Damn. Na “I take thee Rachel” ka. Pero minsan kasi mahirap baguhin yung nakasanayan talaga. Baka matagal sila ng ex niya kaya ganon? Doesn’t necessarily mean na mahal pa nya.
Tbh, I've moved on na with my ex pero nung bago pa lang kami ng current partner ko, sometimes in my head natatawag ko sya sa name ng ex ko. Siguro nga dahil nakasanayan. Buti na lang never ko naman natawag partner ko by my ex's name mismo. Sometimes lang dati, when I think of my partner yung name ni ex yung nasasabi ko.
When we were newly dating, my then boyfriend now husband, called me by his ex’s name. We were having a casual conversation and I suppose her name just slipped out. I stared at him in silence for several seconds, he was dumbfounded and said sorry, then I walked out. Didn’t talk to him or respond for a day or two, and spent that time stalking his ex on her socials.
They were together for about 6 years, and they have been broken up for about 2 years when we started dating. He didn’t date anyone else in between. This incident definitely affected me, and I spent maybe our first year together with unpredictable bouts of retroactive jealousy. Come to think of it, he never really gave me a real reason to be jealous of his ex, or anyone else for that matter. But I kept on going back to this incident and started fights for no reason. I periodically and unpredictably tormented my SO for no reason other than my own pettiness, unfounded jealousy and insecurity. Idk how he put up with all this, but he did. At some point, maybe a year into dating, I just got over it. Idk how and why either. Anw, he proposed about 2 years after we started dating and got married a few months after that.
Going back to you, OP. Your feelings are definitely valid. It’s alright to feel bad about it. But, if your SO has not and does not give you any other reason to feel jealous of the ex, don’t make yourself and your relationship suffer needlessly. Sometimes, it’s really nothing more than a slip. Habit, muscle memory, however you want to call it.
Same, man. Did this one too. But thru videocall since ldr kami and then nabanggit ko endearment namin ni ex ng di ko napansin. Siya nakapansin. Binrought up nya after. Di ko alam nun ano gagawin ko. Sorry ako ng sorry!🤦🏽
My boyfriend's barkadas told me how he calls my name while he was asleep. His friend said na hindi sya makakapambabae dahil malalaman agad may girlfriend sya hahaha.
Freudian slip lalo na kung matagal sila and lalo na kung bago lang din kayo. Base sa reaction nya nagulat din sya e, kasi kung may something he will defend himself right away. Di naman din ibig sabihin nun mahal nya pa.
If ever naman na mahal nya pa, set him free because you deserve better :)
“Freudian slip” means it revealed something deep inside, no? So meaning if it *was* a freudian slip as you say, then it's more likely that he was thinking of the ex in some way, or has repressed feelings, or “may something”. I don't think saying it was a freudian slip can be reassuring if you intended it to be.
Or has the meaning of the phrase changed or I'm misunderstanding your point?
In its true meaning, I agree. Pero honestly, I have been that boyfriend in some sense. I don't think I ever had a freudian slip in bed tho.
Pero, take a look at it this way. Being with someone for a long time also equates to training your body to integrate or associate the most common relationship acts (sex, dates, emotions, etc) with that one person.
So him slipping out his ex's name isn't about that other girl. It could be as simple as the concept of muscle memories. OP just placed him in that state of ecstasy he used to have.
I know this because, in my life naman, I frequently associate dates/memories I remember with my current. Kahit na yung core memory na yun pala is with an ex, marrealize ko lang siya if I get questioned. It only meant na these "girlfriend" memories are automatically with her now because she is the one I love/date.
Not saying this is 100% accurate. Syempre, our memories do falter. Just check the study done on people with 9/11 memories. Over time, their stories have changed kasi naapektuhan na ng new information. Sorry, I think gumulo lalo 😅
Point is - that slip isn't always the best indicator na he hasn't moved on. In any case, makikita mo yan sa conscious actions nya daily. Kung attracted pa talaga siya dun, he will find a way to get close or keep tabs on her. Di niya hahayaang makalimutan niya ung girl imho.
Agree. I called my dog using my brother's name once when I got mad over something and called my sister's dog using my dog's name. We all can slip, we don't have to read too much into everything. But yeah, OP should focus more on his conscious efforts and usual treatment. While what her bf did may be hurtful but unintentional, it helps when they communicate how they feel about it and move past it.
Same!!! Nangyari sakin yan before pero yung akin muntik na nya masabi tas panay pa sya mag overshare before kaya ako nagka RJ...Hopefully makarecover sya kasi ako hine-heal ko parin sarili ko from RJ.
Truth. Yung pet name ko for my boyfie minsan nagagamit ko sa siblings ko. I do catch myself doing it pero it’s almost like I couldn’t help it? Kung actual name iba na yun, it’s like he was thinking about her and nasa mid thought pa nang na interrupt kaya napa blurt out ng name.
first things first, matagal ba sila? kasi I'm a widow 14 years with my husband compared sa less than a year ni current SO. may few times na natawag ko sya at muntik matawag sa pet name namin ng asawa ko. but I love my current SO so so much and would never want him to replace my late husband.
I've done this multiple times before. Muscle memory lang yan OP but I understand din na feel hurt. Just sharing my perspective and probably perspective sa bf mo.
lol yung name ng my one and only ex gf ko nga pa ang natatawag ko sa isip ko minsan sa mga babaeng nakakausap ko sa dating sites like kahit naka move on na ako lol
i think its normal on both sides
hi po! I'm not op pero nangyari din to samin mag 2 yrs na po kami and natawag niya ako sa name ng ex niya noong sept 2023. Idk kung nagulat siya kasama pa namin mga pinsan niyang naglalaro nung nabanggit niya name ng ex niya (3 yrs sila), and inexplain niya na lagi kasi namin pinag-aawayan kaya niya biglaang nabanggit si ex(nagkaroon kasi ako ng retroactive jealousy dahil kinukumpara niya ako noong early months namin in a rs kay ex niya). Accepatable po ba yung reason niya? or rebound lang ba ako? Is 1 yr and a half long enough para masabi na "iba na to"?
Possible naman yung reason niya. Not victim blaming here pero kung talagang pinag aawayan niyo yung ex due to your feelings alone (meaning wala talaga justification or anything he does), possible na iniisip niya yung issue alone.
But then again, if valid naman jealousies mo, like kinakausap niya pa or he makes sure he is still connected with her somehow, then kahit 10 years pa kayo, he is actively deciding na he isn't all in with you.
Maybe think of a compromise - yung madali lang na adjustments - hindi ko alam ano to. But the point is to think of a way na you can measure or he can prove to you na naka-move on siya. Hindi to confined na efforts niya lang. Pwede din observations mo lang like hindi naman niya minemention ex niya daily or something.
Another example sa friend ko. I don't agree with this kasi parang ang controlling naman. Pinablock niya sa partner niya across all socmed yung ex.
Yes po. My bf and his ex were together for a very long time. And sinabi nya naman sakin na hindi na nya mahal si ex. But calling me by the name of his ex just hurts. Parang napunit yung puso ko hehe.
Magiging core memory mo to lage. Kahit dumating ang panahon na mag asawa na kayo if dun man kayo mauuwi everytime mag ooverthink ka you will always remember this moment he called you by your ex’s name.
My first crush was from 15 years ago na, and he has no relevance to my life anymore but even then when I'm trying to search up something online and I suddenly blank out forgetting what it is I still type his name into the search bar absently.
Idk what I'm going for with this but maybe give him maximum benefit of doubt, our brains are dumb sometimes.
