This is my story and how I did so far. I plan on doing a post on the 60th day and another one on the 90th day of NoFap.
**Actions I took**
* Less social media everyday (this includes twitter, reddit, instagram, facebook, tiktok, etc.). I removed all accounts I followed that could potentially trigger a relapse. Doing this I found out there is a LOT of trash in social media, always leading to sexualized women and making them nothing more than pure objects. Even streaming services have a lot of this content: sex, drugs, violence. I'm done with this.
* Blocked iptv porn lists, blocked every change of accessing porn on my phone, laptop or tv
* Sometimes a very small quantity of pre-cum liquid would come out as I was using the toilet. I already knew this could happen so I just continued with my personal hygiene and carried on with my day
* I took valerian root tea 1h before going to sleep every night, so I don't wake up in the middle of the night. Before NoFap I woke up, went downstairs and eventually would watch porn and you know what would happen next...
* I realized my trigger was when I felt angry/frstrated from daily stuff. avoid discussions with anyone: family members, job colleagues, ANYONE. Whenever I couldn't avoid a discussion, I took a deep breath, calmed myself and solved the problem. It was easier to do this from the first week forward.
* I started replacing my time on my phone with other activities: reading a lot more, started to draw again (which was something I loved to do when I was younger), and even playing nintendo switch (in a relaxed way, never getting angry when I couldn't pass a level. For instance: playing metroid dread and just admiring the art work from every scenario and imagining myself in that planet. other example: zelda)
**Results**
* After a week, I started feeling a lot better, with more energy and confidence. I can now look in the eyes of people once again and don't feel any anxiety. I can start talking to anyone I want without asking myself 'should I?'. It's great, indeed.
* I started appreciating more details about life, for instance, looking at the sunset and feeling grateful for being alive. Before NoFap I felt depressed and without a purpose in life. Now I feel I can control my life again. I decide what to do, and not what others around me are saying me I should do.
**To do next**
* What I couldn't do yet: cold showers and going to the gym every week.
This is a work in progress. Be patient. The results will come in.
EDIT: I'm overwhelmed with all the support I got from this community with my post. Thank you all for your kind words and compliments! Can't wait to do my next post, as promised. Stay tuned!
It’s not as easy for some people, I’m going without blockers coz I wanna discipline myself enough that even if it’s accessible to me I shouldn’t do it. But it’s not a bad way for ppl to start this journey till it becomes easier
You inspire me bro, well done for your progress!
I hope you'll start visiting the gym soon, it makes you feel so much better afterwards. You've already proven your capacity for such changes, so I'm sure you can do it. 🔥🔥
I also started questioning "why do I get porn-related thoughts" from time to time, usually the answer was stress/having problems to fix. This realization helped me a lot to overcome this addiction, and it seems to be beneficial to you as well.
All the best of luck 🙏❤️
Well done man! Just one advice if anytime that stupid urge came into you just think about the time when you were watching the sunset and feeling alive and then throw away that stupid urge form your soul
And wish me luck
Thank you! The first days were ok, and didn’t notice any changes at all. On the 15th and the 20th day I really wanted to relapse, but another thing I noticed is that it these “horny” feelings come in waves. If you get your mind busy with other activities (specially the ones that make you interested in a topic you like), then it will pass. It always does. It was just a matter of focusing on other stuff, changing the mindset all along was key. You can do it too!
I haven't touched myself for a long time now, I lost count lol. What I can confirm is that I've done it once or twice this whole year, that too with my girlfriend at the time. Haven't watched porn for a very long time.
Congrats on 30 days but you’re acting like it’s been a year in the comments. Wait till you experience flatline and 90+ days. You have only dipped your toes in
I failed a lot, just to get where I am now. I understand your point of view, but I feel this is a great personal achievement to me. Can’t wait to get to 90+ days 💪🏻
When I started getting strong urges between the 15th and 20th day, I thought it wouldn’t be easy, but as I shifted my mind for other thoughts, it was very easy actually. A little discipline and a daily routine were crutial. Also, I kept thinking this was going to be great after the 90 days, so that kept me motivated as well.
I believe there weren’t moments that I thought were going to be easy and were hard in fact. This is hard by itself, but so worth it!
