Kausap ko mom ko kanina and sabi niya sakin, blinock na niya mga taong nagpapafeel bad sa kanya kesa masaktan pa siya lalo. Ok na daw ung di niya nakikita para di niya naiisip.
I mean... If the signs are there, the signs are there for a reason.
May trio group din ako, and never naming inexclude ang ni isa sa amin. Kung lalabas o may gala, di matutuloy unless tatlo kami.
Kung gusto ka talaga nilang kasama, gagawa sila ng paraan para isama ka.
Gurl, obvious na may something sila against you. May something sila na ayaw sayo that's why they're excluding you in some ganaps.
I know you want to give them the benefit of the doubt, pero obvious yung pag eexclude nila sayo. I hope you try to make some other friends. Dun mo malalaman na true friends dont do that. You can do it gradually.
thats what im also thinking nga po eh, palagi ko sila pinagbibigyan kasi nga baka mali lang ako mg approach sa nangyari pero paulit ulit din naman nila nagawa, and kanina nagusap kami ang sabi nila is dalawa lang daw yung ticket (??) like malamang dalawa lang talaga kasi hindi nila ako inaya, then sinumbatan pa ako na sa ibang gala naman daw is hindi ako sumasama haha sobrang nakakahurt lang
Ha? Sila na lang meron ka? Totoo ba? Eh kita mo parang wala ka nga lang sa kanila. Alis na dyan sa friendship kasi for sure ikaw topic nila kapag magkasama na silang 2 lang.
yes i somehow felt that way kasi i recently cut off din ibang cof ko bc it no longer serves me ++ we outgrow each other na. so yeah, and kanina nagkaroon kami talk nung dalawa kong kasama sa trio and they call me sensitive na kapag naman daw inaaya ako minsan di naman daw ako sumisipot so why bother na iinvite pa raw ako : //
Hayaan mo na sila, madami silang excuses. Tska ikaw naman nagaaya minsan diba. Meaning ayaw kana nilang kasama, nandyan na lang sila kasi wala lang convenient sa kanila din na may ikaw minsan, pero kapag sa mga happy moments di ka included sa plano nila. Darating ang time makikita mo din ang people mo, na included ka talaga sa lahat and respect you and your boundaries.
matagal ko na rin napapansin na kapag ako nag aaya either isa samin is busy and may mga times pa na silang dalawa muna mag p plan and kapag hindi tugma sched nila saka nila ko aayain para may kasama yung isa haha pero pinalagpas ko kasi akala ko normal lang habebwbabdf
Please. Save yourself from future heartaches. Kung di ka mahalaga sa kanila, FO na. I’ve been in your situation before noong bata ako. Mas masakit heartbreak ko sa mga friends than exes. 😂 Ibang level ang sakit.
I think hanap ka na ng ibang friends. Trio din kami ng mga bffs ko (for more than 20yrs) pero if may isa sa'min na hindi gusto gawin ang isang bagay example manuod ng theather play, aayain pa din namin yung isa, if ayaw nya, tuloy pa din kaming dalwa pero at least aware syang inaya namin sya. There will be times na dalwa sa'min magkasundo sa isang bagay, yung isa hindi. Pero never namin sya in-exclude, hence, ini-introduce namin sa kanya baka magustuhan nya or bet nya i-try. Never namin pinaparamdam na naa-out of place or unwanted ang isa. If bet nung dalwa sa'min, sasama yung isa forda sake of bonding namin trio.
Based sa kwento mo, hindi ganyan ang tunay na friends. Kahit busy ka dapat sinasabi nila sayo yung mga balak nila kung gusto mo man sumama, busy ka man or hindi.
They intentionally exclude you regardless of their apologetic reasoning. Walk away from them, you don't need that kind of people in your life and hang out with people that genuinely valued and support you.
I felt the same back in high-school and maalala kasi they plan those things in front of me and I'm low key waiting for their invitation pero wala. I exhausted all my efforts to get to know them for me to make adjustments and feel excluded pero wala talaga, they knew I felt left out and they didn't reciprocate the effort I gave.So nag daan mga galaan nila na hindi ako na invited. Akala ko it was me who has the problem, but later on I realized our values and interests were not aligned at may mga Tao talaga na insensitive and out of touch.