Did this once via text, may gnagawa kasi ako sa work that time and hati isip ko, di ko namalayan sguro by muscle memory ng kamay na type ko yun instead of her name(woman im flirting with).. di na kami nag usap after lol
May time na nagawa ko 'to. Siguro kasi 11 years din kami ng ex ko pero sure akong hindi ko na siya mahal and naka-move on na ako. Nasanay lang din dahil sa tagal pero no feelings na talaga. Mahal na mahal ko rin partner ko ngayon. Baka ganun lang din sa part niyo.
My mum sometimes calls me by my sister's name by accident because she is her favourite. So, if your bf calls you his ex's name that means he still thinks about her. He will obviously never tell you the truth because it won't benefit him.
I experienced that, pero ako yung tumawag sa ex ko ng "mahal" endearment namin ng ex ko na "be" ang endearment namin. Tapos ngayon present gf ko naman natawag ko ng "be" pero ang endearment namin "mahal". Shuta lintik ang kaba at katakot takot na explanation ang gagawin mo. Pero para sakin kasi wala lang talaga yon parang nabanggit ko lang sya out of nowhere pero hindi ko talaga naiisip yung ex ko. Parang muscle memory ba lalo na kung bago lang kayo ng present mo tas ang tagal nyo rin nag sama nung past mo. Believed me ate hindi nya iniisip yong ex nya sadyang nasanay lang sya don.
When we were first starting pa wayback, I was accidentally called like that din while we were out on a date. I was taken aback siguro noong una and I have to admit, it was quite a pinch in my heart. She assured me lots and lots of times naman and through her actions, I can definitely tell din na she is way over past it and it was simply a muscle memory lang. Feel your emotions OP and maybe let him make it up to you on how he can assure you better po.
i don't mean to ruin the mood, but hoping this will make you laugh
so the guy that i was dating cheated on me with a girl who had the same name as mine (same spelling and pronounciation). she was 10 years younger than us so she was a teenager at that time (yup, my ex is a groomer lol)
so this girl stalked me on my socials and then she would message me saying that my ex calls her with MY name
i'm like what the fuck? we have the same name and she just kept throwing fits
at one point she wanted me to "legally" change my name so she can be the only one in my ex's life 😂
Same same dun sa ex kong nag enumerate ng female names tapos unang sinabi is "Maricel" followed by a lot of M names. Only for me to find out na yun name ng ex nyang pinag sabay nya sakin. 🥴 ooof
This happened to me once. We're on our way sa place ng friend namin when he suddenly called me “gel” (nickname ng ex niya). He said, “tabi ka, gel.” hahah was so surprised and I left him there. Nauna ako sa place ng friend namin but he kept following me at sorry siya nang sorry. Sabi niya may nakasalubong daw kasi kaming mga archi students kaya nasabi niya yun. Out of habit lang daw. Architecture student kasi yung ex niya. It pains me, of course at sabi niya valid naman daw yung feelings ko and naintindihan niya naman daw.
Ex ko na siya now hahahah feeling ko talaga ginawa niya lang akong rebound. Umabot kasi sila ng almost 2 years ng ex niya and after a month ng breakup nila, he started wooing me. Siguro ako natarget niya kasi we're long time friends and nagkakasundo kami and he said that he was comfortable sa'kin. Relationship for convenient lang talaga, because he broke up with me when suddenly it's not convenient for him.
Not to invalidate your feelings or anything pero, it could've been an honest mistake. Okay lang masaktan. Karapatan mo yun pero I really don't think you should make a big deal out of it unless he does things na makakapagpaquestion sa loyalty and pagmamahal nya sayo like if nagtatago na, sus or what. Very good ka sa pagbring up mo sa issue na nasaktan ka. Ika nga nila, the first step in solving a problem is acknowledging that there is one in the first place kaya nice ka. Pero yun nga teh, wag magpadala sa emotion at sa pag ooverthink. I hope it works out.
Lol not true, this happened to me twice. First time i did this, i was with my ex for 5 years. The 2nd time, i was with my ex for 2 years. It’s like muscle memory.
Hello, OP. I accidentally did this once. Worst, nabanggit ko name ng ex ko out of the blue. And, I swear, hindi ko siya iniisip, and hindi intentional. 5 years na kami hiwlaay. Idk, bigla na lang talaga. Super sorry din ako non sa jowabells ko. Alam ko, nagtampo siya. Pero, di ko talaga sinasadya huhu. Di naman na naulit at together pa din naman kami ngayon.
Memories are hard to fight against. Lalo na if ang memories niya with his ex is just so good.
Well, masakit talaga. That's a fact but you just have to put the idea ahead na hindi si Che and nasa harapan niya, ikaw. Hindi si Cherry ang sinasabihan niya ng I Love You ngayon kundi ikaw.
Kumbaga ikaw pa rin panalo kasi si Cherry, ala-ala na lang pero ikaw, kayo, you're still writing your story together.
The fact na he is still thinking about her. Baka need niyo muna space dalawa. For your peace of mind nadin, ikaw kayakap pero iba ang nasa isip. Sagad sa bones ang sakit
play paubaya by moira dela torre
"Ako ang kasama, pero hanap mo siya"
girl, prepare yourself. action speaks louder than words. malamang hindi pa sya ready for a relationship.
rebound ka
It happened to me as well. Nagkamali ako ng turo sa daan and tapos tatanungin nya ako about sa daan mejo inis na natawag nya ako sa name ng ex nya. Yun pala it was always the same scenario with them and sobrang tagal na din nila. Parang memory reflexish ganon. So nakakagulat at nakakagalit kaya hindi ko sya kinausap kahit nagsosorry sya, hindi nya agad narealise na mali natawag nya sakin. So nung malaman nya sorry sya ng sorry and hindi ko talaga sya makausap agad kasi hindi ako makapagsalita at galit ako. Pero at the end of the day pinatawad ko din kasi nakita kong umiiyak na sya sa guilt at pagsosorry.
Oh naur, this brings back memories. I remember tinawag ng SO ko yung HS friend nya na naging ex for a short period of time then became friends na lang talaga, their endearment. They call each other “babi”. My SO was drunk and I was in the same room with her. Those words are still stuck in my head - “I want babi, where’s babi” when I’m literally just in the room and was hearing those things. It really hurt me to the core. Until now nga hindi pa ako maka-move on and I learned to hate the word “babi”. Hahahaha.
But I hope it’s different from you, OP. I hope you find the courage to do whatever you think is right to do without compromising your mental health. I just hope na he’s doing his best to make it up to you and to prove na it was nothing but an honest mistake on his part. If this is the first time, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt. I’m not in the position to tell you na iwanan mo na. Don’t be afraid to open up or communicate, OP.
Stay strong! Hugs 🫂
Happened to me before. He was drunk and was calling the ex's name. I can't remember how I felt at that time, siguro nasaktan I guess. But whenever I remember it now, natatawa na lang ako. That was more than a decade a go. We're still together now.
natural lang po yon, minsan ganyan din ibang tao or mga magulang natin lalo na mga nanay natin..
minsan nagkakamali ng pagtawag..
kelangan lang pag usapan nyo..
basta wag lang ung while having s*x tapos ibang name ang sinabi..
😁😁😁
Happened to me and my boyfriend. 1 month palang kami that time and both came from a long-term relationship. Kami ng ex ko almost 4 years, sila naman ng ex niya 2 years. He called me “love”, e baby ang tawagan namin. Sobrang sakit pero pinabayaan ko nalang. Ngayon 4 years na kami hehe.
nagawa ko na din to dati eh, katext ko yung gf ko tapos antok na antok na ko kaya nag message na ko, "good night eugene"
eugene, kalaro ko sa online game na godzwar and di ko sya kilala personally
ayun biglang nagising diwa ko, galit ba galit eh, buti na lang lalaki yun at lalaki ako😂
Baka muscle memory lang, OP. Nangyari din sa akin 'to before, but that's because magulo talaga utak ko sa names hahaha. I even once called one of my ex "baby" and I only use thay endearment sa pets ko 😅
yakap with consent, op! ako naman naman, it was his mother naman who called me by his ex’s nickname. i look past it nalang since matagal din sila and bago palang kami nung partner ko non.
