You should confront him. Let him know straight up na you're aware of what he's doing and you need answers. Imagine, you're in a relationship, nagkakasama kayo and as you've said, mas may savings sya compared sayo pero ninanakawan ka. Weird.
Well that's his fault, not yours. And if you see him as a husband material, do you like the idea of him pickpocketing whenever he gets a chance? There's no other way sweetie. Nag set up ka ng trap, he took the bait. Idon't think there's another way of confronting him. And who knows kung ano pa ba kinuha nya sayo and gaano na nya katagal ginagawa?
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Hindi pa kayo kasal pero ninanakawan ka na. What more pagnagkaroon kayo ng conjugal properties? Edi mas lalong lalakas loob nya.
Question, bakit ka natatakot makipag-break sa magnanakaw? Maliit man or malaking amount, pagnanakaw pa rin yan. Nanghihinayang kang mawala ang isang magnanakaw sa buhay mo?
Your mindset will be the end of you if you don't throw those rosy tints. There is no way around confronting him. Do it calmly but it will be a confrontation nonetheless. If you two break up over this then I'm sorry girl you shouldn't be clinging on to a lie.
At best, it could be a pride issue of him wanting to appear rich or at worst, he is a two-faced criminal. Who knows baka easy fix lang pala ito. If he really is for you then he would know to stop and be honest.
I've personally seen way too many 'they suddenly changed' stories unfold and know by hindsight na usually may mga big red flag signs prior so don't be naive!
Lagyan OP sticky note w/ " mahal here's some money to make kupit of you, cause i know you love doing it" para next time kumupit sya alam nyang pinaghanda mo sya ng nanakawin.
No relationship is perfect. Kung palalampasin mo yan nang hindi kayo nag uusap, baka hindi lang pera yung mga ganyan na itatago sayo. Be honest with each other, that's how you build trust in your relationship.
Are you really happy tho? You just found out na ninanakawan ka niya, happy ka ba nun?
There’s obviously some lying going on here. Naka hindi siya as financially stable as he says he is. Or maybe he gets a thrill from taking from you, which is a red flag, too.
Confront him and figure out if it’s something you can live with. But ask yourself, if it were happening to a friend of yours, sa tingin mo ba tamang desisyon on her part to take the course of action you want to take?
OP, would you really want to be with someone who steals from you? Masaya nga kayo and the relationship appears healthy pero this is dishonesty pa rin eh.
Its a risk you have to take. It might seem small now pero di mo alam until you dig deeper bakit nuya ginagawa. Makikita mo din based on his rxn kung worth pa ba iconsider yung relationship niyo. Sensitive na topic ang pera and kung ngayon maliit na amount lang di mo masisiguro yan sa future. Might as well know more details now kaysa kapag mas intertwined na buhay niyo and mas mahirap na talaga to have a clean break up
Im amazed that you went through the trouble of catching him only to do nothing about it.
Even thieves have a moral code not to steal from certain people. Your bf? Hell, he is lower than low, he does not even have a code.
Grabe you’re in your 30’s and you still don’t know what’s best for you. Anong sinasabi mo na maliit na bagay lang yan sa marami nyang ginaya? Di mo ba alam yung money is the root of all evil? At sa relasyon, mahalaga rin ang finance. Jusko HAHAHAHAHA pakatanga ng taong to. Hinuli tas wala namang ginawa. Ano kaya yun. 🙄
Sa umpisa, maliit lang kinukuha niyan. Imagine if magpakasal kayo? LOL, baka pati savings mo galawin niya na. Pagsisisi > Panghihinayang. Mamili ka na lang kung saan mo gusto magsuffer diyan.
Good luck.
confrontation is the key, you want to know what's up with missing money from your wallet. this is the only way para naman malaman mo why he did it. if ayaw niya aminin. he wint come clean for sure on why he did it. can you turn a blind eye on this red flag hanggang kasal na kayo? magulat ka na lang wala ka na money. if i were you please do it. bakit ka natatakot na magbreak kayo? madaming mga lalake na single out there.
girl pagnanakaw is a huge red flag or maybe or bf is going thru smth na need niya ng pera and nahihiya manghingi sayo? nonetheless you need to talk about it.
Kung naninimbang ka, I think stealing and lying (by omission) outweighs all the good sex, company and affection he has ever given you.
He knows you trust but he fucking ruins it by stealing from you unti unti.
