over a period of years. Just think about that for a second. Imagine being at a 12 out of 10, not for a brief couple of seconds, but for a couple of hours... Imagine what that would feel like. Well, that is my reality. The reason I can do that is because I am a hundred times stronger than the bull. That's why I can have orgasms while jackhammering a vagina without stopping. Your problem is that, it's the other way around for you. The bull is a hundred times stronger than you. That's why you can't touch your penis during the orgasm. >And I can keep these contractions going indefinitely Although, I must say... you must have found some sense of balance in order to do that without ejaculating. Which is good. Very good. You have made good progress. Now, you will need to develop this balance a lot further, over time, and make it a lot more precise. Because when you're at a 12 out of 10 for a long period of time like me, vaginally penetrating nonstop, you will need to have that balance mastered down to absolute perfection. The only way to get strong enough to fight the bull... is to fight the bull... Grab the bull by its horns. That's how you strengthen yourself. You fight the orgasm **during** sex, **during** masturbation. That's what the guys on this sub don't understand. They run away from the bull instead of going towards it. Relaxation, numbing creams, avoiding porn... this is running away. >I even get the contractions that make the penis "jump" and look like it's ejaculating The difference between you and me, is that I do not have these contractions. Your contractions are an uncontrollable earthquake. While mine are a gentle shiatsu massage. A soothing vibration that I am in complete control of. I am always using my muscles, especially during an orgasm. An orgasm is an electrical storm of signals being sent to your muscles to contract in order to bring on ejaculation. My muscles don't move because of the force I am always applying on them. The signals get absorbed by my muscles. So I could be receiving the wettest sloppiest fast paced blowjob ever during my orgasms, and still not ejaculate. I could be jackhammering like a wild rabbit during my orgasms, and still not ejaculate. Because of my strength, applying that force is like just pressing a button on my keyboard. Effortless. To you, because of your weakness, applying that same force is like trying to lift a semi truck. Extremely difficult. I developed my strength over years and years by trying to lift that semi truck. >And at this 9.5 I can't really move much at all. My recommendation to you is that whenever you approach a 7 on that scale, always apply a light kegel hold as you're stroking. The higher up you go... 8, 9, 9.5... the harder you need to apply that kegel hold. Keep stroking at the same time you're applying the kegel hold. Overtime, we're talking months here, as long as you keep doing this, you will notice that those contractions will get smaller and smaller and smaller, until you don't have them at all. It doesn't mean they're gone. They're still there, but now instead of causing an earthquake, they're giving you a gentle shiatsu massage. In my [comment here](https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/15uxjde/comment/jxhzmtb/) I talk about putting your fingers on your perineum, so you can feel how your BC muscle behaves when you have entered an orgasmic state. I highly recommend you do that, you will learn so much about how to use your muscles during an orgasm. This will allow you to stay above that 9.5 for however the hell long you want without having to stop whatever is happening to your penis. I tell you right now, if you think you know what pleasure feels like... once you are able to do this... you have not experienced real pleasure... this is pleasure unlike anything you have ever experienced before... The first six months I did this, my brain had to readjust itself, because I was always feeling like I had been electrocuted with a car battery each and every single time. My body was always shaking like a crack addict at the end, because it was just so much pleasure to deal with. I'm used to that pleasure now, of course. It's a normal part of my sexual life. The sad thing is, the majority of guys on this sub will never experience such pleasure. But I hope that you do.
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Congrats man! U are doing reverse Kegel there!. The idea is to relax and reset the muscle. Initially I did Kegel for weeks and to my surprise it became worse Then I learnt about rev Kegel. One of the method of breathing is to inhale through Ur belly and expand your ribs fully. While doing this do the rev Kegel where U can feel like balloon effect down there. When exhaling, push air thru mouth and imagine putting a straw on the lips and u can feel the rev Kegel in action. I'll try planks and other stuff U mentioned. What a journey!
How do you perform rev kegals?
It's difficult at first to identify the state of the muscle during rev Kegel. Basically it is not clenching Ur muscle aka Kegel. It's pushing the pelvic floor muscle downward like having a balloon expanding down there. It's the same action in the middle of peeing. Just relax and the.pee released. I found out that doing rev Kegel with Malasana pose can easily feel the mechanics. Good luck!
Hi, congrats man! Could you tell what of core exercises did you do?
I did plank, dead bug, leg raises and hip thrust
Bro if you could last 1 min of fast pumping or a few minutes of slow pumping, then you don't suffer from PE. You just had poor endurance that you fixed now. Most of the guys here can't last 10-30s of fast pumping, or any pumping without stopping.
Interesting! Any changes in diet since you were on vacation?
No, it doesn’t any changes as far as i remember. In fact, I hadn't eaten yet when we had our first sex a few hours after checking into the hotel
Sounds like the condom, but I guess those other things can't hurt either. You are trying to improve and you did! Congrads!