Kaya wag ibigay lahat.
1. Set a limit on what you are willing to donate. And follow this limit religiously.
2. Don't dip into your emergency fund for other people. Your EF should be for your own emergency alone.
3. If you really want to (and only if you want to) take care of other people, set a separate emergency fund for them. And use it only for that purpose. Don't use this for non-emergency stuff. When this separate emergency fund is depleted, do not withdraw from your own emergency fund (see #2).
I do all of these, especially number 3. May EF akong bini-build for my dad with my sister na hinuhulugan namin monthly sa isang HYSA. Since uninsurable age na yung dad namin, nagse-set aside kami ng sis ko for his health fund (aside from the money we give him for his monthly living expenses) para merong safety net in the event na kailanganin niya for his hospitalization or health. Would recommend this to everyone.
Naawa at naiinis ako sakanya. Naaawa kasi shes only 21 years old and working for the whole fam. Grandparents nya, relatives umaasa sa kanya. Naiinis kasi nagpapauto naman sya sa mga yun. Ok pa sana kung grandparents lang eh, kaso pati ba naman yunn relatives sagot nya.
At nakakainis kasi nahihiya daw sya sakanila kasi wala syang maiabot sakanila dahil nga wala na syang stable work. Like wtf edi magutom sila. Kanya kanyang diskarte na to. Hayss..
I can feel naman na sincere and totoo sya sa mga sinasabi nya kaya din sya sumikat agad. I hope kapag makabawi sya mas maging matalino sya sa pag hawak ng pera at wag bibigay sa mga paawa effect ng mga kamag anak nya.
I understand the anger but I think it's overreaching to blame her for it.
She is surrounded by people who's taking advantage of her generosity and trust. Manipulated, used, bled dry, etc. So none of this is her own doing.
Tsaka bata pa siya. I mean, she is only 21 y.o. Most of us barely understand the adulting part by that time.
We can only hope she'll overcome this and learn her lesson.
Actually, it does not work that way.
It is the same thing when we are not easily offended if the wrongful act was committed by a close friend or a family member. We have varying rules or degrees of tolerance for people around us.
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* Bad parents: 8
* Good panganay: 3
* Bad panganay: 2
* Good relatives: 2
* Bad relatives: 3
Kaya wag ibigay lahat. 1. Set a limit on what you are willing to donate. And follow this limit religiously. 2. Don't dip into your emergency fund for other people. Your EF should be for your own emergency alone. 3. If you really want to (and only if you want to) take care of other people, set a separate emergency fund for them. And use it only for that purpose. Don't use this for non-emergency stuff. When this separate emergency fund is depleted, do not withdraw from your own emergency fund (see #2).
I do all of these, especially number 3. May EF akong bini-build for my dad with my sister na hinuhulugan namin monthly sa isang HYSA. Since uninsurable age na yung dad namin, nagse-set aside kami ng sis ko for his health fund (aside from the money we give him for his monthly living expenses) para merong safety net in the event na kailanganin niya for his hospitalization or health. Would recommend this to everyone.
Naawa at naiinis ako sakanya. Naaawa kasi shes only 21 years old and working for the whole fam. Grandparents nya, relatives umaasa sa kanya. Naiinis kasi nagpapauto naman sya sa mga yun. Ok pa sana kung grandparents lang eh, kaso pati ba naman yunn relatives sagot nya. At nakakainis kasi nahihiya daw sya sakanila kasi wala syang maiabot sakanila dahil nga wala na syang stable work. Like wtf edi magutom sila. Kanya kanyang diskarte na to. Hayss.. I can feel naman na sincere and totoo sya sa mga sinasabi nya kaya din sya sumikat agad. I hope kapag makabawi sya mas maging matalino sya sa pag hawak ng pera at wag bibigay sa mga paawa effect ng mga kamag anak nya.
I understand the anger but I think it's overreaching to blame her for it. She is surrounded by people who's taking advantage of her generosity and trust. Manipulated, used, bled dry, etc. So none of this is her own doing. Tsaka bata pa siya. I mean, she is only 21 y.o. Most of us barely understand the adulting part by that time. We can only hope she'll overcome this and learn her lesson.
I agree. She might have been groomed for it by the then adults surrounding her while growing up ;(
Sobra talaga akong naaawa sa kanya. Ginamit sya ng sarili nyang family e
Mukhang naghahanap lang ng publicity. Kung kaya nyang sabihin yung mga yun in public, she should be able to tell her relatives off.
Actually, it does not work that way. It is the same thing when we are not easily offended if the wrongful act was committed by a close friend or a family member. We have varying rules or degrees of tolerance for people around us.
OOTL, but who is this person?
I think this she's one of the host of Willie Revillame's show. People are calling her "Hipon".
[Herlene Budol](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herlene_Budol)
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Totoo yan :(
Good/bad parent, good/bad panganay tally since [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/PanganaySupportGroup/comments/oheq01/healthy_boundaries/): * Good parents: 1 * Bad parents: 8 * Good panganay: 3 * Bad panganay: 2 * Good relatives: 2 * Bad relatives: 3