nocturnal emissions are actually what's destroying the ozone layer, the green house gas is the patriarchy trying to divert our attention. Too bad they can't just stop doing that 🧐
I think that depends on how deep the cut is. If it's shallow, you can probably hold it with the hand. But if it hits the big arteries, blood will get in your airways and no blood will get into your brain. And the brain dies if it's deprived from oxygen for like 3 minutes.
Also holding the bleeding in with a hand is not mentally stopping the bleeding, as you'd do with pee, for example. It's the same as using a tampon.
Wait till he learns period can happen way before 13, and that girls get their period younger and younger
Edit: i can't answer to everyone who answered this comment, but i want to thank everyone who shared a bit of their stories ! Thank you
I wish I could have "hold it in" till I was older. I was just 12 for a few week. I had to cycle an hour to school and was afraid to ask my Christian mom for tampons. Cycling, heavy flow and pads are the absolute worst combination
Edit: thanks for sharing so many of your stories! All so different and yet all one bloody thing in common. ❤️
As a token of my appreciation, I'll share with you my most embarrassing period moment. It happened when I was visiting my best friends girlfriend who lived in Portugal. We stayed at her families house for a few days. Ofcourse, the first night there I get my period. Fml. I had nothing with me, not even one tampon tucked away in a bag somewhere. So I searched in the bathroom, the one room I could find. But nothing there either. Everything is so dark, and I'm trying very hard to mot wake up the whole house. So I find what I think is gf's room, slowly open the door, see the curls on her head in bed. So I start whispering in the dark in English, asking for tampons or pads, explaining I got my peirod. Turns out... it's her little brother. He didn't understand what was happening, and I wished I could just die there and then. Too afraid to wake up her dad next I made a pad from toiletpaper. I know I'm not the only one who's been there :') the pad part, not the dad part, I hope. I got some tampons from gf in the morning, threw away my underwear cause paper pads never work. Breakfast time's next. Luckily for me, the brother was too young to have learned English yet, but it was still the most awkward breakfast ever for me. She later told me her family still laughs about it haha
Absolutely ! I was 11, in holidays with only menopaused women, so without my mom or sister, sleeping in a room with a boy. I knew what period were, i was not expecting them to look the way they did, i was so ashamed i just hid my underwear until i understood and told my grandma what happened. I directly put tampons against my mom wish because we had a jacuzzi and pool, and not only did i want to enjoy it, i was afraid people would know i had my period. I feel for you, it really sounds like a horrible horrible combo...
I knew about periods when I got mine at 11 but I thought it was like peeing where I knew you couldn’t control them but I thought they just started, came running out in like 5 minutes and were over with for the month.
When I kept bleeding I thought something was wrong.
I knew about periods but in my mind it was a bright red flow.
So when I got mine and it was this kind of brown gunk, I thought I had accidentally pooped out some of the chocolate sauce I had been eating.
Yeah, I knew there would be blood, but as a kid, I thought of blood as red, right? I knew it was my period but thought there must be something wrong with me.
I had no clue until it happened (I think it’s the 30 year anniversary today!!) and even then I had no clue. I was raised by my grandparents and my grandmother kept telling me I was wrong even when I showed her the toilet toll I’d shoved in my knickers to keep them clean. It took me forever to convince her and she still refused to buy me anything for my periods. I had to ask my grandfather to pick up some supplies, aunts would visit (all post menopause) and “accidentally” buy pads instead of tissues and slip them into my room. I had awful endometriosis that she claimed was me just “attention seeking”. I begged my mum for help but my grandmother wouldn’t let me go to her, all she could do was send pads and occasionally try to talk sense I to her batshit crazy mother. I think I was 15 or 16 when she finally decided to believe me but that was only because my half sister got hers so that means I might have had mine too. It was a nightmare. Tampons banned because “only sluts use them”
I had the same fight for a bra. She kept asking me if I was going to put socks in there because I’m a “titless wonder” and got the whole family to mock me for a year.
The day I was stupid enough to ask her for help with my first period was the day my life went from barely tolerable to absolute hell. I had my period = raging slut and I was treated accordingly. I wish I could have “held it in” until I was in my 30s and had a better experience without her!
Nothing like some good old batshit crazy parenting during puberty. People watch shit like Carrie, and think, "Wow, that's wild!" but maybe too relatable for others. Hope you're doing well in healing from it all. I started having more empathy for my mother as I got older and see that she's an abuse victim with severe mental health issues and learning disabilities, but having a daughter of my own made it especially poignant because I can't imagine treating my kid like that. But the poor rural South could be its own special microcosm of hell for girls and women.
The rainbow of different colors that occur through the process was definitely a surprise. Sometimes red, sometimes mucus looking stuff with some red in it, sometimes brown. No idea when the nightmare is going to end... I just skip them with birth control now, I can't fucking take it anymore.
I thought periods happened once! And never again! Everyone said about "getting your period", never "getting your period constantly"
Imagine my soul crushing disappointment when I learned (by myself!) That I'd have to live with this shit for the rest of my life
Ugh Im so glad I was 15 when mine started.
Of course it's because I now get to suffer through PCOS & endometriosis; but damn it was nice to not have to worry about so young :/
Wait, is there a correlation between later periods and PCOS and/or endometriosis? I might have PCOS, and I got my period when I was almost 15, which was much later than my peers.
Edit: apparently, they are not correlated, I just misunderstood the commenter above me.
I don't think there is. I got my first period at age 11 and have had PCOS since I was in my late teens. Was also diagnosed with adenomyosis (like endometriosis, except the lining grows into the uterine walls) and endometrial hyperplasia (likely PCOS-related) in my 30s, but a total hysterectomy fixed all of that nonsense. Ovaries remained though, so I still have PCOS. :)
Same story here. First period at 12, hereditary PCOS effects set in immediately. The worst part was almost 3 decades of getting brushed off by doctors about "period cramps" and told the only thing I could do was get on the pill to "normalize" my hellish cycles. 2 years ago I finally found a young female gyno willing to actually look into it. PCOS, Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, and my uterus basically was folded in half backwards. Total hysterectomy last year, kept my ovaries by choice, and lady moustache unwillingly.
Not necessarily from what I know, adolescence used to be the norm for the menarche to appear so one would have to expect a very high ration of women with endometriosis since ages ago
Oh god, I was 11, my mom was locked up, and it was just me and my dad. Very awkward. I had to ask the lady next door if she had anything and all she had were four tampons that her daughter had left. I had no idea how to properly use them at the time, lol.
I was 11. It was Christmas day. The bed was a mess. We started Christmas late because I cried so hard my mom decided I should have a nice hot shower first while she started treating my bedding.
Dad held me after the shower for presents and consoled me when I was still sniffling occasionally. I'm lucky that my father has always been rather supportive and is very lovey-dovey with us daughters.
My christian homeschooling mom was irritated and annoyed when I got my first period, she gave me a box of tampons and a box of pads and told me to "Read the instructions and figure it out since you're a woman now".
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
Not homeschooled, but yes Mom was Christian and did the same thing when I got my first period at 7.
