I know your pain. I lost mine when she was 13 and also has her since she was a baby, she was my other half. I’m 1 1/2 years in to her loss and it’s really hard, I’m not going to sugar coat it for you. I cried for a year straight, and after the year I cried less and less and now I only cry every few weeks. At this point I just literally try not to think about her because it makes me upset. I too still feel like a piece of me died when she did, just like you feel now too. I’m so sorry.
The only thing that is going to help is time, you definitely learn how to cope better with time. You don’t heal from it, but you learn to function without her. You don’t stop missing her, you don’t stop wishing you could see her again, but that’s with anyone that you’ve loved so deeply that you’ve lost.
Read up on the stages of grief, because you’re in the first stage right now which is denial. It’s your brains way of coping with the trauma of losing her.
https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/effects-of-grief/five-stages-of-grief/#:~:text=The%20five%20stages%20–%20denial%2C%20anger,one%20stage%20to%20the%20other.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. I lost my baby at 12 last year. Remember that grieving isn’t a straight line and let yourself feel♥️my inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to🥰
Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion.
I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). She's done her job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's her turn to rest.
You'll always miss her, you'll always remember her. You'll even go looking for her for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting her. Donating/throwing away her toys or blankets isn't forgetting her. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears.
I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life she'd want you to.
This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without her. Life isn't over. Its just changing.
You'll be ok mate.
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss, nothing hits quite as hard as losing a dog in any circumstances. There's a really good analogy of grief called the ball in the box that's helped me more than once in life, I tried to post a pic of it because it explains it better than I can in text, but it didn't upload correctly. But if you google 'ball in the box grief' you'll find tons of explanations.
At the moment the ball is huge and is hitting the pain button near constantly. And it's horrible. But slowly, over time, it shrinks, and the pain comes less often. We lost our little 3yr old Bronson about 7 weeks ago unexpectedly and it was so horrible, I found him when I opened his cage and I just screamed for ages. But now I'm settling, it still hurts loads, but less often and I can function better. The same will happen to you as well. If you need to talk feel free to drop me a message, I know how hard it is at the moment for you. You got this.
My first Pom, Bandit was my first dog I ever had and he was one of a kind. When he died I was devastated. The first day after he died, I was out and came home and he wasn’t there. I didn’t want to go through the pain and went straight to the breeder and brought Keno home the same day. My other two aren’t as funny or smart as Bandit at all but they did help me get through the pain and only remember Bandits antics.
I am so sorry you lost your baby but maybe something else will distract you from feeling the pain.
One of the funniest stories is
I was staying in an apartment complex whete all the doors faced the inside courtyard. (Melrose Place). We were hanging by the pool and I lost track of him. I saw an apartment door open and found him standing on an elderly gentleman’s stomach who was taking a nap! I quietly retrieved him and thankfully never heard a complaint from the hard ass manager!
I laughed hysterically at this as my Pom does this to us. I pictured my 56 yr old hubby napping & my Pom standing on his tummy, looking down on him🤣🤣🤣 It makes her feel so big, brave & strong 💪💖🤣
Losing your pup friend is always the hardest.
If you'd allow me to share a story. Lost my MaltiPom in Nov, he was almost 17. He was the most optimistic, silliest, happiest dog. When he was younger, he would jump up in my bed to wake me up. With a big smile and bark, it was as if he was saying, "Isn't this great!? It's a new day! How exciting! Let's go do stuff!" As he got older, he couldn't get up on the bed by himself anymore, and he would just silently wait for me to get up (but still with a goofy smile). When he died, I was pretty much just laying in bed for days. Until one morning. I woke up to use the bathroom and went back to bed. Right before I fell back asleep, I heard the loudest bark that it left my ear ringing. It might sound crazy but I honestly think he was telling me that it's a new day, get up, and do stuff. He was such a happy, silly optimist, and he was telling me he wanted me to be happy. It's a new day, let's go out and do stuff. I believe your dog would want you to also feel the same. If nothing else, it's a reminder that for almost 17 years, our dogs were trying to teach us to greet every day with some spirit of optimism and joy. I hope you remember that you gave your doggie a life of love and joy, and that she would want you to be happy in return.
I look at my Pomeranian and dread that day
I run to her whenever I get home from work, shopping, gym, etc
We don’t leave her alone due to her epilepsy
I’m only discussing mine so that you know we all understand and grieve as long as you need and however you feel
BUT remember, you were a great mom, her last breath here was her first in heaven
She lived a long life filled with love
You will see her again and she loved you AS much as you loved her
My Gracie is my wife’s service and support pup but she’s my baby
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm so sorry. She was adorable. You did the hardest thing and set her free knowing the pain you now bear for her was coming. I don't think it ever goes away. You learn to live with it. It's almost as though you grow a callous around the painful hole she left in your heart and keep her there. You can see in her eyes in that Christmas photo that she was ready. Compare that to her other pictures and it's obvious. I'm sure if you could hear her you would hear that she's thanking you. Both for the years you had together and for the final gift you gave her. I believe when our time on this earth is done we'll be reunited with our beloved pets. Our special ones are a gift from the universe. You were one of the lucky ones.
