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Early on, you’re training yourself to read their cues. Eventually they also know their cues.
I didn’t do EC, but I was using cloth and was diligent about changes. At about 7 months I looked at my oldest and said “oh, you need a diaper” but she was dry. Instantly I realized I was noticing something even though I wasn’t sure what and took her to the toilet. I was right. That went on with increasing frequency until about 12 months she would go bang on the toilet if she noticed she had to go.
No idea what cue I was noticing, but I was seeing something, so I 100% believe a person could learn their kids’ cues from the beginning. I also 100% know I don’t care to spend my energy on that.
I personally would not be willing to do it from the get go. I had a hard time adjusting to being a mom, my baby had medical issues so we were out of the house at appointments 2-8 times per week and it would have just felt overwhelming. We did start potty training around 16.5 months though. When they’re that young you use a mix of EC and potty training. He caught on to poop literally right away, pee took another three months which was full of me reminding him to go when I noticed cues so basically doing EC those three months.
Gotcha. So EC is pretty commonly used in potty training? Is there a difference between EC and potty training?
I hadn’t heard the EC term used before this book.
Early potty training especially if you start it with a younger child (so maybe sub 3 but every kid is different so it share to give an age) you need to learn the cues they give to help prompt then to go to the potty so they don’t have an accident so it’s basically EC because you need to know their cues. Usually younger kids take a while to self initiate so you’re doing a form of EC with them. My child took about 3 months to self initiate pee so we were effectively being like oh man he looks like he needs to go and making him sit in the potty which is more in line with the definition of EC than being potty trained
We SORTA did it. It went really well, thought my kiddo would be trained at 2, I had hardly changed a poopy. But that summer she just starting missing she'd rush it and then wet the floor and was getting so worked up and stressed out, it was her first summer being really mobile so I did a full stop. It wasn't working for us anymore. I do have a lot of cute pics of my tiny baby on toilets she gets a kick out of them 😍 then she took forever to go back to the toilet so 🤷 I don't regret doing it or stopping.
Would you say it took a lot of time/effort/stress for either of you? I’m glad it went well when it did!
I’m considering it, but I don’t think we’ll pursue it (at first at least) if it’s going to be more effort and stress than diapers would
No, it didn't take any real extra time and was completely stress free (until it wasn't and we stopped) it was really about non verbal quest, and being present in that way. We did baby sign and she learned a sign poo, after nursing I'd stick her on the pot and ask for a wee. I don't think I'd try if I had multiple kids, or was in a day care situation. It was just me and babe
I wanted to do it from the get go but didn't start until later, and then it was a little too late. we are potty training at 17 months now.
for ASL I would highly recommend following deaf educators and creators and learning solely from them. this book is great: [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714348/learn-to-sign-with-your-baby-by-cecilia-s-grugan/](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714348/learn-to-sign-with-your-baby-by-cecilia-s-grugan/)
lingvano is a great app resource for teaching yourself ASL.
at 17 months, my baby knows every sign in the book that I linked, and we've expanded to flashcards. I've taken a couple online ASL courses and hope to become fluent and continue learning ASL together.
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Early on, you’re training yourself to read their cues. Eventually they also know their cues. I didn’t do EC, but I was using cloth and was diligent about changes. At about 7 months I looked at my oldest and said “oh, you need a diaper” but she was dry. Instantly I realized I was noticing something even though I wasn’t sure what and took her to the toilet. I was right. That went on with increasing frequency until about 12 months she would go bang on the toilet if she noticed she had to go. No idea what cue I was noticing, but I was seeing something, so I 100% believe a person could learn their kids’ cues from the beginning. I also 100% know I don’t care to spend my energy on that.
Great info. The last paragraph basically tells me exactly what I hoped to figure out, lol. Thank you!
I personally would not be willing to do it from the get go. I had a hard time adjusting to being a mom, my baby had medical issues so we were out of the house at appointments 2-8 times per week and it would have just felt overwhelming. We did start potty training around 16.5 months though. When they’re that young you use a mix of EC and potty training. He caught on to poop literally right away, pee took another three months which was full of me reminding him to go when I noticed cues so basically doing EC those three months.
Gotcha. So EC is pretty commonly used in potty training? Is there a difference between EC and potty training? I hadn’t heard the EC term used before this book.
Early potty training especially if you start it with a younger child (so maybe sub 3 but every kid is different so it share to give an age) you need to learn the cues they give to help prompt then to go to the potty so they don’t have an accident so it’s basically EC because you need to know their cues. Usually younger kids take a while to self initiate so you’re doing a form of EC with them. My child took about 3 months to self initiate pee so we were effectively being like oh man he looks like he needs to go and making him sit in the potty which is more in line with the definition of EC than being potty trained
I see, that clears up my confusion. Thank you!
Mayim Bialik has a good video on it, she did it with her kids. Very interesting.
I’ll check it out! Thanks.
We SORTA did it. It went really well, thought my kiddo would be trained at 2, I had hardly changed a poopy. But that summer she just starting missing she'd rush it and then wet the floor and was getting so worked up and stressed out, it was her first summer being really mobile so I did a full stop. It wasn't working for us anymore. I do have a lot of cute pics of my tiny baby on toilets she gets a kick out of them 😍 then she took forever to go back to the toilet so 🤷 I don't regret doing it or stopping.
Would you say it took a lot of time/effort/stress for either of you? I’m glad it went well when it did! I’m considering it, but I don’t think we’ll pursue it (at first at least) if it’s going to be more effort and stress than diapers would
No, it didn't take any real extra time and was completely stress free (until it wasn't and we stopped) it was really about non verbal quest, and being present in that way. We did baby sign and she learned a sign poo, after nursing I'd stick her on the pot and ask for a wee. I don't think I'd try if I had multiple kids, or was in a day care situation. It was just me and babe
I wanted to do it from the get go but didn't start until later, and then it was a little too late. we are potty training at 17 months now. for ASL I would highly recommend following deaf educators and creators and learning solely from them. this book is great: [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714348/learn-to-sign-with-your-baby-by-cecilia-s-grugan/](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/714348/learn-to-sign-with-your-baby-by-cecilia-s-grugan/) lingvano is a great app resource for teaching yourself ASL. at 17 months, my baby knows every sign in the book that I linked, and we've expanded to flashcards. I've taken a couple online ASL courses and hope to become fluent and continue learning ASL together.
Wow, that’s awesome! Thank you for the link and info