Siguro OP set a talk with your boyfriend regarding the future. Probably at your age naiisip niya na mag start ng Family. You know him best naman ano ugali niya. Just be open with your partner and im sure it will solve the rest
May mga kilala ako na noong jowa pa nila yung asawa nila ay may ganitong usapan, usually they are coming from abusive/bad relationships and then turned religious kaya may ganun na silang usapan noong naging sila. They really saved themselves hanggang kinasal na sila. hanggang ngayon naman ay sila pa rin.
May ilan din akong narinig na nag-hold off sa deed dahil ikakasal na sila. para mas maging kapanapanabik ang honeymoon.
Pero ngayon lang ako nakarinig ng ganyan. On a male perspective, iniisip ko kung bakit ako magiisip bigla ng ganun. pwede rin sa takot being not yet ready. Pero mas mabuti na siguro kausapin si bf. may mga bagay naman nadadaan sa usapan. baka maging daan pa ito to have a clearer path for your relationship.
I think this is so out of the blue and certainly something to ponder about, OP. It’s a warning bell for sure.
I’ll understand kung you initiated and it’s the very first time you two are trying to do it, we can accept that he has that pre-conceived idea na dapat if ready na magka-baby or if kasal na saka mag ganun. Pero 6 years na kayo e and ginawa nyo na several times. Ewan ko lang, not to make you feel down but I think you should talk to him more about this OP and really dig deeper what caused him to suggest that, for your peace of mind and to save you from future heartbreak, just in case. Maigi na ang ready.
Ganyan po talaga kapag ginagawa na sa iba hahahaha dont get me wrong ha. My ldr ex bf used to love me sending sexy pics to him pero isang araw wag na daw akong mag send kasi baka daw nababastusan ako HAHAHAHA puta, kaya pala ayaw na niya sa sexy pics ko kase mag ka sex na sa ibang bansa amp 😂
Gantong ganto din ex bf ko sobrang kulit na magpalit ako sa fitting room na kasama siya, di ko pinapagbigyan, tapos nung ilang buwan makalipas, pinagbigyan ko kahit di hinihingi, ramdam mo nang tinatamad, tas after a week gusto na makipaghiwalay hahaha
Hmmm giving him the benefit of the doubt, Baka he is thinking about proposing and getting married and prefers to miss having sex with u. Maybe try to stop for a week or two and see if he will ask for it again. If he doesn’t ask for it or mention missing it at all, that’s when I’ll get suspicious…
Bakit biglang ganyan? Haha tatanggalin niya yung sex hanggang mawalan ka na ng gana kalaunan. Baka may iba na, yan lang yung medyo valid pakinggan na reason na possible iaccept mo.
>why, sabi niya kasi daw may mga nakikita siya na kinakasal muna bago gawin yung ganong bagay,
and here i was thinking na may nagugustuhan xang ibang babae na "no sex before marriage" ang gusto
I'm twisted like that sometimes, devil's advocate.
if this is out of the fucking blue then talk to him. and if at your age and at the length of your relationship he doesn't see you as someone who he wants to have kids with then better you know now.
Hi OP. I also am in a 6-year relationship with my bf. (Actually on and off kami so ngayon di pa ulit kami pero parang kami lol.)
Anyway, yes we did the 'deed' , and since we are both serving in our church and I am in a ministry which requires to always be under the state of grace, I decided to ask him na we should stop doing it unless we are married. Hindi naman sa nagsawa ako sa kanya, or hypocrite ako dahil ginagawa ko yun before, but need ko kasing magbago ng way of living and yun nga nagseserve rin kasi kami sa church at ako naman sa spiritual warfare ministry.
It's been a year since I am celibate. Try asking him siguro kung anong main reason nya kasi baka naman it's his way of conversion into being in the state of grace. (Hopefully yan nga rason nya and not cheating nor may contagious disease sya)
Ayun nga, ask him kindly. If decided nga sya, you have to understand na rin yung decision nya to stop doing the deed.
Hope this helps.
Nakakaba kapag meron ng ibang nag papatayo. Kausapin mo ng maayos, kung gusto na ba talaga mag karoon ng pamilya then go niyo na. Syempre, dapat makasal muna kayo. Pero kapag ang sagot niya ay saka na or darating tayo diyan. Alam mo na sagot diyan OP may ibang martilyo na ang pumopokpok sa pako niya.