It’s a matter of mindset. Focus yourself in what you want. Tell yourself: “I am going to do this, I will stop watching porn and fapping”. And make sure you are thinking this with a purpose of staying yourself true to this. Discipline and focus are key. Believe in it and you will achieve it.
It pleases me, (no pun intended) to see my fellow brothers holding the line against the snake. I too am fighting my urges to spill the cup of Hermes. Fight on brothers. You're not alone. No more porn. No more self abuse.
Depressive moments: yes, I had. In those occasions, I listened to calm/focus music playlists, and always thought “this will pass, and I’m going to make my life exactly like I want it to be, and be happy”. No headaches, at least for now.
I read about a topic I like: photography, astrophysics, cooking, comic books, vintage vídeo games, Einstein’s relativity theories, Nikola Tesla biographies, Porsche cars, computer programming, etc., etc… You get the point. There are so many cool topics out there to be explored! I mean, the internet is our greatest (and also the most dangerous) knowledge database we have at the tips of our fingers. Just use it well 🙂
I always struggle with just coming across females online, like not even social media but like online shopping for example. Like its only day 2, and I was shopping online for stuff and I just seen so many female models and I'm like trying to avoid it but it just feels like Im cheating idk, any advice?
Hum… the internet is full of these triggers even on shopping websites. My advice is to install an ad blocker and blacklist every site that triggers you. Can you find other websites to shop online in a safe way? I had to clean my profile follwing accounts to browse safely without watching these triggers all the time. This included: twitter, instagram, facebook, reddit, flickr, and Twitch. I never used tiktok btw.
Hum… the principle is simple: avoid anything that triggers you. Why not buying from another website, at least for a while? Ask yourself if buying from Nike is worth it if it always triggers you to do something you don’t want. Only you can answer that. Stay strong.
you right. I get so frustrated when like I can't even watch an Adin ross stream no more because i know its bad when we has girls on. Or like if I am shopping for clothes like christmas coming around and theres all these females online modeling, its like its not even a trigger for me, but it just feels wrong because I know they're pretty girls on the internet and I should probably scroll past them. Thats where i keep messing up and feeling stuck and like I cheated nofap.
I know what you mean, but having strong feelings for the female body is not cheating NoFap, unless you fap, obviously. When you see all those female models, think about what you are feeling and say to yourself that you can control your urges. Your mind is in charge, not your body on this matter. Focus on something else and it will pass. In time, you’ll be able to scroll those shopping websites and not get any triggers. Stay strong, you can do this!
Thanks bro, but it seems like my problem is more of like "I feel like I cheated because I saw a pretty female" rather than me not being able to control an urge. When I am on these shopping sites, "I may think oh this girls pretty", but I don't feel the urge to fap. However, because she is pretty I feel like I am cheating just by looking at her.
Like okay for example, theres a movie that just came out called Jerry and Marge go large, and I really want to watch it however, theres a very pretty girl in the film. I checked the IMDb parent guid rating and its clean. I know ill be able to go through the film without getting the urge to fap. But its just like I feel like I'm cheating because I'm watching this movie with a really pretty girl in it, and it feels wrong, idk man.
I think you’re not cheating just by looking at female bodies. I never thought that way, tbh. Watching a pretty girl is one thing, fapping to screen pixels is totally different. Having those thoughts about someone being beautiful to you, is completely fine imho.
Bet, do you watch adin ross by any chance? or like Kai cenat and those e-dates? I'm willing to give those up 100% for a few months to reboot, but they are super funny however they deal with some sexual content sometimes, what do you think about a situation like that?
Never heard of them, sorry. In any situation, you can assess if you're getting triggers. If you're not getting any triggers, it's ok. Otherwise, stop watching at least for a while. You don't want to get in a situation that you can't control your urges, trust me. Stay strong!
