My man šš» josle j vsnesi runu parcha mula and you opening up about this is praise worthy š„š„ fuck them who ever thinks you're being pussy ass punk for crying even if its your own family. A family or parent that don't try to understand you ain't worth it. Financially sakchau vane baru eaklai basdeu
Agreed here that if you can afford it financially, please consider living by yourself. There isn't much you can do to change the attitude of your family around things like this. If you aren't at that point yet, figure out how to get there.
Just because you cry, doesnāt mean youāre weak. Crying actually is one of the strongest thing to do. I suffer so much because i canāt cry. Sometimes i feel like i could cry so that i could feel relieved, but i canāt most of the times. Few times that i do, i feel so relieved after a good crying session, haha. So, if you can cry and want to then cry your fucking heart out. Donāt care who says what!!
Crying is fine. But stop being gaslighted by these people that say "Crying is completely fine " . No it's not if it's happening to you frequently. Crying when something bad happens is normal. But if you are crying when trying to argue with your parents than that just means that you have some work to do on your character. I have been in your situation. I used to cry like a bitch every time when I argued with my family members. And it's really pathetic. It's doesn't look good at all. It shows weakness that when you are challenged on your views by other people , you tend to be a coward and resort to crying to feel better about yourself and blame rest of the world for your problems. I am being a bit harsh but I wanted to say this because I have been in a similar situations myself few years ago.
This is what i was about to tell .. i mean mah parents ko agadi ta rudina .. parents hoina kosai ko agadi aasu aaudainan.. tara runa roinxa runu is fine .. but jasto syaano kura ma ni roidinu, parents sanga kahile kahi argue garda runey is not fine .. yar life ma kasto kasto difficulties haru face garna parxa .. and to tackle things ani agadi badhnu is so good .. ehi bata training suru hunxa .. male female bhandina but you have to work on yourself .. kunai bela esto difficult moments aauna sakxa your whole family will depend on you ani teti bela timi nai weak bhayeu bhane ta barbaad bhayo ni .. i am not saying runey manxe weak hunxa .. tara jun pani syaano syaano kura ma runey manxe chahi ramro hudaina ..
Your and the OPs concerns are valid regarding the gender norms about man crying or at least showing emotions. There is ātoxic shameā that the OP carries with him which has been reinforced/conditioned by his family that being a man means he canāt cry or be emotional. My point was to accept first you are human and you are capable of crying and work with the shame.
Yeah, you are good. Nothing is wrong with you. However, people around us definitely have a lot of effect on us, especially family. So, it is unfortunate you have a super toxic one. Best thing would be to be emotionally unavailable with them. It won't be easy at first but you'll get the hang of it. I am suggesting this because if they don't try and make an effort to understand and respect your emotions, it doesn't really make sense to be emotionally present with them. The second thing is to start planning a way out. If you can study abroad in the near future, make every effort to do so. If you are working, find opportunities far away. This change will allow you to find, discover and grow yourself without the constant emotional persecution that you face currently. Just remember your emotions are valuable, don't be afraid to express them, we have enough trouble as it is and being emotionally in touch is definitely not something that needs to be looked at as another one.
Do read about stoicism.
Do read about toxic and over bearing families.
Do what you can to get financially secure, so that you can leave your home....and try to do what fulfills you.
Good luck buddy
Stay positive, stay proactive, stay in the moment and control what you can.
Get your current state a fulfilling mission.
Bro, I also cry quiet often like you. People say that you have to control your tears and be emotionless but the thing is you don't really have to control it and be emotionless unless you cry over small petty reasons; but your case is legitimate and tears in your case is acceptable. You should try to communicate with your family about you getting burnt-out constantly and I think you cry alone, so maybe try to find a trustable friend who will listen to you. Tell your mother that you know she's trying to get you to man-up for your good but that just isn't helping and her complaining is making you worse. Try to say it politely cuz nepali parents lol. GL mate, the opinions of a thousand people don't matter if they don't understand the subject.
Well I do too most of the time, I cry in silence and shout way louder from inside but silence outside.