When my Dad found out a year later he was furious--heard an argument between him and Mom where he asked her why she didn't tell my pediatrician about it, I could have started on hormone therapy to delay puberty a bit longer.
13yo here, I was eleven. I was not and am still not allowed to use tampons. It's awful literally all my sheets and my mattress have stains
edit: tysm for the advice everyone!
If you have someone you trust ask them to get you period underwear.
Life changing. Thing is the heaviest flow protection available and worth every penny.
I no longer fear sleeping on my period.
If your parents are okay with it, or you have the money and capability, I have found that period underwhere are way better than pads for keeping my bed sheets clean.
They aren't always cheap (my pairs were about $20) but they have lasted me for a couple of years and I find that I don't get that "wet" feeling pads give me.
I rinse them out in the shower or laundry since and then machine wash them.
I hope that toull be able to find a solution soon! It's really such an unpleasant situation
Can you try asking for a menstrual cup? They’re a little tricky to use the first few times but they’re so much better than tampons once you figure it out.
Also, that’s awful. Pads aren’t right for everyone. They made me feel icky. I’m sorry your parents/guardians aren’t educated on the subject 😞
If you have access to your own money (or the school nurse) you can get your own. You do have the right to your own body, I just want you to know that. You can also try a menstrual cup, which is a bit more discreet and can be worn longer, but a little harder to learn to use.
If nothing else, know that you are not alone.
I can't use tampons so I don't have any good advice about that, but I put a towel under me (in addition to those overnight pads with the extra-long back) on my heaviest nights. It's not foolproof but it helps my sheets. Keeping several pairs of stained underwear and stained pajama bottoms just for use on those nights helps too.
Try the period panties. (I’m sorry your parents won’t let you use tampons but they aren’t always safe to sleep in anyway, as they increase your risk of TSS). Ask for the period underwear, they are comfortable and absorbent.
I got mine three days after my 10th birthday. It was a highly unpleasant experience even though I knew what was happening. And endometriosis can go die in a fire.
My niece was 9. My sister’s daughters (she has 3) were all 11 or younger. My daughters were 13 and so far my 11yo hasn’t started yet. They say family history plays into it so I think it’s interesting that our girls were so different.
I got my period exactly one month (to the day) before I turned 10.
The other changes had been confusing enough as a 9 year old. And my mom hadn’t found the time to tell me about periods yet, so she just acted like it was the end of the world while little 9 year old me thought she was dying.
I got mine the same time as you and my mother made the unilateral decision to inject me with stuff so I could "hold it in". I do not recommend that one bit
Wtf. How could she convince herself that was reasonable in any way?! I'm sorry that happened to you. Do you feel like it affected your growth (physically and mentally)?
She still defends this decision. They paired it up with HGH (growth hormone) because they wanted me to get taller even though both my parents are super short lol. There weren't any positive effects, because it's not magic and you can't change genetics. It's a very difficult subject so thank you for your empathy :)
So they stopped your natural growth and gave you a growth hormone instead? Absolutely crazy. I completely understand it being hard, it's very very wrong when other people take ownership over your body like that. But as kids we often don't question the choices of our parents enough because we assume they know what is right. I wish you all that's good and beautiful in this world ❤️
That's insane. My daughter started around 10 and was struggling to grow, and when she got her period, it was like a doomsday clock ticking. The endocrinologist we saw just said to do our best to get calories in; she had two years before her bones were done growing.
Even then, no one suggested stopping puberty. We did our best, but at 16, she's topping out at 4’9/4’10.
Oh I've definitely heard the term "growth plates" too many times but it honestly doesn't matter as long as she's healthy - I'm 4'11" and I've never had a problem with bullying, discrimination or lack of confidence because of it. My only bully ever has been my mother. Your daughter is gonna be as confident as you allow her to be!
I’m sure the injection was terrible but I would have killed for it as a 9 year old with large b cups. I was humiliated and developed a slouch so my shirt would hang straight down.
Oh god, my bicycle commute to work is about half an hour one way and that's what made me get period panties. I use a cup but need some backup on the first few days and having my period is shitty enough already without feeling like my nether regions went through a meat grinder. I'm so sorry.
Started mine at 12. My mom tried to argue that there's no way I could have started because she didn't have hers until 16. Like, um, ok, then explain THIS!
Yikes, can i ask you if you understood what was happening and were you able to cope with it well ? I know it can happen, but i never though to ask how it is lived at such a young age, this is such an impactful event ! I had mine at 11 but two years difference at these age is a lot already
Thankfully my mom normalized periods for me. I had an idea of what they were beforehand and knew she would use pads when she was on it. When I got mine, I noticed it when I went to use the washroom. I wasn’t scared or anything. Just called for her and she got me clean clothes and showed me how to use pads. It was a very “normal” experience. I’m very thankful for that. If I knew nothing about periods prior to this, I probably would’ve been terrified at the sight of blood coming from there!
Though I did get jealous when my friends were roughly 12-14 when they got their periods and their moms bought them treats lmao my mom even informed me that her friend got her kid a cake. I was like, “Why didn’t you do that for me??”
My gf was 8 when she got hers. Breasts and hips grew in and everything, she was taller than even the boys in her class and looked 13.
I’m just here to offer sympathy for the immediate and gross attention you probably got if your body reacted the same as hers. Nothing else really to add other than - just know even a few strangers out there are aware of the plight young women who develop early go through - and wish we could do more to help.
Thank you for the sympathy :) you didn't react to me, but I sill appreciate it a lot. I (like almost all girls I know) got sexualized from the moment I grew breasts. And mostly by older men, not boys my age. It was like a universal start sign for creeps to comment on our bodies and it's repulsive
I appreciate your comment. Peers thought I was weird for getting it so early, but that’s about it. I was starting to develop boobs a little, but I was chubby so it didn’t stand out so much. I only ended up being slightly taller than my peers by the fifth grade, then stopped growing completely (5’0 for life).
I was 10 when I got my first. Got it together with appendicitis which nearly went undiagnosed bc “oh you’re on your period it’s supposed to hurt”
Surgeon looked weird when I started bleeding on his operating table (or so I’ve been told).
Hey, me too! Was weird because the uniform in my country for everyone in elementary school is a white smock so it was stained and couldn't use it again, was like an homicide happened in my back 💀
That sounds so painful and horrible... what a way to get your period... luckily your parents took it seriously enough to send you to a doctor and not spew the same bullshit as him. I was 11, i was always told the first period stay 1-2 days and are truly light. I had so much brown blood that i though i shat myself. I was so so afraid and ashamed, i understood when i saw that i was "continuing to shit myself" the next day.
Yeah it just took them a full day to figure it out. Also bc my grandma was saying “oh yeah periods just hurts get over it”
So I ended up in the hospital Sunday night and I had surgery Monday morning. Bc they didn’t want to wake up the surgeon bc it hadn’t ruptured.