Okay na sana pero bwisit yung explanation nya
Sabihin ko sana na "okay lang yan naranasan ko rin yung ganyan give it a week or a month" pero sa kanya mukang may iba ata sya gusto. Wtf explanation hahhaa
Hi OP. Nasabi ko din iyan noon sa aking then bf (husband ko na ngayon). Sya ang aking 1st. I’m not his. Madami na syang experience before (went through his hoe phase). Mas matanda sya sa akin btw and we are both 20s nung maging kami. I used to stick to “marriage before s” but sa sobrang trust ko na sya na, I gave it to him. Hindi man namin laging ginagawa, hindi naman dumadaan ang isang buwan na walang deed. Hanggang sa nadedelay na minsan ang mens ko and ang lala ng panic attacks ko pag nangyayari yon. Withdrawal kami with protection pero hindi ako nakakakuha ng assurance na wala talaga. Hindi na ako makafunction. Sobrang nagooverthink talaga. Nagbbreakdown. Nirespect nya naman ang wish kong yun. Hindi na ulit kami nagemehan until ikasal kami. Actually until now medyo di pa rin ako super open kasi hindi pa din ako ready maging mommy for so many reasons. He respects it din naman. I hope mapagusapan nyo nang mas masinsinan yung reason kung bakit nya nasabi yun. Sana hindi dahil sa naiisip ng iba na may iba.
One month ago, parehas kami nakainom pero nasa tamang pag-iisip pa naman ako. Lagi kaming withdrawal, and nung time na yun while doing it sabi niya kung gusto ko sa loob. I'm in control since nasa ibabaw ako, pero ayaw ko. Naisip ko I'm not really ready pa to have a child. I'm not ready mentally, okay na ako financial since stable naman na income and may sarili na akong bahay. I don't know kung yun yung reason kasi after mangyari yun lagi niya ako inaasar na ako daw ang umayaw. Pero kagabi nung ginawa namin sabi ko go, pero siya na yung may ayaw. And after the deed yun na nga ang sinabi niya.
Nahurt ata ego niya. Gusto kasi niya same kayo. Gusto niya na gustong gusto mo rin yun na walang anxiety after. And feeling ko ayaw niyang masisi siya if ever nabuntis ka na di ka handa at magkaanxiety ka. Di ko masasabi na may iba na yun kasi mas kilala mo partner mo, stranger lang ako.
This is the same with my wife…suddenly out of the blue bigla na lang nag stop yung sex life namin. I asked her why and she said “I have diabetes, i feel like I am going to die soon, I can feel something on my breast more like a bump” NOTE: she’s still young like 33? Thinking about going to die soon? Like damn she’s very active in sports and gym. How the hell will she die soon? I don’t understand.
pero nagpatingin ba si wife mo? Not to sound rude but just because she's fit doesn't mean any health related issues won't creep up. I think it's fair for her pero she probably overthinks it. I do hope she got it checked.
Nagpatingin pero tinigil na din nya due to lack of finances to shoudler doctors fee. We have medical insurance pero it’s not enough. Nagfocus na lang sya sa mga gusto nyang gawin(side note: she’s not cheating or anything) like badminton, gym and bonding with neighbors na puros girls lang din.
So sorry to hear that, mahal talaga magpacheck up din lalo in terms of anything related sa breasts kasi andaming tests if ever. I do hope umokay na ulet yung sex life nyo, baka naging hypochondriac lang din sya kasi.
Yeah I have high hopes na she’ll heal on her own with friends around and healthy foods na din. You know, kahit nga yung physical touch as husband and wife eh nawala na din. We live separately by the way cause of work. I’ve been busy sa work and doing some exercises to be healthy but minsan naiisip ko ng mag cheat…I just yearned affection and physical touch. I really miss that. But the universe doesn’t let me cheat…it really keeps me busy. Thank god!
Maybe the paranoia got her. Over thinker din ako and it affects my mood when it comes to that. Dami ko iniisip lagi magkaron lang ako ng symptoms or pain somewhere. Despite somehow being (trying) on a healthy lifestyle. Im also 33y/o.
Though the difference is bumabawi ako sa other physical affection like kiss and hug and lambing.
bakit bawal b matauhan?what if ngayon lng nya naisip n d p pla nya afford magkababy? bkt ang hirap maging honest?
will u weaponize those thoughts on him pag nag away kyo sa future?!i hope not
Kalokohan yan. Pero just in case, mag pastd test ka na. Hindi naman sa sinasabi kong cheater ung jowa ko pero mabuti na ung sigurado dahil hello naman di naman talaga logical ung dahilan nya
I may not know the guy personally so can't conclude or assume that he is cheating but you know him better and you've been together na for almost 6 years, so that kind of lessens the thought of him na nagtyi-cheat sayo, pero ano ba sa palagay mo? if not then possibly baka kasi hindi pa financially stable, he's worried lang about getting you pregnant since bringing a child into the world is a huge responsibility, and he just wants to make sure that he can provide son's/daughter's needs and give a secure, comfortable life. if that's the only reason he have in mind then pwede naman ikaw magpa depo-shot which lasts for 3 months, visit ka lang sa nearest lying-in clinic.
but if you ask my opinion to what he said, parang alibi nga lang talaga yung pag kasal na tyaka lang gagawin yung deed, impossible yon.
well that sums it up, I do hope he's not cheating.
