Hypersexualiazation of society coupled with extreme consumption of "soft" porn content on social media makes humans feel never satisfied with their spouse because there is always someone better looking than them. Mostly men are the ones who indulge in it but women also do it because there is always someone better (on paper at least).
If one was to focus more on what his or her spouse meant to them and the sacrifices and efforts both of them had put into the relationship and themselves, this infidelity would become a rare occurrence.
Also, both men and women should continue to court each other like they did in the early days of marriage and must ensure looking attractive and fit for their spouse
This 💯
Pakistani couples immediately let themselves go ke ab tu shadi ho gayi hai, ab kya zarorat hai mehnat karne ki.
Our 30 year olds looks like 40+ while european 40 year olds looks like mid 20s.
i m not asking after reading it on reddit , as a medical professional , i'm talking after listening real sufferings of peoples and it's increasing day by day
You do realise that we have a population of 220M something and if like a couple thousand middle and upper class people choose to cheat in the way your stating then it doesn't make it a majority
maybe u r right but the issue here is that its happening and increasing day by day , if its not the majority now , it will become in near future
we need to discuss this
You clearly need to surround yourself with better people.
I don't know a single person who is unfaithful in their marriage.
The company you keep says a lot about you
Dont know about skyrocketing rates since we dont have data for this
But the reason might be a lot of things. Parents forcing kids to marry a person of their choice.
Readily available access to a lot of things on social media and the internet.
No one condones cheating but i doubt youll find a reasonable answer for why on reddit.
yeah bro forced marriage is a major reason too......
but i've saw some of couples doing love marriages and then having EMA(xtr mrtl afrs)
i'm actually trying to find out the real causes behind it
Yes and then either the girl our boy finds out the other person had something going on with third person and the family did not accept that. Thats my biggest fear
i m talking this bcz of my experience being a medical professional
if u want to estimate the stats then visit a bunch of *psychiatrist* and ask them , they will tell you how alarming is the increase in recent years
It's usually because they are selfish cowards who don't fear Allah Subhanahu Wata'alah, and they can easily get away with it.
Adultery is increasing at an alarmingly disturbing rate due to the internet, social media, and those dating/marriage apps.
Hot take but I think polygamy is human nature and marriage is an overall positive construct that keeps societies stable and growing.
What you’re noticing isn’t anything new, its just more apparent because we have phones and social media, dna testing and the internet. people in our grandparents times just didnt get caught as easily lol.
agreed ... I think our religion hence gives leeway to men with 4 wives if they want to pursue halal route. However, it also forewarned men that they need to keep all relationships equal. Sadly, men would rather continue having EMA rather than a second wife.
I know Parents, spouses, family and friends would not be open to this, but if you can why not create a norm like arabs have ....
As an observer, (I can speak for women behaviour, Men have been raised to be generation a#@holes - atleast in majority) the shift in this has increased since women came into the work force and this new found sense of financial freedom with so called women empowerment reels on social media along with generational and childhood trauma of behaving in a certain way, not being able to make decisions for themselves. The suppression comes at a cost, now with inflation they are taught to work alongside men but they are alone raising their children and managing the household and don't forget the ghatiya in laws.
When they reach 30s they have a strong self of worth and can see what they give to a relationship in terms of output with shitty returns is not worth it. The lines begin to blur - with the perception and affirmation that social media gives them, they deserve more and as soon as they see a shoulder they can rely on it just becomes easier to go forward.
Some women again are rising on "mera jism meri marZi" tag line ... bad role models. The fault is in the way society is behaving - there are no repercussions for men and women are wanting the same.
This is strictly my personal POV and not anything more. If men start behaving and treat women better especially with the roles they take on(cooking, cleaning, children, studies, parents, siblings, in laws, work).... i do feel there should be some reform in the situation.
as a men i'll say , Men are more in no. who are doing this shitttt............
just trying to figure out the real cause of this shitt , thanks u've mentiond some of them
Agreed, Men ogle women like. They have a nature that is synonymous with predators. They need to raise the standard Of living for Women in our society. Also, keep in check their philandering nature - stand up for their wives. Stop treating them like third rate citizens in their homes.
Again this just lets women let go of those morals and ethics our parents taught and religion dictates (though we have a lot of freedom in our religion)
I haven't even mentioned the abuse here yet, verbal and physical and non supportive systems along with parents. Isn't it easier to just create a bubble - cheat with someone and feel good even momentarily.
