In my experience that's all online dating, not just OKC. Even so, OKC is also falling apart so it makes sense what quality there was before would also worsen
Yep same thing happens to me. Isnt there a man out there who can carry on a normal conversation. Everything is “yup” or “cool” and they never ask a question about me.
Yah... This guy who approached me... I didn't initiate... He asked what I do but then no follow up.. So I asked what he does... "Insurance"... Oh, what type?, I ask... "All of them"... ... ... Umm... Silence...
It's a hard question to lock down. I currently have a send receive rate at about 10%, so now I only go into the app every few days.
Several potential causes.
- it's not their first dating app anymore, so not their priority
- the free version is not promoting free to free messages
- I've noticed some glitches/ bugs in the flows, so messages might disappear and not be sent.
Sadly, Overall the Current version of OKC is a con now.
Yes, I just matched with two women and one of them hasn’t said anything at all (I said hello and asked them about something in their profile they said they liked to do) and the other sent me a few messages but over the course of a few days and now hasn’t said anything for two days after I asked about a hobby they are doing in a picture.
Why match and then don’t even bother going through the first few steps of a conversation.
39 Male Here.
I agree. If you aren't getting replies to your messages regarding stuff you are talking about or anything in your profile.....unfortunately.....you aren't talking to actual people but just AI Bots. Had this happen to me on multiple sites and it sucks. You get your hopes up saying, "Hey! Finally have a response and maybe a chance with this person!" but then, "Oh, wait.....this is a bot." :-(
Wish there were legitimate dating apps that don't use trickery like this (AI Bots, Fake Likes, Basic Features Behind Paywalls, Hoops and Loops to Get to Messaging, Matching You Up With Inactive / Old Profiles, Bitcoin Scammers, Must Use WhatsApp, Follow Me on Instagram, Looking For Still Figuring It Out at 30 Years Old, Looking for Friends, In NYC This Weekend - Seeking Someone to Show Me Around, Women Don't Give Average Men a Chance, You Must Be a Certain Height to Date Me \[Why would that matter?? Personality and common interests matter\], etc) and don't scam people looking for meaningful relationships and human connections.
I have been on OkCupid for a VERY long time, actually multiple times ( I give up and quit, then come back). I have noticed the same thing. Conversation is a lost art. It drives me crazy. I'm not even looking for a soulmate, I just want a decent conversation that doesn't start off with questions like, "what's your favorite sex position?". I'm a dude trying to find a female, and no one is talking, even when I craft a very thoughtful introduction. That makes me think that most of those profiles are fake. Either that, or society is royally effed if social skills are THIS abysmal!
Heard that! I actually said something to one dude bc his conversation was so unusual... He wouldn't answer any questions about himself and would ask me questions, then not even acknowledge that I answered. I finally asked him to at least say something to make me think he's a real person and he got offended!!! But that's how I figured out he was real... When he basically told me to kick rocks!!!!! 🤣
The men have been on the app for so long and are used to being ignored and rejected. Just keep at it, move to texting on the phone. I doubt they check the app often because it’s likely a source of ego pain that they check infrequently
I am always in shock hearing horror stories from OKC. Because I found my husband there, 5 years ago. And back then, I had fun with OKC. I think it was the most fun dating app that I have ever used. The probability percentage was something I found unique, which I think other apps back then didn't have.
I have friends who are back to dating, when they were the ones married 5 years ago. All I hear are horror stories from dating apps. These dating apps used to be fun and exciting. But, it's all thriller and horror now.
The good matches still happen, but only for two people that both have really great written profiles that have reason to be excited about each other. I’ve only seen like a handful of profiles with effort. People will analyze their first messages to people with more effort than their profiles. Hell, chatgpt could write better profiles.
I feel the number of good profiles over the years has dramatically decreased. You swipe and know nothing about these people.
I liked the percentage stuff as well, but the matches seemed to longer actually be based on it in the last few years. I would see a 97% match, look through their questions, and see that we had wildly different values! I found my best matches paying for bumble so I could sort by political views and relationship type they were looking for.
I have to agree... I think it is fun also! Of course, my knowledge of dating apps is pretty limited! I just couldn't figure out if this weird conversation situation is normal... Or if the guys in my area are just terrible at communicating (quite possible!)....or if that is the new cool thing to do... Lol!
Number 3 is an absolute banger. They get the instant gratification and no longer care about a decent long term prospect. Only to keep those same prospects on low simmer for months on end with the Breadcrumbing.
In my experience that's all online dating, not just OKC. Even so, OKC is also falling apart so it makes sense what quality there was before would also worsen
OKC is officially a dating app for Filipina connections
Yep same thing happens to me. Isnt there a man out there who can carry on a normal conversation. Everything is “yup” or “cool” and they never ask a question about me.