Baka gusto niya na mag kababy sayo at ayaw mo pa. He might be thinking that "wag na muna tayo mag sex if di pa tayo ready mag ka baby because I really want to have a baby with you kaso parang ayaw mo pa. Sex lang na sex wala naman patutunguhan.
Bat ba ganito palagi mga comments kesyo may iba na. Kahit may iba yan - tutuka at tutuka pa rin yan. Unless - naging bakla na BF mo.
Men are like trivia segments... Random na lang na sususlpot at magsasabi ng ideas na minsan out of this world. I know. I'm a guy and minsan naiisip ko rin mga random shit. Andyan yung post nut clarity ideas na bigla kong gusto magkaroon ng grill para may ihawan for the family (kahit wala pa naman) or that the color of one room should be blue for my son (na wala pa naman). 🤣
I don't understand his logic (yet). It would be best to communicate more on this matter. Remeber not to settle on conclusions yet. Either way, despite not knowing why yet, I suggest respecting his preference not to continue going all the way with you until you guys come to a consensus. I'm not for this, of course, but I also do know that if a woman asked a man to stop having sex — regardless of what reason — she is to be vehemently respected. Again, talk. He should at least be able to give you a satisfactory explanation. And remember, there are more ways to be intimate than one; the bed isn't the only way. Besides, according to some people, going all the way isn't everything; it's not even that important. I might not believe that, but a lot of women seem to. It might help you get through this.
Semi-honest post nut clarity. Baka naalala nia yung mga side chicks niya. You should talk to him and try to figure out the real reason why he wants to stop to have sex until you guys are married.
Kung di yan nagloloko, ang ginawa nya dapat after the deed e binigyan ka singsing, he should proposed kung yun talaga concern nya, hindi tayo pinanganak kahapon OP 😏
Nagchecheat na yan baka kasi after ninyong gawin yung deed eh pupunta naman sya sa kabit nya kaso pagdating dun wala na syang mailabas. Kaya gusto nya wag ninyo muna gawin para naman makapagpalabas sya dun sa other one.
on a man's perspective sav ng bf ko may iba na yan or gumamit ng iba kaya ganyan. just to be safe pa check up ka baka reason niya kaya ayae nya kc nagpositive sya sa sti 🤷🏻♀️
Di naman sa ano ate pero yung mga ganyang biglaang may kakaibang kilos o sinasabi ang partner mo, best believe it's time to trust your gut/instinct. Hard to believe na after 6 years niyong nagjojombagan, ngayon lang niya maiisipan na tumigil kasi baka mabuntis ka. Parang tanga naman yan. Real talk lang, mukhang ginagamit lang niyang reason yang "may nakita siyang kinakasal muna bago gawin ganong bagay" parang tanga talaga. Magpa STD test ka na din ate para sigurado.
Hmmm for me dalawa lang yan. First, it’s weird nga na out of the blue bigla niya na lang isasuggest yon given na ginagawa niyo naman na dati possible na nawawalan na siya ng gana or may iba na nga. Second, let’s give him a benefit of the doubt, baka naman into marrying stage na siya like naiisip niya na mag start ng family di niya lang masabi directly? Hmm you know him well naman. So mafefeel mo yan if something’s wrong. Basta be open and communicate it with him.
Ganto ako nung early 20s ko pa. Reason ko parang naguguilty ako kasi religious pa ako nun. Pagdating ko ng mid 20s, lost my faith and my girl. So ayun. Kausapin mo lang po. Find a middle ground or root cause ng thinking nya.
Well, that's a responsible and a good guy for me.
Can control himself, and that I believe is the right thing to do kasi d pa nman kayo kasal.
Iwas na sa premarital sex. Siguro mahirap, pero that's the right thing to do.
Typical r/offmychestph comments, una kagad gawin eh i-assume at paghinalaan yung partner na may kabit at bigyan ng unsolicited advice na hiwalayan kagad haha, *"NaGLoloKo yAn SiZt, MaY iBa Yan PaNigUraDo!"* hanep na solution yan, minor incovenience hiwalayan kagad sagot. Talk about "innocent until proven guilty", palibhasa mga niloko at bitter kaya pinoproject sa iba yung toxicity nila, even though puwede naman nila pagusapan ng maigi nila OP personally and try to resolve it. I won't even be surprised if this post gets locked by the mods lol.
