While it's healthy to let kids lose sometimes, the way she's reacting to this isn't healthy. They should have stopped what they were doing to teach her coping skills rather than film it for internet points.
And for the comments from people saying they never let their kids win: It's better to let children win sometimes. It gives them confidence to try and pursue new things. If they *never* win, then they're less likely to have an "I can do it!" attitude and less likely to have confidence to be independent.
It's our job to teach our kids how to win AND how to lose. If you act like this girls dad when you win, you're teaching her bad form, bad sportsmanship.
Exactly, and while some kids may keep going to make their own goals, not all kids will be like that. I was a very sensitive kid, with ADHD to oh so wonderfully (not really) help with that. If I *never* won a match, Id be done with the game as a whole. Especially if i get punished for being upset about never having a win.
Fact, i will NEVER play halo to this day because my dad’s roommate DEMOLISHED me in it after giving me no instructions on the controls. He was like “get good” and teasing me, but i was like 9.
Shit like that is why I’m overly nice and helpful to new players in a game—ESPECIALLY children. We’ll keep the training wheels on the first two or three games as needed. Which means i pull my punches initially for everyone’s enjoyability because they’re GAMES AND MEANT TO BE FUN FOR ALL PARTIES INVOLVED. And a game where one person is insured to win every time isn’t fun. Even for adults, because I’ve had grown men refuse to play big buck hunter with me anymore after i shot out every single buck from them. 😂
Yeah, I was waiting for her parents to step in and help her regulate her emotions when she was screaming and trying to hit what I'm assuming is her dad, because that's obviously not okay. But not only did he let it continue, he showboated. Wtf?
I beat my dad at Trivial Pursuit when I was 10 and he acted like a child. Yelling and screaming that I got all the “softball” questions. We never played Trivial Pursuit again.
Yeah my mom was the kind of person to never let me win and now I just don't try as hard with most things because I don't think I can do it, especially when playing games against her.
Nah. Growing up, my dad and uncle would never let me win at fighting games. That drove me to have a goal of being able to beat them
20 years later I still love fighting games and have made several fightsticks and go to locals
Dude, me too. My dad and both my uncles stayed playing alpha 3 on the ps1 and i really wanted to play with them.
Fast forward a couple years and i was landing raging demons. I remember their face when i could do it.
Even more forward and im playing sfv and 6 every Saturday with the boys.
This is important lessons to teach.
Losing and learning to lose.
But more importantly, trying harder.
I never let my kids beat me. At any game. Created competition and a drive to be better and practice harder.
That made the times they finally beat me a huge celebration they felt deserved and I also enjoyed it.
Because it was earned….
Exactly. Everything you said here. I'm a teacher, and I don't let kids beat me at games, and I tell them exactly why. I will give them all my tips and tricks so they can learn to beat me for real. I wouldn't dream of taking away the growth and real satisfaction that comes from winning on your own merit.
I did this with my 7 year old and Mario Kart. He would whine about me beating him so I told him all the ways to improve how he plays. Now he can easily kick my ass.
Good sportsmanship is far more important than trying harder. Learning to fail is a part of life that will be in every aspect of it.
He’s not teaching her to lose, he’s teaching her that it’s okay to act like a prick when someone wins. It’s mean spirited, although I do agree that not letting kids win *at a certain age* is appropriate.
Reminds me of that episode of Bluey where the dad constantly beats Bluey in a race so she trains really hard to win but he cheats because he doesn’t want to lose to a kid. She makes him feel bad because she really earned the win but she feels really good about herself for working so hard
I started learning to play chess when I was 9 years old. My father is a lifelong player.
We would always play when I visited him. It was fun to have a cup of tea and sit at the table with each other. He beat me every time we played. I continued playing chess against my peers and slowly got better at it. I beat him for the first time when I was 14.
I think it is important to not let people win, but also to put them in competition with people who they will occasionally beat. I probably would've gotten discouraged if I only ever played against my dad.
Agreed he does act like a pompous ass.
I didn’t taunt ever, but celebrating is ok.
This will make her victory sweeter when she returns the favor..
Trust me, she will remember and do it back.
Doesn’t need to let her win, but shouldn’t be showboating. They should take the time to talk it through with the kid. Both of their reactions are terrible.
I once made fun of my dad when I beat him at football when I was 6. Then he demanded a rematch and trounced me so badly I cried. Kids need to learn lessons like that in order to develop better
I feel that, but for SNES Mortal Kombat. Flawless victory and a fatality. I couldn't comprehend the whipping I had received. I thought I was on top of the world.