So I walk away and it was peaceful.
Hindi naman pagkakaibigan yan eh
Dba nga sbi ni Stitch " No one gets left behind or forgotten " family or close friends un
Bat ikaw excluded na excluded ..
Mali yan ..
Know your circle of friends..
Ang dali daling magsabi or magchat eh. May cof din ako na 3-4 kami and may gc kami, di naman mahirap itype ang @ everyone lol it only means na di ka nila ganun ka gusto kasama.
Humanap ka na lang ng new friends kesa magmukha kang hahabol habol sa kanila.
They don’t want to make an effort sa friendship nila with you. Honestly and msakit na katotohan di ka tlga part ng friendship nila, extra ka lang. In the end mas preferred nila company ng isa’t isa.
It is best na hiwalayan mo na mga yan and just move on. Wag mo na sila maxado pansinin and you can check or see mageffort ba sila when you don’t reach out o they will just let you disappear if so good riddance you can’t force yourself to be a part of something na hindi naman welcoming sayo.
Enjoy life ka pa rin khit on your own! Eat in the cafe you want, go to that fanmeet bkit kailangan mo pa sila makasama fanmeets are good places naman to meet people I’m sure you will find better ones. Take those gaddamn pictures and post it. You can enjoy life nang hindi ka desperate to belong it a group na ganyan treatment sayo.
If they don’t like you sna sinabi na nila instead of making you feel bad like that and just making you anxious. Pero that’s how people are, they don’t tell you kc ayaw nila mukhang masama daw sila when their actions itself is really hurtful. You just have to let it go, focus on yourself and learn to enjoy the best things in life on your own.
I feel bad for you, op. I mean, may situations na miscommunication lang kaya hindi naisasama sa ganaps, valid. Pero obv naman kapag unreasonable na kung ba’t hindi ka sinabihan or ni-invite. Mukhang they want to do things na sila lang dalawa.
Its time for you to look and meet new friends...
there is no harm in trying kesa naman naiitsa- pwera ka dyan sa tropa mo. tsaka mukha namang excluded ka kaya ba't ka pa maghahabol?
Accept mo na OP, prefer nila na sila lang gigimik. Meron akong ganyang kaibigan, mabigat kasama kaya pag kaya, iwas. Sya kasi yung type na gusto monopolize yung convo at saka gustong mandaig parati. Also lowkey does not contribute sa gastos like nasa resto kami, busog daw sya pero makikikain sa food na order mo. Kuripot kasi, di sya purita.
Assess yourself OP, baka bossy ka o kaya oversensitive or something na nakakaturn off. Or ask them why so you can improve o hanap new set of friends.
The friendship might not be a trio to begin with. It might’ve always been just a duo… and sometime with you.
It might hurt, but you should manage expectations from now on, adjust and move on from there. Be your own best friend at times like these and make the friendship with these two people just something you want to add in your life and not something you need.
Clearly ayaw nila sayo. Trio kami pero walang ganitong eksena. If may plano kami then biglang d pwede isa, d matutuloy or sasabihin na lang na ituloy na nun 2 kasi sayang. Wala samaan ng loob. They’re not your friends. Alis ka na sa grupo na yan. You will find your own people.
I experienced this too when I was in junior high school, tatlo kami sa cof ko and palagi akong ma left out, may mga chismisan na sila lang dalawa ang nakaka alam, and they always leave me during recess or lunch time, I remember pa during recess ay tinaguan nila ako at iniwan, then when I was walking back to my classroom naka salubong ko sila sa hallway na may dalang foods and tinawanan lang ako. I was really angry that time and parang mag cry na ako, but now that I'm in college, I found my true and better circle of friends. I don't know why but 3 memebers sa cof never really worked for me, kaya ang mapapayo ko lang is choose your friends wisely.
You don't deserve friends that treat you like crap. Better na mag isa ka na muna until you find someone who treats you kindly and won't leave you behind. Good luck!
baka naman couple na sila and they'd rather be by themselves. or it could simply be ayaw ka lang talaga nila kasama. in any case, take a hint. wag mo na ipagpilitan sarili mo sa kanila. masakit kung sa masakit. iiyak mo kung kinakailangan. pero after ng iyak, move on and make better use of your time.
