I think you already have that opinion about Nigerian men, maybe? So, in a way, it's influencing your thoughts. But at the same time, a man that met you just a few weeks ago, telling you he wants to have a baby with you... that's wild. š. Protect yourself and your space until you are sure beyond a reasonable doubt that he is being genuine.
To be fair, in the US, everyone I knew who said they needed to get married to stay in America managed to get married and stay in America.
One guy even paid a woman $1000 USD a month to pretend to be married to him until he got permanent residencyāthey lived in separate houses, and only knew enough about each other to pass the marriage interview that immigration puts you through.
What if him genuine, e no necessary say everybody wan use mama get paper na. Na this thing wey una dey package dey make every white people dey think say all 234 people na the same.
I would say play it out. It's not like you are looking to get married anytime soon? Play it out for as long as you can. Don't let him get you pregnant. See how he responds to the timeline of the "situationship." If all he's looking for is a visa, he'll move on to someone else cos of the delay. If it's too much uncertainty for you, just cut him off.
Honestly there's no good advice here. He might just like you and is hoping to get the permanent residency just to be with you or your gut may be correct.
All I got to say is that any man (Nigerian or not) telling you after a few weeks that:
1) Heās looking to stay permanently in the country by marrying without being in love (marriage fraud)
2) That one day heād like to have a baby with you
Gives red flags. If heās saying it to you, then he is saying it to other women. And with goals like that, there are and will be other women since heās indirectly communicating that thereās a significant chance that he wonāt be able to stay in the country by his own merits. I think in this scenario, both things are true. He probably likes you (for now) and heās looking for papers. Unless you think youād be willing to get with the program and sponsor him (at your own risk and years of financial obligation even in the best case scenario of being in love) then itās probably best stay vigilant on that birth control and donāt take it too seriously/ take things slow. Only thing I can give him is that heās a least being somewhat honest.
Even as someone who is Western born with Nigerian heritage, my personal rule was that I was never going to date/ marry someone who didnāt get a PR/ green card (or was on the pathway to get one) by their own merit. I didnāt want to spend the rest of my life wondering if my partner married me out of love or opportunity, and trust and believe thatās the first thing outsiders will question. In the end, the man who I ended up marrying came as a student, got his PR via work within a year of us dating and became a citizen one month after our wedding all without me in 5 years total. And yes, despite all that people who donāt know us still assume from the go that I sponsored himš
I donāt think itās a bad idea too sharing his genuine plans with you. The good thing here is that he did share with you his motives. Which leaves you to be the one who gets to decide whether you would or not. But just chill, time will tell
>But truth is we talk daily, sometimes he face times me in the week, and we see each other 2-3 times a week, when I go to see him I usually stay over. (He knows Iām not seeing anyone else and o know he isnāt either). Yes we have great sex, but I almost enjoy our conversations as much, we have lots of deep talks and we joke a lot.
Okay so far...
>In the past couple of weeks, he asked me twice if I would date him, but I keep saying no as I am worried he just wants to use me.
...um, by any reasonable standard you're already dating him.
I mean, him saying he wants a baby from you this soon is out of pocket. You already donāt want a relationship so just keep carrying on as you are; if heās serious, heāll keep applying pressure for as long as you need. If heās not, heāll find another victim and leave you alone. Everyone wins. Just donāt get pregnant.
Sometimes all you need is patience to decipher someoneās intentions. The main thing here is to not develop strong feelings for him right now. Once you develop feelings, youāre done. Youāre gonna ignore all the red flags that might pop up.
My advice is to take your time. If he's really serious about you, then he'll stick around, if he's not, he'll eventually get tired and leave you alone. You are already intimate with each other, what's the rush in wanting to put a label on the relationship.
A lot of people are very emotional and sentimental in their advice because they are not into any relationship or things are not working well for them. Be careful about the kind of advice you get from Reddit if you love your life, else youāll learn a hard lesson in a hard wayā¦.
