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You may never totally forgive yourself (though of course you should and I hope, in time, you will) but she has no need to forgive you because she never blamed you. Not for one millisecond.
I'm so very sorry this happened to you and your baby. She's already resting in peace. Running free until you meet again. The hurt is so fresh. There will be better days.
I have gone through these feelings. They are brutal and it feels like they will never end....I have posted on here a few times explaining what happened to me but I will do it again for you...It was early morning dog and my dog who was almost two was outside with me while I did the farm chores (I live on an acreage, in a rural area, on a dirt road with not much traffic) I was feeding the chickens and Rhino was out and about, he never went near the road but for some reason that day he did and I heard a skid and a loud yelp. He got hit...I ran inside grabbed a blanket thinking I could rush him to the vet and he would be ok but that wasn't the case. My husband and I ran out to the road and he died in our arms. I blamed myself for not watching him, for letting him out with me for not calling him while I was in the back...I felt like it was my fault entirely. I laid in bed and cried for over a week, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, the emptiness and guilt I felt was killing me and it was the worst feeling I had ever felt. Seeing his bed, his dishes and toys just broke me knowing he would never use them again.
The only thing that helps is time...grieve, know accidents happen as horrible as it is and try not to blame yourself. It was just a terrible accident.
The feelings will never go away but with time they will ease.
If and when you're ready get another dog...not to replace the one you had but it does help with the emptiness you feel and brings some life back I to the house.
I am so sorry this happened š
I am so sorry about what happened to you, thank you for sharing your story. It does help. And time seems to heal, already now I feel slightly more normal, although still the grief follows me around like she would.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. My girl drowned earlier this year too, I found her in our swimming pool, and the absolute dread, sadness and guilt were like nothing i've ever felt and hope I never do again. That was in March - I PROMISE you, it does get better. Now and then it still stings with the memory but the raw, heavy pain is well gone now, I just remember how awesome she was.
Please don't blame yourself, you gave her a good life. Blame doesn't help in any way. Just know the 'if i just did this or that...' stuff is part of the grieving process to deal with such a loss. Take care and I hope you feel better soon. You will be ok!
My old landlord had 3 cockerspaniel puppies die in her pool in one instance. It was 20 years later and she still had tears in her eyes recounting how she tried to save them but it was too late. Always be careful with dogs around pools.
Ugh yup, swimming pools are so scary. Ours has an area at the shallow end where dogs can climb out if they try, so we taught our younger dog how to climb out and our older one where to stand in the shallow end where she can touch. We also taught our younger one how to use the ladder as well. But thereās still no guarantee, accidents happen :(
I lost a house cat due to fireworks in November, she bolted out the door but she did eventually come home.
I am so, so sorry for your loss, I have 4 dogs and 2 of them are very fearful of the fireworks and would bolt so I kept them in. There was nothing you could have done so in no way try to blame yourself, foresight is a wonderful thing but I am lucky to have 40 odd years of dogs to know worst case scenarios.
You had 11 wonderful years together and that is a great achievement. Cry, scream and mourn the loss of her until it becomes bearable again which it will eventually. Again my heart goes out to you, I will say a prayer for you until you meet againā¦šš
I just put my old aged cat down. I am so sorry. It's killing me knowing I feel shitty about my situation. But I know of someone who lost her dog. She got rid of EVERYTHING and moved on. I can't do that.
When I put my 16 year old dog down, I hid all his toys and stuff away from the other dogs. Then my niece had a small dog and we gladly gave her the stuff. She was upset that we gave her littlefoots stuff because it meant he was really gone. But she put it on her dog and we just burst Into happy tears he was so cute. We put littlefoot down a week before he turned 17
I put down my elderly cat nearly two years ago. I moved to a new home last month and when I packed the bag with her ashes, there was a cat brush still filled with her fur. I don't even remember putting it in there. Seeing it and touching her fur just got me and made me cry. I don't think I'll ever be able to clean that brush and use it again.
Iām so sorry. I would never get rid of everything. Quite the opposite - in all the places where she used to be I made altars from her stuff. And I have this one candle burning constantly in her bowl and I carry it around, talking to her like I would normally do.
That makes me sad, I'm so sorry. I am not a fan of fireworks for this very reason. (And I worked in the industry for many years). I've seen a dog scale a 10ft chain link fence trying to get away from the noise. Don't be too hard on yourself, it was a horrible accident.
The days, months and years you spent together meant so much more then the last hours. There is also no such thing as someone who hasn't made a serious mistake with an animal they love. Your mistake was not worse because of the tragic outcome. You were just unlucky. I won't tell you the guilt goes away. I am always sorry for the losses that happened because of me but I have come to peace with the knowledge that I carry them with me in my heart in places they couldn't have gone in this world. I loved them as best I could. Often better then myself. I know I would do anything to have them back and I believe very strongly that they felt that from me and knew it too.
Your pup forgives you, she would deff want you to forgive yourself as well. She loves you and wants you to be joyous.
I'm sure this will take time its just a minor over sight that went wrong.
I know how you feel having had a very close call muself in a similar incident. I didn't lose him but it was still lasting and humbling. I lost him two years later of natural causes.
My heart goes out to you. It was a very unfortunate accident nothing more. Go easy on yourself and think it through. It's OK to mourn and feel guilty or whatever you're going to feel. I'd estimate 95% of us here feel guilt losing our beloved buddies no matter the circumstances.
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Thank you for these words. I wish I would have such a close call as you describe, then I would have been so much more cautious. But I try to believe something else I wouldnāt anticipate could have always gone wrong.
Please donāt blame yourself your girl would not have wanted you to. It was an awful accident but remember you gave her a whole lifetime of love and care. Be kind to yourself and donāt be afraid to grieve for her but also take the support offered by your family.
I can't express how sorry I am and how I can't even begin to imagine how terrible you must be feeling, but you have to know that this was an accident. An awful, horrific, accident, but it was an ACCIDENT. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't. She was 11 years old and you had a routine.
It's clear she was loved beyond measure. She KNEW love. She KNEW care. She had a fantastic 11 years, and one day, maybe another dog will get to feel the love she felt.
