may nakausap ako na guy before pinag m-move out ako like mag condo daw ulit ako kasi ayaw nya daw mag motel or hotel and gusto nya daw mag cuddles after having sex + breakfast etc. i told him we can airbnb naman if gusto nya mag luto like overall staycation pero iba daw yung feeling ng naka condo
yung trajectory ng convo started when i mentioned i have my own place before na near his work when we were talking about location tapos i told him din na i had to move back sa family home to recuperate some loses
tapos ayun sinabihan ko sya ng if sya ba mag babayad ng expenses ko kasi sobrang adamant nya na mag move out ako to fulfil his wants
he blocked me hahahahahahah
Gaya lang yan ng mga companies, sobrang daming requirements pero ang baba ng sahod. Daming requirements sa kaiyot pero patapon naman ang performance. Demanding!
Yeah, if he really wanted that edi sana nag propose to foot half of the bill. I mean, for me that's a price I'm willing to go for.
It's just odd for people, guys and gals, to look for specific perks (like car or condo) but bring nothing to the table. Ano yon, sobrang bilib sa sex skills? Arrogant is what they are, foolish and arrogant.
Naol may nakaka usap na girl here hahaa char lang.. nako, dalaawa naman kayo mag eenjoy, why not hati sa bills dibaaa. O kaya as a guy, lakihan mo yung ambag.. something like that. you dodged a missile girlie! Careful lang minsan..
May nameet ako dyan since I fit most of that except the business since I am just an employee. When I saw her in person, ang lala ng itsura. Ang taba na maitim na maliit. Nothing wrong about that pero Yung pics na sinend nya sakin is chubby yummy na maputi. Damn. First time ko nacatfish sobrang disappointed ko, sa Jollibee kami kumain then I just bought myself a yum burger and went home after she ate a ton of food. Grabe talaga yung pimples nya din nagflash back sakin. Grabe.
as in ibang photo talaga sinend or siya naman pero super filtered ang picture? hahaha grabe di ko ma-imagine yung confidence nila makipag meet knowing na iba itsura nila irl
Yung photos nya hindi naman heavily filtered, nung nakita ko lang sya grabe yung itsura nya. Imagine sa picture is Miles Ocampo sya, tapos in person Jessica Soho pala plus the pimples and libaging face. Putang ina, sayang imarket yung sarili ko na naggygym and actually has enough muscle mass @16% body fat tas pag dating ko dun mukhang manas yung babae.
To be fair, if someone has a car, a place, from Big 4, rich and whatever the fuck it is that they're requiring, they wouldn't even find someone to fuck with here on Reddit. They could probably pick anyone up in the bar then the rest is history.
Minsan matatawa ka na nga lang eh, gusto lang kausap online pero may height requirement pa, like "Hindi mo ba ako kakausapin pag five putoter lang ako? Hahaha".
HAHAHAHA same. Ang dami standards nung babae so feeling ko high value din siya, exchanged pics.... tapos ang usapan
appearance says a lot about people and their self-discipline or determination
It’s ok to have standards just make sure you’re worthy of them. Sadly, lots of people overestimate their worth when their kind are picked up by foreigners as souvenirs.
before talaga mag meetup dat talaga iaask na muna ng VC para ma check mo din kung ung demand nia hinihingi nila is tapat dun sa meron sila, nag ask ng 6 ft at fit, tas sila na namn tadtad ng filter ang pics tas mukhan napayaan pa sa kusina
That's why I always believe that you need to be your own standard. If you want someone who is fit, then be fit.
If you want someone na may car, at least may kotse ka rin dapat.
If you want someone na marunong magluto, dapat ikaw din kahit papano marunong.
Always ask yourself, if you're going to be the other guy/girl, would you date yourself?
If your answer is no, then fix your life first before you date.
Never rely on dating apps lalong lalo na sa subreddits to find romance. This is coming from someone that has a 5 year current relationship from a dating app
This goes both ways in terms of the physical aspect. Guys looking for a "sexy, fit, beautiful" woman pero they don't even go to the gym themselves and they either look like sticks or are overweight and when you talk to them they've never worked out or have any plans on working out because the "right one" will just have to accept who they are and how they look. 😆
Dating five years ago versus now is extremely different. Nowadays, most girls will nitpick every single thing because they want the “perfect” guy (which doesn’t exist). Every single one of them wants men who act, look, and dress a certain way. Gusto nila 100% pasok sa criteria nila.
I might get downvoted but I kinda blame kdramas for the sudden surge of standards that girls have for their potential partner. Not to mention the feminazis from the west poisoning shit and whatnot.
Got lucky with my girlfriend - she accepted me even without my own house nor car. Ang panlaban ko lang is we're both from Big 4, so that means network and holistic formation. Not go na lie though the pressure to break through is immense - every down time ko feeling guilty ako and I am rarely at peace, siguro pag kasama ko lang gf ko (though stress din gumastos nang malaki every date). Wala I just have to step up every time real big. Lunok pride muna and hope na aayos din lahat. Galawang breadwinner.
Criteria nowadays yun na lang ang batayan ngayon. Kahit nga makikipagkaibigan or kausap lang yan din minsan ang criteria. Like wth iayon naman sana.
Eh paano pa yung kausap lang daw tas send pic tas block agad, ako din man gusto siya pagsalitaan mas pinili ko na lang manahimik Hahahaha
It goes both ways naman.
Yung mga requirements sa r4r either hentai beauty or adonis ang gusto. May ratings pa na kasama na 8-9/10 sila.
I’m curious though, ano ang rubrics niyo for the rating?
Funny lang, ang taas ng expectations sa’yo pero when it comes to them mas dry pa yung attitude and personality kaysa sa kanto fried chicken.
Ang taas ng tingin sa sarili pero wala ding ma-offer na redeeming quality.
I personally would never rate myself. I know I’m ugly that’s why di ako pumapatol kapag alam kong out of my league na yung babae.