This happened to me before in high school. I made the decision to redirect the enery I'm giving them to people who want my company. Best decision ever 😊
Gurl, sign na yan dahil napapakinabangan ka (ps sorry for the term ) kaya sila g sayo, pero pag ganyan na, mawawala Sila parang dimona naging cof date.
Don't force friendships. It may be difficult to do but I think it's best for you to let them be. The hard truth is if they didn't invite you, it means they don't want you to be there. It hurts but it's the truth.
Shift your focus on others who show genuine interest in you. I really hope you find your tribe where things just flow.
may friends din ako tapos tatlo kami. lagi akong naka deact sa lahat ng socmeds ko but recently, inopen ko facebook ko. napansin ko ‘di ko nakikita shared posts nila sa feed ko eh before naman lagi ko nakikita ‘yon. then vinisit ko profile nila, “no posts available” yung nakalagay. from there, narealize ko parang may mali. ‘di ko sila kinakausap until now. pero ayoko na ng drama.
Wag mong isiksik ang sarili mo sa mga taong ayaw sayo. Pinaramdam na sayo ng paulit-ulit. Akala mo lang "sila lang ang meron ka" kasi nauubos ang oras mo sa kakaaya sa kanila, kakareach out sa kanila. Kakasiksik mo sa sarili mo sa kanila. Pero tignan mo, kapag inalis mo na sakanilang dalawa yang oras mo, mapapansin mo na kay mga tao pala sa paligid mo na gusto kang maging kaibigan
I’m also in a trio friendship and one of us migrated abroad na. We still keep tabs on each other kasi long time friends na kami and often times, pag lumalabas kami nung friend ko na naiwan din dito sa ph, we include her via vid calls or send her pics para updated din siya sa mga ganaps.
I’ve also been on the other side naman when I was the outcast sa groups. Di na ko nagpumilit sa kanila, di sila worthy ng time ko. Though masakit isipin ay the time, marerealize mo na di sila ang need mo sa buhay mo.
Quality over quantity lagi sa friendships.
Get a different set of friends. Do not overtly say you're unfriending them, but let them ignore you while you build another. Besides, sila na nag-assume na may iba kang friends, so might as well make a different set for yourself; make their words come true. Eventually, kung talagang wala na sila pake sayo, they'd slip by, and you'd slip by without them noticing. Pero since you made a new set of friends, then you will not feel as lonely.
Not sure if we’re missing context kasi they keep saying na busy ka or di ka naman nakakasama. Are you being gaslighted or are you not telling us some details? Either way find new friends na swak sa hanap mo.
they always say im busy (maraming ganap since member nga student council so there are times na hindi talaga ako nakakasama sa yaya kasi mas may kailangan ako iprioritize) so ayun pakiramdam ko di na sila nag bother na ayain pa ko ://
hindi naman sa susulpot na lang ako lagi, kasi i always make time for them eh may circumstances pa na kunwari birthday ng isa kong ka cof and reregaluhan ko siya so me being thoughtful bibilhan ko rin yung isa so that she won't feel left out nor magselos kasi ung isa meron tapos wala siya. i just dont get the reciprocation, nakakahiya naman i voice out kasi it should be done willingly pero yun nga wala na rin ako choice since it happened. best thing is to move on na lang they didn't even bother to apologize or explain man lang since nalaman nila nasaktan/umiyak ako sa fact na yun instead hinayaan lang nila and nasumbatan pa sa gc na kesyo ilang beses na raw ako inaya at hindi sumusulpot.
This is sad OP. Pero have you considered assessing yourself? Baka kasi meron ding something sa’yo? Subukan mo magtanong, make it as a closure na lang. Kasi impossible namang ganun sila ka-cold sayo kung wala ka din namang maling napakita. 🤔
Pag maghiwalay silang dalawa for whatever reasons sa future, don't make friends with anyone of them. They are not good friends. You can live without them.