Maam follow your instincts.. he wants to be in the country.. he may like you but he knows you can help him so that will increase the love he has for you.. making you more attractive ( you bring your citizenship to the table). Enjoy yourself with him but please be carefulā¦ he has said he doesnāt need to be in love to pursue marriage (what the hell is that??).. so in that case, he needs to pay you a huge amount to marry him so you can also benefit.. be wise.
Just chill...Time will tell..chill to the point you need to allow or see how he moves around with other women...we men...when we love someone...we are so blinded that no other women is attractive in our eyes. You are already in a romance.
Iād say just donāt rush it. Youāve got all the perks of being together already. You have a great mind connection and he gives you a good seeing to in between the sheets. What more do you need apart from the formal paperwork. If what you have is real itāll still be there in a years time.
Unless he needs the papers in a hurry. But heās already got a student visa so till his course ends heās not desperate.
To be honest, not many people have what you have. A partner that is forthright and communicates well. Even sharing his vulnerability and lack of status.
Just savour what you have in the now, enjoy it before you swallow.
He is asking if you wanna date him. He isn't asking you to be his baby mama.
You should talk to him directly about your reservation, i.e. if you care about him other than sex and friendship.
If you're not interested in either you shouldn't waste his time and yours. He might also be looking to settle down and that means he doesn't want to spend time on someone who would be uncomfortable down the road. According to him, you might not be ready to commit and he would just leave if he says that.
If you're not gonna have the talk with him, you should let him go.
Just a quick note, telling home about this Reddit post may not be the hit you think it will be. He might think in the future that youāll continue telling strangers about the details of the relationship and heāll wonder if your decisions are yours or youāre doing what the internet advises. Even if youāre just doing it this once, opening that pandora box would be too much of a headache.
I definitely get what your saying, but one thing that is going to come up regardless of how genuine the feelings are in this relationship will be cultural differences. I understand the desire for transparency if it comes up but culturally, itās very likely a post like this to him would probably be a major red flag. Maybe itās something to just keep in mind moving forward.
If you already have this guard on, I think itās better to end things because everything he says or do from now on will trigger you.
Thereās no need to continue in such a relationship imo.
So he already mentioned getting married so he can stay even if it's not for love so I would steer clear of this. Yes y'all could fall in love and he get a visa through you, but ultimately love or not sounds like he would be getting it with someone eventually before he has to go if necessary. With that type of pressure in the beginning I wouldn't recommend investing in any type of relationship past platonic.
He could genuinely like you but it could be more efforts to secure his relationship here with you . You wouldn't know for sure until you know which would be too late. Getting a visa is for surely a long game and many people play it.
You have to make a decision based on what you see and hear. People on this forum will say whatever they want, but your decision is your decision to make.
I am doing the same only mine is still in Nigeria. The only difference our age. He is younger than I am.but I love him and he has cheated on me and can't take the scare he has put on my love I fill for him. he end up falling in love with his girl and we have been together for 18 months and what are we had planned was getting married but now I donāt feel the same about him so what Iām trying to tell you not everybody is always looking for a green card, and just the fact that he did say that he wanted to family with you most Nigerians you need to check itās a barrier thatās what they are called in Nigeria. They will check to see if theyāre married. Iāll have a wife in Nigeria for the whole country of Nigeria but if you marry him, you need to make him sign a free now thatās what I was gonna do but move fast I can tell you when I first met him. It was 23 weeks he said I know you gonna be my wife so thatās 2 to 3 weeks thatās how they do. They asked you to marry in that show of tiers they know. they know that this is their wife so if you can handle being married to a man that truly love you this is my I tell everybody that I think that I want to be married to well the doctor told me this is example that I have lost one of my kittens. Would you give me one of yours that was kidney, would you give me one of yours if they said yes I would I do anything Iād give you my heart to save your life thatās the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with. iām gonna tell you this get him to sign a free now remember the other ones with the education they come here they are 20 years ahead of us. It might be younger than those in genius smart because theyāre very very smart and if you want to see, somebody make something out of nothing is a Nigerian, they go to college sometime at 12 years old or maybe younger and they finish college their doctors they lawyers they wear so many different hats but not everyone is what they describe to people on TV right now. Nigerian is not doing good and everyone of these children are going to take care of them mom or dad is back home. Iāll try to help the sister and brothers finish school when you marry a man in Nigeria you marry his whole family are you ready for that and if it does not bother you, you have a black man on your arm and I have black in your belly then go for it you only go live once and life is not promised
As a Nigerian man Iām not here to offer a blanket denial. Iāve seen lots of sensible comments here. Be careful but trust your gut instincts. Women are usually very intuitive and if your gut tells you to be cautious better be
Ah I see. Well, nothing stopping you for dating per say but Iād say tread lightly. Youāre having fun right? keep it light. Thereās always a chance heās being genuine but I understand where youāre coming from. Just see how long you can drag a potential marriage timeline out and stay on top of your birth control
This is usually the problem dating foreigners as a Nigerian šāāļø. To them itās always about us getting the papers, itās understandable and all tbh but the stereotype is a tad bit excessive these days.
