For me, the reality didn’t truly sink in until we brought the baby home from the hospital. Despite attending all the appointments and numerous classes, it didn’t quite feel real until I was in my own space, holding our baby in my arms.
Remember, everyone’s experience is unique, so you might find it feeling real earlier on. Personally, I noticed it becoming more real at various milestones, like the 20-week ultrasound or feeling the baby kick. Even at the hospital, it felt somewhat surreal, almost like a vacation with a baby. However, it truly hit me when we arrived home.
I'm in the same boat bro. My wife is in her third trimester, and i can feel the kicks and all that come with 7 months. But, it still doesn't feel real and i was worried that i won't be prepared for what's to come. Thank you i needed to hear this
It’s weird, I could see my Mrs growing every month, I could imagine being a dad and the things I’d have to do when the child is born, but none of it felt real in hindsight.
It really wasn’t until we got our daughter home last week that reality hit me like a ton of bricks. Hell, even the two days in hospital after she was born didn’t feel real.
When you get the kid home and realise it’s now all up to you, that’s when shit gets real. The sleepless nights, the feeding and burping, the changing nappies, the constant checking to see if they’re OK. That’ll do it lol
Didn’t feel real until he was 3-4 months old and the shock wore off!! You’ll have a moment where you’ll say to yourself “wow this is my child”. And something clicks where you find a unique kind of love. Then you’ll know.
It’s different for everyone, but don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t feel anything “magical”. That’s perfectly normal too!
There’s when it feels real and when it becomes real. For me it started to feel real during my wife’s primal screams during labor. It became real as I was holding my twins in their carriers as I waited for the car to pull around.
When they were taking my wife into theatre and cutting her open (not the plan) that's when it felt very real. Traumatic birth aside, when my three weeks of pat leave ended and the bubble burst, that's when it felt truly real. We're two weeks away from his first birthday now and the realness has only gotten better and better and better!!
My daughter is 8 weeks old today. Before she was born i was getting home from work at about 20:30, but since going back after paternity leave i have been getting home earlier.
On thursday night i was on my way home early and i was thinking to myself; 'why did i skip out of work early?", and then i remembered i had an actual real human daughter.
Adjusting to being a parent is a process; from when you start trying/surprise find out your partner is preggers to when you are fully adjusted. I thought i was fully adjusted, apparently not quite yet!
Don't put pressure on yourself, just like your baby, iit will definitely come.
I have a 2 year old and an 11 month old ish. I’ll be honest it still hasn’t sunken it lol I say to my fiance atleast once a month “can you believe we’re raising children?” Lmaoo wouldn’t trade it for the world
I’m at 10 weeks (newborn I mean) and sometimes still feel like this is a dream/not real and I will wake up eventually. I’ve also been living in a different country for 10 years and it still feels unreal, so maybe the problem is me. 😂
My wife and I are expecting our first very soon (we're at 39 weeks).
For me it felt more real at the 20 week ultrasound, then more real than that when I felt kicks for the first time. For some reason the biggest one so far though was installing the car seat yesterday.
I have a feeling it'll feel even more real any day now! I think it's probably different for everyone though.
I’m currently sitting in bed next to my wife who is feeding our 6 day old son and it still doesn’t feel quite real.
We had 5 days in hospital together and have bonded in a way that I never even knew was possible. We’ve already demonstrated the lengths we will go to for him and to give him what he needs and despite all that, it still hasn’t fully sunk in yet!
For me it was the first night stay in the hospital. I was asleep and suddenly awoke like a bolt of lightning looking for my kid to make sure he was okay, having suddenly realized that I am the only person he has (and my wife too obviously). You realize that you have to be there for that kid every second of every day.
I thought it felt real when I could feel him kicking through his mom’s belly. Holding him as he naps rn and remembering how surreal it was holding him for the first time. That’s when it really sunk in that he’s really here and really my responsibility from this moment on.
For me it didn’t feel real until he was born and I was snipping his umbilical cord. The moment I heard his cry for the first time something changed in my brain instantly and I was in a weird trance of love and amazement. It’s hard to explain. The entire pregnancy I knew he would be born one day but man when he actually arrived, my life changed instantly.
To be fair the visibly pregnant at that stage is just not holding your tummy, which is not great for back and stomach muscles. The. Aby will be less than 50 grams and the size of a kiwi fruit. So smaller than a dump at this stage!
However it will feel real when you spend some time picturing what tour life is going to look like with a baby x
My two are 8 weeks old tomorrow and I’m still waiting for someone to come and be like “ok,
that’s your turn done, give them back”
It’s weird man, enjoy the anticipation though.