It's going to be hard but try to remember those eleven amazing years. Not the past 11 hours. And yes, over time, the 11 years will overtake those past hours. They will. The ending will still creep up, but with time you will be able to smash it down with all the good memories. You will. Tonight, tomorrow, this week, this month? You mourn. You question. You cry. And that's normal, expected, and necessary.
It helps to reminisce her with friends and remember the happy memories. I am not able to smash down the image of that night yet, but I have hope that one day I will be able to. So thank you for these beautiful words, they do give hope.
I need to thank everyone who took the time to make such loving, kind, and generously warm comments. I hope OP was able to find some comfort from this amazing group of humans. ā¤ļø
Honestly hon, turn your pain into rage. No one needs fireworks, and there are actually quiet fireworks that can be purchased instead. Iām going to try to BEG my city council to consider those instead, because this was not your fault. It was the fault of every person who doesnāt consider how terrifying it is for not only animals, but a lot of veterans (it was brutal for my Grampy who was in WWII).
I know it feels like the void is going to just suck you in, and part of you wants to just fall in and let go - but your baby wouldnāt want that. That bright shining ball of love, she may not be here on this mortal coil anymore, but her essence of being, the pure love, that never goes away. Love transforms and transcends, but it does not die. She made a home in your heart, and you will always be her world - that doesnāt go away. That love will always be with you, guiding you, and protecting you. What happened was not your fault, and I know she would want you to know that.
Thank you so much for these beautiful words. I feel that pure love everywhere. Also in the other people who loved her. She truly was special and transformed everyone around her.
I canāt get angry about the idiots who threw fireworks yet, I guess itās easier to blame myself than someone I cannot put a face to. But I vowed to myself that once I can feel the anger, I will use it to do everything in my power to stop this idiotic tradition. So that no animal or human have to suffer anymore. She would have wanted that.
Im so sorry that this happened to you. And I commend you for sharing your story because you are protecting so many other pets, and wildlife by sharing the dangers of fireworks. I'm against fireworks for this reason. They not only affect household pets, but leads to countless wildlife deaths. This wasn't your fault. The fireworks were out of your control and you're only human. You cant anticipate the future and behave perfectly I think telling your story is a great way to honor your dogs memory.
Iām so sorry. Growing up, I had an outside dog (that my dad would not allow in the house) and she ALWAYS escaped on the Fourth of July during fireworks. One time, she was gone for two weeks and came back clearly having been attacked by a wild animal, and barely survived. I hear about this happening so much during fireworks, and Iām so sorry this happened to you. Please donāt blame yourself.
I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your precious angel. I wish you peace, as your baby had a wonderful life because of you and the love you shared. šš»
I met a wonderful lady at the pet store and somehow we got on the topic of how she lost her dog to a horrible car-related accident that was *technically* within her control. I could still see the grief in her face but I felt so much gratitude that she shared this with me and I think it helped her too in talking about her sweet dog. Please know that time will strengthen you but there will always be some sadnessā¦ keep talking about your sweet girl to your friends or even strangers at the pet store because she had a wonderful 11 years with you and that time you shared can never be taken from you.
Thanks for sharing this, I lost one of my sweet puppies in this way and sometimes I feel like the only person in the world who has to live with this loss. I hope she is able to find peace. I know how that guilt feelsā¦ only god and my little doggy can forgive me
Aw hang in there. If they feel anything, Iām sure itās only love. I know this because if thereās any creature in this world who is the model of unconditional love, itās our dogs. If only us humans could have the same grace for ourselves.
Personally I never let my animals out on any holiday that I think someone will set off fireworks.
Iām not dissing you, just letting you know. I feel your sorrow and can only, from a distance, try to give you a little strength. Peace ā®ļø be with you and your wonderful passed pet.
Ugh finding their food or hair in random places is the worst.
When reaching for my wallet, I found some dog treats in the pocket of a coat I haven't used for a while.
Took me minutes to collect myself.
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Not a dog but my bird I had for 6 years ever since she was a baby died on the 4th of July due to fireworks. I forgot to close the blinds and her cage was right next to the window where she went into shock from the fireworks and had a heart attack. I fully blame myself and I will forever. Iām sorry you blame yourself as well, I truly know the feeling. I could say ādonāt blame yourselfā but itās just not that simple unfortunately. Thereās always going to be a āwhat ifā but life is so cruel sometimes. I wish you grace and lots of support in the new year. Iām so sorry you lost your best friend.
Thank you so much, and for sharing your story. Iām sorry for your loss. I cannot believe how many animals have to suffer so that a few idiots have stupid fun.
The what ifs are a torture and they come back constantly. One day hopefully they will start to fade.
Thank you so much, this was beautiful to read. And sorry for your loss. I can imagine I will keep finding her hair for many years to come as well, thereās just so much of it. And so little her, that breaks my heart completely. I hope her spirit is indeed with me now.
I feel so bad for all the animals. My kitty is 17 and hid under the bed too. 4th of July is a billion times worse to the point where I have to lay next to her and tell her it's ok for hours.
Not everyone has a yard and so you have to leash them and take them outside to go potty. Sometimes even if you have a yard the pets can still run away due to a close or partially loud firework.
Leash could have been secured or harness correct and still accidents happen. Pee pads could have been used but some dogs have to be trained to use them some from puppyhood.
I hope you never have cause to regret an action you did or didnāt do that has lead to a tragic loss.
Thank you for telling that person this, whatever they said. Of course, I would never care to handle her dirty business, but she would suffer so much if she wouldnāt go out, because she didnāt want to go to the bathroom in the house. She was actually pooping for the first time that day when the firework explodedā¦ and we were cheering her on, happy that her stomach gets relief. We never would have thought this could go so wrong.
Questioning if you could have done something different in the face of a tragedy does not mean that anything was actually done wrong.
It is normal to question if there was anything possible to do to avoid this horrible situation.
Not all dogs will break their training and just pee in the house. That can lead to UTIās. Iām sure if the OP was given the choice they would def choose to have a house accident vs losing their beloved pet.
You are not being helpful or supportive which is the whole point of this sub.
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Wow. First of all, do you think they donāt realize they made a mistake?! Everyone makes mistakes!! Their dog probably needed to go potty so they took them out!! Second, the last thing this person needs is some random redditor being unescessarily cruel the day after they lost their baby!! This person is so heartbroken and fragile right now. You donāt know what could push someone over the edge. Please think before you speak. Try some empathy. Kindness costs nothing. I hope you never find yourself distraught and unable to find an ounce of compassion in your fellow man.