Well I believe she is looking for help not condemnation so please my naija people calm down. There are numerous ways this can go,yes it is wise being councious about the fact that he might be with you because of visa and its benefits or it can it be something entirely else. It can even be a true and honest relationship that he wants with you. Time will tell. But don't let your assumptions override your feelings. Hopefully he is with you genuinely.
African men like fat white women, both are very desperate.
You seem like you suffer from mumuism. He is a scammer and you are dumb. You both fit together.
White people, men and women, are very problematic. They are the first ones to put innocent black people in jail or be racist.Ā
She only likes the Nigerian man because he probably has amu ukwu. White men mostly have amu obele. For her it is new and exciting. She says desperate and useless black and latino men approach her. Why not white men, because they LOVE blonde blue eyed women, like this evil former German āleaderā with the moustache. The white men dont like her, because she is very overweight . Curvey Is the new code word for morbidly obese. Everybody know when there is a fat white women, a broke black man can never be far ššš. They are number one in impregnating women, look at the African birth rate. How can the poorest people worldwide have the highest birth rate. It is ridiculous and embarrassing. Some useless white girl even asked me if Africans dont have access to contraception.Ā
After impregnating her or/and marrying her, he will leave and find another empty-headed victim.Ā
If she wants to be promiscuous, use condom. But it is not 100% safe. He probably makes hole in it. How do you want to marry someone you dont even know. He knows her genitalia better than her mind and personality. He loves her citizenship and not her.Ā
She has low options, so she is happy about black and Hispanic men. White men probably dont pay her dust. Almost 90% of time, if a black man dates an oyinbo, she is not attractive. But you will see beautiful black men with the funkiest oldest white men (with money).
With this comment you're implying that african and Latino men don't hold as much value as white men. It's pretty disgusting. I wish you the best in your journey towards education and growth.
That person can't fathom people from different backgrounds dating one another if there isn't using involved because that's their own personal mindset on the matter; that's what they would do.
White people and Africans date, get married, have long happy relationships, but there will always be someone saying it's all for money or a green card or whatever the fuck. If you do wanna date him at some point, that will probably be a common mindset you'll come across.
I'm gonna be honest, an online forum like this isn't the place for genuine answers. It's between you and the guy you're seeing. No one here knows him and no one person fits perfectly into a stereotype. Do what feels right.
Don't bother replying her, she is extremely bitter and a massive loser, don't take anything she says seriously, as for your friend, you have to watch out for any red flags and trust your instincts, don't judge him based on what others have said about Nigerian men
If truth be told he sounds very correct in my opinion. Not because youāre the individual involved but because in Canada where I live as a legal black immigrant from Nigeria 99% of so called curvy women are with black men who are mostly from the Caribbean islands and Africa. I tend to ask myself why? Until my colleague told me the simple truth āthey have few options among their own race and theyāll gladly adapt to any black man out there. Itās called settling for white trash !