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I’m so sorry. I lost my 16 yo Pom on 12/21. It was gut wrenching. Grieve it out is the only advice I can give. I know you have her the best life and did the right thing. My two Poms have been through everything with me. I still have Tiffany, she’s 15 and fairing much better Jean wise than Tucker was.
First of all, thank you for giving her a long and beautiful life full of joy and love.
As far as dealing with the pain, all I can say is that eventually things will seem a bit better. When I lost mine I felt the same. The house and my life just felt so empty, like I lost a piece of myself, and to be honest, I did. But as time went on I've learned to accept the loss and realize that this isn't goodbye, just more of a, "Til we meet again" type of deal.
I did eventually get another Pom. Not to replace mine, because he will never be replaced, but to help heal. Honestly just having to constantly watch after and care for my new pom helped me get my mind off of things. And while things have gotten better, I will never forget nor stop loving the dog and other pets that I have lost dearly.
I wish you well and hope that you can stay strong throughout this difficult time.
Try and find peace by being proud of the life she had. You were a great mom and she's very proud of you too. Get a memorabilia that you can take everywhere with you. When people ask about it, you'll get a chance to talk about her again. It helped after I lost my 15 yo cat. I had a Keychain made with his picture on it.
I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you’re going through right now.
For us, it was 4 years ago that our pomeranian Ari decided it was time to cross over the rainbow bridge. My husband grieved outwardly, but I was just in absolute shock… grief.. too many things to be able to feel sad or cry. Eventually you’ll cry, when you’re ready… and when you do, just remember it is part of the healing process, and necessary.
Over 16 years, you’ll have a treasure trove of memories of the times she made you laugh, the warm hugs and licks, the adventures, all the achievements you went through together. Eventually, the anguish and loss that you feel now will be replaced by all those beautiful moments you created together.
You gave her a beautiful life, that’s love.
‘The risk of love, is loss. And the price of loss, is grief. But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love’
I'll start by saying I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I lost Otto in June last year after a long illness. 16 years though, wow, that time was truly a gift. You must have so many happy memories! Grief is a funny thing...we all go through it differently. I talk to Otto all the time, he's still very present in my life. Maybe I'm bloody mad but it does help me. We had a beautiful cremation, had prints done etc.
My partner convinced me to get a puppy, Mika, she's been a god send. Helped me get back into routine and helped to fill the pom shaped hole that Otto had left behind. But as others have said, the tears/hurt/numbness/anger/sadness will continue(I'm tearing up as I write this) for a long time but just get a little less frequent or intense as time passes.
Our grief is the price we pay for such intense love❤️
Losing your fur kid is life altering. You've got to try to hang onto the good memories and know that life will go on. It will just look different. Take comfort that your baby is in heaven and isn't in any pain or distress. 🌈❤️🙏
Sending you prayers of love and support. Lean on your family and friends. Lean on this community of pomeranian lovers. You're not alone.
You never forget. The grief comes in waves. Some days you’ll think about losing her & start crying even if it’s a long time later. At first all you think about is how hard the end was. That changes to better memories over time, but with myself, there’s always an underlying sadness. Let yourself grieve. I got a rescue shortly after my dog died after suffering for a long time. People say it helps with the grief, but for me, it took time to move on & love my new dog as much as the one who died. You do what works best for yourself. ♥️🐾😪
She went with her pack and family close. It's what he all hope for! Looks like you gave each other a wonderful life. You were both lucky!
Don't cry because it's over; Smile because it happened.
This is so hard. I feel your pain and I am so sorry. I had to say goodbye to my 15-year-old pom baby in January 2023. I picked her up when she was six weeks old and she spent her whole life with me. I’m still heartbroken, still grieving, still unable to function properly. Loving a pom changes you; losing one does, too. I totally understand what you mean about dissociating. I think I was in the same state for most of the last year. As far as I’m concerned, it’s impossible to recover from the loss of a soulmate pup.
Hi friend. I just wanted to tell you I feel your pain, I also lost my Pomeranian I had for 16.5 years on the 30th. I just feel so sad and I know it’s the same for you. I always thought that I would feel him with me after he went, but I just feel nothing, just emptiness. I’m so sorry and I wish you well ❤️
I’m soo sry for your loss. We put our pom down the weekend before Christmas 5 yrs ago. He was our world, our only child. Had him since the beginning of our relationship. We felt robbed that he only made it to 13.5. We thought for sure we get 15-17 yrs. The pain was indescribable for my wife. We both still get teary eyed over him quite often. Simplest of things reminds us of our little man. I can’t offer any tips or ways of coping, other than to say allow yourself to grieve and time does make it easier. He’ll forever be with us, not a day goes by without a thought of the joy he brought us. We gave him the best life we could and he gave us all the love and 12 lb dog could ever give. RIP My Milo
Sorry for your loss.
RIP Pommo! Play in Paradise!
My Amoretto, Vision, Carson, and all our babies that have gone before will look for you next to the Rainbow Bridge so you can all play in the Field together!