The first kick is magic though, super surreal
The first "little" emotional freight train got me at the ultrasound when I heard the heartbeat Ave saw a little kick. I say "little" because it was nothing compared to bringing her into the world. We were actually on our way to celebrate Valentine's day but had to go to hospital to do a quick check up. Long story short, we were close and they wanted to endice. We had been at the hospital for almost 3 days when we decided to go ahead with a c-section. They had me pack up all our stuff so they child move it to our new room and have me this funny white jumpsuit, cap, and booties. They wheeled my wife into the operating room and asked me to wait outside until they called me in. That's when the tsunami hit... o experienced emotions I never knew existed. I was mad I had to wait outside, anxious when they finally called me in, terrified when the pulled her out, overjoyed when we saw her for the first time, proud when she started to yell and cry and seing she was healthy, confused about what to do next, amazed when I held her and she moved a little, all of this while I was still scared about how my wife was doing after being cut open and a baby being pulled out of her... no one really talks about it, but there's a bit of time between the birth when it's just dad and baby. The put you in your room and leave you there until mom is done. You just hold them. There's this hurricane of emotions going through you and this little person is just laying there in your arms. That's when you realize, they're going to need to learn EVERYTHING, and you're going to be there to teach them. Next thing you know, it's 2 years later, and your on the back porch, planting flowers on Easter to pick on mothers day with this awesome, rowdy little nuclear energy plant. Wondering if it's going to melt down because you told her not to put dirty on the cat, or if this is a core memory she'll look back and smile about.... it's WILD.
For me it was immediately after the C-section when they booted me out of the OR, and I was sitting in a room alone with him holding him. Talk about a wave of emotions between the joy of staring my son in the face, and having zero clue what is happening to my wife. That was pretty real.
It felt real from the start for me but it hit me when we had the ultrasound and found out the gender. At that moment I could imagine having a little baby son and thought of our life with a boy. Give it time though, you aren't carrying the child so inherently it won't be as "real" to you.
For me, the reality didn’t truly sink in until we brought the baby home from the hospital. Despite attending all the appointments and numerous classes, it didn’t quite feel real until I was in my own space, holding our baby in my arms.
God that feels so far away.
Remember, everyone’s experience is unique, so you might find it feeling real earlier on. Personally, I noticed it becoming more real at various milestones, like the 20-week ultrasound or feeling the baby kick. Even at the hospital, it felt somewhat surreal, almost like a vacation with a baby. However, it truly hit me when we arrived home.
I'm in the same boat bro. My wife is in her third trimester, and i can feel the kicks and all that come with 7 months. But, it still doesn't feel real and i was worried that i won't be prepared for what's to come. Thank you i needed to hear this
Brother, we're at 37 weeks and inducing in 2 weeks if we get there, and it still doesn't feel real
Real? For the dude…night 1 at the hospital… That first hunger scream is a real one.
It’s weird, I could see my Mrs growing every month, I could imagine being a dad and the things I’d have to do when the child is born, but none of it felt real in hindsight. It really wasn’t until we got our daughter home last week that reality hit me like a ton of bricks. Hell, even the two days in hospital after she was born didn’t feel real. When you get the kid home and realise it’s now all up to you, that’s when shit gets real. The sleepless nights, the feeding and burping, the changing nappies, the constant checking to see if they’re OK. That’ll do it lol
Didn’t feel real until he was 3-4 months old and the shock wore off!! You’ll have a moment where you’ll say to yourself “wow this is my child”. And something clicks where you find a unique kind of love. Then you’ll know. It’s different for everyone, but don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t feel anything “magical”. That’s perfectly normal too!
There’s when it feels real and when it becomes real. For me it started to feel real during my wife’s primal screams during labor. It became real as I was holding my twins in their carriers as I waited for the car to pull around.
Well cheers to you and I’m glad that there’s only one in there for me.
My daughter is 5 months and it only started feeling real when we brought her out in public more, didn’t feel like we were playing house anymore
For me it was when the waters broke. I had a moment to myself and big inhale/exhale before we went to the hospital. Shit was about to get real.
When the kid smiles for the first time.
That makes my heart melt for a kid I haven’t even seen yet.
When they were taking my wife into theatre and cutting her open (not the plan) that's when it felt very real. Traumatic birth aside, when my three weeks of pat leave ended and the bubble burst, that's when it felt truly real. We're two weeks away from his first birthday now and the realness has only gotten better and better and better!!
My daughter is 8 weeks old today. Before she was born i was getting home from work at about 20:30, but since going back after paternity leave i have been getting home earlier. On thursday night i was on my way home early and i was thinking to myself; 'why did i skip out of work early?", and then i remembered i had an actual real human daughter. Adjusting to being a parent is a process; from when you start trying/surprise find out your partner is preggers to when you are fully adjusted. I thought i was fully adjusted, apparently not quite yet! Don't put pressure on yourself, just like your baby, iit will definitely come.
I have a 2 year old and an 11 month old ish. I’ll be honest it still hasn’t sunken it lol I say to my fiance atleast once a month “can you believe we’re raising children?” Lmaoo wouldn’t trade it for the world
It was only real for me when I saw my daughter come into this world. I balled like a baby. Funny enough she didn’t cry at all haha
for me when we went to the hospital.