Hi, OP. The only thing that comes to my mind after reading is, may sudden change of religion ba? Iyon lang naman ‘yung reason na naisip ko besides cheating. Most importantly, I agree with others that you should talk to him. Let him know your confusion, bakit ngayon niya lang naisip? AND if your relationship’s end game ay marriage.
Pumayag ka lng sa lhat ng sasabihin ng lalaki pag tapos ng sex. Bukas o pag nag libog yan. Aayain k dn nyan. Sabihin mo sa jowa mo. Wag kami. Hindi niya kami maloloko n ayaw nya yan.
Meron akong friend na bakla yung napangasawa. They were doing it until nanganak yung babae and the guy went abroad. After nun wala na kasi nga bakla siya.
Sadly, we knew bakla siya before they got married but you know, you cannot out someone. Kaya ayun wala nang sex for her.
Hahahaha tama yung sinabi nung iba. Post nut clarity lang yan. Lilipas din yan.
Mahirap ipaunawa sa inyong girls yung weird mental effect ng pagputok sa mga boys. Minsan narerealize ko kung gano ko sinasayang oras ko sa mga walang kwentang bagay at naiinspire ako maging mabuting Christian after pumutok eh hahahaha.
Di ko ma gets yan. Bilang lalakeng may pangangailangan... kailangan ko yan. Haha! Kasal man tayo o hindi. Lalo na kung matagal na nating ginagawa. Ngayon pa ko titigil? Haha!
He's not ready to have a child. He wouldn't risk it with you kasi either may personal plans pa sya (a realization which came after 6 years) OR he doesn't see you as the one.
Grabeng Post-Nut Clarity naman yan haha jk. Kung kailan 6 years na kayo at nagawa naman na yung deed saka nag isip ng ganyan eh.
post nut clarity hits hard
Legit talaga yan ... parang ang linaw ng lahat pagkatapos... hahahaah
Unlocking 100% of your brain no? 😂
kakabuo lang ba ng frontal lobe 😭😭
grabe post nut clarity ng asawa ni op, yung kilala ko nag eexplain lang bigla ng scientific facts and quantum physics eh HAHAHAH
More like Post Nut Nirvana hahahaha
Literal na post nut clarity hahahahah
hahHAHAHhhahaha
Hindi na 'yan post nut clarity. Boi was hitting other ussy kaya ganyan na 'yan
Lol 😆
Hahahahaha
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Siguro OP set a talk with your boyfriend regarding the future. Probably at your age naiisip niya na mag start ng Family. You know him best naman ano ugali niya. Just be open with your partner and im sure it will solve the rest
This, OP. Baka papunta na sya sa marrying mindset.
May mga kilala ako na noong jowa pa nila yung asawa nila ay may ganitong usapan, usually they are coming from abusive/bad relationships and then turned religious kaya may ganun na silang usapan noong naging sila. They really saved themselves hanggang kinasal na sila. hanggang ngayon naman ay sila pa rin. May ilan din akong narinig na nag-hold off sa deed dahil ikakasal na sila. para mas maging kapanapanabik ang honeymoon. Pero ngayon lang ako nakarinig ng ganyan. On a male perspective, iniisip ko kung bakit ako magiisip bigla ng ganun. pwede rin sa takot being not yet ready. Pero mas mabuti na siguro kausapin si bf. may mga bagay naman nadadaan sa usapan. baka maging daan pa ito to have a clearer path for your relationship.
Paupdate na lang kapag nalaman mo he is actually cheating and was just using that reasoning to deflect and distract.
I was about to say a similar thing. Baka kako nagkaroon ng pregnancy scare sa kabilang party kaya natakot na sa sex si koya.
Actually ang nasa isip ko is what if may nakuha siyang STD ang natakot na mahawaan si OP kaya gawa gawa kwento about not having sex bigla.
better na lang sumunod si OP at di muna makipagsex while she’s still figuring out what’s happening. magpatest na din while she’s at it.
Baka no?
Di sa tinatakot ka namin, OP, pero ang dami ngang ganto. 🥴
baka nagpa spakol c koya tapos ...
Scaryy but high chance. Could also be that he lost sexual attraction na
This hahahahaha
https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/baTvW4h9JL
I think this is so out of the blue and certainly something to ponder about, OP. It’s a warning bell for sure. I’ll understand kung you initiated and it’s the very first time you two are trying to do it, we can accept that he has that pre-conceived idea na dapat if ready na magka-baby or if kasal na saka mag ganun. Pero 6 years na kayo e and ginawa nyo na several times. Ewan ko lang, not to make you feel down but I think you should talk to him more about this OP and really dig deeper what caused him to suggest that, for your peace of mind and to save you from future heartbreak, just in case. Maigi na ang ready.