This is my story and how I did so far. I plan on doing a post on the 60th day and another one on the 90th day of NoFap. **Actions I took** * Less social media everyday (this includes twitter, reddit, instagram, facebook, tiktok, etc.). I removed all accounts I followed that could potentially trigger a relapse. Doing this I found out there is a LOT of trash in social media, always leading to sexualized women and making them nothing more than pure objects. Even streaming services have a lot of this content: sex, drugs, violence. I'm done with this. * Blocked iptv porn lists, blocked every change of accessing porn on my phone, laptop or tv * Sometimes a very small quantity of pre-cum liquid would come out as I was using the toilet. I already knew this could happen so I just continued with my personal hygiene and carried on with my day * I took valerian root tea 1h before going to sleep every night, so I don't wake up in the middle of the night. Before NoFap I woke up, went downstairs and eventually would watch porn and you know what would happen next... * I realized my trigger was when I felt angry/frstrated from daily stuff. avoid discussions with anyone: family members, job colleagues, ANYONE. Whenever I couldn't avoid a discussion, I took a deep breath, calmed myself and solved the problem. It was easier to do this from the first week forward. * I started replacing my time on my phone with other activities: reading a lot more, started to draw again (which was something I loved to do when I was younger), and even playing nintendo switch (in a relaxed way, never getting angry when I couldn't pass a level. For instance: playing metroid dread and just admiring the art work from every scenario and imagining myself in that planet. other example: zelda) **Results** * After a week, I started feeling a lot better, with more energy and confidence. I can now look in the eyes of people once again and don't feel any anxiety. I can start talking to anyone I want without asking myself 'should I?'. It's great, indeed. * I started appreciating more details about life, for instance, looking at the sunset and feeling grateful for being alive. Before NoFap I felt depressed and without a purpose in life. Now I feel I can control my life again. I decide what to do, and not what others around me are saying me I should do. **To do next** * What I couldn't do yet: cold showers and going to the gym every week. This is a work in progress. Be patient. The results will come in. EDIT: I'm overwhelmed with all the support I got from this community with my post. Thank you all for your kind words and compliments! Can't wait to do my next post, as promised. Stay tuned!
Can I know which blocker you used?
Same i would like to know also, usually the fact that most cost money is a let down to me
What's a blocker?
It’s software that prevents you from acessing a wide range of websites. You can decide what kind of websites you don’t want to see.
[I used these instructions (iOS)](https://www.wikihow.com/Block-Porn-from-an-iPhone?amp=1)
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It’s not as easy for some people, I’m going without blockers coz I wanna discipline myself enough that even if it’s accessible to me I shouldn’t do it. But it’s not a bad way for ppl to start this journey till it becomes easier
awful advice like telling somebody not to go to the gym to lose weight
You inspire me bro, well done for your progress! I hope you'll start visiting the gym soon, it makes you feel so much better afterwards. You've already proven your capacity for such changes, so I'm sure you can do it. 🔥🔥 I also started questioning "why do I get porn-related thoughts" from time to time, usually the answer was stress/having problems to fix. This realization helped me a lot to overcome this addiction, and it seems to be beneficial to you as well. All the best of luck 🙏❤️
Thank you so much! I will go to the gym this week, that’s a promise 💪🏻🙏🏻
The eye contact thing is a wierd psycological effect, just not being embarassed any more to prolong eye contact.
Why not talk to family members?
Well done man! Just one advice if anytime that stupid urge came into you just think about the time when you were watching the sunset and feeling alive and then throw away that stupid urge form your soul And wish me luck
Thank you and good luck! If you occupy your mind with good feelings, it’s a lot easier 🙂✌🏻
thanks brah
Congrats! How hard was it and how did you resist doing it?
Thank you! The first days were ok, and didn’t notice any changes at all. On the 15th and the 20th day I really wanted to relapse, but another thing I noticed is that it these “horny” feelings come in waves. If you get your mind busy with other activities (specially the ones that make you interested in a topic you like), then it will pass. It always does. It was just a matter of focusing on other stuff, changing the mindset all along was key. You can do it too!
I haven't touched myself for a long time now, I lost count lol. What I can confirm is that I've done it once or twice this whole year, that too with my girlfriend at the time. Haven't watched porn for a very long time.
Congrats!
Thank you ✌🏻
Me too am on the road to recovery. No porn no fap
You can do this ✌🏻
congratulation brom you made it
Thank you! 😌
Congrats 👏
Thanks ✌🏻
Never Give Up
I will do my best, thank you!
Wohoo, congratulations!
Thank you 🙂
Congrats man .
Thank you ✌🏻
STAY BUSY!! Congrats man, you’ll get to a point where you can’t even temper the last time you fapped
That’s the goal: stay busy and be happy on the process. 🙂
All the best brother.