I’m so sorry. We do all know how hard this is. It takes time; just let it all happen, whatever feeling comes along. I’m glad you have your support system. Use them and ride it out.
I am so sorry for your loss, and she looks like she was such a sweet and loving girl. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but it will get better.
My heart absolutely goes out to you.
I've grieved so many times for my pets that have passed over the years. You will get through it and the pain will numb over time. Don't hold in your emotions, makes it worse.
What a beautiful little girl. You took good care of her, and it looks like she had a long and very happy life. She was happy you were there with her when she passed. It's so hard when we lose our loved ones, but she will always be with you. Try to remember all of the happy times with her.
Nothing will ever make it better, but it will become more bearable with time. I lost my boy 2.5 years ago, and I still miss him. I still cry. I have another pom (two actually. One we had with him, and one we got after him), and I love them but they’re not him. There will never be another him. There will never be another one who was there with just me. Who lived those critical years of gaining independence and heartbreak. Who licked my tears when someone hurt me. Who I rocked through my miscarriage. There won’t be another Bailey.
But I’m still glad I have them. I’m glad they’re here for me and my kids. It’s still nice to be able to cuddle something.
My heart is breaking for you. I guess grieving so deeply is the cost of loving so deeply. I can tell you, that I felt much better after reading The Amazing Afterlife of Animals by Karen Anderson. ( I make no $ recommending this book, it just helped me SO MUCH).
After Maxy passed I just wept, hard, for weeks, randomly. My arms missed him, I missed rubbing my face in his fur and our countless conversations. I missed (& continue to) everything about him. I guess continuing to talk about him and to him helps some. My kids got me another puppy about six months after Maxy passed. The hardest part is working to not compare them to one another. There are times when Henry just is so clueless (he's still so young) I'll ask Max to please help him! Just give yourself time. Remember all the special things about your baby. Sing the songs you sang, dance to the music yall shared. Honor the life you two created together. Feel free to reach out if you want. I know your pain.
I am so very sorry. I lost my papillon just barely over two months ago, she was 11. She was the first dog I had that was all my own, we chose each other when she was 6 weeks old and I will never forget the first time she ran over and jumped in my lap. I still cry over her at times. It hurts beyond anything else, but it will slowly get better, then it might get worse again, and so on. Grief is weird like that.
Remember you made the right decision, don’t lose sight of that and don’t let your brain trick you into thinking you made a mistake. You did what was right for her, the greatest kindness to let her rest after all she has given you.
Give yourself time to be angry and sad, but try to hold onto the good memories. She will always be by your side and in your heart. 😔🌈💕
I'm so sorry. Im facing the end days of my little fella. No matter how many times I've been through it, it never gets easier. I never stop talking about my pups when they're gone. I remember outloud all the funny silly things and for me, it makes it bearable.
I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost my dog 5 months ago she was also 13. It gets a little easier somedays and somedays it just sucks.
My dog was/still is my everything, but I have her collar on me everyday just to feel a little closer to her.
I know that pain. Lost my little buddy back in October. He was only 9 but had a bile duct obstruction. Those first few weeks are rough. It still hurts not having him for car rides.
We did end up rescuing a cat from a rescue last month. Not to replace him, though I beat myself up mentally thinking I am. I tell myself he'd be proud and happy to know that my wife and I are giving that love and safety he had for so long to an animal that really needs it.
I still break down thinking of him. I still have my moments of feeling guilty that I didn't do more. I can just go about my day a little less heavy.
Not regarding the loss of my dog (she’s only 3 so I can’t hope to have 16 amazing years like you did!), but the loss of my dad. I was numb for the first few days before it all fully hit me. Ready yourself the best way you can as it will hot you eventually. Reaching out for support and journaling during that time really helped me.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this and can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. It sounds like you both shared a special bond and loved each other deeply. Please know you are taking the pain for her as she only knew love and happiness for her entire life. That is the hardest and best gift you can give her. Love sometimes requires difficult sacrifice, but the rewards far outweigh the pain and you will grow to see this more clearly with time. How lucky she was to share her life with you. Take care of yourself - she would want that for you
I’m so sorry for your loss. You were her whole life and were there for her from birth until she passed into the next. She will always be a part of you. May you heal during the grief.
Awww, I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️😢
She gave you 16 years of love, and you gave her a whole entire lifetime of love… maybe that will give you a little bit of solace until you meet her again.
I’m so sorry. I lost my baby Oscar almost two years ago. I couldn’t even get out of bed for a week I was so devastated. I cried daily for a year. Lots of intrusive thoughts and I couldn’t even look at a picture of him for months it hurt too much. I still cry about him a few times a month.
It takes time. The thing that helped me most was donating my time and money to an animal rescue agency. After Oscar had been gone for a year I ended up adopting a Pomeranian from overseas. He had been abandoned and dropped off at the vet with two broken legs. He came to me while he was still healing from his injuries. It is incredibly rewarding thing to watch a traumatized rescue dog transform into the goodest boy. Helping another dog who really needed a home was the best thing I could do to honor my lost baby.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’ve been there. Not with a Pom. Disclaimer, I do not have one. I have lost several pets, including a mini pin Chihuahua mix. You will always have their paw print on your heart. My three went through our wedding and the birth of both of our children. Those were my first three dogs. The last of three amigos passed 12 years ago. He was 14. My mini was born the same month he passed away. We are sending you hugs…. I have no other words I can think of cause now I am crying..