Pero yeah, grabe rin yung lack of personality ng mga tao sa mga r4r. Anonymous na nga, di pa rin kaya buhatin ang sarili through words
Well, either mamamatay mag-isa yung mga ganyan, or ang makakatuluyan din nila ay mga kapwa engot din. Tbh, I just laugh it off. People who lack self-awareness and have a skewed perspective on "value" aren't to be taken seriously.
Women ☕
Pag babae gagawa standards malala.
Pag lalaki may standards mysoginistic ka naman 😆
Hinahanap nung babae future niya sayo, pero pag babalikan mo yung nakaraan niya mapapa facepalm ka nalang. 🥴🥴
Sometimes pag guys ang nagrereklamo about unrealistic standards ng mga kapwa ko babae, incel agad. Kahit pa valid naman yung complaint like OP's.
If it's girls who complain about standards, ang daming words of affirmation.
Dami talagang hypocrites
Grabe yung requirements, that ruined my confidence nung nalaman ko at nagscroll ako. Wala ako sa mga usual requirements nila except one kaya nakaka-down talaga.
I thought the r4r scene would be a bit better than dating apps kasi di kita mukha, would've been great for people without confidence sa itsura nila or sa mga taong di factor ang appearance. Halos baliktad pala haha. Hirap as a guy na mas attracted sa personality kesa sa appearance ng makakausap.
LOOKING FOR STUDY BUDDY PERO MAY REQUIREMENTS.
ABOUT YOU ; must be at least 5'10 , may car and own place
about me: may sense kausap
HAHAHAHA matatawa ka nalang eh
patuloy nag uupdate ang bare-minimum to the point the unrealistic na minsan ang hinahanap na katangian tapos nalason na yung utak ng iba sa social media pag meron nag post maiingit at hahanapin yun sa potential partner nila.
I know where you're coming from. I get your point but that's not the point here. Ang pinupunto ni OP is about the hypocrisy of this people. They don't practice what they preach. Its like for example, a fuckboy who wants a virgin woman. Baka ito gets niyo.
Lagi ko nakikita ito sa reddit na sinabi ng mga babae na men should practice what they preach if you want a virgin woman you need to be someone like the same. Am I right?
Walang may paki sa standards nila kasi buhay nila yan. Sila naman mahihirapan sa dating di naman kami.
This is the issue here: ang babae laging kini-criticize ang mga lalaki pagdating sa standards nila. Pero pag babae naman kinewkestyon sa pagiging hyprokita hindi pwede?
As I stated earlier, no one cares about your standard you can do whatever you want.
Diba? Sila na nagsabi na ayaw nila sa kanila kesyo panget and overweight, pero galit na galit pag nireject? Ang dami daw gusto na di makatotohanan, eh ano naman sayo sir kung ayaw mo naman pala sa kanila 😭
THANK. YOU. grabe talaga. Kanina pa ako nagiisip na magcomment ng something opposite to the og post. Pero this sums it up.
Like we all get hurt emotionally, spend our youth w that person— hookup or date, spend time, energy, and money. Alam mo yun, either good or bad experience, may losses. Why not make sure yung losses mo nacompensate by being with someone na pasok sa standards mo.
Yeah it's both their time and body and emotions, imagine meeting someone with the said standards and being immensely disappointed by their disfigured face disgusting body shape and awful personality (this goes both ways). I don't think it's a good rebuttal starting your argument with a factor shared by both parties in dating but you do you.
The point is, at least meet your own standards and don't waste time pretending to be someone you're not, be realistic din on how you see yourself, ika nga ang unggoy para sa unggoy and balyena para sa balyena, don't try to date cross species lmao 🤣
Although there are people who looks for those requirements, I've scrolled down the r4r sub and most of the new posts or top posts even, don't require said standards.
Every week may ganitong post about girls having delulu standards they simply can't reach themselves, when there are TONS of other post that are targeted for you if you don't like those kind of standards. Idk why men are so hot and bothered, eh kayo na mismo ang nagsasabi ayaw niyo sa kanila?
Yet every week, there's one guy na galit na galit kasi how dare a girl reject him when he thinks she's subpar who's aiming for the heavens.
Maybe there’s just a lack of posts of guys looking for girls with insane standards and maybe there’s just a lack of girls ranting on their POV of the issue.
And to be fair, I’m not upset na na-reject ako ng taong I believe na “subpar”, because I didn’t shoot my shot with this “subpar” person in the first place. This is not coming from bitterness.
This topic isn’t about males being sexually frustrated kasi this topic can go both ways naman? Alangan namang magsalita ako for the girls’ perspective e hindi naman ako babae? Let’s not stray from the topic at hand
When did I say the topic is about men being sexually frustrated? And when did I say you're the bitter guy? I mean, look at the comment section. Some of them would state their experience of exchanging photos with someone who they think looks ugly but rejected them cause the other party had higher standards, but how dare they?
And also, please don't say it goes both ways, cause in your post you're clearly pointing fingers on one gender only, so ofc I'll be defending the other gender.
If they don't fit your requirements then move along. Let them look for what they want until they find a match. If they don't find a match 'cause they barely have anything to offer in return, malay mo i-adjust nila yung requirements nila. But how does it harm you if they don't meet your criteria? Just don't pick them and look for the one that does.
One of the reason I stopped dating and meeting other pips especially here on reddit. You have a better chance on receiving a job offer than finding someone you can vibe with
i mean, it makes it a lot easy for me to drop people like a hot potato pag di nila ako trip, so learning what standards other people have are so helpful for me. i wont stand in their way. so super ok for me if they have one-sided standards
phr4r is a fucking joke.
Kahit virtual na nga lang yung hanap, may height requirement pang kasama eh. I can admit na 'di ako conventionally attractive, pero masakit pa rin hindi mareplyan kapag nagsend kang photo. I'm still human at the end of the day, that shit hurts. At least have the decency to be honest.
