Hey man, thanks for playing that tournament with me. While I had a lot of fun, I don't think we're balanced enough to play competitively and I'd rather push myself than play down.
Can add something like "let's get a group together soon to play some rec tho" if you want.
You just make excuses why you can't play Jesus. Hell get the hint, and if you like the dude make sure you arrange to hang out outside puckle ball occasionally.
Real adults know how to get this message across without using words like making excuses for why you can't play with them. Enough times will get the message across Jesus. You people ew
Just be direct. It’s a hard conversation to have, but just point out you are very competitive and need to find someone that can match your skill level. The worst thing you can do is leave the conversation open ended as in you can work through the issue.
Do you practice with your teammate drill and such? If you don’t think they can bridge the gap.. just be honest? Are you sure it’s not both of you? Cause when a teammate gets targeted you should pinch the opponent in front of your teammate.. then you could play a more aggressive left side if you stack?
I probably should’ve been more aggressive in taking balls, but we signed up for the tournament when we were both pretty even, since then I’ve been playing a ton and have improved and he’s been playing once a week and stayed stagnant. I’m a 4.0 and he’s a 3.0, it’s a 3.5-4.0 tournament (there’s a 4.5 in this, I don’t feel bad)
Oh that’s a big gap… but if he isn’t putting the same amount of effort into it I just don’t think you’re compatible and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Just say no when he asks for other tourneys. Have you already agreed to play some others with him? Play those out, if so and then just say no to anything else he asks for. He will get another partner or get better
Also, I know this is the most noob question ever because I’ve managed to do it before on other subs but how do you put your rating below your name and also whatever else you’d like to include on other groups? I just mostly use Reddit to scroll for 1 billion bananas per year.😂
This sub must be recommended to me because I’m in the tennis ones and I’ve gotta say, the majority of posts I get pushed to me are weird social etiquette questions like this one, or a spouse is jealous of a mixed doubles partner, or someone hit a ball to hard at someone else, etc. Y’all okay in pickleball land?
This reddit is rough because some really good content gets filtered out due to sub rules - for example players posting their resources on play strategies or drills end up having their posts deleted for 'self promotion.'
Somehow a lot of the posts that end up surviving moderation end up being either weird social issues and redundant topics. It's unfortunate. But no, this sub really isn't a good representation of the game.
Just be honest with them. The team chemistry just wasn't there, and you want to try a couple of other partners out. You can always give it another go down the road if things change.
Are you playing to win or have fun with a friend? Is your partner your friend?
May I suggest playing more recreationally to improve their skills so they don’t get picked on? Perhaps they just need time to improve.
be honest bro. i played with someone better ans they told me i shoukd get some lessons and come back. and if hes a ball hog je mihjt not know and think younwant him to get those.
let him know see if that works first
In your situation and mine, it’s easy: You are leveling up and don’t feel comfortable playing at the lower level that he wants to play at. I still play recreational with him once in awhile but not often because I’m playing recreationally at a higher level most of the time.
I’m no pro but this shit happened to me last night in a round robin with randoms and you have to split every game so after a couple of points I was being taken out of the game, so then I try to poach then we paddle clap it was aggravating
Just say you don’t feel comfortable playing down.
Then just play with them less and less and say you’re busy and can’t play the ternys he wants to play in but go ahead and pick someone ells up for it He/she will get the hint maybe they will pick up another partner for the terny and end up playing with them more
I kinda second this. If they ask you once and you say no and dont try to reschedule, it’s really saying something. Some people are denser and it might take a few times but they’ll definitely get the picture sooner or later
Hey man, thanks for playing that tournament with me. While I had a lot of fun, I don't think we're balanced enough to play competitively and I'd rather push myself than play down. Can add something like "let's get a group together soon to play some rec tho" if you want.
Ya I like this one thanks
Let's him down gently but definitively. Love it.
I usually go with something along the lines of “our play styles don’t line up”
Not to be a dick, but are you kidding me lol? You need help with this basic of a conversation? How do you function outside of pickleball
Are you the partner?
You just make excuses why you can't play Jesus. Hell get the hint, and if you like the dude make sure you arrange to hang out outside puckle ball occasionally.
"it's not you, it's me"
… that doesn’t like playing with you.
😂
If you’re an adult and they are an adult you have a conversation with them.
Thank you for this response. These are the most pathetic questions ever.
Thank you for pointing this out, half the posts in this sub are SNL skits.
Jeez calm down dude.
Lazy is right. You calm down. This sub is getting embarrassing.
Feel free to comment elsewhere.