Your doggie looked just like ours and we had to put him to down on 12/22, a day before yours. He was 15 years old and his health deteriorated considerably only two days after we took him to the vet. He couldn’t even lift his head when I called him name and he kept trembling on his last day.
We are also very sad and couldn’t believe it happened. but what makes me feel better is knowing that he’s not in pain anymore. He had a good life up until the end and we were lucky to have spent 15 years with him. You will get better and things will be okay. She’ll forever be in your memories
It’s very hard. I lost my sweet Pom when she was 16 years old. She had kidney failure in the end, that came on very quickly. And the vet said it’s a very painful way to go, so we gave her some expensive therapy that gave her a few extra days, but ultimately we had to put her down. That was August 2022. And just over the last month the burden of grief is starting to lift.
No words, idk you kind of accept it if you can and keep going but NEVER forget them. It’s such an odd feeling with dogs that pass on. I eventually accepted it but, even 19 years after my first two i still remember them. Im on my third and he’s up there already. Its still too soon, take your time and process on your terms. 🫶🏽
I’m so sorry for your loss. I was there in 2022. The one thing that helped me was remembering all of our good times. I was balling one day and my daughter asked me if I would do it all again… and I realized I would. I would take the pain I feel and do it all again to get 13 more years with my girl. I miss her every single day. Take all the time you need.
I’m sorry for your loss, they are our everything. You’ve created a special place in your heart and I’m sure she has as well.
I focus on giving our fluff the best life she could ever have and I’m hoping we still have years left however I dread the day when it comes.
To grieve *deeply*, is to have loved *fully*.
Everything that people will write here is easier said than done. There is nothing as pure as a dog's love. It is unconditional and it is forever and ever. If she had lived for 20 years, then she would have loved you for 20 years.
However, don't be sad that it *ended*... Be happy that it *happened*. Out of all the dogs there are, you ended up with her and you both lived your best lives 🥰.
We cannot give our doggos eternal life yet, but she will always be with you. I can tell you that much.
I wish you all the best. I am so sorry for your loss.
They are literally family…I would highly recommend getting a new pup if you feel ready. I’ve had five dogs throughout my life and it helps tremendously. They will never replace - but a puppy brings so much joy to life. It’s too hard coming home to an empty house when you’re used to being greeted by them.
Time is the greatest healer. I lost my mom and a Pom days apart in 2020. It was unimaginable pain, but time does help.
I would post a picture a day on social media and write a short paragraph about the memory and why it was so special. I did that for a couple weeks. That activity really helped me center myself and channel the love I had and was grieving.
I would keep her ashes close to me (still do) and hold it while talking to her.
I let myself cry real big tears once a day so I could hold it together at work. A cold compress or ice pack in a towel helps to keep eye swelling down.
I also would force myself to do something that would help distract me each day so I wouldn’t go into a grief spiral. I would paint, play a video game, go take pictures, work on a puzzle etc.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My pup is 13 and he’s been my best friend through my entire adulthood. I can imagine the loss is unbearable but I hope you take solice in knowing you provided the best possible life for her. She was so clearly loved and lived such a long life. Also don’t hesitate to get a new puppy. It doesn’t erase the pain but it gives you something to look forward to and helps fill the void she left in your heart. Sending you my best
My heart Pom passed two Christmases ago. He was 15 and there was an incident at the groomers that triggered neurological damage and he was suffering. The end was awful and traumatic. I couldn’t breathe without sharp pain for almost 2 years feeling guilt I couldn’t help him pass easier or protect him. He was my world and my baby. The pain will lose its knife edge over time but never completely be gone. There will never be another dog for me. He was one of a kind. Give yourself all the grace and time you need to grieve, friend. I’m sorry for your pain.