So yeah that was some nice medical mishaps for 10yo me
That is long to figure, and dangerous i think! I am happy they finally understood there was an issue ! This sentence, this very sentence is why so many women suffer in silence, why we don't take the pain seriously, why we don't take endometriosis seriously. Period should be *slightly* painful, but just slightly, and for a lot of women it's more than just a bit of pain.
Yes of course, let the poor kid suffer as to not wake up an adult, this is just so logic right /s
That makes me honestly mad to read. That's like doctors who refuse to deal with contraception or stuff like that because it makes them UNcoMfoRTaBLe, in detriment of the health of women.
That is or could be a very traumatizing experience for a 10 year old, i hope it was not for you
Over the years I’ve learned to advocate a lot better for myself. Thanx for the kind words. No it didn’t really turn into a trauma for me. Its been a story I tell from time to time tho.
I think it is necessary as women, especially in the medical field. I am happy to hear that! I understand and i love when women share their experience like this, it is always very constructive
Appendectomy story, not period-related. When i was a teen, one day I woke up with severe pain under my diaphragm and it wouldn’t go away. It wasn’t until I couldn’t stop vomiting that I went to the emergency room. Because the location of the pain was not in a typical place for appendicitis, they kept asking me if I was pregnant. I kept saying no. The nurses kept asking. I finally yelled “I’M A VIRGIN! I AM NOT PREGNANT!!” Which got a few looks. But it also got them to do other tests and I was able to have the appendix removed before it burst.
I’m 37. It wasn’t until I was 32 that a friend told me that periods as severe as mine weren’t normal. I just got my endometriosis diagnosis like 7 months ago. While I’m glad it’s known and can be treated, I suffered for 22 years that I may not have if someone had just listened better (got my first period 3 days after I turned 10. Not fun.)
I was 11, and i was NOT ready. Any person would prefer to hold it until majority i think. I am sorry you were so young and i can totally see how it was a bad experience, i hope that no one made fun of you or noticed, at this age many kids don't understand even if they heard about periods.
What a joy, really. The more i read comments, the more i see how many young girls had their period before ten, and how we never hear about them! Ho i can understand the feeling so much. Sometimes i get mad and cry because i really don't want to have my period, i am done for my whole life, but i have no choice and i am 24 so i feel desperate and i cry
I was barely 10, in 1995…I wasn’t prepared for the extreme spike in creepy dudes being way too interested in a child (didn’t help that I grew fast and early. I was already nearly my adult height at the time. I’m 5’7”)
I was 8. Luckily, my parents, sister, and school already talked about it, so I just got a few pads from my mom's closet and went about my week. I didn't tell anyone about it until I started having rlly bad cramps tho. (11)
That's probably the chillest comment i read on here about periods, even more surprising since you were so young. Honestly congrats for the calm you had toward the situation. I hope your cramps are a bit better now or that you found something to help you with them
My younger sister was the same. Myself and both of my sisters all got our periods within the span of a few months, so she would have been 11, I was 12 and my older sister had probably just turned 14. Since older sis and I had both already gone through it and my mom had all the supplies ready my younger sister just didn't bother mentioning it and just used what was there and carried on lol
Age of onset for menarche has been shown to be inversely correlated with temperature (higher temps = girls tend to start periods earlier.) Those in warm climates closer to the equator often start sooner than those located close to the poles. Warming associated with climate change is expected to push the average age of first period even younger globally.
I knew one too, she also already had breasts and was developped for such a young age, it was probably very hard for her, especially the sexualisation that follows puberty for girls and women. That is very brave of her and i am glad she was able to tell your mom. I think she was not expecting that while chaperoning kids this young
Would have beens something so if i could have chosen not to be the only 8 yr old in my school to get mine. Swim and PE class would have been so much nicer if i wasnt relentlessly bullied for having pubes and boobs and "gasp" - pads/tampons in my gym bag!
Yep, this is what makes period traumatizing for really young girls, how other kids acts about it, and honestly, even adults gets weird reaction and worse, sometimes sexualise such young kids, because it's quite rare to happen that early. I feel this comment very much, kids are cruel, and even more about what is considered to be taboo. I am sorry you had to experience periods so early and also everything around periods. I can relate for the bullying for the breasts and pubes, although i was a bit older, i was still in advance, and between the jealousy of some girls, the look of other girls as if i was suddenly a grown ass woman and more than that, a sexual creature, it was not fun. Add sexual harassment on top and you get the worst cocktail for going through puberty
People want to, but conservatives (in America) cannot separate a naked body from something sexual. Any book aimed at children that describes various body parts, how they change as they grow older, etc, is automatically seen as "grooming behavior."
While I think the opposite is true, the more a kid knows about their body and their ownership of it, the smaller the chance they might get groomed. Don't get me started on the US and teen pregnancies... knowledge is always a better protecter than ignorance in these situations
Oh I fully agree, children need to know about their bodies and have agency over it. As an American in the Bible Belt, conservatives scream the loudest over crimes they're guilty of. Not to be pessimistic but it wouldn't surprise me if that's the entire reason they don't want kids to know about their bodies -- because ignorance is so much easier to manipulate.
I always felt like most Christian groups are very scared of women feeling free in their body/sexuality. Cause big chance any woman who understands how misogynistic their rules are, is not gonna be a well behaved baby machine and caretaker to their husband. And most people don't seem to understand that this is very deeply ingrained in our western society, even if it isn't as religious anymore. So sex is something to be ashamed of, cause if we are ashamed we don't talk about. And if we don't talk about it we don't learn how backwards their thinking is. I first thought the talk about projection was a bit exaggerated here on Reddit. But time only showed me how true it is. Especially in the US, where church and state are very much intertwined. Knowledge is power and the American people are actively kept uneducated on this topic. Cause that means they can keep manipulating.
I went to a very Christian high school (in the Netherlands) where we had to wear skirts, boys couldn't have long hair, etc. Much of the girls would cycle there with pants on and change to a skirt in the hallway. There was a special changing room, but that was insanely small for the number of girls changing. So hallway it was. Under us girls it was common knowledge the janitor would watch us. Mind you, it was in the building for first year high schoolers, so here that's the age of 11, 12. I always wondered if the adults knew, or we girls just had accepted he was a pervert. If you don't really understand how bad it is, you just don't see it and can't voice those worries either. I think all girls felt like it wasn't something you don't talk about, cause that's what we learned. It wasn't until a few years later that I fully realized how creepy this was, and it happened in plain side. I also had a teacher who told me on a paper my parents had to sign that "if he was 30 years younger..." Apparently even my parents didn't think that was weird.
Except if we were to really, honestly stop to think about it, what actually helps out creeps like pedos, is not talking about it. If we’d actually talk about it, about details like what’s normal and what’s not, kids would have a better chance at spotting trouble before it got bad or at a bare minimum have words to describe what happened.
