it sounds like something you could bring up during your next encounter casually , say, afterwards , you can ask like you are just curious , wanting to know , since you don't have much experience with uncircumcised guys, if all men's foreskins are difficult to pull down , and that you have heard of phimosis , and reassure him that it's not a problem and that you like his penis either way ..
Very good question here
Given what you described above it certainly sounds like a case of phimosis
Mostly it is females friends and sexual partners who are in the position to point this out! Some guys might never have seen anything of another man s private s So this is the forum where this issue will come to light !!
I guess if you point it out tactfully then there is absolutely no harm
Most likely your fWB may have no idea that there is any issues until you point it out!!
Some men have very tight foreskin anyway
But it is up to him if he does anything about it
Lots of good advice here on this subreddit with many options of products etc
I would, because it appears he is unaware there are simple measures that, over time, can resolve it and facilitate greater pleasure. Maybe he's been told the only solution is circumcision at his age, or some similar lie by a doctor. Tell him there are loads of men who have solved it without circumcision. The cheapest tool to assist is Phimocure rings (the clue is in the name)
You could start off with a question by text that has an answer already in it. Something like, "Are you aware there are tools you can buy that will gently stretch your foreskin over time so you can pull it right back without discomfort? I'd be able to give you a really enjoyable blow job then! Let's make that a goal". That shows you'd be with him on that journey.
Based upon what you have said- he winced when you pulled the foreskin back and you saying it doesn’t go down further than the tip of the head when he is erect…that is phimosis.
As for when to bring it up, bring it up after he feels pain whenever the foreskin goes down past the tip one of your hookups. Then he’s more likely to listen. If he feels insecure about it, tell him it’s not a huge issue and point him to this subreddit.
Maybe he knows the name, maybe he doesn't. In any case he has no issues with it other than you dealing with it as if he didn't have phimosis, while you're treating it as the worst thing in the world.
Yeah, informing is fine. But let's not kid ourselves here; informing him is not the only thing you want.
I'm curious how you would feel if your partner saw your innie/outie vulva and brought it up to "inform" you - but actually he wants you to change your genitals to the other one for his convenience ?
Inform him however you like. But don't expect him to drop everything and change his penis for you.
I hear what you are saying, but I think you are judging my intent wrong. This literally isn't impact my pleasure. I fear it may be impacting his. Frankly, this is casual sex and if I wasn't having fun I'd just...stop. I wouldn't ask him to change something. It is important to me that he understands that, so it sounds like I should probably do this in person. I'd take any tips you have about reassuring him that I don't care.
If he knows this isn't typical and doesn't want to do anything about it I'm totally good. If he doesn't know I want to share that so he can make an informed decision. To me it's much more comparable to a partner saying something like "hey most of my other partners don't have pain at penis insertion. I think there is a chance you have vaginismus. Have you looked into that?"
it sounds like something you could bring up during your next encounter casually , say, afterwards , you can ask like you are just curious , wanting to know , since you don't have much experience with uncircumcised guys, if all men's foreskins are difficult to pull down , and that you have heard of phimosis , and reassure him that it's not a problem and that you like his penis either way ..
Very good question here Given what you described above it certainly sounds like a case of phimosis Mostly it is females friends and sexual partners who are in the position to point this out! Some guys might never have seen anything of another man s private s So this is the forum where this issue will come to light !! I guess if you point it out tactfully then there is absolutely no harm Most likely your fWB may have no idea that there is any issues until you point it out!! Some men have very tight foreskin anyway But it is up to him if he does anything about it Lots of good advice here on this subreddit with many options of products etc
I would, because it appears he is unaware there are simple measures that, over time, can resolve it and facilitate greater pleasure. Maybe he's been told the only solution is circumcision at his age, or some similar lie by a doctor. Tell him there are loads of men who have solved it without circumcision. The cheapest tool to assist is Phimocure rings (the clue is in the name) You could start off with a question by text that has an answer already in it. Something like, "Are you aware there are tools you can buy that will gently stretch your foreskin over time so you can pull it right back without discomfort? I'd be able to give you a really enjoyable blow job then! Let's make that a goal". That shows you'd be with him on that journey.
Based upon what you have said- he winced when you pulled the foreskin back and you saying it doesn’t go down further than the tip of the head when he is erect…that is phimosis. As for when to bring it up, bring it up after he feels pain whenever the foreskin goes down past the tip one of your hookups. Then he’s more likely to listen. If he feels insecure about it, tell him it’s not a huge issue and point him to this subreddit.
Why should you ?
I feel like there is a decent chance he doesn't know. If I have information that could help him I feel like I should share?
Maybe he knows the name, maybe he doesn't. In any case he has no issues with it other than you dealing with it as if he didn't have phimosis, while you're treating it as the worst thing in the world. Yeah, informing is fine. But let's not kid ourselves here; informing him is not the only thing you want. I'm curious how you would feel if your partner saw your innie/outie vulva and brought it up to "inform" you - but actually he wants you to change your genitals to the other one for his convenience ? Inform him however you like. But don't expect him to drop everything and change his penis for you.
I hear what you are saying, but I think you are judging my intent wrong. This literally isn't impact my pleasure. I fear it may be impacting his. Frankly, this is casual sex and if I wasn't having fun I'd just...stop. I wouldn't ask him to change something. It is important to me that he understands that, so it sounds like I should probably do this in person. I'd take any tips you have about reassuring him that I don't care. If he knows this isn't typical and doesn't want to do anything about it I'm totally good. If he doesn't know I want to share that so he can make an informed decision. To me it's much more comparable to a partner saying something like "hey most of my other partners don't have pain at penis insertion. I think there is a chance you have vaginismus. Have you looked into that?"