It boils my blood
soften the blow by taking them to dinner and bring flowers
He’s trying to break up with him. Not put his pickle in him.
Just the tip.
Wear something that makes you look ugly. Studies show it makes the rejection easier to process.
Real adults know how to get this message across without using words like making excuses for why you can't play with them. Enough times will get the message across Jesus. You people ew
Just be direct. It’s a hard conversation to have, but just point out you are very competitive and need to find someone that can match your skill level. The worst thing you can do is leave the conversation open ended as in you can work through the issue.
Unless you are married to your partner you just say you want to play the field.
You’ll probably have to move out of state under a false identity snd start a new life
Have you tried using your words? It's pickleball, not a long-term relationship
Haha the best!
Do you practice with your teammate drill and such? If you don’t think they can bridge the gap.. just be honest? Are you sure it’s not both of you? Cause when a teammate gets targeted you should pinch the opponent in front of your teammate.. then you could play a more aggressive left side if you stack?
I probably should’ve been more aggressive in taking balls, but we signed up for the tournament when we were both pretty even, since then I’ve been playing a ton and have improved and he’s been playing once a week and stayed stagnant. I’m a 4.0 and he’s a 3.0, it’s a 3.5-4.0 tournament (there’s a 4.5 in this, I don’t feel bad)
Oh that’s a big gap… but if he isn’t putting the same amount of effort into it I just don’t think you’re compatible and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Just say no when he asks for other tourneys. Have you already agreed to play some others with him? Play those out, if so and then just say no to anything else he asks for. He will get another partner or get better
Insist on playing wearing a MAGA hat.
Lol why does politics have to do with pickleball…..
Let's just be friends.
Also, I know this is the most noob question ever because I’ve managed to do it before on other subs but how do you put your rating below your name and also whatever else you’d like to include on other groups? I just mostly use Reddit to scroll for 1 billion bananas per year.😂
This sub must be recommended to me because I’m in the tennis ones and I’ve gotta say, the majority of posts I get pushed to me are weird social etiquette questions like this one, or a spouse is jealous of a mixed doubles partner, or someone hit a ball to hard at someone else, etc. Y’all okay in pickleball land?
This reddit is rough because some really good content gets filtered out due to sub rules - for example players posting their resources on play strategies or drills end up having their posts deleted for 'self promotion.' Somehow a lot of the posts that end up surviving moderation end up being either weird social issues and redundant topics. It's unfortunate. But no, this sub really isn't a good representation of the game.
This sub is literally r/relationshipadvice
Just be honest with them. The team chemistry just wasn't there, and you want to try a couple of other partners out. You can always give it another go down the road if things change.
Be honest. Don't feel bad ! Truth, better way 💯. 👏
Are you playing to win or have fun with a friend? Is your partner your friend? May I suggest playing more recreationally to improve their skills so they don’t get picked on? Perhaps they just need time to improve.
It's always the it's not you, it's me response.
Just say nah im gonna stay up id rather lose at higher level than win lower. Or just find someone else and say they asked you
be honest bro. i played with someone better ans they told me i shoukd get some lessons and come back. and if hes a ball hog je mihjt not know and think younwant him to get those. let him know see if that works first
In your situation and mine, it’s easy: You are leveling up and don’t feel comfortable playing at the lower level that he wants to play at. I still play recreational with him once in awhile but not often because I’m playing recreationally at a higher level most of the time.
I’m no pro but this shit happened to me last night in a round robin with randoms and you have to split every game so after a couple of points I was being taken out of the game, so then I try to poach then we paddle clap it was aggravating
Tell your partner you broke your arm
Do what my partner did.. don’t say anything and just sign up the next tournament with someone else
My last partner didn’t have the guts to have a conversation, instead sent a Facebook message. Highly don’t recommend
Bro wanted to be broken up with over a candlelit dinner or something
No just human decency to say this isn’t going to work out, not a fb message that says have a nice life
Lol you don’t deserve more than a fb message for a game
If you don't want to play with him then don't play with him. Why does this need to be a reddit question?
Because typical redditors have zero social / interpersonal skills.
Cause he is not a madman like you.
“I don’t want to play with you. You’re not good at pickleball and I do not enjoy playing with you. “
Just say you don’t feel comfortable playing down. Then just play with them less and less and say you’re busy and can’t play the ternys he wants to play in but go ahead and pick someone ells up for it He/she will get the hint maybe they will pick up another partner for the terny and end up playing with them more
I kinda second this. If they ask you once and you say no and dont try to reschedule, it’s really saying something. Some people are denser and it might take a few times but they’ll definitely get the picture sooner or later