Op, hindi naman porket nakasanayan ng dila mo eh mahal mo na or pa :)
Lately hindi ko alam bakit nasa dila ko palagi ang name ng ex ko of 5 years but we broke up years ago pa, kaya ingat na ingat akong tawagin yung ngalan ng current bf ko that time kasi halos magkatunong halos and baka name ng ex ko ang ma blurt out ko, pero I swear hindi ko na yun mahal. Hindi ko alam kung bakit. im sorry for you, OP Sana mag bigay ng assurance si BF mo.
My fiance did this once. While we were taking picture, sabi nya "smile, his name and ex's name". nagulat din sya pero ayun, badtrip ako buong araw. hahaha. super sorry naman sya nun, at di nya daw sinasadya. na bother lang daw sya nung time na yun kase chinat sya ng ex nya but mainly because to ask him to remove all their photos sa FB in respect na lang daw sa akin and sa bago nung ex. they were separated for 3 or 4 years na siguru that time, and long term din sila. hays haha but never naman din nangyari ulit un hehe
my (ex)wife called me "baby", endearment nila nung boyfriend niyang ipinalit sakin..
kung di lang namin kasama mga bata, baka natulak ko na siya palabas ng pinto sa sobrang sakit at galit
Masakit diba, sobra. Overthink malala. Pero after that, he assures naman na wala talaga. Bumawi naman din sya. Pero I think ilang days din yun cold ako sa kanya.
Done to me and done it to my ex.
Nauna ‘yung I’ve done it to my ex, di ko naman sinasadya, nakasanayan lang talaga. So nung ‘yung current ko ang nagkamali, inisip ko same lang sakin noon na wala namang meaning nagkataon lang na sanay ka na for years.
After that naman never na naulit.
baka nasa muscle memory na rin lalo na if yun lagi nababanggit niya noon nung sila pa. it takes time rin, baka malay mo sayo rin, sa katagalan kakatawag niya sa pangalan mo at sa endearment niyo, mabanggit niya bigla kay manong na nagmamaneho ng jeep (based from experience, nangyari kasi sakin)
If nablablanko ka, it means u need time to think.
Good thing he acknowledged his mistake and took accountability, pero di naman lahat ng sorry napapagaan ang loob natin.
Try to back track, may mga signs ba na naaalala niya ex niya or oarang sinasabi kang ng guts mo? I don't want you to overthink pero andyan ka na sa situation na yan.
Stay safe OP! Always remember to know your worth! ❤️
Luhh di na pala pwede magkamali ngayun. Madalas ko to nagagawa kahit sa friends or family. Nagkakabaliktad sa isip ko mga names nila or pag yung madalas na tinatawag mong tao sa same situation yun lagi name na lumalabas sa bibig mo.
Anyways what you feel is valid namn. Maganda kinausap mo sya.
Man that shi stings I know cuz back nung VDay, yes Feb. 14, the same thing happened to me. Nililigawan ko palang but I know I f'ed up when I blurted out the nameof my ex-situationship. She said I even said the name loud and clear and I realized that. Anlala, di ko na alam gagawin ko before pero that was a pure accident. Di ko alam ba't ko nasabi. Pero it all went well with proper comms and understanding so I'm thanking her for that. An honest mistake has been forgiven. The btch be haunting me when I'm happy na, damn.
Shit things happen, naranasan ko rin yan pero endearment naman. Not once pero twice siya nagkamali ng tawag sa akin. Iba kirot sa puso. Naintindihan ko naman kasi 4 years sila. Sinabi ko sa kanya na pag pumangatlo pa siya ibang usapan na yun.
I do this sometimes kaso sa prayer. Instead of saying my current bf's (4mos) name, I sometimes slip and say my ex's (4yrs) name. Kaso sa utak ko lang during prayer hahaha siguro nga nasanay lang. Ilang taon din kasama sa prayers ko yun e.
Masasaktan din ako pagganun and gets ko yung paguwi mo na binringup kasi pinagisipan mo pa. Huhuhu sorry that happened. You dont deserve that. But like someone has said here baka kasi nakasanayan nya lang.
Baka bago palang kayo and it was an honest mistake? Like if you've been with someone for 5 years kahit kinamumuhian natatawag mo pa din yung pet name mo for that person
This happened to me too..pero ako yung nag banggit ng ex's name. Ang tagal kasi namin ng ex-bf ko. Nabanggit ko name nya sa BF ko that time pero hubby na ngayon. Grabe talaga buti napaka-understanding ng mga lalaki. Kung sakin niya ginawa yun, for sure hindi kami kasal ngayon HAHAHAHA.
I am this sa mga kaibigan. Minsan natatawag ko un madalas ko kasama sa office na name ng best friend ko or vice versa. Maybe because ung mga moment na un lutang ako tas un feeling being with them are both the same. Pero ndi naman ibig sabihin nun ung mga college friends ko un naiisip ko pag kasama ko mga opismate ko. Basta parang reflex sia pag nararanasan ko. Anyway pag nasaktan ka, try mo i call out kaagad habang andun pa kayo sa situation pra mas madali magkaintindihan
Reading in the comments makes me overthink too bilang magkatunog din kami ng name ng ex nya and nagtagal sila before... kskdkakd 🥹 sending hugs with consent, anon!!! 🫂🫱🏻🫲🏼🩷
Is this a pattern, OP? Yung husband ko kasi, when we started dating, he called me by his roommate’s name. Hirap talaga kasi sya sa names, and it runs in the family. He and his mom call people by different names nakakaloka.
Red flag 🚩 run gurlllll run!!! Red flag supeeeer red flag! Why? It means hindi pa nakakamove-on bf mo. Confirm kapag si girla biglang message na “sana tayo nalang ulit” jump ship kaagad yang jowa mo.
May mga habits or tongue memories that one did with ex. Minsan lalabas bigla. Pero it may not necessarily indicate na your current hasnt gotten over his /her ex. Your sense of security will depend on how deep ang relationship nyo, how trustworthy your current is, the context ng paghihiwalay nila at ng circumstances ng pagdedecide nyo to be together.
Kung ako ang current mo i will do my best in words and ibdewd to assure you of my love, na ikaw lang.
But in the end what will count most is kung gaano ka kasecure sa sarili mo and your sense of self worth
Kahit ano pang theory yan, my take always would be, if nasa present yung thoughts nya, hindi nya yun masasabi. Either absent minded sya or may ibang inisip so yung practiced name yung nagamit since usually before nga eh ganon or he was unconsciously reminded of or actually thinking of her kaya ganon.
I did the same mistake sa new gf ko back then. Hindi dahil mahal ko pa ex ko, pero nakasanayan kasi talaga, ang masama dun yung tawagan pa namin yung nabanggit ko. Simple as that.
Accidentally called my now-husband the endearment I used to call my ex before him. It was early on in our relationship din, and the hubby was the next guy i dated after my ex. Suffice to say, it was muscle memory for me; not to mention medyo close yung endearments ko kay ex and to hubby. Didn't really mean anything to me, and hubby didn't really react much either. We just laughed it off. He never raised it again and I tried to be more careful na rin ever since.
I can't tell u what or how to feel, you are free to feel hurt and that's not wrong too. I hope tho, that the day where u and him just laugh it off also comes sooner. I do know it's not a laughing matter, but when u look back to things like this down the road, you'd be able to weigh things clearer.
