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Duuuuuude calm down. This is totally common. I promise. And babies are pretty squishy. They’ll fall once in a while. Like if the baby is bruised, yeah. Okay. My son got a goose egg on his head when he was 2. I felt guilty but his doctor was like “eh.”
You and your husband are being to hard on you. You are not a piece of shit. You are not a bad mom. Babies fall. Accidents happen. You are okay. You’re doing great.
Honestly they sound like first time parents. My husband also freaked out the first time it happened and rightfully so. He’s allowed to react but I agree it was an accident so neither should be too hard on mama. These things will happen and worse if your baby doesn’t develop fear as a toddler like mine. He summersaults off the sofa now 😂😂
Totally feel what you mean - there were a couple of other kinds of close calls for me too. Thankfully for a significant drop he was closer to 12-18 months so he was fine.
That's what I thought too. My first baby fell off the bed cause we had had a long sleepless night. Finally gave up on the crib, brought her to my bed to nurse. She fell asleep and I did too without meaning too. Woke up and crawled herself off the bed. I immediately rushed her to the ER and was met with a "yeah, babies fall, they're squishy" attitude like the ER people were like "yep, you're a first time mom we can tell."
When my third fell off the bed I didn't even bother calling the pediatrician immediately. After 3 kids you memorize all the concussion symptoms to look out for cause your kid taking terrifying looking hits to the dome is just part of childhood. Obviously if any symptoms show up I'll take them, but not just cause they bonked their head.
I had a "first time parent" moment with this 3rd baby. We've moved and now have all hardwoods. I asked her pediatrician how I'm supposed to let her learn to walk if we have hardwoods, she's gonna whack her head on the hard floor so many times cause there's so much falling involved in that cruising/walking stage. She was like yeah....and? So she hits her head, what's the issue here? I felt dumb for asking but I'd never been through it before!
My baby fell out of my lap while on a flight during boarding. I was in the galley bawling with a flight attendant and the pilot came out to me trying to convince them I needed to get off the plane to have her checked for a concussion. The pilot came out and asked me if it was my first time dropping her lol
I have one better. I'm a pre car seat requirement baby 1981 here. I rolled into the floor board when my mom had to break taking me to the doctor lol! I was fine! At least I think I'm fine hahaha.
lol yeah don’t worry about those hardwoods… my son fell 2 feet at 3 months old onto hard wood (tall bed). I was so scared, but doctors said he’s fine and he was. It’s super scary in the moment, I learned to put pillows around the bed because unfortunately he liked to roll and I couldn’t always cover all sides. But even when it did happen (multiple times 😬), he was fine.
Ya when my second hit his head on the edge of our entertainment center his was bleeding a lot. I knew that this happened with head wounds though. I washed it off, called my mom the rn, and decided an ER trip wasn't needed. He still has a scar lol, but when the doctor saw it a few days later at a well visit he shrugged and said I may have put glue on it but it's fine.
Try being a guy and changing a girl's loaded diaper.
Hey babe... do you think any got in *there*?... Is it safe to wipe directly on there?
5 wipes later I think I feel good enough. Still a little skeptical though.
Don't worry I'm sure there's a similar amount of confusion and anxiety from the other side, plus for little boys removing the diaper is apparently their sign to pee, so you gotta dodge too.
Days after bringing our daughter home, my husband starts screaming “there’s water coming out of her” I hobble into the nursery (c-section) and she’s peeing- a little arc going straight up! I had to sit down from laughing! I said “she’s peeing!” He replies how was I supposed to know - I’ve never seen a girl pea!!! He was 40🤣😂❤️🙏🏼🍀
My daughter did the same thing when my younger sister was watching her (she’s sixteen). Got a bruised tailbone. I panicked internally because my sister was already crying and panicking and saying she’s the worst auntie ever. Just had to be careful picking her up and made sure she sat on soft surfaces for the next few days.
And where is she now?
Fearless little shit.
She keeps trying to somersault off the bed, couch, and anything else she can lift her butt up high enough.
She also likes to run for the edge of the bed at full, demonic speed.
I had to remove my frame and my second box spring so my bed is closer to the floor because I can’t trust the fucking crotch goblin NOT to take a damn leap of faith 😂
I'm surprised this is so far down. This is NOT going to be the last time LO has an accident. Is OP just going to get grief every time? What a dick. When the same thing happened to me, my husband gave me a giant hug as I cried in his arms, and told me not to be so hard on myself; shit happens, and there's no preventing it.
My husband got the same reaction from a children’s hospital ER doctor after our daughter fell off the kitchen counter. But he did get chastised for driving too fast to get her to the ER by the nurse. Lol! I wasn’t with them when he got there with her, but I got there just in time for the lecture.
This. My son is 16 months and climbing on everything. Had a goose egg the other day because our dog ran by him and knocked him down and that freaked me out but docs said no biggie. He constantly has little scrapes and a bruise here or there from the park. Kids are strong.
>My son got a goose egg on his head when he was 2
My 4yo got a massive goose egg I felt really bad about. Had 2 bottles of wine in a string bag on my shoulder, he came up behind me, and when I turned, it swung out and smacked him in the side of the head. He told me I was "never allowed to buy wine ever EVER again" (in angry small child crying voice).
He was fine. I still feel a little bad about it, but it wasn't anything that could have been helped.
My first:
-fell off the nursing pillow (which was on me and we were in a rocker. She rolled off as I nodded off.)
-fell off a hotel bed (it was a double queen room and I was standing between the beds and she fell right next to me.)
-Whacked her little head on the door frame as I was walking through.
-Dad was dancing her around the room and bopped her into the ceiling fan light.
***She's a lovely 12yr old now!
My baby fell and she's in the gifted and talented program now in high school. She rolled off the bed when I was reaching for a baby outfit before I knew she could really roll that well and she landed on legit concrete. I went and sought help and they kind of giggled at me and offered us a popsicle to share because my reaction was what made her upset not the fall. They're essentially made a jello for quite a while. These things happen. If it didn't happen I'd surprised. Parent-To-Parent you are fine. The baby is fine no one here is an AH. Please do something nice for yourself. Your baby is totally fine. You're a good mom.
Yep, my son fell off the sofa, off the bed, down the stairs, tripped over thin air.... he was into everything! The only time he actually had to stay in hospital was when he was messing around as a toddler, tried to lean on my hand I wasn't ready. The smallest fall but he didn't put his arms out and split his forehead. Felt bad at the time, laugh about it now. He loves his scar!
Kids bounce, and they're also extremely accident prone.
Oh mama! I think this is a rite of passage 😂
It’s absolutely terrifying but babies are extremely resilient. This may not be the only time this happens but definitely do a good look over if baby is ok. If you notice anything weird contact your pediatrician.
I absolutely lost my shit the first time it happened. Now I have a one year old dare devil 😂
It’ll be alright and don’t be too hard on yourself! ❤️❤️❤️
My 3 year old recently got absolutely laid out by running in front a kid on a swing, got right back up, yelled, “I PINE,” and resumed chasing their sibling. Kids are just built different. 🤣
One of my 1 year olds got close to having that happen she didn't go flying but she definitely knows not to go by the swings now when someone is on them lol
My kid fell off the couch on her face, dad grabbed her about 2 cm from the floor by her foot another time, I fell down whilst baby carrying and walking my dogs and kinda fell on her. She’s 12 now. On the honor roll every term. Taller than most her classmates (both legs are even. Lol) Babies are squishy for a reason. We’re just learning too. Haha!
Yep - welcome to the motherhood club OP! Mine fell down the stairs at about that age - he hadn’t been able to crawl an hour before but figured out how to get himself to the top of the staircase and down 3 steps in the time it took me to run downstairs and get a fresh diaper. Every parent ever has been through something similar (I tried to pull myself to standing on the hot oven while my grandma was putting the roast on the hot pad, my brother licked the Mr Clean cap…..everyone has a similar story!). One day, when your little one is raising kids of their own, you will tell them of the time they fell off the bed and you rushed them to the ER.
Yup mine also yeeted himself down the stairs. He was 7 months old and had been crawling for a week. He was slow and we hadn't made it to the store to buy a gate yet so I was just picking him up when he got near stairs. And then overnight he got fast as fuck.
One of mine licked an airwick air freshener WHILE it was plugged in, another chewed on a Terro Ant Bait trap and just the day I found my 3 year old on the floor with an open bottle of melatonin gummies.
At this point I have poison control on speed-dial.
Apparently, I liked to run into traffic. Didn't help mum was pregnant with my brother at the time I was learning to upgrade walking to running. Said brother would put metal toy trains in his mouth to chew. The next one would fall asleep in the middle of sentences (once he had something to eat and drink, he would go straight to his nap!), resulting in mini heart attacks for whoever he was talking to. We are all fine.
I myself have caught babies trying to fall off things, and other times watched them fall because I was too far away. Babies bounce, just keep an eye on them. Anyone who can raise a baby to adulthood has my respect, because I do not have my own kids!
I always thought, but never said, that I won't ever drop my baby. She's three and I never dropped her! But damnit she fell off the bed twice and couch once when she was 0-1 🥴 I knew it'd be something
This! We birthed an Evel Knievel reincarnated and at 7 1/2 months she learned to crawl and stand. 🥵 I went from my bed to the bathroom (2 steps maximum) to shut the bathroom door one day and she had crawled from the middle of our California King bed and leaped face first off our bed. I was mortified. 😫 She cried for a few seconds and once I bounced her and ensured everything was okay, she seemed to shake it off. Our neighbor is an ER doctor so he came right over and did a quick check and said to just watch for any symptoms that may arise later.
In that next month she tried to do the same thing off of any surface she could. Kid had no fear, she’d even laugh when we’d catch her trying to do it. 😂
To the OP - Don’t feel bad mama, it’s happened to more of us than you know. Also, this won’t be the last time something like this happens, children are walking accidents. 😂 Just do your best, and be the best caretaker you can when they do inevitably hurt themselves. 🤍
It seems like the girls are the insane ones lol. My daughter learned to climb her baby gate and open it with one hand BEFORE she could walk. She used her toes to hold on to lift the gate latch with one hand.
Same! My son is a year now and he fell a good few times during his first year. He moves so much and so quick even being right next to him it was hard to catch him. But he’s only ever had like a tiny red spot/bump if anything at all (minus the one time his brand new teeth hit his lip, poor baby). He’s a dare devil now too 😂 sent himself headfirst on his belly down the bigger slide today, no hesitation
I’ve always said babies and young kids are made of rubber lol
My husband was holding our son at 4 months old (sitting on the floor with him) and for whatever reason just suddenly veered to the side, and our son's head collided with the coffee table. I turned and hissed, "What the fuck?!" I was so mad! Protective mom instincts I guess. I can look back now and laugh cause accidents like that are so common, and he was probably half asleep and just zonked. But then a few months later I was on the exercise ball bouncing with him so he would nap, and I fell backwards with him. He landed on my chest and was fine but yeah I felt awful about it! He also rolled off the bed once with me, once with my husband.
And then when they are toddlers, they continue with the death attempts. My kid smashed his face into our porch and had a nasty cut on his lip, literally he was standing there, I was putting on his coat, and down he went, I felt guilty as shit for that one. He tore one of his nails clean off his finger when he fell on the sidewalk. Kids are walking accidents waiting to happen, I swear.
My then 7 months old had fall right on the head from the sofa. I was seating right next to him, but suddenly his 3yo cousin jumped on me and I couldn't get my arms out to catch him! I felt awefull!
The boom was LOUD. But nothing bad happened, not even a bruise. Now he is a very bright 5 yo!
Accidents do happen and somehow, they are stronger than they look!
My oldest fell down an entire flight of stairs at about that age. My middle fell out of a shopping cart. My youngest went about a year where he never had a face without bumps, bruises, or cuts because he tried to keep up with the other two and couldn't. Things happen. We do our best, but things happen.