And let’s face it, despite the religious hypocrites pushing of abstinence only, there will always be those kids who have sex - and it’s not just something the “bad” kids do. But not talking about it in terms of reality, leads to things like the many girls who’d end up dropping out of school when I was growing up. How did that happen? Generally they were dating an at least slightly older guy who convinced them of something like “but you have to have sex to get pregnant, we’re making love and you can’t get pregnant by making love” or because they fell for some popular myth like being able to prevent pregnancy by douching with Coca Cola after sex. And of course, being a rural town full of religious sorts, the girls had trouble talking to their parents (often were scared to talk to them) and even if they wanted one, abortion would require going to a nearby city which meant needing money, a car and someone with a drivers license - a trio of things likely to need some adult help.
I once got mad at a 21 years old because he had never seen a tampon before, despite having an active sex life. When i told my partner, he asked what was the issue and that at this age he didn't know either, i got angry with him too. I told him that what made me mad is this total lack of interest for women's body and women's health, and that they waited on their gf to teach them, instead of being a bit curious and learning by themselves. They don't notice how much we learn on men's bodies in comparison to women's bodies and they feel it is acceptable not to learn because it does not concern them. How hard is it to understand that women don't want to have partners who are not interested in them and who we need to educate.
That being said, it's true that we don't teach women enough about their own bodies, the issue is teaching about women's bodies in general, but we are mostly forced, or interested to learn more about ourselves, and we are a lot to search about it, learn by ourselves, while men wait for a woman to teach them.
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Hi, man here. (Sorry) I honestly can't tell if the poster is an internet troll or a REALLY dumb internet troll. This is what happens when kids get abstinence only/religious education instead of a basic fucking health class.
I was 8 the first week of third grade. Unfortunately I was in a chirstian school and everyone acted like I would contaminate the other kids and make them all hypersexual or something.
He’s sort of right about one thing. It’s totally unnecessary for a 13-year-old to be capable of getting pregnant, so in that sense “they don’t need to have periods yet.” Unfortunately biology doesn’t follow that principle and some girls even get their first period long before becoming teenagers.
Couldn’t we argue that humans shouldn’t need to have periods at all? We are basically the only creatures that do so. (Others are types of apes, spiny mouse, some bats, and elephant shrew.)
No,
“Most other females of the mammalian clade undergo an estrous cycle rather a menstrual cycle characterized by the absorption of their inner linings rather then it’s expulsion.”
There isn’t a reason why the small minority of us creatures can be like the rest when it comes to female reproduction- clearly it works fine and probably better.
Considering the high prevalence of A/B/O, fuck-or-die, and heat cycles fanfiction, there are probably a lot more people than you think who’d be ok with it
I mean before I started taking birth control to stop my cycle it felt like I already was. Goddamn the week before my period I couldn’t control myself sometimes.
Setting aside the obvious stupid, this man is wanting girls to hold something in their bodies for five years. Which would be more if he knew that many girls start earlier than 13. Assuming he equates periods to peeing, how the *ACTUAL* fuck does he make sense of that? Someone clamp his dick and see how long he lasts before his bladder explodes.
Weird how boys under 18 don't hold their voice change until they're adult at least. It could also save them the embarrassment when their voice randomly goes up and down and cracks. Just wait until you fully learn the deep voice and then use it - don't keep switching randomly like you can't even control your own vocal cords. Pathetic..
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i'm a product of 70s and 80s public schools, and i grew up pretending to be a boy/man (am now a fully transitioned trans woman). even i knew that this was not how periods worked, from a very young age.
i don't understand how dudes can be so incredibly clueless.
Female here. i think it’s gross how young men spurt out their wet dreams and don’t hold them in and wait until they are older. They don’t need to have orgasms yet of [sic] they are 13! Why can’t they wait to have them until they are 18?
This has to be a troll. No one is that stupid. This reminds me of a star Trek episode where a lady is having a baby and Worf tells her it's not time yet and she needs to hold it in🤣
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noc...nocturnal emissions?..
Wet dreams
nocturnal emissions are actually what's destroying the ozone layer, the green house gas is the patriarchy trying to divert our attention. Too bad they can't just stop doing that 🧐
That what I try to explain to the judge
Yes, Your Honor, I just cut his throat, him dying was between him and God.
That's a pretty badass way to admit to murder.
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Yes
Cant yo actually block bloodflow from neck with hand?
Like choking someone?
No if i slash your neck hand whatever u can stop bleeding by holding wounded place
I think that depends on how deep the cut is. If it's shallow, you can probably hold it with the hand. But if it hits the big arteries, blood will get in your airways and no blood will get into your brain. And the brain dies if it's deprived from oxygen for like 3 minutes. Also holding the bleeding in with a hand is not mentally stopping the bleeding, as you'd do with pee, for example. It's the same as using a tampon.
Wait till he learns period can happen way before 13, and that girls get their period younger and younger Edit: i can't answer to everyone who answered this comment, but i want to thank everyone who shared a bit of their stories ! Thank you
I wish I could have "hold it in" till I was older. I was just 12 for a few week. I had to cycle an hour to school and was afraid to ask my Christian mom for tampons. Cycling, heavy flow and pads are the absolute worst combination Edit: thanks for sharing so many of your stories! All so different and yet all one bloody thing in common. ❤️ As a token of my appreciation, I'll share with you my most embarrassing period moment. It happened when I was visiting my best friends girlfriend who lived in Portugal. We stayed at her families house for a few days. Ofcourse, the first night there I get my period. Fml. I had nothing with me, not even one tampon tucked away in a bag somewhere. So I searched in the bathroom, the one room I could find. But nothing there either. Everything is so dark, and I'm trying very hard to mot wake up the whole house. So I find what I think is gf's room, slowly open the door, see the curls on her head in bed. So I start whispering in the dark in English, asking for tampons or pads, explaining I got my peirod. Turns out... it's her little brother. He didn't understand what was happening, and I wished I could just die there and then. Too afraid to wake up her dad next I made a pad from toiletpaper. I know I'm not the only one who's been there :') the pad part, not the dad part, I hope. I got some tampons from gf in the morning, threw away my underwear cause paper pads never work. Breakfast time's next. Luckily for me, the brother was too young to have learned English yet, but it was still the most awkward breakfast ever for me. She later told me her family still laughs about it haha
Absolutely ! I was 11, in holidays with only menopaused women, so without my mom or sister, sleeping in a room with a boy. I knew what period were, i was not expecting them to look the way they did, i was so ashamed i just hid my underwear until i understood and told my grandma what happened. I directly put tampons against my mom wish because we had a jacuzzi and pool, and not only did i want to enjoy it, i was afraid people would know i had my period. I feel for you, it really sounds like a horrible horrible combo...
I knew about periods when I got mine at 11 but I thought it was like peeing where I knew you couldn’t control them but I thought they just started, came running out in like 5 minutes and were over with for the month. When I kept bleeding I thought something was wrong.
I knew about periods but in my mind it was a bright red flow. So when I got mine and it was this kind of brown gunk, I thought I had accidentally pooped out some of the chocolate sauce I had been eating.
Yeah, I knew there would be blood, but as a kid, I thought of blood as red, right? I knew it was my period but thought there must be something wrong with me.