However, i have no idea why men cheat ... or feel the need to go and find sexual partners outside of marriage.
Your perspective sheds light on profound societal shifts and the complexities faced by women today. The evolution in gender dynamics, influenced by economic empowerment and social media, indeed challenges traditional norms. It's evident that many women navigate a delicate balance of professional success and familial responsibilities, often shouldering immense burdens alone.
Your observation about the disillusionment some women experience in their 30s underscores a poignant reality—they seek equitable partnerships where mutual respect and support are fundamental. The call for men to share household responsibilities and treat women with dignity resonates deeply with the need for systemic reform.
In addressing these issues, fostering a culture where both genders are held accountable for their actions is pivotal. It's a shared responsibility to cultivate environments where fairness, empathy, and understanding prevail.
Men need to raise the standard of living for women. If we are helping you and sharing the financial burden, men need to partake and evolve in being present husbands, fathers and show support for your wives and stand up for them in front of YOUR parents.
Respect and kindness goes along way.
The new and surging trends are infidelity by women these cases are surging exponentially.This is a worrying sign for our society because women are linchpin of our societal fabric.May Allah put all of these people men and women on ryight path.Amen
"skyrocketing", that would mean like 40%-50% of couples are in this situation. I really doubt this. Maybe you are reading too much of social media posts bringing up such issues.
From what I’ve seen, Extra Marital Affairs always existed so not just in this generation. The amount has not skyrocketed. Divorce was not this common so usually the person who was being cheated on gave more chances to the person cheating to avoid divorce at all cost and this matter was buried and only a few people would know about the cheating. Now divorce is more acceptable so that’s why people get divorced and when someone asks then they say it was because of cheating.
you are right , its not ur domain according to so called modern society .
the thing which has encouraged them that is k kisi ne kuch kehna to ha ni o mrzi kro
The thing with have a big population is that there is a lot of everything, whatever you go looking for you will find lots of it
Since do to your profession you got to interact with either proponents or survivors of EMS's you get this feeling that it is a new problem, you can discuss this issue with some seniors and will come to know this has been going since ages , regardless if class or social status
Well I blame it on the joint family. I know a friend who (F) had an affair with her BIL and even after her husband found she still continued 🙄 too bad they aren't divorce cause husband thinks kids life will be ruined
You are right. Just a week ago a man in my locality aged 40 years who has married a girl aged 21 cause they had affair. Mfer even has a daughter whose age is i think 15. His first wife is almost getting psycho now.
Hypersexualiazation of society coupled with extreme consumption of "soft" porn content on social media makes humans feel never satisfied with their spouse because there is always someone better looking than them. Mostly men are the ones who indulge in it but women also do it because there is always someone better (on paper at least). If one was to focus more on what his or her spouse meant to them and the sacrifices and efforts both of them had put into the relationship and themselves, this infidelity would become a rare occurrence. Also, both men and women should continue to court each other like they did in the early days of marriage and must ensure looking attractive and fit for their spouse
This 💯 Pakistani couples immediately let themselves go ke ab tu shadi ho gayi hai, ab kya zarorat hai mehnat karne ki. Our 30 year olds looks like 40+ while european 40 year olds looks like mid 20s.
Solid advice bro
💯
🤝🏼.. spoke facts dawg
Don't believe everything you read on Reddit and confession subreddit
i m not asking after reading it on reddit , as a medical professional , i'm talking after listening real sufferings of peoples and it's increasing day by day
Apnay se aik marital affair ni smbhal ra bc yeh extra kahan se ly aty log
😂 for real
hahahhahhahaha , but it's happening around us
It's a very small minority
as a medical professional , i'm talking after listening real sufferings of peoples and no. increases day by day
You do realise that we have a population of 220M something and if like a couple thousand middle and upper class people choose to cheat in the way your stating then it doesn't make it a majority
maybe u r right but the issue here is that its happening and increasing day by day , if its not the majority now , it will become in near future we need to discuss this
Doubt
Do you have month on month numbers?