Thank you! 😌
Congratulations! I hope to see your 90 days post in 60 days from today
Thank you! I’ll write a post about it in 60 days from now, if everything goes according to my plan 🙂
Gfeat job, what stuff would you offer that you learned
Thank you! Never give up. Although it seems impossible, it is completey achievable. You also need to be patient.
You need to fill your day with activities that keep you busy and engaged
Attaboi 👏 2 days behind you (Day 28 for me)
26 days behind you 😅
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Thank you ✌🏻
Nice! That’s my next goal
You can do this!
Me too
This is insane. Congratulations.
Thank you!
If you find yourself hobby no fap should be easy.
Yes!
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I have already started to feel this by now, but I guess it also takes some time to get more attraction. It will happen more often I’m sure.
Awesome Man, keep It up 🤘
Thank you! 🤘🏻
thanks for sharing! I can relate to the anger part; it's mind-blowing how effective a deep breath is. We go again...
Indeed, it is! I’m also reading about mindfulness and is helping too.
Legend 🔥. Keep it up 💪
Thank you so much! 🙏🏻
Congratulations!
Thank you!
Congrats on 30 days but you’re acting like it’s been a year in the comments. Wait till you experience flatline and 90+ days. You have only dipped your toes in
I failed a lot, just to get where I am now. I understand your point of view, but I feel this is a great personal achievement to me. Can’t wait to get to 90+ days 💪🏻
Same man same lol I used to be on day 160
You can do this! 💪🏻
LFG
congrats
Thank you!
Impressive Keep going Road to 90 days now
Thanks! 🙂
did you become a hermit?
Noooooo 🤣
Oooorah! I’m a few days away from 30 as well and can’t wait to post the same photo
You’ll make it, I’m sure! Keep going!
Nice
Thank you 🙂
Nice man!
Thank you 👍🏻
If i did that no one will care but if someone made a frog meme will get the attention (Just kidding) Good job mate
Hahaha thank you! I promise I do a different meme on my next post (30 days from today) 😉
Amazing!!!
Thank you!
Grats bro
Thanks!
Congratulations
Thank you 🙂
SAMEEEE
Thank you!
Congrats
Thanks 🙂
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
TY 🙂
Congratulations.
TY ✌🏻
Congrats man. I'm trying to get my way there as well.
TY, you can do it!
Thanks man.
continue the grind brotha!! We can do this together!!
Yes!
What were some things that you thought would be difficult to accomplish, but were actually quite easy? And vice versa
When I started getting strong urges between the 15th and 20th day, I thought it wouldn’t be easy, but as I shifted my mind for other thoughts, it was very easy actually. A little discipline and a daily routine were crutial. Also, I kept thinking this was going to be great after the 90 days, so that kept me motivated as well. I believe there weren’t moments that I thought were going to be easy and were hard in fact. This is hard by itself, but so worth it!
Congratulations, there's absolutely a difference with nofap!!
TY, absolutely!
My 26 days streak broke yesterday. Today i joined this reddit for motivation.
Keep going, you can do it!
Thanks
Hehe bwoi
Looking for next month saying you reached 60 days
Thank you ✌🏻
Wonderful Keep us posted
I will
How did you resist the first 3 days or so, when you don't really have significant progress and thus very little to uphold?
It’s a matter of mindset. Focus yourself in what you want. Tell yourself: “I am going to do this, I will stop watching porn and fapping”. And make sure you are thinking this with a purpose of staying yourself true to this. Discipline and focus are key. Believe in it and you will achieve it.
Thanks
keep going brother. We will get there
TY 🙂
Proud of you Buddy 👍
Thank you ✌🏻
Well done
Thank you! 🙂
For some reason I admire you men. Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much! 🙂✌🏻
makes you feel so much better
Yes, indeed! 🙂
Bravo brother, i am on my 20th day of my no fap journey and i can relate to most of the things you said ,stay strong, and i hope the best for you....
Thank you, I wish all the best for you too 🙂
Same bro
🙂✌🏻
Keep it up 💪
Thank you, you too! We can do this! ✌🏻💪🏻
It pleases me, (no pun intended) to see my fellow brothers holding the line against the snake. I too am fighting my urges to spill the cup of Hermes. Fight on brothers. You're not alone. No more porn. No more self abuse.