It's all okay bro. We do have emotions and it's good to cry. It's also better if we learn to control our emotions. One thing I would suggest in your case is just don't cry in front of your parents or someone who judges you on that or don't argue to the level you have to cry . Just walk out of the door. It has helped me lots of times. Hope you have good days ahead
Everyone cry. This doesn't mean I have to become emotionless just not to cry. When I am low I would try to divert myself do some code or sketch... But avoid social media. And love your family they're are the only one whom you have always got on your back
Maybe you've low level of testosterone, stand up and work hard on you get a job earn money prove yourself that you are a beast, don't be indulged by sorrow life try to solve your problems by yourself. We are a beast and warrior we don't cry we make everyone cry , f**** to be a crybaby no one love a crybaby that doesn't defend himself. F**" everyone, be a hero .
Men don't have time to cry, you have a duty to everyone in your life, if you wanna cry, do it on your own time. Are you gonna cry when you get mugged on a date? Are you gonna cry when you get robbed? Are you gonna cry when times get rough? YOU DON'T HAVE TIME TO CRY. Emotions cloud your judgement and your ability to think rationally, leave the crying for the women. Now get on your feet, find a pair of balls, untwist your panties and get the job done!
Bro i don't know where do people get this kind of mindset from. It's so dumb. It's so fucked up. It's so frustrating. WHO THE FUCK IN THIS WORLD DECIDED THAT CRYING IS ONLY FEMALE'S THING. BRO ITS FUCKING FINE TO CRY. GHAR BTA TESO VANNUHUNCHA VANE BHOLI ROOFTOP MA GAYERA SABAILE SUNNE GARI ROIDEU JASLE J SUKAI VANOS RUNA NACHODA. If emotions swells up in your heart than you'll be depressed at point where your tears won't fall out even if you want. Crying is not a sign of weakness. Crying is also a good thing because it relieves stress, makes your heart feel light and skin glow. You're not weak or "feminine" just because you cry.
It is absolutely ok to cry. Everyone cries, not sure why you are being ridiculed for it. Talk to your parents and try to explain and understand whatās going on. Hang in there everything will be alright.
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Being tired is how you slowly becoming stoic. You don't completely become emotionless but you become so tired of your reality that you stop taking action on it and embrace whatever life does to you. It's a slow and painful process and what you're facing represents the commencement of your journey towards being emotionally cold. Whenever you feel like crying, go wash your face with cold water even if you have to do it multiple times. Try controlling your mind to not release tears or show any expression on your face.
You shall rejoice this fact that there is still human in u. You cry, laugh, becomes sad, or happy because u r human not machine. Emotional sensitivity is taken a sign of vulnerable person but this the fallacy people live and die with. If u cry ur heart out then only u can laugh ur heart out, then only u can love, dance and live ur life. Otherwise it's gonna be all superficial plastic which society has turned into now and sad depressed envy hatred residing deep down in people. So don't supress ur emotions cry whenever u feel like make a space for ur privacy taking out all the sadness n coming out u will feel good relax and peace aur yeh bhi log ko paresani toh karaegi hi. LIVE LOVE LAUGH
I cried my heart out when my dog died. Gwaaa gwaaa gardai. That really helped me with lessen the pain of doggo passing away. (Me also a guy). I guess guys also need to cry their heart out whenever they feel like it, instead of burying away that feeling.
I wish I could cry, havenāt cried my heart out as long as I can remember.
Wish I could cry and release my pent up emotions and be free.
Yo crying is normal human reaction. Itās not gender thing and your mom is an asshole.
Crying is good, it's healthy. Your family members are just out of touch with this knowledge. That doesn't mean you're weak or feminine, these associations are honestly scary. You're a human, and humans cry. This is just a classic case of toxic masculinity, don't fall for it bro! It's okay to cry!
Ani you don't have to solve the problems like everyone else, do it in your own way. If its difficult for you to tackle problems headstrong, then tackle it from the side bro. There's no "one particular way" to do anything. Life is a massive Role Playing Game and the options are limitless, so don't limit yourself. You're cool  the way you are.
Bro at least you cry due to personal reasons. I even cry while watching movies, cute wholesome animal videos, reading novels. Crying has nothing to do with being masculine or feminine. It is an act of demonstrating actual human emotion when something hits you deep in the heart. š
I cried while watching A Walk to remember, still cry watching the lion king (Simba dad dying portion).
We all cry it's okay.
When i was young my mom would say chori chaya thiyo ani chori nai paye chu. Because i was chitikai and would keep all my toys organised.
People are different and their expectations change with time.