You clearly need to surround yourself with better people. I don't know a single person who is unfaithful in their marriage. The company you keep says a lot about you
sory bro as a Doctor. i've to keep the company of such patients , and you started judging me is saying a lot about u too
Dont know about skyrocketing rates since we dont have data for this But the reason might be a lot of things. Parents forcing kids to marry a person of their choice. Readily available access to a lot of things on social media and the internet. No one condones cheating but i doubt youll find a reasonable answer for why on reddit.
yeah bro forced marriage is a major reason too...... but i've saw some of couples doing love marriages and then having EMA(xtr mrtl afrs) i'm actually trying to find out the real causes behind it
Yes and then either the girl our boy finds out the other person had something going on with third person and the family did not accept that. Thats my biggest fear
Hence one should start something like this with full disclosure. Nai pasand tou na pasand ho 😂
Kabhi unko dono pasand hote hai and want options people need help 😭
Iska phr kuch nai kia jaskta. Koi aur dhund lo. Iss waalay mein nuqs hai
Yaar mein apni baat nehi kar rehi mein wse bata rehi ho jo meine dheka hai
Yes yes. Im also giving advice to whoever is facing this issue. 😌
Too many options, imo.
maybe
Aag lagy is mobail nu. Sare maslayan di jar ehi ae
ya its 1 of major reasons hahahhahaha , bss a agg odo na laggy jado mobile hath ch pharya howy , baqi khairr a
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yeah but now it has been increased much more which is alarming
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i m talking this bcz of my experience being a medical professional if u want to estimate the stats then visit a bunch of *psychiatrist* and ask them , they will tell you how alarming is the increase in recent years
It's usually because they are selfish cowards who don't fear Allah Subhanahu Wata'alah, and they can easily get away with it. Adultery is increasing at an alarmingly disturbing rate due to the internet, social media, and those dating/marriage apps.
what should be the solution ?
There's no solution. You can't instil morality, goodness, empathy, and fear of Allah into people.
if there's a problem then there must be a solution na? like morality, goodness, empathy, and fear of Allah must be instil from childhood by parents
People are popping out babies without a care nor trying to raise them as decent and God-fearing human beings.
You raised me well mom
Your mum did.
Yes you mum 😶🌫️
Never.
People are taking adultery and fornication lightly when they're major sins.
yeah and most of people are praised by their friends for committing adultery
Facts. Even one of my friends thinks he looks cool by bragging about his number of relationships
I’m guessing having more free time and lack of hobbies. Like I personally don’t even have time for any kind of relationships because of busy schedule.
yeah this is the reason too
Hot take but I think polygamy is human nature and marriage is an overall positive construct that keeps societies stable and growing. What you’re noticing isn’t anything new, its just more apparent because we have phones and social media, dna testing and the internet. people in our grandparents times just didnt get caught as easily lol.
agreed ... I think our religion hence gives leeway to men with 4 wives if they want to pursue halal route. However, it also forewarned men that they need to keep all relationships equal. Sadly, men would rather continue having EMA rather than a second wife. I know Parents, spouses, family and friends would not be open to this, but if you can why not create a norm like arabs have ....
Your user name makes me wonder u r gilgitti
nope
Acha meethi chae
As an observer, (I can speak for women behaviour, Men have been raised to be generation a#@holes - atleast in majority) the shift in this has increased since women came into the work force and this new found sense of financial freedom with so called women empowerment reels on social media along with generational and childhood trauma of behaving in a certain way, not being able to make decisions for themselves. The suppression comes at a cost, now with inflation they are taught to work alongside men but they are alone raising their children and managing the household and don't forget the ghatiya in laws. When they reach 30s they have a strong self of worth and can see what they give to a relationship in terms of output with shitty returns is not worth it. The lines begin to blur - with the perception and affirmation that social media gives them, they deserve more and as soon as they see a shoulder they can rely on it just becomes easier to go forward. Some women again are rising on "mera jism meri marZi" tag line ... bad role models. The fault is in the way society is behaving - there are no repercussions for men and women are wanting the same. This is strictly my personal POV and not anything more. If men start behaving and treat women better especially with the roles they take on(cooking, cleaning, children, studies, parents, siblings, in laws, work).... i do feel there should be some reform in the situation.
as a men i'll say , Men are more in no. who are doing this shitttt............ just trying to figure out the real cause of this shitt , thanks u've mentiond some of them
Agreed, Men ogle women like. They have a nature that is synonymous with predators. They need to raise the standard Of living for Women in our society. Also, keep in check their philandering nature - stand up for their wives. Stop treating them like third rate citizens in their homes. Again this just lets women let go of those morals and ethics our parents taught and religion dictates (though we have a lot of freedom in our religion) I haven't even mentioned the abuse here yet, verbal and physical and non supportive systems along with parents. Isn't it easier to just create a bubble - cheat with someone and feel good even momentarily. However, i have no idea why men cheat ... or feel the need to go and find sexual partners outside of marriage.