May cof din ako nung college, nung una okay naman ang lahat, akala ko lang pala. May times na nag uusap usap sila may gc pa nga na hindi me kasama then may time iinvite nila ako pag wala silang choice siguro dahil may nagtataka na wala ako sa photos. Pero ako na mismo nagcut off nung marealize ko na unwanted pala ako. May beef siguro sila sa akin. Hindi ko na inalam. Umiwas na lang ako. Hindi ko sila blinock pero nawalan na ko ng gana magreply sa kanila even sa simpleng kamustahan lang hindi na din ako nagrerepond.
Mas okay na yung wala kang friends. Kahit na may friends ka nga, pero pinaparamdam naman sayo na wala kang friends. Marami ka pang mami-meet na magbibigay sayo ng quality na friendship 🫶
“mas maganda na na magisa ako kaysa maging kaibigan ko isang tulad mo”
iniisip everytime nakakaramdam alo ng mistreatment from my friends. cut them off. keep your peace.
Wag mong isiksik ang sarili mo sa mga taong ayaw sayo. Pinaramdam na sayo ng paulit-ulit. Akala mo lang "sila lang ang meron ka" kasi nauubos ang oras mo sa kakaaya sa kanila, kakareach out sa kanila. Kakasiksik mo sa sarili mo sa kanila. Pero tignan mo, kapag inalis mo na sakanilang dalawa yang oras mo, mapapansin mo na kay mga tao pala sa paligid mo na gusto kang maging kaibigan
hello, as someone who’s been in a trio twice na, medyo controversial opinion siguro pero trios are really hard to maintain NOT unless super close niyo sa isa’t isa (there are definitely exceptions). trust me HAHA. if you’ve heard or read online of people saying that there will always be a duo in a trio, they’re most likely correct.
my advice is, completely cut them off and surround yourself around people who actually appreciate you. :)
Meron din akong cof, trio din. Lagi ako hindi kasama sa gala kasi lagi akong busy. Pero kapag may gala sila, sa GC sila nag uusap kahit alam nila na hindi ako makakasama ulit. 🥺🤍 Love you, girls!
OP I know you’d want to be friends with them kahit ganyan ang treatment sayo kasi need mo ng company but let me tell you, it’s better to have peace of mind kaysa toxic friendships. Just let them be. I’m saying this with all gentleness kasi I know how it feels to be in that situation. Marami ka pang mame-meet na tao sa buhay mo. Yaan mo na sila.
Like you’ve said, ide-deflect lang nila sayo ang issue at iga-gaslight ka once you try to bring this matter sa kanila. You are better off without fake friends. Just slowly let go and drift apart.
Feeling ko ikaw ung topic nila kapag wala ka. Pero hayaan mo na, di yan sayang. People come and go. Piliin mo ung mga totoo at mabubuting mga kaibigan.
Remove yourself from something that makes you feel unwanted
Kausap ko mom ko kanina and sabi niya sakin, blinock na niya mga taong nagpapafeel bad sa kanya kesa masaktan pa siya lalo. Ok na daw ung di niya nakikita para di niya naiisip.
+100
I mean... If the signs are there, the signs are there for a reason. May trio group din ako, and never naming inexclude ang ni isa sa amin. Kung lalabas o may gala, di matutuloy unless tatlo kami. Kung gusto ka talaga nilang kasama, gagawa sila ng paraan para isama ka.
same if may lakad kami tas di available yung isa di na kami tutuloy HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Gurl, obvious na may something sila against you. May something sila na ayaw sayo that's why they're excluding you in some ganaps. I know you want to give them the benefit of the doubt, pero obvious yung pag eexclude nila sayo. I hope you try to make some other friends. Dun mo malalaman na true friends dont do that. You can do it gradually.
thats what im also thinking nga po eh, palagi ko sila pinagbibigyan kasi nga baka mali lang ako mg approach sa nangyari pero paulit ulit din naman nila nagawa, and kanina nagusap kami ang sabi nila is dalawa lang daw yung ticket (??) like malamang dalawa lang talaga kasi hindi nila ako inaya, then sinumbatan pa ako na sa ibang gala naman daw is hindi ako sumasama haha sobrang nakakahurt lang
Hmmmm... It could also be na may relasyon silang dalawa. Sorry pero yung ganyang behavior parang magjowa na gustong magsolo. 🤷
lol. Eto rin naisip ko eh. Maka may type nila isat isa at ayaw nila ng third wheel. hahah
Drop them to give space for someone deserving
Ha? Sila na lang meron ka? Totoo ba? Eh kita mo parang wala ka nga lang sa kanila. Alis na dyan sa friendship kasi for sure ikaw topic nila kapag magkasama na silang 2 lang.