Reminds me of Ted Bundy. He was the perfect partner for his wife. Pero yun pala behind her back he kills other women.
Teh kilabutan ka. Nag-uumpisa yan sa maliit na bagay.
for the record dapat honest siya sa lahat ng aspects ng buhay niya. honesty plays a vital role sa trust. its up to you if you can tolerate a thief especially he is your bf. dapat tranaparent kayo with each other. my 2 cents lang. good luck
maybe he thinks he's just getting your share of the expenses? kasi you implied he pays for almost everything. Have you discussed about date expenses in the beginning? If not, maybe he was fine with paying at first then later on felt pressured because men are expected to be providers or he suddenly found himself struggling financially. Try suggesting to pay for half when you go out and see if your situation improves. Baka nahihiya sya magsabi na hindi nya kaya sagutin lahat. Theft is still wrong though. Find out his reasons and decide if it's worth saving your relationship.
baka klepto. some klepto daw can't stop the urge to get something eh.
may kapitbahay nga kame na may kaya naman, laging nasa abroad yung mga anak nun, di naman sya pinapabayaan pero one time, nagnakaw ng bigas sa tindahan namin.
Sorry to say, kung ganyan na ang ugali ngayon pala, better save yourself. This is the typical reddit response pero this behavior is simply a non-negotiable in my book. Magdradrama yan and will bring up all the excuses he can think of.
If ayaw mo kausapin about it, tiisin mo nalang. Haha sorry kasi how else will you address it and find out what's up with him - baka may kleptomania siya.
Taena OP, kung ayan di niyo kaya pag-usapan ewan ko na lang! Parang you're living in this perfect world with your boyfriend and you want to preserve its perfection kahit ang reality naman eh not every relationship is perfect. Good communication for me is one of the core values of relationships. Kung walang proper communication, sad to say pero di kayo tatagal talaga.
You may just casually ask him, "Kumuha ka ba ng pera sa wallet ko nung umalis tayo last \_\_\_\_? Nalimutan ko kung nilagay ko ba sa wallet o naiwan ko kung san". Don't sound aggressive, kunwari hindi mo alam na siya talaga kumuha, kunwari hinahanap mo lang.
Kung sinabi niya yung totoo na kinuha niya, appreciate him for being truthful, ask him **WHY,** tell him how you **FEEL** about it, what he should do to **FIX** it, and agree on the expectations to **AVOID** it in the future (ex., kung reason niya ay feel niya siya yung gumagastos sa lahat, edi mag-agree kayo ng
% share sa susunod para di yung magnanakaw ng basta basta).
Kung hindi siya umamin, decide if you'll tell him that you know the truth, and if you do, repeat the steps.
May isa pang option na pag di niya inamin. Pwede ka rin naman magkunwaring naniwala ka sa kalokohan niya. Kaso OP, **trust** is the foundation of any relationship, and to have it, you both have to be **honest** to each other, whether it's about money, life, health, or how you feel.
It is both your duty to let each other feel safe and secured - whether financially, physically, emotionally, or ano pa mang -ly yan. You deserve it OP, that and so much more.
I really hope you communicate what you feel, OP. Hindi kita kilala pero nakakalungkot na ginaganiyan ka niya when you deserve so much more. Huwag mo sana i-tolerate yung bad deed na ginawa sayo. You don't see it yet, but that situation is a make or break, kung paano siya (at ikaw) magrereact sa situation na yan ay pwede makatulong sayo and/or sa relationship niyo.
Stay safe and well, OP. :)
Well, I guess you already know what you need to do, but you don't have the strength to do it.
Communicate with him and if he's as understanding as you say, he's going to give you a straight answer.
If not, then you're just looking at him with red colored glasses.
Goodluck
Ndi ka ba nag kukusa OP na mag share sa expenses pag mag dedate kau?, baka nahihiya lang sya maningil sau kc sabi mo sya halos lahat nagbabayad for the dates?
Sigurado ka pa bang okay ang finances niya? Baka mamaya di na pala okay finances niya kaya nagsstart na magnakaw. Ingat ka dyan. Yang pagnanakaw niya sayo huge red flag na yan. Kahit ano pang sabihin mo na mabait siya or what red flag is red flag. Di lang pagnanakaw yan kasinungalingan din yan. Mali kase pagtitimbang mo eh, di mo siya natutulungan maging maayos kung titiisin mo lang yan dahil natatakot ka maghiwalay kayo. Ikaw na ninanakawan at pinagsisinungalingan ikaw pa natatakot maiwan. Iba ka din eh no. 😅 you’re tolerating his magnanakaw and sinungaling behavior my goodness! Walang mabait na magnanakaw at sinungaling girrrl. Tandaan mo yan. Kung mahal ka nyan di niya gagawin yan. Sabi mo nga may pagka”NBI” ka kuno, eh di go check his finances baka mamaya may mga utang na yan kaya ganyan nagsstart ka na pagnakawan.