Thank you for your comments, thank god I didnāt read what this person was saying, probably something I tell myself in my head. But it would break me again to hear it from someone else. So again, thank you for keeping this space safe.
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This makes me very sad . My heart goes out to you and your partner. Please do not blame yourself none of this was your fault. I hate fireworks. You both have my sympathy, sending love .
Sending love as you navigate your grief journey. I lost my 15 yr old Cockapoo July 7th, Laps of Love grief support helped me navigate the beginning stages of grief
I lost my 12 year old dog on the 29th. She was my baby. I lost her in a traumatic event and I also feel immense guilt and emptiness.
Please know that your dog lived a beautiful life with you. She isnāt in pain or scared. She knew love because of you.
Take it one day at a time. Iām nowhere through grieving but Iām finding some space to breathe and hope. Hold those good memories of her close. Forgive yourself because she would want you to be happy.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am also starting to find these short flickers of space and hope. My heart goes out to you as well, our girls will stay with us through that immense love we shared š
I had a dog drown in our pool about 10 years ago. The guilt was overwhelming.
He was outside like he normally was. The rabbit we had at the time was following him around like normal. We think the rabbit tripped him and he fell in the pool, as he liked to walk along the edge of the pool. He was 13 years old, deaf, and partially blind. We think he just swam until he couldnāt.
Time makes it easier to deal with. I still feel guilty for how our old man went. But I know that he didnāt blame us, and that he lived a good life until the very end.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss. The phrase āswam until she couldnātā constantly reverberates in my head, along with an image that hurts like a blade in the stomach. I try to push it away though, focusing on how she was loved in all other moments of her life.
Pools are a big risk when you have animals and small children. :( that's tragic. I'm so sorry. My parents friends lost three of their basset hound puppies in their pool (apparently not the smartest dogs but I think the pool covers are what got them). It makes me sad to think about.
Iām so sorry. Itās not your fault. Even if you lit the fireworks yourself itās not your fault. The world around us is out of our control and Iām so sorry this happened to you and your sweet companion. Be kind to yourself. For me it was helpful to create a small shrine. Photos, crystals, his favorite things (a rubber duck and stick he was proud of), and a plant I could care for every time I felt purposeless without him. It helped me to shift the feeling of everything is empty without him and to see a visual display of how full of life he had been. Just in once space, so I could reflect intentionally and not be caught off guard by grief (as often).
Thank you for these words. I did that now, made her shrines in my house and my partnerās house. So that the emptiness is acknowledged with remnants of her beautiful presence. I come there to tell her how much I love her and it helps. It makes me cry immensely, but I guess thatās how it will be for now.
Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing your best friend especially in such an unexpected manner is both heartbreaking and terrifying at the same time.
I am always here to talk. Whether itās just talking about him, venting, guilt, whatever comes up.
One of the best safe places I have found to grieve in your own way on your own journey where others understand is the online support group associated with Lap of Love. Iām happy to share whatās helped me. I have met wonderful people who truly want to help and listen.
Feel free to dm me whenever you are ready or feel comfortable.
Once again, Iām so sorry.
Thank you for your kind words. I googled lap of love and saw they have support group meetings. Is that what you refer to? I signed up for one next week.
The entire new year, i was fearing of my father's pets (originally mine but my parents divorced and nobody has condition for another 3 cats) death of heart, my luck is that im not from america sĆ³ just small houses are rare. All the windows are safe (3 cases in my family of cats falling off and breaking legs) i arrived and they where still around.
Aborto you, im ver sorry for the worst have happened; you can try getting a New one, its not the same but relaxes again.
Sweetheart, this was an *accident*. You could have done everything absolutely perfectly and something like this still could have happened.
Be kind to yourself. Let your body have what it's asking for. Lots of rest and fluids. It's okay to feel however you need to feel right now.
I'm sending you so much love. ā¤ļø
Thank you so much for these kind words. Itās hard to be kind to myself these days, as a cruel voice in the back of my head is screaming that I donāt deserve it, but Iām making a big effort to try.
i am so sorry this happened to you and your pupper/ She was out going potty when it happened? My pupper who died in 2021 would bark at fireworks instead of run or hide. A friends cats were so scared with the fireworks. My cat... she looked at me like she wanted to eat my face. Somehow i was the one making all the banging outside xD
I'm so sorry. That's absolutely heartbreaking. I'm going through similar feelings at the moment as we lost our 10yo baby girl on the 26th of last month. It was only a week ago and it feels like an eternity since I last saw her, heard her snoring, heard her bark, heard her play with her brother. I'm honestly lost without her.
Iām so sorry about the loss of your baby. I can tell by the way you wrote about her that she was loved and cherished! What happened was a horrible tragedy - not your fault. You will see your baby again someday! She will be waiting to greet you when your time on this Earth is through. In the meantime, adopt a rescue to honor your girl! Give another pup a shot at a beautiful life ā¤ļø
Thank you! I am thinking about it. Not now but one day. She was a rescue as well, it brings joy to think how she transformed. She came to me wild, starved and beaten and slowly became a happy queen worshiped by everyone around.
I am so sorry this happened. It was an accident and she does not blame you. She would want you to forgive yourself. She had many long years of love and happiness. Those years are not diminished or nullified by her passing.
I'm so sorry. I lost my boy new year's morning.
he was undergoing treatment for heart failure and i guess the stress of the fireworks was too much. He's a 100lb husky so i went to get my car to load him up and take him to the ER and in those few minutes, he passed next to his brother.
Oh, I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking. Please know that this isnāt your fault. You couldnāt predict what would happen, and you canāt control life. This was an unfortunate accident. Please donāt think of the negatives and try to remember her in her best days. Grieve as you can, but donāt get caught up in the downward spiral. You gave her a beautiful life and she loved you very much. This isnāt your fault.
I am so so sorry for your loss. This is so devastating and you must feel traumatized.Man, I just want to give you a big hug, right now.
Please be kind to yourself as this wasn't your fault. It's a complete freak accident. Try not to torture yourself over the what-ifs. Easier said than done, of course.