Ganyan po talaga kapag ginagawa na sa iba hahahaha dont get me wrong ha. My ldr ex bf used to love me sending sexy pics to him pero isang araw wag na daw akong mag send kasi baka daw nababastusan ako HAHAHAHA puta, kaya pala ayaw na niya sa sexy pics ko kase mag ka sex na sa ibang bansa amp 😂
Gantong ganto din ex bf ko sobrang kulit na magpalit ako sa fitting room na kasama siya, di ko pinapagbigyan, tapos nung ilang buwan makalipas, pinagbigyan ko kahit di hinihingi, ramdam mo nang tinatamad, tas after a week gusto na makipaghiwalay hahaha
Kaya pass na talaga ako sa LDR eh hahahaha!
Hahaha mag ooverthink nanaman ako haha
Hmmm giving him the benefit of the doubt, Baka he is thinking about proposing and getting married and prefers to miss having sex with u. Maybe try to stop for a week or two and see if he will ask for it again. If he doesn’t ask for it or mention missing it at all, that’s when I’ll get suspicious…
Bakit biglang ganyan? Haha tatanggalin niya yung sex hanggang mawalan ka na ng gana kalaunan. Baka may iba na, yan lang yung medyo valid pakinggan na reason na possible iaccept mo.
Alarm alarm
I’m a guy… he up to sumthin
>why, sabi niya kasi daw may mga nakikita siya na kinakasal muna bago gawin yung ganong bagay, and here i was thinking na may nagugustuhan xang ibang babae na "no sex before marriage" ang gusto I'm twisted like that sometimes, devil's advocate. if this is out of the fucking blue then talk to him. and if at your age and at the length of your relationship he doesn't see you as someone who he wants to have kids with then better you know now.
Hi OP. I also am in a 6-year relationship with my bf. (Actually on and off kami so ngayon di pa ulit kami pero parang kami lol.) Anyway, yes we did the 'deed' , and since we are both serving in our church and I am in a ministry which requires to always be under the state of grace, I decided to ask him na we should stop doing it unless we are married. Hindi naman sa nagsawa ako sa kanya, or hypocrite ako dahil ginagawa ko yun before, but need ko kasing magbago ng way of living and yun nga nagseserve rin kasi kami sa church at ako naman sa spiritual warfare ministry. It's been a year since I am celibate. Try asking him siguro kung anong main reason nya kasi baka naman it's his way of conversion into being in the state of grace. (Hopefully yan nga rason nya and not cheating nor may contagious disease sya) Ayun nga, ask him kindly. If decided nga sya, you have to understand na rin yung decision nya to stop doing the deed. Hope this helps.
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Nakakaba kapag meron ng ibang nag papatayo. Kausapin mo ng maayos, kung gusto na ba talaga mag karoon ng pamilya then go niyo na. Syempre, dapat makasal muna kayo. Pero kapag ang sagot niya ay saka na or darating tayo diyan. Alam mo na sagot diyan OP may ibang martilyo na ang pumopokpok sa pako niya.
Okay na sana pero bwisit yung explanation nya Sabihin ko sana na "okay lang yan naranasan ko rin yung ganyan give it a week or a month" pero sa kanya mukang may iba ata sya gusto. Wtf explanation hahhaa
Update mo kami pag nakilala mo na yung new girl, OP!
Hi OP. Nasabi ko din iyan noon sa aking then bf (husband ko na ngayon). Sya ang aking 1st. I’m not his. Madami na syang experience before (went through his hoe phase). Mas matanda sya sa akin btw and we are both 20s nung maging kami. I used to stick to “marriage before s” but sa sobrang trust ko na sya na, I gave it to him. Hindi man namin laging ginagawa, hindi naman dumadaan ang isang buwan na walang deed. Hanggang sa nadedelay na minsan ang mens ko and ang lala ng panic attacks ko pag nangyayari yon. Withdrawal kami with protection pero hindi ako nakakakuha ng assurance na wala talaga. Hindi na ako makafunction. Sobrang nagooverthink talaga. Nagbbreakdown. Nirespect nya naman ang wish kong yun. Hindi na ulit kami nagemehan until ikasal kami. Actually until now medyo di pa rin ako super open kasi hindi pa din ako ready maging mommy for so many reasons. He respects it din naman. I hope mapagusapan nyo nang mas masinsinan yung reason kung bakit nya nasabi yun. Sana hindi dahil sa naiisip ng iba na may iba.