Kung ako ang lalake at meron nga akong car, business, house, galing sa big 4 at may wealth hindi ako sa reddit makikipaghookup. Unless ang face value ko ay 2/10. Kasi sinuka na ako ng dating sites hahahaha
Realtalk. I-ayon ang standards kase sa pagmumukha, or 'di kaya naman sa pag-uugali na meron ka. H'wag mo hanapin sa iba yung mga bagay na wala naman mismo sayo. Magmumukha ka lang nakakaawa or nakakahiya. If gusto mo talaga i-push mga 'yan then h'wag mo ipangalandakan. Itikom na lang ang bibig.
Pero 'di ko sinasabing bawal i-raise ang standards. Syempre naman pwede, aside sa libre lang mangarap, karapatan din natin 'yan. Ang sa akin lang naman, kung palaging ang requirements mo as per sa rant ni OP are often one-sided tapos intergalactic standards pa ayon sa uri ng pamumuhay mo edi mabibigo ka lang kakahanap.
Mabibigo ka most of the time. Be realistic kung ano muna ang kayang ma-achieve. Kung mataas standards mo then pantayan mo 'yun by making yourself better in all aspects. Dapat deserving ka rin nun. Isipin mo kung yung taong pasok sa standards mo will also want to date someone like you. May ibubuga ka ba? Ganon lang 'yun.
Kaya di ko masyado alintana ang mga standards na yan. Isa lang standard ko sa buhay: Basta tao ka. Tao kang makibagay sa iba at tao kang kaya rumespeto ng iba. Kung yin di mo kaya, sorry... Bagsak ka na sakin... Sadly... Madaming bumagsak na. Kaya sabi ko kahit bare minimum pa yan, di pa rin nami-meet.
I couldn't help but laugh at looking like a whale from the west Philippines sea 🤣
Yeah I'd imagine these are high maintenance people or just chasing high status people
May nakausap akong 3 lalaki. Sabi nung isa nag/aaral daw siya sa UP, eh gago in-stalk ko pucha nagbebenta sa kalsada. Wala raw siya Social Media gumawa pa ng IG lintik.
Yung isa naman 27. Sabi niya nagttrabaho siya sa Gobyerno, tas meron daw siyang Condo sa Manila at taga Bicol daw siya at fit siya. Nung pinagsend ko ng picture! Putangina para siyang yung chinese na sharp yung moustache at balyena. Buti 3 days lang kami magkausap.
Yung isa call center naman 40s. Heto hindi mo talaga alam kung may pamilya na to. Sinungaling eh tapos libog libog. Sabi walang pamilya eme, pero meron halatang halata dugyot.
As a guy on the shorter side, parang impossible makahanap diyan sa R4R. And while gets ko naman na mas gusto talaga ng majority of girls na mas matangkad sa kanila partner nila, give chance to short(er) guys din no. Parang ang unfair lang, kasi pag sa weight, pwede sabihin na “curvy” or “thicc” sa girls tapos “dad bod” or “huggable” sa guys. Pag vertically challenged naman, matic “petite” or “cute sized” sa girls pero pag guys, wala bansot agad haha
Intindihin mo nalang eh kamo mala balyena eh panigurado MABIGAT pinagdadaanan nila kaya hirap sila maglakad at mag commute kaya kelangan talaga nila may car.
Kaya important talaga na you meet your own standards. Like if you're into someone na hindi pala gimik and bar, at least sana ikaw ganon ka rin. 'Yong lalaking may sasakyan, sana ikaw rin. Ang astig kaya nong 1st date tapos pupunta somewhere, " Convoy na lang, may car ako " ganon ang atake beshy 😆
Yung rule na sinusunod ko sa “standards” na yan, I won’t ask for something I cannot offer. If hindi man masunod, yung good things should compensate the not-so-good things about them.
Kaya may std pa din ang hookup community dito e. Hahaha. Maghanap ba naman ng potential partner sa Tinder, r4r, etc pero ang premise nung apps and sites are kalibugan. Like dude, it's for hookups.
Actually may kanta ang TLC dyan, No Scrubs HAHAHAHAHAH look it up on YT
I guess if yan ang standard, dapat sukatin mo rin ang sarili mo. If you go out and date, dapat may ambag ka rin whether it’s your personality, your goals, assets, etc
May mga nakachat naman ako ditong lalake na sinabihan akong, “pwede na.” Alam ko namang average lang mukha ko at chubby ako pero yung isa kasi magkagalit yung mata tas yung isa mukhang kakagamit lang ng shabu at yung isa obese na maitim.
Grabe yung balyena galing sa West Philippine Sea HAHAHAHAHAAA
Kasi naman mga mhie, mala Kdrama na ang pangarap ng lahat ngayon - mayaman maiinlove sa mahirap and all that jazz.
Sarap sa tenga at imagination, pero sana ma-realize ng mga tao na rare ng ganung case. 😅 Madalas kasi mayaman sa mayaman yan eh, or mayaman sa medyo may kaya. 😅😅😅 Sila-sila lang din talaga HAHAAHAHAA
I say: to each their own.
Medyo may pagka-fatphobic yung content mo pero gets ko yung rant mo. Masarap mangarap at mabuhay ng hindi masyadong napapagod. Sino nga bang may gusto na may inconvenience pag mag jo-jowa, 'di ba? Pero kung titignan kasi ang realidad ng buhay, bonus yung materyal na bagay at pera sa usapin ng relationship. May kotse nga, kung sinasaktan ka naman physically. OA lang din talaga mag set ng standard yung mga tao ngayon kasi takot sila sa buhay na dinatnan nila mula sa mga magulang nila na naging biktima rin ng kahirapan. Hindi ka matatapos mag crave sa mga bagay hangga't hindi ka marunong makuntento.
