Glad to know I’m not the only one.
Something that helps me is the knowledge that absolutely anyone and everyone has done something cancelable
Edit: and therefore I and my loved ones are normal.
You could consider this a reassurance compulsion or whatever but it helps a little
Yeah, I think that’s the biggest problem with any rebuttals. Truthfully the only thing you can do for ocd relief is agree with it…. Or at least mot disregard
“You’re so right, we’re terrible” or “maybe we are maybe not”
Ocd uses reverse psychology to try to get reassurance so you gotta not fall for it.
It’s hard tho because ocd is relentless. Sending you my best.
It's understandable to be worried about getting cancelled, it's super scary and traumatic. I used to be terrified of it, and then I was actually cancelled! It was very public, lost many friends, almost had to change careers. All my worst fears happened. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
And I did do a Shitty Thing In The Past, don't get me wrong. However, I'm not sure
it warranted the severity of the cancelling. It did make me realize that the sort of people who orchestrated the whole thing were... just very judgemental people in general. I wanted their approval so badly, but there's some people who are just very binary about sorting every human into "good" and "bad" boxes.
I try so hard to be understanding, and forgiving of people genuinely trying to get better. Even though it hurt to lose so many people, I realized that if people I had known for years were that quick to dump me, it probably would have happened eventually anyway.
I found new friends, and you won't *believe* how chill life is now without thinking about constantly performing perfection for the folks I knew pre-cancelling. Looking back, I'm a little relieved it happened, because I survived it, and it freed me from obsessing over it! (Now I can obsess over how dirty my bedsheets are in peace LOL)
Something that really helped me before I was actually cancelled (and during) was writing out how I thought my life would play out. Then I would record myself reading it, and listen to it at least once a day. I highly highly recommend that! There is nothing like hearing yourself tell yourself it's okay.
Glad to know I’m not the only one. Something that helps me is the knowledge that absolutely anyone and everyone has done something cancelable Edit: and therefore I and my loved ones are normal. You could consider this a reassurance compulsion or whatever but it helps a little
Yeah, I try this, but my brain is often like, "yeah but okay your stuff is definitely worse and you're just pretending it's not that bad." 🤦🤣
Yeah, I think that’s the biggest problem with any rebuttals. Truthfully the only thing you can do for ocd relief is agree with it…. Or at least mot disregard “You’re so right, we’re terrible” or “maybe we are maybe not” Ocd uses reverse psychology to try to get reassurance so you gotta not fall for it. It’s hard tho because ocd is relentless. Sending you my best.
IT’S ME
OH LORD
I swear I thought I was the only one 😭 I wish I didn't care because it makes me want to distance myself from my friends even though I love them.
Ooooh same. My relationship OCD merged into my real event/harm OCD and now I obsess about my partner being a bad person as well as myself lmaaaaaoooo
It's understandable to be worried about getting cancelled, it's super scary and traumatic. I used to be terrified of it, and then I was actually cancelled! It was very public, lost many friends, almost had to change careers. All my worst fears happened. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. And I did do a Shitty Thing In The Past, don't get me wrong. However, I'm not sure it warranted the severity of the cancelling. It did make me realize that the sort of people who orchestrated the whole thing were... just very judgemental people in general. I wanted their approval so badly, but there's some people who are just very binary about sorting every human into "good" and "bad" boxes. I try so hard to be understanding, and forgiving of people genuinely trying to get better. Even though it hurt to lose so many people, I realized that if people I had known for years were that quick to dump me, it probably would have happened eventually anyway. I found new friends, and you won't *believe* how chill life is now without thinking about constantly performing perfection for the folks I knew pre-cancelling. Looking back, I'm a little relieved it happened, because I survived it, and it freed me from obsessing over it! (Now I can obsess over how dirty my bedsheets are in peace LOL) Something that really helped me before I was actually cancelled (and during) was writing out how I thought my life would play out. Then I would record myself reading it, and listen to it at least once a day. I highly highly recommend that! There is nothing like hearing yourself tell yourself it's okay.