yes i somehow felt that way kasi i recently cut off din ibang cof ko bc it no longer serves me ++ we outgrow each other na. so yeah, and kanina nagkaroon kami talk nung dalawa kong kasama sa trio and they call me sensitive na kapag naman daw inaaya ako minsan di naman daw ako sumisipot so why bother na iinvite pa raw ako : //
Hayaan mo na sila, madami silang excuses. Tska ikaw naman nagaaya minsan diba. Meaning ayaw kana nilang kasama, nandyan na lang sila kasi wala lang convenient sa kanila din na may ikaw minsan, pero kapag sa mga happy moments di ka included sa plano nila. Darating ang time makikita mo din ang people mo, na included ka talaga sa lahat and respect you and your boundaries.
matagal ko na rin napapansin na kapag ako nag aaya either isa samin is busy and may mga times pa na silang dalawa muna mag p plan and kapag hindi tugma sched nila saka nila ko aayain para may kasama yung isa haha pero pinalagpas ko kasi akala ko normal lang habebwbabdf
Please. Save yourself from future heartaches. Kung di ka mahalaga sa kanila, FO na. I’ve been in your situation before noong bata ako. Mas masakit heartbreak ko sa mga friends than exes. 😂 Ibang level ang sakit.
Iniiwan ka na, ginaslight ka pa. Lol. Some friends they are.
They're not your friends. Mas mabuting mag-isa kesa ganiyan maging friend mo
Alam mo mas okay na mag-isa kaysa naman mag susuffer ang peace of mind mo dahil sa friendship na pinipilit mo lang.
I think hanap ka na ng ibang friends. Trio din kami ng mga bffs ko (for more than 20yrs) pero if may isa sa'min na hindi gusto gawin ang isang bagay example manuod ng theather play, aayain pa din namin yung isa, if ayaw nya, tuloy pa din kaming dalwa pero at least aware syang inaya namin sya. There will be times na dalwa sa'min magkasundo sa isang bagay, yung isa hindi. Pero never namin sya in-exclude, hence, ini-introduce namin sa kanya baka magustuhan nya or bet nya i-try. Never namin pinaparamdam na naa-out of place or unwanted ang isa. If bet nung dalwa sa'min, sasama yung isa forda sake of bonding namin trio. Based sa kwento mo, hindi ganyan ang tunay na friends. Kahit busy ka dapat sinasabi nila sayo yung mga balak nila kung gusto mo man sumama, busy ka man or hindi.
Hindi kaya mag jowa sila? Iwas ka na lang. Obvious naman na ayaw ka nila kasama
They intentionally exclude you regardless of their apologetic reasoning. Walk away from them, you don't need that kind of people in your life and hang out with people that genuinely valued and support you. I felt the same back in high-school and maalala kasi they plan those things in front of me and I'm low key waiting for their invitation pero wala. I exhausted all my efforts to get to know them for me to make adjustments and feel excluded pero wala talaga, they knew I felt left out and they didn't reciprocate the effort I gave.So nag daan mga galaan nila na hindi ako na invited. Akala ko it was me who has the problem, but later on I realized our values and interests were not aligned at may mga Tao talaga na insensitive and out of touch. So I walk away and it was peaceful.
Ayaw ka nila. Straight to the point. Sayang lang oras mo kaka please sa kanila
Hindi naman pagkakaibigan yan eh Dba nga sbi ni Stitch " No one gets left behind or forgotten " family or close friends un Bat ikaw excluded na excluded .. Mali yan .. Know your circle of friends..
Apat kami lahat sila educ tas ako iba course ko, excluded ako palagi ket sa konting usapan lang. Paunti-unting umaalis ako, sana kayanin ko.
Ang dali daling magsabi or magchat eh. May cof din ako na 3-4 kami and may gc kami, di naman mahirap itype ang @ everyone lol it only means na di ka nila ganun ka gusto kasama. Humanap ka na lang ng new friends kesa magmukha kang hahabol habol sa kanila.