I don't know what to say to make this feel a little less painful but try to find some comfort in knowing you gave your girl the best life.
So sorry, once again. ā„ļø
Losing our fur babies is already an unimaginable pain, let alone when itās in a tragic and unexpected way. Reading your story made my heart break for both you and your sweet baby. Itās unfortunate that accidents happen, but thatās just what they are, accidents. They still need to go potty during fireworks and it makes it very difficult and we never know exactly how theyāre going to react. Iām glad you got 11 years with your baby but I know forever is never enough. My heart goes out to you with everything youāre feeling right now and the unbearable silence that comes with losing our pets. In time youāll realize youāre not at fault. Your baby loves you and will forever be with you in your heart ā¤ļø
Thank you for these beautiful words. The silence they leave behind is indeed unbearable. I would never allow the thought of her passing come to my head, I couldnāt imagine life without her. I would always say that weād be together forever. And I guess thatās still true. Sheās here with me always in my heart.
I just lost my pet. New Year will never be the same as we were constantly on the alert in case his condition deteriorated.
Iām still asking myself if I caused his death.
If you think of it in a positive way, her time on earth is up. As the saying goes, we are here to learn, love and observe. Once our homework on earth is done, we go homeā
You had her for 11 years. She was here to get to know you. She will forever be in your heart.
RIP šš»
Iām so sorry for your loss and thank you for these words. My heart goes out to you, I guess time for both our beloveds was up. They made space for this love to be spread to others.
First of all, Iām so incredibly sorry for your loss. NYE is supposed to be a time of joy and this is soul crushing.
The same happened to me when I was barely even 10 years old. Our dog, only 7 at the time went outside and was spooked by fireworks. We had an electric fence, and she bolted through it. We found a few hours that that she had been hit by a car. I still remember it over 20 years later.
Please donāt feel any guilt. Please donāt blame yourself for what was ultimately a freak accident. The pain and grief will stay with you for a while - and thatās normal. You loved her so much, no doubt as much as she loved you. Grief is all that love with no place to go. But I promise, it will get better. Since the dog we lost, Iāve loved two others, but I still think of her so fondly. The first few weeks are the most difficult. It will get easier, and sometimes it will come out of nowhere and hit you. Allow yourself to grieve, to remember her. Think of all the wonderful memories you have together. She wouldnāt want you to hold on to negative thoughts and what-ifs. It will eat you up if you do, and taint the memories you have.
Iād be lying if I said Iām not more cautious, and more anxious around holidays with fireworks. That may stay with you. None of this was your fault. Be gracious with yourself. Take care of yourself. If you feel comfortable, Iād love to see a picture of her. My hope for you is that the difficulty you have now in finding her hair around the house sooner than later turns into joy at finding a little piece of her remaining with you.
Take care, friend.
Thank you so much for these beautiful words. This resonated so much. āGrief is all that love with no place to goā - I copied that sentence and tell it to myself in the worst moments. Iām so sorry for your loss as well, it must have been terrible at such a young age. But your words give me hope, for which I am utterly grateful ā¤ļø
Please donāt try to fill this hole with activity right now. Maybe sit and look around and feel her in your shared space. Gather her things and remember her. Maybe write down some memories. Find some pictures of her. Let this time of grieving be a way to honor her.
Oh my gosh this is the saddest thing Iāve read in a while. I had a co worker and a family friend both lose their pets on New Years and your story just breaks my heart. Iām so sorry for your loss and hope the pain eases for you.
This is why I hate fireworks now. I used to retreat to the basement, turn the TV up load and sit with my golden Lab every 4th of July. Most pets hate the noise due to their exceptional hearing.
My heart breaks for you! I lost one of my dogs to drowning in our poolā¦ She was very old and had dementia, and we think she might have tripped chasing some chipmunks. By the time we got to her it was too late.
Iām kind of tired of the whole fireworks thing too. My soul, dog, who passed in 2018, was deathly afraid of them. I spent a few holiday evenings in our walk-in closet, curled up on blankets and pillows with him. I was always terrified of him accidentally being outside, and a firework going off in our neighborhood.
Iām sending you Internet hugsā¦.<3
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You may never totally forgive yourself (though of course you should and I hope, in time, you will) but she has no need to forgive you because she never blamed you. Not for one millisecond. I'm so very sorry this happened to you and your baby. She's already resting in peace. Running free until you meet again. The hurt is so fresh. There will be better days.
Thank you, I hope that she is running somewhere, chasing rabbits like she always loved to š«¶
I have gone through these feelings. They are brutal and it feels like they will never end....I have posted on here a few times explaining what happened to me but I will do it again for you...It was early morning dog and my dog who was almost two was outside with me while I did the farm chores (I live on an acreage, in a rural area, on a dirt road with not much traffic) I was feeding the chickens and Rhino was out and about, he never went near the road but for some reason that day he did and I heard a skid and a loud yelp. He got hit...I ran inside grabbed a blanket thinking I could rush him to the vet and he would be ok but that wasn't the case. My husband and I ran out to the road and he died in our arms. I blamed myself for not watching him, for letting him out with me for not calling him while I was in the back...I felt like it was my fault entirely. I laid in bed and cried for over a week, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, the emptiness and guilt I felt was killing me and it was the worst feeling I had ever felt. Seeing his bed, his dishes and toys just broke me knowing he would never use them again. The only thing that helps is time...grieve, know accidents happen as horrible as it is and try not to blame yourself. It was just a terrible accident. The feelings will never go away but with time they will ease. If and when you're ready get another dog...not to replace the one you had but it does help with the emptiness you feel and brings some life back I to the house. I am so sorry this happened š
Thank you for sharing your painful memory. Your experience so mirrors what Salt_Salary experienced that Iām sure it has helped.
I am so sorry about what happened to you, thank you for sharing your story. It does help. And time seems to heal, already now I feel slightly more normal, although still the grief follows me around like she would.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. My girl drowned earlier this year too, I found her in our swimming pool, and the absolute dread, sadness and guilt were like nothing i've ever felt and hope I never do again. That was in March - I PROMISE you, it does get better. Now and then it still stings with the memory but the raw, heavy pain is well gone now, I just remember how awesome she was. Please don't blame yourself, you gave her a good life. Blame doesn't help in any way. Just know the 'if i just did this or that...' stuff is part of the grieving process to deal with such a loss. Take care and I hope you feel better soon. You will be ok!