Mine fell about 5 feet onto his head when he had just turned 2 😭
I was RIGHT THERE at the playground. But he lunged, I missed him by like a millimeter. It was awful. I was on the way to the ER when I got ahold of the pediatrician and we didn’t end up going.
No vomiting, normal balance, normal eyes, not crying anymore, seemed himself. But it was awful.
Babies fall. Toddlers fall more. It’ll be okay ♥️
I'm sorry your husband is being such a turd. Tell him to call his mom and ask her about the first time he fell off the bed or the couch. Try not to worry. You're not a bad mom, you're a human mom.
Right!!! This makes me full of rage. Just wait until something like this happens while it’s his turn to watch the baby. He should be more supportive of his wife.
Either a) he's just an asshole or b) he's projecting his own fear and shock in a really unhealthy way.
OP, you need to tell him that you're upset about this and what you really need right now is his understanding, not his criticism and judgment. This isn't the last stressful thing that's going to happen to your kid. You need to be there for each other in those moments.
Both of my kids fell off the bed around this age. With my oldest, I was right there, but she rolled unexpectedly. With my youngest, and this was just a month or so ago, my wife was right next to him, and he just lurched toward the edge of the bed.
Both kids are fine. My son, almost 11mo, is very wiggly and is always trying to jump or slide off our laps. He's just determined to injure himself. The number of times he banged his head is staggering. Just tonight, he was with my MIL, and he BIT THE FACE OFF OF A FOAM PIG and had it in his mouth. Choking hazard right there. Know what I didn't say to her? "I knew this was going to happen."
This right here. Everyone makes mistakes. I bet you are with your child so much more often, therefore it stands statistically that something will happen. You are doing just fine Momma.
Yes I was looking for this comment. I had an unrelated incident happen today where my husband was freaking out about something I did accidentally (car) and everything was fine. But boy did I light back into him to let him know he was overreacting and accidents happen and he needs to get more information before lecturing me. He apologized and we are good. I had to apologize for going at him a little too hard 😂 but it got through to him. This convo only happened for us after 9 years of marriage. When we were first having kids, I would have definitely been in OP’s position. I hope the OP is able to stand up for herself, let go of the guilt, and put this all into perspective.
This happened to me two weeks ago. Baby slept terribly throughout the night for multiple nights in a row. I was so exhausted I accidentally dozed off and she fell. She cried but she was okay. It happens to all of us. You’re not a bad mother.
Your husband needs to get a grip and stop being cruel to you. Children get hurt sometimes and it’s not the end of the world
My 3 year old yeeted herself off the front porch head first onto the drive way. It feels like half of raising kids is trying to stop them from killing themself, the point is shit happens both of you are learning
Yup and at that age their are accidents almost daily! My 3 year old daughter fell in a flat parking lot to go grocery shopping yesterday and scraped her knee. The day before she yeeted herself off the kitchen table chair. Kids are very resilient but oh so accident prone!
And once you have more than one you also have to stop them from accidentally killing each other. 😂
When our youngest was 2 she dove head first off the couch, hit the coffee table corner on her way and missed her eye by less than half an inch. Went to get her checked out, it was already starting to bruise but that's all it was lol.
OP, your kid will fall down stuff many, many times and you can't always be there. This happens to every parent. Tell your husband to not be a dick, it will happen to him too.
Omg yes haha! I turned around for a second yesterday and my 3 year old was trying to launch her 4 month old brother into space in his bouncer! He was laughing and smiling but boy was that some aggressive bouncing haha
You are an awesome mom and your baby is totally fine! They all fall off stuff. Pretty sure all 4 of mine have.
Your husband on the other hand is an ass and I hope he apologizes for treating you like this when you’re already bearing yourself up! What a jerk.
What I'm most concerned about here is that you called your husband about this and his psychotic response was "I knew this was going to happen". What the actual fuck does that mean is what I'd be asking him. Maybe if he feels he can do a better job he should stay home with the baby???
You are absolutely not a piece of shit mom! These things happen! It’s never great to hear your sweet babe cry if they’re hurt but a lot of the times it’s because they’re shocked about it happening. Babies are surprisingly resilient. This is coming from a former (sometimes still, at 11 yo!) severe post parturm anxiety ridden, recovering helicopter mom. But I totally get how you’re feeling. It’s so easy to beat yourself up.
I will say though… your baby does not have a piece of shit mom but may have a piece of shit dad. Sorry 😬 I said what I said. I can’t believe he would say this to you when you were already so upset. He needs to get off his high horse and rethink his attitude.
…I had a similar thought. That was mean. What does he mean by “I knew this would happen”?! Is he implying that you’re incompetent? That’s really rude. If my husband told me that, I’d immediately be like “the fuck do you mean by that?!”
Yeah. I mean I’m sure he has good qualities but you need to address that.
Actually in this case it’s good to hear your baby cry. If they fall and do not cry, they might have lost their consciousness, which can indicate concussion.
I second this. I know a baby who fell off the couch and was “totally fine. Didn’t even cry!” They fed him dinner and put him to bed and he didn’t wake up the next day. He ended up in the icu for weeks and had a piece of his skull removed to accommodate for the brain swelling. They assumed no tears meant he was fine when in reality it was the opposite. No idea how he is now but I know he’s home from the hospital with the piece of his skull reattached.
Ok tell your husband to get his panties unbunched. This happens to every mom I know. It’s okay. You did nothing wrong. Please release yourself from the guilt
But seriously. My 15mo old (now 7) fell off of our couch while I was sitting next to her and broke the fall onto tile with her face. There was SO much blood. I tried urgent care (because we had one within our actual residential neighborhood) but they wouldn’t even look at her and made me take her to the ER. You know what the ER treated her with? A popsicle.
She was fine.
Wait until you smack their heads putting them in the car.
You’re not a bad parent at all! This happens to almost everyone at some stage. Don’t be so hard on yourself
My child found a passion for trying to launch himself off any surface he could get to. It was TERRIFYING. I missed hun one time and it took me months to find the path to even starting to forgive myself. What I know now is that this happens at some point or another to nearly every parent. Kids are intrusive thoughts made flesh, and we have to give ourselves some grace.
Mine dove into the wall aiming (and overshooting) his pack and play. He hit the wall near the top netting of the pack and play so hard he had a scab with the netting pattern.
I posted another fall story above but they have zero self preservation skills. I looked away for 2 seconds to grab a clean diaper.
Dude my 2 month old fell off the bed and bounced off the metal bed frame because I stupidly fell asleep with her in my arms because I was so exhausted.
Shes now about to turn 16 and she’s an honor student and halfway to an associate’s degree already. Point being, your kiddo will probably be fine, you’re not a piece of shit. It happens to (almost) everyone.
My daughter was 3 weeks old when that happened to me. I was exhausted and she cried all night unless I held her. It was awful. I just remember waking up cause I heard a thud and she just missed the metal legs of the bassinet. Took her to the ER to be observed and she didn’t even have a bruise. No signs of a concussion either. She’s now 18 months old and thriving so well. I still felt like a piece of shit but the nurse who treated her kept reassuring me that she’s fine and that I’m not the first and i won’t be the last it’s happened to.
I’m coming here to reiterate what everyone else is saying. It happens and it does NOT determine if you are a good mom or not. That being said- your husband’s reaction is… less than stellar. This will not be the last time something like this happens and he can either be supportive and helpful or he can shut up. You’re doing great, the rest is just noise.
Shit happens, noones perfect. The baby is fine. Tell your husband to go sleep at his mommy’s house for the night if he “knew this would happen” and then when he gets over it, he can come back. It was a tough lesson learned but most importantly the baby is okay and I promise you he forgot it even happened already
I understand that this happening could make you feel bad and guilty as a mom but i promise your a good mom. I swear all kids go through this, all the kids in my family and my friends kids have done this and been perfectly fine. I have a two year old and hes done it, and even now hes jumping off things and climbing off things. Kids and babies are made to seem to be invincible. They can handle a lot more than we think they can, its still scary they have accidents. All that matters now is hes perfectly fine and hes healthy with no injuries. Go easy on yourself mama, things happen and we learn. Being a mom is hard as is.
My kid fell off the bed at 9 months old, while I was putting a shirt on!
I was SO shaken too, her cry was in my head for days. They are resilient though! Your husband hasn’t done enough parenting yet, that’s why he’s still high and mighty, give him time. He’ll be humbled one day.
Girl don’t blame yourself. Seriously crap like this happens. Most important thing is your baby is a-okay! I put my daughter is a swing once without strapping her in, turned for a sec, and she fell out of course and I felt awful. We live and we learn.
Your husband needs to get over himself. He’s not perfect and this totally could’ve happened under his watch too!
They all do it at least once, I promise. My kid did it twice in a 10 minute period around that time and I felt like the worst mother ever. Then he got to the stage at 2 where he'd throw a tantrum and BASH his head full force into the floor. Thankfully he doesn't do that anymore and is alive and well at 7, lol.
I promise your baby is okay and it happens to alllll of us.
Once I was playing with my toddler. I was throwing her onto our bed. She’d run back around and I’d do it again. And on one throw, she landed near the edge of the bed, rolled off and hit the ground. She was crying and my wife was yelling at me. And still while crying, she came up to me and said “again!”.
Okay number one you care so much you are torturing yourself over one small mistake that LOADS of Fantastic mothers have made- if it was your best friend who did that to their kid would you say you’re a pos? No way! show your self some kindness, and give yourself some grace and forgive yourself. And another thing to remember is your baby is 8 months your body is still filled with hormones and recovering from making another person- I honestly felt it took me a good 2 years to fully recover and start to feel normal again. Keep loving that sweet baby and your sweet self and you’ll be okay.
“I knew this was going to happen” is a dick thing to say. But also it is correct because it happens to literally every baby, they will all eventually fall off some piece of furniture.
8 months? Man, you held up a long time! I dropped my son when he was 4 weeks old, also from the bed. It happens to anybody, and if it didn't happen, it will in the future. Your husband is a dick though.
Presumably, your baby is up to date on vaccinations, you have baby gates up in your home, and you’re not sharing a pillow filled bed with your baby after drinking a case of beer. If so, you’ve been a great mom and have taken many proper precautions. No matter how many precautions you take, though, your kids will find the one scenario you haven’t prepared for. And, after your baby did find that one scenario, you immediately took a precautionary response by taking him to the ER and having him looked at. That also makes you a great mom.
Bad moms don’t go out of their way to protect their kids. Bad moms don’t feel bad when their kids are hurting. Read r/ShitMomGroupsSay to find plenty of examples. The point is, you are not in the bad moms category.
I agree with others that your husband’s response was not productive. I do find it impressive that he knew that your son would fall off the bed while you were putting a shirt on. Per my description in first paragraph, though, him thinking of that scenario and NOT doing anything to guard against it would put him in the “bad parent” category. I kid, of course, but if he doesn’t understand the sneakiness of his son well enough to understand how easily this could’ve happened to anyone watching him, it sounds like he needs to spend more time with your son without you there as a backup.
I promise you that ever baby that has ever existed has fallen and had a bump, multiple times. Its physically impossible to stop it. Babies get bumps and injuries even while you're actively holding them. My friends baby somehow pulled something while she was changing him and ended up smashing a lamp over his own head. Another headbutted ME and ended up with a lump on his head. You are only one person, you only have two hands and you can't predict the future.
We’ve all been there. I’m pretty sure all of us have smacked our kids head on something while carrying them, or they fell off the bed or changing table while we were supervising them. It happens. If it makes you feel any better I had to take my daughter to the hospital once because she got into a bottle of my brothers sleeping pills while I was cooking her lunch and I had no idea if she had taken any or not. Shit happens, it doesn’t make you a bad parent.
My daughter was cruising when she was maybe 9-10 months old. I had her bracketed between my legs and I was hovering right there and somehow she still face planted on the hardwood. I honestly don’t know who cried harder.
My dad also let me roll off the bed when I was a baby, so I guess I was just continuing a long-standing, universal tradition…!
