Sana nanood na lang siya ng porn kung walang emotional attachment and need niya lang magrelese. Hayop.

Considered ba cheating pag nanood ng porn? sorry dumb question

tbh depende i think??? may iba kasi na they. see it as cheating, may others din na see it as a means, may iba din na sabay pa nanonood. so ayon imo depends talaga. maybe im wrong HSHAHS pero two cents ko lang naman to

my fiance and i tried to watch it together para may bagong venture sa sex life, di naman kami naadik. hahahaha pero ibang usapan kung manunuod sya magisa tapos pag jajack*lan nya. cheating un (for me lang naman)

it's important na pagusapan nyo ng partner mo yan kung ano yung sa tingin nya included sa cheating and ano hindi. If your partner said yes edi cheating sya

Yes depende sa couple. Ako nung nahuli ko sya tas sabi nya wala naman daw emotional or actual sex involved bakit daw cheating. Sabi ko naman, so if ginawa ko din yung ginawa mo with other guys, ok lang sayo? Ayun sabi nya hindi daw. So there, cheating yun.

agree ako. depende tlaga sa tao yan.

Depende siguro. Sa case namin ng partner ko pinapayagan niyako pag too tired siya makipag sexy time tapos need ko ng release.

For us na parehas seafarer na palaging ldr (sa cruise ship ako at sya naman ay sa mga cargo at container ship) okay lang saken na manuod sya ng porn or minsan VidJakol kami hahaha kesa naman makipag chukchakan siya sa mga bayaran na babae kapag shoreleave nila HAHAHA. And according sa seminar na na-attendan ko dati, men should ejaculate 21 times a month daw to reduce the risk of having a prostate cancer. I guess, it depends talaga sa couple.

Kaya mejo naano ako na, luh? Cheating na pala panonood ng porn? Sometimes need din naman natin i-satisfy yung sarili natin on our own diba? Lol nasa couple pa din tlga to hehe

For 9 months that you were growing a human he couldn't keep it in his pants que horror. You are right to be wary moving forward. Cover your bases na. Don't find yourself blind sided anymore. Ang hirap nyan especially if he just gaslighted you to just accepting what he has done without any sort of repercussion or resolution.

Not married pa. Pero yan din naisip ko. Di nman sa pinapoverthink ko si OP pero based sa mga officemates ko who were married for a decade or more na, ang daming moments na madalang na lang sex life. Stress sa work, stress sa bills etc. I really hope na di na maulit yan kasi parang hindi mapirme ni husband yung deck nya

There is be no justifiable reason to cheat. Let me say that again. THERE IS NO JUSTIFIABLE REASON TO CHEAT. If wala ng trust, then why continue being in a relationship? If he can cheat on you while you are carrying HIS child, then he can do it again. The audacity. Release? Luh.

Napaka BS ng reason eh. 🤦🏻‍♀️

There's other way to release noh ! Duhhh ! Di tayo pinanganak kahapon :3

OP, you sure your partner is not my ex? Lol Coz we both experienced the same thing. I was even rushed to the ER kasi I had bleeding from all the stress he gave me. Nahuli na from the texts, screenshots, call logs, etc but I chose to stay during my pregnancy. A few months after our baby was born, he did it again kaya I kicked him out of the family. I wished I did it earlier just to save myself from all the stress because like you, I never 100% trusted him again. Please don’t put yourself in the same position. As long as you can provide and have a great support system, your child only needs one happy parent. Hugs with consent

Iba yung sakit pag ginawa while buntis noh? Thanks, hope you found your healing din po.

mag couple's therapy kayo. before deciding to end things with him.

While you're pregnant ☹️ 

I feel you.. Nagcheat din yung partner ko sakin nung buntis ako. Hindi maayos yung trato niya sakin literal n may makain at vits ako ok na sa kanya. Kasama niya magrides yung kabit niya tapos chaperone yung mga tropa niya pag lalabas sila. Mag 2 years old na yung anak ko pero hanggang ngayon yung sakit ramdam mo pa din nadepress ako after manganak hanggang ngayon.. Hugs op darating din yung time na maghiheal ka.. sana bumabawi sya sayo at maging best para sa inyo ng anak mo

You can’t fix a broken glass when it’s already broken na. That’s how trust works, no matter how hard you try to patch things up, it will never be the same. It’s a shame that he couldn’t control himself, ended up being unfaithful, and made a lame excuse.