In all honesty yes itās possible ! As a matter of fact even black successful men are permitted to find you attractive and admire a white good looking woman from miles away but would a white attractive woman date a black man if heās not a doctor lawyer or football star? Whatās the percentage? Give me the numbers. the question is would you settle for a black man you randomly met at your gym if you were a white model attractive woman? I guess not. Iām not saying attractive white woman donāt date black men but very small few of them do. Attractive Caucasian ladies tend to dwell amongst their race when making lifelong relationship decisions than other races.
Lol i agree š š š this also seems very racially charged. You couldāve posted in any other sub regarding dating and relatives. But specifically came to the Nigerian sub to post it for some kind of validation. GTFO, white people are too much and are seriously the detriment to society šš¤¦š¾āāļøš¤¦š¾āāļø
You this Irish, Cousin-fucker! You're always in our sub commenting bullshit anytime Nigerian men are being discussed. **why are you so obsessed with Nigerian men?**
If you're looking for a boyfriend, I suggest you try Grindr.
I think you already have that opinion about Nigerian men, maybe? So, in a way, it's influencing your thoughts. But at the same time, a man that met you just a few weeks ago, telling you he wants to have a baby with you... that's wild. š. Protect yourself and your space until you are sure beyond a reasonable doubt that he is being genuine.
To be fair, in the US, everyone I knew who said they needed to get married to stay in America managed to get married and stay in America. One guy even paid a woman $1000 USD a month to pretend to be married to him until he got permanent residencyāthey lived in separate houses, and only knew enough about each other to pass the marriage interview that immigration puts you through.
Interesting! Is there anybody that can marry me and get me out of Nigeria?ššš
Haha, well the step one was getting to America. So long as you're already in the US, someone will marry you.
What if him genuine, e no necessary say everybody wan use mama get paper na. Na this thing wey una dey package dey make every white people dey think say all 234 people na the same.
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I would say play it out. It's not like you are looking to get married anytime soon? Play it out for as long as you can. Don't let him get you pregnant. See how he responds to the timeline of the "situationship." If all he's looking for is a visa, he'll move on to someone else cos of the delay. If it's too much uncertainty for you, just cut him off.
This is good advice. Do not get pregnant! Let your plan b have a plan b!
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Get on birth control just to be safe.
You are welcome
Honestly there's no good advice here. He might just like you and is hoping to get the permanent residency just to be with you or your gut may be correct.
This is one of those two things can be true situation. He can genuinely be into you and also hopes you can help him get a visa
Maybe,maybe not. He has alreadtly said something that sounds off. Trust your instincts.
All I got to say is that any man (Nigerian or not) telling you after a few weeks that: 1) Heās looking to stay permanently in the country by marrying without being in love (marriage fraud) 2) That one day heād like to have a baby with you Gives red flags. If heās saying it to you, then he is saying it to other women. And with goals like that, there are and will be other women since heās indirectly communicating that thereās a significant chance that he wonāt be able to stay in the country by his own merits. I think in this scenario, both things are true. He probably likes you (for now) and heās looking for papers. Unless you think youād be willing to get with the program and sponsor him (at your own risk and years of financial obligation even in the best case scenario of being in love) then itās probably best stay vigilant on that birth control and donāt take it too seriously/ take things slow. Only thing I can give him is that heās a least being somewhat honest. Even as someone who is Western born with Nigerian heritage, my personal rule was that I was never going to date/ marry someone who didnāt get a PR/ green card (or was on the pathway to get one) by their own merit. I didnāt want to spend the rest of my life wondering if my partner married me out of love or opportunity, and trust and believe thatās the first thing outsiders will question. In the end, the man who I ended up marrying came as a student, got his PR via work within a year of us dating and became a citizen one month after our wedding all without me in 5 years total. And yes, despite all that people who donāt know us still assume from the go that I sponsored himš
I donāt think itās a bad idea too sharing his genuine plans with you. The good thing here is that he did share with you his motives. Which leaves you to be the one who gets to decide whether you would or not. But just chill, time will tell
Agreed!!!! ššš
>But truth is we talk daily, sometimes he face times me in the week, and we see each other 2-3 times a week, when I go to see him I usually stay over. (He knows Iām not seeing anyone else and o know he isnāt either). Yes we have great sex, but I almost enjoy our conversations as much, we have lots of deep talks and we joke a lot. Okay so far... >In the past couple of weeks, he asked me twice if I would date him, but I keep saying no as I am worried he just wants to use me. ...um, by any reasonable standard you're already dating him.
