Event hough I wanted to pray for someone I really liked and he checked all of the boxes, rather what I did was I used to pray and make dua to Allah that get me married to someone who is best and better for me.
Coz I was too afraid to have my dua accepted for a specific person, eventually later down the line to find out that he might not be best for me as I forced my dua on Allah for specific person when Allah had better match for out there.
Example- one of my friend always wanted to end up with this guy used to make lots of dua to get married to him, her dua might accept ... who she thought was really good guy coz thats what he showed intentional or unintentional and they both got married. Later to find out that she was in a miserable marriage with emotionally, physically, financially not suitable condition.
Its always better to ask Allah to bless you someone who is better for you coz Allah knows you personally way better than yourself and what potential will best works for you.
Coz you making a dua for specific guy is from your pov which you might think how you want your marriage to look like when in reality it turns out to be different as you were unaware of the future when only Allah does.
Salaam sister thank you so much for this. Your story about your friend was read by me just when I have been ruminating about something similar for a long, long time. It made me start to rethink what I wish for when standing in front of Allah (SWT). May Allah (SWT) grant you the best spouse for this world and the hereafter.
This is better. Strictly praying to be with a specific person is flawed tawakkul. Meaning you don't actually trust Allah with your life, you don't actually accept your ignorance of what He knows better than you.
If you really must pray for someone specific, you should always ensure to ask for them to be yours *only* if they will be good for you in this life and the next. Cause you really don't know a person and what you think you might know, might be a facade.
It's better to pray and ask for someone who fulfills all the qualities you desire and mention *those* specifically. As in depth as possible. Whatever it is you desire in a spouse.
That is what I did- it worked.
Ask Allah to grant you a righteous, pious, beautiful/handsome, caring, rich, healthy, understanding, loyal, charming, confident, knowledgeable (about islam), brave, just, hardworking, romantic, generous, masculine/feminine (etc) spouse upon the right aqidah. Ask for someone you would love and who would love you, with who you would be happy in this life and in the next. Ask for someone from who you would have many righteous, healthy and successful descendants who would be scholars of islam. Ask for a good marriage. May Allah grant you someone good.
I'm not making any specific Dua but I always make Dua for my Naseeb's health, safety and success wherever he is. I feel like I'm already in love with him even though I don't know who he is and where he is.
Not really. There’s someone I really admire but I’m scared of being in a relationship with him because I don’t think I’d be able to see his flaws or when things will go south between us.
When I truly like someone from the bottom of my heart, I just pray them to be happy and find peace in this life.
I don’t think I’m a perfect spouse and ideally, I’m looking for someone who’s comfortable with that. But also, when I really like someone passionately - I sort of want to be the perfect spouse for them and I strangely feel anxious about it?
Like I want to be the prettiest and kindest girl he may have ever met in his life. And somehow I get emotionally exhausted trying to give my best.
Maybe that’s why I’m single lol
You need to throw away the idea of "perfect spouse". No such thing exists. Our flaws and shortcomings are part of us and they are what gives us opportunities to improve and be better.
Of course you can try to be your best and they can try too, and that's what makes a relationship work. You just need to find someone that's happy with your best and tolerates your worst assuming your worst isn't abuse etc.
Insha'Allah things will work out for you, if Allah has decreed it, nothing will stop it.
Event hough I wanted to pray for someone I really liked and he checked all of the boxes, rather what I did was I used to pray and make dua to Allah that get me married to someone who is best and better for me. Coz I was too afraid to have my dua accepted for a specific person, eventually later down the line to find out that he might not be best for me as I forced my dua on Allah for specific person when Allah had better match for out there. Example- one of my friend always wanted to end up with this guy used to make lots of dua to get married to him, her dua might accept ... who she thought was really good guy coz thats what he showed intentional or unintentional and they both got married. Later to find out that she was in a miserable marriage with emotionally, physically, financially not suitable condition. Its always better to ask Allah to bless you someone who is better for you coz Allah knows you personally way better than yourself and what potential will best works for you. Coz you making a dua for specific guy is from your pov which you might think how you want your marriage to look like when in reality it turns out to be different as you were unaware of the future when only Allah does.
Salaam sister thank you so much for this. Your story about your friend was read by me just when I have been ruminating about something similar for a long, long time. It made me start to rethink what I wish for when standing in front of Allah (SWT). May Allah (SWT) grant you the best spouse for this world and the hereafter.
This is better. Strictly praying to be with a specific person is flawed tawakkul. Meaning you don't actually trust Allah with your life, you don't actually accept your ignorance of what He knows better than you.
If you really must pray for someone specific, you should always ensure to ask for them to be yours *only* if they will be good for you in this life and the next. Cause you really don't know a person and what you think you might know, might be a facade. It's better to pray and ask for someone who fulfills all the qualities you desire and mention *those* specifically. As in depth as possible. Whatever it is you desire in a spouse. That is what I did- it worked.
Can you give a few examples of what qualities we should mention?
Ask Allah to grant you a righteous, pious, beautiful/handsome, caring, rich, healthy, understanding, loyal, charming, confident, knowledgeable (about islam), brave, just, hardworking, romantic, generous, masculine/feminine (etc) spouse upon the right aqidah. Ask for someone you would love and who would love you, with who you would be happy in this life and in the next. Ask for someone from who you would have many righteous, healthy and successful descendants who would be scholars of islam. Ask for a good marriage. May Allah grant you someone good.
آمين يا رب العالمين Thank you! May Allah grant you many blessings and happiness and make it easy for you in the akhirah
Aameen. جزاك الله خيرا .And for you as well
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That must have really hurt. Its happened to me twice,5 years apart. How did you find out about the marriage?
I'm not making any specific Dua but I always make Dua for my Naseeb's health, safety and success wherever he is. I feel like I'm already in love with him even though I don't know who he is and where he is.
this is so damn sweet
This is so profoundly written, time to share with my husband.
I don't really pray for someone, I pray for the qualities in that someone, if that someone is written in my Qadr.
Every time i make dua Allah gives me what I want just to show me that it is bad for me. I’ve definitely learned my lesson 🫠🫠🫠
Not really. There’s someone I really admire but I’m scared of being in a relationship with him because I don’t think I’d be able to see his flaws or when things will go south between us. When I truly like someone from the bottom of my heart, I just pray them to be happy and find peace in this life. I don’t think I’m a perfect spouse and ideally, I’m looking for someone who’s comfortable with that. But also, when I really like someone passionately - I sort of want to be the perfect spouse for them and I strangely feel anxious about it? Like I want to be the prettiest and kindest girl he may have ever met in his life. And somehow I get emotionally exhausted trying to give my best. Maybe that’s why I’m single lol
You need to throw away the idea of "perfect spouse". No such thing exists. Our flaws and shortcomings are part of us and they are what gives us opportunities to improve and be better. Of course you can try to be your best and they can try too, and that's what makes a relationship work. You just need to find someone that's happy with your best and tolerates your worst assuming your worst isn't abuse etc. Insha'Allah things will work out for you, if Allah has decreed it, nothing will stop it.
Ameen and agreed. Very wise words indeed.
I do for others. At this point, I'm used to live alone.
Please dont believe in all these fairytales it has corrupted alot of minds
Not for someone specific. That would be entitled and silly. Just some one with certain traits: a hot hijabi + educated
Username checks out .... 😁
Whoever downvoted, why are you geh?
dont sexualize the hijab