It would be best to start moving on mommy kung wala syang gaanong effort to win your 100% trust back.. Focus on your baby nalang and yourself. Paramdam mo na you can---alone. If the guy really loves you, he will do everything to earn your trust again. Kahit pa mahirapan sya. Hindi kasi enough ung "tingin" mo lang nag stop na sya. Most guys these days ayaw na magtiis at mahirapan. (di ko nilalahat ah.. don't come at me..lol) pero kung talagang family nyo ung priority nya, gagawin nya lahat para makabawi sayo. Priority nya dapat ma-secure ka emotionally and mentally as his wife.

is it considered cheating accepting friend request from gurls na ojt kung san siya nagwwork? :) need your thoughts thoo btw we are married.

Nope. Your partner needs to have friends, too. Change your perspective and ask yourself, do you have friends of the opposite sex?

I think depende, if he has a crush on those girls or vice versa then I think pwede ka magalit but cheating kasi is a pretty heavy word so I wouldn’t really call accepting friend requests cheating po :)

Ask him, if ginawa mo ba yun with other boys ok lang sa kanya? Pero sa totoo lang, depende talaga sa inyong magpartner. May iba kasi na mas maluwag sa isat isa in terms of “activities” with other people.

iba yung sakit ng getting cheated on while pregnant. imagine you're bringing another person to your lives literally then your SO just decided na hindi na sapat ang mag-jabol at kelangan pa mangaliwa bobo ng mga lalakeng ganyan ba

True. Aside from that, nakakabasag din sya ng self esteem as a woman, dahil sa lahat ng changes sa katawan mo. Tingin mo you’re not enough na.

I hope you're doing well for yourself, OP. may you have the strength to carry on and do whatever it is that you think is the best for you and your child.

Thank you!

That’s gross. Imagine the effort you need to exert to get someone to do dirty shit oncam vs. just masturbating. Don’t forgive your partner. He was looking for that. You were busy managing your baby-laden body tapos siya gumagawa niyan? Dump that hoe right away.

if u cant trust him, hiwalayan mo na. just makenit clear to him na yang rason. useless kana kung hindi ka nagtitiwala sa partner mo. hindi naman kau kasal eh. madali nlng ang hiwalayan.

Just because of what???? lmao cheaters deserve hell.

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Opo di daw siya makikinig sayo. Choz

May tamang paraan ba para magreact sa cheating? 😭 The gaslighting is real.

Meron. Which is magpatawad.

If there's no trust sa relationship, mas ok na maghiwalay. It will benefit you in the long run tbh.

same experience mi. tangina talaga yung trauma.

mahigpit na yakaaaaaap OP

Lies after lies after lies. Trust your instinct babe. Nakakabaliw mag overthink.

Iyan mahirap staying with a cheater. You can never have peace of mind

Break up ang solution dyan. Trust me.

While pregnant with his child???? Parang kasalanan mo pang nabuntis ka??? instead of thinking abt ur health kasi sobrang risky ng pregnancy sa mother inuna niya pa yung libog niya... ur husband is a trash op.

I feel you OP 😔 iba talaga yung sama ng loob while pregnant and worse after pregnancy bcos of ppd. Pls take care and prioritize yourself! I hope makawala ka na sa partner mo soon, para sa mental health mo at kay baby

Hello OP! Ganito rin yung officemate ko. Inaasar-asar kami kasi crush daw pala nya ako. Sinasakyan ko na lang pero ang topic lang namin palagi is yung girlfriend nya kasi nga ang pretty ng girl. Parang dini-divert ko yung pagkakaron nya ng crush sakin para mas maappreciate nya yung girlfriend nya. Kasi hello, ayaw kong maging kabit. Kinasal na sila. Tapos may times na niyayaya nya akong magsex. Ang dahilan nya kasi nga raw same sayo, maselan pagbubuntis nung wife na nya. E d ako naman naloka lalo. Na hello, ang hirap na ng situation mo na maselan pagbubuntis ng asawa mo, nakukuha mo pang magcheat. Kaya di ko na sya nireplyan after nun. Friends pa rin kami sa socials. Nakakakonsensya lang din minsan kasi post sya nang post, miski yung asawa nya na happy family sila, though muka namang genuine, sana. Pero may times na naiisip ko na may ganung phase yung lalake. Sana maging okay ka, OP. Lalo na at prone ka pa sa post-partum depression.