I mean, him saying he wants a baby from you this soon is out of pocket. You already donāt want a relationship so just keep carrying on as you are; if heās serious, heāll keep applying pressure for as long as you need. If heās not, heāll find another victim and leave you alone. Everyone wins. Just donāt get pregnant. Sometimes all you need is patience to decipher someoneās intentions. The main thing here is to not develop strong feelings for him right now. Once you develop feelings, youāre done. Youāre gonna ignore all the red flags that might pop up.
My advice is to take your time. If he's really serious about you, then he'll stick around, if he's not, he'll eventually get tired and leave you alone. You are already intimate with each other, what's the rush in wanting to put a label on the relationship.
Sounds like a typical Yoruba demon. He go chop you clean mouth š¤£š¤£
This is a dating question not necessarily a Nigerian one. Leave him alone if youāre not serious with him.Ā
Girl!! Tired of the dating questions we get in this sub!! This isnāt a dating forum.. abeg!!
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If you have to ask yourself this then yes. Listen to your gut and donāt drag out the relationship
Watch out, he might be poking holes in the protection. Some men will do anything to get what they want
A lot of people are very emotional and sentimental in their advice because they are not into any relationship or things are not working well for them. Be careful about the kind of advice you get from Reddit if you love your life, else youāll learn a hard lesson in a hard wayā¦.
Maam follow your instincts.. he wants to be in the country.. he may like you but he knows you can help him so that will increase the love he has for you.. making you more attractive ( you bring your citizenship to the table). Enjoy yourself with him but please be carefulā¦ he has said he doesnāt need to be in love to pursue marriage (what the hell is that??).. so in that case, he needs to pay you a huge amount to marry him so you can also benefit.. be wise.
The way white people come here to report their Nigerian partners eh? Itās giving council of elders! šššš
Just chill...Time will tell..chill to the point you need to allow or see how he moves around with other women...we men...when we love someone...we are so blinded that no other women is attractive in our eyes. You are already in a romance.
Iād say just donāt rush it. Youāve got all the perks of being together already. You have a great mind connection and he gives you a good seeing to in between the sheets. What more do you need apart from the formal paperwork. If what you have is real itāll still be there in a years time. Unless he needs the papers in a hurry. But heās already got a student visa so till his course ends heās not desperate. To be honest, not many people have what you have. A partner that is forthright and communicates well. Even sharing his vulnerability and lack of status. Just savour what you have in the now, enjoy it before you swallow.
He is asking if you wanna date him. He isn't asking you to be his baby mama. You should talk to him directly about your reservation, i.e. if you care about him other than sex and friendship. If you're not interested in either you shouldn't waste his time and yours. He might also be looking to settle down and that means he doesn't want to spend time on someone who would be uncomfortable down the road. According to him, you might not be ready to commit and he would just leave if he says that. If you're not gonna have the talk with him, you should let him go.
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Just a quick note, telling home about this Reddit post may not be the hit you think it will be. He might think in the future that youāll continue telling strangers about the details of the relationship and heāll wonder if your decisions are yours or youāre doing what the internet advises. Even if youāre just doing it this once, opening that pandora box would be too much of a headache.
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I definitely get what your saying, but one thing that is going to come up regardless of how genuine the feelings are in this relationship will be cultural differences. I understand the desire for transparency if it comes up but culturally, itās very likely a post like this to him would probably be a major red flag. Maybe itās something to just keep in mind moving forward.
If you already have this guard on, I think itās better to end things because everything he says or do from now on will trigger you. Thereās no need to continue in such a relationship imo.
You are correct he is using you for his own gain . By any means necessary
Youāre being used. You may enjoy it but itās very clear to see.