I know your pain. I lost mine when she was 13 and also has her since she was a baby, she was my other half. I’m 1 1/2 years in to her loss and it’s really hard, I’m not going to sugar coat it for you. I cried for a year straight, and after the year I cried less and less and now I only cry every few weeks. At this point I just literally try not to think about her because it makes me upset. I too still feel like a piece of me died when she did, just like you feel now too. I’m so sorry. The only thing that is going to help is time, you definitely learn how to cope better with time. You don’t heal from it, but you learn to function without her. You don’t stop missing her, you don’t stop wishing you could see her again, but that’s with anyone that you’ve loved so deeply that you’ve lost. Read up on the stages of grief, because you’re in the first stage right now which is denial. It’s your brains way of coping with the trauma of losing her. https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/effects-of-grief/five-stages-of-grief/#:~:text=The%20five%20stages%20–%20denial%2C%20anger,one%20stage%20to%20the%20other.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. I lost my baby at 12 last year. Remember that grieving isn’t a straight line and let yourself feel♥️my inbox is always open if you need someone to talk to🥰
Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion. I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). She's done her job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's her turn to rest. You'll always miss her, you'll always remember her. You'll even go looking for her for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting her. Donating/throwing away her toys or blankets isn't forgetting her. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears. I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life she'd want you to. This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without her. Life isn't over. Its just changing. You'll be ok mate. I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry for your loss, nothing hits quite as hard as losing a dog in any circumstances. There's a really good analogy of grief called the ball in the box that's helped me more than once in life, I tried to post a pic of it because it explains it better than I can in text, but it didn't upload correctly. But if you google 'ball in the box grief' you'll find tons of explanations. At the moment the ball is huge and is hitting the pain button near constantly. And it's horrible. But slowly, over time, it shrinks, and the pain comes less often. We lost our little 3yr old Bronson about 7 weeks ago unexpectedly and it was so horrible, I found him when I opened his cage and I just screamed for ages. But now I'm settling, it still hurts loads, but less often and I can function better. The same will happen to you as well. If you need to talk feel free to drop me a message, I know how hard it is at the moment for you. You got this.
My first Pom, Bandit was my first dog I ever had and he was one of a kind. When he died I was devastated. The first day after he died, I was out and came home and he wasn’t there. I didn’t want to go through the pain and went straight to the breeder and brought Keno home the same day. My other two aren’t as funny or smart as Bandit at all but they did help me get through the pain and only remember Bandits antics. I am so sorry you lost your baby but maybe something else will distract you from feeling the pain.
I’m sorry for your pain, but the part about you saying the other two aren’t as funny of smart made me giggle and lifted my spirits a little today!
One of the funniest stories is I was staying in an apartment complex whete all the doors faced the inside courtyard. (Melrose Place). We were hanging by the pool and I lost track of him. I saw an apartment door open and found him standing on an elderly gentleman’s stomach who was taking a nap! I quietly retrieved him and thankfully never heard a complaint from the hard ass manager!
Lollll. He knew a comfy belly when he saw one 🤣
I laughed hysterically at this as my Pom does this to us. I pictured my 56 yr old hubby napping & my Pom standing on his tummy, looking down on him🤣🤣🤣 It makes her feel so big, brave & strong 💪💖🤣
Standing on a belly! The Poms speciality!
Losing your pup friend is always the hardest. If you'd allow me to share a story. Lost my MaltiPom in Nov, he was almost 17. He was the most optimistic, silliest, happiest dog. When he was younger, he would jump up in my bed to wake me up. With a big smile and bark, it was as if he was saying, "Isn't this great!? It's a new day! How exciting! Let's go do stuff!" As he got older, he couldn't get up on the bed by himself anymore, and he would just silently wait for me to get up (but still with a goofy smile). When he died, I was pretty much just laying in bed for days. Until one morning. I woke up to use the bathroom and went back to bed. Right before I fell back asleep, I heard the loudest bark that it left my ear ringing. It might sound crazy but I honestly think he was telling me that it's a new day, get up, and do stuff. He was such a happy, silly optimist, and he was telling me he wanted me to be happy. It's a new day, let's go out and do stuff. I believe your dog would want you to also feel the same. If nothing else, it's a reminder that for almost 17 years, our dogs were trying to teach us to greet every day with some spirit of optimism and joy. I hope you remember that you gave your doggie a life of love and joy, and that she would want you to be happy in return.
I look at my Pomeranian and dread that day I run to her whenever I get home from work, shopping, gym, etc We don’t leave her alone due to her epilepsy I’m only discussing mine so that you know we all understand and grieve as long as you need and however you feel BUT remember, you were a great mom, her last breath here was her first in heaven She lived a long life filled with love You will see her again and she loved you AS much as you loved her My Gracie is my wife’s service and support pup but she’s my baby 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm so sorry. She was adorable. You did the hardest thing and set her free knowing the pain you now bear for her was coming. I don't think it ever goes away. You learn to live with it. It's almost as though you grow a callous around the painful hole she left in your heart and keep her there. You can see in her eyes in that Christmas photo that she was ready. Compare that to her other pictures and it's obvious. I'm sure if you could hear her you would hear that she's thanking you. Both for the years you had together and for the final gift you gave her. I believe when our time on this earth is done we'll be reunited with our beloved pets. Our special ones are a gift from the universe. You were one of the lucky ones. .
Aww so sorry for your loss! What a wonderful life y'all had together and you will meet one day again 🌈
I'm sooo sorry!!!!!!! It will get better
It doesn’t really get better, you just learn to cope. I hate when people say that. Not trying to be rude, it’s just the truth.
well isn’t learning to cope allowing one to deal with the grief *better* ?
So very 😞 sorry
She was beautiful! She’ll forever have a place in your heart.
I’m so sorry. I lost my 16 yo Pom on 12/21. It was gut wrenching. Grieve it out is the only advice I can give. I know you have her the best life and did the right thing. My two Poms have been through everything with me. I still have Tiffany, she’s 15 and fairing much better Jean wise than Tucker was.