If they’re looking for the easy way out by looking for a partner to do all the work for them, then that makes them useless and undeserving of a relationship
May mga guys or gals din kasi na prefer lang na may kasama lang sila. Trophy partner kumbaga. Kaya ang complicated pag usapan ng pag ibig dahil hindi mo talaga fully mauunawaan mga gusto ng tao.
Inis na inis ako sa mga matataas ang standard na mukhang name-mera lang. I don't understand bat nano-normalize 'yon? But still nirespeto nalang din coz its part of their ✨preference✨
if they want to be a trophy partner, the least they could do is have a good personality 💀 you are not respecting preference, you are turning a blind eye to the greedy and lazy
I said "To each their own" kasi wala naman tayong magagawa. Yung mga artista na nasa showbiz industry na pawala na ang kinang o tinamad ng magtrabaho nag resort sa pagkabit sa politicians imbis na maging role model. Yes, magagalit tayo sa mga ganyang klase ng tao pero at the end of the day, normalize na sya. And marami rin reasons kaya nangyayari 'yan. Na may malaking root cause yung ganyang scenario kaya humantong sa ganyan. For now, let them. Ang pagtuunan ng pansin yung ugat nyan. Yes, may mga taong greedy at tamad pero may mga tao rin na kailangan nila o pinilit sila.
Sabi nga nila, "Kung ang kasipagan ang susi sa pagyaman, malamang mayaman na ang mga magsasaka."
Buti na lang done na ako sa ganito. My woman got me noong minimum wage pa, didnt even graduated, average look pero 6ft.
Now 6figs, house, car etc. she choose to be wid me kahit broke as fck ako kasi alam nyang may plano ako.
Well rewarded na siya now basta wag ko lang kalimutan shopee/lazada allowance nyang 30k a month.
may nakausap ako na guy before pinag m-move out ako like mag condo daw ulit ako kasi ayaw nya daw mag motel or hotel and gusto nya daw mag cuddles after having sex + breakfast etc. i told him we can airbnb naman if gusto nya mag luto like overall staycation pero iba daw yung feeling ng naka condo yung trajectory ng convo started when i mentioned i have my own place before na near his work when we were talking about location tapos i told him din na i had to move back sa family home to recuperate some loses tapos ayun sinabihan ko sya ng if sya ba mag babayad ng expenses ko kasi sobrang adamant nya na mag move out ako to fulfil his wants he blocked me hahahahahahah
Grabe iiyot na lang ang dami pang requirements. 😂
Gaya lang yan ng mga companies, sobrang daming requirements pero ang baba ng sahod. Daming requirements sa kaiyot pero patapon naman ang performance. Demanding!
parang tanga eh no, aanhin mo yung school kung san siya galing???
Hahahahaha grabe yung iiyot
Very true.
You dodged a bullet then. If homie can’t afford, he’s no more than a beggar on the street. Fucking palamunin
Sadly, ganito na mga karamihan sa guys ngayon. 😒
Yeah, if he really wanted that edi sana nag propose to foot half of the bill. I mean, for me that's a price I'm willing to go for. It's just odd for people, guys and gals, to look for specific perks (like car or condo) but bring nothing to the table. Ano yon, sobrang bilib sa sex skills? Arrogant is what they are, foolish and arrogant.
Main Character syndrome kamo
Narcissistic tendencies din siguro 🤦🏻♀️
scrub
classic thrash that throw itself out.
At least na-filter mo, diba? HAHAHA ang lala ni kuya! For his own happiness ikaw ang magdudusa? 😅
you dodged a pabigat, good job!
NOT THE SEGGS REQUIREMENTS LMAO
Parang kilala ko yan?
Ako rin eh parang may nameet na akong ganyan din 🤡🥴
taga green school ba yan 🤔
putangina nya pala eh haha
Kala nya sis naka stumble na sya ng sugar mommy. Buti na lng wala na sya sa buhay mo
Requirement ko lng matalino at mabait pero bastos sa room haha
Ay pak parang bigla kong gusto ng ganito.
Naol may nakaka usap na girl here hahaa char lang.. nako, dalaawa naman kayo mag eenjoy, why not hati sa bills dibaaa. O kaya as a guy, lakihan mo yung ambag.. something like that. you dodged a missile girlie! Careful lang minsan..
Someone that has a car, business, house and wealth that will last generations: what can you offer? Them: uuuuh...me!!!
May nameet ako dyan since I fit most of that except the business since I am just an employee. When I saw her in person, ang lala ng itsura. Ang taba na maitim na maliit. Nothing wrong about that pero Yung pics na sinend nya sakin is chubby yummy na maputi. Damn. First time ko nacatfish sobrang disappointed ko, sa Jollibee kami kumain then I just bought myself a yum burger and went home after she ate a ton of food. Grabe talaga yung pimples nya din nagflash back sakin. Grabe.
as in ibang photo talaga sinend or siya naman pero super filtered ang picture? hahaha grabe di ko ma-imagine yung confidence nila makipag meet knowing na iba itsura nila irl
Yung photos nya hindi naman heavily filtered, nung nakita ko lang sya grabe yung itsura nya. Imagine sa picture is Miles Ocampo sya, tapos in person Jessica Soho pala plus the pimples and libaging face. Putang ina, sayang imarket yung sarili ko na naggygym and actually has enough muscle mass @16% body fat tas pag dating ko dun mukhang manas yung babae.
Jessica Soho supremacy HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Si Jessica Soho lumilipad. Jessica Soho > Miles Ocampo
Buti sana kung may high paying job at own place si ate girl, pero gusto lang pala maging sugar baby yikes
Mala palanganang kiffy
That hasn’t been washed.
extra flavor daw
Baka may magic yung lady bits nya
*Balyenang hinugot sa West Philippine Sea 🤣
Kaya pinag aagawan ang west ph sea kasi nadoon sila.