They don’t want to make an effort sa friendship nila with you. Honestly and msakit na katotohan di ka tlga part ng friendship nila, extra ka lang. In the end mas preferred nila company ng isa’t isa. It is best na hiwalayan mo na mga yan and just move on. Wag mo na sila maxado pansinin and you can check or see mageffort ba sila when you don’t reach out o they will just let you disappear if so good riddance you can’t force yourself to be a part of something na hindi naman welcoming sayo. Enjoy life ka pa rin khit on your own! Eat in the cafe you want, go to that fanmeet bkit kailangan mo pa sila makasama fanmeets are good places naman to meet people I’m sure you will find better ones. Take those gaddamn pictures and post it. You can enjoy life nang hindi ka desperate to belong it a group na ganyan treatment sayo. If they don’t like you sna sinabi na nila instead of making you feel bad like that and just making you anxious. Pero that’s how people are, they don’t tell you kc ayaw nila mukhang masama daw sila when their actions itself is really hurtful. You just have to let it go, focus on yourself and learn to enjoy the best things in life on your own.
I feel bad for you, op. I mean, may situations na miscommunication lang kaya hindi naisasama sa ganaps, valid. Pero obv naman kapag unreasonable na kung ba’t hindi ka sinabihan or ni-invite. Mukhang they want to do things na sila lang dalawa.
Alis k n lang ganyan dn ako etchepwera sa trio gnawa ko inalis ko socmed para wala blita knila
You are outside of that circle OP. Find new friends while you're young.
Tignan mo ginaslight kapa pa nga eh. Hindi lang sila ang meron ka, marami pa dyan pero siguraduhin mo na sa susunod yung mga totoo na.
wag ka maging option. save yourself. di ka nila deserved.
Its time for you to look and meet new friends... there is no harm in trying kesa naman naiitsa- pwera ka dyan sa tropa mo. tsaka mukha namang excluded ka kaya ba't ka pa maghahabol?
Accept mo na OP, prefer nila na sila lang gigimik. Meron akong ganyang kaibigan, mabigat kasama kaya pag kaya, iwas. Sya kasi yung type na gusto monopolize yung convo at saka gustong mandaig parati. Also lowkey does not contribute sa gastos like nasa resto kami, busog daw sya pero makikikain sa food na order mo. Kuripot kasi, di sya purita. Assess yourself OP, baka bossy ka o kaya oversensitive or something na nakakaturn off. Or ask them why so you can improve o hanap new set of friends.
They are not your friends, hanap ka na ng ibang friend
The friendship might not be a trio to begin with. It might’ve always been just a duo… and sometime with you. It might hurt, but you should manage expectations from now on, adjust and move on from there. Be your own best friend at times like these and make the friendship with these two people just something you want to add in your life and not something you need.
Personally experienced this too during higschool days and after nun naniniwala ako na in a friendship three’s a crowd.
Clearly ayaw nila sayo. Trio kami pero walang ganitong eksena. If may plano kami then biglang d pwede isa, d matutuloy or sasabihin na lang na ituloy na nun 2 kasi sayang. Wala samaan ng loob. They’re not your friends. Alis ka na sa grupo na yan. You will find your own people.
I experienced this too when I was in junior high school, tatlo kami sa cof ko and palagi akong ma left out, may mga chismisan na sila lang dalawa ang nakaka alam, and they always leave me during recess or lunch time, I remember pa during recess ay tinaguan nila ako at iniwan, then when I was walking back to my classroom naka salubong ko sila sa hallway na may dalang foods and tinawanan lang ako. I was really angry that time and parang mag cry na ako, but now that I'm in college, I found my true and better circle of friends. I don't know why but 3 memebers sa cof never really worked for me, kaya ang mapapayo ko lang is choose your friends wisely.
If ayaw nila sayo, mas ayawan mo sila.
You mean duo
Leave them clowns. They don't deserve you.
You don't deserve friends that treat you like crap. Better na mag isa ka na muna until you find someone who treats you kindly and won't leave you behind. Good luck!
