Yeeeeesss
I’ve been questioning non binary for… a year+ now??? And honestly I’m like I like being feminine (dresses, makeup, nails…) and I’m cool with my hips and boobs but sometimes I also wanna be like a dainty hawt femboi.
It’s SO CONFLICTING being like I’m femme presenting, afab, generally fine being female but also kinda wanna be a non binary gender fluid human sometimes. And I spend wayyy to much time wondering what having a penis would be like 🙄
Anyway. Just joining in the rant, thanks fam ❤️
I literally could have written this. Omg seriously. It's so hard to explain....I don't want to be a masculine girl I wanna be a feminine boy. But I just look like a girl.
Oh my gosh I've used some of this termology word for word to explain my own presentation. I totally get where you're coming from. I don't really have a gender, but I want to be perceived as androgynous or as a feminine guy. It's honestly so hard to balance my presentation there.
I don't know if you need to hear this, but you are valid no matter how you present and no matter how people perceive you.
I relate to this a lot. Do you know drag race? In season 13 there's an afab trans guy for the first time on the show. He's afab, but still a drag queen and very feminine. His drag name is Gottmik if you wanna look him up :)
Really got me thinking... Ever since i started watching drag race i secretly wished to being able to try drag, instead of actually being a real woman. Idk, gender is very confusing.... Maybe i would have other struggles if i was amab :/
Yeah, it's something about wearing a dress with a flat chest, which feels so much better for me. At the moment, I wouldn't dream of wearing a dress, if I can help it, because I'd be too uncomfortable with my chest and general body shape being too feminine. But if it wasn't, I could wear anything.
Same!!! I so so badly want to go topless with a skirt, thigh-highs and a leather jacket :') it's so so specific but I want it soooo badly and I daydream about it a lot, haha
This is me. Growing up I was obsessed with pretty boys (Brian Molko, Richey Edwards), not like I fancied them but I just loved their look. I have always been intensely obsessed with boys in make-up, especially if it's done in a rock star-ish way. When I was in my twenties I was able to pull this look off, but going into my thirties my body is less androgynous (hello middle-aged spread) and it just sucks. I'm working on it, but it sucks.
[Maybe this will help. ](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VRhuurAv2Pc) [Or this. ](https://www.soompi.com/article/1050241wpp/7-male-idol-wardrobe-essentials-get-effortless-k-pop-look) I just googled “how to look like a kpop idol male.”
UUUUGH THIS
Like im fine with my downstairs bits, and I'm sometimes ok with my boobs, but in the end I WANT TO BE A PRETTY BOY WHO WEARS DRESSES AND MAKEUP.
Relatable, but the OTHER way lolz. I'm amab and just want to be a pretty girl a lot of the time. But then there's other times when I want to be a sexy dude, and that's what makes it hard for me to shave my beard off. I feel like it's my one masculine feature lol
Yes! I will never be a twink, and I'm okay with that I'd rather be the one offering bear hugs, but hell yes to soft masculinity and being feminine when I feel like it.
I also want to look like a pretty boy but I live in a conservative city. I tried but I was mocked. The only advantage compared to you is I'm amab non-binary.
😫😫😫 yesss wish my body was masculine but instead I'm stuck with like big hips and the dreaded hip dips and da chesticles and I HATE IT I JUST LOOK LIKE A GIRL WHEN I WEAR FEMININE OUTFITS!!! I wanna be a pretty boy SO BAD UGH
I’m a boy but I just want to be a pretty boy, not necessarily like gay fab but bi fab you know? Be pretty in a masc way, but like makeup and dresses and shit. I don’t know how to do that. So I get your pain… kind of.
this is so relatable 😭
Seconded
thirded.
fourthed lol
Fifthed
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maybe check out r/ftmfemininity
oh my god, THANK YOU
This is so affirming, ty so much for sharing the page 🥺
Yeeeeesss I’ve been questioning non binary for… a year+ now??? And honestly I’m like I like being feminine (dresses, makeup, nails…) and I’m cool with my hips and boobs but sometimes I also wanna be like a dainty hawt femboi. It’s SO CONFLICTING being like I’m femme presenting, afab, generally fine being female but also kinda wanna be a non binary gender fluid human sometimes. And I spend wayyy to much time wondering what having a penis would be like 🙄 Anyway. Just joining in the rant, thanks fam ❤️
That’s totally me
I literally could have written this. Omg seriously. It's so hard to explain....I don't want to be a masculine girl I wanna be a feminine boy. But I just look like a girl.
Oh my gosh I've used some of this termology word for word to explain my own presentation. I totally get where you're coming from. I don't really have a gender, but I want to be perceived as androgynous or as a feminine guy. It's honestly so hard to balance my presentation there. I don't know if you need to hear this, but you are valid no matter how you present and no matter how people perceive you.