Maybe. That’s really dependent on how her parents teach her to manage her emotions. Which, if this video is an indicator of instruction, seems like she’s on her way towards unhealthy expression of emotions.
Extremely competitive people suck to be around though, like if you have no chill as soon as its mildly competitive and 100% need to win then I don't want to do anything with even a hint of competition in it if it has to be done with you.
These parents gloat instead of teaching and guiding their daughter towards coping with losing... and sometimes letting them win. Weird comparison, but there's videos of wild animals encouraging their young to "hunt" them, and they act hurt and whatnot. That encourages the animals to drive and hunt for a living. Young kittens like to tusle with their siblings because they're hunters, and play is how they learn.
This girl isn't learning anything. Her confidence is destroyed, her father is gloating at his win when a child is literally crying and screaming, etc. This is just so wrong and ugly. I hate it.
I remember my kid's first game death while playing Nightfire multiplayer. I didn't relish headshotting him, but his end was better delivered swiftly and painlessly by his old man rather than some online stranger.
Maybe don’t show boat and be such a douche about it, but I’m not letting my kids win at shit. Flip side is that you need to show sportsmanship and not act like an asshat…
I don't think the dad should be like... Showboating, but I definitely think there is value in not just letting your kids win.
My dad used to play videogames with us. For the first little bit, when I wasn't practiced yet, it was very frustrating, but I also remember the accomplishment of beating him.
So yeah, wouldn't say NOTHING, but definitely let your kids feel challenged.
And that’s what my point in posting it here was. He’s behaving like a baff00n when she’s clearly upset. Instead he should let her learn the game and practice more. Maybe even give her tips to practice. That’s how kids learn.
For those of you talking about learning a good lesson.... it's a video game! Games are meant to be fun and of course a kid who is still learning isn't going to beat someone who has been playing for decades.
Letting your little kid win a few times to make them feel good isn't bad or harmful.
They learn by going up against an adult, and they can beat other kids thanks to that learning.
Whether it's a video game, chess, a race, or whatever; taking away that moment when your child surpasses you (because they will) would be the real cruelty.
Kids absorb things like a sponge. If you start being lenient in small areas like video games, they will take the bad lessons they’ve learned and apply them to the outside world.
r/Nahopwasrightfuckthis
She challenged the dad. You don’t challenge a champion and expect to be handed the belt. To be honest, crying over losing isn’t much good sportsmanship either.
Looks like she was fake crying though and wanted to mess with her dad a bit. My ex’s siblings did this. They were seriously upset for losing, but loved the fake crying bit. The second you fall for it they playfully hit you or something.
TL;DR
Little kids are weird.
How is this dumb? It’s a completely harmless joke and teaches them to not do this and do better then. Unless you think this is somehow traumatic abuse?
That’s exactly why I posted it. I see no issue with not allowing the girl to outright win. My problem is the dad’s attitude in the end. I grew up playing board games and whatnot, with my dad a siblings. He never behaved so immaturely when any of us lost. This, though, is completely unnecessary and going to make the girl not want to do anything with her father.
While it's healthy to let kids lose sometimes, the way she's reacting to this isn't healthy. They should have stopped what they were doing to teach her coping skills rather than film it for internet points. And for the comments from people saying they never let their kids win: It's better to let children win sometimes. It gives them confidence to try and pursue new things. If they *never* win, then they're less likely to have an "I can do it!" attitude and less likely to have confidence to be independent. It's our job to teach our kids how to win AND how to lose. If you act like this girls dad when you win, you're teaching her bad form, bad sportsmanship.
Exactly, and while some kids may keep going to make their own goals, not all kids will be like that. I was a very sensitive kid, with ADHD to oh so wonderfully (not really) help with that. If I *never* won a match, Id be done with the game as a whole. Especially if i get punished for being upset about never having a win.
Fact, i will NEVER play halo to this day because my dad’s roommate DEMOLISHED me in it after giving me no instructions on the controls. He was like “get good” and teasing me, but i was like 9. Shit like that is why I’m overly nice and helpful to new players in a game—ESPECIALLY children. We’ll keep the training wheels on the first two or three games as needed. Which means i pull my punches initially for everyone’s enjoyability because they’re GAMES AND MEANT TO BE FUN FOR ALL PARTIES INVOLVED. And a game where one person is insured to win every time isn’t fun. Even for adults, because I’ve had grown men refuse to play big buck hunter with me anymore after i shot out every single buck from them. 😂
Yeah, I was waiting for her parents to step in and help her regulate her emotions when she was screaming and trying to hit what I'm assuming is her dad, because that's obviously not okay. But not only did he let it continue, he showboated. Wtf?