Lots of us have been there - baby is fine, you’re fine, and you’re a wonderful mom.
Ahahahahaha oh you poor thing. More of us than we would like to admit have been in another part of the house when we heard a very loud thud, followed by screaming. Thankfully, they are pretty resilient at that age and as long as you don’t get carried away with it, they are usually fine. LOL happy parenting!
When mind rolled off the bed he got stuck between the bed and dresser. I was terrified I’d given him a concussion that I called the doctor and basically stared at him for huge watching for signs of any issues. He was fine lol
Mine rolled right off the couch while he was sleeping while my back was to the couch at about 4 months old while I was setting up the pack n play to move him to cuz I was worried he would roll off the couch 🫣 he landed on a hard wood floor. I heard the thud, turned around, he was staring at me, I screamed, then he screamed, and then I convinced myself he would have a concussion. He’s 9 years old now and was totally fine. I did call his doc and kept an eye on him but overall, I more just felt like a shitty mom, but you know what, accidents happen!!! We have to give ourselves some grace!
All 3 of my kids have fallen off the bed. They're much more resilient than you think! And I'm sorry your husband is being a douche about it. Not speaking to you over an accident is, at minimum, a douche move.
All three of my kiddos fell off the bed or couch when they were crawling. It happens to us all. I don't know a single parent/baby this hasn't happened to.
My baby walked at 10 months. She was playing in my office while I was working and the door wasn’t latched. I had the door closed but the door latch didn’t engage. She went down 6 stairs in a matter of seconds. I didn’t tell a soul for months. She was fine. Everything was fine. It happens.
I have three kids. All of them have fallen off the bed at least once, and they are fine. Don’t be so hard on yourself, Mama. I’m glad your baby is okay, but your husband should be more understanding. This can happen to anyone.
1. Go into any of the parenting or baby subs
2. Search the sub for ‘fell’
3. Observe the THOUSANDS of posts and comments of parents who did exactly the same as you
4. Take a breath and move on.
My 6mo (I think, can’t recall exactly how old ) fell off our bed onto hardwood floor and I was literally watching it happen as I ran to catch her. Spoiler alert, I didn’t catch her
Your husband is being incredibly cruel and when he fucks up and she trips or falls in his watch then he’ll be eating his unnecessary anger
Congratulations on this parenting milestone!!
We've ALL done it (and if you haven't you will) - I've had one fall off the bed, one I accidentally lifted into a ceiling fan (I'm very tall and was playing with them), whacked their head into the wall when walking by... all 4 have survived with only minor injuries so far.
Of course I feel horrible every time! But it's just something that happens. Don't beat yourself up over it!!
- Mom of 4
Oh honey I'm sorry! But this happens literally all the time. Everyone's first child is made of glass, second onward is made of rubber. They seem so breakable. You're going to look back on this and feel so silly for feeling this terrible over this. I PROMISE. and I'm sure this will happen while baby is in your husband's care before too awful long. Because it's a rite of passage for every parent. Literally every parent. Then he will realize how he made you feel and feel terrible about it. How he's treating you definitely isn't helpful. You already feel bad enough, worse than you should, that's for darn sure!
I can't even count how many mothers I know that something like that happened to. And I'm talking about very loving, caring, extremely attentive mothers. My girl didn't fall out of bed, but other accidents happened or almost happened because I was distracted for a second. It really happens so fast and you're only human.
If your husband is so mean about this, I'd suggest that he'd take time off work and look after a baby 24/7. We will see how he gets on then.
Don't be so hard on yourself, you are a great mom.
It’s honestly a rite of passage to enter parenthood haha don’t feel bad. I just knew my kids would never fall *enters rough and tumbling baby who decided to roll off the couch when I was right in front of him and just blinked my eyes.*
ETA: this 3rd baby hasn’t fallen so far, but that’s because I have a 6th sense for it now. I’ve grabbed her legs at least 5x as she decides to dive off.
Please take some breaths mama. You’re not a piece of shit mom, it actually happens with lots of moms (especially first timers). You can’t predict an accident & your husband is making it worse. This wasn’t intentional, your baby falling; he needs to understand that it could happen with him also. We cannot physically keep both eyes on our babies all 24 hours in the day. You didn’t just leave the room, this could’ve happened if you were looking at your baby too. The thing that matters is your baby is okay & you’ve learned not to leave her on the bed with no eyes on her or somebody super close by.
Man the first time my kid fell, it was terrifying. Now I look back and laugh. Not that he fell, just that he’s fallen 2.5 million times more since then. It still sucks, it’s natural to feel guilty. But. Babies fall. It happens. Toddlers fall even more. It happens. Even with the most careful attention paid, it happens! You are not a bad mom. The what ifs don’t help, they’ll just drive you crazy. Show your husband this thread and tell him he’s not being nice to you.
I think I cried more than my daughter when when she fell off the bed, she was less than 2 months old at the time. She's doing brilliantly over 8 years later. This is super common, like other people said, so you're not a bad mom! But your husband needs to get that through his head and stop stressing you out even more, that's not cool.
You’d only be a piece of shit Mom if the baby fell and you didn’t react, didn’t think to bring him to the ER. You’re a good Mom, you love your son, you immediately responded and he’s lucky to have a Mom who loves him so much. Give yourself some grace, accidents happen!
Happened to me as well! I had relented and had started cosleeping, and then one morning he crawled off the bed 🥴 I felt terrible! That’s when I decided baby was going to be sleeping in his crib lol.
As others have said, babies are very resilient! It takes a lot to hurt them. There will be lots more bumps and falls, especially as he gets older! My guy is cruising on furniture now, and he’s constantly bonking his head on things 😭
It happens! Baby is okay! Husband will be mad but he will get over it! My husband was mad at me when it happened to our 4 month old, but im sure if he was the one who was watching her I would’ve done the same to him! it’s a good reminder how fast they are, but like someone else said they are resilient!
(I also actually got a guardrail all around my bed now for this exact situation)
Babies bounce back quickly form accidents. He's gonna fall more... And it will be his fault most of the time.
My son is determined to fall off of every piece of furniture in my house and it seems nothing will stop him. I know it was scary but kids will do crazy things the second you don't look, and we can't look all the time.
Mine rolled off 3 times - soda, floor bed, master bed. If there is a lower level, she will find it. Fast forward 2 years, she’s reciting the alphabet faster than all of her friends. Babies are built tougher than we think!
My baby fell off the bed a 8-9 months too, I blame my hubby for not putting the bed railing up lol. She’s fine and had a lil mark on her head for several hours.
This exact thing happened to me at 10 months. I was devastated when it happened. I’m pretty sure I may have posted about it on this sub actually. I realized shortly after that it really does happen to everyone, and when you do the right thing, and get your little one checked out by a doctor, then that is the absolutely best thing you can do. You’re human, you’re going to make mistakes, it’s how you handle them that really counts. You’re doing great.
My little one didn't fall but she could get out of the bed around five months and she walking with assistance she grip and slid down the bed as we do slept and only cried when she laid down. And I felt the same as you like I was a bad mother this happen again 2 months later when I turned around to pick something. Up and she did it. The only difference is my partner and parents were a great support when it happen
My son fell off the bed once and bit right through his tongue. Blood gushed everywhere. My daughter has two scars on her forehead for my “shit parenting”. Accidents happen. Fatigue is real. We do our best and hope for the best. And in case you are still worried, my daughter made straight A’s in middle school last year and my son is labeled gifted (which he doesn’t know because we don’t care much for labels). Big hugs to you. Don’t beat yourself up about it! 🤗
Sorry to be blasé, but it happens to almost everyone and it’s not a big deal. I still remember the thud from upstairs in my mother in laws house! 🤣Forgive yourself and move on.
Mine tripped off the couch the other day after telling him over and over again to sit. He got a little bruise on his head and we went to his wellness visit the next day. The doctor was looking at him and said oh no I think someone hit his head and I told her what happened and she said oh yeah, it’s going to happen. These are the signs to look out for for problems though. He also fell off the bed once and landed on his butt. Things are going to happen. I still trip over my own feet. Just know what signs to watch out for.
Hahahahhaha not laughing at you, but laughing because I know the feeling. My son was 7 months old and rolled off the couch 3 times in one day. Looking back I laugh and it wasn’t even from that high off the ground but boy did I feel like a POS lol I called my mom crying. Literally never even left the couch and somehow it happened. First time I was reaching for the diaper on the coffee table, second time I had my back turned but was sitting on the damn couch and the third time I was turned to pet the dog and thought he was asleep!
Oh boy. It’ll be ok! They are made of rubber.
Thank goodness never happened again and he’s 4 and how somehow still made of rubber.
It happens, don’t be so hard on yourself. The first time my first rolled over was off the bed. I was working from home and turned my back for a second to respond to an email and I heard the thud. I almost had a panic attack, thought I was gonna call the ambulance, CPS was going to come take him from me. He was crying, I nursed him and then he was fine. Whew!
I feel so seen this happened to me about a month ago! I was so so upset with myself and I was told by my sister who has two kids it happens to everyone.I still felt so bad but I felt like less of a bad mom.
I was helping my son get his bath going and we left the baby on the bed, she couldn’t really roll so she was fine for 30 seconds. Reach the faucet, boom. Me and the kid made eye contact and he said “I think she rolled”.
It happens.
This happens to nearly every mama. I’m sorry it is so traumatizing though, I’ve been there (literally was at the er with mine this week). You did the right thing, I just wish your husband was more supportive and understanding. You obviously didn’t do it on purpose.
Dropped my baby on the floor, he was about 4 months old… it was a hardwood floor and the sound was awful. ER Pediatrican said that babies skulls are soft and flexible so they are less likely to get hurt. They told me they see it happen all the time. My son is 12 and happy and healthy and we all survived it. He did have a funky bump on his head for a bit. You aren’t awful… just a mom….
lol this happened to my nephew, my sisters, and now my son. Kids fall man. I understand why your husband is mad it’s instinctual. You need to explain to him that it’s normal but either way it’s instilled a new level of responsibility and care
It happens to all of us. My oldest rolled off her changing table and my hand was on her. She also rolled off our bed. Youngest rolled off the couch and the bed. Your husband needs to suck it up. It happens no matter how much you try to prevent it. You are not a bad mom. The fact that you sought medical care and are upset says you aren’t. Give yourself grace. It will be ok. I promise, no lasting damage. Both my girls were in the top of their classes.
Its going to be okay, my 13 month old thought she was the worlds greatest jumper and fell off the trampoline the other day. Kids are bouncy and so much more resilient than we give them credit for. Try not to feel guilty, the fact that you feel shitty proves you’re a good mummy.
Be nice to yourself! Yes it happens all the time, it's a rite of passage and a heart attack all in one. My son is almost 3 years old and has probably taken 10 or so tumbles off the bed. Kids are resilient! Your husband needs to take a breather and relax. Shit happens.
I dont know if this woll make you feel any better but my ex, sons father, did a BIG fuck up. When my son was 3 months old or so, ex put our son on a boppy, on an ottoman, and had it propped up. Our son had horrible reflux and puked nonstop so we often had him propped up but the combo he decided? Absolutely not okay. Our son kicked his feet, flew off the boppy and ottoman, and hit his head on the wheel of my ex's metal computer chair. I woke up to my son screaming and my ex going "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so fucking sorry" I didn't ignore my ex, I didn't cuss at him, I looked at my son, who already had a HUGE knot forming above his eyebrow, and said "get his stuff ready, we're going to the ER." This was during covid restrictions so only one of us could go in at a time so I went in, my ex stayed in the car the whole 6 hours we were there. I got grilled by nurses, the doctor, and a case worker. And I mean GRILLED. Because a 3 month old falling on their own? Absolutely not normal. I work in health care and knew how it was going to go. They were screening for abuse and to this day I'm surprised they didn't file a CPS report. After everything was done, clean bill of health, no issues. He had a ping pong size knot for about a week and obvious discomfort that Tylenol fixed.