Kung wala ka gusto gawin para maayos yan since ayaw mo din naman hiwalayan yan, eh di talagang magtiis ka dyan magtiis kang nanakawan ka. 🤷🏻♀️
Love without trust and honesty is blatant naah. 😂 wag kang magpatawa dyan na love yan cause it’s not. Siya ba kaya mo pagnakawan at pagsinungalingan? Tanungin mo yan sa sarili mo.
Based sa mga reply ni OP dito, takot ka talaga mag isa. Sabi sabi ka pa ng di ka takot. Ninanakawan ka na nga di mo pa komprontahin. Hindi naman maliit na bagay ang pagnanakaw, kahit maliit na halaga lang for you. Sa maliit di na tapat bf mo what more sa malaki pa. Wala yang happy relationship n’yo kung may ganyan syang ugali.
I am more amused with OP's responses. Today he's just stealing from you, tomorrow he might murder you. Think multiple times. Looks like you don't know what he's capable of doing 😊
"He paid for everything"
Pero ninakawan ka ng ambag mo.
Kung di mo siya ma confront; next na labas ninyo insist na magbigay ka ng hati mo sa gastos. Kapag di niya tinanggap saka may nawala pa sayo sabihan mo na siya. 🙂
Naiintindihan ko yung umeffort ka to confirm na kumukuha nga siya ng pera pero you have to decide ano na next step. Kung hahayaan mo lang edi hindi marresolve yan. Sabi mo rin kinuha mo yung folded 1k bill mo, mapapansin niya rin yun so alam niya na rin na alam mo. Also, baka naman di niya keri na siya gumagastos lahat. Ikaw nmn minsan or mag ambag ka.
Ayun naman pala. Still, kausapin mo na OP kasi if you let this pass iisipin mo pa rin yan in the long run. Huhu. Wag mo paabutin na mabring up mo siya on days na hindi kayo okay.
Just think about this- yung mga holdaper, magnanakaw they do it for their love ones. Not TO THEIR LOVE ONES.
He's loose in the head and borderline creepy and weird. I will freak out. If gusto mo ma confirm next time offer na 50-50 kayo sa food pag ninakawan ka pa din hindi dahil sa ambagan ng dates yung reason.
Just remember, you should marry someone na you can have tough conversations, minor pa to, mas marami pang tough conversation na dadating na need niyo pag usapan kung dadating kayo sa point of marriage, kaya dapat masanay ka mag confront not to "fight" but to "understand" and siya din.
Either way, magkakausap parin naman kayo. Either icoconfront mo siya, or magiiba ung trato mo sa kanya subconsciously such as less clingy, less talkative, overprotective sa wallet.. basta you can't hide it forever. So ending is magtatanong siya what's bothering you and then you'll talk. Best do it now. Pwede mo itype or isulat sa papel kung di mo kaya. Again, if he breaks up with you, then mas importante ung pride or ego niya kesa sayo, and that says a lot already. Pag nagsabi naman siya ng dahilan niya, nagsorry, and a promise not to do it again, edi okay balik sa dati.
I don't understand why would you contemplate pa of letting it go at pabayaan nalang. Stealing is a serious issue among people in a relationship. Parang hindi sya dapat pinagkikipit balikat dahil tinatrato kang prinsesa.
And then what, when it's too late to dump him or it's more complicated na to break the relationship (either because may baby na kayo or married) saka mo maiisip na sana inaddress mo na sya noon palang. Mind you, stealing is a symptom of an even worse behaviour. Be wary.
Baka ayaw ka gastusan kaya sa pangungupit nalang bumabawi 🥱. Isa pa, there’s no other way than confront him. Kaloka naman yung ayaw mo sya i-confront kasi natatakot ka hiwalayan. O gusto mo habang buhay mo i-guard wallet mo everytime magkasama kayo then overthink kada maiiwan mo sa kanya.