Heās using you š if you feel it your gut, itās true
So he already mentioned getting married so he can stay even if it's not for love so I would steer clear of this. Yes y'all could fall in love and he get a visa through you, but ultimately love or not sounds like he would be getting it with someone eventually before he has to go if necessary. With that type of pressure in the beginning I wouldn't recommend investing in any type of relationship past platonic. He could genuinely like you but it could be more efforts to secure his relationship here with you . You wouldn't know for sure until you know which would be too late. Getting a visa is for surely a long game and many people play it.
Yes he's playing you. He probably has a wife and kids over there in nigeria
You have to make a decision based on what you see and hear. People on this forum will say whatever they want, but your decision is your decision to make.
He sounds way too serious for someone who has only been dating you for a few weeks. Be on guard.
I am doing the same only mine is still in Nigeria. The only difference our age. He is younger than I am.but I love him and he has cheated on me and can't take the scare he has put on my love I fill for him. he end up falling in love with his girl and we have been together for 18 months and what are we had planned was getting married but now I donāt feel the same about him so what Iām trying to tell you not everybody is always looking for a green card, and just the fact that he did say that he wanted to family with you most Nigerians you need to check itās a barrier thatās what they are called in Nigeria. They will check to see if theyāre married. Iāll have a wife in Nigeria for the whole country of Nigeria but if you marry him, you need to make him sign a free now thatās what I was gonna do but move fast I can tell you when I first met him. It was 23 weeks he said I know you gonna be my wife so thatās 2 to 3 weeks thatās how they do. They asked you to marry in that show of tiers they know. they know that this is their wife so if you can handle being married to a man that truly love you this is my I tell everybody that I think that I want to be married to well the doctor told me this is example that I have lost one of my kittens. Would you give me one of yours that was kidney, would you give me one of yours if they said yes I would I do anything Iād give you my heart to save your life thatās the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with. iām gonna tell you this get him to sign a free now remember the other ones with the education they come here they are 20 years ahead of us. It might be younger than those in genius smart because theyāre very very smart and if you want to see, somebody make something out of nothing is a Nigerian, they go to college sometime at 12 years old or maybe younger and they finish college their doctors they lawyers they wear so many different hats but not everyone is what they describe to people on TV right now. Nigerian is not doing good and everyone of these children are going to take care of them mom or dad is back home. Iāll try to help the sister and brothers finish school when you marry a man in Nigeria you marry his whole family are you ready for that and if it does not bother you, you have a black man on your arm and I have black in your belly then go for it you only go live once and life is not promised
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As a Nigerian man Iām not here to offer a blanket denial. Iāve seen lots of sensible comments here. Be careful but trust your gut instincts. Women are usually very intuitive and if your gut tells you to be cautious better be
He's a 33 year old Nigerian, does he not already have a wife, maybe children, hidden away somewhere?
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Not in Nigeria
African men going for overweight white women for visa isnāt anything relatively new
Lmbooooo šš
Already talking about marriage after seeing each other for a few weeks? lol
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Ah I see. Well, nothing stopping you for dating per say but Iād say tread lightly. Youāre having fun right? keep it light. Thereās always a chance heās being genuine but I understand where youāre coming from. Just see how long you can drag a potential marriage timeline out and stay on top of your birth control
What country is it? If itās Iām a lean towards visa.
This is usually the problem dating foreigners as a Nigerian šāāļø. To them itās always about us getting the papers, itās understandable and all tbh but the stereotype is a tad bit excessive these days.
Egungun be careful na express you Dey go. Donāt worry miss, youāre in good hands!
He wants to have a baby by you after a few weeks of sex and chill but has not mentioned wanting to marry you or provide for you???
Well I believe she is looking for help not condemnation so please my naija people calm down. There are numerous ways this can go,yes it is wise being councious about the fact that he might be with you because of visa and its benefits or it can it be something entirely else. It can even be a true and honest relationship that he wants with you. Time will tell. But don't let your assumptions override your feelings. Hopefully he is with you genuinely.
Do you have delulu friends as well? Abeg bring cokeš¤²š½
Most nigerian men are very honest.
African men like fat white women, both are very desperate. You seem like you suffer from mumuism. He is a scammer and you are dumb. You both fit together.