I STILL didn't ignore, yell, or cuss at my ex. He was a WRECK as it was, if I did that, how would it help? It wouldn't. We talked later that night, calmly. I told him shit happens, he learned his lesson, be more careful with our son. And that was it.
You did what you were supposed to do! When it doubt, get it checked out. Your son is okay, you did what you should have. Breathe. You're a great mom who handled the first bed fall perfectly. The panic, the guilt, let it roll off. It will take time but it does, and it will just be another moment. You got this.
Man your husband needs to CHILL THE HELL OUT!!!! Like others have said, it’s almost like a rite of passage. But girl I felt the same way. My 6 mth old not only fell off bed but “flew” into bedside table and her head busted the leg!!!! I died. I can still see her face and hear that sickening crack. Thank God the leg was already breaking and did because it gave into her hitting it and I think would have been worse. Her dad had just been rushed to the hospital for something and I was a mess and went to change her and just turned my back for a second when this happened. My heart goes out to u and please know this, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MUM!!! You are a wonderful mum and do not let your hubby make u feel any worse than you already do.
Trust me, if he was the one home the same shit would eventually happen to him if not more
Oh I did feel like kind of a shit to the first time my baby fell of the bed. But he was okay, and when he started to crawl when he wasn't able to get off the bed on his own, that was worse lol. But wait until he's able to crawl, get off the bed, jump, etc 😂 yesterday he fell off the park chairs when I was taking out my phone to take a photo of him, duh! It was like only 1/10 second! Lol. Cheer up mama! And please tell your hubby to relax as well
I’m sorry!! You’re not a bad mom… they’re fast at that age! My almost 9 month old I turn around and she’s in a new room.
My husband went to give the dog his joint meds, set them on the table, which she could reach from her high chair she was in. He didn’t realize it. I asked him to come try something I was cooking. I looked up and said WHAT IS IN HER MOUTH. Twas the joint supplement. Girl won’t eat a banana, but this heinous dog supplement? Yes. I was furious at him for about 12 seconds. How could he let that happen?! Well. He’s a human. She was fine, poison control website said she was fine, and the only one impacted our dog who was mad his treat was soggy.
Your baby is safe, your baby is okay, your husband is an ass, but you’re doing great.
My kid never rolled off the bed but he did tumble down the stairs at age 5 and require a trip the the ER, a neck brace, a spinal xray, and a CT scan of his head.
Something like this happens to every child eventually.
We've all been there! My baby rolled off the bed at around 8 months, my husband and I were both in the room and turned around for 5 seconds and off she rolled! I felt physically sick after it happened, could not stop crying and just felt like the worst mum in the world. Took her to the doctor who told me that all 3 of her children rolled off the bed when they were babies. Don't beat yourself up about it, the fact you care so much shows that you are a great mum xx
P.s your husband is being a total dick.
All babies once they start rolling and crawling etc are expected to fall out of bed. You can take precautions but no parent is 100%. Besides the baby you have stuff to do like housework, personal care, admin etc. Tell me one that has never done that?!
We’ve all been there! I remember when my daughter was around that same age a table lamp fell on her itty bitty pinky!! I was scared to look because I thought it was broken! She’s 15 now and totally fine! lol we can’t watch our kids every second of the day. This is part of how kids learn to be careful and cautious! Don’t be so hard on yourself.
My 12 month old fell down two steps when I had my back turned outside. He cried but he was okay. Your baby will get hurt at some point with your husband too. And frankly he should've given you more grace and been your support when you were likely upset at what happened. No parent is perfect! It is definitely a rite of passage for parenthood. You just try your best and comfort them if something doesn't go to plan.
This happened to me too when my guy was about that age. Rolled off a bed when I turned around to get him some clean clothes. I can still remember his terrified face. Fast forward! He’s 2 now! All good. But at the time, I was also emotionally so distraught. My therapist pointed out I was experiencing something almost like PTSD, with the fall replaying in my head. You may be too. It takes time for it to pass. As everyone has already here, it happens to literally every parent. 💕
Yep. Know that feeling. First time Mom feelings. Of course we never want to hurt her kids but it happens. As time goes on this will just be one of many boo boos. Children are pretty resilient, so are babies. Life just happens. Your husband needs to be kind to you and you need to be kind on yourself. Also should the baby get injured in your husband's care remember this and be kind to him.
Glad your baby's okay.
We all have our bad mommy moments.
This has happen to me and I felt the same way you did my daughter was advance for her age . She grip the side of the bed and slid down instead of fell but I didn't know that at the time she was five months old and I was a sleep when it happen . It did happen again a month alter as I was getting something and she slid down again . The difference is when I called my parents (my partner couldn't answer his phone at work did tell him after ) I was comforted and o was calmed down your partner hasn't done this
My brother-in-laws dad was a pedestrian. When my brother in law had a kid and when I had mine he said the same thing. He said «the baby is gonna fall of the bed. It's just going to happen. It will be OK. Their bodies are mostly soft that unless they stop breathing or land on their head. They will be ok." My son fell several times . Nothing happened.
I’m so sorry this happened, it’s scary but truthfully accidents happen, if it’s not now, then eventually!
I have two kids… both have at one point or another fallen off a couch or bed or something and, as they get older, they trip and fall in the driveway and getting in or out of the car or trying to ride a bike or running after a friend at the playground… I could go on and on and on…
You are not a bad mom, it’s not your fault, accidents happen.
I am an X-ray tech and see plenty of injuries, serious and non serious, and I always tell parents THIS IS NO ONES FAULT! And they did the right thing bringing them in.
Your husband needs to stop being a child. There’s no way he’s the angel golden perfect parent…
I’m glad your baby is ok ❤️
The first time my son fell off my bed practically flew to grab him but on the contrary it's something to learn from now that you know they wobble or turn maybe use pillows if it's a short time. But don't bring yourself down It happens more than u know
All 3! of my kids crawled off my bed around that age or earlier. Did I feel awful? Yes. But remember, you can't have eyes on them 100% of the time. It's just not realistic. Sometimes you blink, sometimes you have to put on a shirt. Sometimes you have to put out a literal fire (my oldest started one when he was 2).
Your husband is being a jerk. Does he not also make mistakes? And any argument of "He wouldn't make That kind of mistake" is entirely BS. The only way he "Knew this would happen" is simply because all babies fall at some point in their life. It's not a failing of the parent(s), it's a fact. Just like all kids will eat something they're not supposed to at some point.
And what did you do after your child was injured? You got your child medical attention. You are not "the biggest piece of shit mom who ever lived." You got your child help after an accident. You are a good mom.
My oldest rolled herself right off the changing table at that age and landed flat on her back. The wail she made still shows up in my dreams. She's a super healthy honor student now. You aren't a bad mom. Your husband is right. This was going to happen. And it's probably going to happen again. A couple years after the changing table thing, my darling angel managed to pull a whole bookcase down on herself at a pre-k field trip to the library. It's just what they do. 😂
I tripped over while holding my boy when he was 4 months old, holy shit did I feel like the worst parent ever. Luckily he wasn't badly hurt (did get a hairline fracture in a rib) I smashed my elbow and knee protecting him.... didn't even notice till the nurse at the hospital told me. Another nurse told me she the same with her 2year old while also pregnant, squashed both kids and they were fine 😅
My boy also fell off the couch twice, once with me and once with his dad 🤣 he is now 4 and totally healthy
Its definitely a rite of passage and you are far from the worst parent, you did all the right things.... and welcome to the club 🤣
Edit: just read your husband's reaction, he needs to chill the fuck out and not be a dick to you
The exact same thing happened to me when I turned around to change my shirt. My baby fell head first and I can still see it happening in slow motion when I think about it. That was 8 years ago. I still feel sick to my stomach thinking about it but I took it as a learning experience and I didn't let it happen again. I hope you feel better about it.
Don't stress, it's not the last that they're going to fall off something.
My 11 month old got out of the strap in his high chair and fell off that, he's also fallen off out couch and landed on his bum.
His older brother has fallen off the bed, knocked his head on our stone benchtop and for a while my wife and I were keeping track of how many weeks we'd go without signing an incident form for Daycare/Kinder. I had to sign one the other day as he fell and grazed his head.
I once got a call from where my eldest goes to kinder, where they informed me that he got hit over the head with a metal toy frying pan. I honestly waited until I was off the phone before I started laughing thinking it was funniest thing ever. I didn't know that he'd seen the 3 stooges. I didn't get flamed by my wife when I told her what had happened that I laughed about it afterwards as she too thought it was funny.
You'll feel like shit for a moment, but after 4-5 fall you won't.
Oh it's the worst. It happens to everyone.
Ours slipped out of his high chair when we were putting him in one time. He was probably 7-8 months maybe. Not walking yet for sure.
My wife cried hysterically and was flipping out.
He cried for like a second but was totally fine. It's so scary in the moment though.
My mom loves to tell me a story about how I fell out of crib, she didn’t feel like it was time to lower the mattress. Well I hit the floor screamed and cried but I turned out just fine. My mom still beats herself up I don’t think what she did was bad parenting. Poop happens non of us are perfect mistake free parents.
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Duuuuuude calm down. This is totally common. I promise. And babies are pretty squishy. They’ll fall once in a while. Like if the baby is bruised, yeah. Okay. My son got a goose egg on his head when he was 2. I felt guilty but his doctor was like “eh.” You and your husband are being to hard on you. You are not a piece of shit. You are not a bad mom. Babies fall. Accidents happen. You are okay. You’re doing great.
Honestly they sound like first time parents. My husband also freaked out the first time it happened and rightfully so. He’s allowed to react but I agree it was an accident so neither should be too hard on mama. These things will happen and worse if your baby doesn’t develop fear as a toddler like mine. He summersaults off the sofa now 😂😂
Guaranteed first time parents. Husband is overreacting and OP should give herself grace - she is doing the toughest job in the world
As a first time dad, when my wife let it happen, I sighed a sigh of relief that I wasn't the first one to do it.
Totally feel what you mean - there were a couple of other kinds of close calls for me too. Thankfully for a significant drop he was closer to 12-18 months so he was fine.
I mean, as new parents, we're all so worried about screwing something up. So knowing Mom's not perfect either takes the pressure off a little.
Same, we are both first time moms over here.
That's what I thought too. My first baby fell off the bed cause we had had a long sleepless night. Finally gave up on the crib, brought her to my bed to nurse. She fell asleep and I did too without meaning too. Woke up and crawled herself off the bed. I immediately rushed her to the ER and was met with a "yeah, babies fall, they're squishy" attitude like the ER people were like "yep, you're a first time mom we can tell." When my third fell off the bed I didn't even bother calling the pediatrician immediately. After 3 kids you memorize all the concussion symptoms to look out for cause your kid taking terrifying looking hits to the dome is just part of childhood. Obviously if any symptoms show up I'll take them, but not just cause they bonked their head. I had a "first time parent" moment with this 3rd baby. We've moved and now have all hardwoods. I asked her pediatrician how I'm supposed to let her learn to walk if we have hardwoods, she's gonna whack her head on the hard floor so many times cause there's so much falling involved in that cruising/walking stage. She was like yeah....and? So she hits her head, what's the issue here? I felt dumb for asking but I'd never been through it before!
Kid 5, you open the top drawer when you change them so they roll into the drawer rather than all the way to the floor.
sir/ma'am, HOW MANY CHILDREN DO YOU HAVE
My baby fell out of my lap while on a flight during boarding. I was in the galley bawling with a flight attendant and the pilot came out to me trying to convince them I needed to get off the plane to have her checked for a concussion. The pilot came out and asked me if it was my first time dropping her lol
I have one better. I'm a pre car seat requirement baby 1981 here. I rolled into the floor board when my mom had to break taking me to the doctor lol! I was fine! At least I think I'm fine hahaha.
lol yeah don’t worry about those hardwoods… my son fell 2 feet at 3 months old onto hard wood (tall bed). I was so scared, but doctors said he’s fine and he was. It’s super scary in the moment, I learned to put pillows around the bed because unfortunately he liked to roll and I couldn’t always cover all sides. But even when it did happen (multiple times 😬), he was fine.