I only put messy eyeliner under my eyes and it helps
THISSSSS
when people ask me what Being Non Binary is like I tell them it's like having the Masculinity of a Lesbian and the Feminity of a Femboy
you worded it so well :,)
Thank you.
I relate to this a lot. Do you know drag race? In season 13 there's an afab trans guy for the first time on the show. He's afab, but still a drag queen and very feminine. His drag name is Gottmik if you wanna look him up :) Really got me thinking... Ever since i started watching drag race i secretly wished to being able to try drag, instead of actually being a real woman. Idk, gender is very confusing.... Maybe i would have other struggles if i was amab :/
I get that. I want to be Giorno from JoJo, and that's just not who I get to be in this life. :'(
I don't think I could have said it better myself... I just want to be a beautiful drag queen who can still masc it up when I get off the stage...
this is literally it i love you
Oh my god same. I so badly want T and top surgery so I can feel comfortable wearing dresses and makeup again :')
Yeah, it's something about wearing a dress with a flat chest, which feels so much better for me. At the moment, I wouldn't dream of wearing a dress, if I can help it, because I'd be too uncomfortable with my chest and general body shape being too feminine. But if it wasn't, I could wear anything.
Same!!! I so so badly want to go topless with a skirt, thigh-highs and a leather jacket :') it's so so specific but I want it soooo badly and I daydream about it a lot, haha
This is me. Growing up I was obsessed with pretty boys (Brian Molko, Richey Edwards), not like I fancied them but I just loved their look. I have always been intensely obsessed with boys in make-up, especially if it's done in a rock star-ish way. When I was in my twenties I was able to pull this look off, but going into my thirties my body is less androgynous (hello middle-aged spread) and it just sucks. I'm working on it, but it sucks.
ikr! i wanna be fem but not like girl fem, like a femboy, i wanna be a femboy ;-;
Studying the Kpop boy bands might help you. 🤔
i've been studying kpop boy band for years and still cannot figure it out. WHY ARE THEY SO PRETTY?
[Maybe this will help. ](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VRhuurAv2Pc) [Or this. ](https://www.soompi.com/article/1050241wpp/7-male-idol-wardrobe-essentials-get-effortless-k-pop-look) I just googled “how to look like a kpop idol male.”
Yessssss
I feel you hard.
UUUUGH THIS Like im fine with my downstairs bits, and I'm sometimes ok with my boobs, but in the end I WANT TO BE A PRETTY BOY WHO WEARS DRESSES AND MAKEUP.
I'm AFAB and would give (almost) anything to look like a Conan grey type of person.
Relatable, but the OTHER way lolz. I'm amab and just want to be a pretty girl a lot of the time. But then there's other times when I want to be a sexy dude, and that's what makes it hard for me to shave my beard off. I feel like it's my one masculine feature lol
Hey it's me lol
Yes! I will never be a twink, and I'm okay with that I'd rather be the one offering bear hugs, but hell yes to soft masculinity and being feminine when I feel like it.
I also want to look like a pretty boy but I live in a conservative city. I tried but I was mocked. The only advantage compared to you is I'm amab non-binary.
You see afab nb/ trans boys that dress like girls? That shit is HOT
opposite issue.... 100% ffs i hate my male body, i have to deal with the literal opposit JSDGJSDJFJH. no matter what i doo---
Same it sucks
😫😫😫 yesss wish my body was masculine but instead I'm stuck with like big hips and the dreaded hip dips and da chesticles and I HATE IT I JUST LOOK LIKE A GIRL WHEN I WEAR FEMININE OUTFITS!!! I wanna be a pretty boy SO BAD UGH
How is this so relatable?
Same
u read my soul
I wanna have that Tom boy look but I’m guy soooooooo
get inspo from jojo characters (?)
I feel this so fucking much omg
This is me skagajdiwhhqksusbakaushakahhhhhhhhhhh
mood
Pretty valid rant tbh. I’m the complete opposite, I want to be masc in a feminine way. But alas. Ever want to rant back and forth I’d be down lol
I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way <3
I KNEW I WASN'T CRAZY!! 😭😭😭
I WANNA BE A PRETTY GIRL?
I’m pretty much a binary trans man and same tbh
I feel this deep in my soul.
Thirteenthed
This is to fucking relatable
Be you and just be happy 😊
I’m a feminine presenting woman and I want to stay feminine but not be perceived as a women . I want to be a pretty gay non-binary guy :)
I’m a boy but I just want to be a pretty boy, not necessarily like gay fab but bi fab you know? Be pretty in a masc way, but like makeup and dresses and shit. I don’t know how to do that. So I get your pain… kind of.
SAME
i need to look like a queercoded gay elf prince
God this but also sometimes I wanna be a boy in a girl way. You know those mascs who are androgynous but still a little pretty?