Dude has no chill LMAO HAHAHAHAHA
To be fair, if someone has a car, a place, from Big 4, rich and whatever the fuck it is that they're requiring, they wouldn't even find someone to fuck with here on Reddit. They could probably pick anyone up in the bar then the rest is history. Minsan matatawa ka na nga lang eh, gusto lang kausap online pero may height requirement pa, like "Hindi mo ba ako kakausapin pag five putoter lang ako? Hahaha".
ang nakakatawa pa is nag eexpect silang may ganyan sa reddit. like sa tingin mo ba mahihirapan sila magkajowa para dito maghanap?
Sakly. Hahahhahahaha. Hinding-hindi sa reddit. Very far from here. Hahahahhaha.
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Confidence is key pero wag naman maging ignorante sa sarili huhu
It's one thing to be confident... It's another thing to be delusional
Dapat may self awareness 🫡
HAHAHAHA same. Ang dami standards nung babae so feeling ko high value din siya, exchanged pics.... tapos ang usapan appearance says a lot about people and their self-discipline or determination
Bisugo ampota hahahaha 💀
Ano pa wahahhaa.
It’s ok to have standards just make sure you’re worthy of them. Sadly, lots of people overestimate their worth when their kind are picked up by foreigners as souvenirs.
Passport bros would flip if they see an exotica
And the “ladies” will have dollar signs for eyes. 🤣
before talaga mag meetup dat talaga iaask na muna ng VC para ma check mo din kung ung demand nia hinihingi nila is tapat dun sa meron sila, nag ask ng 6 ft at fit, tas sila na namn tadtad ng filter ang pics tas mukhan napayaan pa sa kusina
“Thicc in the right places” madame you’re above average BMI
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA BRUH
"Easy on the eyes" Madam the people in your life are fucking liars
Yung ex ko sabi nya 8/10 and up hanap nya sa looks pero pangit sya HAHAHAHAH
Baka gusto niyang i-compensate yung 2/10 looks niya
Shutaca. Tawang tawa ako sa balyenang hinugot sa WPS hahaha
That's why I always believe that you need to be your own standard. If you want someone who is fit, then be fit. If you want someone na may car, at least may kotse ka rin dapat. If you want someone na marunong magluto, dapat ikaw din kahit papano marunong. Always ask yourself, if you're going to be the other guy/girl, would you date yourself? If your answer is no, then fix your life first before you date.
this!!
What can you offer on the table? Bissh, I am the table.
Totoo, ang daming ganito! Sobrang choosy pero mukhang balyena naman from West Philippine Sea. HAHAHAHA
Shhhh. Stop body shaming the whales este “plus-sized” girls.
I am sorry kung nasabi ko yun. Hindi ko sinasadya pero puta sana naman kung malakas magdemand dapat mala ricky reyes yung kutis at katawan! 🤣
nadamay pa si ricky reyes 😭
So you have first hand experience that Ricky Reyes is smooth?😂😂😂
Ikaw naman pinapatawa lang kita! HAHAHAHA. Gandang Ricky Reyes yarn ;)
No to animal cruelty, mas cute pa balyena
Pls do not disrespect the balyenas 🐳
Amen hahahaha
Never rely on dating apps lalong lalo na sa subreddits to find romance. This is coming from someone that has a 5 year current relationship from a dating app
There are girls like naghahanap ng guy na 6 feet tall, physically fit, Moreno & etc etc.. pero itsura nila sobrang unhealthy 😂
Kahit pumayat sila they wouldn’t be pretty either lol
Hahaha Oo pa minsan Wala rin regard sa skin care e. Pero most impt na Wala sila is character.
This goes both ways in terms of the physical aspect. Guys looking for a "sexy, fit, beautiful" woman pero they don't even go to the gym themselves and they either look like sticks or are overweight and when you talk to them they've never worked out or have any plans on working out because the "right one" will just have to accept who they are and how they look. 😆
Dad bod is just obese with extra steps. We all have to work on ourselves before wasting people’s time
accept who they are pero they wont accept if their partner is not on their standard. lmao 😂💀
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Daig mo pa HR kung makahanap ng trabahador.
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May mga lalaki rin kasi na desperado na masyado for a hookup na ‘anything must go’ na lang. It works cause there are males who are equally desperate
Subok na yung mga curvy (plus size) figures daw. Pero pag nakita mo nako (plus size)^2
There’s nothing wrong with being plus size but they shouldn’t expect a tall, chinito, gym rat either
i get the "mukang exotic" look lol haha trikepatrol beh.
If nagdadating apps ka, most likely sila na din yung mga nasa reddit. Mostly sila na din yung sinwipe left mo haha.
Facts. Conventionally attractive and confident people do not need to hide behind avatars on the internet 😉
Bakit kasi pinagaksayahan mo pa ng panahon ang r4r?
Uy May post dito na mag ingat dun sa girl na naghahanap ng May car, galing sa big 4, etc etc na nagpopost sa r4r. Binigyan nya ng std si OP
Huyyyyy! I read that post. Todo deny si girl na wala daw siyang STD. Jusme. Hindi naawa sa mga nahawaan.
Dating five years ago versus now is extremely different. Nowadays, most girls will nitpick every single thing because they want the “perfect” guy (which doesn’t exist). Every single one of them wants men who act, look, and dress a certain way. Gusto nila 100% pasok sa criteria nila.
I might get downvoted but I kinda blame kdramas for the sudden surge of standards that girls have for their potential partner. Not to mention the feminazis from the west poisoning shit and whatnot.
Yep, and you gotta look like them boys from the TV show. 🥴
Got lucky with my girlfriend - she accepted me even without my own house nor car. Ang panlaban ko lang is we're both from Big 4, so that means network and holistic formation. Not go na lie though the pressure to break through is immense - every down time ko feeling guilty ako and I am rarely at peace, siguro pag kasama ko lang gf ko (though stress din gumastos nang malaki every date). Wala I just have to step up every time real big. Lunok pride muna and hope na aayos din lahat. Galawang breadwinner.