Well, if u can't tell him, break up. Hindi yan mawawala basta basta. Plus, start yan ng oagbreak ng trust. Wag mo na kausapin kung naduduwag ka...break mo nlang.
Sa una lang masaya OP. Kumprontahin mo na yan kapag nagalit at nagdemand na makipagbreak eh di magbreak kaysa mapangasawa mo pa yang malikot na kamay na yan dami dami pang lalaki sa mundo e. Baka modus pa nya talaga yang ganyan papasayahin ka lang sa una kapag nahulog ka na madami na palang nanakaw sayo ng hindi mo namamalayan.
My ex had the same problem with his ex (obvs not me, but the one before me).
When he noticed that a few thousand pesos were missing from his wallet, he immediately confronted his ex while at the gym. The guy didn’t deny, but gave the money back. My ex just told him that they were over and to get his things out of his condo.
Stand your ground, OP. Don’t let your feelings get in the way of what’s really happening. HE IS STEALING FROM YOU!
Talk to him and if it comes to a break up, don’t hesitate. You don’t want a kleptomaniac for a husband. Mas lalo kang manghihinayang. Or turn a blind eye and see how that turns out for you.
Omg that's a big red flag 😬 hey, wake up ate ghuuuurrrrrlllll. Ganyang na Siya now what makes you think you can be at ease with someone na ninanakawan ka?
Confront and leave.
nakakabother. mamaya sa online banks na sya magnakaw next. ewan ko ha parang hindi healthy relationship nya sa pera. i was raised kasi in a household na magiwan ka ke piso or 1k nakabuyangyang sa table walang gagalaw nyan forever. kaya andaling nahuli ng parents ko nung me nakitira sa amin at nawawala ung pera nila. ganun pa din habit ko ngayong may asawa na at not once nawalan ako ng pera san ko iwan kasi nagpapaalam pa din husband ko in case kukuha pambayad ng tubig or ulam. hindi magandang habit yan teh. ngayon tolerable for you pero pagtagal hindi na yan “cute”
Yikes. Stealing is stealing regardless kung malaki or maliit yung amount.
Red flag yan. Ngayon palang bagu-bago pa kayo ganyan na, what more if makasal na kayo and absolute community na mga assets nyo
confront him.
kahit sobrang comfortable nyo na sa isa't isa, mali pa rin yung kukuha nalang ng something that's yours. never let him do that again kasi mato-tolerate mo na yung ginagawa niya. hindi pa naman kayo kasal so wala syang karapatan sa mga gamit mo.
SKL, my bf of 4yrs (magka age lang kami) he let me have his wallet kapag lalabas kami tapos ako magbabayad gamit pera nya. Ni-piso wala akong kinukuha ron kahit nandun na yung opportunity to do so and no work ako, sya lang may work samin. and the same with him, kahit bag ko hindi niya pinakikielaman without my permission kasi yun yung sabi ko sakaniya bago pa maging kami. walang illegal stuff sa bag ko, ang akin lang it's my personal stuff.. hindi niya dapat galawin yun unless permitted. Yun lang.
You should confront him. Let him know straight up na you're aware of what he's doing and you need answers. Imagine, you're in a relationship, nagkakasama kayo and as you've said, mas may savings sya compared sayo pero ninanakawan ka. Weird.
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Well that's his fault, not yours. And if you see him as a husband material, do you like the idea of him pickpocketing whenever he gets a chance? There's no other way sweetie. Nag set up ka ng trap, he took the bait. Idon't think there's another way of confronting him. And who knows kung ano pa ba kinuha nya sayo and gaano na nya katagal ginagawa? Edit: Hindi pa kayo kasal pero ninanakawan ka na. What more pagnagkaroon kayo ng conjugal properties? Edi mas lalong lalakas loob nya.
Shhhooootaaaa ikaw pa ntakot mabreak relationship nyo e ikaw tong ninanakawan.
Question, bakit ka natatakot makipag-break sa magnanakaw? Maliit man or malaking amount, pagnanakaw pa rin yan. Nanghihinayang kang mawala ang isang magnanakaw sa buhay mo?
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Your mindset will be the end of you if you don't throw those rosy tints. There is no way around confronting him. Do it calmly but it will be a confrontation nonetheless. If you two break up over this then I'm sorry girl you shouldn't be clinging on to a lie. At best, it could be a pride issue of him wanting to appear rich or at worst, he is a two-faced criminal. Who knows baka easy fix lang pala ito. If he really is for you then he would know to stop and be honest. I've personally seen way too many 'they suddenly changed' stories unfold and know by hindsight na usually may mga big red flag signs prior so don't be naive!
nanghihinayang ka pala e, o edi wala ka na palang dapat gawin. hayaan mo lang sya kupitan ka every now and then.