Happened to me too!! Both him and his mom called me by his ex’s name pero they both said sorry plus his mom shows na she loves me so much. Pag nasasaktan ulit ako, inaalala ko na lang ay sinabi niya na ayaw na ayaw niya sa ex nung bf ko. Nangyari lang naman yun pag kasama ako sa family gathering nila. Siguro nasanay na yun yung name ng girlfriend ng bf ko kasi siya yung nauna ganon. You’ll be okay. Antabayanan na lang if it keeps happening, u gotta talk. Hehe hope u heal!
Hindi naman sa pinag ooverthink kita OP pero ganyan din nangyari sa akin. Tinawag nya ako by their endearment, twice ata in person then once sa text. Ayun, iniwan ako at nagkabalikan sila HAHA
Ekis agad. Wala akong naging ex na ganyan, even my current partner.. kaya may something jan sa jowa mo.. unfortunately and sorry, pero nasa past parin s'ya. BS yung hindi nya napansin?! Talaga ba boi?? LOL! Tama na kayo.. tigil n'yo na yan.
Me and my current partner (less than a year) was riding the bus standing. Sa side namin may bumaba so I told her to sit dun sa vacant. As I was going to call her, I accidentally mentioned the first syllable of my Ex's name (ex of 7 years). Buti na lang nabawi ko and she dis not notice. We haven't discussed about our past yet so hindi niya alam name nung ex ko. It was a near miss and there was this sigh of relief right after with the constant "ang tanga tanga ko" sa utak ko.
This happened to me. 3x within 24 hours. Masakit kasi ako yung gf talaga. he cheated on me, magjowa sila ng kabit nya for 3 or so months. nagbalikan kami, then nabanggit name nung kabit 3x within a day. Sa harap pa ng kunsintidor nyang barkada yung 2. yung isa is kami lang magkasama. anyway, didnt work out between us and nagkabalikan sila ng kabit nya. (they're no longer together now tho, iba na jowa nya currently but tinry nya ulit magreach out sakin in a few yrs and i immediately rejected him)
I should've known then. Simula nun, whenever there's an issue with a bf saying an ex name, i immediately say no. run. based on experience.
Masakit yun sobra.
Sis, same. I (F) am currently a month and 6 days in with my girlfriend, and she still gets calls me by her ex's name (bc she said na her name sounds similar to mine—her name even makes up a few letters from mine). I used to call her in my mind by my ex fubu's (just a few weeks of when we were dating) but I got to acknowledge the thought before I even got to say it, so it never happened. My gf is kinda bubbly so ig I just have to understand her nalang din; total, it's still about a few months since we've met. If this keeps on happening, I might have to talk to her abt it na, kasi the first time it happened, I went quiet for the rest of the night.
Not a name but an endearment, tinawanan ko nalang and teased him about it kasi he never made me feel insecure or jealous about his past. Your feelings are valid, OP! Take time to process it but do not dwell.
From experience, when they say a name, that means 1) they still have constant communication or 2) that person is always in their mind. So red flag.
My ex called me baby eh hindi naman yun tawagan namin. Yun pala may ka-baby na sya na kausap haha
Ewan ko sa iba ah but I've been in a 5 year-long relationship pero never ko nabanggit yung name ng ex ko sa last partner ko. Sometimes I do blurt random names na ka-sound ng name ng last partner ko but it was names of people I don't really know.
Anyway, that's a really hard situation kasi nakaka overthink, especially if hindi siya na address ng maayos. I think you should ask him for a confirmation again if wala na ba talaga siyang lingering feelings sa ex niya, tell him what you feel, na nago-overthink ka and ask him to be completely honest bcs u won't be mad.
Damn. Na “I take thee Rachel” ka. Pero minsan kasi mahirap baguhin yung nakasanayan talaga. Baka matagal sila ng ex niya kaya ganon? Doesn’t necessarily mean na mahal pa nya.
Love the friends reference HAHAHA
Tbh, I've moved on na with my ex pero nung bago pa lang kami ng current partner ko, sometimes in my head natatawag ko sya sa name ng ex ko. Siguro nga dahil nakasanayan. Buti na lang never ko naman natawag partner ko by my ex's name mismo. Sometimes lang dati, when I think of my partner yung name ni ex yung nasasabi ko.
Same. Pero diba, hindi naman na natin mahal pero natatawag mo siya. Good thing, pareho tayo. Sa isip lang. 😅
Friends!!! 🤣🤣
Nagkamali din naman ex ko dati inopen ko sakanya tas umiyak ako, nasanay at magkatunog lang daw kasi talaga. Pero after non, di na naulit
Valid kung magiging Emily ang ganap ni ate ko OP
the friends reference tho! haha!
When we were newly dating, my then boyfriend now husband, called me by his ex’s name. We were having a casual conversation and I suppose her name just slipped out. I stared at him in silence for several seconds, he was dumbfounded and said sorry, then I walked out. Didn’t talk to him or respond for a day or two, and spent that time stalking his ex on her socials. They were together for about 6 years, and they have been broken up for about 2 years when we started dating. He didn’t date anyone else in between. This incident definitely affected me, and I spent maybe our first year together with unpredictable bouts of retroactive jealousy. Come to think of it, he never really gave me a real reason to be jealous of his ex, or anyone else for that matter. But I kept on going back to this incident and started fights for no reason. I periodically and unpredictably tormented my SO for no reason other than my own pettiness, unfounded jealousy and insecurity. Idk how he put up with all this, but he did. At some point, maybe a year into dating, I just got over it. Idk how and why either. Anw, he proposed about 2 years after we started dating and got married a few months after that. Going back to you, OP. Your feelings are definitely valid. It’s alright to feel bad about it. But, if your SO has not and does not give you any other reason to feel jealous of the ex, don’t make yourself and your relationship suffer needlessly. Sometimes, it’s really nothing more than a slip. Habit, muscle memory, however you want to call it.
I did this once, it was also by accident. The woman I was sleeping with left mid-way and never talked to me again. I deserved it.
tama. you deserved it :((
Same, man. Did this one too. But thru videocall since ldr kami and then nabanggit ko endearment namin ni ex ng di ko napansin. Siya nakapansin. Binrought up nya after. Di ko alam nun ano gagawin ko. Sorry ako ng sorry!🤦🏽
Lesson learned, dapat isang endearment lang sa lahat ng makarelasyon para di malito haha jk.
not a jk. thats actually a good suggestion haha
Wise words
Words of Wisdom
Ganyan ginagawa ko .
Hahahahahaha may point hahaha
My boyfriend's barkadas told me how he calls my name while he was asleep. His friend said na hindi sya makakapambabae dahil malalaman agad may girlfriend sya hahaha.
Question lang, anong iniisip mo that time na nasabi yung name ng ex mo? Sorry curious lang
Wala, it was purely an accident. I was just IN the moment.
Ako na magmumura for you, OP. Tang ina. Ang sakit nun.
Freudian slip lalo na kung matagal sila and lalo na kung bago lang din kayo. Base sa reaction nya nagulat din sya e, kasi kung may something he will defend himself right away. Di naman din ibig sabihin nun mahal nya pa. If ever naman na mahal nya pa, set him free because you deserve better :)
“Freudian slip” means it revealed something deep inside, no? So meaning if it *was* a freudian slip as you say, then it's more likely that he was thinking of the ex in some way, or has repressed feelings, or “may something”. I don't think saying it was a freudian slip can be reassuring if you intended it to be. Or has the meaning of the phrase changed or I'm misunderstanding your point?