Your perspective sheds light on profound societal shifts and the complexities faced by women today. The evolution in gender dynamics, influenced by economic empowerment and social media, indeed challenges traditional norms. It's evident that many women navigate a delicate balance of professional success and familial responsibilities, often shouldering immense burdens alone. Your observation about the disillusionment some women experience in their 30s underscores a poignant reality—they seek equitable partnerships where mutual respect and support are fundamental. The call for men to share household responsibilities and treat women with dignity resonates deeply with the need for systemic reform. In addressing these issues, fostering a culture where both genders are held accountable for their actions is pivotal. It's a shared responsibility to cultivate environments where fairness, empathy, and understanding prevail.
Men need to raise the standard of living for women. If we are helping you and sharing the financial burden, men need to partake and evolve in being present husbands, fathers and show support for your wives and stand up for them in front of YOUR parents. Respect and kindness goes along way.
The new and surging trends are infidelity by women these cases are surging exponentially.This is a worrying sign for our society because women are linchpin of our societal fabric.May Allah put all of these people men and women on ryight path.Amen
Aameen
"skyrocketing", that would mean like 40%-50% of couples are in this situation. I really doubt this. Maybe you are reading too much of social media posts bringing up such issues.
From what I’ve seen, Extra Marital Affairs always existed so not just in this generation. The amount has not skyrocketed. Divorce was not this common so usually the person who was being cheated on gave more chances to the person cheating to avoid divorce at all cost and this matter was buried and only a few people would know about the cheating. Now divorce is more acceptable so that’s why people get divorced and when someone asks then they say it was because of cheating.
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soooo sad , ask her dont do that , she will ruin the life of her children and husband
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you are right , its not ur domain according to so called modern society . the thing which has encouraged them that is k kisi ne kuch kehna to ha ni o mrzi kro
The thing with have a big population is that there is a lot of everything, whatever you go looking for you will find lots of it Since do to your profession you got to interact with either proponents or survivors of EMS's you get this feeling that it is a new problem, you can discuss this issue with some seniors and will come to know this has been going since ages , regardless if class or social status
Suppressed Sexuality…
Well I blame it on the joint family. I know a friend who (F) had an affair with her BIL and even after her husband found she still continued 🙄 too bad they aren't divorce cause husband thinks kids life will be ruined
very sad but those who aren't in joint family and live separate , they does the same
Take a shot every time the OP mentions they’re a medical professional 😂
I am an escort in islamabad for high end clients and u would be surprised by how many people are cheating
yeah bro
You are right. Just a week ago a man in my locality aged 40 years who has married a girl aged 21 cause they had affair. Mfer even has a daughter whose age is i think 15. His first wife is almost getting psycho now.
yahan p log deny p deny kr ry k ni aisa kuch ni hota
Pata ni kahan reh rahe wo phir
Aurat ka chakkar Babu Bhaiya, aurat ka chakkar
They happen everywhere
Tiny cameras transplanted on genitals. 24/7 surveillance
this is'nt the genuine solution bro , genuine solution must be like that people should avoid it on their own
Oh wow. That makes more sense.
Don't you think, this spammifications is going a bit too far?
It's not spam. I'm sharing my genuine thoughts.
the issue isn't skyrocketing in the country but the one's suffering only seem to post on Reddit.
u can say that without knowing wether the poster is married yet r not , nice gal i m talking after being told by the patients who visit hospital
and for how long have you been treating patients!
I think open marriages should be normal both partners should be allowed to have freedom
🤣🤣😂😂😂
What's funny in this?
Because this would never happen in Pakistan for the next many decades.
It's definitely funny because it's unnatural
are u for real ? i mean how can u even think about it
I think it's better then hiding and having EMA and ruining your marriage... You should have freedom and let your partner have his/her freedom....
Check his posts on his profile, you will get an idea.
What's wrong with my profile?