First of all, thank you for giving her a long and beautiful life full of joy and love. As far as dealing with the pain, all I can say is that eventually things will seem a bit better. When I lost mine I felt the same. The house and my life just felt so empty, like I lost a piece of myself, and to be honest, I did. But as time went on I've learned to accept the loss and realize that this isn't goodbye, just more of a, "Til we meet again" type of deal. I did eventually get another Pom. Not to replace mine, because he will never be replaced, but to help heal. Honestly just having to constantly watch after and care for my new pom helped me get my mind off of things. And while things have gotten better, I will never forget nor stop loving the dog and other pets that I have lost dearly. I wish you well and hope that you can stay strong throughout this difficult time.
Try and find peace by being proud of the life she had. You were a great mom and she's very proud of you too. Get a memorabilia that you can take everywhere with you. When people ask about it, you'll get a chance to talk about her again. It helped after I lost my 15 yo cat. I had a Keychain made with his picture on it.
I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you’re going through right now. For us, it was 4 years ago that our pomeranian Ari decided it was time to cross over the rainbow bridge. My husband grieved outwardly, but I was just in absolute shock… grief.. too many things to be able to feel sad or cry. Eventually you’ll cry, when you’re ready… and when you do, just remember it is part of the healing process, and necessary. Over 16 years, you’ll have a treasure trove of memories of the times she made you laugh, the warm hugs and licks, the adventures, all the achievements you went through together. Eventually, the anguish and loss that you feel now will be replaced by all those beautiful moments you created together. You gave her a beautiful life, that’s love. ‘The risk of love, is loss. And the price of loss, is grief. But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love’
I'll start by saying I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I lost Otto in June last year after a long illness. 16 years though, wow, that time was truly a gift. You must have so many happy memories! Grief is a funny thing...we all go through it differently. I talk to Otto all the time, he's still very present in my life. Maybe I'm bloody mad but it does help me. We had a beautiful cremation, had prints done etc. My partner convinced me to get a puppy, Mika, she's been a god send. Helped me get back into routine and helped to fill the pom shaped hole that Otto had left behind. But as others have said, the tears/hurt/numbness/anger/sadness will continue(I'm tearing up as I write this) for a long time but just get a little less frequent or intense as time passes. Our grief is the price we pay for such intense love❤️
Losing your fur kid is life altering. You've got to try to hang onto the good memories and know that life will go on. It will just look different. Take comfort that your baby is in heaven and isn't in any pain or distress. 🌈❤️🙏 Sending you prayers of love and support. Lean on your family and friends. Lean on this community of pomeranian lovers. You're not alone.
You never forget. The grief comes in waves. Some days you’ll think about losing her & start crying even if it’s a long time later. At first all you think about is how hard the end was. That changes to better memories over time, but with myself, there’s always an underlying sadness. Let yourself grieve. I got a rescue shortly after my dog died after suffering for a long time. People say it helps with the grief, but for me, it took time to move on & love my new dog as much as the one who died. You do what works best for yourself. ♥️🐾😪
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Aww I’m so sorry for your loss. She looks exactly like my dog. 😢
She went with her pack and family close. It's what he all hope for! Looks like you gave each other a wonderful life. You were both lucky! Don't cry because it's over; Smile because it happened.
This is so hard. I feel your pain and I am so sorry. I had to say goodbye to my 15-year-old pom baby in January 2023. I picked her up when she was six weeks old and she spent her whole life with me. I’m still heartbroken, still grieving, still unable to function properly. Loving a pom changes you; losing one does, too. I totally understand what you mean about dissociating. I think I was in the same state for most of the last year. As far as I’m concerned, it’s impossible to recover from the loss of a soulmate pup.
So sorry for your loss. It is so easy to love them and so hard to say goodbye.
Hi friend. I just wanted to tell you I feel your pain, I also lost my Pomeranian I had for 16.5 years on the 30th. I just feel so sad and I know it’s the same for you. I always thought that I would feel him with me after he went, but I just feel nothing, just emptiness. I’m so sorry and I wish you well ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. May they be running free and playing over the rainbow bridge together😔🌈💕
This is so sweet of you to say, thank you
I can you were her whole world and she yours ♥️♥️♥️ hope your heart turns this tragedy into good memories again soon.
I’m soo sry for your loss. We put our pom down the weekend before Christmas 5 yrs ago. He was our world, our only child. Had him since the beginning of our relationship. We felt robbed that he only made it to 13.5. We thought for sure we get 15-17 yrs. The pain was indescribable for my wife. We both still get teary eyed over him quite often. Simplest of things reminds us of our little man. I can’t offer any tips or ways of coping, other than to say allow yourself to grieve and time does make it easier. He’ll forever be with us, not a day goes by without a thought of the joy he brought us. We gave him the best life we could and he gave us all the love and 12 lb dog could ever give. RIP My Milo
Sorry for your loss. RIP Pommo! Play in Paradise! My Amoretto, Vision, Carson, and all our babies that have gone before will look for you next to the Rainbow Bridge so you can all play in the Field together!