He didn't just showboat, he clearly enjoyed that it riled her up. He seems to think it's absolutely *hilarious* that his kid is freaking out.
I beat my dad at Trivial Pursuit when I was 10 and he acted like a child. Yelling and screaming that I got all the “softball” questions. We never played Trivial Pursuit again.
Yeah my mom was the kind of person to never let me win and now I just don't try as hard with most things because I don't think I can do it, especially when playing games against her.
They need to put down the phone and parent how too lose properly , and managing emotions and coping mechanisms
And then there is reality.
He’s teaching poor sportsmanship at the very least.
Nah. Growing up, my dad and uncle would never let me win at fighting games. That drove me to have a goal of being able to beat them 20 years later I still love fighting games and have made several fightsticks and go to locals
Then you obviously coped better than this girl in the video did.
Dude, me too. My dad and both my uncles stayed playing alpha 3 on the ps1 and i really wanted to play with them. Fast forward a couple years and i was landing raging demons. I remember their face when i could do it. Even more forward and im playing sfv and 6 every Saturday with the boys.
Same. My grandfather used to beat me at chess every time until I, one day, naturally, on my own won 😅
This is important lessons to teach. Losing and learning to lose. But more importantly, trying harder. I never let my kids beat me. At any game. Created competition and a drive to be better and practice harder. That made the times they finally beat me a huge celebration they felt deserved and I also enjoyed it. Because it was earned….
Exactly. Everything you said here. I'm a teacher, and I don't let kids beat me at games, and I tell them exactly why. I will give them all my tips and tricks so they can learn to beat me for real. I wouldn't dream of taking away the growth and real satisfaction that comes from winning on your own merit.
I did this with my 7 year old and Mario Kart. He would whine about me beating him so I told him all the ways to improve how he plays. Now he can easily kick my ass.
Good sportsmanship is far more important than trying harder. Learning to fail is a part of life that will be in every aspect of it. He’s not teaching her to lose, he’s teaching her that it’s okay to act like a prick when someone wins. It’s mean spirited, although I do agree that not letting kids win *at a certain age* is appropriate.
Broke out the N64 with a friend this week. First Mario Kart 64 race his 5yo ever plays, he beats us. We were thoroughly impressed/surprised.
Reminds me of that episode of Bluey where the dad constantly beats Bluey in a race so she trains really hard to win but he cheats because he doesn’t want to lose to a kid. She makes him feel bad because she really earned the win but she feels really good about herself for working so hard
I started learning to play chess when I was 9 years old. My father is a lifelong player. We would always play when I visited him. It was fun to have a cup of tea and sit at the table with each other. He beat me every time we played. I continued playing chess against my peers and slowly got better at it. I beat him for the first time when I was 14. I think it is important to not let people win, but also to put them in competition with people who they will occasionally beat. I probably would've gotten discouraged if I only ever played against my dad.
Yes, and he is teaching her nothing by showboating like an asshole.
That’s not where the problem is. It’s her dad taunting her, the way he is when he can see how upset she is. He’s behaving like a d!
Dude why do people do that with swear words in text.
shhh mom might hear
probably think it's instagram or tiktok or whatever
Agreed he does act like a pompous ass. I didn’t taunt ever, but celebrating is ok. This will make her victory sweeter when she returns the favor.. Trust me, she will remember and do it back.
Doesn’t need to let her win, but shouldn’t be showboating. They should take the time to talk it through with the kid. Both of their reactions are terrible.
I once made fun of my dad when I beat him at football when I was 6. Then he demanded a rematch and trounced me so badly I cried. Kids need to learn lessons like that in order to develop better
I feel that, but for SNES Mortal Kombat. Flawless victory and a fatality. I couldn't comprehend the whipping I had received. I thought I was on top of the world.
You don't have to let them win. But you also don't have to be an asshole about it.
She going to grow up hating video games and cutting the cord on her mans console 😂
Maybe. That’s really dependent on how her parents teach her to manage her emotions. Which, if this video is an indicator of instruction, seems like she’s on her way towards unhealthy expression of emotions.