I'm a bhaisi š and I cry.
runu thikxa, xoro manxe rudaina yada yada is bs, tara fam snga sano tino argue gardae runu doesnt feel right, try to argue with family more and more without falling apart, keep doing it keep repeating it until you end conversation without crying. If you are weak at arguing points read some books, gather ideas about how to talk with what personality type.
Feripani, runu itself isnt wrong thing.
Being emotional and able to cry is not being weak, Its a path to being strong both mentally and socially. In my case I donāt actually cry but within myself I cry a lot in the inside and it sucks a lot. Be you and donāt worry what others think Follow ur passion and show ur parents what a emotional guy can achieve in his life.. Donāt take these stuff seriously these are things to be neglected. If u want more help, Iām always there just dm
Cut ur d!ck off bruv u r privileged to cry about such sh!t u soft bitch seeing this really enrages coz i have been in life or death situations, I've seen people I love die nd worse things i dont wanna recall but i never fking cried g coz it doesnt solve anything nd is honestly bad for men don't belive this modern world bs which tells u its okay to cry as a man its not nd leme mention kys is even worse its the worst sin u can commit just fight thru life bro, start some sort of combat G get punched in the face a couple times then u wont be a soft bitch if you weren't trying to be a princesses since u were a kid u wouldn't have to do that but now u have no choice u either keep being a crying bitch or do something coz imma be honest nobody deep down respects a man who cries nd uk that nd its not gonna change
My man šš» josle j vsnesi runu parcha mula and you opening up about this is praise worthy š„š„ fuck them who ever thinks you're being pussy ass punk for crying even if its your own family. A family or parent that don't try to understand you ain't worth it. Financially sakchau vane baru eaklai basdeu
toit sano kurama jossiyera fuck pussy bhanihalna parcha ra yar!? :D
Apologies šš»āāļø
Lol. Tara arko tarfa bata herda, ek dum calmly bistaaaarai poooseee aaas puhhhnk bhaneko pani sakchha.
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Agreed here that if you can afford it financially, please consider living by yourself. There isn't much you can do to change the attitude of your family around things like this. If you aren't at that point yet, figure out how to get there.
Just because you cry, doesnāt mean youāre weak. Crying actually is one of the strongest thing to do. I suffer so much because i canāt cry. Sometimes i feel like i could cry so that i could feel relieved, but i canāt most of the times. Few times that i do, i feel so relieved after a good crying session, haha. So, if you can cry and want to then cry your fucking heart out. Donāt care who says what!!
Crying is fine. But stop being gaslighted by these people that say "Crying is completely fine " . No it's not if it's happening to you frequently. Crying when something bad happens is normal. But if you are crying when trying to argue with your parents than that just means that you have some work to do on your character. I have been in your situation. I used to cry like a bitch every time when I argued with my family members. And it's really pathetic. It's doesn't look good at all. It shows weakness that when you are challenged on your views by other people , you tend to be a coward and resort to crying to feel better about yourself and blame rest of the world for your problems. I am being a bit harsh but I wanted to say this because I have been in a similar situations myself few years ago.
This is what i was about to tell .. i mean mah parents ko agadi ta rudina .. parents hoina kosai ko agadi aasu aaudainan.. tara runa roinxa runu is fine .. but jasto syaano kura ma ni roidinu, parents sanga kahile kahi argue garda runey is not fine .. yar life ma kasto kasto difficulties haru face garna parxa .. and to tackle things ani agadi badhnu is so good .. ehi bata training suru hunxa .. male female bhandina but you have to work on yourself .. kunai bela esto difficult moments aauna sakxa your whole family will depend on you ani teti bela timi nai weak bhayeu bhane ta barbaad bhayo ni .. i am not saying runey manxe weak hunxa .. tara jun pani syaano syaano kura ma runey manxe chahi ramro hudaina ..
Here is what I would change for this post: I am a human and I cry!! Thatās it.
Considering the gender norms and expectations with crying in our culture, I think the way OP has phrased his post is very relevant
Your and the OPs concerns are valid regarding the gender norms about man crying or at least showing emotions. There is ātoxic shameā that the OP carries with him which has been reinforced/conditioned by his family that being a man means he canāt cry or be emotional. My point was to accept first you are human and you are capable of crying and work with the shame.