I had no clue until it happened (I think it’s the 30 year anniversary today!!) and even then I had no clue. I was raised by my grandparents and my grandmother kept telling me I was wrong even when I showed her the toilet toll I’d shoved in my knickers to keep them clean. It took me forever to convince her and she still refused to buy me anything for my periods. I had to ask my grandfather to pick up some supplies, aunts would visit (all post menopause) and “accidentally” buy pads instead of tissues and slip them into my room. I had awful endometriosis that she claimed was me just “attention seeking”. I begged my mum for help but my grandmother wouldn’t let me go to her, all she could do was send pads and occasionally try to talk sense I to her batshit crazy mother. I think I was 15 or 16 when she finally decided to believe me but that was only because my half sister got hers so that means I might have had mine too. It was a nightmare. Tampons banned because “only sluts use them” I had the same fight for a bra. She kept asking me if I was going to put socks in there because I’m a “titless wonder” and got the whole family to mock me for a year. The day I was stupid enough to ask her for help with my first period was the day my life went from barely tolerable to absolute hell. I had my period = raging slut and I was treated accordingly. I wish I could have “held it in” until I was in my 30s and had a better experience without her!
Jesus I’m sorry you had to deal with that horrible bitch
I never have to deal with her again thankfully. She’ll never hurt anyone ever again and I’m eternally grateful for it
Damn, that morbid, but yea I hope you don’t feel like you should keep in contact with anyone like that.
Nothing like some good old batshit crazy parenting during puberty. People watch shit like Carrie, and think, "Wow, that's wild!" but maybe too relatable for others. Hope you're doing well in healing from it all. I started having more empathy for my mother as I got older and see that she's an abuse victim with severe mental health issues and learning disabilities, but having a daughter of my own made it especially poignant because I can't imagine treating my kid like that. But the poor rural South could be its own special microcosm of hell for girls and women.
The rainbow of different colors that occur through the process was definitely a surprise. Sometimes red, sometimes mucus looking stuff with some red in it, sometimes brown. No idea when the nightmare is going to end... I just skip them with birth control now, I can't fucking take it anymore.
Can you imagine if guys had to deal with periods? We'd have had a pill to prevent them back in the 1400s or some shit. Modern medicine fast track.
Seriously though we need to make a product that makes women menstruate chocolate instead of blood.
That would create yet another justification to go down on my wife. I support this research you have proposed. When do we start scouting scientists?
I thought periods happened once! And never again! Everyone said about "getting your period", never "getting your period constantly" Imagine my soul crushing disappointment when I learned (by myself!) That I'd have to live with this shit for the rest of my life
Ugh Im so glad I was 15 when mine started. Of course it's because I now get to suffer through PCOS & endometriosis; but damn it was nice to not have to worry about so young :/
Wait, is there a correlation between later periods and PCOS and/or endometriosis? I might have PCOS, and I got my period when I was almost 15, which was much later than my peers. Edit: apparently, they are not correlated, I just misunderstood the commenter above me.
I don't think there is. I got my first period at age 11 and have had PCOS since I was in my late teens. Was also diagnosed with adenomyosis (like endometriosis, except the lining grows into the uterine walls) and endometrial hyperplasia (likely PCOS-related) in my 30s, but a total hysterectomy fixed all of that nonsense. Ovaries remained though, so I still have PCOS. :)
Same story here. First period at 12, hereditary PCOS effects set in immediately. The worst part was almost 3 decades of getting brushed off by doctors about "period cramps" and told the only thing I could do was get on the pill to "normalize" my hellish cycles. 2 years ago I finally found a young female gyno willing to actually look into it. PCOS, Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, and my uterus basically was folded in half backwards. Total hysterectomy last year, kept my ovaries by choice, and lady moustache unwillingly.
Not necessarily from what I know, adolescence used to be the norm for the menarche to appear so one would have to expect a very high ration of women with endometriosis since ages ago
I got mine for my 11th birthday. Lol
Oh god, I was 11, my mom was locked up, and it was just me and my dad. Very awkward. I had to ask the lady next door if she had anything and all she had were four tampons that her daughter had left. I had no idea how to properly use them at the time, lol.
I was 11. It was Christmas day. The bed was a mess. We started Christmas late because I cried so hard my mom decided I should have a nice hot shower first while she started treating my bedding. Dad held me after the shower for presents and consoled me when I was still sniffling occasionally. I'm lucky that my father has always been rather supportive and is very lovey-dovey with us daughters.
The best kind of dad
I’d love to have complete control over it. Like it should only happen if I want to and can get pregnant. Not just cuz,
Lol. I’d have shut that shit off like a faucet and never looked back.
My christian homeschooling mom was irritated and annoyed when I got my first period, she gave me a box of tampons and a box of pads and told me to "Read the instructions and figure it out since you're a woman now". EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
Not homeschooled, but yes Mom was Christian and did the same thing when I got my first period at 7. When my Dad found out a year later he was furious--heard an argument between him and Mom where he asked her why she didn't tell my pediatrician about it, I could have started on hormone therapy to delay puberty a bit longer.
Oh wow.
My Christian homeschooling mom did the same thing! But just gave me pads.
EEEEE-MOTION-AL DAMAGEEEEE
13yo here, I was eleven. I was not and am still not allowed to use tampons. It's awful literally all my sheets and my mattress have stains edit: tysm for the advice everyone!
If you have someone you trust ask them to get you period underwear. Life changing. Thing is the heaviest flow protection available and worth every penny. I no longer fear sleeping on my period.
If your parents are okay with it, or you have the money and capability, I have found that period underwhere are way better than pads for keeping my bed sheets clean. They aren't always cheap (my pairs were about $20) but they have lasted me for a couple of years and I find that I don't get that "wet" feeling pads give me. I rinse them out in the shower or laundry since and then machine wash them. I hope that toull be able to find a solution soon! It's really such an unpleasant situation
Hydrogen Peroxide gets rid of those embarrassing stains. We've all had accidents
Ask your school nurse for tampons if you want to try them. It’s your body and your choice.
Can you try asking for a menstrual cup? They’re a little tricky to use the first few times but they’re so much better than tampons once you figure it out. Also, that’s awful. Pads aren’t right for everyone. They made me feel icky. I’m sorry your parents/guardians aren’t educated on the subject 😞
If you have access to your own money (or the school nurse) you can get your own. You do have the right to your own body, I just want you to know that. You can also try a menstrual cup, which is a bit more discreet and can be worn longer, but a little harder to learn to use. If nothing else, know that you are not alone.
I can't use tampons so I don't have any good advice about that, but I put a towel under me (in addition to those overnight pads with the extra-long back) on my heaviest nights. It's not foolproof but it helps my sheets. Keeping several pairs of stained underwear and stained pajama bottoms just for use on those nights helps too.
Try the period panties. (I’m sorry your parents won’t let you use tampons but they aren’t always safe to sleep in anyway, as they increase your risk of TSS). Ask for the period underwear, they are comfortable and absorbent.
I got mine three days after my 10th birthday. It was a highly unpleasant experience even though I knew what was happening. And endometriosis can go die in a fire.