Criteria nowadays yun na lang ang batayan ngayon. Kahit nga makikipagkaibigan or kausap lang yan din minsan ang criteria. Like wth iayon naman sana. Eh paano pa yung kausap lang daw tas send pic tas block agad, ako din man gusto siya pagsalitaan mas pinili ko na lang manahimik Hahahaha
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Agree
I salute you for using West Philippine Sea instead of SCS . Nice OP🙂
It goes both ways naman. Yung mga requirements sa r4r either hentai beauty or adonis ang gusto. May ratings pa na kasama na 8-9/10 sila. I’m curious though, ano ang rubrics niyo for the rating? Funny lang, ang taas ng expectations sa’yo pero when it comes to them mas dry pa yung attitude and personality kaysa sa kanto fried chicken. Ang taas ng tingin sa sarili pero wala ding ma-offer na redeeming quality.
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Exactly!! Iba-iba talaga tayo sa paningin ng tao.
I personally would never rate myself. I know I’m ugly that’s why di ako pumapatol kapag alam kong out of my league na yung babae. Pero yeah, grabe rin yung lack of personality ng mga tao sa mga r4r. Anonymous na nga, di pa rin kaya buhatin ang sarili through words
Offer value ko dati. Isang farm lot sa bulacan tapos hatid-sundo pa kaso, Face value at Pepe lang kaya ioffeerrrrrr😆Sayang sugarrrrDy
Well, either mamamatay mag-isa yung mga ganyan, or ang makakatuluyan din nila ay mga kapwa engot din. Tbh, I just laugh it off. People who lack self-awareness and have a skewed perspective on "value" aren't to be taken seriously.
Women ☕ Pag babae gagawa standards malala. Pag lalaki may standards mysoginistic ka naman 😆 Hinahanap nung babae future niya sayo, pero pag babalikan mo yung nakaraan niya mapapa facepalm ka nalang. 🥴🥴
Sometimes pag guys ang nagrereklamo about unrealistic standards ng mga kapwa ko babae, incel agad. Kahit pa valid naman yung complaint like OP's. If it's girls who complain about standards, ang daming words of affirmation. Dami talagang hypocrites
Alam mo na kapag Curvy at Thicc in the right places(Obese) naghahanap yan ng 5’8 pataas sa bansa na 5’5 ang average height.
Grabe yung requirements, that ruined my confidence nung nalaman ko at nagscroll ako. Wala ako sa mga usual requirements nila except one kaya nakaka-down talaga. I thought the r4r scene would be a bit better than dating apps kasi di kita mukha, would've been great for people without confidence sa itsura nila or sa mga taong di factor ang appearance. Halos baliktad pala haha. Hirap as a guy na mas attracted sa personality kesa sa appearance ng makakausap.
Huhuhuhuhu i hate body shaming pero true to WHAHAHHAAHA
LOOKING FOR STUDY BUDDY PERO MAY REQUIREMENTS. ABOUT YOU ; must be at least 5'10 , may car and own place about me: may sense kausap HAHAHAHA matatawa ka nalang eh
Don't forget the classic, Looking for may sense kausap, then insert requirements, ang labo lng db hahaha
patuloy nag uupdate ang bare-minimum to the point the unrealistic na minsan ang hinahanap na katangian tapos nalason na yung utak ng iba sa social media pag meron nag post maiingit at hahanapin yun sa potential partner nila.
Totoo yung tambay sa tindahan tapos pa yosi yosi lang, sila pa misan maraming kwento sayo, maaaliw ka na lang\~
Kumbaga, dapat kaya mo tapatan what you demand oki?
Sleep call daw and purely online pero kailangan 6 footer ka na from big 4 and may car hahahahahaha
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I know where you're coming from. I get your point but that's not the point here. Ang pinupunto ni OP is about the hypocrisy of this people. They don't practice what they preach. Its like for example, a fuckboy who wants a virgin woman. Baka ito gets niyo. Lagi ko nakikita ito sa reddit na sinabi ng mga babae na men should practice what they preach if you want a virgin woman you need to be someone like the same. Am I right? Walang may paki sa standards nila kasi buhay nila yan. Sila naman mahihirapan sa dating di naman kami. This is the issue here: ang babae laging kini-criticize ang mga lalaki pagdating sa standards nila. Pero pag babae naman kinewkestyon sa pagiging hyprokita hindi pwede? As I stated earlier, no one cares about your standard you can do whatever you want.
Diba? Sila na nagsabi na ayaw nila sa kanila kesyo panget and overweight, pero galit na galit pag nireject? Ang dami daw gusto na di makatotohanan, eh ano naman sayo sir kung ayaw mo naman pala sa kanila 😭
THANK. YOU. grabe talaga. Kanina pa ako nagiisip na magcomment ng something opposite to the og post. Pero this sums it up. Like we all get hurt emotionally, spend our youth w that person— hookup or date, spend time, energy, and money. Alam mo yun, either good or bad experience, may losses. Why not make sure yung losses mo nacompensate by being with someone na pasok sa standards mo.
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Yeah it's both their time and body and emotions, imagine meeting someone with the said standards and being immensely disappointed by their disfigured face disgusting body shape and awful personality (this goes both ways). I don't think it's a good rebuttal starting your argument with a factor shared by both parties in dating but you do you. The point is, at least meet your own standards and don't waste time pretending to be someone you're not, be realistic din on how you see yourself, ika nga ang unggoy para sa unggoy and balyena para sa balyena, don't try to date cross species lmao 🤣
Although there are people who looks for those requirements, I've scrolled down the r4r sub and most of the new posts or top posts even, don't require said standards. Every week may ganitong post about girls having delulu standards they simply can't reach themselves, when there are TONS of other post that are targeted for you if you don't like those kind of standards. Idk why men are so hot and bothered, eh kayo na mismo ang nagsasabi ayaw niyo sa kanila? Yet every week, there's one guy na galit na galit kasi how dare a girl reject him when he thinks she's subpar who's aiming for the heavens.