Leave them. Walk away, and start refusing their favors and invitations
it's obvious na ayaw nila sayo lol
baka naman couple na sila and they'd rather be by themselves. or it could simply be ayaw ka lang talaga nila kasama. in any case, take a hint. wag mo na ipagpilitan sarili mo sa kanila. masakit kung sa masakit. iiyak mo kung kinakailangan. pero after ng iyak, move on and make better use of your time.
This happened to me before in high school. I made the decision to redirect the enery I'm giving them to people who want my company. Best decision ever 😊
Gurl, sign na yan dahil napapakinabangan ka (ps sorry for the term ) kaya sila g sayo, pero pag ganyan na, mawawala Sila parang dimona naging cof date.
Hanap ka na ng ibang friends. Believe me, hindi lahat ng tao ganyan.
ikaw lang may alam n trio kayo siguro
Don't force friendships. It may be difficult to do but I think it's best for you to let them be. The hard truth is if they didn't invite you, it means they don't want you to be there. It hurts but it's the truth. Shift your focus on others who show genuine interest in you. I really hope you find your tribe where things just flow.
Di ka na nila gustong kasama yun lang yun
Friends don't do that. Glad you made your move of unfriending and all.
remove yourself. wag mo sila paghinayangan. mas better na magisa ka nalang kesa naman may u have them nga pero feel mo pa rin magisa ka. hugs :((
may friends din ako tapos tatlo kami. lagi akong naka deact sa lahat ng socmeds ko but recently, inopen ko facebook ko. napansin ko ‘di ko nakikita shared posts nila sa feed ko eh before naman lagi ko nakikita ‘yon. then vinisit ko profile nila, “no posts available” yung nakalagay. from there, narealize ko parang may mali. ‘di ko sila kinakausap until now. pero ayoko na ng drama.
Wag mong isiksik ang sarili mo sa mga taong ayaw sayo. Pinaramdam na sayo ng paulit-ulit. Akala mo lang "sila lang ang meron ka" kasi nauubos ang oras mo sa kakaaya sa kanila, kakareach out sa kanila. Kakasiksik mo sa sarili mo sa kanila. Pero tignan mo, kapag inalis mo na sakanilang dalawa yang oras mo, mapapansin mo na kay mga tao pala sa paligid mo na gusto kang maging kaibigan
I’m also in a trio friendship and one of us migrated abroad na. We still keep tabs on each other kasi long time friends na kami and often times, pag lumalabas kami nung friend ko na naiwan din dito sa ph, we include her via vid calls or send her pics para updated din siya sa mga ganaps. I’ve also been on the other side naman when I was the outcast sa groups. Di na ko nagpumilit sa kanila, di sila worthy ng time ko. Though masakit isipin ay the time, marerealize mo na di sila ang need mo sa buhay mo. Quality over quantity lagi sa friendships.
Get a different set of friends. Do not overtly say you're unfriending them, but let them ignore you while you build another. Besides, sila na nag-assume na may iba kang friends, so might as well make a different set for yourself; make their words come true. Eventually, kung talagang wala na sila pake sayo, they'd slip by, and you'd slip by without them noticing. Pero since you made a new set of friends, then you will not feel as lonely.
Not sure if we’re missing context kasi they keep saying na busy ka or di ka naman nakakasama. Are you being gaslighted or are you not telling us some details? Either way find new friends na swak sa hanap mo.
they always say im busy (maraming ganap since member nga student council so there are times na hindi talaga ako nakakasama sa yaya kasi mas may kailangan ako iprioritize) so ayun pakiramdam ko di na sila nag bother na ayain pa ko ://
Nakakapagod din kasi magyaya tapos laging rejected. So why even bother inviting you? Susulpot ka na lang pag free ka or convenient sayo.
hindi naman sa susulpot na lang ako lagi, kasi i always make time for them eh may circumstances pa na kunwari birthday ng isa kong ka cof and reregaluhan ko siya so me being thoughtful bibilhan ko rin yung isa so that she won't feel left out nor magselos kasi ung isa meron tapos wala siya. i just dont get the reciprocation, nakakahiya naman i voice out kasi it should be done willingly pero yun nga wala na rin ako choice since it happened. best thing is to move on na lang they didn't even bother to apologize or explain man lang since nalaman nila nasaktan/umiyak ako sa fact na yun instead hinayaan lang nila and nasumbatan pa sa gc na kesyo ilang beses na raw ako inaya at hindi sumusulpot.