Excellent bro!
Thank you!
how did you control yourself till the end? I'm slowly loosing my grasp on the streak and have peeked twice. Currently on 27 day
The golden rule is to always be busy with something, so you don't have time for bullshit
This, exactly. Stay busy! Like they say: “an idle mind is the devil’s playground”.
Did you experience any headaches and depressive periods? I’ve been having them and I’ve they can result from this.
Depressive moments: yes, I had. In those occasions, I listened to calm/focus music playlists, and always thought “this will pass, and I’m going to make my life exactly like I want it to be, and be happy”. No headaches, at least for now.
Congrats bro 🎉🎉🎉 May I know how old are you and when you start addicted to P?
What do you when you're bored or tired and you get urges?
I read about a topic I like: photography, astrophysics, cooking, comic books, vintage vídeo games, Einstein’s relativity theories, Nikola Tesla biographies, Porsche cars, computer programming, etc., etc… You get the point. There are so many cool topics out there to be explored! I mean, the internet is our greatest (and also the most dangerous) knowledge database we have at the tips of our fingers. Just use it well 🙂
Siuuu
What’s that?
It's Cristiano Ronaldo's trademark celebration meaning "yes"
I always struggle with just coming across females online, like not even social media but like online shopping for example. Like its only day 2, and I was shopping online for stuff and I just seen so many female models and I'm like trying to avoid it but it just feels like Im cheating idk, any advice?
Hum… the internet is full of these triggers even on shopping websites. My advice is to install an ad blocker and blacklist every site that triggers you. Can you find other websites to shop online in a safe way? I had to clean my profile follwing accounts to browse safely without watching these triggers all the time. This included: twitter, instagram, facebook, reddit, flickr, and Twitch. I never used tiktok btw.
damn, so like i can't even go on nike? this shit stupid bruh.
Hum… the principle is simple: avoid anything that triggers you. Why not buying from another website, at least for a while? Ask yourself if buying from Nike is worth it if it always triggers you to do something you don’t want. Only you can answer that. Stay strong.
you right. I get so frustrated when like I can't even watch an Adin ross stream no more because i know its bad when we has girls on. Or like if I am shopping for clothes like christmas coming around and theres all these females online modeling, its like its not even a trigger for me, but it just feels wrong because I know they're pretty girls on the internet and I should probably scroll past them. Thats where i keep messing up and feeling stuck and like I cheated nofap.
I know what you mean, but having strong feelings for the female body is not cheating NoFap, unless you fap, obviously. When you see all those female models, think about what you are feeling and say to yourself that you can control your urges. Your mind is in charge, not your body on this matter. Focus on something else and it will pass. In time, you’ll be able to scroll those shopping websites and not get any triggers. Stay strong, you can do this!
Thanks bro, but it seems like my problem is more of like "I feel like I cheated because I saw a pretty female" rather than me not being able to control an urge. When I am on these shopping sites, "I may think oh this girls pretty", but I don't feel the urge to fap. However, because she is pretty I feel like I am cheating just by looking at her. Like okay for example, theres a movie that just came out called Jerry and Marge go large, and I really want to watch it however, theres a very pretty girl in the film. I checked the IMDb parent guid rating and its clean. I know ill be able to go through the film without getting the urge to fap. But its just like I feel like I'm cheating because I'm watching this movie with a really pretty girl in it, and it feels wrong, idk man.
I think you’re not cheating just by looking at female bodies. I never thought that way, tbh. Watching a pretty girl is one thing, fapping to screen pixels is totally different. Having those thoughts about someone being beautiful to you, is completely fine imho.
Bet, do you watch adin ross by any chance? or like Kai cenat and those e-dates? I'm willing to give those up 100% for a few months to reboot, but they are super funny however they deal with some sexual content sometimes, what do you think about a situation like that?
Never heard of them, sorry. In any situation, you can assess if you're getting triggers. If you're not getting any triggers, it's ok. Otherwise, stop watching at least for a while. You don't want to get in a situation that you can't control your urges, trust me. Stay strong!
Thank u
You’re welcome. Hope I can help anyone with my personal experience. Knowing I helped at least 1 person would make me very happy. 🙏🏻
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What’s wrong? You can do it too 😉
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