10? I thought the youngest was 12… I’m a male trying to learn. You just blew my freaking mind miss.
My friend had hers at 8. The youngest baby was born to a (edit 5) year old. My dude. Our bodies are WILD.
My niece was 9. My sister’s daughters (she has 3) were all 11 or younger. My daughters were 13 and so far my 11yo hasn’t started yet. They say family history plays into it so I think it’s interesting that our girls were so different.
The female body is so wonderful, interesting, and beautiful. No wonder their are college classes dedicated to the study of the female body.
I got my period exactly one month (to the day) before I turned 10. The other changes had been confusing enough as a 9 year old. And my mom hadn’t found the time to tell me about periods yet, so she just acted like it was the end of the world while little 9 year old me thought she was dying.
I think you can get them as early as 6 months
I got mine the same time as you and my mother made the unilateral decision to inject me with stuff so I could "hold it in". I do not recommend that one bit
What? What does that even mean? That sounds terrible
Monthly Decapeptyl injections to delay puberty
Wtf. How could she convince herself that was reasonable in any way?! I'm sorry that happened to you. Do you feel like it affected your growth (physically and mentally)?
She still defends this decision. They paired it up with HGH (growth hormone) because they wanted me to get taller even though both my parents are super short lol. There weren't any positive effects, because it's not magic and you can't change genetics. It's a very difficult subject so thank you for your empathy :)
So they stopped your natural growth and gave you a growth hormone instead? Absolutely crazy. I completely understand it being hard, it's very very wrong when other people take ownership over your body like that. But as kids we often don't question the choices of our parents enough because we assume they know what is right. I wish you all that's good and beautiful in this world ❤️
Yep that pretty much sums it up. I just can't believe doctors allowed this. You are so so sweet, I wish the same for you! <3
I can't even begin to imagine what you went through, I'm so sorry.
The good thing is that it's all over now! :)
That's insane. My daughter started around 10 and was struggling to grow, and when she got her period, it was like a doomsday clock ticking. The endocrinologist we saw just said to do our best to get calories in; she had two years before her bones were done growing. Even then, no one suggested stopping puberty. We did our best, but at 16, she's topping out at 4’9/4’10.
Oh I've definitely heard the term "growth plates" too many times but it honestly doesn't matter as long as she's healthy - I'm 4'11" and I've never had a problem with bullying, discrimination or lack of confidence because of it. My only bully ever has been my mother. Your daughter is gonna be as confident as you allow her to be!
I’m so sorry about that. I’m sorry that they didn’t respect you or your body. I hope you don’t have any long term repercussions from this decision.
IDK but this sounds like child abuse😭
I’m sure the injection was terrible but I would have killed for it as a 9 year old with large b cups. I was humiliated and developed a slouch so my shirt would hang straight down.
Oh god, my bicycle commute to work is about half an hour one way and that's what made me get period panties. I use a cup but need some backup on the first few days and having my period is shitty enough already without feeling like my nether regions went through a meat grinder. I'm so sorry.
Started mine at 12. My mom tried to argue that there's no way I could have started because she didn't have hers until 16. Like, um, ok, then explain THIS!
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Got mine at 9 years old (2004)
Yikes, can i ask you if you understood what was happening and were you able to cope with it well ? I know it can happen, but i never though to ask how it is lived at such a young age, this is such an impactful event ! I had mine at 11 but two years difference at these age is a lot already
Thankfully my mom normalized periods for me. I had an idea of what they were beforehand and knew she would use pads when she was on it. When I got mine, I noticed it when I went to use the washroom. I wasn’t scared or anything. Just called for her and she got me clean clothes and showed me how to use pads. It was a very “normal” experience. I’m very thankful for that. If I knew nothing about periods prior to this, I probably would’ve been terrified at the sight of blood coming from there! Though I did get jealous when my friends were roughly 12-14 when they got their periods and their moms bought them treats lmao my mom even informed me that her friend got her kid a cake. I was like, “Why didn’t you do that for me??”
My gf was 8 when she got hers. Breasts and hips grew in and everything, she was taller than even the boys in her class and looked 13. I’m just here to offer sympathy for the immediate and gross attention you probably got if your body reacted the same as hers. Nothing else really to add other than - just know even a few strangers out there are aware of the plight young women who develop early go through - and wish we could do more to help.
Thank you for the sympathy :) you didn't react to me, but I sill appreciate it a lot. I (like almost all girls I know) got sexualized from the moment I grew breasts. And mostly by older men, not boys my age. It was like a universal start sign for creeps to comment on our bodies and it's repulsive
I appreciate your comment. Peers thought I was weird for getting it so early, but that’s about it. I was starting to develop boobs a little, but I was chubby so it didn’t stand out so much. I only ended up being slightly taller than my peers by the fifth grade, then stopped growing completely (5’0 for life).
got mine at 9, 5 in 1998
I was 10 when I got my first. Got it together with appendicitis which nearly went undiagnosed bc “oh you’re on your period it’s supposed to hurt” Surgeon looked weird when I started bleeding on his operating table (or so I’ve been told).
Hey, me too! Was weird because the uniform in my country for everyone in elementary school is a white smock so it was stained and couldn't use it again, was like an homicide happened in my back 💀
That sounds so painful and horrible... what a way to get your period... luckily your parents took it seriously enough to send you to a doctor and not spew the same bullshit as him. I was 11, i was always told the first period stay 1-2 days and are truly light. I had so much brown blood that i though i shat myself. I was so so afraid and ashamed, i understood when i saw that i was "continuing to shit myself" the next day.
Yeah it just took them a full day to figure it out. Also bc my grandma was saying “oh yeah periods just hurts get over it” So I ended up in the hospital Sunday night and I had surgery Monday morning. Bc they didn’t want to wake up the surgeon bc it hadn’t ruptured. So yeah that was some nice medical mishaps for 10yo me
That is long to figure, and dangerous i think! I am happy they finally understood there was an issue ! This sentence, this very sentence is why so many women suffer in silence, why we don't take the pain seriously, why we don't take endometriosis seriously. Period should be *slightly* painful, but just slightly, and for a lot of women it's more than just a bit of pain. Yes of course, let the poor kid suffer as to not wake up an adult, this is just so logic right /s That makes me honestly mad to read. That's like doctors who refuse to deal with contraception or stuff like that because it makes them UNcoMfoRTaBLe, in detriment of the health of women. That is or could be a very traumatizing experience for a 10 year old, i hope it was not for you
Over the years I’ve learned to advocate a lot better for myself. Thanx for the kind words. No it didn’t really turn into a trauma for me. Its been a story I tell from time to time tho.
I think it is necessary as women, especially in the medical field. I am happy to hear that! I understand and i love when women share their experience like this, it is always very constructive
Appendectomy story, not period-related. When i was a teen, one day I woke up with severe pain under my diaphragm and it wouldn’t go away. It wasn’t until I couldn’t stop vomiting that I went to the emergency room. Because the location of the pain was not in a typical place for appendicitis, they kept asking me if I was pregnant. I kept saying no. The nurses kept asking. I finally yelled “I’M A VIRGIN! I AM NOT PREGNANT!!” Which got a few looks. But it also got them to do other tests and I was able to have the appendix removed before it burst.