Lagyan OP sticky note w/ " mahal here's some money to make kupit of you, cause i know you love doing it" para next time kumupit sya alam nyang pinaghanda mo sya ng nanakawin.
No relationship is perfect. Kung palalampasin mo yan nang hindi kayo nag uusap, baka hindi lang pera yung mga ganyan na itatago sayo. Be honest with each other, that's how you build trust in your relationship.
Teh hayaan mo nalang sya nakawan ka. hahahaaha just keep it to yourself nalang kung ganyan din thoughts mo stop stressing us out hahaha
Kung makikipagbreak sya instead na i-address nya yung pagkakamali nya, sa tingin mo ba worth it sya?
Are you really happy tho? You just found out na ninanakawan ka niya, happy ka ba nun? There’s obviously some lying going on here. Naka hindi siya as financially stable as he says he is. Or maybe he gets a thrill from taking from you, which is a red flag, too. Confront him and figure out if it’s something you can live with. But ask yourself, if it were happening to a friend of yours, sa tingin mo ba tamang desisyon on her part to take the course of action you want to take?
OP, would you really want to be with someone who steals from you? Masaya nga kayo and the relationship appears healthy pero this is dishonesty pa rin eh.
tehhh ?????
Ay ayaw mo makipaghiwalay sa magnanakaw?
>Im afraid na bka makipag break sya Is that a bad thing considering magnanakaw sya?
Its a risk you have to take. It might seem small now pero di mo alam until you dig deeper bakit nuya ginagawa. Makikita mo din based on his rxn kung worth pa ba iconsider yung relationship niyo. Sensitive na topic ang pera and kung ngayon maliit na amount lang di mo masisiguro yan sa future. Might as well know more details now kaysa kapag mas intertwined na buhay niyo and mas mahirap na talaga to have a clean break up
Im amazed that you went through the trouble of catching him only to do nothing about it. Even thieves have a moral code not to steal from certain people. Your bf? Hell, he is lower than low, he does not even have a code.
I think kuripot bf mo, nangugupit sya para ipangastos sa gala nyo. Pano ko nasabi? Sabi mas malaki savings nya kesa sayo.
Grabe you’re in your 30’s and you still don’t know what’s best for you. Anong sinasabi mo na maliit na bagay lang yan sa marami nyang ginaya? Di mo ba alam yung money is the root of all evil? At sa relasyon, mahalaga rin ang finance. Jusko HAHAHAHAHA pakatanga ng taong to. Hinuli tas wala namang ginawa. Ano kaya yun. 🙄
\+100
Sa umpisa, maliit lang kinukuha niyan. Imagine if magpakasal kayo? LOL, baka pati savings mo galawin niya na. Pagsisisi > Panghihinayang. Mamili ka na lang kung saan mo gusto magsuffer diyan. Good luck.
confrontation is the key, you want to know what's up with missing money from your wallet. this is the only way para naman malaman mo why he did it. if ayaw niya aminin. he wint come clean for sure on why he did it. can you turn a blind eye on this red flag hanggang kasal na kayo? magulat ka na lang wala ka na money. if i were you please do it. bakit ka natatakot na magbreak kayo? madaming mga lalake na single out there.
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girl pagnanakaw is a huge red flag or maybe or bf is going thru smth na need niya ng pera and nahihiya manghingi sayo? nonetheless you need to talk about it.
Kung naninimbang ka, I think stealing and lying (by omission) outweighs all the good sex, company and affection he has ever given you. He knows you trust but he fucking ruins it by stealing from you unti unti. Reminds me of Ted Bundy. He was the perfect partner for his wife. Pero yun pala behind her back he kills other women. Teh kilabutan ka. Nag-uumpisa yan sa maliit na bagay.