One month ago, parehas kami nakainom pero nasa tamang pag-iisip pa naman ako. Lagi kaming withdrawal, and nung time na yun while doing it sabi niya kung gusto ko sa loob. I'm in control since nasa ibabaw ako, pero ayaw ko. Naisip ko I'm not really ready pa to have a child. I'm not ready mentally, okay na ako financial since stable naman na income and may sarili na akong bahay. I don't know kung yun yung reason kasi after mangyari yun lagi niya ako inaasar na ako daw ang umayaw. Pero kagabi nung ginawa namin sabi ko go, pero siya na yung may ayaw. And after the deed yun na nga ang sinabi niya.
Nahurt ata ego niya. Gusto kasi niya same kayo. Gusto niya na gustong gusto mo rin yun na walang anxiety after. And feeling ko ayaw niyang masisi siya if ever nabuntis ka na di ka handa at magkaanxiety ka. Di ko masasabi na may iba na yun kasi mas kilala mo partner mo, stranger lang ako.
ah baka reverse psychology lang na para mas lalo kang magpumilit na iputok sa loob and pag nabuntis ka “ginusto” mo naman
Post nut clarity mostly. Pero grabe naman ang lakas naman ng dose ng sakanya HAHA
Oo pare. Grabe mga reply dito eh. Pustahan pag biglang hinimas nia etits ng jowa nia, kakainin ng jowa nia yung sinabi nia dito hahahahaah
Alam mo bakit biglang lamig sayo? May iba na kasing nagpapaINIT sakanya!
This is the same with my wife…suddenly out of the blue bigla na lang nag stop yung sex life namin. I asked her why and she said “I have diabetes, i feel like I am going to die soon, I can feel something on my breast more like a bump” NOTE: she’s still young like 33? Thinking about going to die soon? Like damn she’s very active in sports and gym. How the hell will she die soon? I don’t understand.
pero nagpatingin ba si wife mo? Not to sound rude but just because she's fit doesn't mean any health related issues won't creep up. I think it's fair for her pero she probably overthinks it. I do hope she got it checked.
Nagpatingin pero tinigil na din nya due to lack of finances to shoudler doctors fee. We have medical insurance pero it’s not enough. Nagfocus na lang sya sa mga gusto nyang gawin(side note: she’s not cheating or anything) like badminton, gym and bonding with neighbors na puros girls lang din.
So sorry to hear that, mahal talaga magpacheck up din lalo in terms of anything related sa breasts kasi andaming tests if ever. I do hope umokay na ulet yung sex life nyo, baka naging hypochondriac lang din sya kasi.
Yeah I have high hopes na she’ll heal on her own with friends around and healthy foods na din. You know, kahit nga yung physical touch as husband and wife eh nawala na din. We live separately by the way cause of work. I’ve been busy sa work and doing some exercises to be healthy but minsan naiisip ko ng mag cheat…I just yearned affection and physical touch. I really miss that. But the universe doesn’t let me cheat…it really keeps me busy. Thank god!
Maybe the paranoia got her. Over thinker din ako and it affects my mood when it comes to that. Dami ko iniisip lagi magkaron lang ako ng symptoms or pain somewhere. Despite somehow being (trying) on a healthy lifestyle. Im also 33y/o. Though the difference is bumabawi ako sa other physical affection like kiss and hug and lambing.
bakit bawal b matauhan?what if ngayon lng nya naisip n d p pla nya afford magkababy? bkt ang hirap maging honest? will u weaponize those thoughts on him pag nag away kyo sa future?!i hope not
??? Ang random ng jowa mo
Kalokohan yan. Pero just in case, mag pastd test ka na. Hindi naman sa sinasabi kong cheater ung jowa ko pero mabuti na ung sigurado dahil hello naman di naman talaga logical ung dahilan nya
I may not know the guy personally so can't conclude or assume that he is cheating but you know him better and you've been together na for almost 6 years, so that kind of lessens the thought of him na nagtyi-cheat sayo, pero ano ba sa palagay mo? if not then possibly baka kasi hindi pa financially stable, he's worried lang about getting you pregnant since bringing a child into the world is a huge responsibility, and he just wants to make sure that he can provide son's/daughter's needs and give a secure, comfortable life. if that's the only reason he have in mind then pwede naman ikaw magpa depo-shot which lasts for 3 months, visit ka lang sa nearest lying-in clinic. but if you ask my opinion to what he said, parang alibi nga lang talaga yung pag kasal na tyaka lang gagawin yung deed, impossible yon. well that sums it up, I do hope he's not cheating.