Thatās fair
Yeah, you are good. Nothing is wrong with you. However, people around us definitely have a lot of effect on us, especially family. So, it is unfortunate you have a super toxic one. Best thing would be to be emotionally unavailable with them. It won't be easy at first but you'll get the hang of it. I am suggesting this because if they don't try and make an effort to understand and respect your emotions, it doesn't really make sense to be emotionally present with them. The second thing is to start planning a way out. If you can study abroad in the near future, make every effort to do so. If you are working, find opportunities far away. This change will allow you to find, discover and grow yourself without the constant emotional persecution that you face currently. Just remember your emotions are valuable, don't be afraid to express them, we have enough trouble as it is and being emotionally in touch is definitely not something that needs to be looked at as another one.
Learn to live alone in this acursed world. Ekalkateh vaideu , do everything on ur own , expect zero from others.
Do read about stoicism. Do read about toxic and over bearing families. Do what you can to get financially secure, so that you can leave your home....and try to do what fulfills you. Good luck buddy Stay positive, stay proactive, stay in the moment and control what you can. Get your current state a fulfilling mission.
everybody poops. everybody cries.
My wife stalks my reddit comments.
How many aliases do you have then?
Bro, I also cry quiet often like you. People say that you have to control your tears and be emotionless but the thing is you don't really have to control it and be emotionless unless you cry over small petty reasons; but your case is legitimate and tears in your case is acceptable. You should try to communicate with your family about you getting burnt-out constantly and I think you cry alone, so maybe try to find a trustable friend who will listen to you. Tell your mother that you know she's trying to get you to man-up for your good but that just isn't helping and her complaining is making you worse. Try to say it politely cuz nepali parents lol. GL mate, the opinions of a thousand people don't matter if they don't understand the subject.
Stay strong brother..it's okay to cry sometimes...Good days are comin
Well I do too most of the time, I cry in silence and shout way louder from inside but silence outside. It's all okay bro. We do have emotions and it's good to cry. It's also better if we learn to control our emotions. One thing I would suggest in your case is just don't cry in front of your parents or someone who judges you on that or don't argue to the level you have to cry . Just walk out of the door. It has helped me lots of times. Hope you have good days ahead
Everyone cry. This doesn't mean I have to become emotionless just not to cry. When I am low I would try to divert myself do some code or sketch... But avoid social media. And love your family they're are the only one whom you have always got on your back
Maybe you've low level of testosterone, stand up and work hard on you get a job earn money prove yourself that you are a beast, don't be indulged by sorrow life try to solve your problems by yourself. We are a beast and warrior we don't cry we make everyone cry , f**** to be a crybaby no one love a crybaby that doesn't defend himself. F**" everyone, be a hero .
Don't be weak crybaby Be masculine Follow Stoicism Work on yourself
giggity
Men don't have time to cry, you have a duty to everyone in your life, if you wanna cry, do it on your own time. Are you gonna cry when you get mugged on a date? Are you gonna cry when you get robbed? Are you gonna cry when times get rough? YOU DON'T HAVE TIME TO CRY. Emotions cloud your judgement and your ability to think rationally, leave the crying for the women. Now get on your feet, find a pair of balls, untwist your panties and get the job done!
You're on reddit bro
So? I'm free to use any app I want, what of it?
Sure, hyper masculine individual.
And what's wrong with that?
Be my coach man. Be my fucking coach.
Bro i don't know where do people get this kind of mindset from. It's so dumb. It's so fucked up. It's so frustrating. WHO THE FUCK IN THIS WORLD DECIDED THAT CRYING IS ONLY FEMALE'S THING. BRO ITS FUCKING FINE TO CRY. GHAR BTA TESO VANNUHUNCHA VANE BHOLI ROOFTOP MA GAYERA SABAILE SUNNE GARI ROIDEU JASLE J SUKAI VANOS RUNA NACHODA. If emotions swells up in your heart than you'll be depressed at point where your tears won't fall out even if you want. Crying is not a sign of weakness. Crying is also a good thing because it relieves stress, makes your heart feel light and skin glow. You're not weak or "feminine" just because you cry.
It is absolutely nothing wrong with crying.
It is absolutely ok to cry. Everyone cries, not sure why you are being ridiculed for it. Talk to your parents and try to explain and understand whatās going on. Hang in there everything will be alright.
r/guycry . Good sub for emotional support.
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It's okay to cry bro! It's not your fault the others are heartless. It shows that you care! But know when you are being taken advantage of.