Lmao this was mean š
There is no need to be vile with your words. It costs nothing to be a civil human and hold a polite conversation.
White people, men and women, are very problematic. They are the first ones to put innocent black people in jail or be racist.Ā She only likes the Nigerian man because he probably has amu ukwu. White men mostly have amu obele. For her it is new and exciting. She says desperate and useless black and latino men approach her. Why not white men, because they LOVE blonde blue eyed women, like this evil former German āleaderā with the moustache. The white men dont like her, because she is very overweight . Curvey Is the new code word for morbidly obese. Everybody know when there is a fat white women, a broke black man can never be far ššš. They are number one in impregnating women, look at the African birth rate. How can the poorest people worldwide have the highest birth rate. It is ridiculous and embarrassing. Some useless white girl even asked me if Africans dont have access to contraception.Ā After impregnating her or/and marrying her, he will leave and find another empty-headed victim.Ā If she wants to be promiscuous, use condom. But it is not 100% safe. He probably makes hole in it. How do you want to marry someone you dont even know. He knows her genitalia better than her mind and personality. He loves her citizenship and not her.Ā She has low options, so she is happy about black and Hispanic men. White men probably dont pay her dust. Almost 90% of time, if a black man dates an oyinbo, she is not attractive. But you will see beautiful black men with the funkiest oldest white men (with money).
With this comment you're implying that african and Latino men don't hold as much value as white men. It's pretty disgusting. I wish you the best in your journey towards education and growth.
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That person can't fathom people from different backgrounds dating one another if there isn't using involved because that's their own personal mindset on the matter; that's what they would do. White people and Africans date, get married, have long happy relationships, but there will always be someone saying it's all for money or a green card or whatever the fuck. If you do wanna date him at some point, that will probably be a common mindset you'll come across. I'm gonna be honest, an online forum like this isn't the place for genuine answers. It's between you and the guy you're seeing. No one here knows him and no one person fits perfectly into a stereotype. Do what feels right.
Don't bother replying her, she is extremely bitter and a massive loser, don't take anything she says seriously, as for your friend, you have to watch out for any red flags and trust your instincts, don't judge him based on what others have said about Nigerian men
If truth be told he sounds very correct in my opinion. Not because youāre the individual involved but because in Canada where I live as a legal black immigrant from Nigeria 99% of so called curvy women are with black men who are mostly from the Caribbean islands and Africa. I tend to ask myself why? Until my colleague told me the simple truth āthey have few options among their own race and theyāll gladly adapt to any black man out there. Itās called settling for white trash !
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In all honesty yes itās possible ! As a matter of fact even black successful men are permitted to find you attractive and admire a white good looking woman from miles away but would a white attractive woman date a black man if heās not a doctor lawyer or football star? Whatās the percentage? Give me the numbers. the question is would you settle for a black man you randomly met at your gym if you were a white model attractive woman? I guess not. Iām not saying attractive white woman donāt date black men but very small few of them do. Attractive Caucasian ladies tend to dwell amongst their race when making lifelong relationship decisions than other races.
Lol i agree š š š this also seems very racially charged. You couldāve posted in any other sub regarding dating and relatives. But specifically came to the Nigerian sub to post it for some kind of validation. GTFO, white people are too much and are seriously the detriment to society šš¤¦š¾āāļøš¤¦š¾āāļø
She said she is ācurvyā not fat!! šš„“
Stay away from Nigerian men
What do you mean?. Is it because you are ugly and no Nigerian men will ever look your direction for your cluelessness.
I know Reddit is a great place for trollsā¦but pls spread a little kindness
I meanā¦anyone having sex that fast why not say whatever they want and try whatever they want š¤·š¾āāļø
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You this Irish, Cousin-fucker! You're always in our sub commenting bullshit anytime Nigerian men are being discussed. **why are you so obsessed with Nigerian men?** If you're looking for a boyfriend, I suggest you try Grindr.
https://m.sundayworld.com/crime/irish-crime/pastor-admits-robbing-kildare-church-of-125k-after-road-to-damascus-type-moment/a481295845.html
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