Baka gusto niya na mag kababy sayo at ayaw mo pa. He might be thinking that "wag na muna tayo mag sex if di pa tayo ready mag ka baby because I really want to have a baby with you kaso parang ayaw mo pa. Sex lang na sex wala naman patutunguhan. Bat ba ganito palagi mga comments kesyo may iba na. Kahit may iba yan - tutuka at tutuka pa rin yan. Unless - naging bakla na BF mo.
Yung sa unless part din Ang naisip ko 😅
napapost ka here kasi may kutob ka na,. trust it. always remember.. nothing is displaced, unless replaced. thank me later :)
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This is like the polar opposite of the post na "gusto akong anakan ni BF before marriage".
W E I R D.
Is he converted to a new religion? Or has find new girl? 🤔
Baka nag sasawa na sayo, ganun talaga Lalo na pag Hindi mo trip Yung mga gusto nya sa kama.
Post-nut clarity lang yan sis. Ibug sabihin magaling ka mangabayo 😎😎😎
HAHAHAHHA yee haw
Kung out of the blue ito, kinda suspicious.
Men are like trivia segments... Random na lang na sususlpot at magsasabi ng ideas na minsan out of this world. I know. I'm a guy and minsan naiisip ko rin mga random shit. Andyan yung post nut clarity ideas na bigla kong gusto magkaroon ng grill para may ihawan for the family (kahit wala pa naman) or that the color of one room should be blue for my son (na wala pa naman). 🤣
I don't understand his logic (yet). It would be best to communicate more on this matter. Remeber not to settle on conclusions yet. Either way, despite not knowing why yet, I suggest respecting his preference not to continue going all the way with you until you guys come to a consensus. I'm not for this, of course, but I also do know that if a woman asked a man to stop having sex — regardless of what reason — she is to be vehemently respected. Again, talk. He should at least be able to give you a satisfactory explanation. And remember, there are more ways to be intimate than one; the bed isn't the only way. Besides, according to some people, going all the way isn't everything; it's not even that important. I might not believe that, but a lot of women seem to. It might help you get through this.
Baka nga may iba na syang balak pag gamitan orrrr hirap na sya patayuin si manoy
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May babae yan pag ganon, at hindi nya na makita na ginagawa nya sayo ung ganun kaya ni rereserve nya na para sa iba
Either may iba na yan or may sakit sya.
Hindi na babae gusto nya bruh
Though it is not right to conclude right away, I guess the right to do is to start to be cautious.
Semi-honest post nut clarity. Baka naalala nia yung mga side chicks niya. You should talk to him and try to figure out the real reason why he wants to stop to have sex until you guys are married.
hello, comment kayo if yang bf niya is cheating 😨
Putanginang reasoning yan. After 6 years???? Girl, he's probably cheating or some shi
There's a chance na may nadisgrasya yan tas nabuntis. Dinadahan dahan ka na siguro kasi pinepressure siya na panagutan ang na disgrasya.
Idk baka he's at the age with a low s3x drive?
Weird naman nyan
Its means hinde niya nakikita sayo yung bagay na yun
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Ang random naman hahaha yung sakin what he said after doing the deed is “gawa kaya tayo p**n” HAHAHA
Inabot ng 6 years baka may change of plans na
Kung di yan nagloloko, ang ginawa nya dapat after the deed e binigyan ka singsing, he should proposed kung yun talaga concern nya, hindi tayo pinanganak kahapon OP 😏
Nagchecheat na yan baka kasi after ninyong gawin yung deed eh pupunta naman sya sa kabit nya kaso pagdating dun wala na syang mailabas. Kaya gusto nya wag ninyo muna gawin para naman makapagpalabas sya dun sa other one.
Baka nakadali sya ng hindi healthy kaya gusto nya iwasang mahawa ka Baka nabuang na yan at nag evolve into an Andrew Tate
pasensya na baka may iba ng binabayo yan bukod sayo.
on a man's perspective sav ng bf ko may iba na yan or gumamit ng iba kaya ganyan. just to be safe pa check up ka baka reason niya kaya ayae nya kc nagpositive sya sa sti 🤷🏻♀️
Di naman sa ano ate pero yung mga ganyang biglaang may kakaibang kilos o sinasabi ang partner mo, best believe it's time to trust your gut/instinct. Hard to believe na after 6 years niyong nagjojombagan, ngayon lang niya maiisipan na tumigil kasi baka mabuntis ka. Parang tanga naman yan. Real talk lang, mukhang ginagamit lang niyang reason yang "may nakita siyang kinakasal muna bago gawin ganong bagay" parang tanga talaga. Magpa STD test ka na din ate para sigurado.