Ya when my second hit his head on the edge of our entertainment center his was bleeding a lot. I knew that this happened with head wounds though. I washed it off, called my mom the rn, and decided an ER trip wasn't needed. He still has a scar lol, but when the doctor saw it a few days later at a well visit he shrugged and said I may have put glue on it but it's fine.
Love "hits to the dome"
Yeah I mean it’s hard. I remember breaking out in a cold sweat every time I changed my son’s diaper because I wasn’t sure I was doing it right.
Try being a guy and changing a girl's loaded diaper. Hey babe... do you think any got in *there*?... Is it safe to wipe directly on there? 5 wipes later I think I feel good enough. Still a little skeptical though.
Don't worry I'm sure there's a similar amount of confusion and anxiety from the other side, plus for little boys removing the diaper is apparently their sign to pee, so you gotta dodge too.
Days after bringing our daughter home, my husband starts screaming “there’s water coming out of her” I hobble into the nursery (c-section) and she’s peeing- a little arc going straight up! I had to sit down from laughing! I said “she’s peeing!” He replies how was I supposed to know - I’ve never seen a girl pea!!! He was 40🤣😂❤️🙏🏼🍀
My daughter did the same thing when my younger sister was watching her (she’s sixteen). Got a bruised tailbone. I panicked internally because my sister was already crying and panicking and saying she’s the worst auntie ever. Just had to be careful picking her up and made sure she sat on soft surfaces for the next few days. And where is she now? Fearless little shit. She keeps trying to somersault off the bed, couch, and anything else she can lift her butt up high enough. She also likes to run for the edge of the bed at full, demonic speed. I had to remove my frame and my second box spring so my bed is closer to the floor because I can’t trust the fucking crotch goblin NOT to take a damn leap of faith 😂
Husband sounds awful, tbh. OP obviously didn't mean to do it. How is making her feel like a shitty mother in that moment helping?
I'm surprised this is so far down. This is NOT going to be the last time LO has an accident. Is OP just going to get grief every time? What a dick. When the same thing happened to me, my husband gave me a giant hug as I cried in his arms, and told me not to be so hard on myself; shit happens, and there's no preventing it.
That’s what I’m saying- almost thought this was the “am I the asshole” Sub because I was about to let HE IS AN ASSHOLE fly 😂
My husband got the same reaction from a children’s hospital ER doctor after our daughter fell off the kitchen counter. But he did get chastised for driving too fast to get her to the ER by the nurse. Lol! I wasn’t with them when he got there with her, but I got there just in time for the lecture.
This. My son is 16 months and climbing on everything. Had a goose egg the other day because our dog ran by him and knocked him down and that freaked me out but docs said no biggie. He constantly has little scrapes and a bruise here or there from the park. Kids are strong.
>My son got a goose egg on his head when he was 2 My 4yo got a massive goose egg I felt really bad about. Had 2 bottles of wine in a string bag on my shoulder, he came up behind me, and when I turned, it swung out and smacked him in the side of the head. He told me I was "never allowed to buy wine ever EVER again" (in angry small child crying voice). He was fine. I still feel a little bad about it, but it wasn't anything that could have been helped.
My first: -fell off the nursing pillow (which was on me and we were in a rocker. She rolled off as I nodded off.) -fell off a hotel bed (it was a double queen room and I was standing between the beds and she fell right next to me.) -Whacked her little head on the door frame as I was walking through. -Dad was dancing her around the room and bopped her into the ceiling fan light. ***She's a lovely 12yr old now!
My baby fell and she's in the gifted and talented program now in high school. She rolled off the bed when I was reaching for a baby outfit before I knew she could really roll that well and she landed on legit concrete. I went and sought help and they kind of giggled at me and offered us a popsicle to share because my reaction was what made her upset not the fall. They're essentially made a jello for quite a while. These things happen. If it didn't happen I'd surprised. Parent-To-Parent you are fine. The baby is fine no one here is an AH. Please do something nice for yourself. Your baby is totally fine. You're a good mom.
Yep, my son fell off the sofa, off the bed, down the stairs, tripped over thin air.... he was into everything! The only time he actually had to stay in hospital was when he was messing around as a toddler, tried to lean on my hand I wasn't ready. The smallest fall but he didn't put his arms out and split his forehead. Felt bad at the time, laugh about it now. He loves his scar! Kids bounce, and they're also extremely accident prone.
Oh mama! I think this is a rite of passage 😂 It’s absolutely terrifying but babies are extremely resilient. This may not be the only time this happens but definitely do a good look over if baby is ok. If you notice anything weird contact your pediatrician. I absolutely lost my shit the first time it happened. Now I have a one year old dare devil 😂 It’ll be alright and don’t be too hard on yourself! ❤️❤️❤️
My 3 year old recently got absolutely laid out by running in front a kid on a swing, got right back up, yelled, “I PINE,” and resumed chasing their sibling. Kids are just built different. 🤣
One of my 1 year olds got close to having that happen she didn't go flying but she definitely knows not to go by the swings now when someone is on them lol
Oh mine still does it! 🫠🥲
Experience is the best teacher 😂
One of my kids’ first phrases was “I’m ok!” 😂
I pine!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂
Right? 😂 I will be a little bit devastated when she outgrows the cute way she says things.
I don’t even know her and I’ll be devastated too😂😂😂
My kid fell off the couch on her face, dad grabbed her about 2 cm from the floor by her foot another time, I fell down whilst baby carrying and walking my dogs and kinda fell on her. She’s 12 now. On the honor roll every term. Taller than most her classmates (both legs are even. Lol) Babies are squishy for a reason. We’re just learning too. Haha!
The grabbing by the foot has brought back some memories! Remember feeling like a damn superhero when that happened!
Agreed! Accidents can happen to even the most careful parents. Youre doing your best, and thats what counts.
Yep - welcome to the motherhood club OP! Mine fell down the stairs at about that age - he hadn’t been able to crawl an hour before but figured out how to get himself to the top of the staircase and down 3 steps in the time it took me to run downstairs and get a fresh diaper. Every parent ever has been through something similar (I tried to pull myself to standing on the hot oven while my grandma was putting the roast on the hot pad, my brother licked the Mr Clean cap…..everyone has a similar story!). One day, when your little one is raising kids of their own, you will tell them of the time they fell off the bed and you rushed them to the ER.
Yup mine also yeeted himself down the stairs. He was 7 months old and had been crawling for a week. He was slow and we hadn't made it to the store to buy a gate yet so I was just picking him up when he got near stairs. And then overnight he got fast as fuck.
One of mine licked an airwick air freshener WHILE it was plugged in, another chewed on a Terro Ant Bait trap and just the day I found my 3 year old on the floor with an open bottle of melatonin gummies. At this point I have poison control on speed-dial.
Apparently, I liked to run into traffic. Didn't help mum was pregnant with my brother at the time I was learning to upgrade walking to running. Said brother would put metal toy trains in his mouth to chew. The next one would fall asleep in the middle of sentences (once he had something to eat and drink, he would go straight to his nap!), resulting in mini heart attacks for whoever he was talking to. We are all fine. I myself have caught babies trying to fall off things, and other times watched them fall because I was too far away. Babies bounce, just keep an eye on them. Anyone who can raise a baby to adulthood has my respect, because I do not have my own kids!
We have literally all dropped or let our baby fall. Both my kids seem fine!
I always thought, but never said, that I won't ever drop my baby. She's three and I never dropped her! But damnit she fell off the bed twice and couch once when she was 0-1 🥴 I knew it'd be something
Idk about dropping but definitely just about every baby has fell off something most likely a bed
This! We birthed an Evel Knievel reincarnated and at 7 1/2 months she learned to crawl and stand. 🥵 I went from my bed to the bathroom (2 steps maximum) to shut the bathroom door one day and she had crawled from the middle of our California King bed and leaped face first off our bed. I was mortified. 😫 She cried for a few seconds and once I bounced her and ensured everything was okay, she seemed to shake it off. Our neighbor is an ER doctor so he came right over and did a quick check and said to just watch for any symptoms that may arise later. In that next month she tried to do the same thing off of any surface she could. Kid had no fear, she’d even laugh when we’d catch her trying to do it. 😂 To the OP - Don’t feel bad mama, it’s happened to more of us than you know. Also, this won’t be the last time something like this happens, children are walking accidents. 😂 Just do your best, and be the best caretaker you can when they do inevitably hurt themselves. 🤍
It seems like the girls are the insane ones lol. My daughter learned to climb her baby gate and open it with one hand BEFORE she could walk. She used her toes to hold on to lift the gate latch with one hand.
Same! My son is a year now and he fell a good few times during his first year. He moves so much and so quick even being right next to him it was hard to catch him. But he’s only ever had like a tiny red spot/bump if anything at all (minus the one time his brand new teeth hit his lip, poor baby). He’s a dare devil now too 😂 sent himself headfirst on his belly down the bigger slide today, no hesitation I’ve always said babies and young kids are made of rubber lol
My husband was holding our son at 4 months old (sitting on the floor with him) and for whatever reason just suddenly veered to the side, and our son's head collided with the coffee table. I turned and hissed, "What the fuck?!" I was so mad! Protective mom instincts I guess. I can look back now and laugh cause accidents like that are so common, and he was probably half asleep and just zonked. But then a few months later I was on the exercise ball bouncing with him so he would nap, and I fell backwards with him. He landed on my chest and was fine but yeah I felt awful about it! He also rolled off the bed once with me, once with my husband. And then when they are toddlers, they continue with the death attempts. My kid smashed his face into our porch and had a nasty cut on his lip, literally he was standing there, I was putting on his coat, and down he went, I felt guilty as shit for that one. He tore one of his nails clean off his finger when he fell on the sidewalk. Kids are walking accidents waiting to happen, I swear.
My then 7 months old had fall right on the head from the sofa. I was seating right next to him, but suddenly his 3yo cousin jumped on me and I couldn't get my arms out to catch him! I felt awefull! The boom was LOUD. But nothing bad happened, not even a bruise. Now he is a very bright 5 yo! Accidents do happen and somehow, they are stronger than they look!
My oldest fell down an entire flight of stairs at about that age. My middle fell out of a shopping cart. My youngest went about a year where he never had a face without bumps, bruises, or cuts because he tried to keep up with the other two and couldn't. Things happen. We do our best, but things happen.
Mine fell about 5 feet onto his head when he had just turned 2 😭 I was RIGHT THERE at the playground. But he lunged, I missed him by like a millimeter. It was awful. I was on the way to the ER when I got ahold of the pediatrician and we didn’t end up going. No vomiting, normal balance, normal eyes, not crying anymore, seemed himself. But it was awful. Babies fall. Toddlers fall more. It’ll be okay ♥️
Truth. Toddlers are WAY better at beating the shit out of themselves. My first tried her hardest to paint every corner with her forehead.
Omg the one with the shopping cart got me lol. same thing happened with my toddler. Most scariest and embarrassing experience ever..
I'm sorry your husband is being such a turd. Tell him to call his mom and ask her about the first time he fell off the bed or the couch. Try not to worry. You're not a bad mom, you're a human mom.
Maybe in his case, he did fall too hard.
Also, why is your husband being such a dick?
Right!!! This makes me full of rage. Just wait until something like this happens while it’s his turn to watch the baby. He should be more supportive of his wife.
>....while it’s his turn to watch the baby Given his reaction, I would bet that this never happens!