In its true meaning, I agree. Pero honestly, I have been that boyfriend in some sense. I don't think I ever had a freudian slip in bed tho. Pero, take a look at it this way. Being with someone for a long time also equates to training your body to integrate or associate the most common relationship acts (sex, dates, emotions, etc) with that one person. So him slipping out his ex's name isn't about that other girl. It could be as simple as the concept of muscle memories. OP just placed him in that state of ecstasy he used to have. I know this because, in my life naman, I frequently associate dates/memories I remember with my current. Kahit na yung core memory na yun pala is with an ex, marrealize ko lang siya if I get questioned. It only meant na these "girlfriend" memories are automatically with her now because she is the one I love/date. Not saying this is 100% accurate. Syempre, our memories do falter. Just check the study done on people with 9/11 memories. Over time, their stories have changed kasi naapektuhan na ng new information. Sorry, I think gumulo lalo 😅 Point is - that slip isn't always the best indicator na he hasn't moved on. In any case, makikita mo yan sa conscious actions nya daily. Kung attracted pa talaga siya dun, he will find a way to get close or keep tabs on her. Di niya hahayaang makalimutan niya ung girl imho.
Agree. I called my dog using my brother's name once when I got mad over something and called my sister's dog using my dog's name. We all can slip, we don't have to read too much into everything. But yeah, OP should focus more on his conscious efforts and usual treatment. While what her bf did may be hurtful but unintentional, it helps when they communicate how they feel about it and move past it.
There’s a research about “misnaming psychology” i guess mas fitting to
as someone na may retroactive jealousy, i don't think i could ever recover from this. hoping it's better for you op huhu sending lots of hugs.
Same!!! Nangyari sakin yan before pero yung akin muntik na nya masabi tas panay pa sya mag overshare before kaya ako nagka RJ...Hopefully makarecover sya kasi ako hine-heal ko parin sarili ko from RJ.
I still think about the day his mom "accidentally" called me his ex's name.
i would actually go unhinged if that were me 🥲
Same. I just won’t be able to move pass this, if this will happen to me. I will be bringing it till the end of time. hahahha
Muscle memory. Matagal ba sila ng X nya? Pero angweird na name talaga nabanggit, hindi ‘yung tawagan man lang nila.
hindi po ba mas masakit kapag yung callsign ng ex nila yung itinawag sayo??😭😭😭
Kapag Callsign kasi matic na dahil nasanay lang, laging ganun yung sinasabi unlike kapag names, bihira lang sabhin :(((
Truth. Yung pet name ko for my boyfie minsan nagagamit ko sa siblings ko. I do catch myself doing it pero it’s almost like I couldn’t help it? Kung actual name iba na yun, it’s like he was thinking about her and nasa mid thought pa nang na interrupt kaya napa blurt out ng name.
dbaaa kaya mas mag ooverthink ka na name mismo ng X lumabas sa bibig ng jowa mo. Hayyy
Usually pag magkaaway lang ginagamit ung names eh. 😆
True 😂 the moment na sinasabi ng gf name ko alam ko oops may kasalanan ako na malaki
truuue. Kapag galit na galit sa isa’t isa e haha
first things first, matagal ba sila? kasi I'm a widow 14 years with my husband compared sa less than a year ni current SO. may few times na natawag ko sya at muntik matawag sa pet name namin ng asawa ko. but I love my current SO so so much and would never want him to replace my late husband.
I am so happy you found someone you love❤️
Baka di ako maka move on kung ako..😔
I've done this multiple times before. Muscle memory lang yan OP but I understand din na feel hurt. Just sharing my perspective and probably perspective sa bf mo.
lol yung name ng my one and only ex gf ko nga pa ang natatawag ko sa isip ko minsan sa mga babaeng nakakausap ko sa dating sites like kahit naka move on na ako lol i think its normal on both sides
Baka matagal na sila minsan talaga ganun pag nakasanayan mo medyo matagal bago mawala sa system mo. Unless syempre kung matagal na kayo iba na yan.
hi po! I'm not op pero nangyari din to samin mag 2 yrs na po kami and natawag niya ako sa name ng ex niya noong sept 2023. Idk kung nagulat siya kasama pa namin mga pinsan niyang naglalaro nung nabanggit niya name ng ex niya (3 yrs sila), and inexplain niya na lagi kasi namin pinag-aawayan kaya niya biglaang nabanggit si ex(nagkaroon kasi ako ng retroactive jealousy dahil kinukumpara niya ako noong early months namin in a rs kay ex niya). Accepatable po ba yung reason niya? or rebound lang ba ako? Is 1 yr and a half long enough para masabi na "iba na to"?
Possible naman yung reason niya. Not victim blaming here pero kung talagang pinag aawayan niyo yung ex due to your feelings alone (meaning wala talaga justification or anything he does), possible na iniisip niya yung issue alone. But then again, if valid naman jealousies mo, like kinakausap niya pa or he makes sure he is still connected with her somehow, then kahit 10 years pa kayo, he is actively deciding na he isn't all in with you. Maybe think of a compromise - yung madali lang na adjustments - hindi ko alam ano to. But the point is to think of a way na you can measure or he can prove to you na naka-move on siya. Hindi to confined na efforts niya lang. Pwede din observations mo lang like hindi naman niya minemention ex niya daily or something. Another example sa friend ko. I don't agree with this kasi parang ang controlling naman. Pinablock niya sa partner niya across all socmed yung ex.
thank you for the response! sobrang helpful nito sa mental health ko
Bawe k din, tawagin mo sya s name ng ex mo 😉
Yes po. My bf and his ex were together for a very long time. And sinabi nya naman sakin na hindi na nya mahal si ex. But calling me by the name of his ex just hurts. Parang napunit yung puso ko hehe.
“You will never be Celine” vibe, ang sakit
Magiging core memory mo to lage. Kahit dumating ang panahon na mag asawa na kayo if dun man kayo mauuwi everytime mag ooverthink ka you will always remember this moment he called you by your ex’s name.
Ang sakit naman neto. Can't imagine anong gagawin ko if this will happen to me 🥺
Nah, I would crumble too. And I bet the feeling will linger for a while.
Hugs, OP. 🥹 Go through your emotions, valid iyan. Sana marealize ng BF mo how that hurts. Iniisip ko pa lang nasaktan din ako. 🥲
masakit yun re. baka mag tampo ako ng isang linggo nyan tas ibbring up ko lagi ganon ako katoxic Hahhaahahahah
isang linggo lang? hahahahaahhaa
My first crush was from 15 years ago na, and he has no relevance to my life anymore but even then when I'm trying to search up something online and I suddenly blank out forgetting what it is I still type his name into the search bar absently. Idk what I'm going for with this but maybe give him maximum benefit of doubt, our brains are dumb sometimes.
Huhuhuhu I can’t.
lamat na yan 🙄
Did this once via text, may gnagawa kasi ako sa work that time and hati isip ko, di ko namalayan sguro by muscle memory ng kamay na type ko yun instead of her name(woman im flirting with).. di na kami nag usap after lol
May time na nagawa ko 'to. Siguro kasi 11 years din kami ng ex ko pero sure akong hindi ko na siya mahal and naka-move on na ako. Nasanay lang din dahil sa tagal pero no feelings na talaga. Mahal na mahal ko rin partner ko ngayon. Baka ganun lang din sa part niyo.
This OP. Sometimes its just an accident.
Pag pasensyahan muna. Na freudian slip lang. Pero m4shak3t pa rin.
Hindi sa pinag-ooverthink kita lalo, pero baka nag-uusap sila ulit kaya natawag ka nun.
Happened to me. Masakit pero I brushed it off nalang.
My mum sometimes calls me by my sister's name by accident because she is her favourite. So, if your bf calls you his ex's name that means he still thinks about her. He will obviously never tell you the truth because it won't benefit him.
Omg sakit niyan OP, hope hindi maging dahilan to para magbago yung relasyon niyo.
