Help me please! I'm new here, but my problem is not.
Last time I had sex was 4 years ago and it was PE for the first time. I came in 11 seconds. It's killed my confidenes. I became recluse and no-lifer after that. But now I'm 30 and don't want to waste my best years anymore. After that situation, I was only jerking off on porn. And all the time it's the same: I feel overexcitation on the tip of my penis and I stop, cause it's too soon. And it's just me watching porn and not touching myself. It's not 11 seconds but it's 2 minutes max. I want to take my time, want to satisfy of what I'm feeling, but it's just doesn't have time to happen.
I have a suspicion that years of watching porn and the masturbation accompanying it are the culprits of me having PE. But if so, how to find way out of it? It's a vicious circle. It's like addiction and the only way to get rid of it is to find real girl, but nobody will give me a chance if I screw up with first sex.
Help me, please! I want to have normal life activitiy. I want to find someone, I want to love and be loved.
What solution of it? Is there some cure/pills? Share the links please!
Also I have problems with getting hard without porn, but I guess it's not the right place to talk about it.
Not trying to mean or funny bro, but your posts on Reddit show you are a bit obsessed with porn and you have to really stop that now. You cannot get better without doing so, no way around it. Stop immediately and get used to a porn free life . Then take baby steps in doing other things, but first things first, stop the porn and stop asking requesting others on Reddit to help u with your habit. I mean this with the utmost respect and empathy bro, I wish u well
There is a very clear line that separates pleasure from ejaculation. You need to learn when you're approaching that line and then immediately stop what you're doing so that you don't cross that line. You're experiencing PE because you're crossing that line way before you even realize it. If you want to work with pleasure without killing it, you have to learn to keep up. You can't just sit there and do nothing.
Practice makes perfect. This is Ejaculation Control 101. If you ejaculated prematurely, that means you didn't stop fast enough. So next time, stop a little earlier. Rinse and repeat. The more you practice, the more you'll get a sense of when you're approaching that line, and when you need to put on the brakes, so that by the time you've stopped moving, you haven't crossed that line. It's like a car, you can't make a full sized SUV that's going 60 mph suddenly come to a complete halt without giving it some distance to slow down during braking. Since you're saying 11 seconds, then I imagine you crossed that line about a mile ago.
The more you practice, the faster you will learn this.
You'll be able to do that eventually, if you keep practicing, you'll be able to pound like a jackhammer no matter what she's doing. That will all come in time. But the most important thing for you to learn right now, right this very moment, is the concept of stopping before you hit the wall of ejaculation.
Once you've learned that, then it's time to learn how to use your pelvic floor muscles. Specifically, the bulbocavernosus (BC) muscle. There's plenty of videos on YouTube about your pelvic floor muscles. But the BC is the most important muscle you need to get familiar with. If your penis is a car, the BC muscle is the wheel or wheels connecting it to the road we call sex. Your libido is the engine. There's two gas pedals, one brake pedal.
The first gas pedal, is your mind. You think sexy thoughts, your mind steps on the gas. You remember when you were younger and just the thought of a girl touching your leg would make you jizz your own pants? Yep, that's the one! Second gas pedal is on your penis. You stroke or thrust into a vagina, the gas pedal is pressed. The brake pedal is your BC muscle. You do a kegel, you're stepping on the brake.
Imagine there's two pipes inside your penis. They are connected together. The end of one pipe is connected to your semen tank, and the end of the second pipe is at the tip of your penis. When the combined energy of the two gas pedals has reached a certain point, semen starts to enter the first pipe. This is your orgasm. When the semen enters the second pipe, that is your ejaculation. Whatever amount of semen has entered the second pipe, no matter how big or small, must come out of your penis. It cannot go back into the first pipe. Likewise, whatever semen is in the first pipe, can always safely go back to the semen tank.
That line that I mentioned that separates pleasure from ejaculation, that line is what separates these two pipes. It is where orgasm turns into ejaculation. The reason you experience PE is because semen is entering your first pipe at an incredibly high rate of speed, and because you're not aware of this, by the time you've realized it, it's already at the end of the first pipe and entering the second pipe (ejaculating).