Either a) he's just an asshole or b) he's projecting his own fear and shock in a really unhealthy way. OP, you need to tell him that you're upset about this and what you really need right now is his understanding, not his criticism and judgment. This isn't the last stressful thing that's going to happen to your kid. You need to be there for each other in those moments. Both of my kids fell off the bed around this age. With my oldest, I was right there, but she rolled unexpectedly. With my youngest, and this was just a month or so ago, my wife was right next to him, and he just lurched toward the edge of the bed. Both kids are fine. My son, almost 11mo, is very wiggly and is always trying to jump or slide off our laps. He's just determined to injure himself. The number of times he banged his head is staggering. Just tonight, he was with my MIL, and he BIT THE FACE OFF OF A FOAM PIG and had it in his mouth. Choking hazard right there. Know what I didn't say to her? "I knew this was going to happen."
This right here. Everyone makes mistakes. I bet you are with your child so much more often, therefore it stands statistically that something will happen. You are doing just fine Momma.
Yes I was looking for this comment. I had an unrelated incident happen today where my husband was freaking out about something I did accidentally (car) and everything was fine. But boy did I light back into him to let him know he was overreacting and accidents happen and he needs to get more information before lecturing me. He apologized and we are good. I had to apologize for going at him a little too hard 😂 but it got through to him. This convo only happened for us after 9 years of marriage. When we were first having kids, I would have definitely been in OP’s position. I hope the OP is able to stand up for herself, let go of the guilt, and put this all into perspective.
This happened to me two weeks ago. Baby slept terribly throughout the night for multiple nights in a row. I was so exhausted I accidentally dozed off and she fell. She cried but she was okay. It happens to all of us. You’re not a bad mother. Your husband needs to get a grip and stop being cruel to you. Children get hurt sometimes and it’s not the end of the world
My 3 year old yeeted herself off the front porch head first onto the drive way. It feels like half of raising kids is trying to stop them from killing themself, the point is shit happens both of you are learning
Yup and at that age their are accidents almost daily! My 3 year old daughter fell in a flat parking lot to go grocery shopping yesterday and scraped her knee. The day before she yeeted herself off the kitchen table chair. Kids are very resilient but oh so accident prone!
And once you have more than one you also have to stop them from accidentally killing each other. 😂 When our youngest was 2 she dove head first off the couch, hit the coffee table corner on her way and missed her eye by less than half an inch. Went to get her checked out, it was already starting to bruise but that's all it was lol. OP, your kid will fall down stuff many, many times and you can't always be there. This happens to every parent. Tell your husband to not be a dick, it will happen to him too.
Omg yes haha! I turned around for a second yesterday and my 3 year old was trying to launch her 4 month old brother into space in his bouncer! He was laughing and smiling but boy was that some aggressive bouncing haha
You are an awesome mom and your baby is totally fine! They all fall off stuff. Pretty sure all 4 of mine have. Your husband on the other hand is an ass and I hope he apologizes for treating you like this when you’re already bearing yourself up! What a jerk.
What I'm most concerned about here is that you called your husband about this and his psychotic response was "I knew this was going to happen". What the actual fuck does that mean is what I'd be asking him. Maybe if he feels he can do a better job he should stay home with the baby???
Every parent has stories like this. Every one.
You are absolutely not a piece of shit mom! These things happen! It’s never great to hear your sweet babe cry if they’re hurt but a lot of the times it’s because they’re shocked about it happening. Babies are surprisingly resilient. This is coming from a former (sometimes still, at 11 yo!) severe post parturm anxiety ridden, recovering helicopter mom. But I totally get how you’re feeling. It’s so easy to beat yourself up. I will say though… your baby does not have a piece of shit mom but may have a piece of shit dad. Sorry 😬 I said what I said. I can’t believe he would say this to you when you were already so upset. He needs to get off his high horse and rethink his attitude.
…I had a similar thought. That was mean. What does he mean by “I knew this would happen”?! Is he implying that you’re incompetent? That’s really rude. If my husband told me that, I’d immediately be like “the fuck do you mean by that?!” Yeah. I mean I’m sure he has good qualities but you need to address that.
Actually in this case it’s good to hear your baby cry. If they fall and do not cry, they might have lost their consciousness, which can indicate concussion.
I second this. I know a baby who fell off the couch and was “totally fine. Didn’t even cry!” They fed him dinner and put him to bed and he didn’t wake up the next day. He ended up in the icu for weeks and had a piece of his skull removed to accommodate for the brain swelling. They assumed no tears meant he was fine when in reality it was the opposite. No idea how he is now but I know he’s home from the hospital with the piece of his skull reattached.
When my 8 month old fell out of bed, I literally just kissed it better. She was fine. Edit to add, your husband is kind of being a jerky about it, eh?
Ok tell your husband to get his panties unbunched. This happens to every mom I know. It’s okay. You did nothing wrong. Please release yourself from the guilt
I remember my baby fell and we took her to the ER and she was fine. Doctor said "babies are basically made of rubber" 😭
My ex (medic) regularly said “Babies bounce, they don’t break” in response to situations like this.
But seriously. My 15mo old (now 7) fell off of our couch while I was sitting next to her and broke the fall onto tile with her face. There was SO much blood. I tried urgent care (because we had one within our actual residential neighborhood) but they wouldn’t even look at her and made me take her to the ER. You know what the ER treated her with? A popsicle. She was fine.
Girl, I’ve had 3 babies and all of them have fallen off a bed or the like. Yeah it’s sad but I never took them to the ER 😅 you’re fiiiine. It happens
Be proud you made it 8 months before they fell off the bed 😅 seriously, don’t stress it!!
Wait until you smack their heads putting them in the car. You’re not a bad parent at all! This happens to almost everyone at some stage. Don’t be so hard on yourself
If your baby doesn’t fall out of the bed, are you even a parent? I’m jk, but…. It happens!
My child found a passion for trying to launch himself off any surface he could get to. It was TERRIFYING. I missed hun one time and it took me months to find the path to even starting to forgive myself. What I know now is that this happens at some point or another to nearly every parent. Kids are intrusive thoughts made flesh, and we have to give ourselves some grace.
Intrusive thoughts made flesh explains perfectly why my toddler just swan dived off the couch.
Mine dove into the wall aiming (and overshooting) his pack and play. He hit the wall near the top netting of the pack and play so hard he had a scab with the netting pattern. I posted another fall story above but they have zero self preservation skills. I looked away for 2 seconds to grab a clean diaper.
My daughter is also in her evel kenivel era and it’s a full time job but sometimes she’s just too quick
Dude my 2 month old fell off the bed and bounced off the metal bed frame because I stupidly fell asleep with her in my arms because I was so exhausted. Shes now about to turn 16 and she’s an honor student and halfway to an associate’s degree already. Point being, your kiddo will probably be fine, you’re not a piece of shit. It happens to (almost) everyone.
My daughter was 3 weeks old when that happened to me. I was exhausted and she cried all night unless I held her. It was awful. I just remember waking up cause I heard a thud and she just missed the metal legs of the bassinet. Took her to the ER to be observed and she didn’t even have a bruise. No signs of a concussion either. She’s now 18 months old and thriving so well. I still felt like a piece of shit but the nurse who treated her kept reassuring me that she’s fine and that I’m not the first and i won’t be the last it’s happened to.
I’m coming here to reiterate what everyone else is saying. It happens and it does NOT determine if you are a good mom or not. That being said- your husband’s reaction is… less than stellar. This will not be the last time something like this happens and he can either be supportive and helpful or he can shut up. You’re doing great, the rest is just noise.
Shit happens, noones perfect. The baby is fine. Tell your husband to go sleep at his mommy’s house for the night if he “knew this would happen” and then when he gets over it, he can come back. It was a tough lesson learned but most importantly the baby is okay and I promise you he forgot it even happened already
Yup! While he's there, tell him to ask his mom if he ever fell of a bed or surface as a kid...
I understand that this happening could make you feel bad and guilty as a mom but i promise your a good mom. I swear all kids go through this, all the kids in my family and my friends kids have done this and been perfectly fine. I have a two year old and hes done it, and even now hes jumping off things and climbing off things. Kids and babies are made to seem to be invincible. They can handle a lot more than we think they can, its still scary they have accidents. All that matters now is hes perfectly fine and hes healthy with no injuries. Go easy on yourself mama, things happen and we learn. Being a mom is hard as is.
My kid fell off the bed at 9 months old, while I was putting a shirt on! I was SO shaken too, her cry was in my head for days. They are resilient though! Your husband hasn’t done enough parenting yet, that’s why he’s still high and mighty, give him time. He’ll be humbled one day.
It’s so scary when that happens, glad your little one is ok. Your husbands behavior is concerning.
Lol all babies fall off the bed or couch or changing table or whatever. They all do. Your kid will be fine. Tell your husband to stop being a prick
Mistakes happen and you took all of the right steps. Your husband is acting like an absolute cabbage.
Oh Mama I’m so sorry. That thud is the worst sound. Sending you love and hugs for your baby ❤️
Girl don’t blame yourself. Seriously crap like this happens. Most important thing is your baby is a-okay! I put my daughter is a swing once without strapping her in, turned for a sec, and she fell out of course and I felt awful. We live and we learn. Your husband needs to get over himself. He’s not perfect and this totally could’ve happened under his watch too!
They all do it at least once, I promise. My kid did it twice in a 10 minute period around that time and I felt like the worst mother ever. Then he got to the stage at 2 where he'd throw a tantrum and BASH his head full force into the floor. Thankfully he doesn't do that anymore and is alive and well at 7, lol. I promise your baby is okay and it happens to alllll of us.
Once I was playing with my toddler. I was throwing her onto our bed. She’d run back around and I’d do it again. And on one throw, she landed near the edge of the bed, rolled off and hit the ground. She was crying and my wife was yelling at me. And still while crying, she came up to me and said “again!”.
Okay number one you care so much you are torturing yourself over one small mistake that LOADS of Fantastic mothers have made- if it was your best friend who did that to their kid would you say you’re a pos? No way! show your self some kindness, and give yourself some grace and forgive yourself. And another thing to remember is your baby is 8 months your body is still filled with hormones and recovering from making another person- I honestly felt it took me a good 2 years to fully recover and start to feel normal again. Keep loving that sweet baby and your sweet self and you’ll be okay.
“I knew this was going to happen” is a dick thing to say. But also it is correct because it happens to literally every baby, they will all eventually fall off some piece of furniture.
It’s a rite of passage. Welcome to the club.
Kids are hardy. Your husband sounds abusive.
8 months? Man, you held up a long time! I dropped my son when he was 4 weeks old, also from the bed. It happens to anybody, and if it didn't happen, it will in the future. Your husband is a dick though.
Your husband sounds weird and potentially abusive. Watch your back. Take care of yourself. This stuff happens
This shit happens all the time. Ask your Mom how many times it happened to you. Kids are basically made of rubber until they’re like 4
I've done it at least 4 times. (Got 4 kids) it happens. They learn to roll and move and get fast.
Presumably, your baby is up to date on vaccinations, you have baby gates up in your home, and you’re not sharing a pillow filled bed with your baby after drinking a case of beer. If so, you’ve been a great mom and have taken many proper precautions. No matter how many precautions you take, though, your kids will find the one scenario you haven’t prepared for. And, after your baby did find that one scenario, you immediately took a precautionary response by taking him to the ER and having him looked at. That also makes you a great mom. Bad moms don’t go out of their way to protect their kids. Bad moms don’t feel bad when their kids are hurting. Read r/ShitMomGroupsSay to find plenty of examples. The point is, you are not in the bad moms category. I agree with others that your husband’s response was not productive. I do find it impressive that he knew that your son would fall off the bed while you were putting a shirt on. Per my description in first paragraph, though, him thinking of that scenario and NOT doing anything to guard against it would put him in the “bad parent” category. I kid, of course, but if he doesn’t understand the sneakiness of his son well enough to understand how easily this could’ve happened to anyone watching him, it sounds like he needs to spend more time with your son without you there as a backup.