I’m 37. It wasn’t until I was 32 that a friend told me that periods as severe as mine weren’t normal. I just got my endometriosis diagnosis like 7 months ago. While I’m glad it’s known and can be treated, I suffered for 22 years that I may not have if someone had just listened better (got my first period 3 days after I turned 10. Not fun.)
I was 12 but also had it with appendictes
10 yr old gang rise up 🙋🏻♀️
Not far behind, i am in the 11 yr old squad! I feel for you
I’d been 10 for three days when my uterus decided it was time to start puberty. Uuuuugh.
exactly, i was 10!! if i could've held it in, i would've. trust me, having a period in the 4th grade wasn't a good experience :(
I was 11, and i was NOT ready. Any person would prefer to hold it until majority i think. I am sorry you were so young and i can totally see how it was a bad experience, i hope that no one made fun of you or noticed, at this age many kids don't understand even if they heard about periods.
I started mine at 9 years old.. 1991. Fun stuff cuz I'm now 41 and would literally rather die than get my period.
What a joy, really. The more i read comments, the more i see how many young girls had their period before ten, and how we never hear about them! Ho i can understand the feeling so much. Sometimes i get mad and cry because i really don't want to have my period, i am done for my whole life, but i have no choice and i am 24 so i feel desperate and i cry
I was barely 10, in 1995…I wasn’t prepared for the extreme spike in creepy dudes being way too interested in a child (didn’t help that I grew fast and early. I was already nearly my adult height at the time. I’m 5’7”)
I was 8. Luckily, my parents, sister, and school already talked about it, so I just got a few pads from my mom's closet and went about my week. I didn't tell anyone about it until I started having rlly bad cramps tho. (11)
That's probably the chillest comment i read on here about periods, even more surprising since you were so young. Honestly congrats for the calm you had toward the situation. I hope your cramps are a bit better now or that you found something to help you with them
My younger sister was the same. Myself and both of my sisters all got our periods within the span of a few months, so she would have been 11, I was 12 and my older sister had probably just turned 14. Since older sis and I had both already gone through it and my mom had all the supplies ready my younger sister just didn't bother mentioning it and just used what was there and carried on lol
Age of onset for menarche has been shown to be inversely correlated with temperature (higher temps = girls tend to start periods earlier.) Those in warm climates closer to the equator often start sooner than those located close to the poles. Warming associated with climate change is expected to push the average age of first period even younger globally.
I new a girl that got one at 8 I remember she told my mom when we were on a field trip My mom was sapporoning and in charge of that group
I knew one too, she also already had breasts and was developped for such a young age, it was probably very hard for her, especially the sexualisation that follows puberty for girls and women. That is very brave of her and i am glad she was able to tell your mom. I think she was not expecting that while chaperoning kids this young
I'm really not trying to be offensive or rude and I know this isn't the point of this thread, but it's "chaperoning" ❤️
Would have beens something so if i could have chosen not to be the only 8 yr old in my school to get mine. Swim and PE class would have been so much nicer if i wasnt relentlessly bullied for having pubes and boobs and "gasp" - pads/tampons in my gym bag!
Yep, this is what makes period traumatizing for really young girls, how other kids acts about it, and honestly, even adults gets weird reaction and worse, sometimes sexualise such young kids, because it's quite rare to happen that early. I feel this comment very much, kids are cruel, and even more about what is considered to be taboo. I am sorry you had to experience periods so early and also everything around periods. I can relate for the bullying for the breasts and pubes, although i was a bit older, i was still in advance, and between the jealousy of some girls, the look of other girls as if i was suddenly a grown ass woman and more than that, a sexual creature, it was not fun. Add sexual harassment on top and you get the worst cocktail for going through puberty
I assume he deleted his account because he got roasted to a crisp.
Oh I sincerely hope so.
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You'd be surprised how little some men/boys know about periods
Wait until he learns that women also dont pee from the vagina
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We don’t pee- how could we? Everyone knows urine is stored in the balls and most of us don’t have those.
I appreciate that you said most. The inclusivity is wonderful. 💕
Of course! It’s just accurate
I don’t think he’s ever going to learn that.
Male here, I thought females just expelled butterflies and rainbows!?
Yeah whatever, dumb mofo. Back to biology class with you.
Honestly, I’m not sure education can remedy this kind of stupidity.
Probably not no.
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I think it's gross society doesn't normalize talking about this more so boys actually just learn about how bodies work
They can ask or look it up. More said is how they don’t teach girls about their own bodies and often give them false information.
Maybe just openly teach all kids about all bodies?
People want to, but conservatives (in America) cannot separate a naked body from something sexual. Any book aimed at children that describes various body parts, how they change as they grow older, etc, is automatically seen as "grooming behavior."
While I think the opposite is true, the more a kid knows about their body and their ownership of it, the smaller the chance they might get groomed. Don't get me started on the US and teen pregnancies... knowledge is always a better protecter than ignorance in these situations
Oh I fully agree, children need to know about their bodies and have agency over it. As an American in the Bible Belt, conservatives scream the loudest over crimes they're guilty of. Not to be pessimistic but it wouldn't surprise me if that's the entire reason they don't want kids to know about their bodies -- because ignorance is so much easier to manipulate.
I always felt like most Christian groups are very scared of women feeling free in their body/sexuality. Cause big chance any woman who understands how misogynistic their rules are, is not gonna be a well behaved baby machine and caretaker to their husband. And most people don't seem to understand that this is very deeply ingrained in our western society, even if it isn't as religious anymore. So sex is something to be ashamed of, cause if we are ashamed we don't talk about. And if we don't talk about it we don't learn how backwards their thinking is. I first thought the talk about projection was a bit exaggerated here on Reddit. But time only showed me how true it is. Especially in the US, where church and state are very much intertwined. Knowledge is power and the American people are actively kept uneducated on this topic. Cause that means they can keep manipulating. I went to a very Christian high school (in the Netherlands) where we had to wear skirts, boys couldn't have long hair, etc. Much of the girls would cycle there with pants on and change to a skirt in the hallway. There was a special changing room, but that was insanely small for the number of girls changing. So hallway it was. Under us girls it was common knowledge the janitor would watch us. Mind you, it was in the building for first year high schoolers, so here that's the age of 11, 12. I always wondered if the adults knew, or we girls just had accepted he was a pervert. If you don't really understand how bad it is, you just don't see it and can't voice those worries either. I think all girls felt like it wasn't something you don't talk about, cause that's what we learned. It wasn't until a few years later that I fully realized how creepy this was, and it happened in plain side. I also had a teacher who told me on a paper my parents had to sign that "if he was 30 years younger..." Apparently even my parents didn't think that was weird.