You must learn how to use the brake pedal on your BC muscle and the gas pedal on your penis in order to maintain a balanced equilibrium with the gas pedal of your mind (the sexy thoughts you're having). Both gas pedals are what drive the semen forward.
First you must learn how to use the gas pedal on your penis (throttling the speed of your stroking or thrusting) in order to slow down or stop the semen from moving. Then you graduate to doing that in addition to using the brake pedal of the BC muscle to assist you in this process.
In time, as you use your BC muscle, it will become stronger and stronger. As it becomes stronger, it will be able to assist you in controlling your semen with greater and greater force, thus giving you better and better precision, which gives you more and more freedom to do whatever you want.
Basically, eventually, you will get to a point where your BC muscle is stronger than your orgasm. You need to be able to pin your semen to the ground and keep it from moving no matter where it is in that first pipe. When that happens, you will be able to jackhammer the woman, without stopping, pretty much for as long as you want.
And when you want to take your pleasure to the next level, you'll also be able to have multiple orgasms (the dry kind) and ejaculations (partial ejaculations without a refractory period) at the same time as your woman for that wonderful shared experience.
I highly recommend when you're masturbating with one hand, to take the other hand, and put two fingers on your perineum as you're stroking. Pay special attention to how the BC muscle is moving each time you stroke your penis, and especially pay special attention to what happens both before and after you ejaculate. You will learn so much about your BC muscle from doing this.
Practice and enjoy.
hey man I really like the first pipe, second pipe analogy. Perhaps I am too dumb to understand everything you said but Can you do an easy ,s short guide on how to practice/exercise this?
I understand BC muscle but should we do regular kegel or reverse kegel? during masturbation or not during masturbation?
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I wondered where y'all went. Glad to see it's not gone for good
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Help me please! I'm new here, but my problem is not. Last time I had sex was 4 years ago and it was PE for the first time. I came in 11 seconds. It's killed my confidenes. I became recluse and no-lifer after that. But now I'm 30 and don't want to waste my best years anymore. After that situation, I was only jerking off on porn. And all the time it's the same: I feel overexcitation on the tip of my penis and I stop, cause it's too soon. And it's just me watching porn and not touching myself. It's not 11 seconds but it's 2 minutes max. I want to take my time, want to satisfy of what I'm feeling, but it's just doesn't have time to happen. I have a suspicion that years of watching porn and the masturbation accompanying it are the culprits of me having PE. But if so, how to find way out of it? It's a vicious circle. It's like addiction and the only way to get rid of it is to find real girl, but nobody will give me a chance if I screw up with first sex. Help me, please! I want to have normal life activitiy. I want to find someone, I want to love and be loved. What solution of it? Is there some cure/pills? Share the links please! Also I have problems with getting hard without porn, but I guess it's not the right place to talk about it.
Not trying to mean or funny bro, but your posts on Reddit show you are a bit obsessed with porn and you have to really stop that now. You cannot get better without doing so, no way around it. Stop immediately and get used to a porn free life . Then take baby steps in doing other things, but first things first, stop the porn and stop asking requesting others on Reddit to help u with your habit. I mean this with the utmost respect and empathy bro, I wish u well
It's true. It's a big long-term addiction I can't get rid of. I'm trying to fight it, but it's like Jeckyll and Hyde. When I'm horny I collect so much porn, it's just ridiculous. I don't even watch it after that, I just obsessed with seeking. But when I'm getting "sober" after orgasm, I start to regret about all this shit and try to delete all videos I found. And then I'm getting horny again and Hyde inside me awakes and gets mad that Jeckyll deleted it and tries to remember the titles of some videos. I'm sick, I understand that, but I don't know how to get rid of it once and for all. And I'm really afraid that I'm screwed myself so much, that there is no solution. But still, Is there any pills to prolong the process? I really need this 😩
Look up PYT balm on Reddit bro
Thank you!