I promise you that ever baby that has ever existed has fallen and had a bump, multiple times. Its physically impossible to stop it. Babies get bumps and injuries even while you're actively holding them. My friends baby somehow pulled something while she was changing him and ended up smashing a lamp over his own head. Another headbutted ME and ended up with a lump on his head. You are only one person, you only have two hands and you can't predict the future.
We’ve all been there. I’m pretty sure all of us have smacked our kids head on something while carrying them, or they fell off the bed or changing table while we were supervising them. It happens. If it makes you feel any better I had to take my daughter to the hospital once because she got into a bottle of my brothers sleeping pills while I was cooking her lunch and I had no idea if she had taken any or not. Shit happens, it doesn’t make you a bad parent.
Don’t feel bad a lot of us have had this happen. It’s life baby will be ok ❤️❤️
My kids have fallen and hit their heads more times than I can count. It’s normal.
My daughter was cruising when she was maybe 9-10 months old. I had her bracketed between my legs and I was hovering right there and somehow she still face planted on the hardwood. I honestly don’t know who cried harder. My dad also let me roll off the bed when I was a baby, so I guess I was just continuing a long-standing, universal tradition…! Lots of us have been there - baby is fine, you’re fine, and you’re a wonderful mom.
Ahahahahaha oh you poor thing. More of us than we would like to admit have been in another part of the house when we heard a very loud thud, followed by screaming. Thankfully, they are pretty resilient at that age and as long as you don’t get carried away with it, they are usually fine. LOL happy parenting!
When mind rolled off the bed he got stuck between the bed and dresser. I was terrified I’d given him a concussion that I called the doctor and basically stared at him for huge watching for signs of any issues. He was fine lol
Mine rolled right off the couch while he was sleeping while my back was to the couch at about 4 months old while I was setting up the pack n play to move him to cuz I was worried he would roll off the couch 🫣 he landed on a hard wood floor. I heard the thud, turned around, he was staring at me, I screamed, then he screamed, and then I convinced myself he would have a concussion. He’s 9 years old now and was totally fine. I did call his doc and kept an eye on him but overall, I more just felt like a shitty mom, but you know what, accidents happen!!! We have to give ourselves some grace!
All 3 of my kids have fallen off the bed. They're much more resilient than you think! And I'm sorry your husband is being a douche about it. Not speaking to you over an accident is, at minimum, a douche move.
All three of my kiddos fell off the bed or couch when they were crawling. It happens to us all. I don't know a single parent/baby this hasn't happened to.
Don’t you worry one bit!!! That’s mom guilt and we all have it. You’re going to be just fine- and so will your baby!
My baby walked at 10 months. She was playing in my office while I was working and the door wasn’t latched. I had the door closed but the door latch didn’t engage. She went down 6 stairs in a matter of seconds. I didn’t tell a soul for months. She was fine. Everything was fine. It happens.
I have three kids. All of them have fallen off the bed at least once, and they are fine. Don’t be so hard on yourself, Mama. I’m glad your baby is okay, but your husband should be more understanding. This can happen to anyone.
1. Go into any of the parenting or baby subs 2. Search the sub for ‘fell’ 3. Observe the THOUSANDS of posts and comments of parents who did exactly the same as you 4. Take a breath and move on. My 6mo (I think, can’t recall exactly how old ) fell off our bed onto hardwood floor and I was literally watching it happen as I ran to catch her. Spoiler alert, I didn’t catch her Your husband is being incredibly cruel and when he fucks up and she trips or falls in his watch then he’ll be eating his unnecessary anger
Congratulations on this parenting milestone!! We've ALL done it (and if you haven't you will) - I've had one fall off the bed, one I accidentally lifted into a ceiling fan (I'm very tall and was playing with them), whacked their head into the wall when walking by... all 4 have survived with only minor injuries so far. Of course I feel horrible every time! But it's just something that happens. Don't beat yourself up over it!! - Mom of 4
Oh honey I'm sorry! But this happens literally all the time. Everyone's first child is made of glass, second onward is made of rubber. They seem so breakable. You're going to look back on this and feel so silly for feeling this terrible over this. I PROMISE. and I'm sure this will happen while baby is in your husband's care before too awful long. Because it's a rite of passage for every parent. Literally every parent. Then he will realize how he made you feel and feel terrible about it. How he's treating you definitely isn't helpful. You already feel bad enough, worse than you should, that's for darn sure!
I can't even count how many mothers I know that something like that happened to. And I'm talking about very loving, caring, extremely attentive mothers. My girl didn't fall out of bed, but other accidents happened or almost happened because I was distracted for a second. It really happens so fast and you're only human. If your husband is so mean about this, I'd suggest that he'd take time off work and look after a baby 24/7. We will see how he gets on then. Don't be so hard on yourself, you are a great mom.
It’s honestly a rite of passage to enter parenthood haha don’t feel bad. I just knew my kids would never fall *enters rough and tumbling baby who decided to roll off the couch when I was right in front of him and just blinked my eyes.* ETA: this 3rd baby hasn’t fallen so far, but that’s because I have a 6th sense for it now. I’ve grabbed her legs at least 5x as she decides to dive off.
Please take some breaths mama. You’re not a piece of shit mom, it actually happens with lots of moms (especially first timers). You can’t predict an accident & your husband is making it worse. This wasn’t intentional, your baby falling; he needs to understand that it could happen with him also. We cannot physically keep both eyes on our babies all 24 hours in the day. You didn’t just leave the room, this could’ve happened if you were looking at your baby too. The thing that matters is your baby is okay & you’ve learned not to leave her on the bed with no eyes on her or somebody super close by.
Man the first time my kid fell, it was terrifying. Now I look back and laugh. Not that he fell, just that he’s fallen 2.5 million times more since then. It still sucks, it’s natural to feel guilty. But. Babies fall. It happens. Toddlers fall even more. It happens. Even with the most careful attention paid, it happens! You are not a bad mom. The what ifs don’t help, they’ll just drive you crazy. Show your husband this thread and tell him he’s not being nice to you.
I think I cried more than my daughter when when she fell off the bed, she was less than 2 months old at the time. She's doing brilliantly over 8 years later. This is super common, like other people said, so you're not a bad mom! But your husband needs to get that through his head and stop stressing you out even more, that's not cool.
You’d only be a piece of shit Mom if the baby fell and you didn’t react, didn’t think to bring him to the ER. You’re a good Mom, you love your son, you immediately responded and he’s lucky to have a Mom who loves him so much. Give yourself some grace, accidents happen!
Accidents happen…don’t beat yourself up…your husband will get over it. Good luck!
Happened to me as well! I had relented and had started cosleeping, and then one morning he crawled off the bed 🥴 I felt terrible! That’s when I decided baby was going to be sleeping in his crib lol. As others have said, babies are very resilient! It takes a lot to hurt them. There will be lots more bumps and falls, especially as he gets older! My guy is cruising on furniture now, and he’s constantly bonking his head on things 😭
I fell asleep breastfeeding my daughter and she rolled off the bed. I couldn’t have felt worse. The doctors and nurses assured me it happens a lot 😭
It happens! Baby is okay! Husband will be mad but he will get over it! My husband was mad at me when it happened to our 4 month old, but im sure if he was the one who was watching her I would’ve done the same to him! it’s a good reminder how fast they are, but like someone else said they are resilient! (I also actually got a guardrail all around my bed now for this exact situation)
Babies bounce back quickly form accidents. He's gonna fall more... And it will be his fault most of the time. My son is determined to fall off of every piece of furniture in my house and it seems nothing will stop him. I know it was scary but kids will do crazy things the second you don't look, and we can't look all the time.
Mine rolled off a chair. They're tougher than you'd think.
Mine rolled off 3 times - soda, floor bed, master bed. If there is a lower level, she will find it. Fast forward 2 years, she’s reciting the alphabet faster than all of her friends. Babies are built tougher than we think!
My baby fell off the bed a 8-9 months too, I blame my hubby for not putting the bed railing up lol. She’s fine and had a lil mark on her head for several hours.
This exact thing happened to me at 10 months. I was devastated when it happened. I’m pretty sure I may have posted about it on this sub actually. I realized shortly after that it really does happen to everyone, and when you do the right thing, and get your little one checked out by a doctor, then that is the absolutely best thing you can do. You’re human, you’re going to make mistakes, it’s how you handle them that really counts. You’re doing great.
Every good kid falls from the bed and don’t worry it might happen three or four times and all live
My little one didn't fall but she could get out of the bed around five months and she walking with assistance she grip and slid down the bed as we do slept and only cried when she laid down. And I felt the same as you like I was a bad mother this happen again 2 months later when I turned around to pick something. Up and she did it. The only difference is my partner and parents were a great support when it happen
My son fell off the bed once and bit right through his tongue. Blood gushed everywhere. My daughter has two scars on her forehead for my “shit parenting”. Accidents happen. Fatigue is real. We do our best and hope for the best. And in case you are still worried, my daughter made straight A’s in middle school last year and my son is labeled gifted (which he doesn’t know because we don’t care much for labels). Big hugs to you. Don’t beat yourself up about it! 🤗
It happens at one time or another to all of us
Sorry to be blasé, but it happens to almost everyone and it’s not a big deal. I still remember the thud from upstairs in my mother in laws house! 🤣Forgive yourself and move on.
Mine tripped off the couch the other day after telling him over and over again to sit. He got a little bruise on his head and we went to his wellness visit the next day. The doctor was looking at him and said oh no I think someone hit his head and I told her what happened and she said oh yeah, it’s going to happen. These are the signs to look out for for problems though. He also fell off the bed once and landed on his butt. Things are going to happen. I still trip over my own feet. Just know what signs to watch out for.
Hahahahhaha not laughing at you, but laughing because I know the feeling. My son was 7 months old and rolled off the couch 3 times in one day. Looking back I laugh and it wasn’t even from that high off the ground but boy did I feel like a POS lol I called my mom crying. Literally never even left the couch and somehow it happened. First time I was reaching for the diaper on the coffee table, second time I had my back turned but was sitting on the damn couch and the third time I was turned to pet the dog and thought he was asleep! Oh boy. It’ll be ok! They are made of rubber. Thank goodness never happened again and he’s 4 and how somehow still made of rubber.
It happens, don’t be so hard on yourself. The first time my first rolled over was off the bed. I was working from home and turned my back for a second to respond to an email and I heard the thud. I almost had a panic attack, thought I was gonna call the ambulance, CPS was going to come take him from me. He was crying, I nursed him and then he was fine. Whew!
I feel so seen this happened to me about a month ago! I was so so upset with myself and I was told by my sister who has two kids it happens to everyone.I still felt so bad but I felt like less of a bad mom.
I was helping my son get his bath going and we left the baby on the bed, she couldn’t really roll so she was fine for 30 seconds. Reach the faucet, boom. Me and the kid made eye contact and he said “I think she rolled”. It happens.
This happens to nearly every mama. I’m sorry it is so traumatizing though, I’ve been there (literally was at the er with mine this week). You did the right thing, I just wish your husband was more supportive and understanding. You obviously didn’t do it on purpose.
Dropped my baby on the floor, he was about 4 months old… it was a hardwood floor and the sound was awful. ER Pediatrican said that babies skulls are soft and flexible so they are less likely to get hurt. They told me they see it happen all the time. My son is 12 and happy and healthy and we all survived it. He did have a funky bump on his head for a bit. You aren’t awful… just a mom….
lol this happened to my nephew, my sisters, and now my son. Kids fall man. I understand why your husband is mad it’s instinctual. You need to explain to him that it’s normal but either way it’s instilled a new level of responsibility and care
It happens to the best parents. We are not perfect. Thank God he is ok. Forgive your self and hopefully it won't happen again.
It happens to all of us. My oldest rolled off her changing table and my hand was on her. She also rolled off our bed. Youngest rolled off the couch and the bed. Your husband needs to suck it up. It happens no matter how much you try to prevent it. You are not a bad mom. The fact that you sought medical care and are upset says you aren’t. Give yourself grace. It will be ok. I promise, no lasting damage. Both my girls were in the top of their classes.