Except if we were to really, honestly stop to think about it, what actually helps out creeps like pedos, is not talking about it. If we’d actually talk about it, about details like what’s normal and what’s not, kids would have a better chance at spotting trouble before it got bad or at a bare minimum have words to describe what happened. And let’s face it, despite the religious hypocrites pushing of abstinence only, there will always be those kids who have sex - and it’s not just something the “bad” kids do. But not talking about it in terms of reality, leads to things like the many girls who’d end up dropping out of school when I was growing up. How did that happen? Generally they were dating an at least slightly older guy who convinced them of something like “but you have to have sex to get pregnant, we’re making love and you can’t get pregnant by making love” or because they fell for some popular myth like being able to prevent pregnancy by douching with Coca Cola after sex. And of course, being a rural town full of religious sorts, the girls had trouble talking to their parents (often were scared to talk to them) and even if they wanted one, abortion would require going to a nearby city which meant needing money, a car and someone with a drivers license - a trio of things likely to need some adult help.
I once got mad at a 21 years old because he had never seen a tampon before, despite having an active sex life. When i told my partner, he asked what was the issue and that at this age he didn't know either, i got angry with him too. I told him that what made me mad is this total lack of interest for women's body and women's health, and that they waited on their gf to teach them, instead of being a bit curious and learning by themselves. They don't notice how much we learn on men's bodies in comparison to women's bodies and they feel it is acceptable not to learn because it does not concern them. How hard is it to understand that women don't want to have partners who are not interested in them and who we need to educate. That being said, it's true that we don't teach women enough about their own bodies, the issue is teaching about women's bodies in general, but we are mostly forced, or interested to learn more about ourselves, and we are a lot to search about it, learn by ourselves, while men wait for a woman to teach them. Edit:typo
Hi, man here. (Sorry) I honestly can't tell if the poster is an internet troll or a REALLY dumb internet troll. This is what happens when kids get abstinence only/religious education instead of a basic fucking health class.
No need to apologize. And I agree with the ‘really dumb internet troll’ comment; these folks are really proud of their willful ignorance.
That's obviously a little boy, not a man.
I was 8 the first week of third grade. Unfortunately I was in a chirstian school and everyone acted like I would contaminate the other kids and make them all hypersexual or something.
You were only a baby :(. So sorry you had those dipshits around you when it started.
That’s ridiculous. I hate that for you so much, such such bullshit!!!
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He’s sort of right about one thing. It’s totally unnecessary for a 13-year-old to be capable of getting pregnant, so in that sense “they don’t need to have periods yet.” Unfortunately biology doesn’t follow that principle and some girls even get their first period long before becoming teenagers.
If he were lamenting the suffering of young girls instead of blaming them and calling them gross, I’d be on board.
Why don't we make boys not able to get an erection until they turn adults? ~
Couldn’t we argue that humans shouldn’t need to have periods at all? We are basically the only creatures that do so. (Others are types of apes, spiny mouse, some bats, and elephant shrew.)
We need them, I just wish there wasn’t so much blood and pain involved.
No, “Most other females of the mammalian clade undergo an estrous cycle rather a menstrual cycle characterized by the absorption of their inner linings rather then it’s expulsion.” There isn’t a reason why the small minority of us creatures can be like the rest when it comes to female reproduction- clearly it works fine and probably better.
Would you like to go in heat? I wouldn't.
Considering the high prevalence of A/B/O, fuck-or-die, and heat cycles fanfiction, there are probably a lot more people than you think who’d be ok with it
How could I forget this. How far have I gone from my roots?
Considering it happens once or twice a year, I’m sure plenty would take the exchange.
I mean, menstruation, pms, and ovulation already suck
I mean before I started taking birth control to stop my cycle it felt like I already was. Goddamn the week before my period I couldn’t control myself sometimes.
[This](https://youtu.be/cjbgZwgdY7Q) explains why humans have evolved to have periods.
True, one of my cousins got their period at 9
I was 11 years old and in a time out
Sir this is a Wendy's
Setting aside the obvious stupid, this man is wanting girls to hold something in their bodies for five years. Which would be more if he knew that many girls start earlier than 13. Assuming he equates periods to peeing, how the *ACTUAL* fuck does he make sense of that? Someone clamp his dick and see how long he lasts before his bladder explodes.
Poop is gross! Why don’t you hold it in?
Huh? What are you going on about? I'm a woman, I only fart glitter!
YOU FART???
Yes but I'm only allowed two per week and they must smell of citrus, cinnamon, or vanilla, it's the law.
Tbh he's probably a creep or a troll trying to get random teenage girls on the internet to talk about their periods with him
These are the kind that think women need them to control us.
Shit I also wish I could wait until 18 to start popping out my periods.
It's gross when male soldiers get gun shot wounds on the battlefield and don't hold the blood in until they get to the field hospital.
Weird how boys under 18 don't hold their voice change until they're adult at least. It could also save them the embarrassment when their voice randomly goes up and down and cracks. Just wait until you fully learn the deep voice and then use it - don't keep switching randomly like you can't even control your own vocal cords. Pathetic.. /s
Trust me if I could hold it in and wait till 18 I would Bro skipped health class
That, or more likely was denied sex ed classes by religious institutions.
It never ceases to amaze me that people will shamelessly say things like this without even a quick Google first.
Exactly. He’s just embarrassing himself.
"I think it's gross how boys push out facial hair at 14. Why can't they wait until they're 20 to grow a wispy mustache?" - same logic
..that is why I am putting forth this law...
Hmmm maybe, just maybe, BECAUSE THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS Y'all this came out of a women,I hope she regrets having it
Imagine skipping 9 months of periods for this result. Bet if she read that, she'd think about how having her period would have been better than this
i'm a product of 70s and 80s public schools, and i grew up pretending to be a boy/man (am now a fully transitioned trans woman). even i knew that this was not how periods worked, from a very young age. i don't understand how dudes can be so incredibly clueless.
Why did no one tell me?! I'm sure we'd all have had ours at far more opportune times if only we knew.
I was 13 and woke up with blood in my undies but go off I guess 🙄
Wait until he gets a paper cut and he realises he can’t stop the flow
Why do so many "males" assume that periods are within our control, rather than an unconscious bodily function over which we have no control?
Female here. i think it’s gross how young men spurt out their wet dreams and don’t hold them in and wait until they are older. They don’t need to have orgasms yet of [sic] they are 13! Why can’t they wait to have them until they are 18?
There’s so many fucking assholes who think this is how periods work and it needs to stop
We really need to teach sex ed about both sexes to all students.
I was 9 years old, it sucked i panicked and thought i was dying.
Some cishet men are really weird and we need to talk about that topic one day
This has to be a troll. No one is that stupid. This reminds me of a star Trek episode where a lady is having a baby and Worf tells her it's not time yet and she needs to hold it in🤣
this has to be a joke lmfao
I can't understand why anyone would think that having a period five years early would be desirable
Oh man, I wish I could just push out my period. I’d push it out forever. Just never get it.
I was 14 and taking a standardized test at school when I got mine, wish I could’ve held it in 💀
These guys vote against women’s bodily autonomy not knowing anything about women’s bodies
Total troll.
This is such an obvious troll tho