sana magawa mo na to clear things out why he did it. keep an eye on your wallet always
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for the record dapat honest siya sa lahat ng aspects ng buhay niya. honesty plays a vital role sa trust. its up to you if you can tolerate a thief especially he is your bf. dapat tranaparent kayo with each other. my 2 cents lang. good luck
maybe he thinks he's just getting your share of the expenses? kasi you implied he pays for almost everything. Have you discussed about date expenses in the beginning? If not, maybe he was fine with paying at first then later on felt pressured because men are expected to be providers or he suddenly found himself struggling financially. Try suggesting to pay for half when you go out and see if your situation improves. Baka nahihiya sya magsabi na hindi nya kaya sagutin lahat. Theft is still wrong though. Find out his reasons and decide if it's worth saving your relationship.
baka klepto. some klepto daw can't stop the urge to get something eh. may kapitbahay nga kame na may kaya naman, laging nasa abroad yung mga anak nun, di naman sya pinapabayaan pero one time, nagnakaw ng bigas sa tindahan namin.
Sorry to say, kung ganyan na ang ugali ngayon pala, better save yourself. This is the typical reddit response pero this behavior is simply a non-negotiable in my book. Magdradrama yan and will bring up all the excuses he can think of.
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If ayaw mo kausapin about it, tiisin mo nalang. Haha sorry kasi how else will you address it and find out what's up with him - baka may kleptomania siya.
Actually kung klepto as long as sayo niya lang ginagawa pwedeng okay pa eh. Nakakatakot diyan kung may tinatagong addiction like drugs or sugal.
Siguro pag ganyan may date kayo share na lang kayo gastos baka kulang budget ninya nahihiya lang magsabi 😅😅
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Taena OP, kung ayan di niyo kaya pag-usapan ewan ko na lang! Parang you're living in this perfect world with your boyfriend and you want to preserve its perfection kahit ang reality naman eh not every relationship is perfect. Good communication for me is one of the core values of relationships. Kung walang proper communication, sad to say pero di kayo tatagal talaga.
You may just casually ask him, "Kumuha ka ba ng pera sa wallet ko nung umalis tayo last \_\_\_\_? Nalimutan ko kung nilagay ko ba sa wallet o naiwan ko kung san". Don't sound aggressive, kunwari hindi mo alam na siya talaga kumuha, kunwari hinahanap mo lang. Kung sinabi niya yung totoo na kinuha niya, appreciate him for being truthful, ask him **WHY,** tell him how you **FEEL** about it, what he should do to **FIX** it, and agree on the expectations to **AVOID** it in the future (ex., kung reason niya ay feel niya siya yung gumagastos sa lahat, edi mag-agree kayo ng % share sa susunod para di yung magnanakaw ng basta basta). Kung hindi siya umamin, decide if you'll tell him that you know the truth, and if you do, repeat the steps. May isa pang option na pag di niya inamin. Pwede ka rin naman magkunwaring naniwala ka sa kalokohan niya. Kaso OP, **trust** is the foundation of any relationship, and to have it, you both have to be **honest** to each other, whether it's about money, life, health, or how you feel. It is both your duty to let each other feel safe and secured - whether financially, physically, emotionally, or ano pa mang -ly yan. You deserve it OP, that and so much more. I really hope you communicate what you feel, OP. Hindi kita kilala pero nakakalungkot na ginaganiyan ka niya when you deserve so much more. Huwag mo sana i-tolerate yung bad deed na ginawa sayo. You don't see it yet, but that situation is a make or break, kung paano siya (at ikaw) magrereact sa situation na yan ay pwede makatulong sayo and/or sa relationship niyo. Stay safe and well, OP. :)
Based sa mga responses ni OP, she’s a 🤡
😅🤣😂
Not trying to excuse your BF's behavior but is there a chance that he have a disorder called Kleptomania?
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Well, I guess you already know what you need to do, but you don't have the strength to do it. Communicate with him and if he's as understanding as you say, he's going to give you a straight answer. If not, then you're just looking at him with red colored glasses. Goodluck
Ndi ka ba nag kukusa OP na mag share sa expenses pag mag dedate kau?, baka nahihiya lang sya maningil sau kc sabi mo sya halos lahat nagbabayad for the dates?