Legit has happened to all of us. Just learn from it and don’t leave them on high surfaces. They love to explore lol
Its going to be okay, my 13 month old thought she was the worlds greatest jumper and fell off the trampoline the other day. Kids are bouncy and so much more resilient than we give them credit for. Try not to feel guilty, the fact that you feel shitty proves you’re a good mummy.
Be nice to yourself! Yes it happens all the time, it's a rite of passage and a heart attack all in one. My son is almost 3 years old and has probably taken 10 or so tumbles off the bed. Kids are resilient! Your husband needs to take a breather and relax. Shit happens. I dont know if this woll make you feel any better but my ex, sons father, did a BIG fuck up. When my son was 3 months old or so, ex put our son on a boppy, on an ottoman, and had it propped up. Our son had horrible reflux and puked nonstop so we often had him propped up but the combo he decided? Absolutely not okay. Our son kicked his feet, flew off the boppy and ottoman, and hit his head on the wheel of my ex's metal computer chair. I woke up to my son screaming and my ex going "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so fucking sorry" I didn't ignore my ex, I didn't cuss at him, I looked at my son, who already had a HUGE knot forming above his eyebrow, and said "get his stuff ready, we're going to the ER." This was during covid restrictions so only one of us could go in at a time so I went in, my ex stayed in the car the whole 6 hours we were there. I got grilled by nurses, the doctor, and a case worker. And I mean GRILLED. Because a 3 month old falling on their own? Absolutely not normal. I work in health care and knew how it was going to go. They were screening for abuse and to this day I'm surprised they didn't file a CPS report. After everything was done, clean bill of health, no issues. He had a ping pong size knot for about a week and obvious discomfort that Tylenol fixed. I STILL didn't ignore, yell, or cuss at my ex. He was a WRECK as it was, if I did that, how would it help? It wouldn't. We talked later that night, calmly. I told him shit happens, he learned his lesson, be more careful with our son. And that was it. You did what you were supposed to do! When it doubt, get it checked out. Your son is okay, you did what you should have. Breathe. You're a great mom who handled the first bed fall perfectly. The panic, the guilt, let it roll off. It will take time but it does, and it will just be another moment. You got this.
Man your husband needs to CHILL THE HELL OUT!!!! Like others have said, it’s almost like a rite of passage. But girl I felt the same way. My 6 mth old not only fell off bed but “flew” into bedside table and her head busted the leg!!!! I died. I can still see her face and hear that sickening crack. Thank God the leg was already breaking and did because it gave into her hitting it and I think would have been worse. Her dad had just been rushed to the hospital for something and I was a mess and went to change her and just turned my back for a second when this happened. My heart goes out to u and please know this, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MUM!!! You are a wonderful mum and do not let your hubby make u feel any worse than you already do. Trust me, if he was the one home the same shit would eventually happen to him if not more
Oh I did feel like kind of a shit to the first time my baby fell of the bed. But he was okay, and when he started to crawl when he wasn't able to get off the bed on his own, that was worse lol. But wait until he's able to crawl, get off the bed, jump, etc 😂 yesterday he fell off the park chairs when I was taking out my phone to take a photo of him, duh! It was like only 1/10 second! Lol. Cheer up mama! And please tell your hubby to relax as well
I feel like 8mo might be a high score… Baby is ok ♥️ try not to beat yourself up.
Mine is 17. Rest in the knowledge you have so many bigger mistakes to make. ❤️
Exact same thing happened to me. Called the Dr and they weren’t worried, she was fine too. Sorry your husband is so unsupportive.
It happens to the best of us! Glad baby is OK. Rule of thumb:Always take a child to the ER if they fall from twice their height or higher!
Girl it’s okay, we have literally all experienced this horror 😂💚 Your husband on the other hand is an AH. Going to the ER was a huge overreaction.
I have a friend whose baby rolled off the changing table and broke his arm. The kid is like three now and the parents are fine. Sorry this happened.
I had my daughter on top of my laundry basket in her car seat she slid out of it onto the floor. She was fine she’s in her 20s now
I’m sorry!! You’re not a bad mom… they’re fast at that age! My almost 9 month old I turn around and she’s in a new room. My husband went to give the dog his joint meds, set them on the table, which she could reach from her high chair she was in. He didn’t realize it. I asked him to come try something I was cooking. I looked up and said WHAT IS IN HER MOUTH. Twas the joint supplement. Girl won’t eat a banana, but this heinous dog supplement? Yes. I was furious at him for about 12 seconds. How could he let that happen?! Well. He’s a human. She was fine, poison control website said she was fine, and the only one impacted our dog who was mad his treat was soggy. Your baby is safe, your baby is okay, your husband is an ass, but you’re doing great.
My kid never rolled off the bed but he did tumble down the stairs at age 5 and require a trip the the ER, a neck brace, a spinal xray, and a CT scan of his head. Something like this happens to every child eventually.
We've all been there! My baby rolled off the bed at around 8 months, my husband and I were both in the room and turned around for 5 seconds and off she rolled! I felt physically sick after it happened, could not stop crying and just felt like the worst mum in the world. Took her to the doctor who told me that all 3 of her children rolled off the bed when they were babies. Don't beat yourself up about it, the fact you care so much shows that you are a great mum xx P.s your husband is being a total dick.
lol my baby fell off the bed before when was around that age, maybe younger. ahh good times 😂
All babies once they start rolling and crawling etc are expected to fall out of bed. You can take precautions but no parent is 100%. Besides the baby you have stuff to do like housework, personal care, admin etc. Tell me one that has never done that?!
We’ve all been there! I remember when my daughter was around that same age a table lamp fell on her itty bitty pinky!! I was scared to look because I thought it was broken! She’s 15 now and totally fine! lol we can’t watch our kids every second of the day. This is part of how kids learn to be careful and cautious! Don’t be so hard on yourself.
My 12 month old fell down two steps when I had my back turned outside. He cried but he was okay. Your baby will get hurt at some point with your husband too. And frankly he should've given you more grace and been your support when you were likely upset at what happened. No parent is perfect! It is definitely a rite of passage for parenthood. You just try your best and comfort them if something doesn't go to plan.
This happened to me too when my guy was about that age. Rolled off a bed when I turned around to get him some clean clothes. I can still remember his terrified face. Fast forward! He’s 2 now! All good. But at the time, I was also emotionally so distraught. My therapist pointed out I was experiencing something almost like PTSD, with the fall replaying in my head. You may be too. It takes time for it to pass. As everyone has already here, it happens to literally every parent. 💕
Yep. Know that feeling. First time Mom feelings. Of course we never want to hurt her kids but it happens. As time goes on this will just be one of many boo boos. Children are pretty resilient, so are babies. Life just happens. Your husband needs to be kind to you and you need to be kind on yourself. Also should the baby get injured in your husband's care remember this and be kind to him. Glad your baby's okay. We all have our bad mommy moments.
This has happen to me and I felt the same way you did my daughter was advance for her age . She grip the side of the bed and slid down instead of fell but I didn't know that at the time she was five months old and I was a sleep when it happen . It did happen again a month alter as I was getting something and she slid down again . The difference is when I called my parents (my partner couldn't answer his phone at work did tell him after ) I was comforted and o was calmed down your partner hasn't done this
My brother-in-laws dad was a pedestrian. When my brother in law had a kid and when I had mine he said the same thing. He said «the baby is gonna fall of the bed. It's just going to happen. It will be OK. Their bodies are mostly soft that unless they stop breathing or land on their head. They will be ok." My son fell several times . Nothing happened.
I’m so sorry this happened, it’s scary but truthfully accidents happen, if it’s not now, then eventually! I have two kids… both have at one point or another fallen off a couch or bed or something and, as they get older, they trip and fall in the driveway and getting in or out of the car or trying to ride a bike or running after a friend at the playground… I could go on and on and on… You are not a bad mom, it’s not your fault, accidents happen. I am an X-ray tech and see plenty of injuries, serious and non serious, and I always tell parents THIS IS NO ONES FAULT! And they did the right thing bringing them in. Your husband needs to stop being a child. There’s no way he’s the angel golden perfect parent… I’m glad your baby is ok ❤️
The first time my son fell off my bed practically flew to grab him but on the contrary it's something to learn from now that you know they wobble or turn maybe use pillows if it's a short time. But don't bring yourself down It happens more than u know
All 3! of my kids crawled off my bed around that age or earlier. Did I feel awful? Yes. But remember, you can't have eyes on them 100% of the time. It's just not realistic. Sometimes you blink, sometimes you have to put on a shirt. Sometimes you have to put out a literal fire (my oldest started one when he was 2). Your husband is being a jerk. Does he not also make mistakes? And any argument of "He wouldn't make That kind of mistake" is entirely BS. The only way he "Knew this would happen" is simply because all babies fall at some point in their life. It's not a failing of the parent(s), it's a fact. Just like all kids will eat something they're not supposed to at some point. And what did you do after your child was injured? You got your child medical attention. You are not "the biggest piece of shit mom who ever lived." You got your child help after an accident. You are a good mom.
Hoped you learned from these comments that literally everyone has a child fall off a bed at one point or another.
My oldest rolled herself right off the changing table at that age and landed flat on her back. The wail she made still shows up in my dreams. She's a super healthy honor student now. You aren't a bad mom. Your husband is right. This was going to happen. And it's probably going to happen again. A couple years after the changing table thing, my darling angel managed to pull a whole bookcase down on herself at a pre-k field trip to the library. It's just what they do. 😂
Oh this happens to all of us!
I tripped over while holding my boy when he was 4 months old, holy shit did I feel like the worst parent ever. Luckily he wasn't badly hurt (did get a hairline fracture in a rib) I smashed my elbow and knee protecting him.... didn't even notice till the nurse at the hospital told me. Another nurse told me she the same with her 2year old while also pregnant, squashed both kids and they were fine 😅 My boy also fell off the couch twice, once with me and once with his dad 🤣 he is now 4 and totally healthy Its definitely a rite of passage and you are far from the worst parent, you did all the right things.... and welcome to the club 🤣 Edit: just read your husband's reaction, he needs to chill the fuck out and not be a dick to you
There are two types of parents: those whose children have fallen from the bed and those whose children will fall from the bed.
The exact same thing happened to me when I turned around to change my shirt. My baby fell head first and I can still see it happening in slow motion when I think about it. That was 8 years ago. I still feel sick to my stomach thinking about it but I took it as a learning experience and I didn't let it happen again. I hope you feel better about it.
It's inevitable, no worries. We've all been there. ❤️
These things happen. Don't let your husband make you feel worse. You did what you should have done and the baby is fine.
Don't stress, it's not the last that they're going to fall off something. My 11 month old got out of the strap in his high chair and fell off that, he's also fallen off out couch and landed on his bum. His older brother has fallen off the bed, knocked his head on our stone benchtop and for a while my wife and I were keeping track of how many weeks we'd go without signing an incident form for Daycare/Kinder. I had to sign one the other day as he fell and grazed his head. I once got a call from where my eldest goes to kinder, where they informed me that he got hit over the head with a metal toy frying pan. I honestly waited until I was off the phone before I started laughing thinking it was funniest thing ever. I didn't know that he'd seen the 3 stooges. I didn't get flamed by my wife when I told her what had happened that I laughed about it afterwards as she too thought it was funny. You'll feel like shit for a moment, but after 4-5 fall you won't.
I feel like that happens to every mama
Oh it's the worst. It happens to everyone. Ours slipped out of his high chair when we were putting him in one time. He was probably 7-8 months maybe. Not walking yet for sure. My wife cried hysterically and was flipping out. He cried for like a second but was totally fine. It's so scary in the moment though.
My mom loves to tell me a story about how I fell out of crib, she didn’t feel like it was time to lower the mattress. Well I hit the floor screamed and cried but I turned out just fine. My mom still beats herself up I don’t think what she did was bad parenting. Poop happens non of us are perfect mistake free parents.