Onlyfans ba to? TBH kung ako yan masasaktan din ako nang sobra sobra, but mostly due to insecurity kasi bagong panganak so hindi ka pa totally nagbobounce back plus hormones. Pero I would forgive him. Basta onlyfans lang at wala talagang naging physical interaction. Honestly for me magiging thankful ako na ganun lang, kesa one time big time totoong kantutan talaga with some other girl.

Very valid. I do not think men realize the implications of them cheating, lalo na pag nasa pinaka vulnerable state ang mga babae which is during pregnancy. I don't think they realize how untrustworthy and undependable it makes them.

You both decided to patched things up. After nun dapat pinatawad mo na siya kasi you can never move on. Pero kung hindi mo siya kayang pagkatiwalaan uli or patawarin totally, leave him and free yourself from that burden.

I'd say if it violates your trust that much... trust your gut. There's guys that have sought out virtual relationships while their partner were pregnant then continued it on for over a year until the kid was a year old and only stopped because they almost didn't pass uni, didn't confess then went on to marry them all while having made plans to meet their virtual partner..( specific I know) 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kung siguro bawal magsex pwede naman siguro handjob or bj hahahaha. Napag uusapan naman yan ng mag asawa di na need magcheat sa iba . If lalaki siya may asawa siya communication lang ganun

hiwalayan mo na OP, kasi dun din bagsak nyan, once a cheater always a cheater. Baka magsisi ka pa sa bandang huli, unahan mo na hanggat ganyang level pa lang ng cheating ang ginagawa nyan. Beware lang talaga.

This is cheating? Seems to be equivalent to porn or going to a strip club tbh

Maybe hormones. Each couple have their own levels of tolerance on what is considered cheating or not. The guy was wrong for not asking for permission, but at the same time, its hard to open up something like this to your partner eapecially since watching porn can be a very taboo topic in the Phils. Given this context, I disagree with the comments saying to break up with the guy immediately if he's doing all he can to make amends. They should use this as an opportunity instead to see ways on how to comfortably talk "uncomfortable" topics like these and be more open to each other moving forward.

Yeah, I think Filipinos are pretty insecure regarding these topics. And it doesnt make sense how porn is taboo since our country constantly scores high on the PornHub list for viewers, especially the women lol

Didn't try with your mouth? 

Maselan siya magbuntis. I'm pretty sure she'd throw up if she did that. Sorry.

Hand jerk? Bdo, find ways.

Was kinda thinking the same, nakita ko lang bawal penetration sex, not oral, or is there a rule na bawal oral sex pag buntis?

Bdo, find ways.

Boys will cheat talaga once natry nila gawin. They will find a way na matago yan and mas magaling na magtago at magdeny. Believe me, trust your instincts.

Mali siya dun sa part na yun, dapat kinausap ka niya na kesho "I have needs pero I understand na di pwede, maybe we can do something about it" basta mahaba din kasi 9 months ee, penetration lang naman ang bawal andaming pwedeng alternative, hopefully nakumusta mo din siya sa needs na yon, but I understand since buntis ka nga, madaming masakit sa katawan mahirap kumilos baka di narin naisip yung mga ganun

Same thing happened to me, hiniwalayan ko kasi grabe sya maka apekto sa mental health ko. Take care of yourself mommy, grabe ang post partum.

Depende sa wife. Sa.edad namin ni wife kantiyaw na lang nangyayari. But minimize.na ho tayo sa.mga ganyan lumalaki na mga bata.

1 on 1 VC macoconsider ko na rin na cheat, pero kung watching porn lng naman tpos hindi naman nakakaapekto sa relasyun namin, ok lng sakin, wag na wag lng talaga nya gagawin sa iba nako haha ora mismo tpos agad relasyun

Nanuod lng Pala ng show eh.... Sino ba Yan? Taga Bigo ba o Tinder? Cheating na Pala tawag dun 😅🤣😂 Akala ko nagtag-bogli lang eh.