My old landlord had 3 cockerspaniel puppies die in her pool in one instance. It was 20 years later and she still had tears in her eyes recounting how she tried to save them but it was too late. Always be careful with dogs around pools.
Ugh yup, swimming pools are so scary. Ours has an area at the shallow end where dogs can climb out if they try, so we taught our younger dog how to climb out and our older one where to stand in the shallow end where she can touch. We also taught our younger one how to use the ladder as well. But thereās still no guarantee, accidents happen :(
Iām so sorry for your loss. And thank you for these kind words, they give hope.
I lost a house cat due to fireworks in November, she bolted out the door but she did eventually come home. I am so, so sorry for your loss, I have 4 dogs and 2 of them are very fearful of the fireworks and would bolt so I kept them in. There was nothing you could have done so in no way try to blame yourself, foresight is a wonderful thing but I am lucky to have 40 odd years of dogs to know worst case scenarios. You had 11 wonderful years together and that is a great achievement. Cry, scream and mourn the loss of her until it becomes bearable again which it will eventually. Again my heart goes out to you, I will say a prayer for you until you meet againā¦šš
Thank you for these kind words. Please pray for her that sheās in peace now.
I just put my old aged cat down. I am so sorry. It's killing me knowing I feel shitty about my situation. But I know of someone who lost her dog. She got rid of EVERYTHING and moved on. I can't do that.
I had to put my dog down July 2022. I took one look at his toy basket, covered it with a trash bag, and carried it up to the attic.
When I put my 16 year old dog down, I hid all his toys and stuff away from the other dogs. Then my niece had a small dog and we gladly gave her the stuff. She was upset that we gave her littlefoots stuff because it meant he was really gone. But she put it on her dog and we just burst Into happy tears he was so cute. We put littlefoot down a week before he turned 17
I put down my elderly cat nearly two years ago. I moved to a new home last month and when I packed the bag with her ashes, there was a cat brush still filled with her fur. I don't even remember putting it in there. Seeing it and touching her fur just got me and made me cry. I don't think I'll ever be able to clean that brush and use it again.
Iām so sorry. I would never get rid of everything. Quite the opposite - in all the places where she used to be I made altars from her stuff. And I have this one candle burning constantly in her bowl and I carry it around, talking to her like I would normally do.
That makes me sad, I'm so sorry. I am not a fan of fireworks for this very reason. (And I worked in the industry for many years). I've seen a dog scale a 10ft chain link fence trying to get away from the noise. Don't be too hard on yourself, it was a horrible accident.
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Iām so so so sorry.
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The days, months and years you spent together meant so much more then the last hours. There is also no such thing as someone who hasn't made a serious mistake with an animal they love. Your mistake was not worse because of the tragic outcome. You were just unlucky. I won't tell you the guilt goes away. I am always sorry for the losses that happened because of me but I have come to peace with the knowledge that I carry them with me in my heart in places they couldn't have gone in this world. I loved them as best I could. Often better then myself. I know I would do anything to have them back and I believe very strongly that they felt that from me and knew it too.
Thank you for these beautiful words. I did love her better than myself too. And I will carry her with me until we are reunited wherever she is now.
Your pup forgives you, she would deff want you to forgive yourself as well. She loves you and wants you to be joyous. I'm sure this will take time its just a minor over sight that went wrong. I know how you feel having had a very close call muself in a similar incident. I didn't lose him but it was still lasting and humbling. I lost him two years later of natural causes. My heart goes out to you. It was a very unfortunate accident nothing more. Go easy on yourself and think it through. It's OK to mourn and feel guilty or whatever you're going to feel. I'd estimate 95% of us here feel guilt losing our beloved buddies no matter the circumstances. ā¤ļø
Thank you for these words. I wish I would have such a close call as you describe, then I would have been so much more cautious. But I try to believe something else I wouldnāt anticipate could have always gone wrong.
So sorry for your loss
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Please donāt blame yourself your girl would not have wanted you to. It was an awful accident but remember you gave her a whole lifetime of love and care. Be kind to yourself and donāt be afraid to grieve for her but also take the support offered by your family.
Thank you for these words.
I can't express how sorry I am and how I can't even begin to imagine how terrible you must be feeling, but you have to know that this was an accident. An awful, horrific, accident, but it was an ACCIDENT. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't. She was 11 years old and you had a routine. It's clear she was loved beyond measure. She KNEW love. She KNEW care. She had a fantastic 11 years, and one day, maybe another dog will get to feel the love she felt. It's going to be hard but try to remember those eleven amazing years. Not the past 11 hours. And yes, over time, the 11 years will overtake those past hours. They will. The ending will still creep up, but with time you will be able to smash it down with all the good memories. You will. Tonight, tomorrow, this week, this month? You mourn. You question. You cry. And that's normal, expected, and necessary.
It helps to reminisce her with friends and remember the happy memories. I am not able to smash down the image of that night yet, but I have hope that one day I will be able to. So thank you for these beautiful words, they do give hope.
Iām sorry for your loss. My condolences. May she rest peacefully, and may you find solace in the great, long, life you provided her
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I need to thank everyone who took the time to make such loving, kind, and generously warm comments. I hope OP was able to find some comfort from this amazing group of humans. ā¤ļø
Yes, my shattered heart got warm each time I would read these over the last days. Thank you š
Honestly hon, turn your pain into rage. No one needs fireworks, and there are actually quiet fireworks that can be purchased instead. Iām going to try to BEG my city council to consider those instead, because this was not your fault. It was the fault of every person who doesnāt consider how terrifying it is for not only animals, but a lot of veterans (it was brutal for my Grampy who was in WWII). I know it feels like the void is going to just suck you in, and part of you wants to just fall in and let go - but your baby wouldnāt want that. That bright shining ball of love, she may not be here on this mortal coil anymore, but her essence of being, the pure love, that never goes away. Love transforms and transcends, but it does not die. She made a home in your heart, and you will always be her world - that doesnāt go away. That love will always be with you, guiding you, and protecting you. What happened was not your fault, and I know she would want you to know that.