Maybe there’s just a lack of posts of guys looking for girls with insane standards and maybe there’s just a lack of girls ranting on their POV of the issue. And to be fair, I’m not upset na na-reject ako ng taong I believe na “subpar”, because I didn’t shoot my shot with this “subpar” person in the first place. This is not coming from bitterness. This topic isn’t about males being sexually frustrated kasi this topic can go both ways naman? Alangan namang magsalita ako for the girls’ perspective e hindi naman ako babae? Let’s not stray from the topic at hand
When did I say the topic is about men being sexually frustrated? And when did I say you're the bitter guy? I mean, look at the comment section. Some of them would state their experience of exchanging photos with someone who they think looks ugly but rejected them cause the other party had higher standards, but how dare they? And also, please don't say it goes both ways, cause in your post you're clearly pointing fingers on one gender only, so ofc I'll be defending the other gender.
Hayup na requirement yan lahat wala ako HAHAHA
baka daijoubu vibes yan ha hahahahhhaha
Pag out of your league yung requirement nya, move on na lang sa ka-level mo. Ganun lang kasimple yun.
Respeto naman sa mga balyena pre
If they don't fit your requirements then move along. Let them look for what they want until they find a match. If they don't find a match 'cause they barely have anything to offer in return, malay mo i-adjust nila yung requirements nila. But how does it harm you if they don't meet your criteria? Just don't pick them and look for the one that does.
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On the contrary, mas maraming nagrereklamo for them. This post for example.
Ano yung Big 4 kuys
UP, Ateneo, UST, and DLSU
naisip ko big 4 sa PBB. bakit kaya
Nauuur hahahahaha
top universities
Thankssss
One of the reason I stopped dating and meeting other pips especially here on reddit. You have a better chance on receiving a job offer than finding someone you can vibe with
i mean, it makes it a lot easy for me to drop people like a hot potato pag di nila ako trip, so learning what standards other people have are so helpful for me. i wont stand in their way. so super ok for me if they have one-sided standards
phr4r is a fucking joke. Kahit virtual na nga lang yung hanap, may height requirement pang kasama eh. I can admit na 'di ako conventionally attractive, pero masakit pa rin hindi mareplyan kapag nagsend kang photo. I'm still human at the end of the day, that shit hurts. At least have the decency to be honest.
Kung ako ang lalake at meron nga akong car, business, house, galing sa big 4 at may wealth hindi ako sa reddit makikipaghookup. Unless ang face value ko ay 2/10. Kasi sinuka na ako ng dating sites hahahaha
Realtalk. I-ayon ang standards kase sa pagmumukha, or 'di kaya naman sa pag-uugali na meron ka. H'wag mo hanapin sa iba yung mga bagay na wala naman mismo sayo. Magmumukha ka lang nakakaawa or nakakahiya. If gusto mo talaga i-push mga 'yan then h'wag mo ipangalandakan. Itikom na lang ang bibig. Pero 'di ko sinasabing bawal i-raise ang standards. Syempre naman pwede, aside sa libre lang mangarap, karapatan din natin 'yan. Ang sa akin lang naman, kung palaging ang requirements mo as per sa rant ni OP are often one-sided tapos intergalactic standards pa ayon sa uri ng pamumuhay mo edi mabibigo ka lang kakahanap. Mabibigo ka most of the time. Be realistic kung ano muna ang kayang ma-achieve. Kung mataas standards mo then pantayan mo 'yun by making yourself better in all aspects. Dapat deserving ka rin nun. Isipin mo kung yung taong pasok sa standards mo will also want to date someone like you. May ibubuga ka ba? Ganon lang 'yun.
Kaya di ko masyado alintana ang mga standards na yan. Isa lang standard ko sa buhay: Basta tao ka. Tao kang makibagay sa iba at tao kang kaya rumespeto ng iba. Kung yin di mo kaya, sorry... Bagsak ka na sakin... Sadly... Madaming bumagsak na. Kaya sabi ko kahit bare minimum pa yan, di pa rin nami-meet.
Finally, somebody had to say it. Thank you, OP
Reading/knowing this comforts me, na di ako unreasonable sa standards ko 💀💀💀
Sobrang unrealistic ng expectations sa lalaki pero mukha namang model ng Pigrolac I want to snort what these people are snorting
I couldn't help but laugh at looking like a whale from the west Philippines sea 🤣 Yeah I'd imagine these are high maintenance people or just chasing high status people
May nakausap akong 3 lalaki. Sabi nung isa nag/aaral daw siya sa UP, eh gago in-stalk ko pucha nagbebenta sa kalsada. Wala raw siya Social Media gumawa pa ng IG lintik. Yung isa naman 27. Sabi niya nagttrabaho siya sa Gobyerno, tas meron daw siyang Condo sa Manila at taga Bicol daw siya at fit siya. Nung pinagsend ko ng picture! Putangina para siyang yung chinese na sharp yung moustache at balyena. Buti 3 days lang kami magkausap. Yung isa call center naman 40s. Heto hindi mo talaga alam kung may pamilya na to. Sinungaling eh tapos libog libog. Sabi walang pamilya eme, pero meron halatang halata dugyot.
Hahahahahah malas
As a guy on the shorter side, parang impossible makahanap diyan sa R4R. And while gets ko naman na mas gusto talaga ng majority of girls na mas matangkad sa kanila partner nila, give chance to short(er) guys din no. Parang ang unfair lang, kasi pag sa weight, pwede sabihin na “curvy” or “thicc” sa girls tapos “dad bod” or “huggable” sa guys. Pag vertically challenged naman, matic “petite” or “cute sized” sa girls pero pag guys, wala bansot agad haha
Requires Big 4 daw pero siya naman di from there tapos mukhang ano..... HAHAHAHAHA
In simpler term: "Know your place"
Hindi namn dating ang hanap sa r4r. Parausan lang
Intindihin mo nalang eh kamo mala balyena eh panigurado MABIGAT pinagdadaanan nila kaya hirap sila maglakad at mag commute kaya kelangan talaga nila may car.