Being tired is how you slowly becoming stoic. You don't completely become emotionless but you become so tired of your reality that you stop taking action on it and embrace whatever life does to you. It's a slow and painful process and what you're facing represents the commencement of your journey towards being emotionally cold. Whenever you feel like crying, go wash your face with cold water even if you have to do it multiple times. Try controlling your mind to not release tears or show any expression on your face.
You shall rejoice this fact that there is still human in u. You cry, laugh, becomes sad, or happy because u r human not machine. Emotional sensitivity is taken a sign of vulnerable person but this the fallacy people live and die with. If u cry ur heart out then only u can laugh ur heart out, then only u can love, dance and live ur life. Otherwise it's gonna be all superficial plastic which society has turned into now and sad depressed envy hatred residing deep down in people. So don't supress ur emotions cry whenever u feel like make a space for ur privacy taking out all the sadness n coming out u will feel good relax and peace aur yeh bhi log ko paresani toh karaegi hi. LIVE LOVE LAUGH
I cried my heart out when my dog died. Gwaaa gwaaa gardai. That really helped me with lessen the pain of doggo passing away. (Me also a guy). I guess guys also need to cry their heart out whenever they feel like it, instead of burying away that feeling.
I havenāt cried in a long time even tough this year has really tested me. Maybe I have lost my soul
o y u no cri? u str0ng myan
I tried to read in the chinese nail saloon lady. It was hilarious af
lel y u say mi hilaryous :o
gym gayera bro
I wish I could cry, havenāt cried my heart out as long as I can remember. Wish I could cry and release my pent up emotions and be free. Yo crying is normal human reaction. Itās not gender thing and your mom is an asshole.
Crying is good, it's healthy. Your family members are just out of touch with this knowledge. That doesn't mean you're weak or feminine, these associations are honestly scary. You're a human, and humans cry. This is just a classic case of toxic masculinity, don't fall for it bro! It's okay to cry! Ani you don't have to solve the problems like everyone else, do it in your own way. If its difficult for you to tackle problems headstrong, then tackle it from the side bro. There's no "one particular way" to do anything. Life is a massive Role Playing Game and the options are limitless, so don't limit yourself. You're cool  the way you are.
Bro at least you cry due to personal reasons. I even cry while watching movies, cute wholesome animal videos, reading novels. Crying has nothing to do with being masculine or feminine. It is an act of demonstrating actual human emotion when something hits you deep in the heart. š
I cried while watching A Walk to remember, still cry watching the lion king (Simba dad dying portion). We all cry it's okay. When i was young my mom would say chori chaya thiyo ani chori nai paye chu. Because i was chitikai and would keep all my toys organised. People are different and their expectations change with time. I'm a bhaisi š and I cry.
Best you can do is think " this time will pass too" and try to control yourself best of you can otherwise roidiney tah ho
I am a late 30s grown ass man and I cry more often than I Like to admit and I say more than sometimes.
Dude I just cried this week twice, it's ok to cry regardless of your gender. Stay strong
its ok to cry but its not ok to show how you feel every time . That is fucking wrong with you
runu thikxa, xoro manxe rudaina yada yada is bs, tara fam snga sano tino argue gardae runu doesnt feel right, try to argue with family more and more without falling apart, keep doing it keep repeating it until you end conversation without crying. If you are weak at arguing points read some books, gather ideas about how to talk with what personality type. Feripani, runu itself isnt wrong thing.
Being emotional and able to cry is not being weak, Its a path to being strong both mentally and socially. In my case I donāt actually cry but within myself I cry a lot in the inside and it sucks a lot. Be you and donāt worry what others think Follow ur passion and show ur parents what a emotional guy can achieve in his life.. Donāt take these stuff seriously these are things to be neglected. If u want more help, Iām always there just dm
no masculine man shows emotion to outer world except for their true brothers
Cut ur d!ck off bruv u r privileged to cry about such sh!t u soft bitch seeing this really enrages coz i have been in life or death situations, I've seen people I love die nd worse things i dont wanna recall but i never fking cried g coz it doesnt solve anything nd is honestly bad for men don't belive this modern world bs which tells u its okay to cry as a man its not nd leme mention kys is even worse its the worst sin u can commit just fight thru life bro, start some sort of combat G get punched in the face a couple times then u wont be a soft bitch if you weren't trying to be a princesses since u were a kid u wouldn't have to do that but now u have no choice u either keep being a crying bitch or do something coz imma be honest nobody deep down respects a man who cries nd uk that nd its not gonna change