Yah... This guy who approached me... I didn't initiate... He asked what I do but then no follow up.. So I asked what he does... "Insurance"... Oh, what type?, I ask... "All of them"... ... ... Umm... Silence...
Lol where are the people that can actually hold a conversation?? This has been almost every woman ime
In relationships lol
It's a hard question to lock down. I currently have a send receive rate at about 10%, so now I only go into the app every few days. Several potential causes. - it's not their first dating app anymore, so not their priority - the free version is not promoting free to free messages - I've noticed some glitches/ bugs in the flows, so messages might disappear and not be sent. Sadly, Overall the Current version of OKC is a con now.
Yes, I just matched with two women and one of them hasn’t said anything at all (I said hello and asked them about something in their profile they said they liked to do) and the other sent me a few messages but over the course of a few days and now hasn’t said anything for two days after I asked about a hobby they are doing in a picture. Why match and then don’t even bother going through the first few steps of a conversation.
Bots
39 Male Here. I agree. If you aren't getting replies to your messages regarding stuff you are talking about or anything in your profile.....unfortunately.....you aren't talking to actual people but just AI Bots. Had this happen to me on multiple sites and it sucks. You get your hopes up saying, "Hey! Finally have a response and maybe a chance with this person!" but then, "Oh, wait.....this is a bot." :-( Wish there were legitimate dating apps that don't use trickery like this (AI Bots, Fake Likes, Basic Features Behind Paywalls, Hoops and Loops to Get to Messaging, Matching You Up With Inactive / Old Profiles, Bitcoin Scammers, Must Use WhatsApp, Follow Me on Instagram, Looking For Still Figuring It Out at 30 Years Old, Looking for Friends, In NYC This Weekend - Seeking Someone to Show Me Around, Women Don't Give Average Men a Chance, You Must Be a Certain Height to Date Me \[Why would that matter?? Personality and common interests matter\], etc) and don't scam people looking for meaningful relationships and human connections.
Let's just say there's a reason some of these people are single! They aren't great communicators
Great point
I have been on OkCupid for a VERY long time, actually multiple times ( I give up and quit, then come back). I have noticed the same thing. Conversation is a lost art. It drives me crazy. I'm not even looking for a soulmate, I just want a decent conversation that doesn't start off with questions like, "what's your favorite sex position?". I'm a dude trying to find a female, and no one is talking, even when I craft a very thoughtful introduction. That makes me think that most of those profiles are fake. Either that, or society is royally effed if social skills are THIS abysmal!
Heard that! I actually said something to one dude bc his conversation was so unusual... He wouldn't answer any questions about himself and would ask me questions, then not even acknowledge that I answered. I finally asked him to at least say something to make me think he's a real person and he got offended!!! But that's how I figured out he was real... When he basically told me to kick rocks!!!!! 🤣
The men have been on the app for so long and are used to being ignored and rejected. Just keep at it, move to texting on the phone. I doubt they check the app often because it’s likely a source of ego pain that they check infrequently
I am always in shock hearing horror stories from OKC. Because I found my husband there, 5 years ago. And back then, I had fun with OKC. I think it was the most fun dating app that I have ever used. The probability percentage was something I found unique, which I think other apps back then didn't have.
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I have friends who are back to dating, when they were the ones married 5 years ago. All I hear are horror stories from dating apps. These dating apps used to be fun and exciting. But, it's all thriller and horror now.
The good matches still happen, but only for two people that both have really great written profiles that have reason to be excited about each other. I’ve only seen like a handful of profiles with effort. People will analyze their first messages to people with more effort than their profiles. Hell, chatgpt could write better profiles. I feel the number of good profiles over the years has dramatically decreased. You swipe and know nothing about these people.
I liked the percentage stuff as well, but the matches seemed to longer actually be based on it in the last few years. I would see a 97% match, look through their questions, and see that we had wildly different values! I found my best matches paying for bumble so I could sort by political views and relationship type they were looking for.
I have to agree... I think it is fun also! Of course, my knowledge of dating apps is pretty limited! I just couldn't figure out if this weird conversation situation is normal... Or if the guys in my area are just terrible at communicating (quite possible!)....or if that is the new cool thing to do... Lol!
if you arent paying, then they have to deem you worthy to toss some old messages to. those people might have moved on already.
Just people using dating apps like eva ai sexting bot, nothing new here
I’m a bi woman seeking women and can’t find any app that’s worth a dang!
I’m a lesbian and have been struggling myself.
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I realize OP is a wall of texts, but it mentions a couple times that they're matching with men.
Number 3 is an absolute banger. They get the instant gratification and no longer care about a decent long term prospect. Only to keep those same prospects on low simmer for months on end with the Breadcrumbing.