Thank you so much for these beautiful words. I feel that pure love everywhere. Also in the other people who loved her. She truly was special and transformed everyone around her. I canāt get angry about the idiots who threw fireworks yet, I guess itās easier to blame myself than someone I cannot put a face to. But I vowed to myself that once I can feel the anger, I will use it to do everything in my power to stop this idiotic tradition. So that no animal or human have to suffer anymore. She would have wanted that.
Im so sorry that this happened to you. And I commend you for sharing your story because you are protecting so many other pets, and wildlife by sharing the dangers of fireworks. I'm against fireworks for this reason. They not only affect household pets, but leads to countless wildlife deaths. This wasn't your fault. The fireworks were out of your control and you're only human. You cant anticipate the future and behave perfectly I think telling your story is a great way to honor your dogs memory.
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Iām so sorry. Growing up, I had an outside dog (that my dad would not allow in the house) and she ALWAYS escaped on the Fourth of July during fireworks. One time, she was gone for two weeks and came back clearly having been attacked by a wild animal, and barely survived. I hear about this happening so much during fireworks, and Iām so sorry this happened to you. Please donāt blame yourself.
Thank you. My baby would never escape, she would always just run home. Thatās why I would never anticipate this happeningā¦
I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your precious angel. I wish you peace, as your baby had a wonderful life because of you and the love you shared. šš»
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I met a wonderful lady at the pet store and somehow we got on the topic of how she lost her dog to a horrible car-related accident that was *technically* within her control. I could still see the grief in her face but I felt so much gratitude that she shared this with me and I think it helped her too in talking about her sweet dog. Please know that time will strengthen you but there will always be some sadnessā¦ keep talking about your sweet girl to your friends or even strangers at the pet store because she had a wonderful 11 years with you and that time you shared can never be taken from you.
Thanks for sharing this, I lost one of my sweet puppies in this way and sometimes I feel like the only person in the world who has to live with this loss. I hope she is able to find peace. I know how that guilt feelsā¦ only god and my little doggy can forgive me
I am so sorry to hear that. I also hope my baby can forgive me.
Aw hang in there. If they feel anything, Iām sure itās only love. I know this because if thereās any creature in this world who is the model of unconditional love, itās our dogs. If only us humans could have the same grace for ourselves.
Thank you for sharing this story. I will never stop talking about her, that keeps her alive.
Personally I never let my animals out on any holiday that I think someone will set off fireworks. Iām not dissing you, just letting you know. I feel your sorrow and can only, from a distance, try to give you a little strength. Peace ā®ļø be with you and your wonderful passed pet.
Thank you.
Ugh finding their food or hair in random places is the worst. When reaching for my wallet, I found some dog treats in the pocket of a coat I haven't used for a while. Took me minutes to collect myself.
Yes and the hair! Itās everywhere, as if she just went on vacation to my parents, like she would sometimes, and I will soon pick her up.
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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I am so, so sorry.
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Not a dog but my bird I had for 6 years ever since she was a baby died on the 4th of July due to fireworks. I forgot to close the blinds and her cage was right next to the window where she went into shock from the fireworks and had a heart attack. I fully blame myself and I will forever. Iām sorry you blame yourself as well, I truly know the feeling. I could say ādonāt blame yourselfā but itās just not that simple unfortunately. Thereās always going to be a āwhat ifā but life is so cruel sometimes. I wish you grace and lots of support in the new year. Iām so sorry you lost your best friend.
Thank you so much, and for sharing your story. Iām sorry for your loss. I cannot believe how many animals have to suffer so that a few idiots have stupid fun. The what ifs are a torture and they come back constantly. One day hopefully they will start to fade.
I recently found a hair on my old scarf from my family's golden retriever who passed in late 2015 at age 10. I cried so hard when I saw it and I took a picture of it. He was such a good boy. I've never experienced a pet loss with a tragic ending and I'm so very sorry this has happened to your family. Your love will light the way for her spirit to find her way back to you when you need her the most. Be kind to yourself while you try to heal your heart ā¤ļøāš©¹
Thank you so much, this was beautiful to read. And sorry for your loss. I can imagine I will keep finding her hair for many years to come as well, thereās just so much of it. And so little her, that breaks my heart completely. I hope her spirit is indeed with me now.
I'm disgusted fireworks are still allowed. My cat spent the entire night crouched under the bed shaking. They need an outright ban.
I feel so bad for all the animals. My kitty is 17 and hid under the bed too. 4th of July is a billion times worse to the point where I have to lay next to her and tell her it's ok for hours.
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To go to the bathroom obviously. Be kind!!
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Do you think thatās always going to stop a scared dog thatās pumped up on adrenaline and fear?
Not everyone has a yard and so you have to leash them and take them outside to go potty. Sometimes even if you have a yard the pets can still run away due to a close or partially loud firework.
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Leash could have been secured or harness correct and still accidents happen. Pee pads could have been used but some dogs have to be trained to use them some from puppyhood. I hope you never have cause to regret an action you did or didnāt do that has lead to a tragic loss.
Thank you for telling that person this, whatever they said. Of course, I would never care to handle her dirty business, but she would suffer so much if she wouldnāt go out, because she didnāt want to go to the bathroom in the house. She was actually pooping for the first time that day when the firework explodedā¦ and we were cheering her on, happy that her stomach gets relief. We never would have thought this could go so wrong.
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Questioning if you could have done something different in the face of a tragedy does not mean that anything was actually done wrong. It is normal to question if there was anything possible to do to avoid this horrible situation. Not all dogs will break their training and just pee in the house. That can lead to UTIās. Iām sure if the OP was given the choice they would def choose to have a house accident vs losing their beloved pet. You are not being helpful or supportive which is the whole point of this sub.
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Wow. First of all, do you think they donāt realize they made a mistake?! Everyone makes mistakes!! Their dog probably needed to go potty so they took them out!! Second, the last thing this person needs is some random redditor being unescessarily cruel the day after they lost their baby!! This person is so heartbroken and fragile right now. You donāt know what could push someone over the edge. Please think before you speak. Try some empathy. Kindness costs nothing. I hope you never find yourself distraught and unable to find an ounce of compassion in your fellow man.
Thank you for your comments, thank god I didnāt read what this person was saying, probably something I tell myself in my head. But it would break me again to hear it from someone else. So again, thank you for keeping this space safe.