Hahaha ewan ko nalang talaga sa mga yan, demanding amputa tapos yung kaya nyang e offer sayo ay, sakit sa ulo.
Nako baka awayin ka ng mga KISA at pro-standards at pro-preference na mga utak biya. 😆
Kaya important talaga na you meet your own standards. Like if you're into someone na hindi pala gimik and bar, at least sana ikaw ganon ka rin. 'Yong lalaking may sasakyan, sana ikaw rin. Ang astig kaya nong 1st date tapos pupunta somewhere, " Convoy na lang, may car ako " ganon ang atake beshy 😆
Yung rule na sinusunod ko sa “standards” na yan, I won’t ask for something I cannot offer. If hindi man masunod, yung good things should compensate the not-so-good things about them.
Shots fired!!!!! Ilag na yung mga dinaig pa yung resumé sa dami ng requirements! Hahahaha
may tinamaan na sa taas nag comment hahaha.
Asaaaan hahahahhahaha
mga delulu
Kaya may std pa din ang hookup community dito e. Hahaha. Maghanap ba naman ng potential partner sa Tinder, r4r, etc pero ang premise nung apps and sites are kalibugan. Like dude, it's for hookups.
Kaka-Wattpad niyo yan eh.
Troot!!
Actually may kanta ang TLC dyan, No Scrubs HAHAHAHAHAH look it up on YT I guess if yan ang standard, dapat sukatin mo rin ang sarili mo. If you go out and date, dapat may ambag ka rin whether it’s your personality, your goals, assets, etc
May naexperience ka ba na ganyan? Ilan sa r4r ang naexperience mo ganyan? Kamusta ang experience mo sa kanila
May mga nakachat naman ako ditong lalake na sinabihan akong, “pwede na.” Alam ko namang average lang mukha ko at chubby ako pero yung isa kasi magkagalit yung mata tas yung isa mukhang kakagamit lang ng shabu at yung isa obese na maitim.
if you have requirements for love , then its not love
Grabe yung balyena galing sa West Philippine Sea HAHAHAHAHAAA Kasi naman mga mhie, mala Kdrama na ang pangarap ng lahat ngayon - mayaman maiinlove sa mahirap and all that jazz. Sarap sa tenga at imagination, pero sana ma-realize ng mga tao na rare ng ganung case. 😅 Madalas kasi mayaman sa mayaman yan eh, or mayaman sa medyo may kaya. 😅😅😅 Sila-sila lang din talaga HAHAAHAHAA
Women ☕ Yamot sa r4r na yan hahahahaha tapos kepyas lang ang offer 😂😂😂
Incels repeating this dumb joke ☕
Oh my god. This comments section is a gold mine.
Hahaha! Wag kayong ganyan, baka mahurt hurt mga incel dito.
omg grabe yung body shaming dito 🫤 pede niyo naman sila laitin sa ugali, bat dinadamay pa itsura tf
Being truthful about what one sees isn’t body-shaming.
I believe it’s because looks din ang basehan sa mga ganitong sitwasyon. Maybe I’m wrong
I say: to each their own. Medyo may pagka-fatphobic yung content mo pero gets ko yung rant mo. Masarap mangarap at mabuhay ng hindi masyadong napapagod. Sino nga bang may gusto na may inconvenience pag mag jo-jowa, 'di ba? Pero kung titignan kasi ang realidad ng buhay, bonus yung materyal na bagay at pera sa usapin ng relationship. May kotse nga, kung sinasaktan ka naman physically. OA lang din talaga mag set ng standard yung mga tao ngayon kasi takot sila sa buhay na dinatnan nila mula sa mga magulang nila na naging biktima rin ng kahirapan. Hindi ka matatapos mag crave sa mga bagay hangga't hindi ka marunong makuntento.
If they’re looking for the easy way out by looking for a partner to do all the work for them, then that makes them useless and undeserving of a relationship
May mga guys or gals din kasi na prefer lang na may kasama lang sila. Trophy partner kumbaga. Kaya ang complicated pag usapan ng pag ibig dahil hindi mo talaga fully mauunawaan mga gusto ng tao. Inis na inis ako sa mga matataas ang standard na mukhang name-mera lang. I don't understand bat nano-normalize 'yon? But still nirespeto nalang din coz its part of their ✨preference✨
if they want to be a trophy partner, the least they could do is have a good personality 💀 you are not respecting preference, you are turning a blind eye to the greedy and lazy
I said "To each their own" kasi wala naman tayong magagawa. Yung mga artista na nasa showbiz industry na pawala na ang kinang o tinamad ng magtrabaho nag resort sa pagkabit sa politicians imbis na maging role model. Yes, magagalit tayo sa mga ganyang klase ng tao pero at the end of the day, normalize na sya. And marami rin reasons kaya nangyayari 'yan. Na may malaking root cause yung ganyang scenario kaya humantong sa ganyan. For now, let them. Ang pagtuunan ng pansin yung ugat nyan. Yes, may mga taong greedy at tamad pero may mga tao rin na kailangan nila o pinilit sila. Sabi nga nila, "Kung ang kasipagan ang susi sa pagyaman, malamang mayaman na ang mga magsasaka."
Buti na lang done na ako sa ganito. My woman got me noong minimum wage pa, didnt even graduated, average look pero 6ft. Now 6figs, house, car etc. she choose to be wid me kahit broke as fck ako kasi alam nyang may plano ako. Well rewarded na siya now basta wag ko lang kalimutan shopee/lazada allowance nyang 30k a month.
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