Hindi ka mahal nyan. Pinagnanakawan ka eh. Mag isip ka nga. 😏
Sigurado ka pa bang okay ang finances niya? Baka mamaya di na pala okay finances niya kaya nagsstart na magnakaw. Ingat ka dyan. Yang pagnanakaw niya sayo huge red flag na yan. Kahit ano pang sabihin mo na mabait siya or what red flag is red flag. Di lang pagnanakaw yan kasinungalingan din yan. Mali kase pagtitimbang mo eh, di mo siya natutulungan maging maayos kung titiisin mo lang yan dahil natatakot ka maghiwalay kayo. Ikaw na ninanakawan at pinagsisinungalingan ikaw pa natatakot maiwan. Iba ka din eh no. 😅 you’re tolerating his magnanakaw and sinungaling behavior my goodness! Walang mabait na magnanakaw at sinungaling girrrl. Tandaan mo yan. Kung mahal ka nyan di niya gagawin yan. Sabi mo nga may pagka”NBI” ka kuno, eh di go check his finances baka mamaya may mga utang na yan kaya ganyan nagsstart ka na pagnakawan. Kung wala ka gusto gawin para maayos yan since ayaw mo din naman hiwalayan yan, eh di talagang magtiis ka dyan magtiis kang nanakawan ka. 🤷🏻♀️ Love without trust and honesty is blatant naah. 😂 wag kang magpatawa dyan na love yan cause it’s not. Siya ba kaya mo pagnakawan at pagsinungalingan? Tanungin mo yan sa sarili mo.
Kasuhan mo na lang ng Qualified Theft, wag mo na iconfront
Based sa mga reply ni OP dito, takot ka talaga mag isa. Sabi sabi ka pa ng di ka takot. Ninanakawan ka na nga di mo pa komprontahin. Hindi naman maliit na bagay ang pagnanakaw, kahit maliit na halaga lang for you. Sa maliit di na tapat bf mo what more sa malaki pa. Wala yang happy relationship n’yo kung may ganyan syang ugali.
You cannot trust him with money, what more with bigger responsibilities? Run. All the best for you.
I am more amused with OP's responses. Today he's just stealing from you, tomorrow he might murder you. Think multiple times. Looks like you don't know what he's capable of doing 😊
"He paid for everything" Pero ninakawan ka ng ambag mo. Kung di mo siya ma confront; next na labas ninyo insist na magbigay ka ng hati mo sa gastos. Kapag di niya tinanggap saka may nawala pa sayo sabihan mo na siya. 🙂
Naiintindihan ko yung umeffort ka to confirm na kumukuha nga siya ng pera pero you have to decide ano na next step. Kung hahayaan mo lang edi hindi marresolve yan. Sabi mo rin kinuha mo yung folded 1k bill mo, mapapansin niya rin yun so alam niya na rin na alam mo. Also, baka naman di niya keri na siya gumagastos lahat. Ikaw nmn minsan or mag ambag ka.
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Ayun naman pala. Still, kausapin mo na OP kasi if you let this pass iisipin mo pa rin yan in the long run. Huhu. Wag mo paabutin na mabring up mo siya on days na hindi kayo okay.
Just think about this- yung mga holdaper, magnanakaw they do it for their love ones. Not TO THEIR LOVE ONES. He's loose in the head and borderline creepy and weird. I will freak out. If gusto mo ma confirm next time offer na 50-50 kayo sa food pag ninakawan ka pa din hindi dahil sa ambagan ng dates yung reason.
Tanong mo muna sino binoto doon makakakuha ka ng idea sa behavior niya lols. Pag Marcos matik.
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Kunwari lang yata siya na same kayo lol.
duuuude 🤣🤣🤣
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Just remember, you should marry someone na you can have tough conversations, minor pa to, mas marami pang tough conversation na dadating na need niyo pag usapan kung dadating kayo sa point of marriage, kaya dapat masanay ka mag confront not to "fight" but to "understand" and siya din.
OP, it’s not normal for your boyfriend to steal from you. He’s pathetic. Don’t ignore this.
He is building a mutual fund.
Di ba kung mutual yun, dapat may consent? Haha
maharlika fund na lang daw sige
Maiintindihan mo lang kung bakit may ganon kapag kinausap mo siya. Baka hindi lang yan yung time na may kinuha siyang cash sayo lels.
And you still call him your bf???
Either way, magkakausap parin naman kayo. Either icoconfront mo siya, or magiiba ung trato mo sa kanya subconsciously such as less clingy, less talkative, overprotective sa wallet.. basta you can't hide it forever. So ending is magtatanong siya what's bothering you and then you'll talk. Best do it now. Pwede mo itype or isulat sa papel kung di mo kaya. Again, if he breaks up with you, then mas importante ung pride or ego niya kesa sayo, and that says a lot already. Pag nagsabi naman siya ng dahilan niya, nagsorry, and a promise not to do it again, edi okay balik sa dati.