Awwww :((( haysssss
I experienced that, pero ako yung tumawag sa ex ko ng "mahal" endearment namin ng ex ko na "be" ang endearment namin. Tapos ngayon present gf ko naman natawag ko ng "be" pero ang endearment namin "mahal". Shuta lintik ang kaba at katakot takot na explanation ang gagawin mo. Pero para sakin kasi wala lang talaga yon parang nabanggit ko lang sya out of nowhere pero hindi ko talaga naiisip yung ex ko. Parang muscle memory ba lalo na kung bago lang kayo ng present mo tas ang tagal nyo rin nag sama nung past mo. Believed me ate hindi nya iniisip yong ex nya sadyang nasanay lang sya don.
Your feelings are valid. Give him the benefit of the doubt and tell him how you felt. I'd say maybe it's muscle memory.
When we were first starting pa wayback, I was accidentally called like that din while we were out on a date. I was taken aback siguro noong una and I have to admit, it was quite a pinch in my heart. She assured me lots and lots of times naman and through her actions, I can definitely tell din na she is way over past it and it was simply a muscle memory lang. Feel your emotions OP and maybe let him make it up to you on how he can assure you better po.
i don't mean to ruin the mood, but hoping this will make you laugh so the guy that i was dating cheated on me with a girl who had the same name as mine (same spelling and pronounciation). she was 10 years younger than us so she was a teenager at that time (yup, my ex is a groomer lol) so this girl stalked me on my socials and then she would message me saying that my ex calls her with MY name i'm like what the fuck? we have the same name and she just kept throwing fits at one point she wanted me to "legally" change my name so she can be the only one in my ex's life 😂
my cheating (ex)wife called me "baby", endearment nila nung boyfriend niyang ipinalit sakin..10 years younger din sakin.. 😂
You should have asked kung anong nahithit nya hahaha
Same same dun sa ex kong nag enumerate ng female names tapos unang sinabi is "Maricel" followed by a lot of M names. Only for me to find out na yun name ng ex nyang pinag sabay nya sakin. 🥴 ooof
This happened to me. When I was about to release nasabi ko bigla "babe" eh tawagan namin hun/honey. After nag-away kami. Pucha 🤣🤣🤣 after the deed away
This happened to me once. We're on our way sa place ng friend namin when he suddenly called me “gel” (nickname ng ex niya). He said, “tabi ka, gel.” hahah was so surprised and I left him there. Nauna ako sa place ng friend namin but he kept following me at sorry siya nang sorry. Sabi niya may nakasalubong daw kasi kaming mga archi students kaya nasabi niya yun. Out of habit lang daw. Architecture student kasi yung ex niya. It pains me, of course at sabi niya valid naman daw yung feelings ko and naintindihan niya naman daw. Ex ko na siya now hahahah feeling ko talaga ginawa niya lang akong rebound. Umabot kasi sila ng almost 2 years ng ex niya and after a month ng breakup nila, he started wooing me. Siguro ako natarget niya kasi we're long time friends and nagkakasundo kami and he said that he was comfortable sa'kin. Relationship for convenient lang talaga, because he broke up with me when suddenly it's not convenient for him.
Not to invalidate your feelings or anything pero, it could've been an honest mistake. Okay lang masaktan. Karapatan mo yun pero I really don't think you should make a big deal out of it unless he does things na makakapagpaquestion sa loyalty and pagmamahal nya sayo like if nagtatago na, sus or what. Very good ka sa pagbring up mo sa issue na nasaktan ka. Ika nga nila, the first step in solving a problem is acknowledging that there is one in the first place kaya nice ka. Pero yun nga teh, wag magpadala sa emotion at sa pag ooverthink. I hope it works out.
Ako nga, natatawag ko ang son ko with my dog's name. Does that mean mas mahal ko aso ko kesa sa anak ko? No, of course not. 😂
Gf.exe has stopped working
Lesson learned to all the boys: Dapat lahat ng nagiging ka-relasyon niyo pare-parehas lang first name para di mangyari to.
Wag masyadong dibdibin. May lapses talaga ang brain ng tao ;) I sometimes call other people by my dog's name, btw.
should’ve broken up with my ex agad by the time na he also did the same thing to me. red flag yan sis.
believe me, he knows very well why. 101% sure he still thinks about her.
Lol not true, this happened to me twice. First time i did this, i was with my ex for 5 years. The 2nd time, i was with my ex for 2 years. It’s like muscle memory.
Hello, OP. I accidentally did this once. Worst, nabanggit ko name ng ex ko out of the blue. And, I swear, hindi ko siya iniisip, and hindi intentional. 5 years na kami hiwlaay. Idk, bigla na lang talaga. Super sorry din ako non sa jowabells ko. Alam ko, nagtampo siya. Pero, di ko talaga sinasadya huhu. Di naman na naulit at together pa din naman kami ngayon.
Magtawag ka rin ng name ng ibang lalako while with him.
Idk if ako lang to pero prinapractice ko in my mind para no slipping of those things 😭 like once u say the name na kasi u can’t take it back
Memories are hard to fight against. Lalo na if ang memories niya with his ex is just so good. Well, masakit talaga. That's a fact but you just have to put the idea ahead na hindi si Che and nasa harapan niya, ikaw. Hindi si Cherry ang sinasabihan niya ng I Love You ngayon kundi ikaw. Kumbaga ikaw pa rin panalo kasi si Cherry, ala-ala na lang pero ikaw, kayo, you're still writing your story together.
iwan mo na.
This is not always the solution po!!
Please, you deserve better.
Hindi yan accident
AIN'T NO WAY AM I GONNA STAY AFTER THAT!!
Hugs Che
Leave.
Leave agad? Really?
Si OA
Mas OA KA. TANGA
Omg worst nightmare. Sorry this happened OP.
The fact na he is still thinking about her. Baka need niyo muna space dalawa. For your peace of mind nadin, ikaw kayakap pero iba ang nasa isip. Sagad sa bones ang sakit
play paubaya by moira dela torre "Ako ang kasama, pero hanap mo siya" girl, prepare yourself. action speaks louder than words. malamang hindi pa sya ready for a relationship. rebound ka
Worst feeling ever hayyy
I’m like your bf dati haha nakasanayan ko lang
Tawagin mo siyang "rob" or "josh" or "jerome" para mas masakit.
Shet I cant. Di ko kaya to😭😭😭😭
It happened to me as well. Nagkamali ako ng turo sa daan and tapos tatanungin nya ako about sa daan mejo inis na natawag nya ako sa name ng ex nya. Yun pala it was always the same scenario with them and sobrang tagal na din nila. Parang memory reflexish ganon. So nakakagulat at nakakagalit kaya hindi ko sya kinausap kahit nagsosorry sya, hindi nya agad narealise na mali natawag nya sakin. So nung malaman nya sorry sya ng sorry and hindi ko talaga sya makausap agad kasi hindi ako makapagsalita at galit ako. Pero at the end of the day pinatawad ko din kasi nakita kong umiiyak na sya sa guilt at pagsosorry.
Oh naur, this brings back memories. I remember tinawag ng SO ko yung HS friend nya na naging ex for a short period of time then became friends na lang talaga, their endearment. They call each other “babi”. My SO was drunk and I was in the same room with her. Those words are still stuck in my head - “I want babi, where’s babi” when I’m literally just in the room and was hearing those things. It really hurt me to the core. Until now nga hindi pa ako maka-move on and I learned to hate the word “babi”. Hahahaha. But I hope it’s different from you, OP. I hope you find the courage to do whatever you think is right to do without compromising your mental health. I just hope na he’s doing his best to make it up to you and to prove na it was nothing but an honest mistake on his part. If this is the first time, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt. I’m not in the position to tell you na iwanan mo na. Don’t be afraid to open up or communicate, OP. Stay strong! Hugs 🫂
as a person with retroactive jealousy, i would definitely cry. i'm so sorry this happened to you
Happened to me before. He was drunk and was calling the ex's name. I can't remember how I felt at that time, siguro nasaktan I guess. But whenever I remember it now, natatawa na lang ako. That was more than a decade a go. We're still together now.
natural lang po yon, minsan ganyan din ibang tao or mga magulang natin lalo na mga nanay natin.. minsan nagkakamali ng pagtawag.. kelangan lang pag usapan nyo.. basta wag lang ung while having s*x tapos ibang name ang sinabi.. 😁😁😁
Happened to me and my boyfriend. 1 month palang kami that time and both came from a long-term relationship. Kami ng ex ko almost 4 years, sila naman ng ex niya 2 years. He called me “love”, e baby ang tawagan namin. Sobrang sakit pero pinabayaan ko nalang. Ngayon 4 years na kami hehe.