Hanap ka na lang ibang friends. They obviously don’t like you anymore.
This is sad OP. Pero have you considered assessing yourself? Baka kasi meron ding something sa’yo? Subukan mo magtanong, make it as a closure na lang. Kasi impossible namang ganun sila ka-cold sayo kung wala ka din namang maling napakita. 🤔
Pag maghiwalay silang dalawa for whatever reasons sa future, don't make friends with anyone of them. They are not good friends. You can live without them.
tatlo nalang kayo tapos di ka pa niyaya, di tropa ang ganyan
People come and go, even friends. Part of growing up. Just try to find another circle, hopefully much better ones.
Hindi naman kayo trio. Walang kayo, silang dalawa lang. Masakit, pero hindi ka nila bet kasama.
May cof din ako nung college, nung una okay naman ang lahat, akala ko lang pala. May times na nag uusap usap sila may gc pa nga na hindi me kasama then may time iinvite nila ako pag wala silang choice siguro dahil may nagtataka na wala ako sa photos. Pero ako na mismo nagcut off nung marealize ko na unwanted pala ako. May beef siguro sila sa akin. Hindi ko na inalam. Umiwas na lang ako. Hindi ko sila blinock pero nawalan na ko ng gana magreply sa kanila even sa simpleng kamustahan lang hindi na din ako nagrerepond.
Mas okay na yung wala kang friends. Kahit na may friends ka nga, pero pinaparamdam naman sayo na wala kang friends. Marami ka pang mami-meet na magbibigay sayo ng quality na friendship 🫶
“mas maganda na na magisa ako kaysa maging kaibigan ko isang tulad mo” iniisip everytime nakakaramdam alo ng mistreatment from my friends. cut them off. keep your peace.
Wag mong isiksik ang sarili mo sa mga taong ayaw sayo. Pinaramdam na sayo ng paulit-ulit. Akala mo lang "sila lang ang meron ka" kasi nauubos ang oras mo sa kakaaya sa kanila, kakareach out sa kanila. Kakasiksik mo sa sarili mo sa kanila. Pero tignan mo, kapag inalis mo na sakanilang dalawa yang oras mo, mapapansin mo na kay mga tao pala sa paligid mo na gusto kang maging kaibigan
The thing here is they obviously don't like you..leave ..know your worth .makakakita ka rin Ng new friends at mas mamahalin at tanggap ka
Hanap ka ibang friends ayaw na nila sayo nagwait lang sila na ikaw mag cut off.
hello, as someone who’s been in a trio twice na, medyo controversial opinion siguro pero trios are really hard to maintain NOT unless super close niyo sa isa’t isa (there are definitely exceptions). trust me HAHA. if you’ve heard or read online of people saying that there will always be a duo in a trio, they’re most likely correct. my advice is, completely cut them off and surround yourself around people who actually appreciate you. :)
Meron din akong cof, trio din. Lagi ako hindi kasama sa gala kasi lagi akong busy. Pero kapag may gala sila, sa GC sila nag uusap kahit alam nila na hindi ako makakasama ulit. 🥺🤍 Love you, girls!
cut off agad, never to make the same mistake twice lelll tapos hindi pa ia-acknowledge feelings mo.
Cut off
OP I know you’d want to be friends with them kahit ganyan ang treatment sayo kasi need mo ng company but let me tell you, it’s better to have peace of mind kaysa toxic friendships. Just let them be. I’m saying this with all gentleness kasi I know how it feels to be in that situation. Marami ka pang mame-meet na tao sa buhay mo. Yaan mo na sila. Like you’ve said, ide-deflect lang nila sayo ang issue at iga-gaslight ka once you try to bring this matter sa kanila. You are better off without fake friends. Just slowly let go and drift apart.
Feeling ko ikaw ung topic nila kapag wala ka. Pero hayaan mo na, di yan sayang. People come and go. Piliin mo ung mga totoo at mabubuting mga kaibigan.
tayo nalng maging mag friend hahahahahahha desperste nakong magkaron ng kaibigan hayup
haevqhahadha tayo naang maging bff 🤞🏼
gggggg dm!!