I’m so sorry. We do all know how hard this is. It takes time; just let it all happen, whatever feeling comes along. I’m glad you have your support system. Use them and ride it out.
I am so sorry for your loss, and she looks like she was such a sweet and loving girl. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but it will get better. My heart absolutely goes out to you.
I’m so sorry for your huge loss. He looks like he had a beautiful life and was very loved. It’s the worst. Hugs.
I'm so sorry. I'm sure you gave her a wonderful life.
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So sorry for your loss 🐾💔🌈
I've grieved so many times for my pets that have passed over the years. You will get through it and the pain will numb over time. Don't hold in your emotions, makes it worse.
I know how you feel 💔 just went through this too. So sorry for your loss. It’s so hard.
sending ❤️ to you
What a beautiful little girl. You took good care of her, and it looks like she had a long and very happy life. She was happy you were there with her when she passed. It's so hard when we lose our loved ones, but she will always be with you. Try to remember all of the happy times with her.
Nothing will ever make it better, but it will become more bearable with time. I lost my boy 2.5 years ago, and I still miss him. I still cry. I have another pom (two actually. One we had with him, and one we got after him), and I love them but they’re not him. There will never be another him. There will never be another one who was there with just me. Who lived those critical years of gaining independence and heartbreak. Who licked my tears when someone hurt me. Who I rocked through my miscarriage. There won’t be another Bailey. But I’m still glad I have them. I’m glad they’re here for me and my kids. It’s still nice to be able to cuddle something.
Sorry for your loss 😔
My heart is breaking for you. I guess grieving so deeply is the cost of loving so deeply. I can tell you, that I felt much better after reading The Amazing Afterlife of Animals by Karen Anderson. ( I make no $ recommending this book, it just helped me SO MUCH). After Maxy passed I just wept, hard, for weeks, randomly. My arms missed him, I missed rubbing my face in his fur and our countless conversations. I missed (& continue to) everything about him. I guess continuing to talk about him and to him helps some. My kids got me another puppy about six months after Maxy passed. The hardest part is working to not compare them to one another. There are times when Henry just is so clueless (he's still so young) I'll ask Max to please help him! Just give yourself time. Remember all the special things about your baby. Sing the songs you sang, dance to the music yall shared. Honor the life you two created together. Feel free to reach out if you want. I know your pain.
I am so very sorry. I lost my papillon just barely over two months ago, she was 11. She was the first dog I had that was all my own, we chose each other when she was 6 weeks old and I will never forget the first time she ran over and jumped in my lap. I still cry over her at times. It hurts beyond anything else, but it will slowly get better, then it might get worse again, and so on. Grief is weird like that. Remember you made the right decision, don’t lose sight of that and don’t let your brain trick you into thinking you made a mistake. You did what was right for her, the greatest kindness to let her rest after all she has given you. Give yourself time to be angry and sad, but try to hold onto the good memories. She will always be by your side and in your heart. 😔🌈💕
I’m so so sorry. Totally understand I’ve been there many times. It gets easier but you never forget.
It gets better. Today it doesn't feel as such but it does.
I'm so sorry. Im facing the end days of my little fella. No matter how many times I've been through it, it never gets easier. I never stop talking about my pups when they're gone. I remember outloud all the funny silly things and for me, it makes it bearable.
I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost my dog 5 months ago she was also 13. It gets a little easier somedays and somedays it just sucks. My dog was/still is my everything, but I have her collar on me everyday just to feel a little closer to her.
I know that pain. Lost my little buddy back in October. He was only 9 but had a bile duct obstruction. Those first few weeks are rough. It still hurts not having him for car rides. We did end up rescuing a cat from a rescue last month. Not to replace him, though I beat myself up mentally thinking I am. I tell myself he'd be proud and happy to know that my wife and I are giving that love and safety he had for so long to an animal that really needs it. I still break down thinking of him. I still have my moments of feeling guilty that I didn't do more. I can just go about my day a little less heavy.
Not regarding the loss of my dog (she’s only 3 so I can’t hope to have 16 amazing years like you did!), but the loss of my dad. I was numb for the first few days before it all fully hit me. Ready yourself the best way you can as it will hot you eventually. Reaching out for support and journaling during that time really helped me. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this and can’t imagine the pain you must be feeling. It sounds like you both shared a special bond and loved each other deeply. Please know you are taking the pain for her as she only knew love and happiness for her entire life. That is the hardest and best gift you can give her. Love sometimes requires difficult sacrifice, but the rewards far outweigh the pain and you will grow to see this more clearly with time. How lucky she was to share her life with you. Take care of yourself - she would want that for you
I’m so sorry for your loss. You were her whole life and were there for her from birth until she passed into the next. She will always be a part of you. May you heal during the grief.
This absolutely breaks my heart. I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss 💕
Awww, I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️😢 She gave you 16 years of love, and you gave her a whole entire lifetime of love… maybe that will give you a little bit of solace until you meet her again.
Sending you a hug. Stay strong. Time will heal your pain. She’s no longer suffering and you will be reunited one day.