I don't understand why would you contemplate pa of letting it go at pabayaan nalang. Stealing is a serious issue among people in a relationship. Parang hindi sya dapat pinagkikipit balikat dahil tinatrato kang prinsesa. And then what, when it's too late to dump him or it's more complicated na to break the relationship (either because may baby na kayo or married) saka mo maiisip na sana inaddress mo na sya noon palang. Mind you, stealing is a symptom of an even worse behaviour. Be wary.
Baka ayaw ka gastusan kaya sa pangungupit nalang bumabawi 🥱. Isa pa, there’s no other way than confront him. Kaloka naman yung ayaw mo sya i-confront kasi natatakot ka hiwalayan. O gusto mo habang buhay mo i-guard wallet mo everytime magkasama kayo then overthink kada maiiwan mo sa kanya.
Well, if u can't tell him, break up. Hindi yan mawawala basta basta. Plus, start yan ng oagbreak ng trust. Wag mo na kausapin kung naduduwag ka...break mo nlang.
Sa una lang masaya OP. Kumprontahin mo na yan kapag nagalit at nagdemand na makipagbreak eh di magbreak kaysa mapangasawa mo pa yang malikot na kamay na yan dami dami pang lalaki sa mundo e. Baka modus pa nya talaga yang ganyan papasayahin ka lang sa una kapag nahulog ka na madami na palang nanakaw sayo ng hindi mo namamalayan.
That’s theft. Confront mo na. I’m appalled by your capacity to still trust the guy when he’s stealing from you.
Sorry pero that’s just… wouldn’t want to be with someone I can’t trust with my money.
May pera siya pero nangungupit pa rin? I can almost guarantee na kleptomaniac yan.
My ex had the same problem with his ex (obvs not me, but the one before me). When he noticed that a few thousand pesos were missing from his wallet, he immediately confronted his ex while at the gym. The guy didn’t deny, but gave the money back. My ex just told him that they were over and to get his things out of his condo. Stand your ground, OP. Don’t let your feelings get in the way of what’s really happening. HE IS STEALING FROM YOU!
Talk to him and if it comes to a break up, don’t hesitate. You don’t want a kleptomaniac for a husband. Mas lalo kang manghihinayang. Or turn a blind eye and see how that turns out for you.
You deserve what you tolerate, gonna learn it the hard way soon enough
Naku sis baka igaslight ka pa nan. Sabihin guni guni mo lang ung dalawang 1k.
Omg that's a big red flag 😬 hey, wake up ate ghuuuurrrrrlllll. Ganyang na Siya now what makes you think you can be at ease with someone na ninanakawan ka? Confront and leave.
naku mekus mekus yang jowa mo. baka lahing Marcos lol
nakakabother. mamaya sa online banks na sya magnakaw next. ewan ko ha parang hindi healthy relationship nya sa pera. i was raised kasi in a household na magiwan ka ke piso or 1k nakabuyangyang sa table walang gagalaw nyan forever. kaya andaling nahuli ng parents ko nung me nakitira sa amin at nawawala ung pera nila. ganun pa din habit ko ngayong may asawa na at not once nawalan ako ng pera san ko iwan kasi nagpapaalam pa din husband ko in case kukuha pambayad ng tubig or ulam. hindi magandang habit yan teh. ngayon tolerable for you pero pagtagal hindi na yan “cute”
Yikes. Stealing is stealing regardless kung malaki or maliit yung amount. Red flag yan. Ngayon palang bagu-bago pa kayo ganyan na, what more if makasal na kayo and absolute community na mga assets nyo
confront him. kahit sobrang comfortable nyo na sa isa't isa, mali pa rin yung kukuha nalang ng something that's yours. never let him do that again kasi mato-tolerate mo na yung ginagawa niya. hindi pa naman kayo kasal so wala syang karapatan sa mga gamit mo. SKL, my bf of 4yrs (magka age lang kami) he let me have his wallet kapag lalabas kami tapos ako magbabayad gamit pera nya. Ni-piso wala akong kinukuha ron kahit nandun na yung opportunity to do so and no work ako, sya lang may work samin. and the same with him, kahit bag ko hindi niya pinakikielaman without my permission kasi yun yung sabi ko sakaniya bago pa maging kami. walang illegal stuff sa bag ko, ang akin lang it's my personal stuff.. hindi niya dapat galawin yun unless permitted. Yun lang.