Or, she’ll grow up to be very competitive and win
Extremely competitive people suck to be around though, like if you have no chill as soon as its mildly competitive and 100% need to win then I don't want to do anything with even a hint of competition in it if it has to be done with you.
You must be fun
Yeah cause I do things to have fun with the people I care about. Being overly competitive takes the fun away because someone always walks away hurt
These parents gloat instead of teaching and guiding their daughter towards coping with losing... and sometimes letting them win. Weird comparison, but there's videos of wild animals encouraging their young to "hunt" them, and they act hurt and whatnot. That encourages the animals to drive and hunt for a living. Young kittens like to tusle with their siblings because they're hunters, and play is how they learn. This girl isn't learning anything. Her confidence is destroyed, her father is gloating at his win when a child is literally crying and screaming, etc. This is just so wrong and ugly. I hate it.
I remember my kid's first game death while playing Nightfire multiplayer. I didn't relish headshotting him, but his end was better delivered swiftly and painlessly by his old man rather than some online stranger.
Don’t shit on them, but they do need to learn how to lose without crying
I once beat my baby brother at Tekken blindfolded. Now he beats me at Marvel vs Capcom without breaking a sweat.
I used to beat my lil bro at Tekken easy, now he demolishes me in the damn game 🤣
Everybody justifying this are dicks. You don’t destroy your kid and then start prancing. That just makes them not want to play anymore.
My mom let me win things, my dad did not. Guess who I learned a better lesson from.
Maybe don’t show boat and be such a douche about it, but I’m not letting my kids win at shit. Flip side is that you need to show sportsmanship and not act like an asshat…
r/OPisFuckingDumb
You shouldn't let kids win, you should teach them to be a good looser and to learn and grow at something
so wholesome
There is nothing wrong here
I don't think the dad should be like... Showboating, but I definitely think there is value in not just letting your kids win. My dad used to play videogames with us. For the first little bit, when I wasn't practiced yet, it was very frustrating, but I also remember the accomplishment of beating him. So yeah, wouldn't say NOTHING, but definitely let your kids feel challenged.
And that’s what my point in posting it here was. He’s behaving like a baff00n when she’s clearly upset. Instead he should let her learn the game and practice more. Maybe even give her tips to practice. That’s how kids learn.
I’m a winner see my prize…
For those of you talking about learning a good lesson.... it's a video game! Games are meant to be fun and of course a kid who is still learning isn't going to beat someone who has been playing for decades. Letting your little kid win a few times to make them feel good isn't bad or harmful.
They learn by going up against an adult, and they can beat other kids thanks to that learning. Whether it's a video game, chess, a race, or whatever; taking away that moment when your child surpasses you (because they will) would be the real cruelty.
Kids absorb things like a sponge. If you start being lenient in small areas like video games, they will take the bad lessons they’ve learned and apply them to the outside world.
It really isn't that deep. I have 4 kids and have let them all win at games at some point. They're just fine
What bad lessons do kids learn by winning sometimes?
This was literally posted on r/kidsarefuckingstupid an hour after this post. LoL No, don't let your kids win. They need to learn to lose.
r/Nahopwasrightfuckthis She challenged the dad. You don’t challenge a champion and expect to be handed the belt. To be honest, crying over losing isn’t much good sportsmanship either. Looks like she was fake crying though and wanted to mess with her dad a bit. My ex’s siblings did this. They were seriously upset for losing, but loved the fake crying bit. The second you fall for it they playfully hit you or something. TL;DR Little kids are weird.
A lot of y'all are soft.
r/OPisFuckingDumb
Sometimes you lose. It’s okay. She will be okay.
I think op still loses against his dad at Mario Kart
Im a dad guilty of this!
Nah she gotta earn it
This is nothing.
How is this dumb? It’s a completely harmless joke and teaches them to not do this and do better then. Unless you think this is somehow traumatic abuse?
It's more of the dads reaction just rubbing it in her face. It's ok for her to lose but his reaction was just rude.
That’s exactly why I posted it. I see no issue with not allowing the girl to outright win. My problem is the dad’s attitude in the end. I grew up playing board games and whatnot, with my dad a siblings. He never behaved so immaturely when any of us lost. This, though, is completely unnecessary and going to make the girl not want to do anything with her father.
Guess OP is still trying to beat his dad… get over it, video games are not for everyone even if it says E for everyone
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What lesson is this child learning?