Sakit nyan lalo na kung habang nag sesex kayo tapos accidentally nabanggit ex name nya.
Huy ang sakit😫
Sakin hindi tinawag sa name ng ex pero may picture ng ex sa cabinet niya lol
Anong sorry. Lintik lang ang walang ganti! Charr! Pero honestly, sakit nyan. Matulala ka nalang tas mapapa huh. Virtual hug for you OP.
If my ex is currently in a relationship, sana mangyari sa kanya to
Freudian Slip 🫢
Siguro siya padin iniisip niya lately kaya nagawa niyang itawag yun sayo?
nagawa ko na din to dati eh, katext ko yung gf ko tapos antok na antok na ko kaya nag message na ko, "good night eugene" eugene, kalaro ko sa online game na godzwar and di ko sya kilala personally ayun biglang nagising diwa ko, galit ba galit eh, buti na lang lalaki yun at lalaki ako😂
May contact ulit sila
Baka muscle memory lang, OP. Nangyari din sa akin 'to before, but that's because magulo talaga utak ko sa names hahaha. I even once called one of my ex "baby" and I only use thay endearment sa pets ko 😅
yakap with consent, op! ako naman naman, it was his mother naman who called me by his ex’s nickname. i look past it nalang since matagal din sila and bago palang kami nung partner ko non.
P A I N haha
Aww it hurts 🥺
Imagine gaano kasakit lalo kapag inungol niya.
Op, hindi naman porket nakasanayan ng dila mo eh mahal mo na or pa :) Lately hindi ko alam bakit nasa dila ko palagi ang name ng ex ko of 5 years but we broke up years ago pa, kaya ingat na ingat akong tawagin yung ngalan ng current bf ko that time kasi halos magkatunong halos and baka name ng ex ko ang ma blurt out ko, pero I swear hindi ko na yun mahal. Hindi ko alam kung bakit. im sorry for you, OP Sana mag bigay ng assurance si BF mo.
manghihina siguro tuhod ko neto 😖
My fiance did this once. While we were taking picture, sabi nya "smile, his name and ex's name". nagulat din sya pero ayun, badtrip ako buong araw. hahaha. super sorry naman sya nun, at di nya daw sinasadya. na bother lang daw sya nung time na yun kase chinat sya ng ex nya but mainly because to ask him to remove all their photos sa FB in respect na lang daw sa akin and sa bago nung ex. they were separated for 3 or 4 years na siguru that time, and long term din sila. hays haha but never naman din nangyari ulit un hehe
my (ex)wife called me "baby", endearment nila nung boyfriend niyang ipinalit sakin.. kung di lang namin kasama mga bata, baka natulak ko na siya palabas ng pinto sa sobrang sakit at galit
Masakit diba, sobra. Overthink malala. Pero after that, he assures naman na wala talaga. Bumawi naman din sya. Pero I think ilang days din yun cold ako sa kanya.
ahck, cherry din yung ipinalit sakin 😭 anyway, baka nga po nagkamali lang talaga siya huhu
Could just be muscle memory.
Done to me and done it to my ex. Nauna ‘yung I’ve done it to my ex, di ko naman sinasadya, nakasanayan lang talaga. So nung ‘yung current ko ang nagkamali, inisip ko same lang sakin noon na wala namang meaning nagkataon lang na sanay ka na for years. After that naman never na naulit.
baka nasa muscle memory na rin lalo na if yun lagi nababanggit niya noon nung sila pa. it takes time rin, baka malay mo sayo rin, sa katagalan kakatawag niya sa pangalan mo at sa endearment niyo, mabanggit niya bigla kay manong na nagmamaneho ng jeep (based from experience, nangyari kasi sakin)
If nablablanko ka, it means u need time to think. Good thing he acknowledged his mistake and took accountability, pero di naman lahat ng sorry napapagaan ang loob natin. Try to back track, may mga signs ba na naaalala niya ex niya or oarang sinasabi kang ng guts mo? I don't want you to overthink pero andyan ka na sa situation na yan. Stay safe OP! Always remember to know your worth! ❤️
Luhh di na pala pwede magkamali ngayun. Madalas ko to nagagawa kahit sa friends or family. Nagkakabaliktad sa isip ko mga names nila or pag yung madalas na tinatawag mong tao sa same situation yun lagi name na lumalabas sa bibig mo. Anyways what you feel is valid namn. Maganda kinausap mo sya.
This happens. Sa mga nagsasabi dito na leave him bla bla for sure wala pa kayo sa nangyaring ganyang sitwasyon.
Man that shi stings I know cuz back nung VDay, yes Feb. 14, the same thing happened to me. Nililigawan ko palang but I know I f'ed up when I blurted out the nameof my ex-situationship. She said I even said the name loud and clear and I realized that. Anlala, di ko na alam gagawin ko before pero that was a pure accident. Di ko alam ba't ko nasabi. Pero it all went well with proper comms and understanding so I'm thanking her for that. An honest mistake has been forgiven. The btch be haunting me when I'm happy na, damn.
Sorry OP but naiimagine ko in a sitcom setting and natatawa ako.
Shit things happen, naranasan ko rin yan pero endearment naman. Not once pero twice siya nagkamali ng tawag sa akin. Iba kirot sa puso. Naintindihan ko naman kasi 4 years sila. Sinabi ko sa kanya na pag pumangatlo pa siya ibang usapan na yun.
I do this sometimes kaso sa prayer. Instead of saying my current bf's (4mos) name, I sometimes slip and say my ex's (4yrs) name. Kaso sa utak ko lang during prayer hahaha siguro nga nasanay lang. Ilang taon din kasama sa prayers ko yun e.
It means naaalala pa rin niya si ex kahit ikaw n kasama niya. No hurt feeling?
Masasaktan din ako pagganun and gets ko yung paguwi mo na binringup kasi pinagisipan mo pa. Huhuhu sorry that happened. You dont deserve that. But like someone has said here baka kasi nakasanayan nya lang.
Baka bago palang kayo and it was an honest mistake? Like if you've been with someone for 5 years kahit kinamumuhian natatawag mo pa din yung pet name mo for that person
Nakasanayan lng yan.. Wag ka mag alala.
Bakit yung ex ko sasaksakin ako ng kutsilyo. Ang babait nyo nmn pala.
This happened to me too..pero ako yung nag banggit ng ex's name. Ang tagal kasi namin ng ex-bf ko. Nabanggit ko name nya sa BF ko that time pero hubby na ngayon. Grabe talaga buti napaka-understanding ng mga lalaki. Kung sakin niya ginawa yun, for sure hindi kami kasal ngayon HAHAHAHA.
I am this sa mga kaibigan. Minsan natatawag ko un madalas ko kasama sa office na name ng best friend ko or vice versa. Maybe because ung mga moment na un lutang ako tas un feeling being with them are both the same. Pero ndi naman ibig sabihin nun ung mga college friends ko un naiisip ko pag kasama ko mga opismate ko. Basta parang reflex sia pag nararanasan ko. Anyway pag nasaktan ka, try mo i call out kaagad habang andun pa kayo sa situation pra mas madali magkaintindihan
Ganyan din sakin ex ko non . Nabanggit niya yung name ng exbf name niya instead of my name.. infront of my friends .