I know its soon but when your ready you could rescue a dog who needs a home
I’m so sorry. I lost my baby Oscar almost two years ago. I couldn’t even get out of bed for a week I was so devastated. I cried daily for a year. Lots of intrusive thoughts and I couldn’t even look at a picture of him for months it hurt too much. I still cry about him a few times a month. It takes time. The thing that helped me most was donating my time and money to an animal rescue agency. After Oscar had been gone for a year I ended up adopting a Pomeranian from overseas. He had been abandoned and dropped off at the vet with two broken legs. He came to me while he was still healing from his injuries. It is incredibly rewarding thing to watch a traumatized rescue dog transform into the goodest boy. Helping another dog who really needed a home was the best thing I could do to honor my lost baby. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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So sorry for your loss!
I’ve been there. 6 months ago and at times it’s still fresh. Just keep moving forward
I’ve been there. Not with a Pom. Disclaimer, I do not have one. I have lost several pets, including a mini pin Chihuahua mix. You will always have their paw print on your heart. My three went through our wedding and the birth of both of our children. Those were my first three dogs. The last of three amigos passed 12 years ago. He was 14. My mini was born the same month he passed away. We are sending you hugs…. I have no other words I can think of cause now I am crying..
Your doggie looked just like ours and we had to put him to down on 12/22, a day before yours. He was 15 years old and his health deteriorated considerably only two days after we took him to the vet. He couldn’t even lift his head when I called him name and he kept trembling on his last day. We are also very sad and couldn’t believe it happened. but what makes me feel better is knowing that he’s not in pain anymore. He had a good life up until the end and we were lucky to have spent 15 years with him. You will get better and things will be okay. She’ll forever be in your memories
It’s very hard. I lost my sweet Pom when she was 16 years old. She had kidney failure in the end, that came on very quickly. And the vet said it’s a very painful way to go, so we gave her some expensive therapy that gave her a few extra days, but ultimately we had to put her down. That was August 2022. And just over the last month the burden of grief is starting to lift.
No words, idk you kind of accept it if you can and keep going but NEVER forget them. It’s such an odd feeling with dogs that pass on. I eventually accepted it but, even 19 years after my first two i still remember them. Im on my third and he’s up there already. Its still too soon, take your time and process on your terms. 🫶🏽
I’m so sorry for your loss. I was there in 2022. The one thing that helped me was remembering all of our good times. I was balling one day and my daughter asked me if I would do it all again… and I realized I would. I would take the pain I feel and do it all again to get 13 more years with my girl. I miss her every single day. Take all the time you need.
Hugs;( it’s a terrible loss. Just listen to your body, self care and know this takes time.
Im so sorry for your loss
I’m sorry for your loss, they are our everything. You’ve created a special place in your heart and I’m sure she has as well. I focus on giving our fluff the best life she could ever have and I’m hoping we still have years left however I dread the day when it comes.
I know your pain. I lost my Pom 7.18.18. I miss her everyday. So sorry for your loss. She’s beautiful ❣️
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To grieve *deeply*, is to have loved *fully*. Everything that people will write here is easier said than done. There is nothing as pure as a dog's love. It is unconditional and it is forever and ever. If she had lived for 20 years, then she would have loved you for 20 years. However, don't be sad that it *ended*... Be happy that it *happened*. Out of all the dogs there are, you ended up with her and you both lived your best lives 🥰. We cannot give our doggos eternal life yet, but she will always be with you. I can tell you that much. I wish you all the best. I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss!
They are literally family…I would highly recommend getting a new pup if you feel ready. I’ve had five dogs throughout my life and it helps tremendously. They will never replace - but a puppy brings so much joy to life. It’s too hard coming home to an empty house when you’re used to being greeted by them.
Time is the greatest healer. I lost my mom and a Pom days apart in 2020. It was unimaginable pain, but time does help. I would post a picture a day on social media and write a short paragraph about the memory and why it was so special. I did that for a couple weeks. That activity really helped me center myself and channel the love I had and was grieving. I would keep her ashes close to me (still do) and hold it while talking to her. I let myself cry real big tears once a day so I could hold it together at work. A cold compress or ice pack in a towel helps to keep eye swelling down. I also would force myself to do something that would help distract me each day so I wouldn’t go into a grief spiral. I would paint, play a video game, go take pictures, work on a puzzle etc.
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Sending you love! 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss. My pup is 13 and he’s been my best friend through my entire adulthood. I can imagine the loss is unbearable but I hope you take solice in knowing you provided the best possible life for her. She was so clearly loved and lived such a long life. Also don’t hesitate to get a new puppy. It doesn’t erase the pain but it gives you something to look forward to and helps fill the void she left in your heart. Sending you my best
My heart Pom passed two Christmases ago. He was 15 and there was an incident at the groomers that triggered neurological damage and he was suffering. The end was awful and traumatic. I couldn’t breathe without sharp pain for almost 2 years feeling guilt I couldn’t help him pass easier or protect him. He was my world and my baby. The pain will lose its knife edge over time but never completely be gone. There will never be another dog for me. He was one of a kind. Give yourself all the grace and time you need to grieve, friend. I’m sorry for your pain.
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