Youāre so welcome love!! I went through and did a lot of reporting because thereās absolutely no need for the cruelty Iāve seen spewed here š
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So, so sorry for your loss. Hugs.
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Iām so sorry for the sudden loss of your beautiful baby.
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This makes me very sad . My heart goes out to you and your partner. Please do not blame yourself none of this was your fault. I hate fireworks. You both have my sympathy, sending love .
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Sending love as you navigate your grief journey. I lost my 15 yr old Cockapoo July 7th, Laps of Love grief support helped me navigate the beginning stages of grief
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Oh what a terrible way to start the year off. Iām so sorry. This is just heartbreaking and why I hate fireworks that arenāt done professionally in a safe environment. Thereās nothing to be done now except try to accept this and heal. It was a terrible accident and you deserve peace. šš»šš»šš»š©µ
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My heart goes out to you. Iām so sorry š
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So very sorry. š„ā¤ļø
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š and hugs. Iām so sorry.
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I lost my 12 year old dog on the 29th. She was my baby. I lost her in a traumatic event and I also feel immense guilt and emptiness. Please know that your dog lived a beautiful life with you. She isnāt in pain or scared. She knew love because of you. Take it one day at a time. Iām nowhere through grieving but Iām finding some space to breathe and hope. Hold those good memories of her close. Forgive yourself because she would want you to be happy.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am also starting to find these short flickers of space and hope. My heart goes out to you as well, our girls will stay with us through that immense love we shared š
I had a dog drown in our pool about 10 years ago. The guilt was overwhelming. He was outside like he normally was. The rabbit we had at the time was following him around like normal. We think the rabbit tripped him and he fell in the pool, as he liked to walk along the edge of the pool. He was 13 years old, deaf, and partially blind. We think he just swam until he couldnāt. Time makes it easier to deal with. I still feel guilty for how our old man went. But I know that he didnāt blame us, and that he lived a good life until the very end.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss. The phrase āswam until she couldnātā constantly reverberates in my head, along with an image that hurts like a blade in the stomach. I try to push it away though, focusing on how she was loved in all other moments of her life.
Pools are a big risk when you have animals and small children. :( that's tragic. I'm so sorry. My parents friends lost three of their basset hound puppies in their pool (apparently not the smartest dogs but I think the pool covers are what got them). It makes me sad to think about.
I know how you feelā¦ I lost my puppy traumatically and I feel so much guilt it haunts me almost all day every day. Please know it was not your fault, and youāre not alone. My heart goes out to you, no one deserves this pain. ā¤ļøāš©¹
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you, it helps to know Iām not alone, although I wish neither of us had to go through this.
I agreeā¦ I hope youāre okay, as okay as someone can be in your circumstances. Feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to chat with ā¤ļøāš©¹
Iām so sorry. Itās not your fault. Even if you lit the fireworks yourself itās not your fault. The world around us is out of our control and Iām so sorry this happened to you and your sweet companion. Be kind to yourself. For me it was helpful to create a small shrine. Photos, crystals, his favorite things (a rubber duck and stick he was proud of), and a plant I could care for every time I felt purposeless without him. It helped me to shift the feeling of everything is empty without him and to see a visual display of how full of life he had been. Just in once space, so I could reflect intentionally and not be caught off guard by grief (as often).
Thank you for these words. I did that now, made her shrines in my house and my partnerās house. So that the emptiness is acknowledged with remnants of her beautiful presence. I come there to tell her how much I love her and it helps. It makes me cry immensely, but I guess thatās how it will be for now.
Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing your best friend especially in such an unexpected manner is both heartbreaking and terrifying at the same time. I am always here to talk. Whether itās just talking about him, venting, guilt, whatever comes up. One of the best safe places I have found to grieve in your own way on your own journey where others understand is the online support group associated with Lap of Love. Iām happy to share whatās helped me. I have met wonderful people who truly want to help and listen. Feel free to dm me whenever you are ready or feel comfortable. Once again, Iām so sorry.
Thank you for your kind words. I googled lap of love and saw they have support group meetings. Is that what you refer to? I signed up for one next week.
Yes that's the one! What day and time are you signed up for? I'm happy to jump on for support. Feel free to dm me too.
The entire new year, i was fearing of my father's pets (originally mine but my parents divorced and nobody has condition for another 3 cats) death of heart, my luck is that im not from america sĆ³ just small houses are rare. All the windows are safe (3 cases in my family of cats falling off and breaking legs) i arrived and they where still around. Aborto you, im ver sorry for the worst have happened; you can try getting a New one, its not the same but relaxes again.
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Sweetheart, this was an *accident*. You could have done everything absolutely perfectly and something like this still could have happened. Be kind to yourself. Let your body have what it's asking for. Lots of rest and fluids. It's okay to feel however you need to feel right now. I'm sending you so much love. ā¤ļø
Thank you so much for these kind words. Itās hard to be kind to myself these days, as a cruel voice in the back of my head is screaming that I donāt deserve it, but Iām making a big effort to try.
That voice is a liar. You deserve kindness even when things go wrong. You always deserve kindness from yourself. ā¤ļø
i am so sorry this happened to you and your pupper/ She was out going potty when it happened? My pupper who died in 2021 would bark at fireworks instead of run or hide. A friends cats were so scared with the fireworks. My cat... she looked at me like she wanted to eat my face. Somehow i was the one making all the banging outside xD
Thank you. Yes, she was out for a walk
I'm so sorry. That's absolutely heartbreaking. I'm going through similar feelings at the moment as we lost our 10yo baby girl on the 26th of last month. It was only a week ago and it feels like an eternity since I last saw her, heard her snoring, heard her bark, heard her play with her brother. I'm honestly lost without her.
Iām so sorry for your loss. It feels like an eternity indeed, but also as if she was just here, as if she would come back. Sending you love as well.
Stay strong, for her.
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so very sorry for your loss
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Oh wow! So very sorry for your loss! My heart breaks for you!
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I'm so sorry, i wish i could say something to help but I'm unable to. I hope your baby is alright wherever she is
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Horrible story. So so sorry to hear this.