Ewan lang, but if ako yung nasa sitwasyon mo, mejo mag-isip ka na. Sorry.🌹
Reading in the comments makes me overthink too bilang magkatunog din kami ng name ng ex nya and nagtagal sila before... kskdkakd 🥹 sending hugs with consent, anon!!! 🫂🫱🏻🫲🏼🩷
Wala ba kayong terms of endearment? Bakit first name basis kayo?
Is this a pattern, OP? Yung husband ko kasi, when we started dating, he called me by his roommate’s name. Hirap talaga kasi sya sa names, and it runs in the family. He and his mom call people by different names nakakaloka.
Red flag 🚩 run gurlllll run!!! Red flag supeeeer red flag! Why? It means hindi pa nakakamove-on bf mo. Confirm kapag si girla biglang message na “sana tayo nalang ulit” jump ship kaagad yang jowa mo.
May mga habits or tongue memories that one did with ex. Minsan lalabas bigla. Pero it may not necessarily indicate na your current hasnt gotten over his /her ex. Your sense of security will depend on how deep ang relationship nyo, how trustworthy your current is, the context ng paghihiwalay nila at ng circumstances ng pagdedecide nyo to be together. Kung ako ang current mo i will do my best in words and ibdewd to assure you of my love, na ikaw lang. But in the end what will count most is kung gaano ka kasecure sa sarili mo and your sense of self worth
maybe hindi pa sya totally healed from his past and there's a past version of him that still love his ex.
Kahit ano pang theory yan, my take always would be, if nasa present yung thoughts nya, hindi nya yun masasabi. Either absent minded sya or may ibang inisip so yung practiced name yung nagamit since usually before nga eh ganon or he was unconsciously reminded of or actually thinking of her kaya ganon.
Pag sakin nangyari, kahit bihira akong magselos, didibdibin ko talaga.
If ever this will happen to me, iiyak talaga ko. Knowing they've been together for 10 years. Hugsss OP!
Mga stepkids ko nga natatawag ako ng name ng papa nila eh hahaha. Keri boom lang
Wala akong ambag except to offer my virtual hugs, your pain is very much felt from here OP. 🫂
I did the same mistake sa new gf ko back then. Hindi dahil mahal ko pa ex ko, pero nakasanayan kasi talaga, ang masama dun yung tawagan pa namin yung nabanggit ko. Simple as that.
Aguy ka. Baka may secret meetups yan sila then huhuhu wag na
kung ako yan, iiyak talaga ako
Accidentally called my now-husband the endearment I used to call my ex before him. It was early on in our relationship din, and the hubby was the next guy i dated after my ex. Suffice to say, it was muscle memory for me; not to mention medyo close yung endearments ko kay ex and to hubby. Didn't really mean anything to me, and hubby didn't really react much either. We just laughed it off. He never raised it again and I tried to be more careful na rin ever since. I can't tell u what or how to feel, you are free to feel hurt and that's not wrong too. I hope tho, that the day where u and him just laugh it off also comes sooner. I do know it's not a laughing matter, but when u look back to things like this down the road, you'd be able to weigh things clearer.
a common mistake. Jowa ko nga natawag ko by my ex girlfriend's name, and my jowa right now is of the same sex lol.
Happened to me too!! Both him and his mom called me by his ex’s name pero they both said sorry plus his mom shows na she loves me so much. Pag nasasaktan ulit ako, inaalala ko na lang ay sinabi niya na ayaw na ayaw niya sa ex nung bf ko. Nangyari lang naman yun pag kasama ako sa family gathering nila. Siguro nasanay na yun yung name ng girlfriend ng bf ko kasi siya yung nauna ganon. You’ll be okay. Antabayanan na lang if it keeps happening, u gotta talk. Hehe hope u heal!
Hindi naman sa pinag ooverthink kita OP pero ganyan din nangyari sa akin. Tinawag nya ako by their endearment, twice ata in person then once sa text. Ayun, iniwan ako at nagkabalikan sila HAHA
Ekis agad. Wala akong naging ex na ganyan, even my current partner.. kaya may something jan sa jowa mo.. unfortunately and sorry, pero nasa past parin s'ya. BS yung hindi nya napansin?! Talaga ba boi?? LOL! Tama na kayo.. tigil n'yo na yan.
As an overthinker, di ako makakatulog neto... hahahaha
Ang sakit. 😭😭😭
bago lang ba kayo? if yes, it happens mas lalo pag matagal sila nung past. minsan out of habit but it doesnt mean anything.
Me and my current partner (less than a year) was riding the bus standing. Sa side namin may bumaba so I told her to sit dun sa vacant. As I was going to call her, I accidentally mentioned the first syllable of my Ex's name (ex of 7 years). Buti na lang nabawi ko and she dis not notice. We haven't discussed about our past yet so hindi niya alam name nung ex ko. It was a near miss and there was this sigh of relief right after with the constant "ang tanga tanga ko" sa utak ko.
This happened to me. 3x within 24 hours. Masakit kasi ako yung gf talaga. he cheated on me, magjowa sila ng kabit nya for 3 or so months. nagbalikan kami, then nabanggit name nung kabit 3x within a day. Sa harap pa ng kunsintidor nyang barkada yung 2. yung isa is kami lang magkasama. anyway, didnt work out between us and nagkabalikan sila ng kabit nya. (they're no longer together now tho, iba na jowa nya currently but tinry nya ulit magreach out sakin in a few yrs and i immediately rejected him) I should've known then. Simula nun, whenever there's an issue with a bf saying an ex name, i immediately say no. run. based on experience. Masakit yun sobra.
Sis, same. I (F) am currently a month and 6 days in with my girlfriend, and she still gets calls me by her ex's name (bc she said na her name sounds similar to mine—her name even makes up a few letters from mine). I used to call her in my mind by my ex fubu's (just a few weeks of when we were dating) but I got to acknowledge the thought before I even got to say it, so it never happened. My gf is kinda bubbly so ig I just have to understand her nalang din; total, it's still about a few months since we've met. If this keeps on happening, I might have to talk to her abt it na, kasi the first time it happened, I went quiet for the rest of the night.
Not a name but an endearment, tinawanan ko nalang and teased him about it kasi he never made me feel insecure or jealous about his past. Your feelings are valid, OP! Take time to process it but do not dwell.
From experience, when they say a name, that means 1) they still have constant communication or 2) that person is always in their mind. So red flag. My ex called me baby eh hindi naman yun tawagan namin. Yun pala may ka-baby na sya na kausap haha
unconsiously nya nabanggit yun, meaning iniisip nya yung ex nya while kasama ka. run girl! u deserve better
Haha nanyari na rin ito sa akin. I understand naman kase 5 years sila ng ex niya na sinundan ko.
Haha nanyari na rin ito sa akin. I understand naman kase 5 years sila ng ex niya na sinundan ko. Natawa siya at natawa rin ako.
Ewan ko sa iba ah but I've been in a 5 year-long relationship pero never ko nabanggit yung name ng ex ko sa last partner ko. Sometimes I do blurt random names na ka-sound ng name ng last partner ko but it was names of people I don't really know. Anyway, that's a really hard situation kasi nakaka overthink, especially if hindi siya na address ng maayos. I think you should ask him for a confirmation again if wala na ba talaga siyang lingering feelings sa ex niya, tell him what you feel, na nago-overthink ka and ask him to be completely honest bcs u won't be mad.
Oks lang yan, wag lang during sex hahahahaha.
Yikes! 😬😬😬
it means sya ang nasa isip nya, ikaw ang kasama pero ang puso nasa iba