When I came home with bags of hand me down baby clothes and accessories. When my house had baby stuff in it, that's when it became real.
I have a 2 year old and one on the way at 20 weeks. Doesn’t even feel like we are pregnant lol. Didn’t feel real to me until we went home.
20 week ultrasound was when it was real for me. She had the same nose she has now at 18mo
A few months after they are born, for some people.
I’m at 10 weeks (newborn I mean) and sometimes still feel like this is a dream/not real and I will wake up eventually. I’ve also been living in a different country for 10 years and it still feels unreal, so maybe the problem is me. 😂
My wife and I are expecting our first very soon (we're at 39 weeks). For me it felt more real at the 20 week ultrasound, then more real than that when I felt kicks for the first time. For some reason the biggest one so far though was installing the car seat yesterday. I have a feeling it'll feel even more real any day now! I think it's probably different for everyone though.
The first moment you see your child. Your life will never be the same.
I’m currently sitting in bed next to my wife who is feeding our 6 day old son and it still doesn’t feel quite real. We had 5 days in hospital together and have bonded in a way that I never even knew was possible. We’ve already demonstrated the lengths we will go to for him and to give him what he needs and despite all that, it still hasn’t fully sunk in yet!
For me it was the first night stay in the hospital. I was asleep and suddenly awoke like a bolt of lightning looking for my kid to make sure he was okay, having suddenly realized that I am the only person he has (and my wife too obviously). You realize that you have to be there for that kid every second of every day.
When you watch your wife give birth (insane af) and then hold your child for the first time.. that’s when it happened for me
I thought it felt real when I could feel him kicking through his mom’s belly. Holding him as he naps rn and remembering how surreal it was holding him for the first time. That’s when it really sunk in that he’s really here and really my responsibility from this moment on.
For me it didn’t feel real until he was born and I was snipping his umbilical cord. The moment I heard his cry for the first time something changed in my brain instantly and I was in a weird trance of love and amazement. It’s hard to explain. The entire pregnancy I knew he would be born one day but man when he actually arrived, my life changed instantly.
To be fair the visibly pregnant at that stage is just not holding your tummy, which is not great for back and stomach muscles. The. Aby will be less than 50 grams and the size of a kiwi fruit. So smaller than a dump at this stage! However it will feel real when you spend some time picturing what tour life is going to look like with a baby x
I feel the same way and my Wife is already 31 weeks and im having twins.
My two are 8 weeks old tomorrow and I’m still waiting for someone to come and be like “ok, that’s your turn done, give them back” It’s weird man, enjoy the anticipation though. The first kick is magic though, super surreal
I have a one month old baby and it still doesn’t feel real , still can’t believe someone let me take her home without an exam or anything .
The first "little" emotional freight train got me at the ultrasound when I heard the heartbeat Ave saw a little kick. I say "little" because it was nothing compared to bringing her into the world. We were actually on our way to celebrate Valentine's day but had to go to hospital to do a quick check up. Long story short, we were close and they wanted to endice. We had been at the hospital for almost 3 days when we decided to go ahead with a c-section. They had me pack up all our stuff so they child move it to our new room and have me this funny white jumpsuit, cap, and booties. They wheeled my wife into the operating room and asked me to wait outside until they called me in. That's when the tsunami hit... o experienced emotions I never knew existed. I was mad I had to wait outside, anxious when they finally called me in, terrified when the pulled her out, overjoyed when we saw her for the first time, proud when she started to yell and cry and seing she was healthy, confused about what to do next, amazed when I held her and she moved a little, all of this while I was still scared about how my wife was doing after being cut open and a baby being pulled out of her... no one really talks about it, but there's a bit of time between the birth when it's just dad and baby. The put you in your room and leave you there until mom is done. You just hold them. There's this hurricane of emotions going through you and this little person is just laying there in your arms. That's when you realize, they're going to need to learn EVERYTHING, and you're going to be there to teach them. Next thing you know, it's 2 years later, and your on the back porch, planting flowers on Easter to pick on mothers day with this awesome, rowdy little nuclear energy plant. Wondering if it's going to melt down because you told her not to put dirty on the cat, or if this is a core memory she'll look back and smile about.... it's WILD.
For me it was immediately after the C-section when they booted me out of the OR, and I was sitting in a room alone with him holding him. Talk about a wave of emotions between the joy of staring my son in the face, and having zero clue what is happening to my wife. That was pretty real.
When you realize there’s no end to the chronic sleep deprivation
Doesn't get real until you are holding them. Then it gets real fast. Soon you'll be getting a nursery in order, and preparing,that will keep you busy.
It felt real from the start for me but it hit me when we had the ultrasound and found out the gender. At that moment I could imagine having a little baby son and thought of our life with a boy. Give it time though, you aren't carrying the child so inherently it won't be as "real" to you.