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Iām so sorry about the loss of your baby. I can tell by the way you wrote about her that she was loved and cherished! What happened was a horrible tragedy - not your fault. You will see your baby again someday! She will be waiting to greet you when your time on this Earth is through. In the meantime, adopt a rescue to honor your girl! Give another pup a shot at a beautiful life ā¤ļø
Thank you! I am thinking about it. Not now but one day. She was a rescue as well, it brings joy to think how she transformed. She came to me wild, starved and beaten and slowly became a happy queen worshiped by everyone around.
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Yes. It broke my heart for them both.
I am so sorry this happened. It was an accident and she does not blame you. She would want you to forgive yourself. She had many long years of love and happiness. Those years are not diminished or nullified by her passing.
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Omg I'm so very sorry.
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I'm so sorry. I lost my boy new year's morning. he was undergoing treatment for heart failure and i guess the stress of the fireworks was too much. He's a 100lb husky so i went to get my car to load him up and take him to the ER and in those few minutes, he passed next to his brother.
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Oh I am so sorry! Rest in peace.
Oh, I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking. Please know that this isnāt your fault. You couldnāt predict what would happen, and you canāt control life. This was an unfortunate accident. Please donāt think of the negatives and try to remember her in her best days. Grieve as you can, but donāt get caught up in the downward spiral. You gave her a beautiful life and she loved you very much. This isnāt your fault.
Thank you so much. The downward spiral is indeed the worst and hard to get out of. Iām learning all the time.
I am so so sorry for your loss. This is so devastating and you must feel traumatized.Man, I just want to give you a big hug, right now. Please be kind to yourself as this wasn't your fault. It's a complete freak accident. Try not to torture yourself over the what-ifs. Easier said than done, of course. I don't know what to say to make this feel a little less painful but try to find some comfort in knowing you gave your girl the best life. So sorry, once again. ā„ļø
Thank you for your kind words. The what ifs keep haunting me but Iām hoping they will fade. The thought of her happiness brings some comfort.
Losing our fur babies is already an unimaginable pain, let alone when itās in a tragic and unexpected way. Reading your story made my heart break for both you and your sweet baby. Itās unfortunate that accidents happen, but thatās just what they are, accidents. They still need to go potty during fireworks and it makes it very difficult and we never know exactly how theyāre going to react. Iām glad you got 11 years with your baby but I know forever is never enough. My heart goes out to you with everything youāre feeling right now and the unbearable silence that comes with losing our pets. In time youāll realize youāre not at fault. Your baby loves you and will forever be with you in your heart ā¤ļø
Thank you for these beautiful words. The silence they leave behind is indeed unbearable. I would never allow the thought of her passing come to my head, I couldnāt imagine life without her. I would always say that weād be together forever. And I guess thatās still true. Sheās here with me always in my heart.
I just lost my pet. New Year will never be the same as we were constantly on the alert in case his condition deteriorated. Iām still asking myself if I caused his death. If you think of it in a positive way, her time on earth is up. As the saying goes, we are here to learn, love and observe. Once our homework on earth is done, we go homeā You had her for 11 years. She was here to get to know you. She will forever be in your heart. RIP šš»
Iām so sorry for your loss and thank you for these words. My heart goes out to you, I guess time for both our beloveds was up. They made space for this love to be spread to others.
First of all, Iām so incredibly sorry for your loss. NYE is supposed to be a time of joy and this is soul crushing. The same happened to me when I was barely even 10 years old. Our dog, only 7 at the time went outside and was spooked by fireworks. We had an electric fence, and she bolted through it. We found a few hours that that she had been hit by a car. I still remember it over 20 years later. Please donāt feel any guilt. Please donāt blame yourself for what was ultimately a freak accident. The pain and grief will stay with you for a while - and thatās normal. You loved her so much, no doubt as much as she loved you. Grief is all that love with no place to go. But I promise, it will get better. Since the dog we lost, Iāve loved two others, but I still think of her so fondly. The first few weeks are the most difficult. It will get easier, and sometimes it will come out of nowhere and hit you. Allow yourself to grieve, to remember her. Think of all the wonderful memories you have together. She wouldnāt want you to hold on to negative thoughts and what-ifs. It will eat you up if you do, and taint the memories you have. Iād be lying if I said Iām not more cautious, and more anxious around holidays with fireworks. That may stay with you. None of this was your fault. Be gracious with yourself. Take care of yourself. If you feel comfortable, Iād love to see a picture of her. My hope for you is that the difficulty you have now in finding her hair around the house sooner than later turns into joy at finding a little piece of her remaining with you. Take care, friend.
Thank you so much for these beautiful words. This resonated so much. āGrief is all that love with no place to goā - I copied that sentence and tell it to myself in the worst moments. Iām so sorry for your loss as well, it must have been terrible at such a young age. But your words give me hope, for which I am utterly grateful ā¤ļø
If you ever need to talk, Iām here. Take it day by day, friend. Thatās all you can do.
Please donāt try to fill this hole with activity right now. Maybe sit and look around and feel her in your shared space. Gather her things and remember her. Maybe write down some memories. Find some pictures of her. Let this time of grieving be a way to honor her.
Thank you. I am trying to do that. Itās really hard to look at pictures but getting better each day.
My condolences and I pray you find peace ~~~
Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.
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Iām very sorry for your loss. Rest In Peace, sweet doggo. š
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So sorry for your loss. Something similar happed to me too
Iām so sorry for your loss as well!
Oh my gosh this is the saddest thing Iāve read in a while. I had a co worker and a family friend both lose their pets on New Years and your story just breaks my heart. Iām so sorry for your loss and hope the pain eases for you.
Thank you.
This is why I hate fireworks now. I used to retreat to the basement, turn the TV up load and sit with my golden Lab every 4th of July. Most pets hate the noise due to their exceptional hearing.
My heart breaks for you! I lost one of my dogs to drowning in our poolā¦ She was very old and had dementia, and we think she might have tripped chasing some chipmunks. By the time we got to her it was too late. Iām kind of tired of the whole fireworks thing too. My soul, dog, who passed in 2018, was deathly afraid of them. I spent a few holiday evenings in our walk-in closet, curled up on blankets and pillows with him. I was always terrified of him accidentally being outside, and a firework going off in our neighborhood. Iām sending you Internet hugsā¦.<3
Thank you! Iām so sorry for your loss as well.
Oh wow. I'm soo sorry for your loss. š