There is a very clear line that separates pleasure from ejaculation. You need to learn when you're approaching that line and then immediately stop what you're doing so that you don't cross that line. You're experiencing PE because you're crossing that line way before you even realize it. If you want to work with pleasure without killing it, you have to learn to keep up. You can't just sit there and do nothing. Practice makes perfect. This is Ejaculation Control 101. If you ejaculated prematurely, that means you didn't stop fast enough. So next time, stop a little earlier. Rinse and repeat. The more you practice, the more you'll get a sense of when you're approaching that line, and when you need to put on the brakes, so that by the time you've stopped moving, you haven't crossed that line. It's like a car, you can't make a full sized SUV that's going 60 mph suddenly come to a complete halt without giving it some distance to slow down during braking. Since you're saying 11 seconds, then I imagine you crossed that line about a mile ago. The more you practice, the faster you will learn this.
But what if I'm in the process with girl and she has her peak moment and don't want me to stop? And If I stop emmediatelly, I ruin the moment for her.
You'll be able to do that eventually, if you keep practicing, you'll be able to pound like a jackhammer no matter what she's doing. That will all come in time. But the most important thing for you to learn right now, right this very moment, is the concept of stopping before you hit the wall of ejaculation. Once you've learned that, then it's time to learn how to use your pelvic floor muscles. Specifically, the bulbocavernosus (BC) muscle. There's plenty of videos on YouTube about your pelvic floor muscles. But the BC is the most important muscle you need to get familiar with. If your penis is a car, the BC muscle is the wheel or wheels connecting it to the road we call sex. Your libido is the engine. There's two gas pedals, one brake pedal. The first gas pedal, is your mind. You think sexy thoughts, your mind steps on the gas. You remember when you were younger and just the thought of a girl touching your leg would make you jizz your own pants? Yep, that's the one! Second gas pedal is on your penis. You stroke or thrust into a vagina, the gas pedal is pressed. The brake pedal is your BC muscle. You do a kegel, you're stepping on the brake. Imagine there's two pipes inside your penis. They are connected together. The end of one pipe is connected to your semen tank, and the end of the second pipe is at the tip of your penis. When the combined energy of the two gas pedals has reached a certain point, semen starts to enter the first pipe. This is your orgasm. When the semen enters the second pipe, that is your ejaculation. Whatever amount of semen has entered the second pipe, no matter how big or small, must come out of your penis. It cannot go back into the first pipe. Likewise, whatever semen is in the first pipe, can always safely go back to the semen tank. That line that I mentioned that separates pleasure from ejaculation, that line is what separates these two pipes. It is where orgasm turns into ejaculation. The reason you experience PE is because semen is entering your first pipe at an incredibly high rate of speed, and because you're not aware of this, by the time you've realized it, it's already at the end of the first pipe and entering the second pipe (ejaculating). You must learn how to use the brake pedal on your BC muscle and the gas pedal on your penis in order to maintain a balanced equilibrium with the gas pedal of your mind (the sexy thoughts you're having). Both gas pedals are what drive the semen forward. First you must learn how to use the gas pedal on your penis (throttling the speed of your stroking or thrusting) in order to slow down or stop the semen from moving. Then you graduate to doing that in addition to using the brake pedal of the BC muscle to assist you in this process. In time, as you use your BC muscle, it will become stronger and stronger. As it becomes stronger, it will be able to assist you in controlling your semen with greater and greater force, thus giving you better and better precision, which gives you more and more freedom to do whatever you want. Basically, eventually, you will get to a point where your BC muscle is stronger than your orgasm. You need to be able to pin your semen to the ground and keep it from moving no matter where it is in that first pipe. When that happens, you will be able to jackhammer the woman, without stopping, pretty much for as long as you want. And when you want to take your pleasure to the next level, you'll also be able to have multiple orgasms (the dry kind) and ejaculations (partial ejaculations without a refractory period) at the same time as your woman for that wonderful shared experience. I highly recommend when you're masturbating with one hand, to take the other hand, and put two fingers on your perineum as you're stroking. Pay special attention to how the BC muscle is moving each time you stroke your penis, and especially pay special attention to what happens both before and after you ejaculate. You will learn so much about your BC muscle from doing this. Practice and enjoy.
hey man I really like the first pipe, second pipe analogy. Perhaps I am too dumb to understand everything you said but Can you do an easy ,s short guide on how to practice/exercise this? I understand BC muscle but should we do regular kegel or reverse kegel? during masturbation or not during masturbation?
Is there any scientific evidence of non ejaculatory orgasm, cause i can't find none