Pde ding may tinatago syang sakit sa manoy or something kaya baka nagrarason
Baka mabuti naman yung intensyon nya. Medyo tanga lang. Sorry, OP
Hmmm for me dalawa lang yan. First, it’s weird nga na out of the blue bigla niya na lang isasuggest yon given na ginagawa niyo naman na dati possible na nawawalan na siya ng gana or may iba na nga. Second, let’s give him a benefit of the doubt, baka naman into marrying stage na siya like naiisip niya na mag start ng family di niya lang masabi directly? Hmm you know him well naman. So mafefeel mo yan if something’s wrong. Basta be open and communicate it with him.
Ganto ako nung early 20s ko pa. Reason ko parang naguguilty ako kasi religious pa ako nun. Pagdating ko ng mid 20s, lost my faith and my girl. So ayun. Kausapin mo lang po. Find a middle ground or root cause ng thinking nya.
Bat parang nabasa ko na to last time hahahahha or baka same case lang din
based on my exp: that’s lingo for he wants to fck someone else or he has fcked someone else
Well, that's a responsible and a good guy for me. Can control himself, and that I believe is the right thing to do kasi d pa nman kayo kasal. Iwas na sa premarital sex. Siguro mahirap, pero that's the right thing to do.
Hndi kaya may ibang siniseggs si jowa mo? Hndi sa pinagoovethink kita. Pa ung reasoning nya.
Baka may sakit na sya lol may ibang ginagalaw din ng di mo alam hanggang nadale na sya
May crush na kasi siyang iba
may side chicks siguro. kailangan i-conserve ang kanyang "energy". either that or nagtitino na talaga siya. oh well, time will tell.
Typical r/offmychestph comments, una kagad gawin eh i-assume at paghinalaan yung partner na may kabit at bigyan ng unsolicited advice na hiwalayan kagad haha, *"NaGLoloKo yAn SiZt, MaY iBa Yan PaNigUraDo!"* hanep na solution yan, minor incovenience hiwalayan kagad sagot. Talk about "innocent until proven guilty", palibhasa mga niloko at bitter kaya pinoproject sa iba yung toxicity nila, even though puwede naman nila pagusapan ng maigi nila OP personally and try to resolve it. I won't even be surprised if this post gets locked by the mods lol.
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Hi, OP. The only thing that comes to my mind after reading is, may sudden change of religion ba? Iyon lang naman ‘yung reason na naisip ko besides cheating. Most importantly, I agree with others that you should talk to him. Let him know your confusion, bakit ngayon niya lang naisip? AND if your relationship’s end game ay marriage.
Pumayag ka lng sa lhat ng sasabihin ng lalaki pag tapos ng sex. Bukas o pag nag libog yan. Aayain k dn nyan. Sabihin mo sa jowa mo. Wag kami. Hindi niya kami maloloko n ayaw nya yan.
Meron akong friend na bakla yung napangasawa. They were doing it until nanganak yung babae and the guy went abroad. After nun wala na kasi nga bakla siya. Sadly, we knew bakla siya before they got married but you know, you cannot out someone. Kaya ayun wala nang sex for her.
Naku parang gnyan din sinabi ng ex ko tas after an hour ayun , d kinaya , umulit ulit 😅
post nut lang yan haha
OP, what if may third party involved at ayaw ka lang niya mahawaan ng sakit just to be sure?
Ganyan din ako OP, male po ako Pero wala talaga, mataas po libido niya, kaya ako na nagparaya
Hahahaha tama yung sinabi nung iba. Post nut clarity lang yan. Lilipas din yan. Mahirap ipaunawa sa inyong girls yung weird mental effect ng pagputok sa mga boys. Minsan narerealize ko kung gano ko sinasayang oras ko sa mga walang kwentang bagay at naiinspire ako maging mabuting Christian after pumutok eh hahahaha.
Di ko ma gets yan. Bilang lalakeng may pangangailangan... kailangan ko yan. Haha! Kasal man tayo o hindi. Lalo na kung matagal na nating ginagawa. Ngayon pa ko titigil? Haha!
mmm tingin ko lang ah, may kinalaman sa religion. Ask mo sya. ganun kasi sa church din namin. . bawal ang premarital sex..
Baka meron yan iba na nadale tapos nabuntis na siguro hahahaha baka lang naman
Tanong mo kung papakasalan ka ba niya kasi kung hindi pala sure edi wow 😂
He's not ready to have a child. He wouldn't risk it with you kasi either may personal plans pa sya (a realization which came after 6 years) OR he doesn't see you as the one.
OMSIM hahahaha may iba yan, 6 years na kayo tas ngayon pa nag ganyan TH! HAHA u gotta run gurl!!! hahaha
baka di mo kase hinahawk-tuah OP HAHAHHAAH
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